Eckhart Tolle's Guide to Overcoming People Pleasing | Eckhart Tolle Explains

[@yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment to know; Awakening is not changing who you are, but discarding who you are not ✨

[@tinfoilhatter]

nonsense: i LOVE IT~

[@suraya1224]

@Your Calm Place: Why am I afraid to commit? Or maybe it's not the real me that hesitates, it's my ego, that dsnt want to be left behind?

[@amycus2129]

Definitely.

[@mbomam89]

I am not a monkey.

[@gavinallan7897]

Couldn't disagree or agree..

[@afternoonscoffeespoons4412]

I tried to fit in with friends & family for 30 years until eventually I came to terms with how stressed & dysregulated it made me feel. I couldn't truly be myself with them because they couldn't handle my difference. Through those years I questioned myself so much - am I avoidant/ anti-social/ what's wrong with me/ why can't I fit in/family & friends are important, shouldn't I make more effort ? This video is like balm to my soul. It helps me realise that there's nothing wrong with me just like there's nothing wrong with them, we're just on different paths and walking away is an act of self-love.

[@neogerula]

Well, I am rather avoided, even if being fond of people,of nature,harmony.But every ego seems to have his specific one :) Including that of myself,maybe:)I never thought I am isolating myself . Perhaps we are alike, more of us. Excepting coffee :) And, yess...Not anti social, just avoiding a distructive,not musical society.

[@megdz7783]

I did the same.

[@awesomeawesome3329]

So true i have felt just the same all along! I realized the less humans I have in my life the more happier i will be and it works!

[@christineoosthuizen4388]

​@@neogerula ... Also moved into a sacred space of solitude...

[@afternoonscoffeespoons4412]

@@christineoosthuizen4388 Yes it's sacred! Thanks for your uplifting comment

[@cinderelly2592]

When the connection with family is violent, you must step away for your own protection. Whenever I came to visit my sister, she would verbally strike out at me. When I got up to leave she would hit me . Many times she did this till at 65 when it happened again, I stepped away for my own protection. Took me a bit to understand why I seemed to provoke her. She’s very unhappy in her life and her jealousy and resentment of me was too much. I stepped away from my whole family. Now I have peace in my life. The Chaos is still there with them and I am glad I left it behind.

[@brushstroke3733]

You acted wisely and compassionately. God bless you all.

[@cavallopazzo340]

Sounds like your sister has narcissistic personality disorder. Mine acts in a similar way and I also needed to cut her off.

[@awesomeawesome3329]

Better late than never!

[@peterg6114]

The greatest teachers are the ones closest to us.

[@mariaridler1831]

Me too God bless you 😊

[@priyankareddy4582]

Wow.. This came at such a right time for me. I have been struggling with my family’s expectations and their constant comparison of me with my siblings, in terms of money, career and investments.. so much so that I started resenting myself and my family. However, I have different priorities - I don’t know if I can call myself “spiritually awakening”, but I choose to earn only as much as I need to live well, and use the rest of my time to do the things that make me happy. We have limited time on earth, what is the point in going on accumulating wealth only to realise later “Oh my life is over, I didn’t get to do anything I wanted.” I think this is the big picture view.

[@brushstroke3733]

I think you are living wisely!

[@kylegood2622]

Good Lord... Join the club🤣🤣♥️

[@derekdrums]

One of the best lines I've heard is "no one has ever said from their death bed, that they wished they had worked more".

[@phoenixrising5088]

No amount of money can buy happiness and spiritual awareness. Money is the root of all evil.

[@brushstroke3733]

@@phoenixrising5088 The actual saying is "the love of money is the root of evil." It's not money that is bad, or power - it is only attachment to these things that creates suffering. You are peace in any case and no matter what. Evil doesn't exist outside of the egoic mind.

[@yukio_saito]

So true. You are not responsible for their anger. They are just conditioned to get angry and it doesn't matter what you do.

[@yukio_saito]

They are improperly configured to get angry. It's a initial setting for them. They stick to the default because they are unaware of what to change and how to change an option.

[@fayvandunk8347]

They simply can't get beyond their conditioning.....

[@Heal_awaken_bliss]

Perfect timing I found this ! When the student is ready the master appears

[@ACIMwithGreg]

"You don't need to justify yourself."

[@jammyjay917]

Yes I keep saying we don't have to justify ourselves but yet the person who we are having problems with, just don't get it so I feel I have to tell her why we can't do something... total silence from her.... ❤️❤️

[@nomad_lifestyle81]

I quit my job at social security services in Austria six years ago. A job where its almost impossible to get fired. No one understood my decision and still when i look back it was the best decision ever. Since then my live got so much better and right now i work for six months and travel for six months every year. I can only advise you: be brave and move on 🎉🎉 its worth it

[@nataliasdomino]

No justifying and explaining. Just compassion 💖💖💖

[@bliss3655]

I am a teacher. Recently, I felt so tired and exhausted and I realized that I was trying so hard to make all the students happy. I felt responsible to make every one of them happy. Then , I realized I was kind of depressed somehow. I realized that I am a people pleaser.

[@taom9004]

Three decades of this cycle: Work like an insane person to try to be all things to all people then collapse for the holidays. But it's hard when the need is so great and you love them.

[@emelhymartinez7985]

that’s a huge step for you. Keep awakening to protect your energy

[@fida6166]

Yes dear. I am also accepting the fact that i am not responsible for the happiness of people around me.😊

[@livingwithclimatechange8195]

I am a teacher also. I feel the same way. I noticed other teachers not letting their job weigh heavy on them.

[@JEBBY123IFY]

This has been the hardest thing ever! After so much trauma and scapegoating, I was the one who left and changed and I am alone! So unfair and rue bitterness and hurt has been so hard! Anger and grieving, and before I die I want to have peace with it!

[@brushstroke3733]

"Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do."

[@banziimavusotv]

Sending you a hug. I'm sorry.

[@danielamoreira2435]

Sending you love my dear! I am going through the same as you . Know you're not alone ❤️

[@blackcat9100]

The moment one decides to choose God over money and prestige, one enters into conflict with the very fabric of our society. Thus some major disagreements are bound to happen. In fact, they are sure sign that one's moving in the right direction away from artificial structures built by our collective egos and back to our true home.

[@meeraraj0]

❤❤

[@mihaismarandache]

I feel guilty just because i feel that what i heard in this video is exactly what i was living. God bless you all and may we all find our way

[@CatBlue.Official]

💥🕉🙏No Blame Dear1♥️🎶🙏🕉💥

[@johnnjax9095]

Everything seems to be going wrong until I recently met Eckhart's teaching. What a different space I now have in my thoughts. I am a supervisor at work and after my crew had met with my superiors on how they don't like me and shared their discontent, I almost had a nervous breakdown. I was under the impression my work has been great by all. I'm still new with Eckhart, but just today, I've been at peace.

[@lanodramallama]

For a few years now I have been going through a very painful and difficult transition, after realising that my relationships were built almost entirely on guilt and obligation towards other people, which I suppose could be called people pleasing. I ended a perfectly 'good' romantic relationship, which was and sometimes still is tough. And I am working up to telling a very manipulative, possibly narcissistic, parent that I simply can no longer be who they want me to be. I'm not expecting it to go down well. But since the epiphany that kick-started this whole process, I cannot bear to compromise who I truly am anymore. To anybody struggling with this kind of transition, please know that it's OK, this is just you blossoming into the person you were meant to be on this journey, this is just you shedding the parts of yourself you no longer need. Yes, you may hurt other people in the process but to live authentically is way better than lying to others and yourself. Stay grounded, know thyself, and do your work, even when it's hard as hell. I believe in you 💪

[@mariaridler1831]

This is me, left most people behind 4 years ago as they won’t let me be me. I feel I’ve come out if my cocoon and am blossoming 😊 God bless you on your journey 🙏🙏💕

[@CBL-if8jr]

You wrote :" You may hurt other people..." E.Tolle :" Their c o n d i o n i n g ist what hurts them " I am in the process to accept that fact. *We are so very much conditioned that it is hard to realize that state of being conditioned to that huge extent* A hard a n d setting - free process.

[@susandrouin1243]

👏👏👏👏👍

[@lenakrupinski6303]

True, it's like focus on your energy that's what matters, if another person s energy is on a low frequency that's their energy !! But people do try and project their energy on to us , A lot of times it is unintentional as Eckhart says, it's their conditioned mind . If it's too toxic you must remove yourself for your own state of mind & keep vibes high !!! 🙏💓🙏🎁🙏💖

[@Thomakos]

​@@CBL-if8jrgood point, very important to distinguish those two different patterns. Guilt is what is hidden under the notion that we create suffering to others with our choices

[@swhite8381]

When you truly awaken these questions fall away . You see what’s behind every being and it is what it is

[@Anne_W._VerbundenSein]

Yes. And as long as you are not fully awaken such question arise. There is nothing wrong about it. We all are conditioned in a way or another.

[@swhite8381]

@@Anne_W._VerbundenSein and conditioning persists here. I don’t have much choice 😆 Although the questions are gone

[@juniamachado4773]

Pls guide me then!!!

[@juniamachado4773]

I d love some sharing!

[@swhite8381]

@@juniamachado4773 I can’t say anything about it , also it seems really funny to see people get on KZbin and try and teach what already is but Joan Tollifson is an excellent writer that I highly recommend . She is extremely clear She also has a web page where she recommends books and all the books she recommends are so good .

[@Jadechop]

Like many here, I’m living this especially with one sister right now. I’ve been spitting mad and resentful for days since I spoke to her for first time in a long time. “Compassionate acceptance” and recognize she’s still deep in her own conditioning and it has nothing to do with me.

[@marcellamiller7808]

This has been me with my dad . I’ve been soo angry with him recently . But I have to let it go and practice compassionate acceptance . It’s not easy but I’m going to try my hardest

[@thrivinginNL]

One of the most powerful concepts I discovered and work to embody is "what people think of me is none of my business."

[@b.m.8547]

I love Eckhart. He is such a gift to the world, and I love his hilarious sense of humor.

[@sagebay2803]

oh man! This was SO helpful. I left my family of origin b/c they were so controlling/religious, etc. I always felt different. Yet, I carried the huge guilt of having an amazing life while they stayed in their groups and never moved away. I can drop all of that now. Thank you so much for this video!

[@tinfoilhatter]

drop what? you think 'they' would appreciate that? just kidding: who cares, right?

[@GeriSzabadosMusic]

Let's go!! 🔥

[@vectorequilibrium4493]

Just accepting differences in who we are.

[@hhholly]

A lot of people are happy belonging in groups. It’s called group think. You are happy being dependent in a family system. I would die if that was my life. Some are happy being alone. Difference of personalities and needs.

[@noorsalem519]

I think you're judging them and you are not happy and nobody is perfect

[@annwornell7510]

To be blessed this lifetime to have the technology to sit indoors and listen to this incredible man, or read his books, is surely the BIGGEST blessing of this age of destruction, turmoil and fear. Eckhart Tolle has been a life changing, and hope bringing gift to us all. How VERY VERY blessed we who know about him are, Love and Light and Laughter to you all.

[@mariamitchell7096]

My God ! I cannot thank you more than anyone else on this page, tremendous blessings to you! Mr Tolle

[@myrablackburn7040]

Thank you Eckhart ! Such a beautiful and free place to be…to no longer need the acknowledgment of others, to be in Joy ❤😊❤😊

[@信祐下條]

I've just knew . My wife is living in so unhappy life .　I decided that I will never response unconciously for her blaming. Thank you so much.

[@angelh8262]

Eckhart Tolle is my saviour I am truly grateful for his healing and teachings he has literally given me not only my life but peace. As I lie in hospital awaiting surgery I feel nothing but the calmness and peace that acceptance and living in the present moment brings. Thank you dearest Eckhart 🙏❤️

[@theverhohnepeople8934]

May things go well for you!

[@angelh8262]

@@theverhohnepeople8934 Thank you 🙏❤️

[@colettespencer3357]

I pray you are healing❤

[@FaithfulandTrue949]

​@AngelH for God so loved the world He gave His only begotten Son that all who believe in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Your Saviour died for you, He loves you so much He suffered incredibly in this realm in the hope you would accept His gift and inherit paradise in the next realm after the illusion of death. Death is simply a doorway. Eckhart has great wisdom but is a created human of flesh, blood and sinues as we all are. When the enemy comes in to attack it is only God who can save you. I pray it is well with you beloved❤️🙏

[@Radmxray]

​@allthingsnewlife Amen. I'm sure they meant it in a different sense, not literal. I hope. Jesus is the only true Savior. Eckhardt is a guide and tutor, that I believe God gifted with knowledge.

[@leslie77]

I am a people pleaser too. The reason is I do not want to offend others. As a child in a complicated upbringing where ancestors are domineering, the young has no say. Brought up to seek validation from others. To be respectful even if I am wronged. To be very good in studies. When I was injured, a relative even wanted to give me a beating. Up till today, I still deal with others who are poor listeners who misinterpret words and are over sensitive to conversations. If I want to make them realise why others do not like them no matter where they go, I must talk in a discreet manner. It is hard work. I do enjoy quiet moments on my own. I learn to stop seeking validation. I detach my emotions from many things and learned to let go. I cannot expect people to know what is basic human rights.

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

You are a deep soul. May the universe be with you.

[@leslie77]

@@truffaut650truffaut6 Thank you. The Universe is with me, heard my words when I hit rock bottom. The Universe is with you too.

[@swhite1702]

Wise words. I've been completely totally misjudged by my close family, and it's painful, but seems impossible to change, so I just have to accept it's their problem, not mine.

[@FollowScripture]

100% agree...When we confront them with the truth it sounds like hate to those who can't handle the truth

[@marcellamiller7808]

I can relate

[@DenkyManner]

An idea I have been playing with recently is: never do anything motivated by trying to impress others. I think it holds true. If you work on yourself and be true to who you really are that is itself impressive. Doing things designed to impress is simping, the motivation is external, unstable and false. It can't become a habit, so be conscious about breaking that habit

[@markfuller]

Even if you do impress someone/everyone, it's impermanent. It won't last. You just set the bar higher for the mask you have to wear and convince others is real. The great irony is that everything that makes us happy (in the traditional sense) is a source of suffering because it won't last. There was a story of a man with a beautiful crystal cup. He adored that cup, the way the light came through it. One day his elbow knocked it off the table, shattering. He said "of course." He had already accepted that his cup wouldn't last. He enjoyed every moment he had it without craving it, and then being disappointed when it didn't exist anymore. Its destruction was part of what it was the whole time, and he appreciated his cup with that awareness. (Most people would have extreme disappointment at breaking their cup, blaming themselves every time they think of it.).

[@phoenixrising5088]

The only person you need to impress is yourself 😉.

[@charlesmiddleton3247]

Thank you Eckhart for this generous soul giving message! It's time for those of us... who have been the "punching bag" of the family, to divorce ourselves from the grip of those who can't see us for who we Truly are! It's a uniqueness that they don't understand and are not riding our vibration or frequency. Just move on and be the Best that you can be!! From a Vietnam Era Marine Corps veteran...

[@abbyblueco]

"Your happiness or fulfillment does not depend on any other human's acceptance of who you are."

[@hanshendrix1558]

A social crisis like a pandemic, war or a natural disaster makes everything more clear. It speeds people up towards more suffering, which is the main propellant of getting enlightenment. All this anger that is so manifest today is actually a good sign that human life will be much better for those that are suffering. I's the collapse of egoisticly conditioned thinking in yet another huge wave of human evolution. Towards long lasting peace on every level. Meditate togheter as much as you can is my advice. Thank you Team Tolle!

[@dianeyoung8068]

"Your happiness or fulfillment does not depend on any other human's acceptance of who you are. That would be a deluded thought."

[@deanneharrall1241]

I’ve read your reply over and over, it has sunk in, thanks for quoting it again. Deanne

[@williamdelong8265]

Thought is limited. Awareness is unlimited.

[@deehuntley1712]

When you are totally in the now, thoughts come to you but without judgement or opinions because those two things are tied to the present or the past. I do believe when I am truly present is when God speaks to me and I can listen and so any thoughts I have are coming from an awareness. I am learning the more I listen the words that do come out of my mouth are always the right ones for whomever is involved. My intention is always for the betterment. With Infinite Love and Gratitude, thank you for sharing.

[@queenrefiloe7287]

These talks are very interesting and very educational.thank you Eckhart, I keep reminding myself that no one owes me anything, everyone is living their own lives the way they know how

[@lindamutch191]

Judgment is an issue I watch very carefully. Is so freeing to step away from negative people. It took me by surprise when I did it. It was so much easier then I thought. Thank you Eckart Tolle for your ongoing teachings. You are a true Blessing in my daily life.

[@andrewlee1579]

Such a wonderful message of love and acceptance from Eckhart. A thousand times thank you!

[@DJ-ll4mq]

This is so true and the weird thing is, once that happens and they feel loved and accepted anyway, you end up mysteriously becoming closer and being trusted in a way that you never were before.

[@funnytv-1631]

The version of you that exists in the future deserves your belief.the version of you that exists right now deserves to be celebrated for all that you do.

[@aj_wuwei]

​@@Aapplebum it is a continuum

[@markfuller]

I want to commend you for saying something more thoughtful than "first!" :) Not sure I agree with your axiom. Usually "your future you deserves belief" turns into preoccupation with the future, believing enough, every little detail as rosary beads (a superstitious participation in something that isn't real, doesn't depend upon your belief for what it is -- or will be.). What does belief in your future you do for you (now, or then)? What happens if your future you doesn't get what it deserves? In some ways I can see a point to this. We can't be entirely disregarding of the future. It's responsible to brush our teeth in the present moment to avoid future dental bills & pain. Or, to save for old age. But, often reasonable thoughts/belief in the future are crowded out with idealizations, expectations, identifying with what will be in a way that isn't real (and crowds the present moment, so that we don't really live in it now. And, we didn't live in past moments because we were too bush giving this present moment what it "deserves" before it became real. You know?).

[@tinfoilhatter]

oh yeah? ask me if i care, next year, right?

[@tinfoilhatter]

@@markfuller i think the point is, fool me once, then we can talk: fool me again, and you've got-a-friend~

[@blc-un3wt]

I'm stopping to trying to make them to understand me. It's so tiring and stressful. This video came at the right time for me because it's exactly what I've been through in the moment. I'm just hand it all over to God, because from my part, there is nothing i can do about my situation and other people anymore. It's exactly what he said. To show people their own ego just work to streghnten it even more. When you stop trying, things can change.

[@FollowScripture]

Yep 100% agree

[@marcellamiller7808]

I agree wholeheartedly. Recently decided to stop explaining myself and spiritual things to ppl . It’s stressful and tiring . I’m just gonna live my life and let it do the talking 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@danj9339]

A partners (or other close persons) ego can be dependant on sucking energy from the other. When that drained person starts awakening and the drama stops, the energy drainers ego can't stand it and becomes very uncomfortable and even more crazy without its energy source.

[@janeizard3653]

Divine timing. I’ve been struggling to get along with one of my sisters… such a relieve to hear this… thank you so much for sharing your wisdom ❤

[@fealrms]

Had so many seperations. But everytime there are other human beings who fits you😍. Sometimes it feels lonely to. But you are never alone. 💃🏻😍

[@wilcoats2705]

Less about People Pleasing and more about “Navigating how your close relationships evolve as you awaken spiritually”

[@tinfoilhatter]

dang: wanna talk about it? i sense that you have much to say, my friend: seriously: sometimes we might have no real idea until someone actually asks, y'know?

[@jetpark3743]

Watching this before I start my boring job waiting for a late train and crazy boss

[@roxannamarinak3156]

I agree totally with what you are saying . I find this to be totally true. Self love is accepting that you can not please everyone.but accepting them as they are. i love your words.

[@AB-C1]

Excellent video, thanks. My family don't talk to me at all anymore! Parents or Sibling. So Narcissistic.. it's heartbreaking as I've tried so many times to move forward despite what they've done to me, but they are not interested! It started with my brother and then drive a wedge between myself and my parents by brainwashing them after distancing from them and then his kids aswell later on for 20+ years in total, but once he divorced decided he still didn't want to have ANYTHING to do with me but used his kids to drive the wedge between myself and my parents! It's pretty sick tbh. I'm now the outcast black sheep of the family through no Real fault of my own, (aside from suffering a bad run of bad luck which led to chronic depression, (which also led to my spiritual awakening 4years ago) but instead of family support to get through the hardship and Suicidal Depression, got blamed and cut off instead! Told to "go kill myself & do everyone a favour" (by my own brother!!) Who then came between myself and my parents.. so been totally alone for 3 years! But what can I do!? - They're not interested! It's so heartbreaking I cannot even put into words. I don't hold grudges (but they do) regardless it's their fault mostly. Anyhow, thanks for making me realise I'm not the only one who had these family issues! Thanks from London 👍🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧☯️♾️✝️🙏

[@nycgweed]

You not the only and it’s my 2 brothers that have done the same and it’s hurts Build your own family like I did and make sure not to make the same mistakes

[@mariaridler1831]

You’re not alone it happened to me too, all my life I’ve been the scapegoat, trouble. I walked away 4 years ago and started a new life. Left marriage too. I’m becoming my true self and i think I like her. Not far from you in Surrey. Sending positive vibes 🙏🙏

[@Eekyellie]

I really hope these teachings help you. Very best wishes.

[@nycgweed]

My siblings parents and most of humanity would calls me lazy because I don’t work as much as they do to buy things I don’t need ! I don’t care most of the time but they do go out of there way to bring me down and feel guilty so thank you mr ekhaart I know what needs to be done

[@lindyloo7177]

This could have been personally made for me ❤️‍🔥 My headband with speakers ran out of charge so I couldn’t listen to Eckart’s podcasts which I love. I was hungry for food and came across this particular episode quite by chance, or maybe not 🕉 My life seems to be changing going becoming more spiritually aware. It is like I’m going through a process of rebirth ❤️‍🔥 Eckart is most definitely a channeller of light.

[@lenakrupinski6303]

This is one of my favourite videos , it's so true. I don't see my family anymore as I can't be myself , I have to pretend to be something in not , which takes too much energy .!! I'm considered the Eccentric one , crazy . Actually I think I'm fairly sane in a mad world as I want to know who I am & why I'm here & what is this place? 🙏🌌🙏💙🙏💞

[@Omnipresence101]

" I was created in love. For that reason nothing can express my beauty nor liberate me except love alone." Mechtild of Magdeburg

[@Nurturing2]

Feels like you are sharing my story. It’s still nice to feel validated by a spiritual great such as yourself❣️ YOU are so very loved!!! ❤️♥️❤️ Thank you, Elkhart!!!

[@felicitymorse6421]

What I find really difficult is why awakening is so painful 😢 I would love for Eckhart to address this more. It seems like the more I awaken the more pain body there is. I think Kim is good at this. I’d also really love to listen to her or him talk about betrayal

[@George_Climbs]

"the more I awaken the more pain body there is" - maybe "the more of it you finally allow yourself to recognise"? How's it going three months on?

[@diannebarrett5580]

Thank you, this was so helpful ❤️ Something I need to try and remember instead of continually rewinding the hurts experienced from childhood and continue to this day. My Mother just turned 90 and although we speak several times a week and I feel quote connected with her, if we come together with my Sisters I can feel the distaste and unpleasantness in the air 😢 I suppose everyone wants and needs to feel valued by their family but my Dad was the only one who truly "got" me and now he has passed I feel this more deeply ♥️

[@Debs785]

I totally relate to you. I am happy that I am at the stage you relate too, and feel empathy for the person that I am relating too. It’s a gift to get to this stage in which I totally appreciate.

[@michaelandreasen554]

I follow a few sides on KZbin and i notice that the things that are spoken about are excactly what is happening in my life right now…. Syncronicity i think, but it happens every day ❤️

[@grumgrumosaur]

I feel this too! I don't think it is a coincidence :)

[@afternoonscoffeespoons4412]

Me too! It just happened to me with this video. It comforts & reassures me & tells me I'm on the right track, I see it like feedback from the universe 👍

[@mariatheuns550]

My father understood me better than I understood myself. Now, I begin to understand that. And it makes me smile.

[@mariatheuns550]

People are talking about negative experiences, in general. But I have witnessed love so often in my life. In spite of the hell we are living in, love manages to survive and thrive.

[@mariatheuns550]

I was so angry with my eldest brother, I didn't even want to speak with him anymore, and now, love has united us. I would say: the conflict has united us.

[@evelynramos445]

Thank you, in their time not necessary in time, its mighty time. we are not responsible for waking.

[@Newfoundmike]

Everyone is doing the best they can from where they are on their Path . Even the least spiritual person is on a Spiritual path

[@Gaurav.P0]

Real spiritual wisdom in one video 😍

[@FASTFASTmusic]

This is exactly why EVERYONE needs to figure it out for themselves. 30 years i looked and laughed at the idea of "self help" while i slowly dwindled, became a prisoner to my vices and my mind. I was obese and sad, my music composition career didn't take off as planned I was about to quit and go back to working in kitchens. But then then I had my awakening after contemplating suicide. I felt peace...I immediately quit my vices, alcohol and nicotine and was absolutely delirious for about 6 weeks I tried to explain it to people but they were just all happy that I felt better... And then I discovered this guy who explained absolutely everything that happened to me and how can I not believe what he says so now now I'm putting my website back together and I've just scored my first movie.

[@lll1955]

Благодарю Экхарта Толле! Смотрю с переводом (субтитры). В любом видео нахожу полезное для себя!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@amyhodges5464]

I don’t know where I would be without the wisdom of Eckhart Tolle - or the wisdom that flows through Eckhart Tolle - I just realized both statements are probably true- regardless, I’m forever thankful 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@toen444]

Thank you. Right time for me. I feel this first. I don’t try to explain with family. I’ m in silence. And love them by the way I can. I know I think different, I see different. That is it. ❤ Sometimes I angry. But I always can take back to love

[@rebeccaslater1398]

The true words of wisdom. Thankyou Echart.

[@anthai1741]

I’ve just categorized my condition was a people pleaser since yesterday. I’ve been suffering it over the last 25 years and now I’m looking for solutions to overcome the situation. Though I think the main idea of the video is how to live harmonize with people who have different mindsets, It really helps me in some aspects. Thank you❤

[@PiggoNZ]

Eckhart, I love you and I will be grateful forever for your teaching

[@gypsyrose2720]

This is absolutely brilliant advice , guidance and teaching.... what a fantastic approach to the dysfunctional family dilemma in this world...thank you for your ever giving loving heart messages.. sincere, frank with such a gentle delivery💌

[@Cristian-hs3ff]

Man this man’s words are wise, loving hearing him speak

[@olgajensen3005]

Be loving, compassionate and kind; accept and understanding to others🙏🏻

[@s.m.4198]

I can so relate to this, especially from my sisters.

[@magdan3162]

Wow! This is the best explained way to forgive and heal!💝

[@eddy1210]

Eckhart, thank you for this specific talk, it’s exactly what I needed to hear and I feel like a weight was lifted! You are amazing 😊

[@ryanw8613]

Feel exactly the same! Humongous weight lifted.

[@shadowmerm6205]

Whenever I’m myself people look jarred at first but then I know it’s right and fun

[@Godislove225]

Well said just like Jesus, I walked today in nature today, what a rest, first walked. Then sat on a bench for 1 hour looking at nature and people, etc.

[@Myshelisgold]

So grateful to have read this now. Synchronicity at it's most beautiful❤

[@abbyblueco]

I feel like you were speaking directly to me.

[@laugregall8286]

Heaven sent message 💚 following a misunderstanding with my sister today.. I struggle with this shear selfishness and motivations of my unawakend sis who has become driven by money and status.. Her demands on me are purely selfish.. Unfortunately today it became clear on how the divide has become so big.. I have allowed this to affect me today and as someone who is not easily triggered now, I have cried lots.. I will send her love with my before sleep meditation.. I have been listening to. Your teachings for over 15 years now.. Forever grateful for your guidance 🙏💚💚💚

[@JasunKness]

When we align ourselves with truth, we are automatically in service to others. And of course, the truth may be what they do not want to be part of. And in that case we must let them be as offended as they like until they awaken from ignorance.

[@veraintuizione6497]

SO wise... Indeed it is exactly like that...If we are on the spiritual path the acceptance of the fact that one can be not accepted should be accepted.... True inner freedom is acceptance, surrendering to what happens....✨💓🙏✨

[@rocioguevaraobando9075]

Maestro Eckhart: Muchísimas gracias! 😊🙏💚

[@seamusheaney8382]

This is very timely. And very welcome. Thanks and appreciation from London.

[@craitaianos6953]

Thank you, Eclhart.

[@samuraisaint2360]

When your doing what you love , it’s easy to not be a people pleaser

[@tinfoilhatter]

THANK YOU, MISTER, OR MISS-KNOW-IT-ALL~ [haha, thanks, thanks]

[@mihailmihailo]

U cant always do what u love , sometimes situation requires us to do whats needed which may not be what we love to do . But still we can do whats needed and not needing to please anyone

[@tinfoilhatter]

@@mihailmihailo true enough: if that's whatcha-wanna-settle-for: but as for me, i still remember how it was before... and i am holding back the tears-no-more...

[@danijel00ful]

but, what if you love to be people pleaser?

[@samuraisaint2360]

@@danijel00ful I think that’s okay , as long as your not pleasing the wrong kind of people that will get you into trouble.

[@ramthian]

Thanks teacher 🙏

[@Ayhaninho892]

I am fed with my dreams and likings coming up short, for 35 years. No partner, no good friends, people I „had to“ support. For what ??? That‘s why I‘m here.

[@phoenixd9679]

Really you are GOD send exactly what I am needing now what emotional morning I had!😢🥰🙏 thank you 💜

[@petra3049]

When you wake up you are now just different in how you walk through the world. What I realize though is you must accept where others are at and not get into judgement you have to accept where they are at. If we start to judge then we have gone back to sleep again. ❤❤

[@Odaat2-18]

Thank you Eckart. Always healing no matter what you discuss.

[@annettegutkind]

❤ it’s very tough - boundaries are needed as well if there is toxicity….

[@jimmytheeJTW]

I've noticed how the silence point coincides with the Carlos careened and dovetails with the Don Juan sorcerer techniques.

[@aflaz171]

Ah, there are occasions where some will need to be cut out all together. If you believe because you're on a spiritual path and are above walking away, you are going to be unhappy. In my case, I have walked away from a family member who is making me terribly unhappy. Honestly counts, you are not above this because you seek stillness and unconditional love. Sometimes, this action will be needed.

[@daodejing81]

I needed to cut away from my mother. It's one thing to be asleep. Quite another to be mean-spirited. Projection Gaslighting Lying Denying facts Disrespect There is a time to stay, and there is a time to go.

[@tinfoilhatter]

have you spoke with her lately? she says she wishes you'd call... [yeah, yeah, don't-tell-me... so does mine... i wouldn't make a very good mother, i guess... but i have the very best... hey, you and me both, i guess~]

[@daodejing81]

@tinfoilhatter It never matters what others wish, it matters only that you follow your inner guidance. Absence is a gift. It is a death. Death always brings renewal, rebirth, greater depth, eventually. All is well, always.

[@tinfoilhatter]

@@daodejing81 thanks, mom... could you please tell her that, and that i love her {like as if she doesn't know that, right?} [i'm tellin' her now, thanks, thanks]

[@Angel17-]

We have twin mothers I walked away from mine years ago when she started treating my children the same way . I never looked back and have had lots of therapy since and self work . Finally feel acceptance of my experiences and what I learned from them , it’s helped me release the trauma . Meditation helped lots brought floods of tears out but so much relief ❤

[@daodejing81]

@Angel1 Your inner guidance will never mislead you. Each one has his path to travel, his lessons to learn. We all enter the material realm with roles to perform. They, along with the diverse energies of the material realm, catalyze our awakening. See the gift. It is hidden behind the appearances and the drama. From the energetic field of my father came the gift of meditation. From the energetic field of my mother came the gift of the destruction the ego, the gift of death. The suffering is within. It only appears to be caused by an outside agent. Thank you for your comment.

[@JodyFidelis]

❤❤❤ The next message you need is always right where you are. Thank you, Eckhardt…you dropped in at the perfect time this morning with my current family issues. 😅

[@tinfoilhatter]

for you? NO SOUP-FOR-YOU~

[@meeraraj0]

6:10 There's an essence in them that's lovable 😊

[@vandanachandekaranand8448]

I needed this right at this moment. Thank you Lord for the right message at the right time 🙏

[@ManifestationsOfTheLight]

We’re All awake in our own Way

[@Jade-wb6fd]

Yet again, this is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in my life. You keep uploading content that aligns with my life

[@RayT70]

I wish ET had talked more about stopping people pleasing and less about living with unenlightened people when I finally get enlightened ...

[@krysiapatrzalek8622]

I am no more or less evolved than members of my family , and what you are saying is helping me to evolve and not blame myself I have limitations they do not have

[@tinfoilhatter]

your 'limitations' are , in-large-part, what makes you so irresistible, love, use it or-lose-that~

[@madelinewang8174]

I love his sharing deeply and it seems right on time to see this video. Thanks a lot.

[@percymak]

Thanks a lot. This advice is timely and exactly what I need right now.