Embrace YOU as the Individual you are: 🧡 self-love, growth & being present

[@reeselansangan]

I lost my Dad early, and hearing you talk about how much yours has contributed to your beautiful heart and wonderful spirit just made me beam. You have always been the person I go to when I feel a little bit out of sorts. I am reminded of the value of gratitude and perspective. Thank you for sharing soft parts of you with us! We feel touched by the life that you live!

[@JonCach]

OMG HII ATE REESE!!!

[@bituinn]

It’s nice to see you here Reese! Sending love.

[@leahsfieldnotes]

This felt like everything I needed these past months wrapped up in 11:21minutes 😭😭 Thank you Annabelle 🥺💐💕

[@stephaniesayuri2510]

I love this. I’m 23, and feeling so lost, while my friends seem to be thriving and making a life of their own. And i still have no idea who i am or who i want to be. A lot of the things you said resonated with me- Just know we are so proud of your journey annabelle 💗 thank you for sharing your own thoughts and feelings to us! Keep growing 💗

[@mariaalejandraurbina2978]

Ahh yes!! Let me finish and submit this paper real quick and I’ll be right back here to absorb all this wonderfulness!

[@BunniBooBing]

Let us know how the paper goes!

[@isaniart]

You and I both! I’m using this video as a reward for finishing my homework

[@palomathepeach]

thank you for sharing this video annabelle. somehow i have been in this same headspace, feeling all the things you expressed in this video. i too have been asking myself these same questions and learning to truly unconditionally treat myself with kindness and forgiveness. i'm still in the thick of it but this has helped so much. thank you.

[@bluerae_]

One thing I want to say about comparison is that a lot of times people come up with the argument that what's online is a lie and everyone has struggles in life. And even though that's very true, I think it is important to understand that some people genuinely have good lifes, better lifes just the same way that some people have way worse lifes. That's just the truth. We have to learn to accept that and focus on our own situation and how we can make it better for ourselves.

[@coni4980]

it's so hard to be vulnerable specifically in front of so many people, so i admire you a lot for doing this, because im sure you are helping tons of people in the process. ily annabelle and im wishing the best for you

[@annabellegao]

thank you coni

[@sglstudioss]

"I realized that, that desire is actually the inner child in me that felt like I was never good enough growing up and constantly needing that sense of safety." wow that so perfectly worded and relatable ugh love everything about this vid and you!

[@yimikaadebayo]

please get a podcast, annabelle! if you have the time, and if you feel up to it, i’d love to really have them to listen to when i need a little comfort. i feel like you’re my mum or older sister. you’re amazing, and so strong and i’m so glad you don’t even need us to know these. i love you too haha!!

[@tianasao]

Thank you for this gentle reminder to treat ourselves with kindness rather than judgment. It's easy to forget when anxiety starts getting a little too loud in the brain.

[@sselkie_]

I understood that I needed this when i started crying

[@maangelac]

"error is a part of us" thank you annabelle i needed to hear this today

[@hhhiraeth5652]

this videos timing is perfect . just what i needed

[@isaniart]

Well said. Happiness is found by finding peace in every day moments. It’s hard not to feel regrets about the past or anxious about the future, but all we can do is live for now and reflect on where those feelings come from to improve the future.

[@jieying4370]

i’m so thankful to stumble upon this vid 🤍 thank you for sharing your story with us. instead of thinking what’s wrong with me, shift towards asking “what has happened to me? why do i do / feel the things i do? and what can i do about that?” instead of thinking “how does the world see me?”, shift to explore & discover what brings joy “how do i see the world?”

[@miacallistascott5128]

Singing Lana Del Rey whilst the microphone is having a disco party is the perfect combination! ❤️🍇🦎

[@pandalover1238]

Okay I needed this so badly!! This week has me doubting myself like crazy

[@brygoatart]

Thank you for sharing so much with us this last while, Annabelle. The last two months have really beaten me down, and I'm okay with experiencing sadness, but I'm ready to start playing again and allowing myself to heal, grow, and "outlive it".

[@noovernightguests]

Thank you for sharing this part of your journey with us Annabelle. I completely relate to being in therapy, starting to feel the positive effects, and then saying ok we are good now so I don't need to keep doing this. The idea that there is a finish line juust ahead and thinking of therapy and mental health in those terms is a hard one to unlearn. Hope everybody is safe and well.

[@isaniart]

Your kitty playing with the brush is so cute. My cat is always trying to drink my paint water and step on paintings

[@witchestomb]

coming back to these videos after losing my mom this January has been so helpful, i thank you endlessly annabelle for being my comfort creator all these years. Your words, wisdom and art help me see through the grey clouds constantly

[@springlady8337]

Yes! Jealousy isn’t necessarily bad! It’s how you act and think when jealousy occurs. You could see someone doing well and think “I hate them I want what they have I hope they lose it and stop doing well” or you could think “I hate myself why aren’t I doing that well I’m lazy I’m stupid I’m not as good” OR you could think “oh my gosh that what I want too I’m going to work hard and do my best to get that and hopefully I will do just as good as them but it’s okay if it takes a while or if it doesn’t go the way I planned because I know I tried and that this doesn’t define me as a person”.

[@misoletters]

i keep going back to this video whenever i'm feeling down and it helps me a lot to stay present

[@allak8077]

Yesss girl. I love seeing you work on yourself and grow. I’ve been watching you for years- and you got this. You’re gonna do some great things and I can’t wait to cheer you on.

[@ariannecaila5595]

Thank you for these words

[@julia-hp9yp]

Thank u for existing Annabelle. 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 U r an amazing person and I really appreciate this type of raw videos hv a good day.

[@erincahill5868]

I know this primarily an ad but it feels so honest and true to who you are and the commitment you’ve made towards bettering yourself. 💛

[@gemini_moons]

today is my birthday and this video is perfect timing! i'm so grateful that i've been able to watch your videos for years now, you've always been a ray of light in my youtube subscriptions

[@krystle8090]

happy birthday :)

[@Jade-so44]

Happy birthday 🎉

[@oopsgirl44]

Happy Birthday! ☺️

[@annabellegao]

happy belated birthday! my love to you x

[@hyacinthgrows]

Happy belated birthday! I hope you have a beautiful day! ❤️💓💝💞💕💕💖💗

[@blossomtrees271]

wholeheartedly agree with ALL you have said - especially within art, I knew I could have got an A in my art GCSEs and would have loved to have taken it for my a-levels at school but my teacher was, let’s say, not as keen on me as other students (and most of the teachers in my school were unfortunately like this) - they had no belief in my or other students abilities - so I ended up taking academic a levels instead like law and english language and was also really horrifically bullied during school, I would go home and cry, I was very anxious and depressed - I’m still not there yet but I now take medication, I’ve done multiple therapies and I’ve started doing some art again in the pandemic this year but I need to find the joy in doing it again - as I’ve definitely lost a lot of my joy due to being drained by the education system because everywhere I’ve attended has been so unsupportive

[@Sxd212]

I know...that a lot of us recognize ourselves in this video. Love and peace to you Annabelle 💖

[@ximenareyna2237]

The way you speak is always so eloquent and beautiful :) I’m so happy to see doing so much introspection! your videos are such a wholesome part to my week

[@Iivinginfiction]

this was great, i totally needed this after having a unexpectedly hard week. my weeks getting better now because the situation that got sprung on me im slowly but surely figuring out as i head into finals week. i hope as i finish this year off and start my junior year of college ill be even more kinder and forgiving for all the ways i am. ive been struggling the past year with understanding that lots of things are out of my control so i hope ill come to terms with it more.

[@ashleighjade2181]

A perfect way to end a sunday, with some down to reality check in time

[@littlerain]

Thank you Annabelle for this content and heartfelt conversation. It truly creates a connection for me somehow and I feel like I have a friend who could understand and put into words the things I’ve been feeling over the past 2 years. Sending you all the love ❤️

[@Zoe-co1ph]

3:11 i love this annabelle, so insightful and i hadn't really thought about jealousy in this way

[@NguyenNguyen-bb7jt]

this video is truly therapeutic for me. thank you for sharing your thoughts, be personal and allow me to feel connected and not alone.

[@shristisherchan2157]

I love your voice, it’s soothing to my mind. I listened to this entire video like a podcast.

[@stuffedtoylover]

growing up low income, only daughter to filipino-immigrants, paying for actual therapy is just not something my family can afford. i'm grateful that the college i'm enrolling to in the fall has free services, but so far, i've been using the local library to read and learn. what's helped me: self compassion - kristin neff (an all around amazing starting guide to self-compassion that completely changed how i saw my own ability to reassure myself and also to be mindful of my emotions without exaggerating or suppressing (which is REALLY HARD AND I NEED PRACTICE). i'm still practicing the techniques i learned in this book, and i'm forever changed) non-violent communication - marshall b. rosenberg (haha you can see amy lee holding this up in the background, i actually first learned of this from kristin neff quoting it in her book, and i knew i had to read it. i hated that the only tools to communicate in conflicts were blame or criticism, so often i would never speak at all. but this lead to me only being resentful, frustrated, and angry at myself for not voicing my needs. this book...for anyone wanting to feel understood, connected, listened to, and wants their loved ones to feel the same, i hope you spend some time with this book and putting it into practice. i am forever grateful that somehow this book came into my life, and it is my guide for being more loving and showing up with more empathy in this world. as a woman of color, audre lorde's poetry has made me feel seen and empowered in ways i have never felt before (my current favs: uses of the erotic and transformation of silence into language and action. i've been shrinking and withholding my whole life, normalizng numbness and self-denial, but now i'm choosing to claim my power and responsibility to create my joy in everyday moments.) another free resource! yale's science of well being course on coursera is FREE for any nerds who like to hear lots of case studies and evidence to finally convince you to take care of your well-being, here it is. (i say nerds lovingly, as a nerd myself, all of you who have a genuine love for learning and a childlike curiosity can have my whole heart

[@Michelle-ew5fq]

I am crying so so so much

[@emilyn9449]

I loved hearing you share and talk about this and your journey. I finally started therapy again this past November and I was experiencing the same thing- reconnecting and finding who I am and my sense of inner child. All this things are so valid to me, thank you and I am so glad you are on this path!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ByJuliah]

Thank you so much for sharing this, I really needed it right now! I'm moving to my own apartment this week after a break-up, and I'm both excited and terrified. This was so comforting. I know how much I need to learn to live alone and be alone, I'm just like you, a people-pleaser, and tend to seek comfort in other people. One thing I want to learn is to be able to comfort myself, whenever, wherever. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and for reminding me how important it is to look inward and be kind to yourself.

[@sadramirez]

thank you annabelle!!! ALSO YOU SIGING GET FREE IS THE PERFECT ANTHEM FOR THISSSSSS 💕 ☁️

[@ek3415]

Listening to u is so insightful. I started watching u at the beginning of my art journey and it was so inspiring. Times past and now I’m rediscovering ur channel during my self discovery/ self love journey🌸makes me happy. Ur content always feels like the right message at the right time✨ty

[@RaghadAlkhattabi]

I am in whole different part of the world but i adore your videos so much, all the love for what you keep on sharing with us and to your family and cats ❤️❤️ i rewatch this video every once in a while and it sparks something inside everytime.. love you and wish you keep on going on through life with the mindset of self love and childhood urge to discover new things ❤️

[@rishameyers5278]

ahh i'm glad i watched this. it felt fulfilling and served as a good reminder to focus in myself and not worry so much! love u annabelle!

[@kulturedkat1429]

Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not anybody else💛

[@elainezheng8631]

saving this to watch again later when i need the reminder to be gentle with myself, thank u for being so open and sharing your thoughts with us annabelle ❤️

[@claudia-it3gn]

this video makes me feel so so so warm. thank you for checking in on us through this video, annabelle

[@yurinaar4201]

I live far from my parents, I am in Canada and they are in Japan. When my dad was in a hospital a few years ago, I sent messages daily asking how he was doing. This was an advice I got at that time, instead of showing how worry I was, maybe told him things I felt happy about. So I started sharing what made me happy each day. My dad told me they made his days brighter. Your video reminded me of those days. So thank you. I am just a subscriber here, but sending love to you and your family💖

[@mophead.was.here.]

Im loving these chats💓 glad to see you doing well with Better Help, been hearing so much about this platform and its all good things. It makes me happy to hear that its not some scam 🙏🏼

[@normas.1029]

I'm graduating from college soon, and I am so confused about what I want to do with my life. However, watching your video has given me comfort that everything will be okay. I'm learning how to pace myself and not compare my life with other people. Thank you for sharing your journey and being the kind person you are!

[@erinr8566]

Wowww the part on jealousy was really insightful thank you

[@dbulletjournals4211]

Such an important topic to talk about openly, thank you for sharing this part of your journey with us 🥰

[@ffsnob]

Thank you so much for this. Words I really needed to hear at the moment 🤍 Also, the ending cut of you singing and bambi just looking at you, got me like 🥺

[@fangkeart]

Yesterday just as i feeling the same frustration from the comparison, and your video shows up, really made me feel like to cherish my self-worth and value. Thank you for making my day or making me having a day to choose a better belief system! Love you soo much

[@Ellempeh]

this video was like a therapy session for me. so many of the topics that I deal with have come up and you've brought some great wisdom to the mix. Thank you so much for this video!

[@iHEARThae]

this has become my favourite video you literally spoke from my mind

[@maangelac]

came back to this again, thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us annabelle 💖

[@moiraluga8253]

so beautiful ! had a lot of things that i’m going through rn and they are similar to yours and that rlly gave me the comfort that i’m not alone and also someone to learn and grow with ! 💖

[@cncrvtvo9559]

Thank you for this Anabelle, this video is so timing of what I've felt for a couple of months.. I've been struggling about my present self and desperately manifesting the best version of my future self, without realizing that i CAN be the happiest version of myself in the present moment, it's just I'm still trying, and struggling how to feel it, and this video has helped me a lot❤️ THANK YOU! -sfmbe

[@alibee85]

Yeah, girl! Boundaries matter!!!

[@Lalalivi13]

I really relate to learning about how to use boundaries for myself and making sure I don't overstep others' boundaries (usually my own projecting of issues I had with my own self :( on them !!! which isn't fair) it's so important getting older and learning about this! we are all learning

[@violetbloom8349]

Thank you :) thank you just for posting such a personal video and sharing your thoughts and life with the strangers of the internet. You’ve given me some things to think about and I hope we can all learn together to relax a bit more in life and enjoy what we have

[@sndrgu]

i respect and treasure u so so much annabelle. don't forget your meals and take care always 🤞

[@fatimazahrah3995]

So many impactful words and feelings! Thank you for speaking your truth and being vulnerable ❤

[@veroalegg]

Thank you very much for your courage and sincerity in sharing your experiences, growth and learning throughout the years. I must confess that I have been a silent follower of your channel for many years (although it sounds very sad and strange XD) and I have always felt identified with you. I feel that all your videos have accompanied me in some way on my own journey. I wish you many successes and blessings in your life, you are a beautiful human being and a great inspiration. Sorry for my broken English, I hope to improve soon!

[@laurenrivas4740]

i appreciate this video immensely thank u for being vulnerable with us

[@bleujoy9143]

this video heals me in so many ways. thank you annabelle

[@leahsfieldnotes]

omg u also watch planterina 🥺💜

[@ramdassubba2006]

Thankyou for the video. Its beautiful just like you🥰 being a teenager I also personally think that being outr very true self is really important and fun so thanks for inspiring me to work on myself:)

[@MaryArts]

We will always be overthinkers. Instead of wishing not to be, because it is impossible not to be, we should take the best that overthinking can give us.

[@layla-sf5wp]

I just discovered your channel, you are a real gem

[@lara_xy]

It is very healing to hear these things. I have been going through things in the past weeks that I didn't think I would have to go through and I am forced to embrace myself.

[@isabellegheselle1323]

Awwww yissss another video!! ❤️🥰 I really love your perspective on life and always feel like I can learn something from you! :)

[@RafaARA093]

I needed this video. As I was mindlessly doing my final essays for the semester I began to tune into what you were saying. "Exploration over Comparison" hit home. I don't know what I'm doing and finding the motivation to finish strong is so hard. I love so many things it's hard to pinpoint one career or grad program and I feel so lost and empty. It's nice to hear that exploring is allowed even if I do sometimes compare myself to my friends going to med school and law school. Jealousy is just judgment misplaced. I can feel the feeling and act on it instead of dwelling on not being good enough. Best wishes on your self-healing and thank you :)

[@honeyjam9593]

thank you so much 🧡🥺🌿

[@yimikaadebayo]

God bless you, Annabelle.

[@lois.eunice]

i love how these video’s make me feel like i am hanging out at your place and we’re having a real talk. you are wonderful:)

[@phavriel9779]

This video helped me so much!! Please do more mental health oriented videos, also the Get Free cover was the fresh breath of air I needed today!

[@soaperino]

love ur channel dude ive been watching since ur freshman year (and mine) in college and ive loved watching u throughout college and seeing u change

[@samthegoblin8907]

after years of watching your videos, seeing this change and how youre dealing with it helps me so much

[@rysa.tarts07]

"Exploration vs. Comparison". Thank you for sharing your experiences and the nuggets of wisdom. Your words are like a soothing balm and this was a very timely message for me. Thank you, Annabelle, for this video.

[@cydneyroy]

you are amazing!!! thank you for this video. im also in nyc right now. you should host an outdoor meetup or something :) I would love to meet you in person

[@ghoulgardens2231]

you always have such wise words to share, and i am always so grateful for them. i am always wishing the best for you, and am excited and honored to be a part of this journey on this platform ❤️

[@InaYabut]

another video that's worth sharing to my friends and family!! thank you for this

[@clairobscur1413]

i kinda stopped watching your channel a few years ago, but i decided to check in on you and i really love your more recent content! a lot of the stuff you've said really resonated with me, it's making think lol

[@alexandrabaranova1880]

Love your videos Annabelle,. so relatable and so real. Continue in whatever you are doing, you are an excellent provider of joy and happiness for me. :)

[@bongiwebuthelezi6058]

love and support to you Annabelle, we're all so proud of the growth you've experience and shared - and the present person you are🖤

[@shulump8375]

last night i had just finished a 7 page paper that i didn’t know was due in 3 hours. and i wake up to this! thank annabelle

[@stelmesouza3832]

Hugs from Brazil !! 🇧🇷 and thank you for sharing this meaningful video

[@Cara_V]

I am so happy that you are more happy with who you are today and willing to share these things you've learned with us through this beautiful video. Something I found very powerful was 3:25 because the process doesn't stop at recognition and goes further into accepting that this is something that would make you feel good and that the next step is to find a healthy and safe outlet for that feeling and a way to nourish it instead of casting it away. I find myself too often trying to be kind to myself by examining what I'm feeling and trying to be objective about my thoughts and saying 'oh so that probably stems from this need so now that I know that it doesn't apply to this situation I can let it go' when in fact it probably would be more validating to find a healthy and safe outlet for the feeling. I found that very eye opening and I appreciate this lesson you have shared with me

[@qube5621]

i love you. i love you . i just love you

[@superfr3akk]

I needed to see this so badly. Thank you for your wisdom and openness 🌹

[@peiqi4576]

I love the last part lol sending love to you and all the other people out there

[@imogen4877]

Your channel is just incredible and helps me so much

[@livearlyful]

I've been watching your videos since 2018 and it's amazing how much you've grown as a person and your channel as well. You inspire me so much and I want to thank you for taking the time to make videos. For the past few years, I've been struggling with self-love but recently I've been learning to love myself in my lows and in my highs. Work has been really stressful for me and as a result, it affects my self-care and self-love so this video was much needed ❤️

[@traipsing__around]

thank you thank you so much for sharing this annabelle, for being so present and honest with us through a screen - it is a gift I cherish!

[@m_i_li]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, just so you know you have been my peace of therapy and happiness for 4 years now and I'm truly grateful, sending love

[@Wonkyslush000]

Beautiful. I have been putting off going to therapy for years now. I’m hoping to finish my masters within the next couple weeks and then I hope I can get help. The masters thesis and pandemic and social injustice all at once really messed me up

[@tylerharrison491]

Gosh I feel like you are in my head!! Thank you for voicing all of this cause it's not easy!! Been trying lately to be a better friend to myself