Antisocial Personality Disorder vs. Psychopathy - Close But Not The Same

[@clascaulfieldjr3653]

A good way to remember the 3 clusters are the Weird the Wild and the Worried

[@DrTraceyMarks]

😃 I like that

[@philcanselmo9436]

@@DrTraceyMarks having impulsive urges to hurt people for no reason is a aspd trait right?

[@juanpedro4083]

I found out that I am gay. I am so happy now.

[@bunsenn5064]

@@philcanselmo9436 Aspd is less a matter of the urges and more of a matter of not seeing a reason to resist them.

[@Michaela3793]

.... what's normal

[@Dan-ud8hz]

“If all you had ever felt toward another person were the cold wish to “win,” how would you understand the meaning of love, of friendship, of caring? You would not understand. You would simply go on dominating, and denying, and feeling superior. Perhaps you would experience a little emptiness sometimes, a remote sense of dissatisfaction, but that is all.” ― Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door "You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him." ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

[@Pandagurl218]

Currently exploring the diagnoses of CD for one of my children. That in a whole of what Martha said describes them perfectly. They feel so empty they hoard items to fill the void. It is extremely hard

[@prayingtogodforakitten7932]

Oof

[@konyvnyelv.]

nobody is forced to like ppl. If sociopaths love feeling superior they can do it

[@perfectfan2006]

agreed .. they can not be fixed only DE weaponized contained

[@perfectfan2006]

@@konyvnyelv. a feeling dont destroy every life contacted apd will you either have to run or run them off

[@anthonymcdougal7829]

As someone with aspd, I will say not everything she says is going to fit into every aspd persons life. I do not harm people physically, never even think about it. Although I do manipulate, normally not even on purpose and when I realize, I just drop them from my life. It’s truly not easy dealing with life this way but certainly we can find ways to cope with things better and be more self aware. Anyone suffering, never give up on yourself. Research a lot!

[@birdlover6842]

Amen to that!

[@LDT7Y]

Do you ever apologise to people you hurt, even years later?

[@donr123]

That’s because you have free will. You talk about your actions like you have absolutely no control over them. You are responsible for your actions, not your disorder.

[@bliss4383]

@@LDT7Y His post was made 4 months ago, yours 1 month ago. But even if it were made on the same day, he wouldn’t reply because accountability is not his thing. Irresponsibility is. More than likely when “he realized” he was manipulative, it was because someone else told him so. He is not SELF aware, and rather than be held accountable, he just drops them out of his life. A lack of accountability means he doesn’t want to be responsible, thus he’s irresponsible. And that is also one on the traits on the Hare Psychopathic Checklist. For someone to say they’re sorry is to admit their wrongdoing, thus be responsible for it….own it….account for it. Ain’t gonna happen, thus you and your question have been dumped like a dropped call, just like he’s always done. It’s his Motis Operandi. Make sense?

[@eslut]

@@bliss4383 No one with aspd respects Hare's list, nor the man himself.

[@ddee5573]

Sometimes I think the mainstream definition of empathy is presumptuous- perspective-taking- and easily clouded by emotions such as fear, envy, insecurity, doubt, anger, entitlement, and resistance to criticism. I think a lot of issues arise from early labeling as being "good" or "bad." So many people call themselves "good" just for following social etiquette.

[@louisboyer837]

psychological pathologies are mostly things that are just socially unacceptable, but without the prisma of our modern societys those behaviours seem unatural. if you're a mercenary in a lord's army you better be a psychopath than a pacifist that's for sure.

[@vanessammiller3436]

persumptuous perspective taking? You mean following social norms? Wondering if you are potentially Cluster A

[@intentionallyqueen.478]

I like the new setting. Doc you're a excellent educator.

[@ruwi5683]

She is so like adorable and unique❤️🙂

[@christyler373]

and me looks great

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much all of you. I’m still working on my set up but I like it much better because I have a lot more space now.

[@juanpedro4083]

I found out that I am gay. I am so happy now.

[@jonathanjollimore7156]

If you ever had a run in with one of these people you don't forget it and not in a good way

[@trashcan2926]

This 100% sounds like my dad. He was a teenage delinquent who grew up to become extremely financially abusive to me, my mom, and my brother. He committed so much fraud against us, he should’ve gone to prison, but my mom didn’t press charges (don’t know why she thought that was a good idea, she just didn’t want to “ruin someone’s life” even tho he clearly deserved it). He was also very emotionally and sometimes physically abusive to my mom. He also emotionally abused my brother. He never abused me other than financially, but he did neglect me whenever my mom wasn’t around. I think he didn’t abuse me simply because I’m his biological child, my brother has a different dad and my brother also stood up to him when he was abusing my mom. He also used me as a pawn in his schemes, saying things to me like “tell mom that this thing I bought was from work” and “don’t tell mom I stole this”, I sometimes feel guilt for going along with it but I didn’t know any better, I was a very obedient young child. And despite all of this, he has never shown any remorse. Never apologized for anything and always tries to dance around the facts behind what he did. He’s also a massive charmer, he knows how to appear like just a goofy, funny, and even sweet guy. I do hold a grudge against my mom for not pressing charges because now he’s making 6 figures a year, has a new wife and step child, and is living a picture perfect life when he does not deserve it. Let me tell you, when we found out about all of the financial abuse when I was 13 and my mom filed for divorce, hearing that my dad stole my $20k college fund when I spent my whole childhood wanting to go to medical school broke my heart.

[@Dragumix]

I'm very sorry for you. The root cause of this and all suffering is procreation.

[@billybigballs9208]

Your dad is a good man maybe look into yourself before saying bad things about your poor old dad you grass

[@lucasrinaldi9909]

@@Dragumix This is logically and sociologically false.

[@curlyhairdudeify]

What does he do for a living now?

[@lauranicholls9421]

That’s. Bad. I’ve had bad partners cause of my father. I think it’s awful and sad that the people that hurt us the most are our so called loved ones. I hope you can heal from this man and live a good life and you find. Peace of mind.. thank you for sharing...🌈

[@wishtopublish]

Not going to lie - I aspire to be a professional like you someday, who can educate people for the betterment of the world. Thank you so much for your content!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

That’s an awesome aspiration! Set your goals and do whatever you want to do!!❤️😊

[@juanpedro4083]

I found out that I am gay. I am so happy now.

[@Buttercup-vw2zo]

Thats a great idea. I say go for it. You can invite Dr. Marks to your graduation. 👍

[@Dragumix]

@@DrTraceyMarks Knowing about this personality disorder and other personality disorders and other diseases and other hardships that can happen in life I think it's cruel to bring humans into this world and all countries on Earth should implement laws to sterilize the whole human population and beyond.

[@Dragumix]

@@guesswhosbackg6616 What do you want to say with the words you said? What's your definition of evil?

[@jazz19101]

My father always said he was proud that people said he has no heart. I told that to many psychologists and psychiatrists and all they did was stare at me with a blank face. What a horrible experience.

[@vlogcity1111]

Okay and people wonder why there a saying that shrinks cause more problems than they solve lol. Shit man I’m sorry you were neglected and treated that way. You deserve better!

[@LDT7Y]

The ones I've met (fortunately very few) were always proud of some cruel thing they could do very well. My last boss would brag about being so good at sacking people like having no empathy was great. Although he was married to a female version who was very proud of using him for money and trying to hook up with other men behind his back. So I left him to his own karma! ; D

[@Brxwn9]

@@LDT7Y Karma works in many ways.

[@clouddemosonline6174]

One time my father swerved onto the lawn and ran over my bike. Instead of being sorry he told me "i am not getting you another one". And my parents were not poor by any measure. They just don't care when they say and do things that hurt me.

[@sugamai]

My dad dropped a tree branch on my face one time, didn't apologize but told me to not get angry at him

[@Carpathianpixie]

@@sugamai That is terrible! I'm so sorry you had a father like that.

[@Carpathianpixie]

That is so mean. Was he ever diagnosed?

[@davemckay4359]

I'm sorry.

[@vlogcity1111]

@@sugamai my dad spat in my face and said I was provoking him and causing a mental breakdown...yeah by confronting you on your narcissism lol what sad people

[@GreenLepidolite]

There are many psychopaths and people with ASPD that learn to blend into society much better than these definitions would imply. I think the definition focuses too much on criminal behavior. Many have impressive careers, such as surgeons and CEOs. Some have average jobs and their disorder only becomes apparent to those closest to them.

[@e_i_e_i_bro]

There are socialized and unsocialized people with aspd. Obviously the socialized blend in more, and are believed to be less dangerous in some aspects. "Many have impressive careers" source? Sounds like you're talking about type 1 psychopathy which is very rare. There aren't many of them to begin with. Most psychologists/therapists will have never encountered one in their whole career (also because they generally don't think they need to change hence don't seek treatment).

[@armysunicorn9630]

Nah, even the most socialized of us are actually pretty awkward and have a very hard time holding down jobs and responsibilities due to not being able to give a flying fuck.

[@galactic_history_archives]

That is in a way true. However, you need to know these people on a personal level to realise their behaviours resemble ASPD symptoms.

[@lucasrinaldi9909]

@@armysunicorn9630 This says more about capitalism than sociopathy.

[@zeddeka]

We have to be careful not to conflate ASPD and psychopathy. They are not necessarily the same. ASPD has defined criteria which do not necessarily overlap with psychopathy. You can have ASPD and not be a psychopath. In fact, it's believed that most people with ASPD do not meet the criteria for psychopathy. Indeed, the term "psychopath" is a controversial one with some debate about its definition. Some psychologists believe that it's actually closer to NPD / Histrionic Personality Disorder than ASPD. The man who invented the famous checklist for psychopathy, Hare, believed though that antisocial / criminal behavior is a necessary diagnostic criterion for psychopathy, but he actually wanted psychopathy to be listed in the DSM as a separate disorder.

[@gurudra]

The mind is a loyal servant but also the most dangerous enemy🙏

[@ruwi5683]

Always true

[@juanpedro4083]

I found out that I am gay. I am so happy now.

[@boebender]

I’m from Florida originally and live in Atlanta, GA. I can sense your southern upbringing. Grandmothers were libraries. Mine always said, “If someone always lies, they’ll steal, and if they’ll steal, they’ll kill.” That lesson has stayed with me all my life. Watch out for folks who always lie. It shows a disregard for others and I likely doesn’t end there. Thank you for your informative and inspirational videos.

[@ets5697]

The relationship between the truth, being morally "good" and life seems simple and obvious but it's really profound. The "lie" is not just the gateway to evil - but the end of all creation. You are quite literally opening the door to hell when you lie. It's why it leads to murder. Even if you aren't religious, you can appreciate how early we understood this. The Devil's main trait is that he is a liar.

[@northofyou33]

Dr. Marks, your videos are so clear and so informative. No extra fluff, just really important detail, with a very organized presentation. Thank you!

[@farizma]

5:04 so true I really feel it's other person's problem that they're sensitive, they get hurt, they can't handle & accept the truth, they're weak.

[@Noname11364]

Accepting truth isn’t what we’re talking about. We’re talking about abusing someone and then calling them “sensitive” or “weak” and if you’re an abuser and them call the abused person “weak” that’s actually a weakness on your part. Lack of self-control and self-discipline.

[@nodozhit]

Thank you for providing those exemptions! I've made mistakes and bad decisions and I may even disassociate myself from people and options- but I have never been cruel or abusive to others.

[@20NINTENDOfan]

Your definition of a scammer had me intrigued, because in a lot of games there is a mechanic known as "lifesteal" where you do get health back from hurting others, and I always find this mechanic the most satisfying.

[@Novarcharesk]

It is doubly rewarded. The player gets ahead BOTH by eliminating a threat, while also gaining vitality to better confront the next threat, with no extra effort. Efficiency feels good.

[@slick5591]

Skyrim- Always chose to be a vampire. Loved life draining. Fortnite- I most enjoyed when siphon was apart of the game. Let’s talk Anime- The Show berzerk… I get why the masses think Griffith is a monster but I personally believe he did nothing wrong in his quest to superiority. But on the other hand, as I was driving literally yesterday, I hit a squirrel that I figured would evade my tires. When I did, I stopped and was really sad for a minute for killing it. Today one was playing in front of me and I slowed down and waited to make sure I didn’t hit this one.

[@jimnewt2138]

I agree get back your soul

[@TeamCat1128]

Thank you for explaining the 3 clusters. We hear so much about the cluster B types, but this is the first time I’ve heard a description of the other two: A & C.

[@sheilamansell5634]

It’s all in the DSM-5

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I’m glad it all came together for you

[@byrdma12]

Dr. Marks, I love your videos. They are great. I love your teaching style: to the point, factual and an easy listen. Keep up the good work.

[@uluzistherealest]

Ok you are great. I got my eyes on a paper from my childhood that I believe diagnosed me with this, I guess because I was a fighter, but I was fighting bullies for the most part. I never let a bully leave my presence without trying to push his nose into the next universe, self defense is a major belief of mine. I don't think I have any of the other problems you named. I've always tried to what I call "cure myself", your videos are taking me to new places. I have never been to a doctor about all of my problems, these videos are so helpful to me so keep them coming.

[@samuelbrown7831]

You're extremely prosocial if you're punishing bullies.

[@pauet7414]

I have got to hand it to you, Doc, this is the greatest video I've seen on the subject. The examples, the coherence, the order… Heck! Even the voice is soothing! I humbly thank you for your expertise and professionality. Keep it up, Doc!!

[@Natalaie]

🐇🥕🐇🥕🐇🥕🐇🥕🐇

[@AeriaGl0ris]

A clear explanation of the difference between ASPD and psychopathy and a little cultural tidbit (origins of "flimflammer"). I liked this! Thanks for another great video, Dr. Marks!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you! I’m glad you appreciated the cultural tidbit 😀

[@n3rahill]

I learn a lot today, I maybe an introvert and sometimes avoid when there are a crowd of people outside but not anti social. I am relieved...

[@Turtletoots3]

There seems to be a confusion between asocial and antisocial. Dictionaries don't help this either tbf.

[@danielknott7447]

I was told by many people I was anti social and had to tell them I'm unsociable and introverted which is far from being anti social.

[@lulu7304]

Asocial just like me.

[@sofiapapagni]

You are really amazing to me- you simplify research I have tried to understand for years. It straight forward, seemingly honest information. I really appreciate you.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you so much Sofia ❤️

[@nickyr3860]

Antisocial: “contrary to the laws and customs of society; devoid of or antagonistic to sociable instincts or practices.” Hmm yes that sounds right, its not about social avoidance like you said.

[@wendyleeconnelly2939]

yeah the social avoidance would be more the schizoid personality disorder in cluster A

[@wendyleeconnelly2939]

@Nugget interesting... can you share some references that discuss this? Articles, books, etc... I'd like to know more about the evolution of Cluster B personalities to Cluster C personalities

[@psychfred]

I am a therapist and I want to thank you for sharing your vast knowledge, helping keep everyone up-to-date with current knowledge and trends. I greatly appreciate your time and efforts! 🙏😊🌻

[@izzywrldd]

Dr. Tracy Marks, you do such a good job at helping me to understand Antisocial Personality Disorder. Thank you

[@TomokoAbe_]

I interviewed a guy with antisocial personality disorder (APD). He was a very charming. He was very open about his life. And his long...long...long arrest record. Including organized crime. He admitted he enjoyed animal cruelty as a child. He was constantly in legal trouble growing up. He may have killed someone, but he never said but I had a feeling he did. All the while he was...charming. Sheeeezzz..I wonder if he has psychopathy. He liked using people. I think he faked hearing voices because he got in trouble regarding his court ordered early release.

[@lucasrinaldi9909]

I remember being cruel to animals twice in my childhood. But remembering these events even for a second causes me deep pain and regret. I have never been diagnosed with APD but whenever I see videos like this I have doubts about whether or not I should seek help.

[@suoqui]

​@@lucasrinaldi9909ur ok

[@jezebel982]

@@lucasrinaldi9909it could be related to trauma. There’s a chance it’s not as bad as you think.

[@ginaking5514]

The older I get the more I realize that out of all of my studies, two realizations have helped me the most at work. First, how nurses communicate with people who have experienced trauma, especially amid this lingering COVID world, and how to detect, communicate and work well with different mind types. Often people labeled with "disorders" are uniquely suited for some of the most aggressive and amazing careers. Learning to partner and work well with them has been the gift of my life. Technology has nothing on the human mind.

[@areuarealman7269]

I wouldn't know they mental health professionals think I'm so retarded I can't work yeah my attitude is a product of my environment so f all of you .

[@froggyfrog90002]

you partner with which kind of disordered personslity type/s?

[@Auraartistryalberta]

I can't believe how exactly ... Word for word EVERY single example. I almost fell off my chair. And I've been researching this for awhile. I can't believe how exact this is. I am so RELIEVED to learn that this is not my fault and that there was nothing I could have done to save our marriage.

[@keenwolf2219]

Congratulations

[@mx4life560]

You felt pretty guilty before this video didn't you?

[@jackjack4412]

Ok?

[@africaart]

I know a guy that EVERY phone call he receives he must lie about his location or finance and he would always beg for money. Anytime he is around, things gets missing.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

That sounds exhausting to have to keep that up

[@juanpedro4083]

I found out that I am gay. I am so happy now.

[@juanpedro4083]

@@ByMyLonely. I just want to share my life with others. I love you btw

[@videlsol]

I love that now your videos have subtles in spanish ❤ usually I can undestand your videos, but now I can share with my family and friends

[@austinthornton8729]

Dr. Tracy, the way you break down these complicated psychological issues extremely extremely helpful. Watching your videos can help to minimize interaction with these types of people. Great job

[@nunya321]

This is very interesting. But I do feel uncomfortable with how often law-abiding-ness is used as a measure for mental health... you bring it up many times in this video (and others)... I think I understand what the medical community is getting at but I think they need to clarify and justify why laws make for a neutral measure of mental health... I say this because many laws change or were designed to target very specific populations or are only enforced in certain communities (ex: graffiti laws, marijuana laws, loitering laws, assault laws). We know that racism and other forms of oppression are systemic and institutional-- it's hard to believe that laws that are influenced by bias could be an accurate measure of whether or not someone has a mental illness. And, whose culture is being used to determine what is normal or ideal? What does the medical community do to make sure marginalized communities aren't being harmed? Regarding these issues it would be nice to expanded on them and clarify what is meant and to discuss the limitations of these measures. It's a difficult subject but we know that psychiatry (like any other field) doesn't have a "clean history" in the way different groups have been served. I am a person of color and i have certainly benefited from therapy and psychiatry but I did have troubling experiences with a therapist... when i'd talk about microaggressions and institutional racism at the workplace he would respond like it was all in my head... like it was my imagination that he needed to treat??! so it felt like i had to educate him that racism exists and that it's usually subtle and repeated.. so frustrating to be doubted by your own therapist.

[@MM-zm1tr]

I'm a MH practitioner and also a POC. This may sound odd as I lean conservative and tend to regard intersectional models as being reductive, illogical and dehumanizing.... but I actually agree with you. I also do not feel that actual criminal transgressions should be criteria for mental illness. After all, as you said, laws vary by area/enforcement etc. Also, regarding your experience in therapy, it is my feeling that your therapist shouldn't have approached things in this way. It is YOUR perception that is important, not theirs. I have many clients with whom I disagree (especially in regards to the intersectional model as mentioned above) but it's not my job to argue MY side of things or give my opinion. It's about meeting a client where THEY are. I hope your next (or current) therapist (if you are willing to go again will do that better. Good luck and God bless...

[@elgatodelskz]

I understand what you mean, but I think she's talking about laws that are mostly related to humans rights, under general circumstances.

[@reiggier9211]

​@elgatodelskz you phrased that really concisely, if they are they should clarify explicitly that those are the laws they are focused on because it's definitely confusing to read

[@nunya321]

@@MM-zm1tr you should make your bias known early, so your POC patients with intersecting social identities won't have to deal with microaggressions or a therapist that sees their lived experience as reductive, illogical, and dehumanizing. Let it be known on your website. Allow your patients to know what they're getting into.

[@CuseTown315K]

Sounds like you had a good therapist. If you believe in 2024 there's such thing as systemic racism in the US or believe microaggressions are even a thing at all. I'm glad he pointed out that it's all in your head.

[@melaniejones5980]

First off, wanted to thank you for your videos. They are nothing but thorough and helpful, and I especially appreciate the range of topics you discuss. (It is reeeeaally rare to see a mental health professional not only address narcolepsy, for example, but also do it as well as you did.) I was glad you discussed psychopathy in this video. I know the topic of psychopaths (or sociopaths as well) is kind of a popular subject online, with some mental health professionals even specifically focusing on the topic on KZbin, but I would really love to see you address this in more depth in a separate video yourself. I would be particularly interested in your take on this BECAUSE you are not a content creator who specifically focuses on it, addressing instead a wide variety of mental health topics. Just a thought, and thanks again for your work!

[@ruwi5683]

Dr, think bout how many people online, and in this Forum, you’ve helped!! ♥️♥️

[@DrTraceyMarks]

That’s what keeps me going 😊👍🏽

[@nandim1753]

Your one of my mentor ...the best .... feeling so comfortable and relax when u speak ...the structuring of your sentences ....you saved me 😪💯💯❤️

[@JadeDRail]

This was quite interesting. If ever you are in need of suggestions, I would suggest going over the diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder. Tons of people are unable to get a diagnosis because they are not 5-year-old boys with a classic presentation so I feel like it might be useful! I took it upon myself to go through the criteria in the DSM 5 but I would love to hear it explained by you.

[@elysianfibres1642]

Psychopathy can be broken down into factor-1 (primary) and factor-2 (secondary) psychopathy, which is sometimes called sociopathy. It is factor-2 psychopathy that aligns most closely to antisocial personality disorder.

[@abedanafisa1646]

Hope that you get over your disease fast I used to be just like you when I was a teenager I was a violent person

[@abedanafisa1646]

@@asdghkii I'm much better now...inshallah

[@vicsmith7006]

Dr. Tracey Marks, my ex wife fits a lot of of criteria for personality disorder. One day she did a 180 and left, no contact, 4months later we divorced. She did the same to her previous ex. When asked why she said she didn’t know. She has reverted to being a teenager now- partying, dating a 19 year old, dropped out of nursing school. Almost got fired. She acted like she never knew me. She did the same to her ex. We’d been together 7 1/2 years

[@wulfsorenson8859]

No that’s just typical behaviour of modern women.

[@vicsmith7006]

@@wulfsorenson8859 yeah I agree. I’ve learned a lot since I posted that comment.

[@wulfsorenson8859]

@@vicsmith7006 😂😂

[@happyhappycatus]

Oh my god. I have been searching for 10 years for my partner’s mental disease and now I found it thank to you Dr

[@kingduria7480]

I suspect i have ASPD, but i try to be a moral person (Which actually makes more of an Amoral person) For me personally, its as if i can Switch between 2 sides of Morality vs My Heart. Im also a Hedonist, i get easily bored so you can say im addicted to weed and Alcohol, Boredom leads to irritability, and irritability leads to anger and frustration,, and it can reach to the point where i go "Fxck it" and "Vent"

[@starchilde8698]

@@dumbstudent7673 There's a high comorbidity rate between ADHD & ASPD, lots of overlap.

[@angelainyt]

Hi doctor, you said around the 40s, they slow down, but I know someone in their 40s who is still doing acts that are signs of a sociopathic personality.

[@margehernandez9220]

Thank you for all your help with your videos. You have helped me understand a lot of what o go through in my own life..not in this subject particularly but in others. Again, thank you so much.

[@BuildingOuttaCrisis]

You gelp alot of people coming to these videos and the clarity. your videos are very beneficial. Im 22 & as i grow older and working on my self, Ive been able to be diagnosed with BPD working with professionals as yourself and finally start working with a councilor on how i channel alot of my problems. ❤❤❤ Everybody stay positive Mental Health is a big aspect of how we deal and its very beneficial to stay self aware

[@BuildingOuttaCrisis]

Help gelp 😂

[@valsterhuera4460]

PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT ANXIETY & PANIC AND THE FEAR OF GOING CRAZY. We want reassurance that Anxiety or panic does not make us go crazy. Thank you very much! ❤️❤️❤️

[@B3OWULF416]

Thank you, Tracy. I am an introvert and it drives me nuts when they think it's the same as antisocial because they think I hate people. I was a delinquent but i do care about others. I have a small circle of friends, I'm married with a kid, and I tinker a lot in my hideout alone. I simply prefer quality over quantity like most introverts. There's a saying I'd rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies it means I'd rather have a few that are real and not just 100 people making noise. Having 5000 people on a Facebook page doesn't mean 5000 friends I did have a record and got over addiction. But i have always been compassionate towards others, I am a believer, and I've never was cruel to animals.

[@antor2471]

What I got from this is sociopaths just don’t know how to be normal. but they’re not that predatory

[@TheFirstManticore]

I know an anti-social man; I have known him since he was a baby. By 11 he was using pot and hanging out with a gang. He kept switching gangs, he didn't even obey gang rules. He lied for fun and for no reason, as well as to get what he wanted. He is extremely manipulative, and skilled at it. He was violent at times too, though not so skilled at fighting. From his adolescent years, I had been very close to him; I wasn't as easy as some to fool, but I was friendly nevertheless and took a humorous approach. When he said he needed white t-shirts and a black hoody, he explained that his appearance was very important to him. Instead of arguing about his gang attire, I said, "So apparently you are very shallow." He got the joke and readily agreed. I didn't buy him the clothes because he didn't obey my rules, but we were on good terms still. Twenty years later, he has been a drug addict for many years and can be very violent. I no longer have confidence that he won't hurt me. I just think he probably wouldn't. But he is in prison now.

[@milakohen630]

the whole purpose of this channel is to raise the awareness! don't apply symptoms you are hearing on yourself or others, thats a huuuuge mistake! Be aware, study!

[@stevenkilmer2367]

As someone whos never been able to talk to a therapist or psychoanylist type person. I like how you dont talk down and give information :) Thankfully this is more like my anti personality and isnt a all the time thing lol

[@NunayoBisnez]

I'm curious to see Dr. Marks' take on the correlation (if any) between oppositional defiant disorder, conduct disorder, and antisocial personality disorder.

[@Natalaie]

Odd and conduct disorder lead to aspd

[@WaterproofSoap]

This is all very valuable and informative. It's probably very helpful for people to develop a better understanding of aberrant psychology. Having said that, modern society as a whole would probably not be awarded a clean bill of mental health if the DSM were applied to it in the manner of a patient. "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" -Jiddu Krishnamurty

[@elvampir0]

I allways tought that being antisocial meant prefeering to be alone, being shy, socially awkward, someone who avoids other people. Thanks for clearing it up for me!

[@KarlSnarks]

Many people confuse the words antisocial and asocial.

[@chilenapromedioRU]

Someone may dislike to socialise, but that doesn't meant that the person has antisocial personality disorder. That's the difference.

[@devilsoffspring5519]

No, what you're describing might be PTSD or anxiety but not antisocial personality disorder. People who are antisocial are often very arrogant and aggressive, so a lot of people idolize them and follow them like a cult--especially young people. A person who is very antisocial (hardcore criminal, such as a serial rapist or gangstalker) usually does not live in isolation. People who are assholes always have lots of company because there are so many of them!

[@destinyroney4031]

I had no idea antisocial personality disorder was a thing. Thank you for this. Another great KZbin video on this subject is The Mess on Planet Classroom Network. Summary: A multi-faceted take on one woman’s experiences with bipolar disorder.

[@praesidium4278]

Just found out I have it it feels very good but it is also a problem

[@lace1245]

I appreciate how thorough you are in your explanations and examples. Most other videos I’ve watched are very vague and generalized and it’s hard to decipher if certain symptoms/ traits are strictly that example. For instance: a narcissist. Most will say, “narcissists are entitled.” Well, in my mind, there are a lot of things to be entitled to and some don’t feel entitled to everything, only specific things. So it leaves me wondering, is this in general or do they feel specifically entitled to certain things or if it’s only certain things, but not others, does that rule out the possibility that they have the disorder? You break those things down and make it a lot easier to understand. Thank you!

[@violetlove1893]

Thank you for this video. It irritates me when my parents call my (high functioning) autistic daughter antisocial because she doesn't want to play volleyball. She doesn't like sports and if she shys away from any group activity they call her antisocial. It makes me into mama bear and when I try to assertively explain that she's not being antisocial, they tell me "well why doesn't she go out there and get involved?! Shyness is being spoiled" so, thank you so much for this video. It not only defines antisocial personality disorder but specifies what type of behaviors are considered when diagnosing someone with this disorder.. You're an amazing Dr. I hope you continue to make videos to educate people, even if it's just me.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you Violet! I’m happy to educate just you 😊 and yes it’s a shame when people throw around incorrect terms and label people especially impressionistic children.

[@stoneyvowell1239]

Very interesting doctor marks. I really enjoyed your take on it. A good portion of the other therapist I follow like to talk about the two conditions as pretty much the same thing.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks Stoney. I think it’s pretty common for people to use the terms interchangeably.

[@Scorned405]

The limbic cortex and the amagdala work very different in those that are sociopathic.

[@FalafalGrease]

People always use the excuse they like you, but it’s not about them liking you. It’s about you not feeling comfortable around them as a person something they do make you uncomfortable with being near them than any word.

[@MimiTheHamster]

I’m normally an empath but has anyone noticed that since pandemic they have more dark triad traits? Like being in survival mode can breed antisocial behaviors until you finally feel safe again. I’ve justt started recovering from pervasive extreme thoughts especially suicidal or power hungry ones and it was ptsd that was making me act so opposite from my usual sweet self

[@josephinebournes8212]

The pandemic did a number on millions of people.

[@sistercee5389]

Covid has been know to cause brain damage that often presents behavioral changes, impulsivity, memory issues, and psychiatric disorders

[@Lidia.Bella.Italiana]

I was diagnosed with cluster B personality traits... Borderline personality. And I absolutely hate the overlap of symptoms in this cluster, it really sucks. I know that I'm definitely 100% borderline... But all of the overlapping from the others is pretty much the same to borderline, when you start describing some of the needed criteria and features... The way they can drift around and fit into each other is scary.

[@milakohen630]

thats the most common type! it does not mean you are a bad person, you can study and learn how to control it !!!!

[@armysunicorn9630]

Why is it so scary to you?

[@ynntari2775]

3:40 ‒ everything said here sounds exactly like something the sociopath's parents did to them and taught them that life works this way. treating your child and convincing your child that their pain and feelings are irrelevant and that bigger people can do whatever they want with them simply because they can · kinda is teaching the child that this is how reality works.

[@ynntari2775]

4:46 ‒ this also sounds exactly like something learned from abusive parents. Everything you said about it. ⠀ parents will never take responsability for any form of hurt you feel from their actions, it's always your fault for being too sensible and whatever they do is justified because they are the parents and they can just tell you that this is how you teach things to people to make them better.

[@ynntari2775]

6:55 ‒ this sounds like coping mechanisms to live in an environment in which you will never receive approval or care no matter what you do or how you do it and is guaranteed to get negative aggressive reactions to anything and whatever you do. Developing in an environment like this makes you believe that this in the only thing you'll ever get from any member of the human race, so it makes no difference how you behave or how much you care about others, you'll only ever receive hate back.

[@wil3630]

I have a friend with ASPD. He’s actually a good guy. Not everyone with ASPD or NPD are terrible people. They just need encouragement for positive behavior.

[@grandmastermario3695]

You are correct and not all people who are bad are narcissists sociopaths or psychopaths theres alot of people who don't have any problems who are nasty and even evil to the core some people who even mean well in life are still bad people my mother back in the day was horrible to us kids and the only mental health problem she had was anxiety but she did some very awful things as a mom and said some really awful things that should not be repeated and not even said ever there are alot of bad people in this world but alot of good as well yes I believe it's more likely for people with aspd bpd to be bad then ones who don't but there are some good in the world 🙂

[@ShaneThompson-x7q]

I don’t think I have it but whatever my issue is. I lack empathy I’m fearful and anxious yet I get angry and have violent urges 24/7 I keep them under control by walking away and breathing. I also perceive everyone who I interact with to either want something from me or wants to disrespect or abuse me in some form or another. I haven’t dated in 4 years ever since I saw the behavior getting worse and I generally don’t hang out with people outside of work. All of my social interactions feel like a film role.

[@FreeSpirit47]

The ex huzz easily matches your descriptions of antisocial personality disorder. When we were married, people often told me that my husband was very narcissistic. As much as I wanted to, I couldn't tell my daughter to NOT use her dad as her real estate agent. She might think I was just putting him down. He swindled $10K out of her. She was shocked, hurt, didn't want to admit it. Her dad was bragging to others what he had done to get "payback" for being a father.

[@vlogcity1111]

much like my own mom who I told on her death bed that you enabled your own daughters failed relationship with her father. It could have been avoided if you got her away from him, you knew how antisocial and damaging his behaviour was.

[@FreeSpirit47]

​@@vlogcity1111 When a son or daughter is a self supprting adult, it's totally up to them. Often, they won't listen or heed anything a parent tells them. They are self supporting as well as self determining. The success or failure or any mixture of both is their own.

[@rozaSkroza]

hello dear Tracey, have a great day! thank you, as always 🌹🧡

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome and you too. 👍🏽

[@alvaromillan6899]

I love your eloquence 💗

[@bystandersarah]

A sociopath can be much more covert than you think. Also they can be somewhat oblivious of themselves and their actions. They can stay out of trouble from the law, and aren’t necessarily consciously scamming ppl and they can even show violence in unusual and unexpected ways.

[@k91985]

In our case the person has only mellowed in their forties because they "inherited" a rented house and had a reason to appear calm, lest they lose their home now they also suddenly have no parent paying for everything

[@synclarva8695]

Can you please make a video on Dependent Personality Disorder and how to handle it. This personality disorder does not get attention like others.

[@Cass_772]

reckless disregard to safety is more like... having a beef with some gang member but telling them your address so they can come to your house for a fight, in antisocial personality, it's more than just driving under the influence of alcohol

[@hsrao2740]

As you said, sometimes I indeed hurt others, but I am not aware of it, or perhaps I do not consider it as harm, but rather think that the other person is not strong enough. I know that this is wrong, but I grew up under this rule since I was young. Perhaps there are other ways of life, but they have never been relevant to me.

[@cindysherman2155]

I find it fascinating that one of the aspects of psychopathy is eccentricity. That’s not usually listed as one of the attributes and you are the first person I’ve heard say that. It would be interesting if you could expound on that feature.

[@rarecockneyguvnor4945]

Your knowledge on this subject is spot on. Not all people that have ANTi Social Personality Disorder. are Psychopaths.

[@gilgamesh0233]

sociopaths* learn the difference

[@rarecockneyguvnor4945]

@@gilgamesh0233 I already know the difference , I don't need you to tell me.

[@xxxnarurto5747]

@juanvarela dude he wasn’t even talking about sociopaths, he was saying not all antisocial all psychopaths 🤦‍♀️

[@maxt1617]

My relative has classic hallmarks of ASPD (undiagnosed) and I've watched first hand how he struggles greatly through life. Everything he has tried at, he has ruined. In a world that rewards diligence, focus, empathy and delayed gratification, the ASPD's exact opposite- low conscientiousness, impulsivity and callousness- seems to lead them to the inevitable by 40-50 yrs: prison, addiction or death. Thankfully most of them think they're doing great (the conceitedness symptom), so that's a blessing. And yet they also suffer a lot in silence and socially alienate themselves, something that receives little attention. Very sad.

[@teshayazzie7712]

My ex had this diagnosis. He was physically and mentally abusive. He got domestic violence and 6 counts of child abuse.

[@graggo6474]

I was diagnosed as antisocial personality disorder when I was 16yrs. No one really explained it to me . And no one ever believed me when I told them my step father was trying to kill me until I was 50 yrs .am I to blame entirely?

[@briarrose5208]

Hi Dr Tracey! Baking soda was a common home remedy for my family when we were growing up. Good info about fermented foods, which I love. Last but not least, your hair is so freakin cute!

[@noneofurbusiness5223]

This is off-topic. I've had more help from FREE support groups, friends, and reading and journaling to work on myself. Question/discussion: Choosing a therapist. My motivation: I had a therapist who fell asleep (I'm fairly animated, extrovert), had another one say, "Well, you're not crying!" I've had a couple of them who seemed quite superficial. I'm over it.

[@ronaldpettway3638]

Watched this video to find answers about myself only to find more evidence of someone i know😅

[@fouadkhattar]

I would very much like to see you collaborating with Dr Jordan Peterson, i find you both very intellectual and very very smart and with similar education background with him being a clinical psychiatrist and yourself a psychologist, both of you are just a joy and a fulfillment to watch and hear you talk about social human behaviors and decomposing them so we can understand human behavior, i really really really want to see you both analyzing problems facing humans in different societies right now. Wow i just like you both.

[@edgreen8140]

Hares checklist is helpful. Using others 2 superficial charm 3 manipulating others 4 uncaring for others 5 nonconformist slowed down around 40 50.

[@ashleythompson2942]

Happy Saint Patrick’s Day 🇮🇪☘️❤️ Also the video game example. More of these plz.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Happy Saint Pats day to you too. ☘️ thanks for noticing the video game reference. 😊

[@tarottimewithandie]

Just love your videos. So clear and concise.

[@lifesymphony2024]

I'm not anti social. I'm selectively social. I can talk, spend time, joke and laugh with those whom I can really vibe well for hours like Maka, Latha, Jothi, my brother, my brother's mother in law. With those I don't vibe that well bcoz they don't know how to keep the conversation going. They either a listener or only reply to whatever I ask. So nothing much to interact. With them, I don't know what to talk for a long time. Nothing comes to my mind. Not that purposely I don't want to talk to them. With some people, I naturally have a lot of things to say and share with them. I don't talk much with my own mum bcoz we don't vibe well. It will always end up in an argument. So it is better to keep quiet.

[@anv.4614]

appreciated. many thanks.

[@fierceandflawed]

What is it called when you just aren’t very social then? I’m none of these things she listed. I have compassion & am responsible. But I don’t like socializing much. The name is deceiving.

[@ABurgess]

Introversion

[@leerodriguez3132]

I am an American living in the Dominican Republic. (I am from Mississippi by the way.) Here, it is quite “normal” and the term they use is “chopiador” or “a person who chops.” Being able to swindle and steal from naive people.

[@tonyg5132]

Someone I knew was this. The worst part is they pretend to be nice in the beginning in order to suck you in. She could not take accountability for anything wrong she ever did.

[@13KcMagicGirl13]

I have unfortunately met somebody like this.

[@DunderHead.5000]

What scares me is that doctors are moving away from risk assessment and management to trying to help them because they are suffering. They are not suffering because they don't care and there isn't a treatment that works anyway.

[@ggaz683]

Oh look, another armchair psychologist telling me what I feel.

[@mikeharrel1171]

Hahaha 🤣😂 I have no guilt or empathy for those beyond my immediate social circle *(meaning people close and useful to me). I certainly don't always use honesty or any sense of use for society at large. I never developed intimate or romantic attraction, and I have no use or understanding of why people would want to marry or bear children when children are so much work. I am honestly glad that I don't have romantic interests nor the slightest bit of desire for a family. I don't want to hurt anyone willingly, so I generally will avoid social situations altogether.

[@mr.perfect4020]

Im honestly getting kinda scared because as you keep listing the symptoms, the more it sounds exactly like me.

[@lesliecas2695]

Don't worry about it. These behaviors are only persistent.

[@wahnano]

Under-Stand

[@milakohen630]

don't be afraid it takes a deeper interview to diagnose anybody with any disorder! don't go there! Bad spot! some people are born to it, lower income stratum, children growing up in a hood or ghetto, abuse inside a family etc

[@patp.7258]

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[@akinyi5368]

😂😂😂

[@Goggalor1990]

What if I was diagnosed as having ASPD and Autism, yet feel an intense need to protect those who can't protect themselves or are hurt unfairly? I've jumped out of cars at red lights to help people who have fallen on the sidewalk, and stood up to bullies when the person they were victimizing couldn't fight back. Yet I still have a general lack of care about people I don't know or especially if they've done bad I feel very strongly against them. How can I be intensely caring and protective, but also uncaring, cold and cruel?

[@HadToAlt]

Me: Ha, I never got caught. Her: Even if you never got caught. Me: Damn.

[@melissahinkley7629]

I know someone with ASPD who has an STD (STI), slept around, and did not tell people. Truly selfish!!!

[@luv2luvrite]

Thank you for explaining this disorder so clearly. You have provided me some great insight.

[@cannacris9292]

Can you do a video about getting older and having anxiety because of it?

[@devilsoffspring5519]

No need for it, it's called "life" and it's a pretty universal experience for humans. After the early or maybe mid-20s, nobody wants to get older.

[@lrowe6494]

My roommate actually accused me of being Anti social, because I am not a chatty catchy and I mostly stay to myself they to talk non stop, they ask awhole that clearly isn't their business, they are selfish they play their radio loudly, they wake up super early and. slamming things around, they don't clean up behind themselves they hate doing chores . Whenever something comes up missing I am blame hours later they end finding what they lost or misplaced.