Empowering Yourself: Dealing With An Addicted Spouse

Are you struggling to deal with an addicted spouse? Join us in this powerful video titled "Unveiling the Struggle: Navigating Life with an Addicted Spouse" as we delve into the challenges, emotions, and actionable steps for overcoming this difficult situation.
Dealing with an addicted spouse can be incredibly overwhelming, but you are not alone. In this video, Addiction Recovery Specialist, Kimberly Garrett, provides insightful strategies, support, and guidance to help you navigate this rollercoaster ride. Kim specializes in helping partners of people struggling with addiction; she has a deep understanding the pain, confusion, and frustration you may be experiencing.
Through sharing personal experiences, expert advice, and success stories, we aim to shed light on the journey of dealing with an addicted spouse. Discover coping mechanisms to protect your well-being, maintain healthy boundaries, and promote open communication.
In addition, Kim explores various treatment options available for your loved one and discuss ways to encourage their recovery process. Substance abuse can strain relationships, but this video offers insights on rebuilding trust and fostering a supportive environment.
Join our community of individuals who have faced similar challenges and found solace in supporting one another. We believe that education, understanding, and compassion are vital tools in overcoming this struggle and rebuilding a harmonious life.
Whether you are seeking advice, validation, or a beacon of hope, we invite you to watch "Unveiling the Struggle: Navigating Life with an Addicted Spouse." Together, let's empower ourselves to face adversity head-on, foster growth, and find healing amidst the chaos.
Don't let this battle define you; rather, let it be a catalyst for personal growth, resilience, and an opportunity for transformation. Take the first step towards reclaiming your life and supporting your spouse on their journey to recovery. Watch our video now and embark on a path of healing and fulfillment.
Remember, you are not alone in this fight. Join us and discover practical strategies, emotional support, and the strength to navigate the challenges of having an addicted spouse.
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[@nicoleevaherbst7306]

As far as boundaries go, if your relationship or marriage gets to that point where you have to start finding alternatives because the addicted spouse literally cannot uphold their parental obligations OR becomes unreliable to that degree --> you're on borrowed time. You can try to shapeshift and morph into a tolerant coping mechanism but it doesnt make anything that is going on OK. When marriage, children, a mortgage, shared finances, blended family life etc are involved its more difficult to extricate yourself. I had to end my 2 year relationship with my fiancé because I already made plenty of requests about his drinking, had discussions, tried implementing boundaries, moved out of our apartment... Essentially the process of going through the stages of active coping, tolerant coping and then eventually withdrawal from the addict.

[@tinkershell1856]

Thank you Kim! ❤ I just realized that my acceptance is when I finally began to act strategically. I stayed married to my alcoholic husband 15 years longer than I needed to because I couldn’t accept it. Congratulations on 100,000!!! 🎉🎈🎉🎈🎉

[@lorimcdevitt1506]

24 here. Same here…acceptance is the key.

[@tinkershell1856]

@@lorimcdevitt1506 I was married for 24 years total. It was hard, but now I’m free. I hope you’re living well now ❤️❤️❤️

[@dreamgurl056]

I am tired of the requests, and the flapping hand ! I given my partner of 15 years to change and stop using, who promised me in the beginning he would stop ! he no longer listens to me , i can't connect to him on a emotional level no more , telling him how i feel about his addiction . I am ready to let go and set boundaries ! I will not waste another 15 years suffering in silence 😢

[@lindar8583]

I gave my ex husband 32 yrs, 26 of them married, I lost myself, no self esteem and looked like I had the world on my shoulders. I found the courage to say 'I'm done', my hope has left so I left. I also found alanon who helped me to find the courage to stop and leave. You can do this. One step at a time.

[@barbiec4312]

Kim did a great job, was very well-spoken and relayed the concepts clearly to us. MUCH appreciated.

[@Seekpeace311]

Thanks Kim!! More videos!!we need you!!

[@cindybrown9065]

Thank you, I needed this today. Came home drinking and driving again. He blew 62 days of sobriety and fell off 2 weeks ago. I heard all the promises and bargaining I could take after today he called the police and told them I was suicidal! (Which I am not) then laughed in my face.

[@monaperry2635]

This video is tremendously helpful in understanding these differences! It removes the ambiguity that goes with trying to set boundaries.

[@robins3672]

Flapping hand analogy - perfect!

[@beverlybalfe115]

I really appreciate the differentiation between boundaries, requests, and information updates. That is very helpful! Strategic!

[@lindar8583]

Powerful advice, thank you

[@anand0212]

So glad I found your channel (wish i had found you years ago). This video in particular is really useful for me right now.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Welcome to our little community, Ana! So glad you're here 😃💖

[@freshbeeef]

Kim, thank you. This is so helpful. I would love for you to do a video about how to deal with all the lies and BS my alcoholic husband has been spreading for years. His family and friends back home believe that I am "crazy" "controlling" "covert narcissist" "lazy" an "ineffective parent" etc. Meanwhile, he has betrayed me, been drunk through most of our relationship. His family are alcoholics & enablers.

[@Asher22222]

Thank you so much, Kim!! This makes so much more sense. I thought we weren’t to tell someone what are boundaries were! The idea of requests and information updates makes so much more sense! Wish I had heard your message six months ago. ❤

[@belindacooper5445]

Thank you Kim, this was so helpful. More please❤

[@user-nl8id8xq7l]

Thanks, Kim! You are articulate and helpful.

[@debrasmith8860]

Thank you Kim!!!! Great job!!

[@Userf34567uvvvcxx]

Very very helpful Kim. Thank you! You've given me some information that I needed.

[@djstravels4828]

Thanks kim. This was really really good.

[@rinina9452]

Amazing, Kim! My LO pretty much does all the things in those rapid fire questions. Very helpful!!!

[@logicalreasoning4019]

Thank you for sharing this information! I have been struggling with boundaries for a while now and this really helped clarify aspects of them that I can utilize immediately to help and understanding the flapping hand analogy really hits the mark so I can be aware of not being that in our situation

[@user-ji4yy7zw7y]

Thank you, Kim!

[@juggernauts2144]

This was so helpful, thank you so much!

[@paulacate448]

Thank you, Kim! Congratulations to you all for reaching this giant number of followers!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you so much!

[@luciemcquilkan760]

Thank you KIM!!!

[@terribradley3190]

You are just the best of the best Kim!!!!!! So so so helpful!!!!

[@wendyyallop362]

Yay Kim- at first i was like who is trying to take over put the shovel down!!!

[@maris.story2]

This is incredibly helpful. Thank you.

[@evamejia9108]

Enjoyed listening and learning about the strategies you talked about.They sound so simple and effective Practice, practice, practice and never give up!

[@TheNmv2728]

Thank you Kim. !!!❤

[@MyfanwyCollins]

This is so helpful. Thank you.

[@chelsealockhart8188]

Your video was very helpful for what I'm experiencing in my relationship. I've been the flapping hand but that changes after listening to you.

[@savedbygrace2671]

Well done. This is so helpful.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Glad it was helpful!

[@chelsealockhart8188]

Thank you kim❤

[@hopeortiz134]

Awesome job Kim 🩶

[@tinaqualls986]

Thank you for your help!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're welcome!

[@margaretk5783]

Perfect Kim!

[@michelecrouse5284]

thank you thank you tone yes i need to change my tone ....

[@freshbeeef]

Please talk more about betrayal, infidelity, lies & deflection!

[@michelecrouse5284]

i just started listening and its very empowering. maybe to do things more calmly. knowing the difference laungues helps alot.

[@ivap.2005]

i'd love to see more from kim :)

[@D6EH]

The ex ignored my requests and ignored both stated & agreed boundaries. She dismissed me when I told her how her actions made me feel and how they adversely affected our relationship. Whenever I brought up the issues, all of which involved alcohol, she called it “another drama fest”. When I finally left, after 3 years of this behavior, she said “I can’t believe you’re leaving over this.” It’s never their fault, even though it’s completely their fault. I truly loved her, but it wasn’t worth losing myself. To others out there, you’re worth more so get out early.

[@dreamgurl056]

mine says, " iam being a victim " when I tell him how his addiction is effecting my well being 😏 planning an exit plan this summer ... I've given him 15 + years...his addiction has now become normalized every week and I cant say anything or he deflects ... its all so sad 😢

[@christiebailey9941]

This was great information. I've been in codependency recovery for 30 years and this information was really presented in a way you can apply to my life!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

thanks Christie, So Glad it was helpful!

[@michelecrouse5284]

we had issue were he would always when we get in car. he will start loading off on me. i said if you do not stop picking fights with me when we out driving i simply stop and let him walk it off....no big hassle when he went into treatment used that as how bad i am i requested i gave update then i followed through. now in treatment he complain about it. also defending.

[@christinafisher6169]

What do you do if they cross our boundries?

[@samfrazer9092]

At what point do you just say enough is enough? I have been setting the boundaries (and now he has spent almost all his credit)

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Sam, Here's a video on that topic: It's caled: When to walk away: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3aYdWuLaJmWopY

[@tracimattox5092]

Its all the lies and deceit. How do we handle that?

[@theresareynolds3834]

Is I don't like being around you when your drinking an appropriate boundry

[@PutTheShovelDown]

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[@jamesfandrey3309]

Question why do you keep saying he? In my case it's her.

[@michelecrouse5284]

flapping hand deflecting.

[@jennywareagle]

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[@redhairdontcare19]

❤ if anyone hears me muttering hotdog or hamburger you know why 🫠