Questioning Sexuality/Gender TikToks - Pride day 26

[@pr3tty_death]

Things that made me questioning my sexuality: 1) tiktok e-girls 2) my cis straight girl best friend 3) Heartstopper In the end I came out as omnisexual and I wish you all find your sexuality/gender identity too 💜

[@phoebeats]

💗💟🖤💙🫂yay same

[@jan-3356]

Same!

[@violettaverse9822]

Same

[@dandelionsoup3246]

🤦🏻

[@lolymop333]

I'd like everyone here to know that simply not having a gender is a valid option. I say this for 2 reasons: 1. Those gender tests would not have worked on me when I was questioning because I saw nonbinary as third gender and I didn't want to be my assigned gender, but I also didn't want to be the opposite gender or third gender, and so none of the options are desirable and it would have just made me more frustrated and confused. 2. I have been aware of not feeling like I had a gender since I was 5 and was rather vocal about it, but I didn't actually know it was a valid option until I was 20. When I was questioning my identity after learning that cis people identify with their gender and generally don't hate having defining sex characteristics, I was just confused and thought something must have been wrong with me, because, no matter how hard I tried to identify with any kind of gender at all, I still just felt nothing, and I didn't want to identify with a gender in the first place. I don't want anyone to feel as confused and lost and isolated as I did. You're not broken. Nothing is wrong with you because you don't identify with gender. You don't NEED a gender to be whole. Not having a gender is a valid option.

[@phoebeats]

Thx for sharing your story it's goina change everything for me!!! The gender questioning tiktoks were and weren't helpful so now I'll definitely consider agender as something I could wanna identify as while I'm figuring all this out.

[@Jm-us2re]

Same, everything would be easier if we were all smooth down there, just like a Barbie 🧓🥂🧓

[@kai_fatallysapphic]

Yeah, probably wouldn't have been super helpful for me personally, a big aspect of it was what others perceive you as and if you could change your gender, which I'm guessing they were also referring to physical characteristics? I'm actually pretty happy with my "gendered" features, I don't really have that much dysphoria, the most I feel is I occasionally wish I was flat chested, and I feel gender euphoria when I bind. I'm a very introspective person and I don't really care what gender others perceive me as, so figuring out I'm agender was pretty much enough for me to be more confident in myself :)

[@Abby-gu5gd]

As an agender person this makes me really happy I love this thanks

[@Lu_Tsuki]

Man would we be questioning gender if gender wasn't a thing ? Like there's be just the "male/female" thing to describe what you were born as at birth, but nothing and no one to ask you to choose a "gender". You'd just be a human

[@percesdead_]

I like to say this when someone questions my actions: "Don't question me because I already question myself enough." :)

[@crazysasha1374]

"You don't need the past to validate the present" Is a great supportive line, that I'm sure some people need to hear. But hearing I can't not think of: "Let the past die, kill it if you must."

[@swoosh3217]

I was about to write a whole essay on how I've been questioning my gender for a while now but feel like I "don't qualify" enough to be nonbinary, but once I had it all written out I realized, "if I saw someone saying any part of this, I would tell them that they might be some flavor of non-binary" So that's cool I guess

[@idontknowwww259]

Thank you so much for that video! I'm genderfluid BUT I'm not pretty sure for my sexuality. I use the label "unlabeled" since ik it changes over time as well as my feelings. :)

[@sabreenatoure6353]

omg same!!

[@chef.e.gaming4064]

If it changes over time you might be abro, idk

[@enterchannelname681]

You might be abrosexual its kinda of like the genderfluid of sexuality (sorry im not good at explaining if you don't understand you can look it up)

[@iam_divine4103]

Same here (TT)

[@i_am_sketchy]

Me: Yeah I'm queer! Q- Questioning myself and my gender U- Unsure if I'm real or just a enderman E- Examining what I wear unless I'm not going out E- Extremely Handsome, Cute and Angry Enderman R- Really can't find a name. Just Soup I'll see what the hell I turn into but yes. I am queer :D

[@challengingarmadillo8472]

I have a toxic relationship with my breasts. Some days, I love them, they’re these perfect little mounds on my chest and it’s sunshine and daisies. Other days, I despise them and want them to completely evaporate or I wish they would continue to grow. I’ve also struggled just generally expressing myself in how I talk, act, and dress. Then there’s the question, “Do I wanna be her, do I admire her, or do I wanna kiss her?” I know I like men, but never sure about women. And don’t get me started on “Would I fuck people?”

[@Kiasae]

OMG DUDE SAME!! i honestly don’t know about my sexuality myself but I usually ask myself the same questions but with men lmao😭😭😭like rly. Do I want to be him or be with him. So annoying😭😭

[@snoww9347]

8:52 Haha I relate to that. Trying to cover them with your arms only to make it worse :))

[@thornarts]

i figured out my sexuality then questioned my gender but know i know my gender i’m questioning my sexuality again help

[@justadibruh]

4:24 i imagine this song as the feeling of nervous excitement when you are with your crush

[@user-om2se6sl7l]

9:41 she looks like mirabel from encanto but with bleached hair that’s curly 😮

[@Stellaryz]

3:01 i just mixed up a boy and a girl and a nb and i created a weird shit 💀 Definitely not working for me 😭

[@justadibruh]

LITERALLY ME- I WAS LIKE: "let's play what's the gender? woman? man? non binary? NOBODY KNOWS."

[@mhw4955]

Ooohhh, I felt the aegosexual one so much

[@art_seasons]

5:20 i really needed that 😭

[@liza-uw3sq]

I did too!! 😭 I know it's been like two years since you commented this so I'm a little late haha. How's your gender journey going? if you don't mind me asking🥰

[@AbbeyWagner4547]

I have been questioning since I was in 8th grade until I realized that I am Unlabelled and that I don’t want/need a label for myself and when I was questioning myself it was so hard for me so now I just need to accept the fact that I’m unlabelled 💚🤍💙🧡 #Pride #Love

[@AbbeyWagner4547]

And while questioning I have always been Bicurious until now

[@AbbeyWagner4547]

I don’t want/need a label 🏷🏳️‍🌈

[@nancia24]

I used to question myself since I was like very little never fit in than other girls but it got worse when I was in middle school I thought I was gay than last year in the 10 grade of 2021 /2022 in 6 mouths 1/2 I expected as a unlabeled person but now in 2022 I decided to be straight but still respect Unlabeled people ❤️

[@AbbeyWagner4547]

@@nancia24 amazing story :)

[@AbbeyWagner4547]

@@nancia24 it’s very nice to meet you :)

[@ZeroLeviathan7]

My birthday is literally on the day of pride month for questioning

[@mistynightsatnoon]

I just go with nothing at this point It’s cost me so much time to think about my sexuality that I’ve just come to a point where I say when someone asked me “what’s your sexuality?” “I’m normal.” Like, at this point it’s so weird to me that people would even ask me what my sexuality is because I don’t wanna tell them who I frick with That’s non of your business 😭 But jokes aside, to me it don’t even matter anymore. Why would it even So much easier this way smh

[@sabreenatoure6353]

I’m pretty sure I’m genderfluid I just have no idea what my sexuality is 😭

[@thatrainbowelf6261]

Same

[@ashlikesart]

Ayyy same

[@augustr4wberry]

Ayyyy marky wu Honestly i'm the complete opposite, pretty sure im bi but constantly questioning gender

[@manymudkips8514]

Let me introduce you to ✨️Abrosexuality✨️, the fluidity of sexuality, where your sexuality changes or shifts over any given period time! It's like the sexuality version of genderfluidity! This may not be right for everyone, but I'd like to put more options on the table for everyone! Not saying that anyone has to label themselves, it's just that some prefer it.

[@sabreenatoure6353]

@@manymudkips8514 tysm! ive recently come to terms that i may be omni/demisexual, but thanks sm for ur help!!

[@AnaGunthalf-69]

the white at the beginning incinerated my eyeballs but at least i didn't see my reflection 🏳⚧

[@theblackrainbow]

Ahh the bicurious times... Proud bisexual nowadays!

[@l0stb01]

Quick question, is it ok to use more then one label for your gender, because I've been calling myself "genderqueer/fluid" because I don't understand my gender but know that I'm not fully cis, so I use genderqueer, but the absolute mess that is my gender shifts, I can't usually fit it into boy or girl when it shifts, just different, sometimes I feel like I have a preference for a certain set of pronouns but most of the time I just use all, so I feel like I shouldn't use genderfluid because whenever genderfluid people talk about their gender changing its like "sometimes I feel more like a guy, sometimes a girl, sometimes neither, or both" not "I have no clue what I feel but sometimes it's a different feeling mess then other times" which makes me feel like using that label is lying or something, but I also enjoy it even though I don't really fit the definition, but at the same time I feel like just genderqueer doesn't really capture what I feel because it's not a constant mess, it's a changing one. Idk, it doesn't make sense to me so it almost certainly doesn't make sense when I try to explain it, I just feel like neither label by itself is quite right but together it's works, it just feels like I shouldn't use multiple labels that mean different things. There's probably a micro label out there that fits, but I'm tired of chasing down perfectly fitting lables, it takes forever and almost no-one knows what your talking about when you do, so I'm just trying to find something similar, I just feel guilty ABT combining labels.. idk, this is probably stupid, and I definitely wrote too much soz, just wondering

[@li_huaa]

yeah its ok to use multiple labels

[@Stellaryz]

Sameeee . I just came out as, genderfluid to 2 of my friends and now idk . I feel like I'm faking it, or I'm not a 'real' genderfluid .

[@Stellaryz]

@@li_huaa thank you!!!!

[@adathecheeseburger8490]

Well, genderfluid is kind of an umbrella term too. I definitely feel you on feeling like a non-specific gender most of the time, though it changes. I’d say we’re more like gender-water, and it sloshes everywhere, while other people who explain it as you mentioned are more like…gender-smoothie? Thick enough to stay in place enough to fit into labels, anyways. And genderqueer and genderfluid is definitely a valid way to identify!

[@ashlikesart]

Yes it's totally ok!! I use the labels non binary and genderfluid :)

[@jugodepatas]

Im straight but i support lgtb :D

[@honeylemmon]

9:40 answered the questions and here's what I got 1. between binary gender and non binary gender??? demi gender ig??? -mild gender confusion - i would be alright with it -definitely Trans -I felt kinda sad oddly enough, or a bit uncomfortable? 2. uhh unsure but probably not 3. also maybe not too?? 4. maybe neither?? 5. I'd feel kinda fine but feel a bit odd about it 6. oddly enough no?? or at least not immediately, I guess it feels like the decision took a long time to at least process so rather than drinking a potion which feels a rash and immediate decision where im not thinking it through and feels like I'm not making the right one- damn it feels weird man, like I feel comfortable with my assigned gender, I identify as my assigned gender, but I feel like there's something a bit more than what gender I have, like I kinda feel uncomfortable if I identified myself only as a different gender other than my own , but I feel hella comfortable if other people assumed im a different gender, or even calling me some words associated with other genders like other pronouns, so I use any pronouns, but I dunno man gender is weird, i already had a hard time finding what sexuality I have

[@USA-o5o]

Remember the Q is for questioning

[@unapersona7495]

3:46 literally me lol

[@sleepybear666]

The first one 😂

[@mills23.6.15]

idk what i am. Ive kind of lost myself. like idk my sexuality, my gender, my clothes style or even what tv show i like. ik i dont have to prove this to anyone but it would be nice to know. Ive always been like "it would be easier to be a boy" but i wear 'girls clothes' or feminine clothes and dont want to be trans. its expensive and my mum and her bf are homophobic. but i also wear 'boys clothes' or masculine clothes and want to have certain masculine features. I dont want to transition but i wouldnt mind if i was born as a male. idk what that makes me tho

[@thewclar_11]

7:34 YESS AEGOSEXUAL REPRESENTATION

[@peeperstrem4384]

Tbh the only thing Ik for sure rn is that I’m Cupioromantic and that’s about it.

[@miciciiii]

I see y'all bragging about how ppl say this " so ur pansexual? You like pan's? Lol" I think its nothing compared to this "Wait ur pansexual you don't wanna have kids?" This is the thing everyone in my school say so send help

[@p.tibbs0545]

I identify most with being genderfluid but if my physical gender changed to female (I'm amab) I wouldn't be upset abt it. And if ppl always saw me as a girl but then I come out as genderfluid it wouldn't be a big deal. Envious of afab androgonous ppl ngl

[@swarm-of-moths]

can i sell my gender on a street corner?

[@spinningroaches]

hey, i was curious if you could make a gendervoid one? i haven't found a single one and it's a bit upsetting! /nf

[@Ren564]

Can you explain what that is please?

[@spinningroaches]

@@Ren564 yeah sure, give me a second! :]

[@spinningroaches]

@@Ren564 here's the definition! *Gendervoid is an identity based on feeling nothing where a gender should be, a common way to describe is a pot with soup inside, those who have a gender may have soup in their pot with contents that makes up their gender, whilst those who are gendervoid may feel there is no soup in the pot as in there is nothing where a gender should be. It is similar to agender, although agender is a lack of gender while gendervoid is feeling an empty space, almost like a void, where a gender "should" be.*

[@Ren564]

Thank you

[@ordinarydragon8764]

NOICEEEEE xD

[@Duneeze]

Can you plz tell me whats the difference between questioning sexuality and queers? I think how to call myself in front of people without limiting myself

[@mhw4955]

I don’t think there’s much difference between the two, but if you want to be more specific then you should say you’re questioning your sexuality. Queer is a broader term that describes anyone in the LBGTQ+ community whether you know your gender and/or sexuality or not.

[@ratsatouile]

questioning is when someone is unsure of their gender/sexuality. queer/gender queer is when some isnt straight/cis but does not want to label themselves further.

[@Duneeze]

@@ratsatouile oh thank u! I think imma queer

[@Duneeze]

@@mhw4955 thx for the clarification!

[@janesullivan692]

Do people really have crushes or is it a joke I'm too autistic to get?

[@Lockewave]

I used to have crushes all the time before I was with my partner. Would find someone really attractive... but like to be around. I wanted to be around them all the time and get to know them and trust them. Romantic, sexual, aesthetic, it was all there but like rolled into one messy complicated soup where being around the person just made me feel super happy and safe. I felt that way about my partner after I got to know her better, and I still feel that way about her now after 12 years. Maybe you just don't really get crushes? That's great! I hope you CAN do things that make you feel super happy and comfortable being yourself!

[@punko.928]

Help I’ve never been femminine I never wanted to be a girl I always felt more like a boy and desired so badly to be one, but I’ve relized I’ve never tried being feminine I don’t really want to cause I feel like I know I don’t like being perceived as “young woman” but I feel like covering up myself since I already got a short haircut and I don’t want my mom finding out and I’m going clothes shopping soon cause I’m growing a lot help what do I do?

[@acefeminist7259]

It's totally fine to be unsure. I'd try out different styles and see what you're naturally drawn to - try to just think about whether you'd enjoy wearing the clothes. When it comes to wearing 'boys' clothes, just tell your parents you prefer the style, or they are more comfortable. Hope this helps! 🙂💜💚🖤

[@punko.928]

@@acefeminist7259 thanks! I think I’m just gonna stick to the baggy hoodie with shorts I find it comfortable. Thanks

[@Kiasae]

I’ve been questioning my gender sm lately and idk. I remember when I was like 14 I didn’t really think of myself as any gender. i just thought of myself as a human? and most of my teens I felt really uncomfortable with like being too sexy or smth (I’m afab) so I’ve always kinda tried to hide it? and wore baggy clothes and stuff. it felt nice when people sometimes confused me as a boy but then they saw my face and were like “oh sorry” but like. I still was like. Nah guess I’m a girl. Just cuz. Well not all girls are supposed to be like. Super feminine and stuff But often times it felt like I just didn’t really relate to other girls? Especially when they talked about like you know GIRL STUFF and even periods I was always SO SO uncomfortable for some reason to talk about my biology and I feel like to this day I kinda refuse it a lot. I just felt a great discomfort by the fact that my body is gendered. But by the age of 20 I’ve started to slowly accept the fact that I’m a woman. I got a boyfriend at that time. But later we broke up and I found myself some queer friends. I didn’t know anything about gender and when they asked me I was like “I guess I’m cis…?” but very early on I felt that I’m uncomfortable with that and I felt massive gender envy towards some genderfluid people there and how they were perceived. It felt like freedom. Like oh wow. I don’t have to be tied to my assigned gender at birth and I can just… be however I want..? It feels nice when people don’t perceive you in only one way. But I think my problem lies in that I see nb as another gender and so I was really hesitant to call myself that because well. All my life I still thought that I’m a girl and that’s it. And now I feel like. I am kind of outside the binary? I’m not exactly a third other gender but it’s like I’m just. Me. I don’t even know how to call it. I guess if I were to choose I wouldn’t live as a boy. But also I just. Don’t wanna be tied to my gender. I still feel a great connection to being a woman so I might just be cis I just don’t fit the usual “fem” or “masc” stereotypes. Gender is rly confusing😶‍🌫️😭😭

[@Kiasae]

It’s just that I don’t think I’m really comfortable with completely getting rid of like. Connecting to being a woman and embracing the fact that I’m non-binary. But I also don’t like the label demigirl cuz I feel like my gender IS fluid but like. I’m not non binary?? Am I stupid or confused lmao maybe someone knows what it is😭 I feel like I’m not comfy with getting rid of the binary but at the same time it feels that I’m not rly on the binary idk man😭😭why do we have to be gendered waahh can I just be agender woman. idk.

[@goodsoup2341]

@@Kiasae I'm having very similar thoughts right now and totally get the struggle. I'm also afab and feel like a woman somewhat but never really connected to being a 'girl' or later a 'woman' as strongly as other women in my life do. I'm okay with being perceived as a woman (although on some days less than others) but there's something else there in my gender identity that can't be defined, that's somewhere in between 'man' and 'woman' or completely outside of it. I think we both see the term 'non binary' too closely. Being NB doesn't always mean that you're a genderless blob or a whole other gender, it's an umbrella term for many different gender identities (with demigirl among them) that basically means that you don't feel *solely* male or female (to cite wikipedia lmao). That's it. This can mean SO many things on or off the gender spectrum. So yeah, I think we do fit under the NB umbrella. But then again, I say this and still feel hesitant to come out to people in real life as NB because I don't feel NB 'enough', which is bullshit (but this is the first time that I actually 'come out' to someone, even though it's just a stranger on the Internet, so yay, small win??)

[@Kiasae]

@@goodsoup2341 awwwwwww omg congrats on coming out then haha!! I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently and tried to look at being NB from the other side and I think I’m getting a little more comfortable with it, but I still hasn’t come out really even to myself lmao. it’s just that. I also have thoughts that I’m not enby “enough” because, y’know, before I met this new friend group I didn’t really look at my gender and didn’t think much about it and I was like. Pretty okay with being a woman? So now everytime I think that I’m nb I also think that “no, if I were, I would’ve realised sooner” so uh yeah that kinda sucks. sry I’m gonna rant here a little lmao just cuz I don’t get to do it otherwise😭😭 when I thought I was cis I remember just constantly telling myself “I’m a woman” and I was pretty okay with it but now I’m realising that it’s almost like I’ve been trying to convince myself of it. Like yeah I was born afab that means I’m a woman there’s no other way around it I’m SUPPOSED to be like that. But oh well. I guess if I were cis, my gender questioning journey wouldn’t be that long and that confusing. I’ve just been trying to fit myself in this box and I realised this box is not really for me. It sucks that I was born in a female body but I also think that it would suck if I was born in a male body but who knows lmao. I’ve been asked one question recently. “Are you a boy or a girl?” And I realised that my thoughts about it could be answer to my gender. First I wanted to answer “both” but ended up answering basically “or” lmao. It’s just that. I think I feel closer towards a girl but at the same time I REALLY don’t wanna say that I’m a girl but I can’t really say that I’m a boy cuz technically the fact that I’m a girl is “truth”. So I just wanna answer something like “I don’t know” I’ve looked into multigender that day and I feel like it kinda fits? I do feel like my gender is fluid and I feel partial connection both towards being a woman, a man, and probably even nb. it’s just that. I heard nb people say that “I’m not a woman” or “I’m not a man” and that what made me hesitate cuz I still couldn’t say that I wasn’t a woman or a man. It kinda feels like I’m both a man a woman and something in between. rn I struggle with gender expression cuz I really don’t know how I wanna be perceived. I think I’ve been struggling with dysphoria a lot lately and um. I feel kinda uncomfy when I’m being perceived as a boy by people who don’t know me well. Cuz I’m also not just a boy?? Though when I was like 14 I was really happy with being perceived as a boy cuz it made me happy that I could pass. It confuses me a little. When I thought about why I don’t really wanna associate myself with being a woman it was all about being perceived as one but with harmful stereotypes(?) it has always really annoyed me that just because I was born with tits and vagina I’m supposed to be a woman and now people are sexist towards me just cuz I didn’t luck out and get male anatomy. All these harmful women stereotypes, especially by “alpha males” (I know these are stupid but they still cut me deep just cuz I think it’s so unfair😭😭😭) I think I’ve also been brought up in quite a sexist environment and I always felt unlucky that i was born with a female anatomy and I kinda even believed that women are a “weaker sex” Um so yeah. A lot of feelings lmao. Sry for the rant but it personally helps me just to read other people’s thoughts about gender so maybe it could be nice to read mine(?)

[@vy.vibess]

EARLY

[@kalyra_]

9:01 I relate too much to this video 🥲

[@failedfairytales22]

Welp-- this was the perfect vidoe to watch but now I'm left more confused as a bigender person wondering if they could be transgender

[@Em-vq5po]

7:34

[@ninjja4999]

I feel like they got the whole message wrong, only because i have no extensions and do not so much make up i mustnt be binary, they define their gender by their looks in my opinion

[@crazysasha1374]

Wait sexuality changes!?

[@kittyispretty6326]

Yeah I used to be polysexual now I’m lesbian

[@manymudkips8514]

Of course! Some people, like abrosexuals, experience sexuality shifts regularly, like bi to lesbian to ace, in any matter of time!

[@TT_3112]

After 5 years from my first gentleman crush and 3 years from my first madame crush, I am now sure that I can proudly confirm that I identify myself as a Bis€xu@l person. But my gender… Is still a mystery to this day… I just feel like different genders at all times

[@dandelionsoup3246]

Y’all are crazy….

[@guillermoelnino]

A ll you m ons ters ar e gonn a g et wha t's c omi ng to y ou.

[@GoodWormDoctor]

Oh nooooooooooo Nyway

[@VolleyTheBigBack]

Unlabeled here 💚🤍💙🧡