Drifter interview-Deke

Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Deke, a drifter currently in Santa Monica, California.
Here's a link to a GoFundMe campaign to help some of the people seen in SWU interviews: gofund.me/b68ef60f
For ad-free, uncensored videos and plenty of exclusive content please subscribe to the Soft White Underbelly subscription channel. It's $10 a month and watchable on Apple and Android mobile apps, Roku TV, Apple TV and Amazon Fire. Try a one week free trial at: www.softwhiteunderbelly.com
Here’s a link to audio only versions of SWU videos: asmrdb.fanlink.to/softwhiteun...

[@colearnold8193]

I like how he included alcohol as a hard drug. It’s as hard as drugs get.

[@bo-dine7971]

Yep. Just like Benzos and barbs, abrupt withdrawal from alcohol can be deadly. It is however much more toxic than benzos in comparison (if using both in large amounts). With many (at least natural) substances you can certainly get high daily and be healthy physically, but that's simply not possible with alcohol due to what ethanol does to the human body.

[@juri_xiii9977]

@@bo-dine7971 Ive done it all,od'd on Heroin.. Etc. But Alcohol and Amphetamines are the worst. And Fentanyl..

[@pippipster6767]

Not in moderation.

[@phillipjordan3013]

Exactly true dat man. I've always believed alcohol is more destructive than heroin

[@sparkle8602]

@@pippipster6767 could you have missed the point more? Wtf dude.

[@Sweetnsour2023]

I love how he keeps glancing down at his dog and how the dog is completely relaxed with him.

[@maniadoslivros.jopereira]

Me too, don't get enough about how he looks his dog, its so marvelous and sweet,and make feel good just seeing both...wise words: we got love ourselves!

[@adamw4469]

One of the fascinating things about dogs owned by "homeless" people is they are often uber-socialized environmentally. Dog just sleeping next to heavy traffic while its owner panhandles, etc. They get to experience and smell around their whole environment so fewer things are novel or alarming to them, which often makes them not pull on a leash either.

[@maniadoslivros.jopereira]

@@adamw4469 Yes, interesting, thank you!

[@luciel4502]

Love this guy and how he looks at his puppy. Would of like seeing more of the doggies ❤🐶🐶

[@freeclimb5487]

If only he gave his children that kind of attention.

[@msm4052]

I met Deke today 5/25/23, I'm in law enforcement. My brother was giving him a ride, he wanted me to meet him. He was a really down to earth guy. Enjoy your new puppy, Deke! Be safe.

[@jeremybrown4489]

Hopefully you were kind enough to throw him a charity lay.

[@crohmer]

@@jeremybrown4489 grow up

[@jeremybrown4489]

@@crohmer here comes the white knight, fck off beta male squid it was a joke. go help your wife or boyfriend with the dishes or something.

[@melaniecarroll2538]

Kind of you

[@Yerpompous]

Yes he seems like he is super down to earth and really sweet. I want him to have a good life and be clean and sober. ❤

[@thatonetexan1390]

The peace he has with his past, the life he lives, his honesty about life, and the fact that he doesn’t wear a watch is inspirational. This is by far my favorite interview.

[@pawntorn]

Seeing these kind of happy and unique people really makes one wonder and ponder of their own life choices. The older I get the clearer it comes to me that caring what other people think or expect of you destroys your happiness. Just do you.

[@ryanjavierortega8513]

Not if you have kids, when you have kids you’re not allowed to roam about like a fool! You’re not allowed to die, either, so this really takes the cake But walking allows time for reflection

[@lincolndotson3613]

He has no regrets. Didn't raise his kids. Let his parents Do it. In and out of prison. No regrets. What a great guy! You keep contemplating.

[@bhief473]

Comparison is the thief of joy 🙏

[@mikeyy2322]

Well said !

[@d.olluwu]

@@lincolndotson3613 what is it with you people wanting to define everyone based solely on their mistakes? you act like human beings aren’t complex and can’t change. what an ignorant opinion.

[@CarrieMilburn]

I had the pleasure of meeting Deke today at Haight Ashbury. I recognized him right away and got the courage to go speak with him. He’s an absolute sweetheart in person. It was a joy to chat with you, Deke.

[@planetboondock2383]

All the best to you and to Deke.

[@orangecayman520]

@Carmine Testa why is that so unrealistic to you?

[@CarrieMilburn]

@Carmine Testa LOL ok

[@propersami7704]

@Carmine Testa how can you be so sure? You have a 50/50 chance of being correct. There's no way you can be "sure" this did or didn't happen. Being a cunt online is so unoriginal.

[@adammacer]

@Carmine Testa Did you ever notice that 'Carmine Testa' is an anagram of 'I'm an Asshat'.. Well, at least 51% of it is..

[@HuntinwithHattaway]

I was working as a patrol sergeant in south Alabama probably 10 years ago and come in contact with this guy on his way to Florida. I ran him for warrants, he was clear and gave him a ride about 15 miles, close to the next town. He was really polite and easy going. He had a different dog then. And only a skull tattoo covering half of his face.

[@threatassessment606]

Was he suspected of a crime? Cause it sounds like you would've slap the cuffs on him if he had warrants. Smh

[@kingcitybaby]

@@threatassessment606 that is usually what happens when you have warrants tho…..

[@RogueBoyScout]

​@@threatassessment606 Did the delivery driver give you a pizza. Cause it sounds like that's what a delivery driver would do if he got an order... SMH....

[@lldjwhyteell]

@@threatassessment606of course he would if he had warrants you stupid ass

[@kevin_heslip]

That’d be cool If it actually happened. Which it didnt

[@laurenisagee]

Drifter Deke, one of my customers at my cannabis shop. Such a sweet soul. So happy for him and how he turned his life around. This man is a walking testimony!

[@daybraeburn6172]

Deke is given herb, and he carries and a pound with him in his pack. Therefore, Deke has no need for price gouging cannabis shops.

[@foxyroxy7189]

A walking testimony of what not to become…😬 He’s got to be one of the most selfish, self centered people I’ve ever seen…😳 Imagine thinking it’s EVERYONE else’s job to take care of him, and his mistakes, and every other loser like him…🤦🏽‍♀️

[@jacobgeiser5894]

​@@foxyroxy7189 you clearly are the one with the problem

[@yyg4632]

He's basically a western monk. He spends his life in moderation, contemplation, isolation. He just walks and lives in the moment. I can understand why he's happy.

[@caseymcali5664]

Look up Finisa medrano your head will fall out your ass

[@featheredcoyote5477]

Inspiring human right there. I live off grid away from people and governmental boundaries to the best of my abilities. This man takes being a non conformer to another level. Absolutely admire him and the internal love he has for himself. The majority of people out there will never find that inner peace.

[@madelynferez]

Easy to do what you want when you leave your kids behind.

[@sheldonhollis5258]

@@madelynferez not everyone is meant to be a parent

[@joez3706]

Why would anyone glorify his lifestyle?

[@colby6131]

"People just see what they want to see." - Drifter Nailed it.

[@ShacoPL]

@Carmine Testa Proving the original comment right

[@donsolos]

@Carmine Testa the only pathetic loser I see here is you, fool

[@hestonpfheffer1299]

@Carmine Testa you removed your previous comment probably because you got schooled.. People also see through other people 😂

[@hestonpfheffer1299]

@Carmine Testa so why doesn't the flow of this conversation make any sense?

[@DarthVaderForce125]

@Carmine Testa Sorry that your brother touched you. Haha wait that’s honestly hilarious. Hope it hurt 😄

[@JackTheGod100]

I’ve seen this man on a hike once when i was camping in southern oregon.. just a small conversation in passing but it’s crazy to see him pop up on a youtube video. hope you’re carrying that positive spirit with you today ❤

[@michellejohnson9270]

One of the best interviews. Never judge a book by the cover.

[@buteocks4020]

dude the cover looks so much like dubya its scary, seriously do a double take on that1

[@DefundTheFringes]

"Never judge a book by the cover." - Actually, that can be a fatal mistake in certain situations. Face and neck tattoos tend to be bad news.

[@A1hootyhoo]

Just because he tells a story doesn’t mean it’s the whole story. He’s maybe leaving out bad things he’s done. We know he abandoned his children and forced his elderly parents to raise kids that they never planned for. That’s kind of a shitty thing to do. I bet his children have some unfavorable words to say.

[@ashleystafford4600]

That puppy is just the sweetest! You can tell this guy’s a gentle soul cause that dog is just resting soundly in his arms. Animals know people and that dog just sleeping like that with him says a lot about who this guy is. Love your videos!

[@kenlocklear3862]

pretty sure that dog was either exhausted or drugged🤨

[@mysmirandam.6618]

Yup

[@donmcron3334]

@@kenlocklear3862 I'm glad someone else noticed

[@nipz58]

@@kenlocklear3862 why would the dog be drugged

[@royceanderson758]

Dog may be tired but he's very healthy I agree with ya Ashley

[@abminog4807]

If somebody didn't know him by just looking at him they would say he's weird but if you listen to him he's laid back and very intelligent he's a very down to earth guy

[@analeyesanalyzeanallies5579]

He’s a piece of shit father. Far from a down to earth guy.

[@jokestermasteroflaughter7754]

id love to meet deke i feel like i can relate to him and have a laugh share a drink he seems like a really nice guy.

[@John-mf6ky]

Not everyone, I've met quite a few travelers like him. People are just to quick to judge by outside appearance.

[@steff9041]

One thing I've learned is to never judge a book by it's cover.

[@donacatanguma]

@Billy's Corgan He paid all his child support, and the children were taken away from their mother and placed with his parents.

[@jessicadominguez1804]

Just met Deke today 10/28/23 in Quartzsite with his adorable doggies. Very kind soul and wish him all the best! Thank you for sharing these stories with us, Mark.

[@Allpie_isgoodpie]

He's not a drifter. He's a traveler and I would say he has more compassion and empathy and emotional intelligence than most people (especially in LA)

[@NorCalGlobal]

Yet he half abandoned his kids?

[@atazky613]

@@NorCalGlobal Good people do bad things too.

[@flowersfam3462]

@@atazky613 Exactly. No one is immune to making mistakes.

[@AtibaVV]

@@flowersfam3462 learned some real shit from this comment

[@kingcitybaby]

@@flowersfam3462 is it just a mistake if you realize it’s a mistake and you never do better? The guy seems super nice but I lose most respect when you choose to “travel” instead of raise your two kids.

[@ronstan3064]

My favorite quote in this interview is when he gave his reason for getting of drugs. He said “ I’ve always liked who I was.” “ Learn to like or even Love yourself” “ Find something to live for” This advice is Golden.

[@ryanjavierortega8513]

Yeah, he’s very wise, and paying child support is beautiful, really

[@guiseppe6215]

Yes sir.

[@nickbrennan3389]

Yes...excellent advice...find anything to live for, if you have no kids or family, you can still find something...dogs, surfing, growing food, charity work, music, playing guitar, art etc.

[@invaderjaymz]

@@ryanjavierortega8513 yeah. Way more beautiful than being a good parent.

[@alynneflanery9918]

so true.

[@zachdelkus]

“Technology is high-tech, but the people using it are clowns”. So true.

[@pj123xyz]

So he’s a clown too then

[@pj123xyz]

@sreppup No not really. I’m not even on social media so I don’t take it personally. Although I guess KZbin could be considered that in a way. I just can’t stand dead beats who abandon their families and watching this bum bs about non conformity while mooching off the system is what triggers me lol

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

Yes indeed and full blown Narcissism is on the rise expeditiously. The people using Hi-Tech and or Smart Phones (non-stop) are a danger to themselves and National Security.

[@jaygreenleaf3136]

@@pj123xyz he also abuses animals. That is very important.

[@wesdex04]

@@jaygreenleaf3136 i bet you never had an animal rest on you like the pup did in this video, that pup is so peaceful and content, its amazing how people will try and spin that into something terrible like animal abuse. You and PJ are angry at something else in your own lives, this dude represents something you either cant achieve or cant comprehend.

[@rubytuesday7653]

His love for his dog is how all animals should be treated.♥️

[@SkumDawgDistro]

but animals eat eachother? you going to tell a lion to be nice?

[@Yerpompous]

@@SkumDawgDistro this is far out of left field in “response” to her comment. She is talking about how human treat animals, not how animals treat animals.

[@keithlewis8238]

Yeah he loves them more than his own children

[@peternielsen8601]

Have you eaten pork recently?

[@dshe8637]

He didn't bother looking after his children, but cares for a dog. Totally selfish.

[@angelfeliciano1630]

Ran into Deke today on Haight street in San Francisco and he was very kind. Happy to have met him. Sometimes we live in no particular way but our own 🎼

[@jerichostevens2711]

I'm only 34 now, and stress is physically killing me... its not just attacking my nerves, but my body... I'm just one big ball of stress, and I can't find the pressure release valve... my favorite time of the day is when I go to sleep... just me, my dogs, and my audiobooks... that's my relaxtion.

[@wandarask8444]

How good you know these thoughts, so when you look at them hopefully you will know there not true, Take it easy, all is ok, it's only all the shit on the outside. Love Australia x

[@Claudia-cr2pm]

Sounds cliche but yoga saved my health.

[@nicola1466]

Your nervous system may be disregulated. Do you have any unhealed traumas from childhood? Dogs are the best :)

[@aaronhewlett2067]

avoid facebook. Running and exercise is really helpful. Have you tried lifting?

[@Claudia-cr2pm]

@Michelle Devine it only works for me when I go to a yoga studio. If I try to do at home practice, it doesn't get done

[@livelikeawinner4087]

That picture of him with his dogs should be in a gallery somewhere. It’s absolutely beautiful. The dog around his necks eyes, expression and his are identical, then you pan down and the dog at his feet has the same soulful eyes. I pray that he continues his good health. I feel the same way about my dogs. I work extra hard to stay healthy so my dogs always have their mommy that loves and cares for them. What a wonderful interview. I love the questions you asked and how pleasant his answers were. Very insightful.

[@adrianc6534]

and underneath the picture should be a caption stating "i chose my dogs and my vagabond lifestyle over my two children".

[@diegodevops4151]

@@adrianc6534 so abortion would be a better choice?

[@levibaer18]

@@diegodevops4151 No. Accountability is a better choice.

[@pj123xyz]

@@levibaer18 Right on!

[@michaelguido7505]

@@diegodevops4151 or idk man up and raise your fucking kids

[@beerensteincom-bat8628]

I’ve been watching for a few weeks. I know I’ve only just opened the book so to speak. Yet I’ll say this has been my favorite interview to date.

[@miradamevska5887]

Me too.

[@MartinvanTilburg]

Why?

[@based2678]

mine is oddly the clown with OCD. (he was getting dressed as a clown) I found it very interesting

[@reason43poole37]

This guy talks a lot about no responsibility but in a way he is very responsible he takes care of himself physically and mentally. We need people like him.

[@dogshake]

Couldn’t be bothered to raise his kids though. He just laughed it off and said “oh well I paid child support”. When Mark asked him what his biggest worry is, he said “my dogs”. Not “oh I worry about not making a connection with my children”. He’s just a bum, man.

[@cxnels2]

You can't be serious... we need people like him? People that leech off of society, complain about the society that supports him, and then adds no value to society? Sure, the more like him the better? Wow!

[@andrewpereira9271]

@@cxnels2Being a quiet, polite, thoughtful person who tries hard not to hurt anyone, is of value to society.

[@jacobgeiser5894]

​@cxnels2 you seriously are messed up in the head..you people have no idea what truly matters

[@LL-rb8wd]

What about taking care of his kids? He left them without a mother and a father. Paid child support and called it good. Has no regrets?? His son is struggling and he doesn't care less, he's so happy hiking and begging. He's just a selfish prick avoiding his responsibilities.

[@vanessaclark5927]

It has to be hard for his kids to hear that he has no regrets. I'm happy for him and that he's so in touch with himself, but that doesn't take away the fact that his kids grew up without a dad.

[@jerryrice2752]

he's articulate and seems decent but hes desperate and basically a loser. crucial having good parents that are in your life.

[@thesixt.o.7568]

Not everyone who has kids is meant to be a parent... Why judge thou...does it make you feel superior? Or did your parent, step out..? Mark does these videos, to help open up our eyes not judge these people....no ones life is perfect! A famous man once said 'Let him who is without sin cast the first stone…'

[@jerryrice2752]

@TheSix T.O. I just know a loser when I see one.

[@jimlytleworks]

His kids probably don't listen to him.

[@drizztehxd7532]

I Think he has regrets about his kids, the way he initially reacted to look at the floor before answering, and the slight discomfort on his face - I think he's burried away some of his feelings. But I don't know for sure, maybe he truly doesn't have regrets. I find it hard to believe he has no remorse over it.

[@kindasorta123]

That puppy is the sweetest!! So well behaved!

[@kHg.33]

The puppy seems lethargic- hope its not sick with parvo

[@aprilmahurin5646]

@@kHg.33 if he's walking 20 to 30 miles a day his dog is probably thankful for the rest....I would be lol

[@tallentstravels5727]

@@kHg.33 He makes the "puppy" beg for money for himself three hours per day. He's a loser.

[@HE-162]

Road dogs tend to be. People generally seem to assume that travelers with dogs are forcing the dogs to live a miserable life...in truth most feed their dogs first, and a dog is more than happy to spend its days walking. Road dogs tend to be super calm, well behaved, and friendly. Their entire lives are a walk, and what dog doesn’t love a good walk!?

[@Thebuddhistninja_]

@@tallentstravels5727 that’s where you’re wrong, my only advice to you, is to choose kindness over hurtful words. Have a blessed day and may the gods forever keep you in grace and love. @thebuddhistninja.

[@zylka172]

"They build all this shit for the homeless people, where are all the facilities for kids at?!' -- AMEN! Deke has more insight than most local politicians seem to have. Thank you for that interview!

[@genefogarty5395]

Why are people that never bore children responsible for raising and building facilities for kids of people that did have them and abandoned them? Deke is a bum, his kids will tell you that.

[@cxnels2]

You really think Deke has the answers? Deke sure has a lot to say about how society is failing, yet, he continues to leech off of society and doesn't add any value to help solve the problems of which he speaks. He says "teach your kids"... well, start with your own.

[@WakizashiSabre]

Love your BW portraits, Mark. No empty beauty or wannabe strenght. Really legitimate character capturing. With style and dignity, whoever you shoot. This ones is really lovely. Great interview as always.

[@RealBoiJare]

That dog is so calm and precious. You can tell that dog is very trusting of him and I’m sure he treats it awesome. Makes me happy to see

[@teine928]

He feels comfortable when he's with his best and only friend is with him

[@vunuxbuku5212]

Better than most dogs in home which are full of anxiety or anger

[@collinmanning8334]

A dog's attitude reflects heavily who their owner is. That pup didn't move an inch, looked as relaxed as a dog can get.

[@jaymejohnson5785]

Probably knackered from walking 20 miles a day 😂😂😂

[@babycoleangel]

@@jaymejohnson5785 Rock on - sitting here busting out laughing!! That is hilarious!! Thank you for that laugh - much needed! Happy New Year!

[@jaygreenleaf3136]

This is the 4th dog he's had in 6 months, at least. That is a young dog with no energy, probably both sick and very tired. This guy goes through dogs like wet naps, and he should not be praised for his subtle animal abuse. But hey, he fooled you!

[@daniellozada3408]

@@jaygreenleaf3136 💯 but not only that, also he left his kids behind just to be a scumbag

[@j.3779]

@@jaygreenleaf3136 wtf. How do you know????

[@jackielopez7227]

This guy is very unique, sincere , and so interesting. I wish him the best.

[@tleigh8794]

Well spoken.. Enjoyed this interview and their banter together 👍😊😁

[@diane9247]

He's not just a homeless guy, he's got a legitimate purpose: living as happily as possible for himself. I admire him for that.

[@jacobpotter2237]

Uh a bum…

[@walshy7499]

@@jacobpotter2237 low frequency comment.

[@garyrandall5935]

but others that can't do that support him in one way or another

[@garyrandall5935]

he wasn't a dad to his kids he says he paid child support ,but basically he is getting that back and more from tax payers.

[@HitLeftistsWithHammers]

@@jacobpotter2237 " insert virtue-signal here " - people that will respond to you

[@LongSchlongMcBong]

I feel like your photography is underappreciated. The portraits of Deke have been some of the most interesting in my opinion. The posing of the dog, his demeanor. He seems like a good subject with an incredible photographer taking his portrait. And with a captivating story to go with it.

[@marinamarazzo5889]

I wouldn't say unappreciated, his incredible work is why he had one of the most successful careers as a photographer for some 30 yrs or so.

[@jasondegood1662]

He is one of the most unique individuals I've ever met. And I'm proud to say that he's a friend of mine and I love him like a brother. I really enjoyed my conversations with him and I know that I will see my friend again in the near future. I really enjoyed the interview and I wish I was out there so I could do one myself

[@LongSchlongMcBong]

@@marinamarazzo5889 While I totally agree, as a whole it's not, but he's even said himself he thinks people are way more interested than the interview itself rather than his photography. I'd say that as a whole his photographic skill has been recognized but the recognition on this channel is far lower than it should be

[@sherryd.3425]

@@LongSchlongMcBong I don't know about that. Given the subject matter, Mark attracks a lot of attention around the world just through word of mouth. His photography is beautiful and each person he intrduces us to broadens our world view tremendously. I never feel like I have wasted a moment here.

[@thehaglin]

Mark has made a very good living as a professional photographer..He is extremely well known and sought after. If you look back through this channel, he shares a little of what he has done throughout his career and the motivation behind leaving to pursue his current passions. It’s definitely worth watching. I think you would enjoy it. I agree! He is an amazing photographer.

[@obsidianchao]

Damn Mark, that black and white portrait photo is one of the best you’ve taken. Incredible.

[@SuperTooncesthecat]

Yes. A true master.

[@ravencall9505]

Couldn’t love this interview more! I wish nothing but safe journeys for this man!❤️

[@dman5ful]

I'd love it more if he had been a present father

[@Blibertarian]

He used to coach my brother and I in wrestling when he was in school, always a nice dude. Glad he’s doing good.

[@andrewrice1724]

I call BS dude stop lying

[@luciernaga7974]

@@heidih3048 "when he was in school" meaning he probably helped out aswell since his dad was the coach, how does that not makes sense?

[@luciernaga7974]

@@heidih3048 "he used to coach... when he was in school". A senior can coach freshmen and so on. That's not really hard to understand.

[@luciernaga7974]

@@heidih3048 deke literally said he did wresting and his dad coached it. You don't have to be the literally coach if the team to coach your younger and less experienced teammates.

[@luciernaga7974]

@@heidih3048 coaching can be done by anyone that has more experience than the person they are teaching, that's what a coach is, you don't have to have the official title of the team coach to be helping someone out, which would be coaching them

[@alan2698]

He got a giggle out of me when he said he actually hitches AND hikes as opposed to just hitches. Cool interview.

[@pedroulloa7063]

Probably one of the best interviews I've seen on this channel. I felt the conversation inside of me if that makes sense. Loving it.

[@buteocks4020]

Am i the only one who saw dubya in the thumbnail?

[@cxnels2]

Mark does a great job at interviewing, but your takeaway was "wow, this guy had such great insights?", really? So you would also like to strive to add nothing to society? That was my takeaway.

[@AmandaJane229]

What a soul. My kind of kindred spirit. An incredibly good story. Peace and protection to you and your animals Deke. Beautiful dogs. Life's a journey. God's always got your back. "People just see what they wanna see." Thanks for the gift man. And as always, gorgeous photography Mark. Extremely reminiscent of Magnum photographers.

[@TheSpencer033]

kindred spirit? so you too wish to abandon your kids, and just chase drugs for the next high for the rest of your life?

[@andrewriddell3225]

What he says at the end of the interview is spot on. Help the kids. Adults are mostly beyond help. Great interview.

[@williamburton757]

Big words for a guy who abandoned his own children.

[@paulkwiatkowski1059]

Well I think it's more about helping The unborn human fetus have a right to life rather than being murdered dissected and sold as fresh never Frozen baby body parts by the FDA planned Parenthood and demonic entities closing as female leaders such as AOC pelosi and their ilk

[@paulkwiatkowski1059]

@@williamburton757 I'm guilty of the same we all live and learn but anyone out here who has children or not and condones abortion murder of the human fetus is just as guilty have abandoning children yet to see the light of day

[@williamburton757]

@@paulkwiatkowski1059 Okay... I'm pro-life too... that doesn't make this guy less of a piece of shit.

[@NaNa-re3wc]

Don’t know why people felt the need to go all anti choice in response to this comment… but I agree with what the man in the interview said too. He seems insightful and intelligent.

[@TWudz]

He’s so smart and really has a big heart. I wish he was closer to his children… he needs to spread that love to children and grandchildren. A lot of healing has to be done with him and his children but once that’s done his life will come together more. That’s basically the missing piece

[@generic_Ryan]

In your opinion

[@mistermister1072]

By his reactions, in regards to his kids, it seems out of his hands... However, he definitely seem like a great person.

[@mlovmo]

At least you can see that he is NOT doing the right thing by having abandoned his children. So few people here can see that. I wish this man no ill will. He's funny and interesting, but I would not want to elevate his life choice as an example to anyone. Living on the street and peeing and pooping on the sidewalk is not the future I would want for anyone's child. We have to want better for people than this.

[@shaan702]

@@mlovmo I don’t think he really made the choice to be as he is. He simply is the way he is and has come to terms with that. He said has some anxiety problems which made responsibility too painful for him. He said his mother’s death was the catalyst that led to him becoming a drifter. It would have been better if he had been there for his kids but given that the past cannot be changed, it’s probably for the best that he has a solid degree of self acceptance. If he didn’t have that he would be worse off.

[@daniellefromenthal3257]

His kids are in their mid to late twenties

[@kathryn7230]

How much he obviously loves his dogs says everything I need to know. What an amazing man x

[@w.m.8126]

Continue to take care of those precious fur babies Deke 💕 The softness in their eyes says volumes about you as a wonderful man to them

[@IBLV2DOU]

Such an interesting man, and he seems happy, loves his dogs.....as long as he has food, shelter, and is healthy, looks like a life he enjoys. I wish him good luck and happy trails!

[@wackaer25]

this doesn't make sense. he uses food stamps and hand outs to get around.. he's not really just living life lol he's living that way cause he lives in a society with the ability to support people like him.

[@SpearowEdits]

@Carmine Testa were all parasites

[@FiNN--]

@Carmine Testa You're a parasite too. How does that feel?

[@adog9784]

@Carmine Testa for a "parasite " dude sure is happy something you will probably never experience judging by this crappy comment 😉

[@BlackGunGuy]

@@wackaer25 we all have to have food and water to live, right? So why is it that we have to pay the most basic of necessities? Before you assume, no I do not lean politically left. Far from it, in fact. But I have a heart. As long as what this guy is saying is true, then I’m fine with my tax dollars helping him out. Better to give a dollar to a man who doesn’t need one, than to not give one to someone who does.

[@corybray7763]

I really like what he said about compassion . I once read somewhere that compassion is the peak of the moral mountain. It's so true and unfortunately it's the main thing missing in society today. So if you wanna change the world have compassion for your fellow man, that's where the change begins , in my opinion.

[@spacewombat6174]

This is exactly what the Dalai Lama teaches😁

[@corybray7763]

@@spacewombat6174 i don't know if this means anything but the Dalai Lama and i have the same birthday July 6.

[@terywetherlow7970]

@@corybray7763 well then the Dala I Lama and i are then the same Zodiac Sign :)

[@corybray7763]

Just to clarify I was saying as a matter of fact, not as a boast. But that's cool as well.

[@terywetherlow7970]

@@corybray7763 I like Cancerians....i rarely encounter them in my travels. My Dad was one as well....he took off with new women, i am a gal and raised my kids as far as i could before dad's bigger $ made me feel like the mop up on aisle 5 lady. I took a vote with them when they were launched that i was going to travel did they mind. Nope they said. Off i went.Unconventional perhaps, but i was suffocating. So maybe travel is a Cancer thing. Either way i did the best i could. Few regrets....lol

[@RRC6490]

Seems like a solid and genuine dude. Glad he’s happy and doing well

[@BrianDeCosta]

I watched his whole Rogan interview a month ago before finding this channel. It's so well done

[@mariaq8087]

His mom and dad are the ones to be admired from this interview. Taking on his, and the mother of his kids responsibilities. He wasn't even sure of their ages. At least he loves his dog.

[@mysticmama740]

100% ...no props to this guy at all. his poor kids

[@infinitytraindreams]

Did you even listen to the interview???? He abandoned his kids moron.

[@sherillr.4287]

@@infinitytraindreams read what she wrote…CAREFULLY.

[@dianao8337]

He has no regrets??? Doesn’t regret not being in his kid’s life? Putting the responsibility of raising 2 kids on his parents?? He has no conscience, really. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@sherryd.3425]

@@dianao8337 God bless the grandparents.

[@stephenc4312]

He owns who he is. He accepts the choices he made. Too many people in society fear anyone who is not exactly like them. God Bless this guy.

[@DankiusMMeme]

Forced his kids to accept his choices as well

[@stephenc4312]

@@DankiusMMeme ah another judge of others character hiding behind his meme.

[@Ween1776]

100% agree. There's a lot of people hung up about his kids. Shit at least he supported them with child support, alot of divorced dads don't even do that

[@notpub]

Beg to differ. I don't need, want, or expect everyone to look like or be just like me. At the same time, it is UNSETTLING for many people not to be able to see a person's face clearly. That's why so many horror movie villains wear expressionless masks like in Halloween or Friday the 13th or Scream. Even Clowns and The Joker are unsettling to many. Most of us use micro-expressions from the face to determine things like trustworthiness or safety. Having so many face tattoos eliminates this possibility. It erects an intentional wall between him and others. Sounds like this is what he wants, to me. Didn’t he say he wants to be alone, with his dogs and in nature, most of the time?

[@Ween1776]

@@notpub what ultimate male fantasy are you talking about? I have a kid. Love him to death. I lost a child at 8 1/2 months as well. There was never a fantasy of mine to bang someone and get them pregnant and then say " see ya". Maybe his kids lives were better without him there. Maybe he realized he wouldn't of been a good father. There's a hundred reasons why he left and it could work out in favor of the kids instead of him being there. Then you have the pro life people I've seen on here that in one comment are crying about him not being there for his kids and in past comments cry about abortion. They can't have it both ways. If anyrhing they won yet they still bitch about it. At least he recognized that being there with his kids would of made both their lives worse and left. I'll take that over some of the messed up dads I've seen just staying with their wives and kids and hating themselves and are miserable as all hell

[@Gracie2shoes]

Absolutely beautiful black and white still shot of him and the two pups! Love your content Mark. Thank you for all you do.

[@jennifermccain6062]

You can tell this man is extremely intelligent. He is very articulate. Sometimes I wish I had the courage to travel around like that but I am afraid of someone hurting me. Deke isn't hurting anyone he is just enjoying his life with his dogs. He doesn't look dirty and once he starts talking the face tattoos arent even scary because he doesnt have a sketchy energy. Deke is cool thanks for more awesome content mark.

[@yyg4632]

the way he keeps glancing at the dog to make sure he didn't wake it up shows strong love and care

[@1stdaughter]

Commenters praise men for having "a kind smile," a cute dog, and no credit card. Give them brownie points for allegedly paying child support. Meanwhile, the women who are featured on this channel, who speak openly about their abusive families, horrific childhood experiences, their addiction, and their broken spirits are dragged through the mud for not having a part in their children's lives, regardless of the circumstances of their life. Wild. I have no animosity towards this man and won't make assumptions about how his kids feel about him. But who gets compassion and grace, and who doesn't, is always telling to me.

[@brewski535]

If a woman said they abandoned their children the comments here would be very different indeed.

[@dawnmcfarland7011]

AND THAT’S ON GOD…smh. It’s totally fine for men to walk away from their kids and to care more for an animal than their own babies. Honestly tho he probably would have completely ruined those kids if he had stayed because he’s only about himself. Period.

[@ivandred3655]

It is different, a mother is supposed to be around their children. A dad is not as important as a mom is. There is a special bond between a mother and a child that a father never can have.

[@lmauzey24]

I love how his views on where problems actually lie, are just like yours. What a smart, and kind man. Love him and his furbabies.

[@b-d3vil16]

Makes me feel cowardly for the life I’m living. Tremendous respect to this man for living his life.

[@BostonBlues]

@james tiberius you sound unhappy with your own life

[@karlsnow5281]

@@BostonBlues I think he's trying to say he has a problem with patting people on the back for failing. I wouldn't call a grown man without means a success

[@katman734]

@james tiberius Life = fake responsibilities.

[@mlovmo]

No way. He abandoned his children. He abandoned his responsibility. Good thing not everybody's dad made his choices, DON'T YOU THINK?

[@societyreborn33]

@james tiberius nah, you are right and we know it

[@vincearmstrong5654]

Abandoning your kids is inflicting harm. That's a bag of shit move.

[@michaelblanchette2787]

If you don't have it in you, you don't have it in you

[@vincearmstrong5654]

@@michaelblanchette2787 , then you don't have kids. We're all aware how that's prevented. Broken homes are one of the most prominent indicators of failure to flourish in our society. It's a monumental life fail to have children, then just abandon them.

[@michaelblanchette2787]

@@vincearmstrong5654 he was abusing drugs. Paying his child support and staying the hell away was the best thing he could have done

[@ericthorpe5670]

@@vincearmstrong5654 Not that I'm a proponent of broken homes or anything like that, but you can't know if you have it in you to be a parent until you're a parent. You can think you'll be a great parent and turn out to be Michael Jackson's father. You could think you'd be a shit parent, but having a kid just might turn your life around for the better. You don't know until you know.

[@vincearmstrong5654]

@@ericthorpe5670 , after they're born, you have no option. They're here, and they're yours. You do what you have to. I raised my sons, mostly on my own. I was a bike club enforcer, bouncer, and partier. I did what I needed to do for my son's. If you don't do that, you're just a garbage person, incapable of doing what the loveliest animal does; caring for your young. You're absolutely free to do what you want, but it has significance. Defines you.

[@ebonylocks9234]

The dog being sleep says a lot about him. Seems like a good guy.

[@a.h.5296]

I noticed this too

[@numbzinger350]

Absolutely. Us dog owners recognize that.

[@tallentstravels5727]

He makes the freaking dogs beg with him for three hours per day.

[@harrywoodman2988]

@@tallentstravels5727 what's he going to do? drop them off at daycare? Leave the tied up somewhere on skid row?

[@cadavher]

@@tallentstravels5727 dogs LOVE working. They love to learn and perform. He's not harming them at all, if anything enriching their lives. As long as he's keeping them fed, mentally stimulated and healthy he is doing no wrong!

[@user-us8zf3ew5i]

I loved this guy and the integrity he expressed in liking and loving who he is as a person.

[@lilypatton8035]

Deke seems so interesting and kind. I bet he has a million stories from his traveling. Thank you for sharing your story! Safe travels!

[@sandyfranklin7915]

I feel sorry for his kids, it is sad that they have no contact with him that much. Kids will always want to know their dad and love him. It is hard to grow up without a dad, father.

[@xpicklepie]

Especially since the mom he left them with had them taken away.

[@zeke8701]

I can tell many stories where kids would have been better off if dad/mother had disappeared. It's not always the story in our heads. Try getting molested for yrs, getting the shit kicked out of you on a regular basis, etc.

[@KayFabe87]

In this case, the kids are probably better off without this individual in their lives. I can only imagine their embarrassment if they know that this guy is their father. They are probably making a concerted effort to avoid any contact with him and trying to ensure that no one is great finds out that they are related in any way.

[@jesusthugmusic]

you do know children have minds of their own right? they can choose to have nothing to do with you. just like mine!! because my toxic ex got custody my kids hate me. i take responsibility for my end but my end was a very small part of all of the bs that went down. she got my kids taken away by choking my son. i was 4 hours away working all week and coming home on the weekends. i wasnt even there. you feel sorry for his kids but i feel sorry for him and his kids.

[@FM-jo1jh]

Not all kids love and support their parents, some kill their parents....

[@Moydodir]

I love this man, he’s so real and genuine, and you can feel his good heartedness

[@tonyallen9131]

That's why the pup is so relaxed, animals can tell.

[@BPchadlite]

He ditched his children to be raised by his parents their entire lives

[@lincolndotson3613]

Great guy!!! Had nothing to do with his 2 children. Threw mom and dad a few dollars. In and out of prison. He has no regrets. He's so cool man.

[@zanemoloney4630]

@@TheClickClick he doesn’t even know his kids age & now his son is messed up & he left them with a stranger at 15 years old

[@a.garcia8086]

So real he forgot his kids ages

[@BMarie-hr2md]

I really like this interview. I think he does take responsibility - he cares for his dogs and himself. I love his compassion for dogs.

[@michellew.7669]

This is truly beautiful. Thank you for the interview. I think we're all exactly where we're supposed to be and should never feel guilty for who we are at this point and time❤️

[@DummyYEEEAAHHHHH]

I envy this guy. He's just living his life the way he wants. He's not hurting anyone, or himself. He seems like a genuine guy who probably has some awesome stories. I wish him all the best in this journey we call life.

[@DummyYEEEAAHHHHH]

@Franz Fanon go do what ?

[@DummyYEEEAAHHHHH]

@Franz Fanon not his lifestyle smart ass, I'm talking about being able to go where ya want whenever ya want.... I have a life in society and a child to raise so I can't do that obviously

[@stephendoyle3542]

His two children might feel differently.

[@chek6303]

@@stephendoyle3542 I kinda agree.

[@whyuneedtoknow]

Wow, this guy is something. When I saw the thumbnail, I expected something completely different and he blew me away. Best to you Deke, keep living YOUR best life!

[@SarahHillman-pk4qk]

I have never posted an opinion about anyone, ever; I love this man. Thank you.

[@acgillespie]

He has a great attitude and is real

[@AvalonDreamz]

Someone PLEASE send this man a journal so he can start recording his travels because that would be a book I would read in a heartbeat! He has probably seen some pretty interesting, horrifying, beautiful stuff being a traveler, wanderer.

[@ontime7482]

Loved this interview mark! He’s very interesting and you could tell he’s got a ton of stories! Keep doing you & take good care of those dogs! ❤️

[@flyingfox8360]

I hope to meet Deke one day. Seeing how he sits with that puppy just says something about his character. He seems like a genuine soul.

[@birdette79]

Only a few minutes in and that was my first thought, so sweet 😍

[@matt2993]

IS THAT NOT A FUCKING BLACK BEAR CUB

[@lillivercheese9046]

Sits with a puppy but abandoned his kids.

[@corgigirl305]

He has a charisma about him for sure.

[@coughcool138]

u should ask how his kids are doing

[@iainmartin9724]

Best one of these yet. The 28m went by so fast and I was gutted it ended. What a top bloke!

[@Meanmachinekr]

I hope deke and his dogs stay safe, the world needs more people like deke

[@aopLib19]

What an unbelievably interesting interview. I have watched many, many Underbelly videos, and when I saw this thumbnail, I thought I would have no interest in this story, beyond watching for 1 or 2 minutes. It turned out to be one of the best videos I've ever watched, and I would love to have a standing lunch appointment with this guy each week. So many of these people have interesting stories, I love running across the bright, articulate ones, but there are also some videos that I simply cannot watch. THANKS FOR DOING THIS

[@dudesolitude4390]

Dude's genuine as hell. His most important lesson he's learned was spot on as well.

[@susanfurlong2002]

I LIKE THIS GUY. . . AN HONEST PERSON. HE LIVES HUS DOGS & HE IS HAPPY!

[@samkeen]

I think a lot of us need inspiration from people like Deke in our lives. It’s good to be reminded of free spirits

[@samkeen]

@@jdeleon9694 aren’t you a charmer

[@jakecarter4407]

I'd be a lot more supportive of his lifestyle if he took care of his kids then took of on his drifter journey after they were adults.

[@bridgetxrose]

I respect his lifestyle, but I dont respect what he did to his children. He shouldnt have had any if he wasnt going to help raise them

[@ghaleable]

The compassion part just got me...I feel the same way. I don't always handle it the same way, but my heart is there. Plenty of good people are on drugs, struggling with homelessness, suffering...

[@LoupiOlorel]

This interview is one of the best, its like a good talk with friends or like minded people. Pretty good insights.

[@tired_of_u_ppl7985]

Has no regrets yet he’s fully aware his own son is struggling, that’s pretty sad

[@muddyfaygos343]

This guy fr seems like he's the most genuine and kind soul on the planet. And I love that I don't even feel the want to pray for better for him because I can tell he has everything he wants.. I envy him in a loooot of ways. Safe travels man, one love❤🤙

[@manonidyble]

Deke has a beautiful resonance about him that vibrates through your camera. His body language shows he is comfortable and grounded in his tatooed skin. He obviously has been through some shit and made healthy changes and received some powerful healing. He seems to brush over that part. Nature can be so healing and having the stamina and will to cover 100s if not thousands of miles across and up and down this country is an amazing accomplishment and has to have effected Deke in a profound way. What a beautiful soul he is. I would love to meet him. I hope you have him back.

[@SkinnyVinnie]

What a well spoken guy, looks can be deceiving, and this is a prime example. Just look how he handles the dog, u know this man is a good person, who just likes to live a different lifestyle.

[@myhearts419]

Same thoughts, the dog is at peace in his arms. He looks so secure.

[@vincearmstrong5654]

Too bad he didn't take care of the children he created. Lucky dogs.

[@ThatKyGirl1]

You should never judge a book by it’s cover… kudos to him! ✌🏼

[@kristinastukalenko3748]

He didn't raise his children.

[@kristinastukalenko3748]

I am the daughter of a father like him and it's people like you that view him as a "nice guy' that make me even sadder and more abandoned.

[@dqreps]

I'm the same age as this guy. The 80s was the last great age before the dawn of wide spread internet. We were actually forced to find something to do when bored. We didn't hop on one of our 10 devices instead. It's a different time now. And certainly not all for the better.

[@R8teen18]

I would say the 90s was, the internet wasn’t widespread then at all, it was until the 00s that the internet and mobiles started to take over.

[@MatthewAndrewDrake]

Hey bro I had to wait 2 minutes for the internet to load in 1999 and had to trust that the girl in the chat room was a girl off of a grainy photo so…yeah…

[@dqreps]

Take the internet out. The '80s is still the last great decade where people were totally without the internet and the biggest distraction kids had was a tv. It was just a different time before big tech took over. We still played outside. What a concept huh. There was plenty internet usage when I was going to college in the mid-90s. Used it almost every day for school, chats, searches etc. It just wasn't as widespread as late '90s and early 2000s began to be but people were already getting obsessed with it. When cell phones came into play it certainly added to the craziness.

[@NyosCameroon]

To be fair as a 2004 baby I would always be outside with friends and playing tag, freeze tag cops and robbers doing dumb kid stuff, still the internet was there but a lot of kids back then still in the early 200’s were more extroverted nowadays kids have the latest I phones, PC’s, PlayStation’s etc, I never see a kid outside anymore it’s pretty sad. I wish I could’ve lived in the 80’s sounds like so much fun going out with friends to dances, concerts cool parties etc. not all kids in this generation are all introverted I’m 17 now and the world is changing but we can’t do anything about it ‘carpe diem’

[@mariebernier3076]

@@NyosCameroon The 80's WERE amazing. I was getting out of h.s. in a tiny rural town, went to a big party university for 2 years, then moved to NYC for college, stayed there. So. Much. Fun.

[@mayte_j4008]

Thats exactly how I look down and stare at my dogs when they sleep next to me, there's peace and calm in him, I admire that.

[@sikothelies2306]

Best one yet and I’ve watched hundreds! I love Deke!! ❤

[@htothebeee]

I like the amount of interaction in this one. While it's great to hear people tell their stories, it's also nice to hear these two guys - both of whom have their own kind of unique stories - just talking and understanding each other.

[@magpiesmith971]

I like his attitude and how accepting he is of his choices and how he doesn’t let himself be influenced by other’s expectations. Stay safe and take care of those two adorable pups Deke! ❤️

[@tonyrmathis]

He loves puppies! Who cares that his parents had to raise his kids, right?

[@davidwavidshmavider]

@@tonyrmathis selfish af. He gets dogs, when he has human beings he’s neglecting and pawning off on his family.

[@tonyrmathis]

@@davidwavidshmavider No kidding and look at the love being showered on him in these comments. Not just love but envy by some. Pathetic! Oh and when he did get a few bucks in his hands how did he spend it? By taking the dog to the vet for a checkup and shots? No by wasting it gambling. The fact is if you ignore his likable nature and look at his actions instead he's a completely selfish ahole who's spent his entire life indulging whatever impulse popped into his mind never considering possible consequences. People like him were once subjected to public shaming but not anymore, now they're praised. His kids? We'll care about them when they entertain us with stories and cute puppies. Which speaks volumes about just how selfish most people are today.

[@MikeHunt-ix2xy]

Dems

[@kristiskinner8542]

@@MikeHunt-ix2xy fkn inane ass comment🙄

[@jerl33]

One of the GREATEST man I have seen/heard. Wow! Incredible how he made the interview 🤜🏾🤛🏾💯👍🏾☀️

[@inurfaceyo1]

Best interview on SWU I've seen yet. And I have seen a bunch! What a classic example of not judging a book by its cover.

[@burkedejanes244]

I've watched a few of these videos now. This one didn't hurt my feelings nearly as much. I've traveled miles and miles a day. I've even had photos taken of me by Asian tourists when I was paddling a sea kayak past their cruise ship in the rain 13 miles or so from Sitka to silver bay in the f-ing pouring rain. I love his love of rough travel. It does something for you.

[@ladnavar]

Where have you been travelling? ~

[@dailyspongeASMR]

You sound like a white guy with dreadlocks

[@mikextase]

great guy - super genuine - sober - highly intelligent - articulated - thanks again Mark!

[@invaderjaymz]

He has a huge swastika tattoo on his ribs

[@goodbro7846]

Great guy? Created children dumped them on his parents to raise while he "finds himself". Get real.

[@tallentstravels5727]

@@goodbro7846 An absentee dad who begs for money and exploit the food stamp system. Yeah, great guy. Super genuine. STUPID.

[@cadavher]

@@invaderjaymz you sure it's that and not the symbol of Buddha?

[@invaderjaymz]

@@cadavher I have corrected many people in the comments on this guy being a kind and gentle soul. I've received this reply countless times now. Yes. I'm sure. He has it positioned on a 45 degree angle. I wonder how many of these stooges who gave me this idiotic reply go around saying how much they hate racism and Nazi's. The comments for this video are full of people who have their ass pipes.

[@917hazel]

How Deke’s dogs respond to him says a great deal. TY🙏

[@jayharper1894]

What a great interview, fascinating gentlemen.. this was one of my favourites from yourself

[@jaygreenleaf3136]

His KZbin is Deke Brewer. You'll notice he seems to go through dogs a lot, and not mention what happened to them. And now here he is again, with a puppy, when he had 2 pitbulls 5 months ago, and another dog named chalupa a few months before that.

[@nosphosfer]

My fathers like that to. He likes dogs but i swear he is the black hand of death when it comes to dogs! He doesnt overtly abuse them its subtle...

[@pollyschulze760]

What happens to his dogs?

[@Nosilla11]

@@pollyschulze760 they get sick, run away, he gives them away, trades them, etc.

[@samb.352]

I'm a distance hiker too, I've hiked around 20 grand in trail miles. It's so wonderful, the feeling that comes over you when you realize all you have to do is walk & enjoy the views. After walking a distance trail, it's very common for hikers to talk about how they just don't want so much stuff anymore. It's freeing to step away from all the propaganda that confuses the meaning of want & need.

[@jamescorbett3828]

Based

[@WarriorGurl23]

So damn true

[@tjmurray1132]

Also not in your kids life all your doing ? What about all your not doing for our kids ? Wake up

[@FumblsTheSniper]

All I did for entertainment last year was take the metra line in Chicago to different places in the state with an electric skateboard. Would usually find a game preserve or someplace publicly private to bunker down for a nap until the early hours. Being out skating as the sun rises just before people are waking up for work is great. Planning to build an actual electric motorcycle to do some of my own trips. 70-80 miles on a charge is a good distance if you stop for lunch and a recharge somewhere. Already go on 30-40 mile round trips on the current bike I have. Wouldnt hesitate to do it all day for a week.

[@worshipsharpchedderlove]

20 thousand miles? Wow, that must be some fantastic memories.

[@daniellescott5584]

OMG.this was hands down the most inspirational you tube clip I've ever watched. Deek you are so spot on with everything you say so real and so content with yourself you have given me the confidence to do the same.❤

[@harpermacreedy4167]

This is amazing to see, i live similarly to him (i hitchhike like him but i primarily ride freight trains) im definitely on the younger side of folk who do this and ive only been at it for 2~3 years and its interesting seeing an old dog like deke and his takes on how he rolls

[@riverratrvr9225]

I lived like this right out of high school. Three years of pure joy. Much respect!

[@gpeterspeter]

Me 2 best times of my life. Not a fucking care in the world.

[@ericalasagna]

This is one of the best interviews I've ever seen. 💕 Much love to Deke, his dogs, and his kind soul.

[@Ween1776]

@Carmine Testa you're everywhere in these comments. Maybe his kids were better off without him. Ever think of that?

[@terrikaye12114]

@Carmine Testa I raised my child, giving her a good life, much love, support you could give your child, but they too can decide to leave you and never look back. Mine did, she has hurt me, beat me with her words and never gives it a thought, never looks back and shuts you out. Why you never know, you just know you did your best. Maybe he did too and it just isn’t enough for them. Society makes the rules they live by and we make the rules we live by. Sometimes the two can’t come together. Don’t blame him because you really don’t know the whole back story that brought them where they are.

[@terrikaye12114]

I dig this guy, I understand who he is. I am a lot like him. Reading all these comments some good some bad, but the bottom line is we are FREE to live and be who we choose. No one has the right to question his decisions. If that were true we would have the right to question their choices. Variety is what makes life the way it should be, we are not robots. I applaud him for living his best life even if no one gets it. There is a freedom that sets your soul free and we don’t have to be who others think we should be, and that kind of happiness is priceless. While I feel for those who are addicted to drugs or alcohol, your pain had nothing to do with who you choose to become, I was molested from 6 to 14, my mother knew and did nothing, her security was more important. But I didn’t become an addict because I found that while it hurt me in so many ways, I had to forgive him so I could forgive my mother and myself. Tragedy is just another excuse. Deke found his middle ground to be sober and while it may hurt if his kids don’t want to see it and are angry with him, he learned it is o.k. to be his self. You can’t live for others just creates more anger and drama. You have to be who you are so you can love them anyway. Best interview I have heard. Thanks everyone could learn a few things.

[@gaiamelita]

What an interesting person. This was enlightening in many ways. Great interview.

[@lemonythicket1406]

As someone who’s stuck in a job that doesn’t pay enough with a lifetime of work and stress stretching out in front of me, there’s a little bitter instinct in me to feel like he should be at least a little miserable. It’s like if he’s not trying and failing to be one of us and isn’t appropriately self-loathing, he shouldn’t be given anything. It’s a small part, and it’s not reflective of how I actually feel, but I know it’s there in my social programming and the thought disgusts me. I hate it here. I hate the way things are. If I could be like him and knew I had it in me to survive, I think I’d be much happier that way.

[@LittleMissVivacious]

Hey! I’m sorry you feel like that. I’m in a similar situation with a low paying job and thousands in unpaid bills but now I look at it much different and it feels much different. I turned to God and he showed me everything in a completely new life. Now I don’t feel stressed anymore about bills or a job that isn’t paying me appropriately. I don’t know if you believe in God or not but I hope you do get to know him. He will lift all your burdens from you and love you. I want to say a prayer for you and I know things will get better for you and I love you. 🌸

[@kurtishendrix]

i have been both homeless/jobless, and employed getting paid shit, but i can tell you which one i am more happy with. you may not make enough, but i believe if you try and just play the game and advance in the company, you will, and you will make more money. if your job doesn't have room for advancement, find another job and quit wasting your time. you just have to learn to sacrifice some things to get that advancement.

[@00poopmonster]

That's kinda weird. I've never looked at someone and thought they should be miserable for their way of life.

[@lemonythicket1406]

@@00poopmonster That’s not really what I was saying. I was describing a bias I could detect in myself, one of those things you feel like you SHOULD feel because of the examples you’ve been shown, you know? A resentment based in stereotypes, or an expectation of how things should be because of what someone else has told you and it’s the only opinion you’ve seen. A prejudice. We all have them, it’s separating them from what we actually believe that matters

[@emdr-willdavlin]

You should Live with family , live with roomates , even live in car To save as much as possible Save 10k a year after 3 years u could probably work part time forever