Eli Somer talks with "Maladaptive Daydreaming Italia"

[@DianaVBV]

Interesting how I had never heard of Eli Somer before last year and now I feel he's the only person in the world I could open my heart to.

[@GabrielaSilva-xk5yf]

I wish I could get an appointment with him!

[@lartdelareverie4451]

Thank you very much Dr Somer for all of your videos i watched almost all of them and i'am very grateful that you help and for all that you are doing for the MD community! I'm french and online we don't have a lot of thing about MD in french so it very difficult ! fortunately I understand English which allows me to watch your videos and I feel less alone , thank you very much again, really!

[@impishmisconception7762]

Great information, thank you, Dr. Somer, for all that you are doing for the MD community.

[@nicolelion6409]

Me (age 14 & again 20) Explains my, "pretending," and "daydreamig," LIfe Professional: Blank stare. No response. Me: I MUST be the only one. They have no idea what I'm talking about. Don't talk about this again... Me: Discovers article on the internet 10 years later article about M.D. "WOW! I am NOT the only one."

[@tmohitm02]

It has made my life worst sir, I manage to control it some days and other days it overtakes. Can u plz guide / help me, I have even consulted psychiatrist only to be failed by them. Plz help.

[@chiragkanjani2083]

I don't think it's hereditary. Because I haven't seen this in my father and mother or even in my grandparents at all but I have it.

[@elisomer]

Hair or eye color are hereditary even if neither parent have similar features. MD is probably an innate trait. Whether is inherited, we don't know.

[@teresafaena6470]

You have no idea what these means to me! I’ve always felt so alone, like i’m the only person in this world that spends most of its time thinking and thinking about complex situations that are never gonna happen. Sometimes i feel like i’m never gonna be normal, that i’m never gonna meet the right person because the only right person lives in my mind… and now i know this thing has a name and that there are more people like me… just thank you!!

[@chiragkanjani2083]

I had anxiety for sure. I have been in stressful circumstances. I believe that could be the reason .

[@UniqueSouls]

Yay! New video 😄

[@AB-zq4fw]

Hello, Dr. Somer! I left a comment on one of you videos sometime ago about being willing to participate in any clinical trials or research you maybe conducting in the future. I apologize for the late reply. Is there anyway to contact you through your website, perhaps? I'd like to contribute some of my stories and habits as a maladaptive daydreamer. If this is at all possible, please let me know. Thank you!

[@SomerClinic]

sure, send me an email to somereli @ icloud.com (delete spaces)

[@gabriellasouza843]

Thank You!

[@chiragkanjani2083]

Sir I wanna tell that since I'm a maladaptive daydreamer from childhood, I can tell a difference between the maladaptive daydreamer and normal fantasizing kid. Sir, first there is difference between your imagination and maladaptive daydreaming. If you imagine something like suppose if you want to propose a girl , now if you do imagination by yourself it's not vivid and it's in control. But if it's maladaptive daydreaming, you won't be able to imagine or think something for so long, it's uncontrollability , it's like you're not imagining, it's brain is doing something for you by taking your energy. It's not like a imagination where you're scriptwriter, it's a play where brain is scipteriter, brain is director and you're enslaved actor and a person who watches movie. Difference between normal imagination and maladaptive daydreaming is not in age, it's in it's uncontrollability.

[@tmohitm02]

Exactly bro, I find it too late when I’ve spent hours daydreaming. It’s literally uncontrollable.

[@ivanabottcher8930]

I find it very difficult to think that a person was born like this, in my experience of a mother where a child has this, I never saw anyone like that in my family, he was very alone as a child he had a school friend where they both talked too much in class, he lost his father, he had to change his life move all the time , so when he was twelve I realized something was wrong with him. He is very intelligent but now he does not give priority a life only dream.

[@nangia_vivek81]

Nice 👍👍

[@Kat-wo7ix]

What about serial killers? Do they also suffer from maladaptive daydreaming? Fantasies play a major role in their lives and ultimately lead them to murder.

[@SomerClinic]

Not many serial killers volunteer to take part in psychological research

[@Kat-wo7ix]

@@SomerClinic And the most with maladaptive daydreaming don't act out their fantasies or?

[@SomerClinic]

@@Kat-wo7ix true

[@SomerClinic]

@@Kat-wo7ix As a result of stopping the MD? Not that I am aware of. Still, MD often works as a coping mechanism, so it is unwise to just remove it without addressing underlying issues, to the extent that such exist.

[@chiragkanjani2083]

See, I'm a maladaptive daydreamer from my early childhood. And I can tell you that it's very less likely that someone with maladaptive daydreaming can do this. It's because you feel like doing something in daydreams so much that you lose too much amount of energy. You can't even fight with kid.