Emotions can't be healed. That's why you've spent so long trying. Try this:

[@rowansart]

To my ears what you are describing is sitting with your emotions. Energy in motion occurs in the body and not in the content of the thoughts as you seem to be pointing to. Uncoupling thoughts and concepts from the sensations is helpful. Yet folks who deal with deeply rooted trauma face the danger of compounding the issues of strong sensation that extend beyond their nervous system capacity. The idea is to deal with smaller parts of the sensations over time. A great book that touches into some of this is “Waking The Tiger” by Peter Levine. There are many methods to learn how to deal with overwhelming sensation. Often its origin is not only in the thought but is lodged as a protective pattern in the nervous system. It’s not only about ignoring how we feel, but not having the capacity, the bandwidth, or the experience and toolset, to manage a state of terror. I’m talking about survivors of war, and extreme violence etc. Death. Until you have experienced true terror and had it frozen in your nervous system, it’s all manageable with some practices like what you’ve outlined above. But it seems that some folks have to be careful not to compound the issue by re - experiencing the full energy that they are protecting themselves from at all costs in more extreme cases. Your ideas here are basically how to experience the sensations and that is what Somatic Experiencing speaks to. I think this is basically rooted in some meditation practices too, like aspects of Dzogchen or Vipassana. Thanks for the video!

[@sajafendel]

Yes you’re speaking of extreme trauma cases in which case therapy is needed. I usually include that in my videos on this topic but didn’t in this video. I would recommend therapy to anyone who’s emotions are lost in the web of thought. I’m also not just talking about sitting with our emotions, I’m talking about sitting with experience as this open forgiveness completely without giving importance to the emotions. It’s a completely different intention 🙏 I understand this is a high level approach and won’t be possible for everyone on the planet but that’s also not who I made this video for. Thanks for sharing and for your appreciation 🌅

[@rowansart]

@@sajafendel Thank you too! Great stuff. When I say sitting with emotions - it means sitting with sensation and dropping the story, concept, or thought around that sensation. The sensation is perfect as it is. It is also empty by its very nature. As thoughts we associate with the sensation are also empty awareness. But yea it might be a jump to get there with no background in contemplative studies. Glad you have that awareness of the effects of PTSD and extreme traumas. Peter Levine’s book is a great read and touches on some of these ideas too if I recall. All the best! Enjoying your videos. I hope to do something similar someday!

[@janetbransdon3742]

When I become aware of a painful emotion I become in the NOW, concentrating on what I am actually doing rather than focusing on the situation that caused such an emotion. It works for me, by becoming in the NOW the hurtful emotion disappears and I am able to have a productive day and go to sleep. If I slip back into the unwanted emotion for a moment I become aware and redirect my thought again. The more I do this the easier it becomes. ❤

[@Claire-h5t]

Oh this makes sense, I was guided to just observe the fear in my body, and I think this is that they were meaning. Thank you! xx

[@sajafendel]

Glad you resonated Claire! Thank you :)

[@skrufdy9688]

That was killer stuff, thank you

[@sajafendel]

Thank YOU my friend

[@Sashas-mom]

🙏🏻 wow thank you 😊

[@sajafendel]

And thank you! 🙏💚

[@siddharthadas2421]

Awesome, bang on target!

[@sajafendel]

🙏🌅🫶

[@cajuputoil3468]

Thanks Saja.. very enlightening!!❤

[@sajafendel]

🙏🌅 thank you.

[@leahcortez8685]

This video is so healing, Saja. 8:36 Awe ♥️ hard emotions are not malfunctions.

[@sajafendel]

Thank you Leah I’m really glad you appreciate it 🙏🫶

[@etherealexperience4302]

this is so good. i've shared it a lot

[@sajafendel]

Thank you so much for sharing 💚

[@justdeadliftbro]

I think we have different understandings of what it means to "sit with emotion". I would say what you described in this video is essentially the same thing as what many other people suggest when they say to feel/sit with/ or allow emotions. But i also see your point that maybe this could be taken in the context of "wanting to get rid of" said emotion. either way, I liked the video

[@sajafendel]

Thanks for sharing your point of view 🙏🌅

[@justdeadliftbro]

@sajafendel thank you, I especially liked your emphasis: "what is so uncomfitable?". Truth is it really isn't uncomfitable at all, it simply is as it is

[@Hananssm]

Wonderful, ❤❤

[@sajafendel]

🫶💚

[@tagazof]

You seem to be making an assumption that once a sensation is noticed it disappears, but when I do that I can definitely feel tension, pain, shortness of breath. So not sure how to continue from there

[@sajafendel]

This is a meditation that’s only accessible through this link (because it’s for the private community) but I’ll share here for you and anyone else who reads this :) Firstly this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bau2fWamnd99aac Then this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/omW3dJqXZtONotE

[@tagazof]

@@sajafendel Thank you, I will try it :)

[@debbielunsford3116]

I agree. I just went through a big healing that lasted 4 days. I feel it inside and played out in the world. I was wondering this question at that time. I usually write it all down and talk about it to my niece and it worked this time. Huge childhood untangling. 😊

[@jixie_93]

What if the thought is actually fundamentally true because my entire history bears witness to the fact that I'm unlovable...I can't find a memory of being loved, have never had a long-term relationship, not because I couldn't love another, but because no one ever loved me back...I'm 70 years old and this is my deepest pain, my deepest shame...

[@sajafendel]

You’ve had a long history of simply believing that, which doesn’t make it true. Everyone is worthy and deserving of love. I would suggest therapy for anyone who can’t let go of the fundamental beliefs that they are not worthy and that they aren’t enough. Try rapid transformational therapy by Marisa Peer I’m certain this will help you 🙏🌅

[@baronbullshyster2996]

Humans create emotions from belief. Just spend a while making some. Try doing love as it will give a good feeling. My cat loves meee ow then laugh at them

[@Boostersserbia]

Thank you very much...My experience is that the fear comes first and the thought comes after..As soon as I wake up the fear is there. And there are several beliefs that could have caused the fear, not just one..what should I do in that case?

[@sajafendel]

Well if the fear comes first it should be natural fear. For example, an event appears that puts your body at steak. However, if it is a non threatening event that causes the fear (psychological fear) then it is always based on a fundamental underlying belief, which is the belief that you are fundamentally a separate individual person. This is not something you think directly before, it’s an underlying thought. There are never several beliefs that cause fear. The only belief that causes fear is the belief that you are a separate consciousness that is inside the head. Remove that belief you remove all existential fear.

[@III-mu4yn]

I am confused though. So ultimately you mean just observe the observer which is basically you?

[@sajafendel]

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[@yaroslavk4032]

hey, how are you doing? Just wanted to question one thing: often in model of CBT, the thoughts are adressed in order to work with feelings. However, I personally have an issue with it because in my experience thoughts themselves are neutral. Thoughts are often rationalization of underlying feeling, pain, shame, etc. What we see on the surface that we can put in the line with sensations are emotions. But in my opinion, feelings are more deeper and symbolic structures of psyche than just emotions. So when the thought problemitizes a feeling or emotion, in reality, the underlying feeling causes this thought or gives it emotional intensity. I just don't see many followers of "addressing thoughts' address more underlying structures of our psyche. imo Carl Jung does it wonderfully. What do you think of it? Btw I am not trying to attack you in a bad faith, I sincerely curious. Another thing that I came up to in my experience with being a human and feeling deeply is that we can not accept something or make ourselves feel certain way about a thing. We need to mature to it. Acceptance is not an action but a spectral process. It is like a symptom of THE WAY. idk if it makes sense. curious what you have to say. apart from that I love the video and happy to see the community is growing.

[@sajafendel]

Hey my friend, I agree with you. I wish it could be this way. However; We have to see what an emotion is. Ian emotion is the combination of a belief and a neutral sensation. So we could also argue the “feeling” part is also as neutral as the “thought” because In fact it is. The only thing that gives the sensation any problematic quality is actually the thought that binds it. So In other words, an emotion will not be processed unless we address the belief that binds it. It’s actually the feeling aspect that is neutral, and the thought is the thing that makes it seem not so, which creates a pattern of avoiding it. The only thing that makes excitement feel like anxiety is a thought. Other than than anxiety and excitement are the exact same sensation. So in other words, the thought has to be addressed. It’s the thought that brands the emotion what it “seems” to be.