Emotional Guidance System - When You Don't Want To Do Something | CosmoHippie

[@nikymrakotova8764]

I have a really strict mom. In the past, I really struggled with saying "no". And it caused a lot of troubles.. Now im older and I start to realize that my feelings matter and I want to take care of myself. But when I say "no" to my mom, she makes me feel that I am selfish. Sometimes I confront her, sometimes I give up.. either way, I'm not happy :/

[@respectfullymama]

Having healthy boundaries with close family members, especially mom, can be very difficult... I had a grandmother like that - she was convinced that my job was to make her happy... You can't change how your mom reacts, however, perhaps, you can begin to process what she says differently - work on not taking it personally and stop letting it have the weight that it has on you. She perceives it as selfish, and that's ok. YOU know otherwise. There is also a possibility that the more you begin to value your feelings yourself, there will be a shift in the relationship as well... Do you and mom live together?