Effective Communication Skills

[@alexanderlyon]

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[@cynthiawhite8868]

0 so good.

[@cristyfailagmao7463]

Very helpful!!

[@rimabd5654]

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[@fit_gma5658]

Whenever I communicate it's very unorganized. I can tell by the look on their face. In my search for help, I found this video. Thank you!

[@NCN358]

Me too

[@dignan193]

Me too. Unorganized is a great way to put it.

[@TonyaToniTone]

Omg I get the same looks

[@Incognegroooooo]

I thought I was the only one

[@brendat4258]

Same!

[@boostmobile9249]

Pauses, processing topic. Dialogue, Room for discussion about topic. Fair. Fair, Fair enough. Key ideas. Key ideas, key ideas.

[@reDrawn19]

Even if you won't apply all this, whatching it allready prepares you for conversations. It generaly makes me feel better and gives me a sense of freedom when going somewhere, having the idea I'm 'prepared'.

[@pip.turner]

0:00 - Intro 0:34 - Lesson 1: Long Windedness 5:50 - Lesson 2: Concise Overall Message 12:40 - Lesson 3: Concise Sentences 20:10 - Lesson 4: Organised Thoughts 28:04 - Lesson 5: Effective Pauses 33:10 - Lesson 6: Avoid Fillers 37:41 - Lesson 7: Confident Nonverbals 42:52 - Recap

[@zea.6723]

Thanks a lot and God bless you!

[@marleymarley9584]

Nice

[@raquelapicella3]

My reason for my long-windedness starts from my childhood my mother and brother didn’t believe anything I had to say. My answers included facts, other opinions, my opinions and reasonings. At 39, now I understand this and why I was always soo tired.

[@worldcomingtoanend]

did u get it fixed? am 44 and am exactly like that, very long winded coming from a history of distrust.

[@WindsongSoundBath]

I can relate!

[@nukavarapusrikrishna714]

I too relate how to overcome from that

[@theranasaini]

Being able to communicate effectively is one of the most essential skills to learn.

[@alexanderlyon]

Yes, agreed. Thanks for your comment.

[@zz-qd6qt]

What if you have a learning disability? Define "a social situation."

[@DewiiAljoe]

Yes I agree

[@許靜婕-l4h]

There are so many videos about communications but only you speaking in a pace that I, a non-native speaker of English, can understand clearly. You really do what you taught.

[@Autie222]

Long winded girl here! Ugh, totally because I think it’s adding value, I need to reign it in! Embarrassed about literally every encounter I’ve ever had now.

[@Matt1473r]

Your channel is probably one of the most Important channels I have come across please keep on doing what you do. Many of us don’t have great social skills and we need to grow in this area

[@RD-wn1us]

I just realized how remarkable it is that we have to learn to speak plain English again to be an effective communicator.

[@lbatton3732]

Wow! This is great! There is an internal aspect about communicating. So many things happen internally that cause people to talk the way they do. Excellent!

[@Zinksk8er]

Much appreciated, I feel like I have strong thoughts that need to be heard, but I don't have the practice in expressing them the right way.

[@Mrs.Yates0417]

i am in the same boat

[@duduhgu6873]

Same here!!!

[@loriedelvillar3785]

You are an Answered Prayer, I have been praying to find a video that can help me in these specific areas, I have struggled with these areas all my life. (47 yr) YOU'RE writing and your video was suggested on my feed. I AM BEYOND THANKFUL!!!! THANK YOU FOR TAKING PART OF YOUR TIME TO POST THESE VIDEOS...!! Thank you!!!!

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful, Lorie.

[@All4MyJesus]

I really like Mr Lyon's video. I saw it on AARP SCSEP Senior remote training while waiting for a PT assisgment with a non-profit. I have known for years I have some issues with this and know God has been helping me. Good thing about God He brings them back to me in another way when one way doesn't work. I know it's NOT about me and this hasn't been the problem. I am relizing I do not have to always be talking. I need to fill that nervousness or slientness with listening or thinking before I speak which God says in His word in Proverbs everywhere. He has been giving me His word and people like Mr Lyon to be open and Honest with me so I can communicate better with others, especially people in my church and around me from day to day. I know this is going to come in handy of how I repsent the Gospel as well. I really wish I could copy and paste these lessons as I can't write fast enough to get all he is saying so I will have to watch this over and over again. I thank God and I thank God for Mr Lyon and others who have been patient with me over the years and ask those who know me and may read this to forgive me as I never meant any harm. Blessings. Trust God No Matter What as He know what you need before you ask🥰

[@willieward7419]

This is by far one of my favorite videos. Alex, you are so clear while using all the tips contained within. I love it. Thank you again.

[@bwilsonbp]

Alex' advice about written and oral communication is invaluable. I use his videos frequently in my speech communication and public speaking classes.

[@RD-wn1us]

Thank you, Alex. After watching this in one go (hooked), I realize why I suck at communication. I am guilty of most of the mistakes mentioned here. I am not a native speaker yet I possess extremely good vocabulary however I stumble when I do presentations, I'm long winded and I do fillers like mad. I think insecurity is one root cause for long windedness no doubt, also relevant is the fear of sounding impolite. It is a delicate balance being concise but not being disrespectful especially when presenting to senior management. In any case your point is very valid but needs lots and lots of practice. Also it would be nice if we had the takeaways listed somewhere too for easy reference. Also don't worry about some of the negative feedback out here, you're doing a great job. Cheers.

[@alexanderlyon]

Hi, Zero Zuba. Thanks for offering details on your habits. I'm glad the videos are helpful. You're on the road now and you'll get better as you practice.

[@LilyAmongThorns]

I think higher education might also be partially to blame. Having to write long winded dissertations with a minimum number of words conditioned me to fill up my talks with unnecessary words so I would meet the minimum word count requirement.

[@Charity-vm4bt]

@@alexanderlyon Toastmasters is often used by non-native speakers who strive for excellence. Many Californians automatically repeat the same statement three times. They think they are adding depth but they are putting people to sleep.

[@kingtexaz7653]

I utilized my entire existence constructing the perfect vernacular… I spent my whole life working on my words! I feel the difference already 😂

[@phoebexxlouise]

The main reason people say Um and Ah is to stop others from interrupting them before they've finished. When I cut these words from my sentences and had my pauses at the ends of my sentences, people would butt in before I was ready. But there are people in my family whose pauses are only ever in the middle of a sentence and you can never get a word in. It's a tactic they use to dominate the conversation and turn it into a monologue.

[@voice-of-deliverance]

One of the most relevant communications training I have encountered online. Thank you Alex.

[@victorJ2050]

Man this is gold. You are giving out such awesome content for free. I love your presentation and the clear concise message. Preach what you practice. Thank you.

[@alexanderlyon]

I appreciate that, Bijay. Glad it was helpful.

[@piggybox]

Thank you! Friends of mine always tell me I'm talkative and I have taken that as a compliment about my ability to "never let the conversation stop". Now I'm thinking twice about it.

[@alexanderlyon]

I've never heard you personally, but it may be that they mean you talk more than necessary. If that is the case, I recommend you also work on listening. I have a few videos on that too.

[@piggybox]

@@alexanderlyon Great! Thank you again!

[@justwalkinit]

OMG!!! Thank you! Right out of the gate! I am so long winded. I go around the world to explain things. My problem is I give too much detail.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it helped!

[@NCN358]

Am also the same .. Too much detail.

[@1cutiepie_official]

I watched this video and today it's still a masterpiece, I learned a lot from this video.

[@alexanderlyon]

Thank you! I'm glad you found it helpful. It's a bit of an older video but the ideas don't change much.

[@boostmobile9249]

Dopamine RUSH feels really GOOD, INVIGORATING, THRILLING, ENJOYABLE, HAPPINESS, SHARING MY KNOWLEDGE & EXPERTISE!!! CONFIDENCE POWERS, STRENGTH TO SUCCEED. LONG WINDEDNESS JOY!!!

[@ravilobo7977]

This is so awesome! Can't imagine, it's 7 years old, and didn't show-up in my feed. Thank you so much sir.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad you enjoyed it! I hear you. I'm surprised at how many views this video still racks up every day.

[@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64]

I use, "um, uh, I just wanted to, like, soooo..." Thanks for this course. I'm a new subscriber.

[@alexanderlyon]

Welcome aboard!

[@lazytocook]

this lesson was actually concise and to the point. very rare for me to complete such tutorials but i just did. thanks.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful!

[@AghaDurraniSignal]

After few minutes, I am very much impressed and watched all seven videos in first session.

[@alexanderlyon]

Keep it up!

[@noli-timere-crede-tantum]

Great presentation. Thank you! One point: smiling. "confident people smile" 41:50. I can think of a lot of very powerful leaders/speakers who don't smile, yet, convey very powerful messages. Not saying they particularly look "friendly," but they sure do sound confident when they speak, even though the last thing you'll see is them smiling.

[@alexanderlyon]

Good point, Rodrigo. I've seen that too. Looking powerful is not the same as looking confident, especially in a semi-social situation. Powerful, intimidating, etc., that's another thing. Plus, the research does show that (even though some people don't do it) smiling makes us look more confident, intelligent, etc. There are exceptions to the rule but I usually go with the research unless there's a great reason not to. But, your point is well taken.

[@itsshridhar]

The first video on communications that jumps straight to the point. Thank you.

[@alexanderlyon]

Ha. Thank you. That's my whole deal. Feel free to visit the channel. This video here is one of my oldest ones.

[@itsshridhar]

@@alexanderlyon Thank you prof. Do you offer practical exercises in these courses?

[@willieward7419]

I love and agree totally with your instructions. Perhaps this should be recommended for all public speakers. Thank you so much.

[@dionytejada3268]

Excellent advice. Communication is crucial for conversations with any audience. Practical information for all of us who struggle with proper, clear, and concise communication skills. Loved the helpful tips and strategies, too!

[@rachidelmaouli2891]

When you love what you are doing then 100% you will exceed in it.

[@lehuang1924]

I lost my job opportunity in the last year because of poor communication skills. Now I will have this interview again. Hope I can succeed.

[@alexanderlyon]

I hope it goes better this time for you.

[@lehuang1924]

Communication Coach Alex Lyon good news. I got my job now!!!

[@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64]

I like this course very much! Thank you for presenting it. I've noticed that people use the word "utilize" when they're trying to sound like an intellectual. Utilize means to use something in a way that it wasn't intended for.

[@Voipbusinesshq]

Effective communication is the key to success. Businesses need to train their employees, especially customer service agents, in effective communication skills and use advanced communication systems like VoIP. This video is very informative in this aspect.

[@caithmaca8341]

This is very helpful since I'm still working on my Communication Skills.

[@rajbahadur665]

Narrator has nailed the content with this presentation - its very useful and inspiring. Thanks for this wonderful video

[@harpertai4661]

Thank you Alex. This video is really helpful. As a pre-service teacher, my mentor told me me that I need to speak more concisely. I’ve learnt a lot from this video.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful, Harper.

[@GeoScientist121]

This is such a great course. Thank you for making it free to watch. I'll update on how it worked for me.

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm glad you're getting some benefit out of it, Purna. Thank you for commenting.

[@MinhNguyen-ic5lk]

I'm super grateful for this lesson. Really appreciate it and wish you all the best with more great contents like this. Cheers.

[@singha6]

Great video and tips! I’m glad you discussed the irritating habit of ‘uptalk’. All the US movies have it and people think that is the way to speak!

[@Hisoka.44]

Will definitely continue to use this to improve my communication. Thank you for having this up for free!

[@alexanderlyon]

You're so welcome, Hisoka.

[@samiraghiti4003]

I struggle to structure my conversation, and I'm working on this at the moment. this video really helps. Thank you!

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful, Samira.

[@WizardOfCheese]

1:45 i'm over-talkative when drunk, i can communicate a lot better too. when sober i can over-talk but it not be as organised. i do think its more to do with being excited to chat, feeling good in the moment, wanting to share info i know to benefit the other for sure. then when im sober i guess im more sceptical of people and less willing to give knowledge away as freely. its a strange one. ego and confidence defo play a part. if someone isnt responding to what im saying i'll keep talking and add more layers for people to respond to. with some people this works, with others they just consume and don't give anything back and only respond when asked.

[@willieward7419]

I love this presentation. I believe too much information in today's world leads to shutting down or zoning out. Great coaching.

[@sunvaj6754]

Alex, everytime I watch your videos I always learn something. This is an exceptional topic.. Thank you and I really appreciate your sharing.

[@alexanderlyon]

I appreciate that, Sun.

[@hueman8993]

I started working for a large, very "corporate" company not long ago. It was interesting to realize that most of the employees there have a communications degree (I studied science). I've noticed some of the techniques you mention. Your video will help me climb the ladder while I'm there haha.

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks for sharing, John.

[@willieward7419]

Alex, this is one of the most informative and hopefully emulated videos I've ever seen. Thank you.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful, Willie.

[@Bodyvoiceme]

Hi, You could actually talk about anything under the sun. You walk the talk so coherently that I could implement your advice immediately. Thank you so much. Have a great Easter.

[@alexanderlyon]

Thank you, Miriam. I appreciate it.

[@kristenwaite5955]

It makes perfect sense that you’re a Comedians In Cars fan. Every episode is a master class in concise, engaging communication. (Of course, the editors probably have a little to do with it…)

[@alexanderlyon]

Yes, I love that show. I've been of fan of Seinfeld's since before he had his original hit show. I used to watch him on comedy specials in the mid-80s.

[@katherine836]

You deserve million subscribers on this channel. ❤️ Really helpful course 👍

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks. I hope we get reach that milestone!

[@digiexploration530]

The lesson on pauses rocked my world. Didn't know about that...

[@alexanderlyon]

So glad it was helpful, Jay.

[@KyleSweigart]

Thanks Alex. Really informative and much needed for my career switch. Have a great day!

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks, Klye.

[@mannys9130]

I'm long-winded and I talk too much because I fear not explaining things clearly enough or not properly. I tend to give background info to make things more clear, and my boyfriend tells me I often repeat things in a different way. I have ADHD and I think that is a primary cause. I also LOVE to learn why and how. If someone tells me not to do something, my first response is to ask why and what reasoning generated their opinion or determination. So when I tell someone something like that, I give a reason. I'm learning now that sometimes people simply don't care what the reason or mechanics are that backs the opinion. "Don't shift into drive while the car is still rolling backwards." That's all some people care about. They just say "Oh, ok!" I will likely go on to say "Some parts of the transmission are meant to only move one way or do one things, and when you shift to the opposite direction while moving you physically force the parts to go the other way and it damages them. A sprag and drum band are good examples. And always use your parking brake because the weight of the car falling and resting on the parking pawl stresses it out a lot and you may break it off one day. In a crash with a parked car, the pawl will break and the car will roll away. If the pawl is supported by the parking brake, it won't roll away into other cars or houses." I guess I should just give the statement and only continue to explain if asked. 😔

[@stephanewilfriededing59]

Interesting bakground and info, yet this response was long-winded. How would you sum it up in 3 sentences?

[@janemkade3488]

Thanks Alex jst landed Free masters class😅😅😅😅 , my communication skills are being shaped day by day. Great Job 👍👍👏👏👏

[@ilmalabella]

Thank you for opening my eyes and ears more and more on what i see hear and feel,............God Bless you and your work too !!

[@hakim1706]

Thank you for this Alex. I can absolutely use this at my work. Please make a video about giving constructive feedback and how to effectively talk with managers If you haven't done yet.

[@chingu1425]

Absolutely true, coaches should be watching this

[@ArunBamania]

This is an incredible video for people looking to improve their communication skills. Thank you, Alex.

[@amitgoswamimca]

I discussed these with my mentor who is from the UK. She also pointed out that I had problem in my communication. Nervous as the task seems challenging

[@LGTrees]

Pauses- when introducing yourself to a new acquaintance- State your first name (pause) state your last name. The pause causes the listeners brain to engage the “listening” mode

[@GMB2024-o5r]

Learning from you all the way from Ghana🇬🇭

[@alexanderlyon]

Ghana! Nice to meet you. I'd love to go there someday. I'm in New York state.

[@salvadorvenegas-escobar1388]

Thank you. I always find your videos not only rich content wise but also well explained!

[@user-anot53ou1]

Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. Your videos have given me valuable tips and tricks to build my communication skills. I am truly grateful.

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks for the positive feedback!

[@alphamegaradio]

This is excellent, Alex! Long-winded and disorganized thought tendencies are my weaker points. Keep up the good tip videos

[@ThePdoyle]

never leave comments yet need to give this and your other videos credit for my improvement; work in progress. Follow Alex's advice: "view these over and over"; helps learning. thank you!! (how was that? lol )

[@alexanderlyon]

Hi, Patrick. I'm glad it was helpful. And thanks for the comment! I wanted to be sure you knew I'd read it.

[@lilliancooley967]

I am so grateful for this. Can I listen to it again and again?

[@adelaaidoo2457]

Thank you for this video. Just listening has helped to think more before I speak.

[@danielscottburke]

I truly appreciate your work. Thank you for your time and space.

[@Kendojin]

Dang, the first point is long-windedness That's me 🤣 definitely taking notes

[@haniasyed2405]

It's an amazing videos about effective communication.. I will try to adopt all the steps in order to become a good communicator but the problem I face mostly during presentation is that I become nervous so I'm trying to deal with it first. Moreover if anyone know how to avoid it so you may share your opinions and experiences.

[@fuhrerdenunu]

Thanks a lot, Alex. I'll need to rewatch a number of times to drive home the point.

[@tassneemaltaf2001]

Love this!!! Thank you so much!

[@peoplespoet1974]

~~~~~~~~~~~~~Even though I am a palpable singer and a spiritual lead/ rhythm goth guitarist, I find myself in this spot at home. I am looking at an Asperger's diagnosis and I am not surprised, although it in of itself lends to long windedness as I have strong speaking skills and use comedy to make memories in people's minds. I get SUPER excited about setting up a timer, to hut of lights on said time and it is linked to 4+ extensions cords as the lights go on at a very "engineered" timings to satisfy "ocd like" impulses. I would run inside marveling over it and exhaust my wife's ear on all the sciences behind it. ~~~~~~~~~~ She accepts my rolling verbiage, but I would like to show more class. So, thank you for this education. I love solid data and this could be a stepping stone to better mental health.

[@peoplespoet1974]

So I am incredible and almost theatric in my talk as people like my long talk, BUT it reads as insolence to strangers. My issues are huge miscommunication issues and I have trouble reading people's conversational body language. Great video!

[@MrIshan5]

Hi Alex, sometimes I am long winded because of all the information I get asked to provide to my clients in my professional setting, so i guess I have to be creative to shorten that information & still able to convey the message

[@alexanderlyon]

Yes, clients always appreciate it when it feels more like a back-and-forth conversation. Taking shorter talking turns is usually the best way to go.

[@JahanzebJahan]

You have got wonderfully different and persuasive style. Hats off

[@alexanderlyon]

Wow! Thank you for the compliment, Jahanzeb. I appreciate your encouragement.

[@nataliemcmasters7379]

Thank you for posting this video. I will have to watch it a few times and practice to embed these good habits.

[@CLW-gc3hr]

Thank you Alex ❤️ you are a blessing to us all❤️🙏

[@subashshrestha5877]

Worthy to watch.Thank you for free class.

[@taigodfrey]

Gee its 2020 and I'm just now learning this??? Ty so much for this video

[@truthteller2237]

This is something very valuable information i found on KZbin. Thanks for giving your efforts!

[@JahanzebJahan]

Alex that’s lovely stuff. Wonderful. You are an amazing speaker putting into your empirical knowledge

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks for listening. I appreciate your encouragement.

[@Charity-vm4bt]

@@alexanderlyon California politicians and lobbyists really need you. In Calif, people think they have to repeat every statement three times, exactly the same way. They think listeners are ignorant. There is little depth, often, a lot of deception and manipulation and distortion in their messages.

[@michele3631]

Thank you so much for offering this education for free to us ❤️.

[@alexanderlyon]

My pleasure, Michele.

[@Mrs.Yates0417]

for some reason when im talking in my mind im concise clear and confident, however, when the words flow from my mouth im long winded

[@alexanderlyon]

Sometimes, I think it's about deciding beforehand to say it concisely and stop talking. Just put a period at the end and pause really clearly and just commit to ending our talking turn.

[@lizbethquintero545]

Awesome little course! Thank you so much!

[@openclassusa3534]

Thank you, Lyon for all your wonderful content!

[@00BeesKnees00]

I wish I was taught all this in high school. It would make my life easier in all aspects.

[@rebeccawong1]

Been listening the entire morning to you … and loving it. When do we use the more elaborated words then, why were they even invented in the first place😅

[@alexanderlyon]

It's fine to use some interesting words from time to time when they add genuine value. We have a variety of words to add shades of meaning. We just don't want to use unnecessarily big words when they don't add value and make our message less clear.

[@Ordermiracle]

Thank you very much Alex! this is amazing that you are offering us this content for free!! thank you! thank you!

[@alexanderlyon]

My pleasure! I appreciate that you find it valuable.

[@DavidChaumette]

I thought this was very concise and informative. Thanks.

[@kevinwu2768]

You're excellent coach, l 've learned a lot from your tube. Thank you very much.

[@alexanderlyon]

I appreciate that, Kevin.

[@mayersegal5600]

Good work! Practice of lessons can sharpen all communication. Success hastens and continues through effective communication.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Hey way to go! I see you're really growing. I knew you would. Keep up the good work! I think you're fantastic!

[@alexanderlyon]

Thank you, Dan. It means a lot coming from you. I have no idea how I missed this comment 3 months ago. I usually reply each day. Congratulations on approaching 100k. That is truly amazing.. You're one of my inspirations for doing my channel. You were WAY out front on this KZbin thing. Keep up the awesome work.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks, Alex.

[@openwrt5504]

Is he the husband of Alexa?

[@EdgarMxCity]

Excelente amigo! Saludos. Me servirán tus consejos para mis entrevistas y juntas de trabajo. Thank your for sharing it to all of us. Regards.

[@chayukykenig3055]

One very important reason why people (me 🙈) are long-winded is because they try to compensate for their inability to communicate effectively in their first sentence.

[@alexanderlyon]

Good point! Thanks for sharing your example.

[@Airtube-2hrb]

I found brushing up everyday on my vocabulary really helped.

[@savannaleigh445]

You expressed that so well. I totally agree with you. Whefff someone UNDERSTANDS ME 🙌🤷❣️

[@enjoyinglifewithdreamyk7]

So true!

[@priyankaverma5047]

Wow , how sweet, correct, melodious, voice I m listening... It's really concise, clear n amazing voice I have ever heard... Who is the person behind... I loved your voice ☺

[@rcmarikina9181]

Thank you for this. I learn a lot from this video. I will surely watch it again.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful!