Dusri Shadi aur Hamara Culture | Sahil Adeem & Eram Saeed |

[@alshamsvlogs7628]

السلام علیکم ساحل عدیم صاحب جو ہیں بہت ہی اعلی لیول اعلی ترین لیول کے ماہر نفسیات ہیں اور ہائی فائی کوالٹی کے الفاظ اور نفسیات کا چناؤ کرکے وہ انسان کو ہم لوگوں کو ایسے سمجھاتے ہیں کہ جیسے ہم جیسے ہم ایک اسٹوڈنٹ کی طرح وہ ہمارے لیول پر اکر ہمیں سمجھاتے ہیں اج کے دور کے بہت بڑے نفسیات دان ہیں

[@Qamar_CA]

Alhamdulillah, We are fortunate to having Sahil adeem

[@salmanarif6651]

Ye concept hamari maao ko 1970s aur 1980s ki indian films se aya keh shohar full time job se wapsi per sirf biwi ko hi time de

[@hassaanpervaiz-c9j]

eram saeed is totally neutral person who gave opinion without bias . as for sahil adeem i don't coitize him why because almost every person in this earth is bias in giving opinion

[@ayeshazahra7614]

Emotional attachement is imp for husband wife relatioship which is damaged by second marriage of husband. So second marriage come with divorce with first wife either officially or by emotional detachment.

[@Star_Tec1]

Why? Why 1st wife does not accept even husband is allowed by Allah. Does it mean wife is not accepting Allah's permission?

[@afsheenshaharyar1630]

@@Star_Tec1 ضرور کرے دوسری ۔پہلی کی اجازت کی ضرورت نہیں لیکن آدمی خود قدم اٹھاٸے اور معاملات کو سنبھالے۔ اس کے علاوہ مسٸلہ یہ ہے کہ پہلی بیوی پہلے سسرال برداشت کرے اور پھر دوسری۔ سارا بوجھ پہلی پر ڈال دیا جاتا ہے۔ جہاں تک محبت کا تعلق ہے تو مرد جب آنکھیں پھیرتا ہے تو محبت تو آہستہ آہستہ پس پردہ چلی جاتی ہے۔ مرد اس سلسلے میں جب ذلیل کرتا ہے تو بھر صرف مصلحت دیکھنی پڑتی ہے

[@afsheenshaharyar1630]

@@Star_Tec1 بالکل اجازت ہے قبول بھی ہوگی لیکن مرد پہلے ، پہلی کو سسرال سے تو الگ کرے۔یہ میرا ذاتی تجربہ ہے۔

[@Star_Tec1]

@Afsheen Shaharyar now u agree ke mard dusri shadi kar sakta hai. Situation to situation depend karta hai. Stereotype nahi kia ja sakta. Of course, mard ko bhi sab halaat dekh kar dusri shadi karni chaheye, mun utha kar nahi.

[@afsheenshaharyar1630]

@@Star_Tec1 yes why not پہلی کو شرمندہ نہ کریں اس کو اذیت نہ بناٸیں

[@faizfaisal2183]

Domesticated donkey 🤣 واہ واہ۔! ساحل استاد کیا خوبصورت لفظ ہے آج کل کے گھریلو ں حضرات کے لیے۔۔!

[@khairunnisasmg123]

Itne influential logon baat karne se pahle theek se sochna chahiye .. hosakta hai koi inki bakwas ka aser qubool karle aur apna gher ujad baithe .. Islam mai sirf ijazat hai compulsary nhi .. yaar ajj ek k sath insaan qulus mbht se rahe bht kaafi hai..

[@farrukhraza7714]

Quran paak main doosri. Shadi ki ijazat insaf krny k sath mashroot hy Sath ji bta diya gaeya hy k insaf nahi kr sakty lehaza aik pe hi iktafa karo

[@mobeenakhan3630]

نیں پہلے اپ کہہ رھی تھی کے وہ صرف ماں سے شکائتیں جا کے کرتا ہے لیکن بعد میں سر نے بہت اچھی بات کی کےجوخاوند ماں سے جاکے بیوی کی شکائتیں کرتا ھے وہ پہلی شادی کے قابل بھی نیں ھوا

[@salmanarif6651]

Baat theek hae. Aik wajah ye bhi hae ke poori society mian biwi ke maamle ko apna maamla samajhti hae aur interfere karti hae. Kafi families mae sirf baron ki suni jati hae, na shohar ki aur na biwi ki jinhon ne sari zindagi ikathe jeena marna hota hae

[@MASTALAST]

Ask Sahil sir ek requast ha.ful video upĺoad kia kry.

[@mustikhan7512]

polygamy creates lot of emoional and mental health issues. The wife/ children feel the absence of a male in the house and feel low self esteem. Sense of belonging will be affected too. Men in polygamy marriage will 200% incline towads one of his wife and her children and this will be sensed by the unfavoured wife and children. Financial problems are also experienced in middle class families and the zulm takes placed upon first wife to even share same house. Prophet SAWS never, never kept his wives in the same house nor did any sahabi. If you guys want to promote polygamy then please first take the responsibility to teach boys/ men to fear Allah to be very, very just and fair in treating their wives/ children emotionally, physically and most importantly financially equally. If the man does not treat well his wives and her children then the whole family system will fall apart. The women in polygamy marriage is living in insecurity, hypervigilence, jealousy and this will effect her mental anx emotional wellbeing anx hence affect her child rearing practice too. Its an enormous task and a huge responsibility on men to maintain wives and children and give them good healthy, well balanced living. And lastly teach them Taqwa in regards to answer to Allah in treatinv their wives and children and paying their due Haqq in every sense. Please teach men and don’t make it sound like fun and present issue in a light manner.

[@ShamaAmeer-i4x]

Meri bhi 2 dadian thein but uss kay peeche cause tha because my first dadi didn't have any child aur unhon nay khud apne husband kay liye larki dhoondhi thi. Humare nabi ki bhi 11 shadian thein but you know woh sab aurat ko tahafooz dene kay liye thein but aik baat tou yeh hai kay aaj kal ki duniya but materialistic ho gai hai mard ki itni salary nahi kay woh do afford kar sakay aik say bhi kharache par larai chahlti rehti hai secondly ab bhi Jo mard dosri shadi karte hain apne say adhi umar ki ya 20 , 22 saal ki larki mangte hain yani Islam nay tou 4 shadi ki ijazat iss liye Di kay agar koi besahara bewa ya talaqyafta ho tou uss ko izzat do aur shadi karo but yahan hota kya hai kay unki chor kar kam umar mangi jaey gi

[@its_Daddy]

You'll also find widows and divorecess in early twenties and there's nothing wrong with marrying them. Prophet PBUH married widows and divorcesess except for one however you can check their ages as well. Besides, marrying someone young also means more children from them so there's that advantage as well.

[@MASTALAST]

zakmo par nakam chirk rah hu...aj. ''.....larkay b rotay ha esay rotay ha jesay abi bacha hu.

[@iramsabah6749]

I liked the the " domestic donkey "😂

[@alimalik9758]

Bhai full video link do yar pori video ek dfa post kia kro

[@mywork456]

You are great jnab 😘

[@aysha_shahid]

The argument doesn't make any sense. Agar koi aurat nhi chahti k wo apne husband ko share kare to it's her right. Ab ye gaslight karna k agr na karne do to basic human right violate hota hai. What about basic human right for a woman ...? Quran has clearly mentioned agar justice nhi kar sakte to 1 hi kafi hai. Aur log sirf financial justice pe hi focused hote hain jase aurat ki aur koi need nhi Hoti. This whole video was about gaslighting basic human right for woman and advocate man's lust trait. Ajeeb... Jab aurat se ye tawaqo ki jati hai k wo husband se loyal rahe to why can't woman expect same loyalty from her man?

[@Razahafeez786]

Biwi khuda nhi hy k sharing brdasht nhi kry gi.quran ko galat interpret na krn insaf tmam haqooq k liay hy jo zroriat aor respect hy but not love can b equal. Aorat ko bhi loyality ki pabndi nhi wo jb chahy khula ly skti hy.at a time usy 2 husbands ki ijazt just s liay nhi k bchy k nasb ko kesy mutayyn kia jay jb k mard ko ijazt hy. Aik biwi sirf love bond ki surt mn ho gi jo k hmary haan boht km hy.

[@aysha_shahid]

@@Razahafeez786 surely aurat khuda nhi hai aur na hi mard. Lakin agar 1 aurat comfortable nhi hai Tu us pe pabandi nhi hai k wo bardsht kare. Agra mard ko ziada shadio Ka shok hai Aur wo apne ap pe control NHI kar Sakta to discuss it before marriage and marry someone who will be comfortable. 1 larki ki zindagi ko trap Kar k us pe impose bhi nhi Kar sakte aur na is bat Ka haq İslam Deta hai mard ko.

[@hassanshafiq3347]

You're thinking from a woman's perspective only. Think from an Islamic perspective. What if a man says that he will only marry a woman that doesn't take her "Mahr'? All women would jump and say it's their right. What if a man says that the wife will be the provider and he will not provide in the marriage and stay at home? Loyalty is defined by Allah, not by women. Allah has done a Huge Ahsaan on women by limiting men to 4 wives and still women have a problem with it. If a woman doesn't want to be in a polygynous marriage, walk out. Islam has put doors open for both men and women.

[@WakqasAhmedOfficial]

​@@aysha_shahid "Lakin agar 1 aurat comfortable nhi hai Tu us pe pabandi nhi hai k wo bardsht kare." sister, bilkul bhi nahi hai pabandi aurat per, she can go her way and the brother can go his way. Khula aur Divorce ka rasta khula hai (unlike in other faiths). Submitting our will to Allah is what Islam is. We are require to consider it Halal even if we don't like it. It could be that you dislike something, when it is good for you; and it could be that you like something when it is bad for you. Allah knows, and you do not know. (Excerpt from Quran 2:216) Do you, then, believe in some parts of the Book, and disbelieve in others? (Excerpt from Quran 2:85)

[@aysha_shahid]

@@WakqasAhmedOfficial tell me where am I disbelieving verses of quran.? Is it not mentioned that if you can't justice then 1 is enough...? And of course. As I said above from where you picked line. If you want multiple wives then be clear about it before marriage. Discuss it with someone you are going to marry. If she is comfortable then go for it I'm not against polygamy where it is NOT IMPOSED.... But you people really pick verses from quran to justify your narrative which is totally absurd. Quran doesn't say that you have right to betray or impose something on your spouse with force. And if you say that you are not bound to be loyal to your wife then wife is not bound to be loyal to you either no matter you have 1 or 4. Nor expect them to be your servant at home for you and your family.... And on this matter You bring hadiths to justify that she will go to hell if she will not be submitted to you. And also. I want to mention kindly don't justify man's lust with "islamic perspective" argument. İslam regulated having multiple women for a reason.

[@sp1der_void]

معذرت کے ساتھ کہنا پڑے گا کہ جو مرد طلاق نہیں دے رہے لیکن زنا جیسے گناہ میں مبتلا ہیں،تو وہ درست دینی تعلیم اور تربیت سے کوسوں دور ہیں۔اگر مان لیں کہ اماں جی نے تربیت بہترین کی تھی تو غلط لوگوں میں رہ کر وہ شیطان کا پجاری اور نفس کا غلام بن گیا ہے۔

[@Star_Tec1]

1st wife possibily does not care if husband does Zina. Because she thinks he'll be responsible for his actions so she does not care. Actually, she will be asked on day of judgment for her thinking which resulted in another person's sin.

[@afsheenshaharyar1630]

پہلی بیوی پر الزام ڈالنے سے بہتر ہے کہ بات چیت کرے ۔سمجھا ٸے اور دوسری کا قدم خود اٹھاٸے۔ جب سربراہ ہے تو معاملات کو سنبھالے

[@usamasohail3294]

Tum jaisi jahil behaya aurte hi shohar ke dusri shadi se rok kar zina ko promote kar rahi ho aur yahan social media pe aake natak kar rahi ho nek banne ka..??

[@aaishkhan2153]

Samajh nahi aaya Sahil bhai.. Dobara samjhaaiye.. In detail.

[@zeeshanasghar9305]

Zadia baat urdu main Kiya karay

[@mrbeans9744]

did somebody just say domesticated donkey

[@maa-j6r]

Plz in urdu

[@salmahussain7621]

Domesticated donkey, 😂😂,true, man needs to be socially active for good upbringing of children, if he doesn't know anything how he is going to train his kids about ups and downs of life.

[@khilji143]

😯😯😯😯

[@afsheenshaharyar1630]

شوہر واقعی ماں سے جا کر بیوی کی ساری شکایتیں کرتا ہء

[@areejshams3253]

Dosri , teesri aur choathi shaadi se bohat sari ghareeb larkiyon ko maali sahara mil jata hai. Aur aulaad aur tahafuz bhi

[@shammo2225]

Bhai ye sub karega kon .. sahara kidar milta hai olta azaab ban jata hai … har kisi ka kam nhi dosare shadi karna .. wahi kare jo sambhal sakay …

[@shammo2225]

Sirf ghorbat say nikalny k liye shadi nhi ki jati or banda ak ko nhi sambhal sakta 3 4 ko kese sambhalega

[@mehwishnosheen8693]

Pehli bv aur pehli olad palny ki to oqat h nahi hmari society ky mardon ki

[@areejshams3253]

@@shammo2225 Jee sirf wohi kraay jo sambhal sakay. Aur jiski istetaat ho

[@areejshams3253]

@shammo2225 Ghareeb larkiyon ki shaadi nahi hoti tu sahib e istetaat mard jo qabil hoon aur insaaf krain woh unsay 2, 3 ya 4 shaadi krain. Aisay mard jo na sambhaal sakain woh na krain

[@farhanaqureshistories]

Indian movies ka asar hay😂

[@afsheenshaharyar1630]

سات نانیاں کیسے ؟ جب کہ چار جاٸز ہیں😊

[@usamasohail3294]

At a time 4 jayez hain....marne ke baad talaq ke baad ki hongi .. Muje nhi pata tha aap aurte itni zyda bewakoof ho aur kam aqal ho ... Lekin dusri shaadi pe aitraz aur faaltu daleel to aise deti ho jaise Mufti Azam ho ... Shukriya ye sabit krne ka ke ap jaisi aurte hoti ho bewakoof ho...

[@afsheenshaharyar1630]

ہمیں کہا جاتا ہے کہ اپنے شوہر کو قابو نہیں کرسکی

[@Star_Tec1]

Shohar koi animal hai ke qabi karna hai. 😂 Silly and non-sence norm created in our society.

[@usamasohail3294]

Unko kaho ke aapka shohar zina karega to kya vo log uske zina ki saza jhel lenge qaymat ke din.. Mahol ka mashre ka sochogi to phir zindagi kisi b maamle me nhi guzar sakti

[@bilal-1947]

sahil is jahil the way he speaks sahi baat bhi ghalat ho jati ha ajeeeb chawal agreesive personality ha

[@EnSabahNur-ir5mw]

lannat un sub par jo dusari Shadi karna Chahate Hain ahhhh thooo

[@FAST____]

Yeah honestly second marriage has No advantage for woman man can never understand fraction of her pain Thats why its not compulsory but nikah is better than gunnah but this is our test to control Nafs there are now many cases rather where men are not performing wives due rights Sir Adeem You must be logical in many ways but here seriously the peace one gets in one beautiful relationship its nothing with multiple partners and just like divorce it has complexities with children of multiple marriages only in some cases when wealth is maximum in household polygamy effects are less but emotional damage is too much man is a social animal why give it way Muslim Men should act like Prophet Yusef in character ( they can financially support other women as mothers and sisters role why by just making wives)

[@Razahafeez786]

Aor laanat un pe jo us kam ko bura kahin jo mry nabi s.w ny kia aor Allah ny mna nhi frmaya.usy galat kehny walon pe 10000 bar laanat. Thoo thoo thoo

[@Razahafeez786]

Jawaria! U r right but Adeem sir already asked about strong relation of Khadija r.a & Fatima r.a with their husbands.but in our society marriages ziada tr smjhoty hn.u know

[@3rah356]

​@@Razahafeez786 آپ نے حضور صلی وسلم کی شادی کو کیا سمجھا ہوا ہے ۔آپ کے خیال میں انہوں نے شادیاں اپنی ضرورت کے لئے کی تھی ؟ حضور صل وسلم کی شادیاں پولیٹیکل stability کی خاطر تھی . To keep unity among the Arab Tribes & other Tribal relationships.

[@EnSabahNur-ir5mw]

@@FAST____ You are absolutely right. Sahil Adeem is Brain dead in this case. He has no shame in preaching Zina in the name of Second marriage.

[@EnSabahNur-ir5mw]

Dusari Shadi 100% zina hai

[@areejshams3253]

QURAN SE QUOTE KRAIN KEH YE ZINA HAI

[@EnSabahNur-ir5mw]

@@areejshams3253 no need to quote anyone just use ur brain. It's 100% zina. One woman is only for one man. That's a universal law. The moment u involved another woman it's zina

[@hassanshafiq3347]

You don't want it, don't do it. But don't make something haram which Allah hasn't.

[@EnSabahNur-ir5mw]

@@hassanshafiq3347 it's haram 100% Haram

[@syedharis1906]

@@EnSabahNur-ir5mw Aurat par haath uthana halal ha

[@jamilahmedkhan2278]

Why women can not get multiple marriage

[@sensitiveperson6230]

Sir mjy ap sy ak msla pochna h ..plz give me contact no