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In this video Joel Mark Witt goes beyond the typical ENFJ personality type descriptions around behavior and talks about the mental wiring of the ENFJ mind.
Topics:
- The cognitive functions for ENFJs
- How to use your personality for personal development
- Ways to stop allowing your personality to hijack your happiness
- Ways that you as an ENFJ show and receive love
- Next action steps for your ENFJ personal growth journey
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[@TipTypeTube]

❤ I have your PDF. But I also feel like I got the most results from doing Mindfulness practises. I also had to overcome my fear of extroverted sensing after this podcast. Cause it felt a little judgemental.

[@lipikabansal180]

"the world that assaults you with endless neediness" - and I am silent. that is just so accurate about the world.

[@davidwhite3078]

…and the sucker that can’t help but fall for it, at least at first glance. …and also, the Sage who can tell instantly who would actually benefit from help, from those who need to figure it out themselves, or are just emotionally vampiric.

[@narayaniji8699]

@@davidwhite3078 So true! I need to practically ENLIGHTEN my co-pilot to get enough clear intuition to rid myself of toxic interactions with people who pretend to want help but actually have other agendas.

[@h0ph1p13]

@@davidwhite3078 There is always another Perspective: “Build a man a fire and he’ll be warm for a night. Set a man on fire and he’ll be warm for a lifetime.” ( Terry Pratchett )

[@TipTypeTube]

I am sorry ❤. How are you now, 3 years later?

[@napisanina]

Today I was sad because a friend bought my energy down while I was talking to them and because of some criticism I got from my teacher, but then I came back to my own room feeling like I need to vent out my feelings in my journal and found out I actually calm down my own emotions by using the perspective technique. By justifying how my teachers felt and why she was acting that way my mind really went clear, and I stopped wanting to be sad. and then this video really encourage me to think of how I can stay connected to my core self inside :) very interesting

[@JK-em4ok]

Yes the journaling!! I still have my diary I had when I was 7, I’m 37 now

[@macalacalan1175]

Seriously?!

[@TipTypeTube]

😊 That's beautiful. ❤ What's your growth journey been like since those 3 years? ❤ I've been through A LOT after listening to this podcast and changing thing accordingly.

[@soundvector1]

As a 100% ENFJ all life in and out. This is so true and wish learned before getting manipulated by psychopaths INTPs and ISTJs but. How we contemplate our own wisdom with endless possibilities and opperunities and looking ahead to see the reoccuring result in the moment of the future thinking. To associate action to reason. :) If ENFJs are reading this. please like to validate. :)

[@sinianilkumarsini3776]

I am an ENFJ

[@maj._07hup]

my friend is an INTP

[@jackiec9369]

i'm laughing at the intp and istj bcz i struggled with them too oh my!

[@nigelmccray9616]

True that

[@armandoc.3150]

I think we are the best type imo. At a mature level it's a perfect mix of emotion and logic without the frustration and drama. By being true to yourself and understanding the opposite of your self to the T and having confidence you are you and your intentions are true you can overcome any of your flaws because the fuckin mind keeps telling me to do bad but I dont listen it's too easy ya know? But on some superhero shit dont be your own nemesis and you're good. Your mind can become your worst enemy because it can trick your heart and make your heart feel hate and turn on those that dont need or understand your hatred, although some is justified let's be real without feeling hate you're not human just dont hate other humans ya digg? Lol I know it seems like I'm just rambling but I'm just an enfj that loves to talk openly about my emotions and I just want to help my other enfjs not lose confidence as well as having others understand not to lose confidence in us because our biggest battle in life is that which is in our heart and our mind and logic, reasoning, truth, and equality is the only bridge to achieve true happiness and selflessness. Some forget even though we are teacher type we have much to learn as well so we cant be crucified or crucify ourselves when we fell conviction its normal but we enfjs obtain the ability to learn more complex situations to achieve deeper knowledge. So long as we can hold ourselves to the highest standard as well as hold others to the same without the same expectations of course then we can be free in the mind of doubts and deceitful ways to manipulate the outcomes. Of course this is solely my analysis and based off my own experiences as an individual but felt like giving my 2 cents to try to help anyone if they struggle like me being the enfj I am lmao anyway regardless of personality types if someone would like to talk about what I said or debate something I said I welcome all opinions and comments. Great video my dude I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to detail it and God bless you all, have a lovely day.

[@ilikedoubleknot6725]

Thank You!! 😊

[@flutenanyidk1806]

I think that hate is toxic to the soul. Also ENFJ. Of course, I get annoyed with people and sometimes I dislike them but I try to befriend them and get to know them. ENFJ is motivated by intimacy and if you can manage to get to know the person, you literally can't dislike them. If you know someone's story, you know why. If you know why you can't judge.

[@armandoc.3150]

@@flutenanyidk1806 No I hear you but that's why I specified just dont hate people. I do believe that every emotion is important to feel and not bottle up though because it can implode first then explode or explode then implode, either way terrible outcomes or unexpected outcomes if you dont agree with terrible. Hate in itself is not toxic but how it's used or expressed can be. For example hate towards people is not good but hate towards things is normal and should be expressed through things rather than people. It's also necessary for hate to exist because it can make way for love. Like you can hate everything someone does but you can love the person. Another way to see it is if you love your things as much as people hating those things can lead to hating people but I assume most enfjs arent materialistic as we know things have no value, people do. I'm being pretty general and simple rather than a deeper explanation because I believe you get the gist but if you need me to elaborate I can or if you dont agree then I'd love to hear your perspective from what I replied.

[@maj._07hup]

ENFJ: YESSS! I have been looking for a comment like this. I am a well-rounded person. I rely both on my heart and my mind equally. I am always neutral because I am able to look at both sides or perspectives. I am rarely insecure but I doubt my abilities if they "fail" in a situation. For example, if I "fail" a test which is usually getting 99/100 I, of course, am happy but I don't take time to appreciate myself and start calling myself dumb for missing one problem. I am bothered by that one mistake I made over and over again blinding me of my accomplishments.

[@nalynnsansaneeyawet3136]

Although I agree with everything else you said, I wouldn’t say we’re the best type. Although we can be charming and empathetic, we can also be needlessly cruel and manipulative.

[@tabarnakopoulos]

I am an INFP but i know some ENFJ's. I'm just gathering info to improve my interactions with them.

[@nanaebluebeats7176]

same --

[@vanbi9430]

Aww that’s so sweet, thank you on behalf of the ENFJs

[@TipTypeTube]

❤ Wow! What's it like to be an INFP? I only know 7 😅.

[@yvngbol9584]

I always thought something was different about my personality turns out I’m a ENFJ

[@jeannettekyea]

Right??? I always knew I was different

[@mohammedosman5504]

I always thought why don’t people understand me and when I get to learn about ENFJ, it answers all my problematic questions.

[@TipTypeTube]

Yes, me too 😊. What have you learned about being an ENFJ? I have learned that Mindfulness is even more useful for me 😊❤.

[@JadeAzar]

I as an ENFJ I avoid my inner wisdom be keeping everything I do at a fast pace and pretending I do not notice that I sense others feelings or the general energy of the room, always in an energetic sense either trying to change the energy I experience or make myself notice the ways that the different energy is unmatched to mine. When I do find myself in an energetic match to a place, Idea, thing or a person I become perplexed, afraid to trust it - even more unfortunately, I am afraid to trust that my inner wisdom is truly recognising the authentic connection and thus resisting the natural flow-states that greet me all too often. A fear that my inner flow-state makes me appear extremely strange to others. Intuitively I know, for me, that once in a flow state there is no stopping it until its run its course. Releasing now that I avoid my inner wisdom of entering flow-state or alignment with myself more than any other thing in this world. For me alignment with my natural flow states last for months at a time, often causes me to adopt unorthodox habits as the process unfolds as I undergo some internal changes. For example, I spent a whole year sitting and sleeping on the floor, no matter where I was - in my room, at a friends house, eating my dinner or breakfast, I chose the floor. I eventually saw that my bed was taking up too much space and carried it in pieces to the garage where it stayed for an entire year and a half from early 2015 - late 2016. he Naturally I ended up reading, doing my studying and art on the floor. It was one of the most eye opening experiences, and deeply fulfilling probably due to its strange richness in perspectives that came out of it and caused me to focus inward more than I ever had before. My focus about what others thought of me greatly diminished because naturally I received a lot of confusion from other people and often times pressure to explain myself. In the beginning I tried to satisfy their questions, during which time, it was easy to see who was asking curiously with an open heart and who was poking at me with no intention to understand at all. In the end I found that there was nothing to explain, it was simply my flow, and that flow isn't to be questioned when its in motion only observed as the fluid relationship between internal and external experience. For a while, from the perspective of the ground, almost as if the air down there contained some 'flow-state solution' that made self-awareness actualise fully and simultaneously made the external world perceivable in an increasingly objective way as if I wasn't really there anyway. I have so much more about this experience to share and express: Those of you that want to learn more: Please go have a look into my blog: homeofthegreenspirit.wordpress.com/ Al the best wishes to you, leave comments and follow me on instagram>> You will find my Instagram name on my blog page. Namaste, Love and Light to YOU!

[@claramercier7924]

you sound like my brother :) I wish you guys never had to explain yourselves. Explaination is just noise.

[@fakefakefake7952]

Since we know what our authentic warm love is and how it scares other people, I'm glad it would be understood by another enjf. So, Sending love and support and acceptance without feeling awkward, to you dear stranger in the internet! 💛 As an 23 year old newly typed ENFJ female who thought she was enfp all her life, I can relate to each word up there. I agree the floor grounds me. All my projects and prayers and everything productive I have done, I did that on the floor. My bed, the tables, they did all along and do feel like an accessory. And yes, I trace back and I find that I mistrust myself when someone shows me love by seeing me raw and real. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@JadeAzar]

@@fakefakefake7952 Hello! Two years ago I wrote this to the abyss, and today the abyss responded! Hahaha how lovely to hear from you.

[@JadeAzar]

@@fakefakefake7952 Hello! Two years ago I wrote this to the abyss, and today the abyss responded! Hahaha how lovely to hear from you.

[@fakefakefake7952]

@@JadeAzar super mighty lovely to hear back jade 😍😘🤗

[@babyblue6950]

I never realized how accurate this was. Ive been abusing prescription meds and smoking pot every night for month just to conceal the emptiness i feel.

[@jaygirl6868]

Baby Blue ENFJs need to have a purpose which is humanitarian in nature - doing a job which makes a difference to people's lives or volunteering for a charity. X

[@maj._07hup]

@@jaygirl6868 We need to feel like we are significant in the world or we feel useless or unneeded. If we are not able to help in a situation we feel worthless. For us, ENFJs, the worst feeling is knowing something bad is happening and not being able to fix it - the feeling of hopelessness in a situation whether that be in ourselves or others (usually in others).

[@jeannettekyea]

omigod exactly like I feel so alone but yet I don't want to be around anyone I don't relate to certain people I'm objective I'm open and I like to see different sides of things a different perspective but in my own little world I feel so lonely and empty that I medicate I can't believe how, this is but I'm a very good person I'll do anything for anyone butI always knew I was different I'm wired differently mostly as an adult I realized not as a child

[@maj._07hup]

@@jeannettekyea ENFJ's tend to be too wise for their age. I was called an old lady by my family at how much I think and look at things from both perspectives. I feel lonely because I feel like I am way ahead of my friends in a matter of maturity but I never want to tell them this because I feel like they will never understand.

[@gabbisss]

Just study ancient philosophy, it will give you a purpose for the rest of your life. Try people like Seneca, Cicero, Aristotle, Marcus Aurelius to begin with.

[@rameenkhalid5456]

Being an ENFJ is something very painful for me cuz its similar to coldlessly abandonment yourself with no regards and always rushing for a strange validation and acceptance. Always avoiding conflicts and faking your real wisdom by stupid 10 year sensing. How weird. This is strange. I rather cry whole week that I have known this now.

[@ARob904]

No, not true. We discover boundaries for our overactive feelings. We learn and grow daily to love ourselves and others. You will find others who are like you, just slow down and take time to get inside your mind. I love being an ENFJ.

[@TipTypeTube]

❤ I am sorry you didn't know this sooner. 😊 What's happened to you since you posted this?

[@TipTypeTube]

​@@ARob904😊 What do you mean isn't true? I don't understand. I am also not a fan of being an ENFJ and this is a valid experience. ❤

[@ForBetterLove]

I love the car. I did your assessment few years ago and Antonia did both my car and my husband's car. He's INFJ and I'm ENFJ. So we both have harmony and perspectives both in our driver and copilots are the same, just switched. It also helped to look at the car as the drivers seat as my unconscious competence, the copilot as my conscious competence, the passenger behind the copilot represents my conscious competence and the passenger behind the driver represents my unconscious incompetence. Slow down when making decisions - that's a good one for me. I tend to go for my instant reaction. And yes - the sensation part where I get impatient and judgmental and over indulge in sensory pleasures. Thanks for the reminders.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Relationship Fun & Games Thanks for sharing.

[@maytediaz5245]

How ENFJs show love. Wow, 100%! That is me all over.

[@TipTypeTube]

❤ Awe, cuuuute. In what ways did knowing this information, change your life? My extroverted feeling likes admiring fun things outside of myself. My introverted intuition loves my fun path and exciting oppurtunities. My extroverted sensing ❤ loves earth. My introverted thinking loves all my thought bubbles.

[@AliAkkan0217]

Every detail was accurate . .. I never believed any of this stuff till this video. This video changed my life.. I was slipping into becoming an addict and I totally ignored meditating

[@TipTypeTube]

😊 Wow cool what meditation is most useful? I miss the specific meditation that is meant to be extremely useful, what is that guided meditation cause there are 1000ths of styles of meditation with different outcomes, experiences, teachers etc... ❤ I am experienced with 1 specific meditation that shifted everything for me. ❤

[@flookie7685]

For me marijuana can be stoooopidly beneficial. It really allows me to see unlimited perspectives. I can understand every single perspective and allows me to walk through life effortlessly. For example, it really allows me to think like “Hey, that person that’s doing a job is just a normal person doing a job. There’s no need to overthink social interaction, they’re probably just as anxious as me.” Or just like “Wow, everyone is just going through life in their own unique way. People perform actions just cause that’s what they’ve been taught, grew up doing, etc.” Even when I don’t relate or agree with someone’s actions I can effortlessly put myself into their perspective. In HS, I was the class clown and was friends with everyone. I could connect with and understand everyone. Even when someone is taking something too serious, their anger, their life, their personality, etc. just gets put into a perspective where is so easy to understand. This enlightenment happened when I started smoking weed from 14-19, it really peaked at 19 years old. Maybe it’s just coincidence, maybe my mind was just naturally growing and marijuana had no effect at all. (Again, perspectives making me self aware.) But my intuition tells me that marijuana really did aid in this growth.

[@TipTypeTube]

😮 wow shocking. What would you advice other ENFJs to do? 😊 I tripped my mind out when I tried edibles because some DNA types of people are sensitive for it causing psychosis type of things. ❤ So stay safe everyone ❤.

[@lucymatejic6589]

Thanks Joel and Antonia, your podcasts are brilliant and so very insightful. So much deeper than anything on personality that I've read / heard before.

[@TipTypeTube]

😅 oof, what changed your life after listening to this ❤ podcast?! I think Mindfulness was more helpful for me. I am doing research on this topic.

[@eveevolution1607]

Omg! This was so on point! I am definitely this test was correct!!!! I have never had anyone explain myself so intellectually correct not even myself!

[@TipTypeTube]

😊 oof. Are you still working on your ENFJ development? I am pivoting, UNFORTUNATELY

[@moonsharn]

I’m ENFJ and I don’t experience Se this way at all. I feel deeply connected to everything. Nature, my se is satisfying by being out in nature. Doing things, being, regenerating, gardening, animal husbandry. I’ve had curious moments about drugs or alcohol, but don’t like them because I’m such a forward planner, and if I consider picking up a drink, my mind immediately connects that to the sensation of a hangover, and I don’t have time to feel like that tomorrow, so I wouldn’t pick it up. Every thought process works like that. Time isn’t linear in my mind. I feel the outcomes of anything in advance. What this leads to, I already know and try to prevent that negative future outcome or manipulate the moment to have a good outcome later. I feel like that’s the core of our cognitive processes as ENFJ. And why we fight for what’s right with so much passion or often aggression despite being very kind and not wanting to upset people.

[@seekerofselfdiscovery1020]

This is great. I relate a lot to this. Definitely being discouraged to use perspectives lately. Been stuck in sensation to keep harmony, and block out stress. Hopefully will get back into it though.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Seeker Of Self Discovery Thanks for the comment. What action will you take to get into Perspectives?

[@seekerofselfdiscovery1020]

+Joel Mark Witt I plan on, focussing on my goals more. I also plan, on being honest more about what I want, to the right people, instead of trying to tell people what they want to hear, or brushing things under the rug. I also plan on trying to make a difference, instead of putting it off, and trying to just get by.

[@giedre8921]

Harmony- the word I used every single time I make decision. My family would agree :D

[@TipTypeTube]

😊 I am glad you create so much peace in the world.

[@amandapfeiffer3135]

Yay! Thanks you guys for doing this car model. I was waiting for this for a long time. I know for sure these are problems I have when I allow my sensation take over. I because monkey minded and feel as though I have to consume every part of people's view points and ideas. I lose the sense of who I am and what my values and desire are in the long-term. To help myself, I meditate at least once a day for 10 minutes, then I make sure to read my Bible and go running. I have found, like you have spoken in the ENFJ podcast, that running for long periods of time (Like two to three hours) I get to a happy inward thinking and can become more creative and relaxed. I have been able to use workouts and fitness to help, but I have to make sure I get time alone to make sure I keep check of who I am. I still do not fully connect with the love language of the ENFJ though.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Amanda Pfeiffer Thank you for the feedback Amanda.

[@antoniajdodge]

+Amanda Pfeiffer - Did one of the other styles of how each type says "I love you" resonate more strongly? Here's the link to the original article: www.personalityhacker.com/personality-type-ask-love/ -A-

[@amandapfeiffer3135]

Hmmm... It is rough, I feel all of them are good and I find myself picking things from all of them, but not everything on each one really fits me. But I feel effectiveness and harmony were the closest to what I feel about loving someone. I think both are equally important to me. Does that help?

[@fischernilsen6864]

Me too.. same routine

[@Americanshitstandard]

Thanks for the video, I'm studying to become a teacher and have recently moved home and found your video while reflecting on my purpose. I can relate to the distraction of sensations for me, that was returning home and playing video games; which I left while I was at college but have recently fallen into over sensory defensive like behavior since playing again.

[@TipTypeTube]

I am glad you like video games ❤😊. Why do you feel bad about that? How has this video helped you. In the last 5 years? 😊

[@makk.11]

This comment section makes me feel like im surrounded by myself in the most comfortable way.

[@TipTypeTube]

😂 haha! Well * hug * Why is that? Have you made friends here? I am an ENFJ. Are you an ENFJ as well? ❤

[@jessicavisher3604]

Loved this. You asked for examples of the Se hijacking: I don’t really experience the over indulgence of external pleasures (I think that’s because of an innate moral compass that has always been there). However, I totally see this a perpetual honey moon experience I have in everything from relationships to hobbies. I’ll get really excited about the prospects of a new friendship or interest, fall out of love with it because it’ll get boring and then look for a next “fix.” I tend to skip the Ni by not thinking through the long term of this new interest or laying out expectations and usually approach new interests with the monkey brain. I just attack the thing ravenously, getting all this data, then when the data bores me just move on. I totally think I have that third level “loop” you talk about in other podcasts where “I only do what I want to do.” It’s just harder to see in me because it looks like a series of obsessions instead of a “typical” addiction. The revelation you guys are giving me in all of this is sooooo helpful. Thank you!

[@TipTypeTube]

😊 I am so glad that personality hacker was so open to receiving your reaction. 😊 I loved your story, thank you. What has been the most useful for you? ❤

[@DrPivot]

1. Driver Harmony. We are primarily concerned with meeting the needs of the group.

[@TipTypeTube]

What's it been like for you? Are you a caring person? I am an ENFJ too.

[@AAJ9313]

While intuition and making deep connections is one of the ENTJ's greatest strengths, I think we default to sensation because exploring our intuitive side can be a dark and anxious process for us. As extroverts, we'd much rather focus on who or what is going on around us and since we can really be quite playful and fun its so tempting to stay comfortably in our ten year old selves. Overall that point was SO ACCURATE

[@TipTypeTube]

You've said it so beautifully. 😊 Thank you for sharing this in the discussion. ❤ 😊 How are you after all these years? 😊

[@GQ-tf6pd]

thank uuu so much for this 💗 so helpful ✨ this is the video I've been looking for. I feel presented right. a lot of articles describe us based on behaviour only; which could be quite confusing at times. since, at my lowest points, I felt and acted differently. I've been trying to figure out whether I was just unhealthy or smth, but every time I search with the keyword "unhealthy enfj", the internet shows me answers like "they become really manipulative and controlling" most of the time. but the thing is, no. sometimes. but for the most part of it, I just shut down, rest, and look deep down. I start being less social and all that. I just don't want to be toxic to others so I instead become very toxic to myself and self-sacrifice (I would let others boss me around, etc, and I will join more activities and try to be of help, but it was really burdening) I had my parents to be my emotional support (in which I'm really grateful for) and that's it. I started watching mark manson vids and that really helped me have a broader perspective on things, also, my own experiences. but yeah, it's been tough. my se really took over during my "down" phase, well that's what I think. and probably, an unhealthy use of ti? idk but yeah things are pretty balanced now, i'm working on my fe tho (i just feel like I'm lax when it comes to helping others, esp this pandemic, I want to at the very least, engage more time on encouraging and inspiring others ✨ with what I can for now) but yeah, I'm new to this, so sorry if i said an inaccurate term. also, for my english, I'm not a native speaker. but yeah, thank uuu so much✨ I felt deeply understood in this video. thank you very very much for making this. I'm so glad and grateful for yt on recommending me this video, what a gem. 🙌✨💗

[@TipTypeTube]

😅 I was charmed by it as well at first. 😊 but now I know better. I am seeing better results with ❤ Mindfulness for myself. 😅

[@foday529]

I remember posting this comment on an ENTJ video you posted Joel. When I posted the comment about a system I built called $.i.M was I talking about my perspective? Here is the comment I posted: +Joel Mark Witt​​​ Wow i am two systems in one, i realized that after listening to podcast 0061. Before i knew anything about MBTI i created a system called $.i.M, and i used the system for growth while working as a mechanic (INTP) for 5 years, after 5 years i bought property and managered it so i could learn the basics of managerment & test the $.i.M system. I wanted to see if the system i created would help me succeed. I didn't know it then but i merged two systems together, INTP (mechanic) and $.i.M, and now I am a mechanic (INTP) + manager ($.i.M), no wonder why i feel like an ambivert & confused about being an INTP or an ENTJ. To answer your question i am INTP, then again i am simply more than just an INTP.

[@reyvega6023]

I feel like I got out on blast listening to this. Chills from the accuracy of this...😱😱

[@TipTypeTube]

😮 Wow. That's beautiful. 😊 I am happy it had such a big impact in your life 😊. ❤

[@lindagarcia5908]

When it comes to relationships I only focus on the here and now feeling the shiny object and once in the relationship after a while I notice the flaws that I would have seen sooner in regular ppl if I hadn’t been interested or I think I can overcome those flaws and it gets me emotionally tired not getting back what I put in. My ENTP friend has made me aware that this is when my extroverted sense comes out when I should use my intuition. With job I am able to read my bosses, target opportunities, put steps in motion in point A to get to point C but I have struggled always in relationships with this.

[@OceanOfLight]

Finally. This youtube video understands me

[@TipTypeTube]

😊 In what ways do you feel understood ❤? I don't feel seen in my extroverted sensing. 😊 and I am missing a lot of information and find it confusing. ❤

[@ronnieterrell7798]

Being an ENFJ that grew up West/South Side inner Chicago. I fully understand that last part of being able reason why people do the things they do. Its situational, did you know when it comes to ethics the book stolen most in libraries are ones on the topic of Ethics. Almost seems backwards but explains human nature, it's up to you the ENFJ to see and choose Love no matter the situation as we are the Teachers.

[@Personalityhacker]

That's an interesting statistic Ronnie. Can you please link to the research around ethics books being stolen from libraries. I want to use that in my talks for the future. Thanks in advance. ~ Joel

[@TipTypeTube]

How is that going? ❤ Well, sometimes it's okay that things aren't oke, isn't it? I don't think that sentence of shifting perspectives actualy makes sense for me 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@rachelreese9813]

This is literally me 100%

[@reecelassiter8094]

This is awesome

[@teacupnoir]

This is such a great video. Very helpful

[@TipTypeTube]

😮 Wow cool. What's your journey been like ever since you listened to this? 😊 For me it didn't create 100% satisfying results.

[@bobbyrobmaxey]

This is 100% me. While I feel I have a well-developed co-pilot (perspectives), my defensive sensation function is also much stronger than I'd like it to be

[@TipTypeTube]

Awe, don't feel bad about it. ❤ 😊 How can you have compassion for yourself? I endured a lot and honestly felt very judged by the people who created this podcast ❤.

[@jeannettekyea]

Oh my God I cannot believe how I'm point I am with this my personality I didn't know what I was except that I knew what I knew and I didn't know why about people and common sense I don't see why other people can't see that perspective like see things for what they are I know things I don't know why I know them but now I do I hope this is understood I am so I am just so thankful that I can relate and that I understand who I am

[@mariama.5802]

I'm a damaged ENFJ (my last test a month ago is ISFP..LOL though from 3 prior tests I was a solid ENFJ-A), right now in my introversion mode. Thanks for the video.

[@TipTypeTube]

Wow, ❤ Are you still an ISFP or ENFJ 3 years later? In what ways do you see your behavior now? I am a stereotypical ENFJ. But leveled up my life 😊.

[@bytawaaay4408]

OKAY MAKES SENSE

[@jeannettekyea]

The sensations the addictions wow yes totally agree

[@TipTypeTube]

😮❤ Are you addicted? 😊 I've actualy been through a lot after the misinformation about extroverted sensing. I regret listening to THAT part of the podcast. ❤

[@l.jamillah4833]

this description is 💯 identical to my astrological chart. I'm an enfj.

[@TipTypeTube]

Wow, how do those 2 align for you? I love the astrological places of "Where do you belong". ❤ Very spiritual ENFJ here ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Geokey86]

Perfekt for me.

[@akaboo69]

the love needs are exactly like the Infj Hum sweet

[@naina9807]

i am trying to care more about myself and take regular breaks- especially from studying... i still blame myself- why can't i keep going?! but i think this is the best way, so i feel refreshed and ready to go again :D i think i should also calm down on my easily being distracted haha

[@TipTypeTube]

😢 Awe. * hug * 😊 You deserve a break.

[@fuchyerr]

I used to be an intj idk how's it's possible to change. but I don't mind. I like this type better and I feel great now.

[@jewelyJewels]

You don't change types. You may have just been initially incorrect thinking you were intj. The online tests are mostly all severely flawed. The best way to learn your type is to try to find really good descriptions of each type read them and try to see which one is objectively closest to you. Beware, though, most descriptions are anecdotal and completely wrong.

[@ainakunigelyte]

Amazing video, I wish you would make the same about ISTP in this format, I noticed that in the series of mind wiring ISTP was not covered :(

[@TipTypeTube]

😮 Why didn't you get an answer? ❤ What do you think could be very wholesome for you as an ISTP? Introverted thinking though 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😍❤

[@MrBoomer-jl2gw]

Enfj here. So glad that i came across this wise counsel. Unfortunately i am in a state of burnout as i speak. I find sensory things draining and dont feel like doing anything anymore and feel like i lost motivation. What can i do to regain my mental prowess again so i could truly love life again? Thank you joel

[@TL-ch1xd]

As a single female ENFJ born 1983 (who’ve gone through my fair share of love relationships - the last two with INFPs) I’ve come to think that my next partner/love/husband might need to be an ENFJ. I want to meet an ENFJ man! 😄💖

[@stoicstoic1250]

been with INFJ and ENFJ didn't work hahahah we are having an issue

[@TipTypeTube]

Wow cool ❤. I have met my partner through "URMYTYPE". 😊 succesful😊 .

[@TipTypeTube]

​@@stoicstoic1250Who are you attracted too? ❤ What cognitive function is your turn-on!?! I am a fan of introverted thinkers. 😊

[@kristimarx1736]

Great content for such a short video. I still struggle to determine if I am an INFJ or ENFJ but two things resonated with me on this video. The first was how the Se trips you up and keeps things on the surface level(especially in regards to relationships that are one-sided). I struggled a lot with that when I was younger and wish I would have know this in my 20's. The second was in regards to how ENFJ's communicate love. Although several of the questions sounded too" mushy" for me the one that truly resonated was the question, "am I safe with you?" That is a major filter for me that determines whether I will engage with someone on a prolonged level.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Kristi Marx Thanks for the feedback.

[@ErinDavila76]

A great way to tell the difference is if you are a leader. Think Oprah and Maya Angelou (both ENFJs)

[@AminJones]

Free deprogramming. Enfj ascedi

[@johnnyoliveira8863]

I'm not sure if i am an ENFJ or an INFJ .. I was reading and i think that i am something called ambiverse . But ambiverses does not exists in this personalities .

[@zacsofarjustfriends]

Johnny Oliveira i know your struggle man- they’re very similar but once you understand them both better, you know you can only be one. I am the ENFJ, but i only ever (occassionally) test as an INFJ, if i don’t get enfj for some anomaly.

[@shawn7341]

As an ENFJ, you are the most reclusive extrovert personality type there is. We often borderline the extrovert and introvert trait, causing the sometimes results of INFJ. There is no ambivert type yet to better understand ones self if resources are available, I would suggest go seek a mental health professional. Specifically a therapist that specializes in psychotherapy, the reality of a person goes much deeper and beyond the four traits in these tests, you must understand all aspects of your mind and how you have developed to adulthood through your childhood experiences to your current age now. I have become more educated than any articles could have ever allowed by meeting regularly with a therapist to really understand my own mind, life, and decisions I make and have made. This will also allow you to become more effective when communicating with other personality types as well.

[@redhead_in_florida]

@@shawn7341 ENFJs are the most extroverted of the extroverts and ENTPs are the most introverted of the Extroverts and INFJs are the mot extroverts of the INtroverts. Sorry, but u got it wrong:)

[@aleeza3001]

Me tooo at first I was an extrovert now im an introvert

[@eastervan1]

Very nice video, a little bit heavy on the advertising, though. I am on the page and when I saw I need to enter a bunch of personal information...........pfffffffffft. If I have time for it today, I'll check out the site. Anyway, very well thought-out video and concise - especially with the car analogy.

[@LaniBanani]

The worst ways I allow my Extroverted Sensing to keep me in the moment and prevent me from thinking or feeling unpleasant emotions or thoughts is through sensory distractions of food, music, movie and socialising. But as soon as I turn off the music etc my brain naturally wants to start figuring out what I was trying to avoid. It's better still if I grab pen and paper and ask myself what am I feeling and why, and how can I fix it and draw a mind map and I feel better and have accessed my wisdom.

[@TipTypeTube]

😮 You are amazing. ❤ What tips would you give another ENFJ? I am an ENFJ too. ❤

[@1anre]

What roles in Technology can an ENFJ personality type fit into really well? Would be great if you could do a video honing in on career choices for the ENFJ personality type.

[@pyakuman]

Business ANalyst?

[@TipTypeTube]

Yes I see a lot of ENFJs struggle with career issues. I want to help but I have no idea myself. I see them struggle with coworkers as well as career choice. ❤

[@drehasadd]

Thanks for the info! The area I have the most difficult time with is the 3 year old process of accuracy. Would playing board games with others be an effective outlet for this?

[@TipTypeTube]

❤ I am loving THIS question! I created a shorts KZbin videogame to enjoy the 4th cognition in a relaxed way! Wanna see it? Check out my first ever made short ☆.

[@francescaromanagarroni6524]

True

[@TipTypeTube]

❤ For me it doesn't ring true. 😊 I worked through the issues that were caused by this podcast. And I am better for it 😊.

[@deweyyzz5]

Interesting content. What does a tertiary cognitive function as a 10 year old year mean? How is the SE of 10 year old different from that as dominant function? Many thanks!

[@TipTypeTube]

❤😅😂 I see you are still waiting for an answer in 2 years time. 😢 I wonder too, how they came up with this model. I find it has some issues, confusions, misunderstandings and it needs tweaks. ❤😊

[@gaia1577]

Hello. So, I found your site through a post in a group im in on facebook for INFP. So, I have always had mixed answers with mbti tests, and I havent had an E before..and sometimes J and P get mixed up, and Im not sure where on the test that was calculated on the genius style test, but some of the questions were too broad, especially the ones with a sliding scale(because to me, it depends on the situation, context, or focus)..ANYWAYS I am pretty surprised of my result, and Im not so sure which is correct. infp is pretty different then enfj. I dunno, i think i might have too many possible answers in the test you provide, cause i have also had the result of intp, or infj,...

[@reallight9637]

Sweet INFJ* here want the best match..

[@randomgaygirl]

Yep. That's me 100%.

[@artd665]

Alys sa hahaha, its incredible how accurate they are right?

[@TipTypeTube]

Wow that's impressive😊. What do you relate to most ❤? 😊 How has intuition helped you?

[@btetschner]

Thank you for the video.

[@TipTypeTube]

❤ Yay I am glad you liked it 😊. What did you learn from it? I am an ENFJ, you too?

[@btetschner]

@@TipTypeTube I am an ENFJ also, it's such a great group to be in!

[@TipTypeTube]

@@btetschner Yay! What's your best experience so far? I am a fan of Mindfulness.

[@btetschner]

@@TipTypeTube I like socializing all the time, it is really fun and enjoyable!

[@TipTypeTube]

@@btetschner Awe, What's this group you're in? I have had multiple bad experiences with ENFJ or MBTI groups.

[@killwill3441]

So what are ways I, as an enfj, can grow in my Co-pilot seat? I already have an idea of how the 10 year old sensation part of my personality takes over my way of behaving.

[@TipTypeTube]

😊 Yes good question. I miss the action steps in this video. 😊 and am creating those myself.

[@juliej7861]

I definitely let my 10 YO sensing side drive when I'm mad, which is all the time because I hate my job. I have to work a team outside of my own, and every meeting I have with them, I feel like I have to go in there prepared for battle, so I am very defensive and judgemental.

[@TipTypeTube]

😅 Oof, that sounds tough. I don't see how this podcast could be helpful with that. I am a Mindfulness instructor and I try and put things on my path that are more desired. ❤ I wish you well. * hug *

[@megfaulkner9594]

I'm leaving this comment because your email asked us to listen and comment. I have only dabbled in your site and content and I am generally impressed. I heard you interviewed on Rachel Rofe's podcast; you two seem smart and you deliver some really interesting content. This video, however, was kind of too much, too fast, not well-explained: like you skimmed over quite a bit of really meaty content without explaining it enough to be helpful. I understand that it's perhaps a teaser for paid content and that I shouldn't complain about free content, but you asked for feedback, so there it is.

[@antoniajdodge]

+Meg Faulkner I'm not sure if you were following the emails for the week or only saw one, but this is part of a suite of content we produced specifically for ENFJs. Here are the other resources we created at the same time, including a long form podcast and article: www.personalityhacker.com/resources-enfj/ -A-

[@megfaulkner9594]

+Antonia Dodge thank you, I will check it out.

[@carnationsensation]

I swear I'm like a hybrid of ENFJ and INFP. I've tried watching different videos and reading descriptions and every time it's half and half. I wish I knew which one I was. Or am I truly just some weird hybrid?? ...Basically INFP describes most of my childhood, and then ENFJ describes most of my adulthood. But there is still a little bit of overlap.

[@RazzoAratey]

1 no such think as hybrids well there is ... but they are usually in Insane asylums due to have 2more personalities.(muli personality dissorder) but u are an INFP cuz my friend had the same problem she thought she was ENFJ but she not. the reason why you get confued is cus ENFJs are saying everything you are thinking. plus and enfj would never think they are INFP but an INFP would posibly think they are ENFJ. hope this helps :3

[@carnationsensation]

Thanks, it sorta helps but sorta doesn't. The part "ENFJs are saying everything you are thinking" doesn't match up with me because I'm incredibly social + incredibly open. I'm not private at all and i tend to say what's on my mind and be very honest. And any problems I have or things I'm going through, I tend to tell at least 2 or 3 friends. It's hard for me to keep my feelings and thoughts to myself. i wanna think I'm INFP based on descriptions of them, but then the whole "introverted + very private" doesn't match up with me because I'm kinda opposite to that, and I'm kinda extroverted. But then ENFJ doesn't completely match either because ENFJs are "charismatic persuaders and teachers" which I'm not sure if that's me. ...In your opinion, is it possible that I'm an INFP who became or learned to be extroverted and highly social?? Like I've had friends literally call me a "NETWORK" because I know so many people and have so many friends and acquaintances.

[@RazzoAratey]

Uniquely Heather Holly YES ! okay let me explain something to u just cuz your an Introvert doesn't AUTOMATICALLY make you shy and timid and not expressive that's just a stereotype, i my self am an extrovert and can be very private at times. Being an introvert is u take in more than u put out and even that isn't true all the time . but what you are telling me definitely makes me certain that you are INFP. Take it from this ENFJ i have always felt like a teacher if you don't then u definitely are not one. Which makes u INFP :3 hope that helps

[@carnationsensation]

Hmm but i always test as extrovert, and I feel like an extrovert. Any time there's a choice between being alone or going to a party/hanging out, I almost always choose the party or hanging out. And how do we know I'm not INFJ or ENFP?

[@grandmasteryoda503]

No one in a youtube comment section is going to accurately be able to tell you what type you are. Best thing to do is research them both more and look into the cognitive functions, perhaps looking at other xNFx types as well. INFP and ENFJ don't share any functions so it should be pretty clear to you which ones you prefer. INFPs generally do not like talking about their feelings (Introverted Feeling) whereas ENFJs do like talking about their feelings as well as other peoples (Extroverted Feeling). INFPs use Extroverted Intuition, which looks at all the possibilities and often use this function in a creative sense (art, music, etc). ENFJs use introverted intuition, they have long term plans with contingencies set up. In general, INFPs are indecisive and often can't choose which of several options they prefer. ENFJs by contrast are very decisive (my sister for instance has said she was going to be a dr from age 4 and is currently in medschool age 23). INFPs use introverted sensing, so they'll often be (perhaps overly) concerned with their health, need time and space alone to centre themselves and have a number of pet comforts they often fall back to in times of stress. ENFJs with extroverted sensing prefer being in the here and now, actively doing things and in times of stress will perhaps over indulge in sensory pleasure (drinking, sexing, etc.). I'm not comfortable enough discussing the thinking functions of ENFJ and INFP but I'm sure there are good resources out there that can help you on your way.

[@foday529]

Interesting...so I am an ENFJ? I Took the test on personality hacker site and another site and came out as an INTP. I assume the reason why is because I am sensitive and there are a lot of times I want to be in a space with lots of tech & no humans. What I am really focus on is on the subject of growth & absorbing other peoples emotions because that has happened to me 4 times. 1st time was with a cheerleader I fell in love with who was the captain of her cheerleading team. I felt "fear" "love" and "sweetness" coming from her when I looked into her eyes which looked like two projector lights. The thing is she was 15ft away from me at that time when she "projected" those emotions. In my head fear, love & sweetness quickly flashed in my head one after the other, so I felt it then saw it in my head. During our "intimate" emotional connection the 15 students who were around me disappeared and my perception of time slowed down like how a computer slows down when it is processing a lot of information....3 seconds felt like 13 minutes. Perception of time slows down for kids because their brain is developing and processing lots of information that is why everything takes forever. Perception of time for adults tends to speed up because their brain is already developed, that is why adults say "life is too short." For me during that moment my perception of time slowed down at an increased rate because new "emotional" information was being processed. 2nd "intimate" connection was with a psychopath teacher with low self esteem. From her I felt a feeling "associated" with white noise. In my head I saw a CRT tv that was on a channel with static noise, I later deduced that meant "cognitive dysfunction." She was attractive but she was a raging bitch and had low self esteem. 3rd incident was an "empath" connection because he was a man like me, but he was a gay male supressing his emotions in a mechanic shop full of guys who think they are tough but are really cowards. Once, while next to him I felt an impulse to smile and since that was my first time I acted on the impulse and smiled then quickly stopped myself because it was not my "intention" and it was so sudden. I assumed he was gay and had a thing for me because he was acting nervous around me and secretly taking pictures of me on his phone with the shutter sound turned on...what straight guy does that? Nothing was going to happen because I am straight and to be honest it felt uncomfortable. I am ok connecting with the girls but not some dude. TRUTH is nature and it does have rules: people of the same sex can't be intimate even if one is gay. Intimate connection = feelings to thoughts. Empath connection = feelings to action or an impulse to act. After my 4th connection I couldn't connect with anyone like I did in the past, so how do I connect at that level again? Is it a matter of opening my heart? Was the cheerleader my soulmate because it felt like she was.

[@blackult1]

+foday S tests are usually very inaccurate. in my experience most of my friends get inaccurate results. the best thing to do is just learn the functions and look up youtube info gather and figure it out that way. you sound like feeling dominant user but thats just off stereotyping. only you can answer these questions about "love". ENFJs do seem to try and use other people as "brains" because they cant seem to think for themselves. try not to do that, you can figure things out yourself. this is a personal growth channel =] my best advice is to just keep meeting new people. you will have unique relationships with everyone. dont try and get the "same thing". your chemistry will be different with everyone.

[@foday529]

cor So are you ENFJ? If not what type are you?

[@foday529]

cor Yeah being self reliant is very important to me because I hate depending on people. I believe being self reliant is being self actualizes, maybe that is one of the reason why I came out as an INTP. The test is not perfect but even when you get it wrong it still says something about the person taking it.

[@blackult1]

foday S Seriously, everyone in these personality theory communities that knows what their talking about says to ignore these tests and that they will only make you more confused. I am an INTP and I have come out as EVERYTHING under the sun depending on the day.

[@foday529]

cor MBTI is just a tool to get (those who are interested in leaning about themselves) started. It is just the starting line after the gun has gone off it is not the race or the end of the race. Using MBTI with other tools will benefit the individual in the long run.

[@emailgothacked]

Too bad there's no coaching on this.

[@lindagarcia5908]

What happened to talking about our 3 year old Ti

[@TipTypeTube]

❤ Yup! I don't think this topic is explored enough. I created a video game about it 😊❤.

[@raenaj4749]

I’m lost

[@TipTypeTube]

😅 At what part? 😮 I think this information is very outdated. ❤ I am wanting better things for my fellow ENFJs.

[@gaia1577]

yeah, enfj doesnt sound anything like me after listening to 2 mins of this video. maybe i took the test wrong

[@gaia1577]

I am talking about the questions the "perspective" process asks. I have never asked in mind or out loud anything that deep.I find that "exploration" from infp's questions are totally in line though, as well as the driver " authenticity"

[@gaia1577]

I just dont think that im am that concerned with others needs, i have been called selfish or self-absorbed a lot.

[@gaia1577]

I mean, i do ask deep questions, but those examples seem so foreign to me.

[@gaia1577]

I can say however, the ways an enfj ask if or let know they love someone is a lot more true then infp's did,. i have a lot to think about now. been working on myself, thinking i am an infp for a while, and now im so confused.

[@lopezjohn2012]

😭😭😭

[@TipTypeTube]

* handing over tissues * Why did it move you ❤😢? 😊

[@joelstephenson8017]

My 10 year old is being fed too much through youtube...

[@TipTypeTube]

😂 Ironic. If there would be anything you'd love to learn as an ENFJ that is useful, what would you like to learn?

[@eulaliatomas4560]

by y CD cgg

[@Natechasse]

... fuck

[@redhead_in_florida]

Haha

[@makk.11]

Real

[@ryanhogrefe7128]

blah blah, blah blah blah.oh and blah.

[@TipTypeTube]

You didn't like this podcast? What would you have rather learned? 😅