How To Master Your Emotions - Dr Julie

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WHO AM I:
I'm a clinical psychologist. I am here to share insights from therapy and psychology research so that you can make use of it in your daily life to understand how your mind works and optimise your own mental health. I cover all things from confidence and motivation to mood and anxiety. I look forward to chatting with you in the comments.

[@DrJulie]

Hi I'm Dr. Julie subscribe & follow me for lots more videos on mental health and psychology. For more on this see my new no.1 bestselling book - Why has nobody told me this before? 👉 @t

[@Rip_ZoroxGaming]

Hi can you tell me how to not pressure myself because of my grades

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I wonder if you could help me

[@B.Alance1st]

Your approach to therapy is really amazing..accessible..smooth and so easy to take in..unique

[@hrishikakoirala6746]

Name plz of book

[@artiaslari5594]

Thats what im strugle right now😞 i need to escape i think im drowing 😢 help me my GOD help me

[@btsfangirl6132]

Everyone listen what she is saying Le me :watching the water change its color from black to clear

[@jbear4691]

same there is just something about it that makes you want to watch it over and over

[@juanpablosarmiento4448]

Same I saw the video twice 😂😂😂😂😗✌

[@Ykitzzoe]

Omg same.

[@levex_13]

Same

[@lazy_bubbles]

Same

[@angelamoreno5914]

Your voice is sooo calming. It really pulls me in to listen and relax. I’m so glad I found your channel 🙏🏽😊

[@aasiyahzahoor9902]

*First i listened to her words then i focused on water to understand her...* *She's right but we all have our own definitions and experiences regarding everything 😇*

[@danimoore4849]

What I've learned is you will never escape sadness and disapointment

[@demireyes]

This is such a good way to think about it. I love your videos thank you so much ❤

[@ffrreeddyy123456]

I want my environment to look like the background. I am struggling to clean and organize cuz my support is not listening and helping but instead upset and taking it out on me that I’m trying to work this out. Instead of accepting their feelings and getting over it and working on the goal I have or acknowledging that they don’t want to and to let me work with them that way. I can’t shower or get dressed to get things done let alone sleep to wake up to shower and get things done to be able to sleep easier or sooner so I can fix things slowly and let it go that my housemates aren’t helping me. It’s just hard to be left alone and accepted when they always make it emotional that you’re being emotional by talking about your stuff or their stuff when you bring up yourself so they don’t seem to see your stuff then and just feel emotionally overwhelmed to the point that they are blind to their actions enough to not listen to me out my stuff aside. Ask to be heard and then let me talk to them about their stuff in the ways I talk about it, or at least let me work on being humble and talking about it the way they want me to cuz I am just asking the same thing.

[@Honu17]

I love this

[@sunilwadghule7567]

good description

[@sofiamasin851]

Il having a VERY hard time as a teenager and I my best friend keep hurting and hurting my feelings more and more I don’t feel myself anymore I really need one of your answers please. I love your videos ❤❤

[@ameliacifuentes7446]

Dr Julie what can I Do if people tell me to be something im not like saying "stop acting childish" or "stop acting so grown up" and I feel the presure to meet their expectaions?

[@imn11thug]

👏🏾👏🏾 & You are so cute!! 😊

[@unravel2053]

But what if you have struggled to survive for years already in therapy. Fled from DA, alone, like alone alone, fighting 2 men with solicitors which I cant ignore. Ive not had a break and im drowning. So I dont know what to do

[@lopamudraagrawal9069]

For a girl who's from a small town in India having little reach to mental health facilities, your videos have been a savior for me in many ways. Thankyou ❤

[@demireyes]

❤

[@AshrekaKuku]

You are not alone. I am in the same situation in Ethiopia

[@preetione357]

Hope you are well ❤

[@MajidahMateen-xd9rx]

❤️💕❤️

[@Daisiesluv-pn1ik]

I work in a hospital , still i dont go to a psychiatrist for a subtle reason

[@O-scar]

I was so focused I didn't even see the water changes back to clear

[@eggs1182]

The trust we have in her

[@7srodan845]

Same

[@moondragon6193]

Same

[@Pompom._.]

same

[@th.rave919]

Yea lol

[@nobody2687]

“Life is like a piano. The white keys represent happiness and the black keys show sadness. But as you go through life’s journey, remember that the black keys make music to…” -someone

[@salyschweber3858]

❤

[@greenjewel509]

❤

[@yizzynightingale138]

I really love what you said! I can see what you are seeing!! So cool!!☺💛🌻🦋

[@sofiadelcielo]

And, to add to that, there are more white keys than black keys 😊

[@sofiadelcielo]

God bless you ❤

[@mahasalemi]

“Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone” -Alan Watts

[@N.Valentine]

Or by growing Lotuses

[@目は心の鏡]

Haha my comment referenced Watts too. I think he fixed the algorithm or something.

[@Lalaland-nt6cm]

Wow thanks for the quote!

[@HisaLight2mypath]

How?

[@carolinathevampireprincess]

Alan Watts is an amazing man he gives best talks, and quotes.

[@jananidissanayake8589]

Love how the water got clearer in sync with her words ❤️

[@shivangi3030]

Yeah so in sync

[@authoisaify]

Wow I didn't even noticed it beforehand

[@trduo3793]

Ikr

[@philipalexander2075]

Wow same here!

[@ThisIsJustTheBeginning33]

She's a professional ☺️

[@elainechan7155]

What is this magical water? I feel more calm now

[@julianegohs7603]

Its probably disappearing ink

[@sherryroberts1821]

You’re missing the whole point of what she’s saying. The water is an example of how people think. It has nothing to do with the actual water.

[@christian_dsmp2939]

I want it :) it looks like it would be calming

[@sherryroberts1821]

@@georgia_on_paws and so what, I didn’t realize you were the comment police. I can write a whole if you prefer.

[@natalia1738]

​@@christian_dsmp2939 I

[@miajoy_x]

i’m only a normal 11 year old watching youtube making my own videos but watching your videos really help me because i don’t have the best mental health at the moment 🐻💗☁️

[@DavidJohnson-no4pu]

That was brave to share, please be courageous and don’t keep those feelings to yourself find someone to express yourself to and display your raw feelings. Took me 36 years to learn that. Find peace through knowing you’re already perfect :) you’re ok! There are millions here just like you. Find just 1~ don’t do what I did, I ran from the person I was thinking I would be ok once I became this or had that or did what someone else expected. I was already worthy before the chase to become worthy

[@DavidJohnson-no4pu]

That was brave to share, please be courageous and don’t keep those feelings to yourself find someone to express yourself to and display your raw feelings. Took me 36 years to learn that. Find peace through knowing you’re already perfect :) you’re ok! There are millions here just like you. Find just 1~ don’t do what I did, I ran from the person I was thinking I would be ok once I became this or had that or did what someone else expected. I was already worthy before the chase to become worthy

[@DavidJohnson-no4pu]

That was brave to share, please be courageous and don’t keep those feelings to yourself find someone to express yourself to and display your raw feelings. Took me 36 years to learn that. Find peace through knowing you’re already perfect :) you’re ok! There are millions here just like you. Find just 1~ don’t do what I did, I ran from the person I was thinking I would be ok once I became this or had that or did what someone else expected. I was already worthy before the chase to become worthy

[@DavidJohnson-no4pu]

That was brave to share, please be courageous and don’t keep those feelings to yourself find someone to express yourself to and display your raw feelings. Took me 36 years to learn that. Find peace through knowing you’re already perfect :) you’re ok! There are millions here just like you. Find just 1~ don’t do what I did, I ran from the person I was thinking I would be ok once I became this or had that or did what someone else expected. I was already worthy before the chase to become worthy

[@SA-px3ln]

@@DavidJohnson-no4puhow did u do it

[@muneebkhan4299]

Oh my God u are the best psychologist I'm learning a lot from you don't need a motivational speaker or something like motivation thank you for the service

[@dadandson6482]

I know right

[@brooke5962]

Ikr!!

[@yoonniemin6438]

And the metaphors and visual examples she makes are so spot on!

[@Judie_x]

Sameee

[@_sth1t4_]

Who else want Julie to be your therapist 💝 👇

[@carolineprice4579]

Me!

[@wolfwings1693]

Yes!

[@emilymiles768]

me

[@barbieroberts9897]

Me !

[@Lol98-wk18]

Honestly i want anyone to be my therapist 😭 only if we had one of those in my hometown :(

[@rainbowthunder1128]

Thank you so much! "The ink is not the water," helps me put my anxiety and my irrational fears into perspective. I will get through these awful thoughts and feelings because they are not me nor my real situation!

[@marlena436]

You always seen to know what i need to hear...

[@laughter8189]

Awww sending you hugs 🤗

[@stephirothermy9938]

God knows what we need to hear & communicates it to us right on time. With me it’s usually music but sometimes a sermon or videos or books. If you listen, you will hear Him speaking to you the way He does for me

[@sweetakhadgi8077]

I wish i had a therapist like you

[@anjalimanojverma4529]

You have. You just don't know She's there You just don't think With her You don't need anyone Just wait for her next counseling session

[@annaisis7510]

They're hard to find

[@i-eat-leaf-mold]

I have PTSD and my s/o is constantly having to help me with my meltdowns almost daily but this channel has helped me feel not so alone

[@Rosey_Squirrel]

It's nice you have someone there willing to help you. I was right there going through them getting triggered over having my ex back in my life. I have PTSD from him. It's been months now and I hardly get triggered. I'm starting to separate the past from the now but I still see how this won't work. Hang in there. Keep working through your problems. One day you'll be out the other side and ready to tackle the world again. ❤

[@samanthamcmillan3044]

Best thing I learnt was when panic sets in, go to the freezer if you are somewhere with one and hold ice until it melts or until you calm down. You may go through multiple ice cubes but keep going, it will calm your body down

[@izzythecow]

You are my digital therapist. Thank you for making me feel better about myself and understand myself. Thank you for helping people like this.

[@SwankDiesel]

Amen to that ! I literally just released a Music video pertaining to a lot of mental traumas and calling all the ones who have felt the same or similar to resonate and find some solitude that we’re not alone

[@polythoma2950]

The emotions is not *you*!!🤔🥰

[@wardahshahid2758]

when she said welcome your emotion: i was like, "o dear baby you are a a part of me": and she said that emotions is not you : okay, what should i say now then i said "you are not mine but then i'll help you" :))

[@ellamariefarrelly5639]

I just discovered you a few days ago and I’m thinking “girll, where were you all this time?!!!” Your tips and facts and the way you explain things are so helpful. Thank you so much. My anxiety has messed my stomach up, you have no idea. I’m having waves of nausea and constant trapped wind in my stomach and the doctors told me it’s anxiety that’s caused all of this.

[@blacktangalaxy]

SAME !

[@Kmhthepainter]

Girl, I’ve been there! Trust me, start doing EFT tapping every morning and evening. Do the one for Gas, eat small and healthy filling protein packed meals, start meditating in the mornings even for 5 minutes, make a chart of positive affirmations and read them daily in the morning to set the tone for the day! Start a gratitude journal and BELIEVE YOU ME, you will start feeling better in No TIME! So sorry you have to go through all of this and feeling NAUSEATED SUCKS- I HATE IT! Always remember you won’t be like that forever and EFT WORKS WONDERS along side all of the others x Take care and sending you good vibes 😎

[@ellamariefarrelly5639]

@@Kmhthepainter you’re so sweet, thank you so so much! I will defo look into EFT and read up about it. I used to meditate all the time and stopped. I have nooo clue why I stopped, but I will try to do it again, because it is helpful. Thanks so much for your tips 😄

[@Kmhthepainter]

@@ellamariefarrelly5639 You’re most welcome and I deeply feel you since I’ve been through something similar, my doctor, therapist, family and health coach have definitely helped me and I got better very quickly 💕 Yes EFT IS MIRACULOUS 😎 YOU GOT THIS 💪

[@ellamariefarrelly5639]

@@Kmhthepainter so glad you’re better! Thanks again 😀😀😀

[@meg3428]

Thank You Lord for brining me to this page! Dr. Julie, God is using you mightily in my life. I am at a point where I am accepting the idea of therapy for myself. Even though I support for others I have needed to accept it for myself. God forgive me for being hypocritical. Sometimes (more often than not) it’s easier to support others than it is ourselves. God bless you all!

[@mondler1366]

Your voice makes me calm ✨

[@laughter8189]

Feeling it , process it , writing ✍️ about it . Remember to tell yourself you are ok ! It’s ok to feel it and let it take its course 🙌 because you’ll come out stronger and eventually understand why you were having those emotions ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ love this ❤️❤️❤️

[@brittywhite]

Thank you for this.

[@MajidahMateen-xd9rx]

Thank you for posting a beautiful and encouraging and inspirational comment❤️💕❤️

[@Goldenheart2911]

Feel it all. It's so important to be able to keep moving forward.💛 Such a great clip🙏

[@Isabella4evr369]

That speech was perfectly timed with the water color change

[@louis6837]

Tysm!!! I’ve been in therapy for years and there’s this belief that a therapist “fixes you” when they really just teach you how to manage your emotions and cope with the parts of yourself that you don’t like or understand. They’re also just really great to vent to and help you realize when you’re being manipulated. (Great for me bc I have an extra hard time telling bc my inability to read certain social cues due to my autism)

[@shoot4themoon406]

"The ink is NOT the water." I love it! Great analogy and calming reminder/mantra to repeat during anxious times. 😑

[@DrJulie]

Thank you 😊

[@roosterparrottjuniour]

​@@DrJulieso like do all humans have emotions

[@andrewdegeorge9649]

"There is no spoon"

[@wardahshahid2758]

yes i agree, coz we may think that we are this or that, like when anger hits us and we do not settle it by giving time so we do act bad and then also think that we are bad.

[@ana419]

​@@roosterparrottjuniourWhat you are asking is an emotion: indifference, denial or disdain.

[@turquoiseheart03]

I had this therapist wasn’t officially licensed yet I was still her patient in 2023 ugh waste of money and time. This video was the actual help I needed

[@celina8362]

That thought helps a lot!

[@jiemaixu]

She is spot on. I drilled through everything she is talking about, from my childhood up through my (at that time) failing marriage. It took many years, but it made me whole ❤

[@MajidahMateen-xd9rx]

Congratulations on your successful healing journey ❤️💕❤️ I am in my healing journey 🙏🙌❤️

[@justjrjyall]

Thank you so much for clearing things im going through up. I need them so much these days.

[@GiaBalntas-f3n]

What does this apply really apply to? I’m a 13 year-old girl who’s been dealing with anxiety for a long time now, but it doesn’t just go away. I still feel anxious, I let it be there, but have not spoken one word to my peers at dance. I’ve been dancing since I was 8. Even with depression, you don’t feel lighter after a month of having it. I know what you mean and it makes total sense. I give people the his advice myself. But i don’t know why mine won’t cure. Maybe anxiety is one of the different ones. Thanks Dr. Julie.

[@gracebailey3750]

This is very true. I have very bad anxiety, and when I started to go to a counselor, this is exactly what she taught me! And is still teaching me!

[@DesireeClareDill85]

But what if it has been 6 months and the emotion will not go away? And all you want is for it to be gone 🤷. I'm in a no-contact divorce right now from my husband of 8 years who was a narcissist. Therapy is not helping. How can I just become non-reactive and not think of it ever? Because that is how I want it to be.

[@МаксимМолаков]

I was feeling overwhelmed. Having watched it i’m so relaxed🌸✨ Is it Julie being so charming or what? Well, I don’t know I ordered the book and I just am dying to read it. If i feel so great after a small video, what would i feel having read the book?!!🤗

[@samruddhibarai4334]

Whatever you said, calmed me down within a minute.

[@prabhnoorpannu7361]

I want to know what she added in the water. I want to try it and show it to my friends. 🤭 Distracted by the water. #ADHD. 😂😂

[@nami-493]

I don't know what's my problem is... What do you think I should do ? I can't able to speak with anyone, can't able to stay in public, can't do anything, all I do is sleeping for hours ...

[@heyu123]

You’re not just a psychologist you’re a magician

[@BrnWil333]

Hi Dr Julie, I've been taking the Bach Flower Remedies for the emotions. Is this a natural course? 😊

[@RhondaR4]

This is the TRUTH! GOD IS ALWAYS ON TIME! I am currently working on my emotions! I’ve acted on my emotions and I’m just learning and growing through theme! Thank you, Dr. Julie! You’re an angel from GOD!🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️🌟🌻

[@amug3536]

Please get a grip on yourself. I m learning that still. Take care God Bless you

[@RayEmureMusic]

I needed this today 😢😢😢❤❤❤ I've been having one traumatic event after the other. Yet some things in my life look great. It's all emotionally stress related and I acknowledge that 🙏🏼😍

[@charliecowan9041]

Thank you, my camhs worker recommended you

[@rabahboudjemai1135]

Your words have positive energy making ink go away from a lot of people following you on internet. Please Continue saving people submerged under their negative emotions.

[@quaniefoodie]

This made me cry because it’s really helping me understand that life is gonna to change overtime and you have to allow your thoughts to process because then they will cause traffic and cause a heavy storm against you that’s going to make you feel extremely miserable.

[@ilovetosingx3670]

I been listening to therapy music 🎵 so I been healing myself a lot & I love ❤️ God & Jesus & I trust my intuition & my discernment ! , - Kim 👩🙏❤️😇

[@arunprakash6965]

Brilliantly explained... You're one of the psychologists who take patient's mental health seriously rather having to intimidate them with superior knowledge! 😍👏

[@Yourhighnessnona]

I was waiting for her to bring out the fish

[@xirisx1988]

Never crossed my mind that I'm at the start of this process again mentally after so many years of relativly stable mental health.

[@konjetibhagyasree1328]

Mam I don't know whether you read it or not! But I want to say this.. I become very emotional when someone hurts me with words I can't control my tears and I hate to cry in front of everyone who never really cares .whenever someone make me feel disrespected or ignored I avoid them eventually. Why am I doing this? Am I not worthy?

[@nafisaehsan6121]

this was really helpful for me 😭😭💕

[@cr-mf3wl]

Oh, I love your accent, immediately subscribed even not being so interested in psychology😄

[@ShotoTodoroki38491]

You help me so much im gratful you mae these videos 🤗

[@cat_spotter]

You are such a great person

[@TheMingCookie]

my mom doesent care if i cry iv been crying everyday and im 11 my whole family doesent care if i cry my 1st brother told me stop being so dramatic and my 2nd brother told me my face is so anoying when i cry and my parents dont care my dad just gets angery when i cry and my mum justs tells me to do work then comforts me and i hate people who cant understand my chest hurts so badly when ever i cry i question my religion but people just tell me im too young for my age do know and feel this i just want someone who understands.

[@aronkahn]

You are wonderful!!!

[@guywholikes2startawar]

I visited a many therapist and monks and I don't really agree with most therapist, they say it's mental illness and they get emotional acting petty when I correct them 😒

[@muhammadbilal954]

When beauty and mind come together then psychology works for good

[@TheBeesies]

But I don't want the emotion to go away. I loved my cat and she deserves all the grief I have. I just don't want it to hurt so bad. I want to be able to sleep again without crying because I can't stop thinking of her. In the day there are distractions, but at night I'm alone with my thoughts and they hurt so bad. All I want is to see her one last time.

[@jaiden_dance.2008]

I blame the false narrative of "you can control your feels, just move on, forget about it and be happy"

[@MajidahMateen-xd9rx]

Feel it to heal it ❤️💕❤️

[@hooman-y4j]

Can you do a video on how to reduce anger. I'm a short tempered person and also I'm afraid that it gets me in trouble🙃

[@tipstops5306]

I don't know but she is the the most beautiful women in the world for me❤

[@emey444]

This is why meditation is soooo important and helpful.... because you are very aware of your thoughts and emotions. Definitely learn how to control your emotions

[@Soaksbdb]

On the very last day of school last year that evening something struck me, something so hard that it stuck with me for a month. But then I kinda let it sit there next me and forgot about I still think about it time to time but not like the first days where it ruined my life

[@JohnKnightYella]

This is such a good message - one I need to hear frequently to remind me that I shouldn't be hiding from these emotions or trying to puish them away but to acknowledge them and process them. Thank you so much @DrJulie

[@RichardLim814]

What if a person has autism, because I just think that I do... And is it impossible to get rid off autism?

[@jollyyim]

Do you mean, to face , to accept, to overcome emotional hits?

[@Suzzannecurran1319]

You made me feel better thank you ❤

[@oluwanifemikim1996]

Me listening and also watching how the color changes back

[@bomageraldeli1356]

The illustration is just a perfect match with her explanation

[@baysbasketball]

How do I ask for help if I’m stressed and nervous to ask ? X

[@whybhavi]

Thx i hope i remember your advice if i ever got in such a situation

[@MostPowerfulPMofIndia]

Amazing edit of the water color Please tell us how you did it

[@kronos9301]

You are not your thoughts

[@anzaforbes8819]

This is so true. I discovered Dr. Julie through the calm app and I’m currently doing her build habits that actually stick series 😊💜

[@hi-gg7ni]

Me who sees dat I have it: it ain't calm about being here

[@Vighnesh-k9w]

Maam i am facing heavy emotion so what to do

[@likhayr-iin-shaa-Allah]

I love to hear your words every now and then, I love the way I'm always about to cry in the middle of the way, but I know I'm getting better.

[@annakolla8777]

Very good description. Also you’re voice is so calming and soothing and you’re looking extra beautiful in this video ❤️

[@hi-yo1kq]

There are 2 types of people watching this video: The ones who watched the water change color and have no clue what she said and had to watch twice And the ones who were listening and only noticed the water change at the end and had to watch twice

[@olivialovesdesign]

Or the ones who realised the analogy was disappointingly crap and pointless and didn’t offer a true resolution and that realistically that ink would never just totally disappear from the water so the analogy and physical play out of it - was a failure. Which is sad as I’ve just subscribed recently and REALLY love her and REALLY look forward to watching her and learning from her

[@sanostudies8734]

The ink is not the water and the emotion is not you

[@trwn87]

This is sooo amazing!!!

[@gbaca07]

Look up Parental Alienation New Mexico Baca story

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Thank you for making this video

[@trduo3793]

Bruh all that headache for nothing ;-;

[@chandusingh5895]

Hyy Can you solve one of my problem Please

[@estrelladowling5587]

Grateful for your wisdom.

[@rakelpeneyambeko]

Impressive analogy.

[@T0NK]

This is so relatable

[@Ayden-ub3pv]

Last like for 147k likes 😊😊😊