End Adultification Bias (Full Version)

[@emmao1232]

Okay but a "sexually active" sixth grader?? You can't consent THAT young! If she was "active" it would be assault...

[@kelpie2851]

Exactly

[@jzbele]

Facts

[@deathlock-plus2226]

when i used to go to the hospital they asked me that no matter what i went for. dont get me wrong, i agree with the video, but this point is a lot less thought out and articulate than the others.

[@jameelagill5408]

@@deathlock-plus2226 Sixth Grade?! Are you insane?! Why the fuck would a nurse ask an 11 year old of she's sexually active? A child that age should not be having sex! Why ask it as if it's a choice? Why not ask if she was molested or assaulted, because That's what having sex with an 11 year old is. It just proves that adults see black girls not as girls but women.

[@ohh7759]

Well every time I’ve went to the hospital they’ve asked me this. Now I’m in full support of this video and everything it stands for and who knows maybe I’m the exception to the rule, but I don’t think that particular argument was as strong Edit: typo

[@sandyg4646]

As a person of color myself, we need to understand that these things are most perpetrated in the home by our parents as well. I remember growing up, and my mom already questioning if I was having sex, at the age of 12-13. It's unfortunately ingrained in the culture.

[@liberationgz4120]

yep. even after I was molested at 4 (she caught the 12 year old red handed) my grandmother forced me to have the "talk" which wasn't even about educating me (the woman had her own traumas and forced me to be her therapist since 7) rather it was described like a graphic assault that according to her every girl and woman will experience and we have no choice in the matter and she did not care in the slightest that a 4 year old toddler (me) was crying and wanting to just to go to her room and be left alone from her psychotic ass.. "Nah bitch. you gonna learn about this shit since you already got exposed to it.." Yet my family wonders why I want nothing to do with any of them: they love living in delusions of "Oh JuSt pRaY aBoUt iT & mOvE oN wITh LIfE iT mAkEs yOu sTrOnGeR". Yeah sure, look where that's gotten our race while everyone else's race is actually trying to HEAL their traumas..

[@sandyg4646]

@@liberationgz4120 I am SO sorry you went through that. That is awful. Praying for your healing and I hope you are in a better place now. My god.

[@GweenOfTea]

Is there any possible reason as to how it started? I'm white so I really don't understand these struggles but I definitely wanna be educated, I've seen many photos and posts too of black/poc parents dolling up their daughters to look more like women in their early 20's and how wrong it is, but is there any clue to where it started and was it from racist views just being picked up over time or has it been something that has existed for a long long time? Sorry if my question doesn't make much sense

[@sandyg4646]

@@GweenOfTea it's a long history of intergenerational trauma that's been handed down through generation after generation leading all the way back to slavery.

[@undefinederror40404]

@@GweenOfTea Adding to what Sandy Gonsalves said, there is no structural help to stop this. Governments, schools, a bunch of institutions and organisations should have hired professionals to set up a plan to help stop this cycle, but they don't. I don't want to get into why, because I don't want to send you a whole essay... But not only is the trauma being passed down in families, we as a society in general fail to help these families. It's also good that you try to be educated about this. I'm also white, and there's two tips I want to give you based on my own experience: 1) When there is a problem that is mostly bad for people who are not white, it's good to try to help but always express that their own opinions and solutions are more important. The last thing they need is for us to act like there is an easy solution that they have to accept, which comes from our point of view and not theirs. 2) If you don't understand something, you can certainly ask for people to explain. The way you phrased it here was really good! But sometimes people are tired of explaining, or angry for another reason. Try not to take it personal :) Good luck out there! And have a nice day.

[@hungoverpuppy3907]

Teachers gave me a hard time for EVERY little thing I said and did, but when it came to light, white, and bright girls who were very disrespectful towards them, it was all crickets! They would scream and punish at me for laughing at a joke, and had very BIG over reactions for me being late, but when little non-black girls curses at them, walks out of class, insults them, bullies other kids, fights other kids it's all crickets.

[@shardaswitzer8271]

Wow so sorry to hear that 😞 in the future if you recognize differential treatment say something about it point it out ❤

[@joeschmoe6492]

Same thing happened to me except i'm white. All the black kids got away with everything and I was punished. Stop the racism against white kids!

[@soleil.8044]

@@joeschmoe6492 oml, get over yourself-

[@witchplease9695]

@@joeschmoe6492 Racist troll.

[@ShortyyKat_x3]

I am so sorry. That is terrible ☹️

[@TheQueenVixen]

I am black when I was 23, while working in a nursing home I forgot to give a patient an eye vitamin. I apologized the next day for marking it wrong and entered it as an Error. I got punished by demotioned in pay for 3 months. I cried. My white co-writer she did the same thing a month later with the same patient and nothing happened. I called out the bias and they gave me back my pay without back pay from the month before. They said because the family complained on me that's why I wont get back pay. This is a sad truth.

[@mgheichert]

A company has to protect it's customers, the family may have seen the 1st as an accident and the 2nd as I have to do something to protect my parent. They may have threatened a lawsuit. You could have made a mistake that KILLED the patient. WOULD YOU HAVE CRIED if you weren't caught? Would you have admitted it? How many people were raped, assaulted or killed during George Floyd RIOTS? *If George Floyd was white there would not have been 1 protest or riot.* George Floyd died less than half a mile from Fire Station (#17) and a couple of others within 2 miles. How long should Officer Chauvin have had to wait to hand Floyd over to EMT while being threatened by a black crowd? Can't hold medical staff responsible can we? *250 thousand Americans are killed every year due to medical mistakes.* At least 25 thousand UNARMED blacks killed by medical mistakes. So why no riots demanding everyone involved in everyone of the 25,000 black deaths (EMT, Nurses, Doctors, techs, pharmacists etc.) be prosecuted for murder? ANY black patients die while you were working? Sure you want to be treated like whites and cops who get privileged treatment?

[@vibez.no.cartel]

Tf you in about. Nobody was raped because of the George Floyd riots. And you wanna talk about unjust. How about the WHITE NFL player who recently assaulted his black girlfriend and that whole thing got swept under the rug.

[@tylerrupert5430]

why do u have a co-writer while working in a nursing home? this is lacking alot of context.

[@joeschmoe6492]

Same thing happened to me multiple times but as a white person, I was punished worse. Guess this ruins your dumb narrative.

[@THEREALGATES]

@@joeschmoe6492 no one believes u

[@crowfoot8059]

I had a white teacher send one of my black female classmates to the councilor for saying “huh” instead of “excuse me”

[@junkoenoshima2756]

May I ask what the councilor did about it like are they smart or stupid like that teacher

[@minagica]

Wow what the fuck

[@booeey]

I will never understand the quickness of being upset with "huh", like it's not always supposed to be disrespect. Mostly just a innocent way of tryna hear u. My mama be the same way sometimes

[@allocatedfunds]

Yo this sounds fake

[@toshi9742]

Children are children and no one should ever treat them otherwise. Treat children: With respect? Yes. As an adult? No.

[@JustRaven00]

This tbh

[@LupeSunglass]

True, and even if you're not treating us as adults, that also doesn't mean you should demean us.

[@Slowpoke3x]

@@LupeSunglass that's like the opposite of each other.Treating people as children even to children is disrespectful.

[@nyct1b1us]

@@Slowpoke3x your comment is a bit confusing. Do you mean we should treat children like adults?

[@briannataylor9150]

@@Slowpoke3x Treating someone like a child is different than treating someone with the respect that they're a child

[@maddiecarbaugh2486]

I'm a camp counselor during the summer and it upset me a lot watching some of my co-workers try to find any and every reason to punish one of the girls, she was the only black girl that we had that week, luckily enough me and my other co-workers were able to get her fired but it's dumb that adults can look at children in a way to make them less innocent.

[@mikejohn29mj]

Children don't know right and wrong, but they can feel what's right and wrong. You can act on these issues, but it's going to continue and there's not much you can do until you find the source of adultification.

[@annbuena5710]

@@mikejohn29mj totally agree. Children are still young to process these types of emotions and they can't just assume children understand emotions and whatnot immedietly! They. Are. Children.

[@awakeneddio6012]

Reminds me on guys with tank tops. It will always make you look like a hobo, unless you pack muscle. If you're thin it doesn't matter wether it is oversized or fits perfect. Same if your fat.

[@gracelewis6071]

Thank you for doing something about it and standing up for a child.

[@maddiecarbaugh2486]

@@mikejohn29mj agreed, it's still very messed up that it happens at all and it just makes me sad that this issue even exists

[@spicedcoffee9902]

Bro, I remember in middle school 7th grade. I had overslept and was in rush to get dressed in the morning and it was the beginning of fall so it wasn’t too cold yet. I randomly picked out a blue tank top and some jeans and grabbed a hoodie or zip up jacket to wear over it incase it was chilly. I run to class trying to get there before the bell ring, mind you I was all honors so getting to where classes were important. I didn’t have any time to fix my clothes like I normally would and planned to do it once I sat down in class with the help of my friends. I’m black and I had a new young white female teacher who was cool up until this point. After class she pulled me aside outside the door mind you where students are walking around and said, “ I understand you are growing up and boys are really fascinating and everything right now, but you don’t have to show off to get their attention”. And gestured to my tank top, I didn’t know what hell she was talking about, mind you at this age I barely knew anything about guys and hadn’t even hit puberty like that, so my chest is still pretty flat, and I know for a fact I wasn't trying to show off in any kind I was in a rush this morning and the classroom was warm so I didn't think you out on my jacket. I got right to work when I got to class. I really couldn't believe it...I just walked away in silence in shock and from then on out only wore completely modest clothing because I didn't want teachers or people assuming I was ‘fast’. It's horrible how people sexualize us from a young age and assume we are just some attention seekers because of how we are portrayed. I’m in my first year of college no and only just started wearing clothing that shows off my figure because for year's I was scared of what people think of me.

[@SM-yz4hi]

it’s so disgusting how girls, especially black girls, are assumed to be doing things for male attention from such a young age when they’re literally just going about their day. A shirt can never just be a shirt, there always has to be some secret message for boys

[@forest487]

There is nothing sexual about a child, they are a pedofile

[@babeena_gt_3645]

When I was younger (26) I was an assistant in a childcare center,and always wondered about this. When I brought up to the director about how the black children in general were treated with stricter methods ,it was brushed off. Their timeouts would be longer for minor things, they weren't allowed to play with certain toys other children their age were playing with,and if they were caught doing so,they were called babies and literally picked on by the staff. I was only an assistant ,so there was not much I could do accept comfort the kids as much as I was allowed

[@mgheichert]

Everyone has problems. When I dropped off by grandson for daycare I usually stayed to calm down a white boy by reading him, most other boys and some girls a book. The staff were OK since I didn't want to get paid. No male teachers in the school, but who gives a damn about boys or men? Boys can't be boys but girls can be girls. Girls MUST be allowed to join the Boy Scouts but the Girl Scouts is just for Girls. On multiple occasions I have seen a black mother hitting her son, telling him he is as like his father (or something similar). When a white mother tells her son he is like his father it is usually a compliment to BOTH her son and husband or to show they are alike. Single mothers can't raise sons well alone. Where are all the male relatives of single mothers? Daughters of inner city black single mothers tend to graduate high school but her sons don't. In Baltimore there was a class of 120 for that year, it made the news because his single mother was upset, instead of graduating he was being sent back to grade 9. This boy was 17, he had a GPA of 0.13 (that # is right), passed 3 classes in 4 years, missed well over 200 days and his mother believed he should graduate.. it wasn't his fault after all. He was in the middle of the class of 120, that means half of the students had a GPA of 0.13 OR LESS. How many if any of the class of 120 graduated?

[@followthewhiterabbit884]

@@mgheichert I share your opinion. Isolation and other shit because of nonsense is a thing almost everyone will face once in a lifetime. I lived my whole childhood and youth in a poor neighbourhood in germany, where my neighbours are almost all from other countries. Russian, poland, arabians, ect. When I was a kid and a teenager I was many times isolated because I am german. They said "German potato" and "Nazi!" and whatever. We all were poor, but one time, they said "Germans are all rich!" and threw stones at me and yelled "Witch!" I wasn't very socially skilled at that time, because of my ADHD, but all this incidents gave me a phobia. I never said such ugly things about their countries or anything. I don't understand why they did this. I moved in an other city 10 years ago, but wtf that was hell. It doesn't matter today for me. I have a really nice live now.

[@bluegirl278]

@ME3 of course everyone has problems. The point of the video is to address a big problem that harms society as a whole but also one specific group. It’s important to draw attention to big issues or they will never get better. It’s also a fact that although we all have problems, certain groups face more problems or hurdles than others. I know that I, as a white woman, was sexually harassed at school multiple times when I was between 8-12. Boys looked up my shirt when I was on the monkey bars and told me. I told on the but got the “boys will be boys” response and they weren’t punished as an example. This is a problem in and of itself that happens. Writing off hurting/objectifying girls as okay/harmless and stereotyping it as normal male behaviour. I and as well as the only other girl was fired from our youth job (12-14). The exude given was that we were “distracting the boys”. None of the like five other boy workers were fired, told to pay attentions or given any form of discipline. The only two girls were fired for “being distracting” by our elderly manager, with no warning, advance, etc.

[@JesusChrist-sm4bm]

@@mgheichert dude I mean I can't give an explanation for Everything but Girlsoucts have been open too boys sence the 2000s. Witch rules about tents of course. Wail certain more religious tropes don't allow boys in it's mainly because they don't think girls should be allowed to be around men not that boys can't be around girls. Simple fact is Boys arnt interested in girlscouts

[@mgheichert]

@@JesusChrist-sm4bm TRANSGENDER boys or real boys? There are lawsuits from Girl Scouts to keep boys out. Girls have been pushed to enter boys and men's groups to stop men from being as SUCCESSFUL as we have been. Boys didn't want girls joining. BUT CHANGES HAVE TO BE MADE TO ACCOMADATE THE GIRLS OR WOMEN, screw tradition of males. Men's rights groups are being destroyed by Feminists. The best people to talk about men's rights are women with sons, husbands and boyfriends. MEN ARE DISMISSED by Liberal media, at least the women get to speak before they are attacked. For 3 generations Affirmative Action has allowed white males who broke no laws to be Legally Discriminated against in schools, jobs and promotions. NAME just 3 world changing inventions made by American Women (any race) or American blacks since 1965. EASY RIGHT? That is UNLESS it was less qualified women and black who were promoted over more qualified white men. This is JUST 1 world changing invention for each generation American white men have been legally discriminated against. If the team is made up of mostly white men it isn't a woman's or a black invention. If you have to ask if it is world changing, IT ISN'T. Prior to this LEGAL DISCRIMINATION, a white American man named Norman Borlaug invented dwarf wheat. He saved over 1 BILLION POC from starving. This was just 1 of his inventions to feed the world. Imagine more than a BILLION DEAD if he hadn't been able to get into college, to get jobs and promotions to invent Dwarf Wheat.

[@kissbosslife7558]

I’m so happy to have been apart of this! My first voice over job for something so deep and powerful! What a great experience!

[@maatxeats]

You did an amazing job, keep it up!

[@kissbosslife7558]

Christian Barber Thank u😊

[@dwaynecollins535]

Tikisha Amber Great job!

[@satindoll72]

You did great!

[@kissbosslife7558]

satindoll72 🙏🏾

[@aadhi4865]

This has happened to me once. in 4th grade, I was accused of bullying this white girl I got in trouble a lot and was called nasty mean and a bunch of rude names by the student and teachers and people started to be racist. Then after in 5th grade after being harassed in 4th grade this white girl started bulling me, I wasn't allowed to go places like soccer my mum paid for and was punished over and over again by the teachers, of course, the teachers didn't do anything but just punished me and said "Stop acting like a grade 2, they can even get over this" I regret going to that school it was an extremely toxic place. It's my last year there and it's going horrible.

[@MyCrystalSwan]

Hey. I'm very sorry. How are you holding up now?

[@aadhi4865]

@@MyCrystalSwan Thank you it's been kind of good but the teacher (who was laughing at me while I was being harrased) always ask what me and my friends r up to and if we r doing anything suspicious when he sees us

[@Magnolias_Burden]

You'll always remember the faces of those who hurt you. Keep that and use It to motivate you to do & be better than them! Now as a child & later as an adult. It sucks that we have to grow, accept & deal w life's ills faster than we should.

[@aadhi4865]

@@Magnolias_Burden thank you so much I'm trying to become healthy mentally and physically

[@shardaswitzer8271]

Tell our BLACK CREATOR IN HEAVEN. That's what I do! Learn to pray lil sis 😘

[@Jamie-mm8cj]

A great example is how people reacted when they found out rue from hunger games was black although in the book it specifically describes her as black. People were brutal with her. Using slurs, calling her a B, calling her ugly. Etc. It's like they didn't see her as a child and wanted to act as vile and cruel towards her as possible. Not only that but I saw posts resurface of the God of War game that's in the making and the cover has a black little girl I'm assuming one of the gods ? People were raged by this as well and explained how they couldn't be attracted to her etc. Why would you want to be attracted to a child? And why does this race matter. We don't just experience these things in person as well, you can also easily spot this belief and treatment on social media as well. This is the way that people view black women and girls and it's honestly quite sickening. I often hate living in this world. We are adultified so much that even as children we are not treated as children we are treated like adults who can handle harsh criticism and be exposed to sick and cruel actions and words. And all people tell us is that we are strong and independent. It's tiring to be placed in this category. It's tiring to be forced into a masculine perception and adult perception. I hate how our society works yet everyday I am forced to just tough it out. There is no room to be sensitive and when we get burned out we are labeled as bitter and angry. Maybe I am angry ? We get sick of it. I get sick of explaining. Why do I have to explain why my skin makes me just like everyone else? It's completely normal for hurt people to lash out. And maybe black girls want to feel and be appreciated too. It's nothing wrong with that so stop trying to minimize that little bit of representation we have.

[@lizzyred3677]

God people reacted that badly to that? I don't remember ever actually being on the internet at the time but I loved Rue :(

[@undefinederror40404]

Totally agree, recently I found some awful comment sections filled with victim blaming under videos of good causes that were trying to raise awareness about serious issues. It's so upsetting (to be reminded) that people like that exist, they are so egocentric and cruel ):

[@z2yn]

I saw her as black when I read the book. A sweet little girl who I wanted to make it home but knew in some way, she was gonna die because Katniss as the protagonist was most likely gonna make it. I still hoped though. Hearing people react negatively and trying to paint her as white just because it fits the vibe is wrong. I'm white and I don't think (better yet, I know) that white girls are not innocent just because they are white. Because it doesn't depend on skin color, it depends on how they are raised. And with the majority of white girls being spoiled and pampered, it shows how you how wrong society is for ignoring it and even fuelling it. Edit: I read the books before the movies came out and was delighted to see that Rue wasn't whitewashed and stayed true to her book counterpart.

[@black_nerdy]

I saw the video on that and I learned to things 1) Adam Lambert is a favorite among young white girls/woman. 2) White folks still can't get it right when it comes to black characters.

[@jadelance]

Wtf? I didn't even know that was a issue. Rue was one of my favorite characters and I think she perfectly demonstrated how Penam (I don't know how to spell it) and the whole system was indiscriminately poor to those below it to the point where they are willing to use a innocent bright child that just wanted to go back to her siblings and grandma as fodder

[@nevaehlheaven]

It's disrespect. It's not having kindness in your heart for a child. This is sickening.

[@stillalivestillreal]

The scariest part is the fact that those bias are deeply rooted in our culture... It's just so gross to treat children like "mature people" ,when it's never that case with young people, who need protection and empathy.😔 And it's even more gross when that happen to racialized and sexised people, like they're already victims of the system. Why would people make their life even harder

[@stillalivestillreal]

Sorry I'm dumping my thoughts on that, I hope it's okay.

[@hildaottosson8660]

All the black kids in my school were always told so directly and aggresivly that they shouldnt make mistakes and it breaks my heart

[@canrae]

Yes

[@NeyamRye]

:(

[@mlmj1994]

My first year of teaching, there were 2 new, white first year teachers. I was the only black teacher, my admin gave them more support even though I asked. There was also another teacher that was new and white but was in her 15th year. The office would pick up disruptive students in her class but when I’d call for help with the same students, they wouldn’t come. I didn’t like being hired and having fend for myself. I work a different school but I still feel like black teachers get treated more harshly when we make simple mistakes when teaching in a predominately white school with a mostly white staff.

[@Mariah203]

@C RD this comment was incredibly affirming!

[@blankacct6421]

ABSOLUTELY!!!! The only two good teachers at a very small private school I went to were treated so horribly. The administration would make it impossible for them to assign work. We had to turn in our assignments to Front Desk Karen, and anytime there was trouble with the class, the administration would come in and try to deal with it themselves, never giving my teachers the opportunity to lead their own class. At the same school, the administration treated the Black kids all with adultification bias. Anytime a white kid did something bad, my best friend would get suspended or sent to the office for "influencing the other kids in that way." Mind you, this best friend of mine had straight A's and was vice president of the student council! I'm so glad that school is failing financially because of all of us that have left.

[@mgheichert]

Why would you not teach in a black school where you are NEEDED?

[@meatyboysasmr7358]

@@mgheichert they said they’re working in a different place now 🤨 maybe it’s too much distance to travel or they weren’t accepted ?? you cannot always choose where you end up.

[@cocoloco6060]

I never noticed I was treated like this for the other years, but I noticed. This white girl named Caroline had no suspension when she bullied the whole time she attended my school,dyed the tips of her hair against the dress code and skipped school one day, but one time I was playing a game with my friends where its sorta like tag but everyone has to get these balls of clay but instead I accidentally threw a dirt one instead at this white girl,and I get suspended for 2 days, and this friend whop I ended up treating her like that too sadly would always act savage and high tempered but not her fault, they treat her like a beast, sharped toothed, caged,man eating type of savage.shes texan and from New Orleans and has dark skin like mine and an accent.I'm self vs self, i wanna tell her and other black girls about it but they wouldn't understand, but its a risk,wish me luck.

[@thelittleunicorn6196]

show them this video!!

[@joeschmoe6492]

don't be dumb

[@sophiahenderson4362]

Idk throwing a clay ball could be considered assault so it makes sense

[@fulanodetal3000]

@@sophiahenderson4362 throwing clay balls was a part of the game everyone was playing. EVERYONE was throwing clay balls. remind me, who got punished?

[@blankbear782]

@@joeschmoe6492 why you still here…?

[@HonestlyAnnaFun]

I never knew about this bias before, but I'm glad I do now so I can be on the look out for it in myself and others.

[@mgheichert]

You're a professional victim. Looking for a new problem that hadn't bothered you before. Raised by a single mother who is both mother and father? If not go see your father for some real advise. Being raised by single mothers might be the main cause of adultification bias. Being forced to grow up too fast.

[@vibez.no.cartel]

Look's like you're a professional racist. It's not victimization if it actually happens. My friend was once in the principals office with her mum and the principal just randomly assumed the dad wasn't in her life. When he was. She lived in a 2 parent household. Bare in mind we went to a predominantly white school (hated every second of it). So that doesn't necessarily have all to do with it. And you must be chronically stupid to think a problem can't indirectly or directly affect you even if you're not aware of it.

[@titayne5400]

@@mgheichert I grew up with both a mother and a father in a big house and a stable home. So tell me why I still faced this same bias?

[@Damascene_]

@@titayne5400 They said that the mere prevalence of that issue causes the stereotype to be reinforced, not that only those people experience it

[@undefinederror40404]

@@mgheichert You're a professional victim blamer, even going so far as to try and be a jerk about it to someone who didn't even use the word victim about themselves. I read the og comment as someone who doesn't face this issue themselves, but who wants to be on the lookout for others who are so we can help them. Really weird how you jumped to such crazy conclusions as well. Maybe you should watch more Phineas and Ferb and less Duck Tales.

[@bontlefaceart]

I feel like I've been wanting to find a word/phrase to express this for so long. I'm so happy this is a real thing and I'm not just crazy.

[@walkerjoggerrunner7571]

Ohh my gosh, me too, I knew infantilization takes place when a white person does wrong. I have been searching for the right word for the opposite...

[@fruitysoupy]

I worked at a daycare for a year for a college program. Two of my coworkers treated one specific black girl in our care unfairly and punished her mistakes harder. She was maybe four at the time, very tall for her age but still four. It took me a while to realize what my coworkers were doing, as not a real part of the team I tended to take everyone's word for everything. So for a few months I believed them, until one day she came up to me in one of the play room to ask me to build a tower with her. I quickly realized then that she wasn't destructive like they said, she was just clumsy and not easily upset by her mistakes. She laughs and builds it back up. And like any other child of four years old, she had some trouble with boundaries and accepting no for an answer. Because she had more energy than the other kids in her group she was viewed by my coworkers as wild and out of control, when she was just playing like any other kid would.

[@danicaperkinson1960]

I remember having the quietest, most polite friend who was black. I legit remember my uncle complaining about her being "rude and loud and sassy", talking about her like she was a shitty, stereotypical sassy black lady you see in old ass TV movies that included them for diversity points/stereotypes. Had never cringed so hard in my fuckin life it physically hurt

[@juliantapia1407]

I'm writing a book with a young black girl as the main character. These types of videos help me to better understand what kinds of issues have been going on for years now

[@serenity6831]

These comments make me sad. The world is so unkind to us even from our births

[@sweetchocolate7113]

Exactly it's truly sad

[@joeschmoe6492]

lots of people get bullied. Maybe it's not because of your skin color. If you keep being a slave to this idea, it will hold you for your entire life. I hope you grow out of it.

[@Skadi609]

@@joeschmoe6492 or maybe she was bullied because of her skin color, you never know...

[@_devil__0nline67]

@Joseph Christina human beings are all slaves to their own nature. That is indisputable. The only way to free yourself is to let go and phase through in a massive change, even if that change is unfair.

[@elizabethlafleur3267]

@@joeschmoe6492 we’re treated poorly because of our skin color JOE :/ it’s reality

[@latet_in_hidis]

I learned about this like a day ago and my first thought was “wtf?? This sort of thing should be obvious and yet it has to be said it has to be changed so young black girls can have proper childhoods?” Its disgusting that its not already normal

[@chadnuts]

This is all made up.

[@geministrial950]

@@chadnuts Ah yes, the experiences of hundreds of black women and girls from all over the world must ALL be made up

[@chadnuts]

@@geministrial950 stereotypes exist for a reason. Let's take Leslie Jones from SNL just for example. Snl is a skit comedy show where each cast member plays a variety of characters. Leslie Jones was in countless skits. Why does she always play the loud angry sassy black woman in every skit she has been in. She was even the loud angry sassy black woman in ghost busters 2016. Do you ever wonder why so many black men prefer white women more?

[@geministrial950]

@@chadnuts Thats your argument? "A fictional character most likely written by white people is a stereotype, therefor all black women are like this"?

[@TonyTonyFizzy]

@@chadnuts just because it’s a stereotype doesn’t mean it’s true. That’s just like saying all white men are racist and all asian men have small dicks. It’s just not true Is it?

[@JaidenMakesMusic2590]

as a white person, im glad i stumbled upon this video, as i am now informed about this issue. i dont experience this sort of discrimination, so it is important that i and other unopressed people have these recources. if i can do anything to be a better ally to the black and poc community, let me know what i can do (keep in mind im a legal minor that doesnt have a job). thanks for the video @Georgetown Law!

[@chadnuts]

As a white person. I don't believe a single bit of this video.

[@trol_8889]

@@chadnuts as a black person, eat rocks.

[@Miscellaneous_master]

@@chadnuts of course you don’t, you live comfortably in your socially-privileged life with your rose colored glasses.

[@chadnuts]

@@Miscellaneous_master what privilege do I have that you don't? Didn't we have a black president and isn't out current VP black? What about black privilege? Why is it okay for black people to be proud of their race? Why is it wrong for me to be proud of being white? Why are white people the only group that is allowed to be attacked with racism? Ever heard of affirmative action? I can't get free money for my skin color.

[@TonyTonyFizzy]

@@chadnuts your argument is so backwards💀. We’ve had plenty of white presidents and VP’s and nobody is saying you can’t be proud of being white? Did a bunch of people from twitter tell you that? And who’s attacking you? Not to mention, I’ve never got free money and I’m black.

[@pandaattackz967]

As a black girl/woman now; Its weird that I never had to deal with this in my childhood maybe it was because I would get sad and apologize for anything bad I done before anyone says anything ...I don't really know but, every girl that was black around me did constantly get told that they should know better and question if they were sexually active

[@pandaattackz967]

@StinkyDinky Bussy Yeaaaah I'm still child like in some ways so maybe that's why (Also everyone who just hears my voice, for example on ps4, thought I was white) though it sucks that black women have to deal with this Although I never dealt with it my friends were told they should know better and asked a lot of questions but, for me they were like aw its ok you didn't know better For a looong time I was confused, should I be scared to make mistakes or is it ok now that I'm older I understand why I struggled and why did everyone around me struggled

[@shonnaa7117]

I too never experience these issues, and that's because I'm an autistic African girl. All I enjoy doing is playing with toys, games and watch cartoons, just like other kids do. Even as a grown woman, I still feel like a kid at heart, but it also feels weird to not be like other black girls.

[@MissMoontree]

Maybe you had other factors? I'm white, but I noticed people treated me different from other white girls my age because of how I look (I look younger). This comes with both advantages as disadvantages. I get more help from people and they are softer spoken to me. However they are less likely to put me in leadership positions even though I've taken on those roles pretty often. If you have big eyes, small built, are skinny with lots of facial fat and a tilted up nose, people will assume you are younger. Maybe for you it cancels out.

[@cassandrabelyeu2419]

@@shonnaa7117 Oh, cool! I’m white and have the same “problem” because of my autism-when I realized that autistic kids who didn’t seem overly childlike were treated like tiny adults, I was hugely grateful that my coloring books and childlike appearance had my back. But no one should be subjected to this “adultification”. It must be a nightmare.

[@pandaattackz967]

I'm glad I never had to suffer from adultification when i was a kid but, it was strange growing up because I thought that be treated that way was normal, since every other kid around me seem to be treated like an adult when I was little

[@KingDuckSauce]

It’s true honestly, I’m mixed and I’m light skin, even if I’m black I was always loved by teachers as A child, even up to 10ths grade my Spanish teacher said everything I submitted was right, barley even checked, but darker kids who worked for the entire period were sent back

[@bruhpurpleee]

Same here

[@catdacat5863]

I remember my best friend in middle school was kind of drifting away from me and not eating as much. Turned out she was being bullied by these douchebags in her gym class. She asked the old, white principal if she could switch classes just for her to tell my friend "no get over yourself" then turn around and gladly reschedule someone else's. The gym teacher was a woman and just told my friend that the boys "probably liked her". They physically hurt her with a locker. They got her schedule changed, but the principals didn't do shit to the boys :/

[@nicoleb695]

Well those boys probably grew up thinking assaulting women is okay. Frick, man, that sucks. I hope she's doing okay now

[@blitzn00dle50]

"They just like you" as away to excuse harassment and assault should disqualify you from teaching positions

[@NeyamRye]

You should need a certificate to take care of children and if you abuse Harass or harm kids in any way shape or form you can never be allowed in kids areas again

[@far6311]

Im 5 ft tall 97lbs with a baby face and i still over-pitch my voice to sound white and childlike (think anime girl voice). It works, white people treat me diffrrently with it

[@HighKicks2yaTeef]

I usually get my way whenever I employee this tactic. I practiced at it and now the 'small, cute' voice comes easier. I smile while doing it. So, I'm less 'threatening' lol

[@popcents5]

It is a shame we can't be ourselves.

[@liberationgz4120]

@@popcents5 and yet white ppl wonder why misogynior is a thing... this is why.

[@spaghetto9836]

Woah. I'm 5ft five, just around 80 pounds & never thought about that. My voice just shifts higher whenever I'm in public (in contrast to my almost baritone natural voice) bc I'm socially anxious, but I never thought that it changes how ppl treat me.

[@Meggsie]

This is normal and I do this too. Lots of people change their voice, though normally just subconsciously, depending on who they're talking with. My grandma actually taught me this, because she was a secretary and found if she did as you described she was treated better with people she worked with. (Who were mostly men at the time.) It's good to be aware of it so you can be more conscious about what voice to use for what setting. (Also good idea to identify other voices you use for other settings.)

[@bobthaboy]

"Strong black woman" is a really good example of benevolent sexism

[@FlowerTower]

Misogynoir** sexism affects all women and girls. This is about black women and girls.

[@StarCatcher525]

It applies to our black boys as well. They get treated as threatening criminals while they are only children and teens. But it's really much deeper than that. By dehumnizing us and treating black children as if they are adults the narrative that black people are violent or less than is reinforced. If one is to look at a black child but does not see a child how are they expected to show any compassion or understanding?

[@far6311]

My mom wouldnt stop telling me to stay in a childs place. Now im 24 and childish and shes wondering why i dont talk to her

[@ataraxia7439]

This is definitely one of the more disturbing aspects of racism. We’re depriving kids of being seen as worthy of protection and nurture as others and that’s messed up.

[@tikimillie]

Could it have something to do with the idea of black women being more masculine and how boys are often less nutured? Like, darker skin being viewed as more masculine and looking young and childlike is a feminine trait? So being viewed as more masculine also makes you look more grown up? Im just theorising here but feel free to debate.

[@strawberrylemonade5626]

That's exactly right, Megan thee stallion as an example people always call her trans or a man even though she's a biological women. People say that's it just because she's tall which could be apart of the reason but Taylor Swift is as tall as Megan but don't get hardly as many comments Megan does.

[@naluaestou]

i think it's more because we (the whole world) usually view black american women as more independent and confident, so society expects even little girls to behave that way

[@okiedokie2840]

@@strawberrylemonade5626 and meg is very curvy so def not a body thing

[@wisteria3032]

the following rant is just my personal thoughts - I have no evidence whatsoever I think more than masculinity we associate the colour black to danger. Not for cultural reasons only. You get darker the more you stay in the sun, which means more stamina and strength and the ability to defend oneself too because of the jobs historically associated with being in the open (hunting and farming). It's the same reason why two people otherwise identical are treated differently if one is more muscolar than the other. Danger and sexual attraction always go hand in hand (because survival) so we sexualize black people a lot more than white people (of course there are lots of other factors but let's stick to skin colour for now). This creates a rift within the person doing the sexualizing. Please note that I say "sexualizing" and not "lusting after". We already live in an oversexualized society. You don't need to think disgusting things to be sexualizing someone - just notice that you notice their body. If you find yourself sexualizing a child you may have two completely different reactions. Option one is blaming yourself, thinking that you are somehow a pedo, doubting your values and getting emotionally devastated about it (internalized self-accusation owed to society nowadays only thing of extreme situations). The obvious defence mechanism is to adultify the other person so that your own sexualizing is somehow justified (I am not a bad person, I can't help it because they look like an adult). Since you do this subconsciously you have no control over it. You may only need to adultify their body but you end up adultifing the person. Option two is victim blaming: it's their fault for dressing like this, acting like this, sounding like this... anything just to assure yourself that it's not in fact your own fault. Which brings you to somehow try and exert revenge on the person who made you uncomfortable. Or if you think about yourself as a responsible adult to at least try and teach them they shouldn't in fact dress like that, look like that or sound like that. A lot of people facing this kind of discrimination actually _do_ act more adult - a necessary defense mechanism because no one else is going to take care of them. If they come from a family where this problem is felt they have probably been tought how to act more adult just to protect themselves. Which of course create a vicious cycle of confirmation bias on both sides.

[@3173_Delta]

The things in the beginning could very easily be said about girls/boys biases "Boys are seen to need less nurturing than girls" "Boys are seen to need less protection than girls" "Boys are seen to need less support than girls" "Boys are seen to need less comforting than girls" "Boys are more likely to be referred to juvenile justice system than girls" "Boys are more likely to be disciplined for minor violations than girls" "Boys are more likely to be charged with a crime than girls" (I don't have the statistics of course, purely speculation, if anyone wants to prove me wrong I'd welcome statistics) I don't know if it's related, but man does misαndry suck

[@dragonslayer101]

As a white person I didn't experience this, but in fourth grade I did witness my teacher constantly give one of my friends a harder time than me. One time she said to be quiet during class and he and I were talking, it was strange because I was the one who started the conversation but he was given detention. After class I asked her why didn't she give me detention too because I was also talking. But she just shrugged. Could it be that the reason why she gave him a harsh punishment just for talking is because he is a black male and I was a white female? I seriously cannot fathom how messed up this world is.

[@spiritualelement757]

Indeed as a black girl myself I am scared for my life because of how different we are treated. Why? We didn’t do anything to deserve so why

[@bruhpurpleee]

@@spiritualelement757 Same here. We'll get through this together.

[@HueGenex]

I remember my little sister being singled out as loud and obnoxious by some teacher. I called bullshit because my sister's an introvert then told the principal he was racist. They didn't fire him until I threatened to call the news.

[@itzjxda809]

I’m 11 and I’m glad people are talking about this

[@Ineddiblehulk]

Seeing this points out that I totally have this implicit bias too - just through general media bias. Shows the importance of under represented communities having control of their stories in the media and beyond.

[@backgroundcharacter2615]

Everyone needs the same amount of love and affection! Outrageous! If you feel as though you can’t make mistakes in 4th grade somethings wrong.

[@Bowl427]

As a black girl, who went to a majority black high school ima be honest, the main ones who be telling black girls “you shoulda known better” and all this is their own parents. It’s the parents who don’t nurture us enough, treating us wrong from the start , acting wrong around a child, yelling at a 6th grader or “whooping them” like they’re a grown man. and so the cycle continues, the “ kids “ at my school use to have fist fights with their parents, argue with the teachers and abuse the teachers. It makes me embarrassed. So unreasonable . But it’s their parents, and those uneducated kids who act like their parents and just gonna treat their future kids like that, a lot of black young girls are actually sexually actively from 5th grade with other guys this is the norm and very accurate from my POV, many teen pregnancies, I know a girl who’s barely 17 already pregnant and her baby daddy got shot and killed like what??? It’s so weird , and then the black girls at my school cared about nothing else but how they looked, fake hair fake nails caked up face all at 7 in the morning having a mouth and showing sass to any shy kid who accidentally looked at them But I have nothing else to compare us to, I can’t say weather or not white people are treated better or not bcc where I grew up there’s literally only black people, and I hate living here. It’s so hostile and for no reason, when I was younger I was bullied for wearing anything else besides Jordan’s or Nikes We black people literally created enemies of each other, one side says the other is embarrassing to them and don’t consider themselves apart of being black even bcc of how uneducated and hostile they act to other black kids and everyone else

[@KamalasNotLikeUs]

We did not create this issue. We continue and further it, but we were not its architects.

[@cocaina4870]

To the people in the comments talking about how this happens to “All Black Children” or “As a (non black Person) this happens to me too”please stop. This is about black girls right now. Learn to sit back and listen because not everything is about y’all.

[@rfsl1266]

Troll

[@cocaina4870]

@@rfsl1266 your mother

[@whatif3271]

Tell em

[@whatif3271]

@@rfsl1266 hopefully you're the actual troll and not being honest

[@isthataspider7410]

Those commenters were raised to believe that everything is about them, and it really shows.

[@lewa3910]

More people need to watch this and genuinely listen to it's message

[@gem9535]

As a white girl, I've never heard of this and it's horrifying. I can't believe this is actually happening and that people think it's okay. What is WRONG with people. Let kids be kids and let them grow up at their own pace

[@melissamaritxu70]

I am a Latin girl who suffered the same when growing up, the nurses asked me if I was sexually active when I was only 12 or 13 years old, they asked since I always looked more mature and behaved like an adult, but there were cases where I was asked only Because my period had already started at 10 years old, the sad thing about all this is that I never really realized this until now, I really did not like having a more developed body and being tall because I realized they saw me from Different way everywhere, at school, when I went out to buy, what I remember the most is that when I was 10 years old they told me that my period would mean that I was already a woman.

[@satapon4129]

I've never seen this before. I'm white but my mother's side is Jamaican, I went to a majority black people primary school and high school so I think maybe that's why. It's genuinely crazy and so saddened that some people aren't allowed to just be kids

[@FlowerTower]

So you think going to school with black people is why you never saw this? That’s oxymoronic.

[@satapon4129]

@@FlowerTower The black people in my school were racist towards white people

[@FlowerTower]

@@satapon4129 Good

[@satapon4129]

@@FlowerTower Lol okay

[@mjayachoo]

I'm trying to understand more, it like when black girls get straight sew in hair that looks exactly like little white girls long straight hair, the black girl is told she looks too "grown" but the white girl isnt. I hope this made sense this is one was I undertsand all this.

[@j.rodriguez4076]

This video needs alot more love cuz i still feel this very prevalent especially online

[@XclusiveMaya]

This is so sickening! I hope one day all of this will be gone

[@turkeystank551]

I worked with a black girl who was 16. She wasn’t very good at her job... she was just always on her phone and didn’t help us much. But I never held it against her because she’s a TEENAGER. Teenagers just get distracted easily and don’t like being bossed around by stressed irritable adults. But oh my god my other coworkers held such a grudge against her and assumed that just because she acted the way she did at her current job (which at the time was her first job), she was going to live the rest of her life as a lazy slacking worker... The funny thing is though, there’s another kid there who’s white and 16 and does the same stuff she did. No one says anything about him. They just write it off as “oh lol he’s just like that sometimes.”

[@Bowl427]

Another major factor is if black people treated each other and our kids better and not whooping them or screaming at them like they’re a whole adult when they’re only 10, then we would be better, we need to make that change We’re literally hostile to each other and our kids, where I grew up, nothing but black people in my area, blacks are literally racist to black people like what?? I have a shy friend who says the other black kids make her embarrassed at our race Referring to the video: The parents are the only ones in my experience who are like “ you shoulda known better”

[@zari2662]

💯

[@hatenayousei]

this is so messed up. how can you make assumptions about a child based on the color of their skin? they can't control that

[@SiMone-bi5po]

I remember when I was in 7th grade, 12 at the time. My teacher gave me detention for too many inexcusable tardies. It was 3 within the same quarter. She assumed I was walking around the halls and chatting like the other teen girls that walk in late. I told her my grandma doesn’t like to take the fast route to get here and that she drives me to the school. I live across town so the only other way was by bus. Teacher said it was my responsibility to get here on time. Wtf was I supposed to do drive? Like I’m finna cross my grandma and run away to school on the bus. If she says no bus, then no bus. That’s not my fault. Right before corona hit I was supposed to serve another detention the week after with this, with this racist security guard. Was it my fault?

[@13realmusic]

I remember as young as middle school age I was out in public somewhere with my little sister (5 year difference) and people would ask if she was my daughter. Physically no fucking way. So fucked up.

[@Hikari72707]

a lil black girl here: when i was elementary school (k-5) in the third grade my teacher would give me punishments for other people i was reading, but according to her, i was doing that to loud so now i had extra homework, some other kid was literally dancing, she didnt say squat 2nd story: i was about 8 or 9 at this time attending a summer camp with people who were my age ya, but i was the only black little girl, now, at the time i didnt know what this was so i just thought it was unfair, it first started when a girls lunch bag went missing, *IMMEDIATELY* i was to blame, they started yelling at me, threatening me, telling me i was an awful child and how could i, i didnt even know what was going on, and as they accused me i asked them why and i kid you not, one of the counselors said " well, it could've only been you, your always bad " camp had on started a week ago 👁👄👁, then 2 days later this dude who a lil older than the rest of us cane in and asked if he could take my building i made of legos, i said "no thanks, im using it maybe after " he walked over to a desk and started to fake cry, then a consoler screamed at me " GET OVER HERE " she said that the kid said i was cursing at him and yelling and making fun of him, mind you she was with in ear shot of me and had been glaring at me ever since i came to the camp, but, because im not like how they thought i was, all i could do was cry, they told my mother, and i had to explain what had happened and she talked to them about it and of course they changed the story, and lastly, dodge ball was a popular CONSOLERS choice, because when ever we would play ( there were now more black kids now ) all the black kids ( me included ) would get BRUISES, why? well, when we played all the camp counselors threw the soft plush balls at all the others who weren't black, but used regular miniature rubber ones on the black children *AND THREW THEM AS HARD HAS THEY COULD* and when confronted by their parents theyd say " they started a fight with the other kids ".................... so the camp was shut down the year after and they were sued-

[@hyunjinsredlips1761]

I've also realized that kids adapt to how they're treated by adults. if they're sweared at, prematurely judged and treated too maturely for their age, they adapt to that treatment but the minute you actually treat them like kids they show their true innocent, hyperactive and kind souls. TREAT BLACK GIRLS LIKE KIDS, that's what they are! be the responsible adult and make sure they have a safe childhood. keep your damn biases aside.

[@jeneasler9654]

Everything starts in the home. I see so many black mothers and fathers acting a fool with there kids (male and female) so we need to start checking black parents who are cussing out there toddlers and whatnot to build a better family foundation. So when they go out in public and are treated they'll know its wrong and say something. Adutification is basically bullying and that starts in the home.

[@karenlouis2956]

I don't agree with this. It isn't only black children that have disruptive households. I work in a school and am aware of most of the the student's home life. There's non-black students that have terrible parents then the black children but sadly my school follows the statistics. They threat the white children who come from disruptive home with more compassion than the black children who come from hardworking and loving parents. Also, school has many roles in society: shelter, education, food provider...basically a life coach for each student. Children spent most of their days in a school facility. I believe their home life is a large factor but so is the outside environment children are exposed to. Like the old proverb, "it takes a village to raise a child." If that village is making assumptions and harshly punishing a child based on physical traits, of course the child might live up to those standards. Then they may grow up and continue acting like a 'fool' because that's the best society expects from them.

[@bc3376]

@@karenlouis2956 It's not about yall though this video focuses on black children-

[@raichump_yt]

Also it's on the black community as well for perpetuating sexualizing black girls so early. Can't tell you how many times I've heard "oh she's fast"

[@nantahalacryptid8279]

I understand this is largely in relation to external influences like teachers, but I want to draw attention to the role some black parents have in the adultification of their children

[@okiedokie2840]

True

[@ShinySylviee]

Not only parents, but black adults in general. They usually never mean any harm. They just know how the game is played and they think getting us prepared for it might mitigate the worst of it. They don't know that they are playing right into it. I had a black teacher who would constantly tell me how I need to be great and better than everyone else to prove white people wrong. At the time, I took it with pride because it was perhaps the first time a teacher was treating me with any sort of respect. Looking back on it, I realized it shouldn't have to be my job. I shouldn't have had to throw away my childhood to attempt to be the best of the best.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

Very true. When I got my period at 12, my aunt told my mom "Uh oh, you better put her on some contraceptives!" Then burst out laughing. I didn't even know what contraceptives were. I had my Polly Pocket in one hand, barbie in the other, and never even held hands with a boy, and my aunt insisted on my mom putting me on birth control... at fucking 12. That was a time where they should have been educating me on my developing body, discussing safe sex practices, validating my self esteem, and introducing me into womanhood and they didn't; they sexualized me instead.

[@livielove3000]

Why do you want to call attention to the role Black parents play in the adultification of their children. To make you or other white people feel like it's not your fault? This issue is a lot bigger than kids getting in trouble at school, it can mean life or death i.e. Tamir Rice.

[@vivianraw]

Let's keep the focus on external factors. The truth is in the U.S. Black people including Black children have been psychologically attacked (and physically) for a very long time. The Effect is (or may be) that Black Parents encourage their children to mature faster in an effort to protect them from those external factors. Please stop pretending you don't comprehend cause and effect. What happens if the causes cease to exist? Think about it and stop pretending. Draw attention to and stay focused on the role white culture and systems play in the adultification of Black Children.

[@poucet___]

I'm french, there were a few Maghrebi girls in class, and even though I was less childish and sweet than them, I was treated more nicely. I didn't ask for it because I was though and I felt like being stupid. One of them was obedient, kind, innocent, she really liked flowery accessories and was afraid of being told off. But teachers always had something to reproach to her. A little girl that I didn't like was white with blue eyes, reddish cheeks, long, dark blonde hair and freckles. She was tiny and always maked other kids feel bad, stole things, yet teachers didn't say anything to her because she was "an innocent angel" (she definitely wasn't). Always doing horrible things and crying when it was discovered. She was friends with the nice girl I talked about earlier. Eventually, I stopped hanging out with her because I didn't know why she was treated differently (and she was too annoying). Didn't seem fair to me. Was the same with a black friend of mine, when we were like 12 years old. She was smart and bubbly, a bit naive, and the first to be scolded by adults. In comparison, my mixed-blood bestfriend, who was a boy, was treated like "a baby" by the other kids, and girls weren't nice towards him. White boys often told him things like "you suck", "you're a loser", even though he wasn't one. Always saw differences between white kids and others.

[@toxicstarcandy]

hurts that this happens to most if not all of us

[@moaaar8783]

This is true, when I got my first phone, and when I was 10 I was groomed. My mom took my phone, keeping the actual punishment for later, and told me I knew what I was doing and how I knew better. I'm just learning that this was a action of adultification.

[@MissJJoan]

I experienced this in my childhood I just didn’t know what to call it. I had this teacher that would just send me to the principal’s office for disciplining but not tell me why. Then when I got to the office I would ask why I was sent there, multiple times and they would always answer “you know why” and just keep me there without giving an explanation. That is a really messed up thing to do to a little girl. I’m caucasian, but maybe my having Afro hairdo was a factor? I don’t know. But yeah, adultification is real. My parents realized what was happening and transferred me to another school.

[@okiedokie2840]

I don't mean to question you so sorry if I do, but how can a white person have an afro?

[@kinkyink4227]

@@okiedokie2840 no they can not. However white ppl can still get perms and naturally curly hair.

[@okiedokie2840]

@@kinkyink4227 what about bob ross

[@onlyoddity]

I didn't even realize this was a thing, as a white woman. This really does need to be out there. Needs to be seen more. Thats so cruel and unjustified.

[@fantrash5698]

Yeah, I had dealt with issue as a black girl and I never ask for help or am scared to because of the back lash I get.

[@bruhpurpleee]

@Marissa Lopes Exactly, especially with the Body Positivity Movement. White women are more accepted to be plus-sized than black women. If a black woman is plus-sized, she has to have an extreme hourglass body shape with a snatched waist, meanwhile plus-sized white women are allowed to be any size.

[@horchata.devourer]

i didnt even know this happened, im so glad this ended up on my recommended

[@chadnuts]

It doesn't happen. They are embellishing these stories.

[@horchata.devourer]

@@chadnuts are you sure about that tho 👁👄👁

[@chadnuts]

@@horchata.devourer yes👌💯👍

[@horchata.devourer]

@@chadnuts im not gonna believe that lmao i have to look it up

[@peaches6316]

@@horchata.devourer Don’t worry, This is 100% true. The person dismissing this is most likely white and doesn’t face it.

[@maesaliva]

Damn, White girl here, didn’t quite realize this until now. So insightful! Thank you.

[@Proj3ta]

I grew up hearing racist comments, normally directed to black people, throughout my entire childhood. I always knew that wasn't ok, but I never said anything. When I got a bit older, I stopped being quiet, and started questioning people on their racist jokes, or even arguing with them, (with friends, and unfortunately, even family). Being quiet is not enough to end racism. I'm glad the younger generations are standing against this intolerance, but the amount of racist people that are still there scares me.

[@ladydeath3463]

In middle school at age 11 or 12 I remember wearing a skirt to school that followed the finger tip code but the teacher reprimanded me for my butt etc. Something I never thought about until I was like 19 cause I was a late bloomer. Again a white girl and my non white friend wore literally almost identical outfits yet it was seen as sexual on my friend by my white assistant principal who literally hugged and laughed with the white girl. But told my non white friend to get changed or go home because of a body she couldn't control and just happened to be midsized like around a size 14 and the other was maybe an 8. The bias is very real but for some reason no one sees it but us.

[@364dragonrider]

What lunatic decided to classify a ball to the face as assault and battery? Kids get hit in the face with balls during school all the friggin time, and most of the time on accident.

[@JaKyra365]

Honestly, because of this being so prevalent in my life, my mental health is not the greatest

[@joshraid1550]

I remember hearing a black girl who I was friends with when I was in middle school say people think she's 17 sometimes because she's so tall. I was also very tall at the time, and no one had ever assumed I was 17.

[@hangfive324]

why are the people in the comment always angry when something is about black girls

[@lilacspring2556]

Let’s be honest, this stuff is worse in our homes. If we treated each other right at home, we could expect others to do that for us as well…

[@MillieBlackRose]

Children are children. They all need love and attention. They all deserve second chances. And should never be made to feel like outcasts.

[@knoniezzimlou2193]

Bro...asian people infatilisation and black people adultifation...thats fucked up.

[@toadvlogs2213]

If I was that age I would rather be infatilised

[@afoolishfopdoodle3284]

I don't understand how someone can look at a 5-YEAR-OLD and think that they are less of a child than any other child. That is disgusting. I will sometimes say "treat kids like small adults" as in "don't treat kids like they're stupid because they're kids". Like, that's what treating a kid like an adult should mean, treating a child like they're capable of grasping smarter content. Not this. Never this. (This was probably poorly worded but I hope there's still decipherable meaning in it.)

[@brkdncrgrl]

as the eldest daughter of an eldest daughter of an eldest daughter. I literally got myself into college and grad school by myself, just asked for the checks for app fees. My parents were like, "u could do it, and did. U didn't need our help."

[@black_nerdy]

Sometimes this happens in our own communities

[@_b.4596]

When I was around 13 I went to Walmart with my mom, sister, and my cousin. I was holding my baby cousin (2) because she didn't wanna walk and I like holding babies so win-win. My cousin also liked to go limp in your arms so while trying to keep her up, I fell behind a little bit (no more than 10 feet) and the dirty looks I got from some old white couple.... Who I just knew were assuming that she was my child. I gave them a dirty look back and ran right up to my sister who loudly called them perverts. Which they are, if you look at a child holding a baby and the first relationship you think of is mother-daughter, you're sick in the head.

[@thugacookie]

this white jewish girl was bullying me earlier this school year and she shoved me while i was walking down the hall. i poured water on her head and i got sent to the dean/home called 😶

[@vivianraw]

They're doing it DELIBERATELY to psychologically damage children and should be fired and sued, along with the school district. How can a child learn to respect so-called authority figures, if the authority figures are disrespectful and yelling at the children.

[@lindanamulondo1132]

I was basically afraid to do anything, it made me suicidal, had to walk on eggshells 😓, white fragility it so scary.

[@underplague6344]

The thumbnail made me think this was an analog horror for a second...

[@jaydamay6815]

we need to fix this issue within the Black community as well . Black parents seem so eager & quick to punish their kids for every single tiny action . Black kids walk around blind to the fact that something they do may be perceived as inappropriate or disrespectful until they get punished for it . they don’t know better bc nobody wants to explain why it’s wrong , they just wanna punish them for it . a lot of actions are also just kids being kids . a lot of the times when my little cousin gets yelled at it’s due to him being hyperactive , obnoxious or annoying , but not disrespectful . I don’t think Black kids should be punished for being themselves .

[@Ms.Divine2024]

15k like. Honestly I haven't hear of this topic until I watched a video by Khadija Mbowe about and wow. this made me rethink past scenarios in my life that I've went through that was Black Female Adultification.

[@OlisGarden]

This is denfinitly a serious problem that needs to be solved, luckily I live in a very nice place that is very racially diverse and accepting. But the governmant needs to start making sure teachers, cops, ect, have no racial biases, as it is terrible when they do. I hope the world gets better soon.

[@billydaytripper]

I had no idea this was a thing!! I'm so glad this video was recommended to me, thank you so much.

[@mauropereira187]

This is why American culture worries me, I want nothing to do with it or it’s social structure.

[@iamshirleyjackson]

Thank you for this informative video 🙏🏽

[@Msh4rky]

This is a really important thing to talk about. Thank you for showing me this.

[@G.r.e.g.g.l.e.s]

As a teacher of young kids of all backgrounds and ethnicities, this video helped me realize that I luckily don't suffer from this racist bias. Thanks for that.

[@pinkbunnyskyedoesthings7762]

Reading these things as a white girl teenager is sickening.

[@ahoyforsenchou7288]

Well you're exactly the demographic that they're trying to brainwash, so that means it's working.

[@pinkbunnyskyedoesthings7762]

@@ahoyforsenchou7288 Brainwash?? Do you think this isn't a real problem?

[@lunadestiny1238]

And people still say white privilege isn’t real

[@bfFAN221]

It's literally a boogieman, get over it...

[@blitzn00dle50]

@@bfFAN221 how can you be confronted with this shit and still deny it

[@HiAdrian]

I think there's definitely some truth to this, black girls are seen as less cute and innocent. 2:54 is not a baseless stereotype however - these adults criticize actual behavior as it occurs. There shouldn't be a double standard for behavioral norms.

[@far6311]

Im 5 ft tall 97lbs with a baby face and i still over-pitch my voice to sound white and childlike. It works, white people look at me like theyve seen an angel

[@bluemusic9680]

@@far6311 Its sad that life has come to that 😔

[@nueshb4797]

This is a stereotype about black adults they're applying to black kids. If they really suspect a black child is promiscuous, they should take it seriously and get them the help they need instead of reveling in said stereotype.

[@batsnghostz]

I never even realized this happened to people. So fucked up! Y’all deserve better

[@AnnaMarieBooth.Educator]

Thought-provoking

[@AriVirtual]

Yo yes @2:33 I soooo felt that. Im light skin Dominican but was always treated like shit for no reason so yeah I been through it all, this as well

[@harmothagreat]

lightskin dominican? As another dominicana, im telling you now don't say that. Im so tired of other Dominicans that are literally black not calling themselves that. "Oh im dominican and darkskin" no, your black.💀 Just say your black or afrolatin bc...

[@cocaina4870]

This was not about you, why couldn’t you save this comment for a video talking about the adultification of little light skinned Dominican girls? Narc.

[@Gigi-q5t1o]

around 4th class, I pulled the middle finger at a girl because my friend influenced me to, the girl kept shoving me and violently playing with me like I was a toy, and then the girl started saying "I'm telling the teacher" after I pulled the finger and I kept begging her to not, and even apologising, she did tell the teacher which caused me to have a panic attack. The girl and my friend did get into a little trouble, But I took the most trouble all because "I should've known better". Ah yes, a child that was 10 YEARS OLD, was kept being violently played with non-stop, and influenced by their toxic friend, Deserves to get into the most trouble all because they pulled the middle finger. My friend and the girl were white while I was an Indian... Adultification bias is disgusting

[@Fleta_Maughner]

Ramsey treats every adult as an adult Ramsey treats every kid as a kid Be like Ramsey

[@kermyfrog9548]

Omg this literally made me realize so much racism I experienced as a child

[@KingofgraceSARA]

Let's not forget the sibling to this topic and that is the innocentification of white women. Any time a white woman is either victim or perpetrator, in the media, she is called terms like, "girl and beauty queen. " I've experienced this with an adult black male and when I called him out on calling a 19 year old white woman a little girl, all hell broke loose. She was victimized by a boss and instead of allowing that to speak for her, he added the little girl(innocent) narrative to it. Cursed me out all because I brought this topic to him. I never knew the term, "adultification" but I knew this phenomenon was occurring. Like the Red Hot Chili Peppers song goes, 🎶 throw away your televisions now, it's a repeat🎶 I pray that the Lord Jesus would break the shackles off of the minds of mankind- give us eyes to see and tears to hear the truth!

[@KevlarSammy]

That’s really interesting. Thank you for sharing. As a White male I believed a lot of this was BS.. Although after looking at the numbers, for an essay that I’m writing for my bachelors writing requirement, in California this is true. I can share the numbers, but it’s something like this: 40% of all felonies for juveniles are for violent crimes, 42% of which were black , and 45% of all female crimes were assaults. So what that means is when a Black young female comes in the contact with the police she is more likely to be charged with a felony assault than any other crime. Furthermore, they can’t nail down exactly why the disparities are happening. But the whole school to prison pipeline has been extremely reduced, due to additional training. For example, one of them was called White Racial Identity Development by Janet Helms in 1990. In her work, she talks about these stages that White people go through when coming to terms with their Whiteness. Furthermore, Tatum describes society racism as smog that we all kind of breathe in and create. This whole idea of being colorblind and avoiding the topic about race, because that’s what “good people do” is BS. I don’t know if you allowed to read this, but I really appreciate your post and I’m just very excited to be able to learn more about being White in America.