Dr. Jay Barnett: Battling depression, being the 'man of the house' as a child & processing trauma

[@tanyamcmorris554]

The line that got me was to the black women, don't want a man to heal because you want a husband. That is a true statement. I enjoyed this interview. I wasn't familiar with Dr. Barnett before this interview.

[@cynthiarender5729]

So many Wow moments, nuggets!!! Such an informative interview. Brandi you are amazing in your craft! God is using you greatly to expose so many hurting and dark places in so many people lives along side with the information needed to receive their healing , deliverance, wholeness. Thank you Sister for your yes to your Purpose!!!❤

[@AngelaCoopwr]

I agree my sister

[@VCurtis7]

Thanks Brandi, for sharing this, awesome interview, of you and Dr., Jay, Wow! This is sooooo good! I am so sorry for Dr. Jay, the way he was abandoned, treated, abused, as a child! And all children, that went through, or are going through this! This is why are Black people, are struggling, in our marriages, relationships, with our parents, children! Many of us, are hurting as adults, and have not dealt with our childhood trauma! Many men, women, are going to be healed, helped, by hearing this man, testimony! Love this! Lord Jesus! Heal us where we hurt, go back to our childhood trauma, God, and heal us! (Thank God, for the late Pastor Steven Darby, in his video's, he use to pray, deeply, for God to heal our childhood hurts, traumas! ❤😊

[@GodsChildBri]

When I get this job, I'm setting aside money so I can book sessions with Dr. Barnett. You don't know just how bad I need to talk to this man. I cannot wait.

[@danilaroche1156]

Dr. Barnett is going to help a plethora of people. He is so needed. A Godsend.

[@angelaprice921]

Thank you Brandi for having Dr. Barnett on your show. I love hearing different perspectives from courageous, strong black men because I have a black son and it helps me to understand him better.

[@CallmeLeetha]

Listen!!! Finding Dr. Barnett is not easy these days, but when he pours, it’s amazing to receive. Brandi, what do we need to do to get your content in front of the world? Our community can’t afford you remaining the best kept secret on YT.

[@lb1798]

35:00 Wait a minute...rewind the tape Dr Jay😂❤❤

[@patriciareese9851]

It is unthinkable that the people who are supposed to love & support you sometimes will retraumatize you by not listening or denying their role in your painful memories..not believing the child or not being accountable to the child hurts them even more 💯💔

[@junitaflowers]

Love the wisdom and compassion Dr. Barnett shares. It has helped me extend grace and compassion to black men even when I have to create distance to protect my mental health. #healbro

[@dkksable]

I appreciate what Dr. Barnett shared. Even as a woman, I relate to his story, including the crushing and rebuilding process. Thank you for a great interview! Also, you look great, sis!

[@katheyspicer683]

Relatable and much needed interview! Black men suffer in silence and don’t realize that they are Kings! I raised 3Kings as a single mother ❤❤❤ We have to protect and Love our brothers, sons and men!

[@cuddyross5432]

As a black man, this was a very eye-opening conversation! It definitely activated something inside me. Let’s let’s heal, Black people! This is a very gifted man. Good job guys.

[@brotherloveakarhythmicsola2943]

I hope you're putting little Snippets of your show on Instagram and Tik Tok because you're a dynamic and much appreciated

[@VaultEmpowers]

Absolutely! Be sure to follow us on both Instagram and TikTok (@vaultempowers) 🙌🏽

[@theleadershiphaven]

This is a repeat watch... multiple times... Great job! So thankful that God kept you here and you are clear as to the reason why. Blessings

[@justms.jacksontv]

I remember him from Therapy and God with Shannon Evette🙌🏾 go Dr. Jay ! Brandi I see what you doing and im so here for it!

[@Ellie-vd1wo]

This was focused on men.As a black woman,it has inspired me to start my own healing journey.Thank you Dr Jay and Brandi 🙏

[@staci450]

So well said! I understand his message because I have experienced a lot of this. I had to go back and address my father, that little girl chose majority of my life, rejection and abandonment dealt with in therapy. What I can say is get in therapy before your pain overpowers you to the point of no return. That pain is intolerable. Therapy is a Godsend! I am now going to school to become the help I needed.

[@andriadiggs2185]

May God continue to order his steps in this season of the healing we all need. I appreciate his vulnerability, authenticity and how humble he carries what he carries. He is the face of longsuffering!! I had to share this with my son so he can understand what is happening between him and his father.

[@TheMetamorphosisEffect]

First timer here, and while this is a great interview with lots of much needed transparency. I just wanted to say the host, I think he said Brandi, is so gorgeous. So gracious and classy. Locs flowing… I love it! 🌻

[@danilaroche1156]

She is but the boots and short dress..chile....

[@bharv8200]

@@danilaroche1156I look forward to seeing your wardrobe selections on your show. ✨🫶🏾

[@nursed.porchae990]

Lord this was good! So much truth "Anytime you haven't processed trauma, you will become suicidal or homicidal" 🎯

[@patriciareese9851]

So true cause that anger & rage has to land somewhere .. internalizing it causes anxiety & panic attacks..isolation leads to more depression but no one else should suffer cause of your pain ..👀hurt people hurt people 💯we all need some therapy /counseling to work through those childhood/adult traumas

[@daniellewilson8534]

This is the most Powerful podcast to help begin to understand our black men and all the trauma our black men deal with and it's Pain! Jesus😢 Black men heal and regain your smile, peace, joy and inner happiness. WE NEED YOU AND YOUR INNER HEALING MATTERS❣🙏🏽

[@miki512]

This is probably the most powerful and touching videos that I've come across. So touching. A tear jerker. Thank you for your voice Dr. Barnett. Please keep sharing. Your voice, your story and wisdom is powerful.

[@bev6171]

Thank you Dr.Barnett for your vulnerability. Also exposing how religious teaching can be abusive especially to those who have authority over you. Brandi ,also thank you for moderating this much needed conversation.

[@siaspence6333]

So proud of my friend! Dropping so many nuggets… continue to use your gift 💝

[@angelahill6313]

Thank you Dr. Barnett for allowing God to use you to heal others! Always dropping powerful words of wisdom!

[@beverleyreid563]

I really feel for Black men the whole world over. They have suffered so much. And through Jay, I can really feel it and see it now. May God continue to bless you Jay so you can bless others. You went through your struggles so you could reach others and step in their shoes. And to think your faith is still so strong. You are definitely a miracle!!!

[@TheBlackWellTheory]

Thank you Dr. Jay; from one trauma expert to another… I’m so glad to be on this journey with you! 🌻🙏🏾

[@shelleypoingsett6895]

This has been by far one of my favorite interviews by you. It healed so much in me. I’ve been following you both for a while and referring Dr. Jay to all the men I know. Thank you for having him as a guest. What you do Brandi here is phenomenal and I’m grateful I’ve found your podcast. But baby those boots are fire! lol girl you fly

[@720Fab]

Dr.Barnett had angels assigned to him. The Bars.❤

[@2B-Rochele]

Oh, my goodness this is bringing tears to my eyes. Lord

[@jalisa8236]

This was an amazing conversation that needed to be heard! You can feel what he is saying. I will have a conversation with my son to see how he is feeling. Thanks

[@reneefox6397]

Thank u Mr. Barnett many blessings. I am passing this on to men and women i know..❤🙏🏾

[@dreamwellcoaching6150]

I love Brandi’s light heart she is so unserious.

[@danilaroche1156]

This has got to be the most phenomenal testimony. I can relate because I endured tremendous, prolonged abuse both in childhood & adult years. God has healed my wounds & I've published a few books & mentor women.

[@Morales705]

What will help is acceptance. Accept what was, accept it is not your fault & release it… otherwise you will live the rest of your life in bondage. Truly forgive your Parents that is when your healing will take root

[@danilaroche1156]

Right! Forgiveness freed me from deep depression.

[@danilaroche1156]

She looks like the singer in the group, Chic.

[@feliciawalker1004]

Thank you Sir for your integrity 🙏 We need you .

[@toxicityisforalesson]

Jaaaaay!!!! It is so beautiful to see you out here and still going!!!

[@MSG9876]

This was so awesome, needed, and timely.❤❤❤

[@xoahkxodu]

A stellar ✨️ authentic being of greatness. I salute you and TH-AHNK YOU 👑 🙏🏿

[@princessbagley]

Thank you Dr. Barnett for all of this!!

[@michelledarkentell7536]

This was an amazing interview 👏 and I relate to so much of what he said as a black female. Thank you.

[@lb1798]

17:07 😢😢😢🥹

[@lb1798]

18:04 SAW my Dad's face...carry out my vengeance😮

[@alonzobardney9616]

Healing - to make a decision to Live. Allowing the Lord to make one over so to be placed in front of His people as an example - The Lord IS...❤ Thanks for sharing!

[@instrinsiclove]

THANK YOU for sharing the fullness and authenticity of your story Dr.Jay♥️

[@la-vieborde2496]

Enlightening on so many levels

[@nadams982002]

Powerful interview. Thank You Ma'am and Sir!!!!

[@lb1798]

47:34 1) Intentionality 2)Acknowledgment 3)Proceess in a healthy space 4)Community...You need others [Inadequate/Lost/Confused]

[@lb1798]

54:23 Where was your safe place?

[@glennisthompson2518]

Thank you for this segment… ppl if you have been through these things plz get help bcuz of your don’t get help dealing with hour demons whether it’s through your adult life or your childhood it will traumatize you & by all means plz don’t be embarrassed bcuz there’s help out there for you… it really is…

[@monicadipaolo4268]

Thank you Bandy for this beautifull podcast❤

[@MsAmarie90]

This was so deep. I feel like i just got out of a therapy session. Also, Brandi through some shots at her dad😢. I hope she can heal from that.

[@veronabacon7738]

She just spoke her truth.

[@beefaye18]

Hey …. if the shoe fits 🤷🏾‍♀️🤔

[@grayscar05]

Love the boots 👢!!! ❤🎉

[@lavondahawkins]

Whew, this is powerful!

[@misztierrasw]

Jay is bae! I love me some him! 😭😭😭🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I love the work he is doing for our blk men! He deserves all the accolades! This was another great interview! 🫶🏾

[@chiqundastevenson8081]

This interview spoke to me in so many ways !!!!!😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@patriciareese9851]

This man is powerful ..on point 💯✨thank you Brandy 👏🏾

[@Liber8ted12]

Brandi, I am new to your show. Thank you. I’ve followed snippets of Dr. B online but never heard his story. I’ve shared this with 13 family and friends, 9 of whom were men. Thank you

[@aprild2253]

Haven’t heard anything from this guy in ages. I’m here for it😘😘😘

[@TanjiReedMarshall-fu3cw]

Whew!!!! Then those BOOTS!!!!!! She’s my favorite!

[@pt2547]

Those boots are bootsing!

[@danilaroche1156]

​The boots are inappropriate. Save them for your future spouse on a romantic Saturday night.

[@tamarajones3773]

This is an amazing interview. Thank you so much 🙏🏾

[@lb1798]

"Innocent victims of their EMOTIONAL DRIVE BYs"....WHEW‼️‼️‼️‼️ NOW, THAT'S insightful...IN THE INTRODUCTION‼️⁉️❓️⁉️❓️I can't wait to hear the rest. #ILoveDrJayBarnett ❤️

[@hporter3258]

So brave and so true

[@ashawndagibbs8573]

Deep ❤

[@donnajohnson6809]

This was very helpful ❤

[@TheBlackWellTheory]

KEEP SMILING BROTHA!!! we love to see it! 👌🏾🌻

[@madgefrancis7298]

It's because of the call that God has on your life why you have gone through so much storms. God bless you and keep on pressing your way to higher level in the Lord..

[@celestialmaat9462]

This was so good!!!

[@tawandatate791]

Omg this is beyond good😅😅😅😅

[@aprilsookra6834]

"The oil came with such a price"! - Dr. Jay Barnett

[@taraanthony6326]

So good!

[@glennisthompson2518]

Your mental is everything & I do mean everything… so reach out & get the help that you need …

[@bridgetb5532]

The Woman is achieving but the little girl is making the decisions😭😭

[@TheBlackWellTheory]

oooweee yall this content is so good FOR me and to me; as a trauma therapist who is finally doing her own work; However I teach this a little differently; as acknowledging trauma IS accepting that the person who hurt me may never be who or what I need them to be… accepting that harsh reality doesn’t mean it’s okay; & it hurts like hell…long story short I teach acceptance is grief; and the hardest thing to grieve is the loss of someone who is still alive… 😢; mane I gotta watch this again… just reconnected with my father…#mane🤦🏾

[@alisataylor5937]

MY GOD THIS WAS ANOTHER GUUUUUUD ONE....❤🙏🏽💪🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@Yukia76]

Great interview

[@VaultEmpowers]

We're so glad you enjoyed it!!

[@ruthjones2309]

Wow the oil comes with a price. Well said❤

[@HouseofLachelle]

Such an empowering episode❤️

[@1Blessedlife8]

A lot of men are walking around unhealed or trying to heal. It's exhausting.

[@danilaroche1156]

This will help the men. Women too.

[@toxicityisforalesson]

This is so heartbreaking to hear...😢

[@tanyashipman4007]

The woman becomes successful but the little girl makes the decisions 😮😮… that just knocked me in out!! Omg 😳

[@mbalimokoena6935]

Sooooooh much😢

[@vivianwebber2001]

My ex was playing four roles, son, husband, dad and brother because his dad was a truck driver and gone all the time...our marriage suffered for it 😢

[@The23271]

Wow!!!

[@faithmasilela7221]

Wait... The shoes tho brandy!!! Gorgeous 🤩

[@stormjacksonnsidefirst1042]

Love. Love, when black men let black women really know what's up, especially what it costs to have 85% of households led by black women. Excited that if you're ready to heal, it's always been available...start now.😉❤

[@marypowell9994]

Psalm 46:10 "Be still, and know that I am God..."

[@chef.terrelljabbarr]

Wow. Yes! That little boy (girl) in us is real. Yet that's that child who is connected with God.

[@Ac35010]

These two would make a very cute couple 😊

[@pheliwemashiyi8835]

This was also therapy to Brandi when he said why would he leave to love another womens children

[@robbinjackson1292]

Come on Dr. Jay

[@asawright6532]

❤ Amen 🙏🏾

[@arlenekbswanson]

How can Dr Jay be contacted for private counselling? The link on his IG seems to be broken.

[@queenvictory6916]

That first few minutes in was a lot to take in lol. I’m gonna brace myself for some wisdom.

[@The23271]

I have done that, couldn’t understand it, but God!

[@rayholloway3765]

Thank God for the mirror the God has placed on this Earth.

[@scorchedearth824]

Unfortunately that's why the stepfather did what he did to him, like a lion do when it kills the lion, it takes the lioness and kills the 1st lions cubs. Damn I know his pain, but Thank God for GODS covering

[@feliciawalker1004]

Sir how can we can you for therapy

[@kharab31]

I want to be able to hear God speaking to me

[@silver92406]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@nannanom]

That's interesting. Boys need more hugs and affection than girls. It makes sense based on my experiences.

[@prettygirltingz9077]

Nah be healed first ladies so you can attract a healed man

[@lb1798]

7:37 Your help should NEVER come at the detriment to your children. #HePutMeToSleepInFrontOfMySister😢😡😡😡

[@Virgoflower-h2w]

He blames mama but it was his daddy's fault 😢

[@scorchedearth824]

He actually blamed both

[@Morales705]

It’s sad how none of these adults used the Bible to make themselves better; so just a form of godliness but no spiritual fruit as evidence that God was the head of their lives. Sometimes our Parents do the best they could; sadly oftentimes our Parents have their own deficits in their childhood. It was great that other family filled in the gap but…

[@veronabacon7738]

God and therapy, period. A lot of us were taught to just pray about it. Most time we need something in addition to that

[@noble604]

Agree. Such a trick of the enemy to turn Jay away from wanting to hear Scripture - THE ALL POWERFUL, True, Living, LIFE-CHANGING WORD of GOD - when It was offered to him in favor of hearing psychology all because his parents misused Scripture in his lived experience. Jay - and others - will STAY captive in these conditions as long as they go back and “smell” what the room smelled like and “feel” what they were feeling then. It’s Jesus who can transform us. This is what He came to do. We put psychotherapy in its helpful place but there IS no other NAME given under Heaven through which we are saved, redeemed and set free. There is unequaled power in The WORD of GOD. Let *that be the message. Amen

[@parlorgemz2405]

This is one sister who’s hard to view 😂