Drinking A Lot vs. Alcohol Addiction: Where is the Line?

Drinking A Lot vs. Alcohol Addiction: Where is the Line?
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[@gbear34]

I've always heard that if someone isn't sure whether they have an alcohol problem, all they have to do is try to stop for awhile. They'll find out real fast.

[@user-uc5sn4tp3f]

Good statement in general . But doesn't really apply here . ( Unless there's a whole lot more going here , which seems unlikely, since she's stretching as it is ) HE doesn't have a problem , or have any rational reason to question if he does . She's just over reacting as a neo puritan .

[@sookibeulah9331]

Not necessarily. Many addicts can give up for a period of time knowing they can consume their drug of choice after a date or an occurrence or some benchmark . AA even has a term for it: ‘white knuckling’ To me an addict is someone who knows deep down that their behaviour/ habit is damaging but cannot moderate, eg can they drink only one glass of wine rather than four so they don’t experience the negative consequences. Eg the ex-husband of a friend of mine can give up alcohol every January and some years even February but when he drinks he gets so drunk that he knows he has to sleep on the floor of his bathroom otherwise he’ll wet the bed. He’s certain he’s not an alcoholic because he can stop drinking for a set period but the fact that he (in his 50s) regularly drinks so much that he knows he’ll loose bladder control, yet can’t moderate his drinking once he starts, indicates (as well as other behaviours) he has a serious problem with alcohol.

[@user-uc5sn4tp3f]

Indeed ( presuming the third hand account is vaguely accurate ) you're friend's ex husband is a hard core alcoholic in extreme denial. But in this case , even the wife trying to make him look bad in this regard , makes no such accusations.

[@rekzud6010]

My dad always told me "Drink the alcohol, don't let it drink you". Something that still sticks with me.

[@cleansebob1]

The progression, in simple terms: 1. Fun 2. Fun with problems 3. Problems

[@JoeMac1983]

Sums up my 10 year battle with it 😂😂😂 Been 11 years sober, thankfully.

[@grod805]

I think this is a great question. A lot of people let their drinking get out of hand without noticing

[@troyspears6470]

Yeah and continue to make excuses and move the goal post. - If I only drink these days im not an alcoholic -if i wait until 6pm to drink im not an alcoholic

[@gabolujan3109]

Alcohol ruined my life. But I’m a few years sober.

[@rolandoflores2806]

She just has no experience with alcohol. She probably dosent know what is considered excessive and casual.

[@Eyore82]

I quit drinking back in 2014, the day i found out my wife was pregnant. Hardest thing I've ever done. I still think about it almost every day..

[@rickycastro6555]

About getting your wife pregnant? Regrets? Or you think about alcohol almost every day ?

[@Eyore82]

@@rickycastro6555 The alcohol. I used to drink every day. I quit cold turkey on 07/07/2014. And still to this day, it's always on my mind. I always loved drinking. I just love my family more.

[@rickycastro6555]

@@Eyore82 Awesome bro. I had amazing times with alcohol as well. I quit cold turkey too. Just think of it as you’re saving money. And if not having alcohol in your life reduces your chances at having fun, then your life must be dull. Plenty of other ways to stay busy, productive, or entertained, than to indulge in alcohol. Especially when you have kids. Good luck & I wish you & your family well.

[@Erica-wz8yv]

Good for you 👏 I wish my dad would’ve done that. He still drinks a lot to this day and I’m in my late 20s now.

[@kevinjackson8011]

So proud of you my friend. I have an 8 month old and would love to do the same thing. God bless

[@jadeedwards9288]

2 years sober. Best thing in the world. The “other side” is beautiful. My background is very similar to this situation and husbands. Family drinking was normal and not for us. I started drinking when I was 18 and almost ruined my life. I quit around 11 years later right before the pandemic. God. He brought me through.

[@documentariesbycategory1483]

Thank you for posting! You’re giving hope and comfort to so many others that you can’t even know. I hope for your continued success and healing.

[@cchat6262]

Wait. She said that he went from once a week to twice a week? That’s what she is worried about? Lol

[@kara2162]

I know! This call was a waste of time 😅🤣😅

[@alexlewis8143]

She is scared it's valid

[@leanne7542]

@@alexlewis8143 thank you! Those who grew up with alcohol just can’t understand where she’s coming from.

[@rebeccaanne8546]

@@alexlewis8143 shes completely sheltered its almost impossible how sheltered she is ?

[@rebeccaanne8546]

@@leanne7542 its tough to understand as a jaded angelino

[@beeezeee1783]

Kinda sounds like she just doesn’t approve of drinking and is upset her husband doesn’t feel the same.

[@patriciacole8773]

Kinda not to me

[@mrg6666]

Yup.

[@ineedhoez]

Why did he marry her then? I would never marry some one who hates the thing that I'll enjoy.

[@brittanynorris2313]

Why it’s so important to be equally yoked. She’s going to drive this poor guy crazy for having 2 drinks in the same week. Nearly crying over it.

[@ivanthemisunderstood6940]

She called in wanting JD to validate her 'fears'. She will obsess over his drinking until she alienates this 'kind, loving, supportive' man. If he quits drinking altogether she will find something else that needs fixing. In ten years they will be divorced. She will get the kids, he will be broken financially, mentally and emotionally. His old friend alcohol will still be there and she will think she was right all along. She doesn't love that guy, she loves to control and manipulate him and is willing to go outside the marriage to do it. She's T-R-O-U-B-L-E.

[@crazeekids9744]

@@ivanthemisunderstood6940 it’s just as okay for her to not want a husband who uses alcohol to cope with stress as it is for a man not to want a wife with a shopping addiction. Loving someone doesn’t mean that you are trapped into accepting all of their behaviors.

[@ivanthemisunderstood6940]

@@crazeekids9744 agreed. And seeking validation on a gigantic social media platform is a blazing red flag. She's plotting against him. I don't live under their roof, but I guarantee they both should have been more picky.

[@AllIAm1]

She would be ready to put me in rehab

[@user-vb4fb3qw9s]

Right! She seems to be very rigid and judgmental. She sounds pretty self righteous.

[@jjwrenmusic]

Why can't we just admit that alcohol is toxic to our system, no matter the amount? None of it is good. It just makes us feel good.

[@itzelr3514]

100 % AGREED ! THANK YOU ! Not that complicated, very simple answer.

[@dewilew2137]

We’ve known this for years though. The only people in denial are people who drink too much and don’t want to stop. There is no safe amount of alcohol.

[@ineedhoez]

Because we want to protect our drug supply!

[@dreylane]

Addiction impairs not just your life but also those lives around you.

[@MichelePernerBlum]

Exactly

[@cmsbeth]

Wow! This was MY life and was my question for years! The drinking seemed part of my ex's social upper tier. I should have seen it. It was well documented in every picture I saw from the past. There was a drink in his hand in every picture. Functional alcoholics are difficult to sort out. They "handle" the alcohol and they "handle" you to the point you question your concerns. I am 57yo. I wasted a good portion of my life trying to figure out how much was too much for HIM. I should have put the emphasis on how much alcohol he consumed was too much for ME.

[@dewilew2137]

Beautifully said. I’m so glad you’re no longer living in this stressful and scary situation. 💗

[@deanalbertson7203]

In my opinion, the best choice is to not drink alcohol. It avoids all sorts of problems.

[@grod805]

It has its pros and cons. I've had fun on alcohol that I don't regret. Sometimes you just have to blow off some steam. I haven't had a drink in over a month and its not like I'm desperate for one. But if I'm going to a bar then sure I'll have a drink

[@deanalbertson7203]

@@grod805 If i go to a bar, i have a Coke or cranberry juice.

[@rickycastro6555]

@@grod805 I don’t go to bars, never got the hype behind it. Paying for overpriced drinks, & watching a person just stir your drinks and put on a show so you can tip them. You can buy a bottle at the liquor store and spend the same or less.

[@Marcobroomar]

I think alcohol is adequate when it's time to make tough decisions

[@bradleymaravalli2851]

Overall, I totally agree. However, I am shocked this call is about a partner having a couple of beers a week.

[@bres9977]

What I find interesting is her husband drinking habits and his family’s drinking habits didn’t stop her from getting into a relationship with him, even though she didn’t share those same values. Now because she’s married to him, she wants to change him. It doesn’t work like that.

[@Nepthu]

Here's something that's rarely mentioned. Her husband drinks to have fun and most wives HATE it when their husband has fun without them. As a single guy, I know that when one of my friends gets married, I will rarely--if ever--see him again. Women love having girls night but for some reason, married men are often barred from a boys night.

[@SuperhumanFitness]

@@Nepthu cold hard truth. If a woman can have a girls night though, you should have a boys night regardless what she says. That’s hypocrisy if not

[@rustyshackleford7285]

Y’all are spot on. It also sounds like “everything is great, so I’m gonna start looking for problems”

[@David-fw4ly]

BreS, totally spot on with that analysis!

[@bradleymaravalli2851]

Life after the honeymoon phase.

[@sarahlockridge7879]

My dad was a functioning alcoholic. It's never okay regardless if you're safe, happy, etc. I have watched alcohol destroy lives. My dad eventually got liver cancer and died and left my mom with a ton of debt. Then the burden fell on me to take care of her rest. Alcohol is a drug. People drink to relax, escape the reality, sleep, etc. Anytime you are using something to escape your reality that is called misuse and that's called self-medicating. That's when it's time to go to a counselor, to a psychiatrist, and maybe talk about getting prescribed proper medication to deal with some of the stuff you have going on. Maybe start working out, yoga, stretching, meditation, 12-step, anything to help you not escape the reality.

[@kensmith2796]

True. Alcohol consumption is normalized. Many people are actually heavy or at-risk drinkers without realizing it. I'm not sure why anyone would think any amount of poison is okay to ingest in their body. I'm sorry you had to experience that with your parents, but glad you have better ways of coping with life than drowning it in a bottle like so many people tend to do.

[@jamessims6534]

Facts!!!

[@lal3724]

Dr John's ability to gain a birds eye view and see the bigger picture in these calls is so impressive to me. I've never heard anyone with this attitude and way of thinking talk before. I really like the way his brain works.

[@lynnebucher6537]

I was far too accepting of my now ex husband's drinking. In fact he's a functional alcoholic. Drank excessively every day, even when sick.

[@1Poiuytgfdsa1]

“I want to protect our connection, not project onto it. I want boundaries, not barriers.” Everyone needs a partner like this in life. She is so self aware and kind-hearted.

[@SolidroK22]

The problem is she has an extremely narrow view of the world and other cultures. Hopefully she and her husband can learn and grow together.

[@dewilew2137]

@@SolidroK22 no, she’s absolutely right. If alcoholism is part of your “culture”, that’s a sh*tty culture. At very least, it’s an aspect of the culture that needs to be abandoned posthaste. It sounds like you’re either struggling yourself, or you’re an enabler for someone who is struggling. I hope you’re able to get the help you need.

[@ineedhoez]

She an idiot for marrying someone who drinks.

[@miketheyunggod2534]

My drinking team has a bowling problem.

[@jasonrodgers9063]

!!! PRICELESS!!

[@melgm002]

😅

[@TessieDobey]

I made certain that I married a man that likes to drink because I certainly do!

[@krayzie5968]

what bothered me most about this whole video was when she said her husband drinks and cleans his gun, alcohol and guns should never be mixed. Her husband seems like he is just drinking casually and she doesn't like drinking.

[@nicholasmartinez6043]

The smile from Dr John after the Irish Catholic comment was funny

[@imveryhungry112]

I quit drinking about a 1.5 yrs ago. 2 dead give aways you've got a problem: 1. You go to the doctor and have some type of health issue that likely came from the alcohol. Elevated liver enzymes, high bp ETC. 2. You do not have at least 3 nights a week when you do not drink at all. If your drinking every night of the week , and your lifestyle does not permit not drinking 3 nights out of the week -- you might have a problem.

[@kg356]

Its really about how you're drinking and how much. 1 drink every night with dinner is fine. 1 night a week where you get black out drunk from 10+ drinks is a big problem.

[@imveryhungry112]

@@kg356 honestly I don't consider one drink really drinking if that makes sense. One drink is basically just tasting. By drinking I'm referring to drinking until intoxication.

[@grod805]

Can we talk about how alcohol is a coping mechanism for a lot of people? People might have other problems if they drink so they can have a moment of stress relief

[@fml5910]

Same as overeating, it's a addiction. And people who are obese have a lot of emotional problems, just like drug addicts, and alcoholics do.

[@dewilew2137]

I mean, that’s obvious, isn’t it?

[@samia6888]

Coping mechanism or not, it is very destructive when it gets out of hand. We can never use it as an excuse. We have to find better and healthier ways for stress relief. This is exactly what the alcoholic I knew said that prolonged the addiction “Alcohol stops my anxiety.”

[@et1016]

I have no idea how this poor guy tolerates this woman. 😩😩

[@xxxBradTxxx]

the alcohol, obviously

[@abark]

I've never consumed alcohol but just 15 minutes listening to this nag made me want to.

[@AIRWAY26]

@@abark Thought I was the only one. like my God shut up and get to the point. we dont need 50 extra details

[@TMichelle555]

Alcohol is one of those drugs that does sneak up on you and gets progressive pretty quick. Addiction in a simplified description is: continued use despite of growing consequences. There are ppl that can drink like 2 beers a day with out needing to get wasted but yeah if they're leaning on it to get through something i mean that's the early stage of addiction. She just sounds worried, as most women do

[@EmpressMermaid]

A good rule: if your drinking causes problems then you have a drinking problem.

[@zachbills8112]

He's not the problem here.

[@EmpressMermaid]

I was stating a general rule as to how you know whether someone has a drinking problem

[@TartarianTopG]

@@zachbills8112 neither one of them are

[@beeezeee1783]

Depends. I have extended family that are extremely against consuming alcohol and have had problems when my immediate family and I have consumed alcohol at gatherings. I don't believe this means we have a drinking problem.

[@1jesus2music3duke]

@@beeezeee1783 they have a drinking problem… thinking there’s a problem whenever someone drinks.

[@roberteskew7320]

If she pushes him on this it may end up he starts to drink more and even everyday.

[@lisabaltzer4190]

I am the daughter of an alcoholic (mother). Alcohol destroyed my childhood. At the age of 4, I vowed NEVER to take my first drink. I am now 63 and have never once tasted alcohol and never will. Unfortunately, my sibling didn’t followed the path I did and has had many problems because of it.

[@emmawilkins5755]

I really love that this show takes time to really explore issues and discuss them properly rather than rushing through and taking 10 times as many calls. Found so many topics that relate to me too! Excellent show!

[@kara2162]

Twice a week 🤣😅🤣😅 I live in Europe and everyone has 2 glasses of wine a day. She needs help.

[@et1016]

greskamp kara amen!!

[@lukescapee1234]

She definitely doesn’t need help. She’s just concerned.

[@crazeekids9744]

First of all, it’s not necessarily about the amount. You can have a dependence on alcohol even if you don’t drink every day or are not physically addicted. If alcohol has a negative impact on your life, the amount or frequency doesn’t matter . Also, this guy has alcoholism in his family, so he better be very careful.

[@doctorsmoothlove]

In the USA we had a national prohibition against drinking. There are a lot of people even 100 years later who still feel uncomfortable about drinking.

[@alexanderroberts8579]

Hey man I’m 25 and David changed my life now worth 100k from -25k. What you are doing for me is better

[@Nepthu]

John said it best: anything you can't do without is an addiction whether it's alcohol, gambling or hoarding. One problem with alcohol is that everyone thinks someone else is over-doing it, but their own consumption is reasonable. People are very judgmental about it.

[@Chihuahuauno1]

I completely disagree, anything you can’t do without is a dependency. Dependency is healthy, but once that dependency has consequences negatively, then that’s addiction!

[@bradevans3815]

She wants to control. Plain and simple.

[@benwhitnell]

If you have to ask, you’re over the line. I’d like to edit this comment after listening, I think she’s the problem here.

[@TheTrevelyansway]

Lol. Solid edit.

[@jamessims6534]

I couldn’t fool myself anymore 1-2 drinks was never enough so none became the goal✌️ 🛑!

[@kgriff087]

All of you worrywarts - you cant clean a loaded gun (because cleaning is internal, not external, and to do so properly requires disassembly...), so calm down a little bit...

[@cameronstuder7326]

Finally someone who understands guns

[@gambit3950]

She said he goes a month without drinking sometime. That means he doesn’t have a problem. I think she is the problem

[@ineedhoez]

He may not be a physical alcoholic but hes an emotional alcoholic. At the end of the day he can't control his drinking.

[@foedeer]

​@@ineedhoez he can go a month without?

[@neon_dex42]

She’s probably why he drinks. She’s the drinking problem.

[@jarvinator94]

I totally understand her with the control situation when it comes to drinking as someone who doesn't drink.

[@babe8917]

The line is if you cannot stop. So many people make it a habit to drink every day, every meal etc. if you cannot abstain even for a while I would consider that an addict.

[@senorhook2872]

Twice a week? Coming from an Irish background, this is normal lol. Having a low calorie beverage or two a week is fairly healthy imo. But, to these religious gospel obsessors imay be completely wrong

[@lightheart2183]

Jeez I had an ex who drank every day. Drinking twice a week isn't excessive.

[@rickdeckard4735]

Jeez I knew someone who shot themselves in the head. Shooting yourself in the foot isn't excessive.

[@unnamedchannel1237]

Twice a week is nothing ….

[@kg356]

Twice a week can be very bad if they are drinking to blackout or if they are a mean drunk. Some people shouldn't drink at all. I do agree with Deloney though - given what she described it doesn't sound like he's an alcoholic, he just really likes to drink. The fact that he's able to moderate his drinking when she brings it up suggests he still has significant control over it.

[@dewilew2137]

You can’t be this shortsighted... 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@justme87999]

@@rickdeckard4735 nice whataboutism

[@amatisea]

I could relate so much to this caller. My husband drinks 3-6 nights a week and it's just gotten worst over the past few years. We have different views alcohol, to me its a social/celebration drink and to him he has seen friends drinks much more to him every night of the week so he thinks it's OK. He has changed his behaviour a bit after talking to him, and does drink less so he stays awake and not get to his agrumentive state now. But it has tainted my view on Alcohol and I no longer want to drink it myself. But I do think I need to get out of his head. My biggest concerns are the affects on the household budget and even more concerning his overall health.

[@tjj5337]

Don’t compare going to the gym to booze. Going the gym doesn’t impair your thinking skills. Drunk driving kills innocent people.

[@Michael-4]

'Bring me to the apex here.' I must remember that one.

[@thilgu]

It is fascinating how different parts of the world look on Alcohol. I am from Europe and wine and beer is part of the social fabric throughout.

[@darylmiller8911]

If she approaches via a position of caring not judging or making it about her. She might have a chance to get her message through.

[@bellaw.8630]

Dr. J did a great job on this call. Thank you for your insight!

[@RaineyPowerTraining]

Good discussion John.

[@sallyb8096]

He handled this call so well. Good advice, good call. Wish them the best.

[@Judi4Him4Ever]

Great explanation of the difference between alcoholism and addiction. The tragic thing is how easy it is to slowly slide from occasional social drinker to alcoholism to addiction. And once you hit addiction, the result is always the same. Destruction of your own life and of many others’. But you’re so blinded by then, you often can’t see how you’ve destroyed others or even yourself.

[@mplslawnguy3389]

I had to stop listening 3 minutes in. Get to the point. Why did you marry a drinker in the first place if you're this neurotic about it. Even if he didn't drink, I get the feeling she would be like this with something else.

[@rogermarr9067]

Oh God this is a episode I need to listen to... I've only discovered Ramsey and you my good sir a little bit ago and I have been going through your KZbin channels and I have to say that I like you so much because you talk about more than just financial and that is where I need some help especially with a topic like this call

[@zach2993]

If I lived with a woman that rambles on as much as she does I would be drinking quite a bit

[@itzelr3514]

Lol

[@joycewright5386]

Same here and I’m a woman! My husband always says “2 sentences or less!”

[@unnamedchannel1237]

@@joycewright5386 seems a bit overkill. A few words normally does the trick for me. “Food now” “work soon” “ cutting grass” “who farted”

[@l-train7876]

Dr. John handled this masterfully.

[@iammohumed4099]

John truly well said.

[@Longjohnsilver58]

I agree with this post. I have known people who are physically addicted to alcohol. It destroys their lives, they cannot control it, and quitting would mean withdrawal symptoms because they are physically addicted. I have also known people who drink a lot but are not physically addicted. Generally they drink a lot to self-medicate for some other problem, and so it is difficult to say if the issue is the alcohol or the underlying problem. So how do you know the difference? The only way to tell is the withdrawal symptoms. If someone can stop cold turkey, then they are not physically addicted to alcohol and branding such people as alcoholics actually hurts true alcoholics who cannot and should not stop with out help.

[@dewilew2137]

The issue is the alcohol and the underlying problem. Both need to be addressed. Just like with any other addiction. You can still be a problem drinker and not experience withdrawal. It’s actually dangerous to set withdrawal symptoms as the hallmark of addiction. It enables drinkers who don’t become ill upon cessation to continue drinking and deny that they have a problem. “Well I don’t get sick when I stop, so I’m fine!” Then one day they wake up in a cold sweat, trembling and nearly choking on their own vomit, and they never knew what hit them. It’s a dangerous road to go down.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

@@dewilew2137 this!!! My mother is this! I call her a binge alcoholic coz she can stay dry for a while (see I haven’t got a problem, its just for fun, to relax, my treat, all the excuses) then get blasted and she has done this my entire life! no matter how many times I begged her as a teen and she swore she’d stop! Even when she got a stomach ulcer on 3 separate occasions. She cannot and will not live without it! Or address any of her issues (coz there nothing wrong with her apparently) If a doctor told her one more drink and you’ll drop dead! You’d find her a week later stone dead with a glass in her hand!

[@jenniferwood8944]

Great answer and insight!

[@1jesus2music3duke]

Damn, this was handled expertly by Dr. John. So deft, so nuanced.

[@bobbiemichaelsNyc86]

Great point. So much wisdom in this.

[@maukasara808]

When your life becomes unreasonable as a result of Alcohol. This has always been my definition.

[@betruetoyourself7162]

Wow she should monitor his sugar and salt intake too! Sounds very controlling. Also sleep and nutrition is very important, she needs to monitor that too if she needs to have him perfect. Or divorce already.

[@ineedhoez]

You're being funny but I would absolutely leave some one if they did not take care of their health.

[@Mike_503]

@@ineedhoezfor better or for worse. Do you people just say these vows without meaning or understanding them?

[@1998Disturbed]

This lady would drive me crazy

[@sharondunn6513]

daughter of an alcoholic here. If the drinking is a problem, there will be other problems too( avoidance, violence, disconnection, relationship problems) . I feel like this woman is trying to find a problem that isn't there.

[@greeneyedmonster7806]

I use to have a different opinion about alcohol. It changed when I saw my dil drunk and passed out at 11 a.m. watching my grandchildren. Never again will these kids be around it. All I ever knew were functioning alcoholics.

[@jamyengland8895]

On May 27, 2022 I am 6 months sober. I feel great and working the 12 steps.

[@fancynancy2888]

Congratulations 👏 keep going!

[@Zanonymous___]

Keep it up! Jesus loves you!

[@jessicalopez9653]

Thank you for this video

[@calvinatdrifterstudio8438]

I think a lot of people will drink excessively when they have a combination of boredome, habit, and ignorance about the health consequences.

[@synchronicity458]

This broad sounds insane. Her man has a drink and she's in tears. Run bro

[@olivertrumanjr9556]

You can definitely drink too much and not be an alcoholic. It baffles me how much people refuse to see nuance.

[@jamieolivarez9083]

Some people can’t handle their alcohol and shouldn’t drink. Others have a higher tolerance and are able to metabolize it and also just use the substance for a way to relax and release stress. She just sounds like she has a control issue like she said. She wants him to be something he’s NOT. If she’s not careful she will cause more problems then it’s worth.

[@simonedb3146]

It's not about how often or how much you drink, but WHY.

[@ineedhoez]

It doesn't matter.

[@l-train7876]

Omg she’s calling about him drinking twice a week??😵‍💫

[@jasonrodgers9063]

"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."- Benjamin Franklin

[@jasonrodgers9063]

"My husband is Irish Catholic." Cha- CHING! What is the difference between an Irish wedding and an Irish funeral? ONE LESS DRUNK!

[@bradleymaravalli2851]

The drinking went from "...once a week, and now it's twice a week. And it went from two to three." It sounds like your husband is dealing with something given his increase in alcohol consumption. But no, he is not an alcoholic.

[@NateIcke]

Its her

[@Mexicobeanpole]

Agree.

[@alexdawson611]

Who wouldn't desire to be resilient and looking new? Certainly, drinking is a great way to unwind and not something which everyone should cut 100% from their lifestyle, but, in Steffon Barkload's homepagw there's an approach that pretty much forces your head to repulse alcohol by simply thinking of it.

[@tryan7]

I have a close relative that I wonder about this issue. I think the later is true. They deny any problem that others can plainly see. Time will tell. I tried my best.

[@andrewmiller6780]

The best liquid you can drink is straight water and eat fruit and vegetables on the side for vitamins etc. with necessary proteins and everything but water is always better than alcohol. I don’t drink myself never have and probably won’t ever start very good decision and I recommend against ever starting to drink alcohol.

[@Casinogirl56]

I'm guessing he had the occasional drink.when they got married....the time to say something was BEFORE the marriage. She sounds prissy and controlling to me.

[@USpatriot741776]

This guy drinks when he cleans his guns? Bad call.

[@ineedhoez]

It doesn't matter. Alcoholic means different things to people. My doctor said that 1 drink a day for women and two for men was an acceptable and responsible amount to consume. Once I understood that anything beyond that was alcohol misuse and/or abuse, then I could see my behavior for what it was. I wasn't an "alcoholic" but I damn sure misused alcohol!!! 7 drinks on a good night! Not every night but on the weekends? For sure! Turn up! Shots and a beer! It was fun. I still made it to work. I didn't drink and drive. No drama. No fights. I just abused the hell out of the substance. After a while my health started to crumble. I quit. Never going back.

[@MrSmcara]

"Bring it down to the apex." aka "Get to the point!" 😂

[@justme87999]

Drinking a bit on Saturday and Sunday really isn't a big deal. Having your whole life revolve around it is. She seems like a bit too much.

[@John_Szwed]

It’s a cover for larger emotional disorders

[@johncoviello8570]

I don’t agree with how Dr. John answered her question. She didn’t describe his drinking as an occasional thing that he does with friends. What she said is that he started drinking a little bit and over time she noticed he was drinking a lot more and more days during the week. That’s certainly somebody who’s on the slippery slope to alcoholism. Dr. John tried to write it off as her being overly concerned or having a strict anti-alcohol point of you that she wasn’t addressing with her husband. Poor advice there.

[@MsLucky443]

Casual drinking is different than an addiction.

[@lollnr3447]

Yes.

[@leviticuscornwall9631]

Geez, I drink about a 6 pack a night, this lady would hate me lol

[@xhaltsalute]

Be careful.

[@fiendga]

This is me too

[@debbiekoenig7376]

Wow, the studio has come a long way from the gray room he's in now!

[@jamesssss621]

It is not the frequency of the drink but rather what happens when you do drink.

[@Mike_503]

Yup until you get cirrhosis

[@jamesssss621]

@@Mike_503 You missed the point entirely.

[@Nostradevus1]

My initial reaction: If you have to ask you probably are on the wrong side of it.

[@bobsagget9212]

I don't trust people who don't drink. I respect someone who won't, but I don't trust "don't"

[@BSCTrainerRob]

When your life starts to become unmanageable is the answer

[@Henrysmith537]

This video is for the boys. I’m showing this to my wife

[@johnlewis195]

my husband died of alcoholism Trust me they will get help if they want it

[@LogeySmalls]

Sounds to me like these people should’ve never gotten married in the first place considering they had that big of a difference in values. If you can’t accept someone for who he or she is, don’t marry that person.

[@bres9977]

Exactly. If you’re willing to overlook their flaws then, don’t be surprised when they manifest later.

[@grod805]

This isn't huge! He's not even an alcoholic

[@teeduck]

She accepted one drink a week, two she can’t handle.

[@crazeekids9744]

@@teeduck you have obviously never dealt with someone who is alcohol dependent. Her concern is that this is the beginning of a pattern that will continue to get worse, which will inevitably happen if the person does not learn new coping skills.

[@ineedhoez]

Amen! She was stupid for marrying someone who drinks alcohol when she doesn't. And he was stupid for marrying someone who hates alcohol when he loves it.

[@Picca65]

Is it bad coping or is it just a drink every now and then? Big difference. Couple of drinks a week should be fine. Deal wih it girl!

[@nw8000]

Christ! she can go on cant she? So what was the answer because I can sit through it all