ENFP and INFJ are the Perfect Match?

ENFPs and INFJs are quoted everywhere across the internet as the perfect relationship match. Join me in the discussion of whether this is the case!
What is your experience? Have you ever been friends or dated an INFJ/ENFP?
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[@realsanmer]

As an INFJ guy, what I've understood after a while is that our type's personality is just "balance": if we are with someone more optimistic and cheerful, like an ENFP, we become more realistic and grounded, but if we are with someone realistic and grounded, like an ISTP, we are the ones to turn optimistic and cheerful. Our personality is literally just whatever is needed for balance to be achieved.

[@mikegeorge3392]

OMG you are right!!! I never thought about this

[@TheMattShea]

I recently started dating an INFJ and it has been MAGICAL. We're currently trying not to let the bonfire burn too hot lol

[@urphat4686]

Wait a min

[@aether3697]

My man getting a date!

[@sapokee2830]

MATT SHEA IS INTO MBTI LET'S GOOOOOOO

[@evelynexuma1699]

​@@aether3697 LMAOOO

[@bernadetteatwil557]

My crush had me take the mbti, he is an ENFP and I found out I am an INFJ slksksks he's so excited telling me we're perfect match ㅠㅠ my healt melts. My man 💖

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

oh my gosh! I'm so excited for you! I hope it works out. also hope it's not weird that a stranger is excited for you hahaha (obviously an ENFP here)

[@jgcheng]

Pls tell us you both still together :D

[@bernadetteatwil557]

@@jgcheng yes 💖

[@dannybenhur6123]

@@bernadetteatwil557 Enfp guys are always excited with concept of falling in love, the concept of soulmate... I believe you will have a long long relationship. best of luck to both of you.

[@dannybenhur6123]

@@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202 ENFPs are always excited for strangers...

[@dittmar104]

INFJ: WHY ARE U LIKE THIS?!? ENFP: Don’t hurt me, I’m stupid.

[@May04bwu]

Sounds familiar

[@user-ty5pq5yy4m]

pfff HAHA

[@trippstephens6934]

Lol couldn’t be further from reality.

[@dittmar104]

@@trippstephens6934 enfp: "don't hurt me I'm too pretty"

[@sassysauce3901]

its hurts right in my meow meow

[@hugsxkissesftw3959]

Omg. ENFP married to INFJ for 22 years. This is spot on!

[@jeanv3266]

This is the second comment I’ve seen like this! Infj isalready the rarest personality type. I’m an ENFP and met an INFJ. We are so in love and so aligned and i just hope it lasts forever. 🥰

[@jeanv3266]

Also, bless your union! 🙏it gives me hope

[@hugsxkissesftw3959]

Jean Vintayen congratulations on your love. I hope that it lasts forever for you too! Marriage is challenging and rewarding.

[@jgcheng]

How lucky you are?! Me love INFJ too :D We have lots to talk and others cannot understand our topic nor handle our topic changes, lol

[@emilyhorner3246]

I'm an INFJ and I've always been drawn to ENFPs, I love how positive and full of life they are & I feel so warm around them. And the depthness to their personality always surprises me. Though I always worry that they're too fun & interesting to be all that interested in me!

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

Well, im always intrigued by the thoughts and ideas of an INFJ so for Ne that is very stimulating. We dont always need to do things if the conversation is good!

[@satoatsuji8392]

Enfp are to much for me, and I don't really wanna be in a relationship with. Not that I dislike them, I just find it uncomfortable.

[@voyance4elle]

We are intested!!! We seem bubbly and fun but are actually very deep...

[@susannahnutkins7278]

“Though I always worry that they’re too fun and interesting to be all that interested in me” SAME I always worry my bf will get bored of me

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

no way, INFJs are great! I love how deep you are, and your unique view of the world! (am an ENFP and am surely not the only ENFP that thinks this)

[@kaylahgreen5080]

INFJ here dating and ENFP. I fell in love before I even knew her personality type (it’s been over a year and I just found out). Truly feeling lucky

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

Thats amazing! Im so happy for you!! 💜

[@voyance4elle]

It was the same for me and my INFJ boyfriend 💕

[@lxrdkira7773]

OMG ME TOOOO 😍💔

[@Outdoors_with_Donny]

Same oml magic moment

[@meerabetab]

INFJ always feel myself magnetically drawn to ENFP’s but totally agree in the long term, needs flexibility on both sides. Great to hear from an ENFP perspective.

[@davidcook680]

I'm INFJ a ENFP might be nice. I'm extremely introverted. I stay in my mind. Maybe I need somebody positive to pull me out. I just want one person.

[@5GcE]

I’m INFJ and I feel very drawn to you, how do you do that 😂 You guys are INFJ whisperers I tell you👀

[@justinejacks0n]

ditto

[@BFBThraShEr]

Dito

[@srijitabasu7436]

I'm an INFJ dating an ENFP for 8 years...we came to know a few weeks ago. Your description was so enlightening and accurate..I'm beginning to understand why we argue, and when we do, it's bad. But it doesn't separate us. The reasons you stated were very accurate. I've always wanted to know the ENFP's perspective. This is the best video I found.

[@BayAreaHalfcast]

I'm an infj guy, and find your vibe soo attractive.

[@realisrare8310]

😂😂😂 Yes! ENFPs don’t like that reality crashing down perception we INFJs bring.

[@EH_888]

Definitely, and it's not going to stop 🤣. I love Ti. Hehehe.

[@KingKhanAbz]

My ex told me, she didn't like hearing it but it was very appreciated and that my gut instincts were right to help her with her situation ☺

[@ghostsheet777]

It's so true hahahahahah I hate it!!! But after the initial anger I actually consider some things they say and it gives me a fuller perspective, which in the end I appreciate.

[@octavia88]

Just because we don't like it, doesn't mean we don't need it. It's good to have somebody caring about you and grounding you down if needed...

[@voyance4elle]

I am an ENFP, my boyfriend is an INFJ 🥰 The 14 best months of my life so far 💕 and yes we are honest and willing to grow 🙏 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and investigation 💎

[@Melle_Tanya_]

Y’all still together?

[@voyance4elle]

@@Melle_Tanya_ nope 💔 sadly not 😌 there were a few core things that stood in the way of our happiness. We stopped being together even though there still was so much love.

[@neotheoneness9363]

Are ENFP’s promiscuous?

[@Jdb63]

​@@voyance4elle Do you mind sharing what some of those things were, in vague terms of needed?

[@drewphonix7685]

I'm an INFJ man with an INFP woman. And there's sparks all the time. It's been 7 years

[@mustumasti]

INFJ here, dating an ENFP. We have been together for 5 years. We had so many ups and downs, we somehow don't give up on each other. Most our clashes are about the way we think. Most of the time, we mean the same thing though with a different perspective, still argue about it for no ends. Opposite to popular belief, I am the talkative one in the relationship.

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

This is so relatable- my INFJ bf and i have been together 5 years, clash about the way we think, and he is the more talkative one! Usually about things in the world that bother him and he needs to talk about lol

[@mustumasti]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi In our situation, he is a bit more sensitive then I am (could be because he is way younger then I am). He is the one who has to talks about things that bother him, I am listener in that situation. I am usually happy go lucky , easy going and positive person in the relation, which seems opposite in your case. He is quite intense sometimes. He is a scorpio, may be that has something to do with it.

[@AliSalicia]

Mustafa D I am guessing you’re not infj. It is possible.

[@mustumasti]

@@AliSalicia I have done multiple tests, Everytime it says I am infj. It describes me to a T

[@bodine219]

@@mustumasti As an INFJ your relationship description makes perfect sense. We talk a lot to a few special people.

[@anealin]

I am an infj and my husband is an enfp. 20 years together. We had our ups and downs, but this is a magical love story. Best friends, soul mates. Socionics does not "approve" this relationship though, preferring duals instead. I may say there are downsides, but who does not have them? Downsides: 1. I try to control him, bc he is kinda irresponsible and carefree. 2. He has no idea about time and deadlines: he just procrastinates, forgets things. I am his alarm clock and notification bell. I wish he was more responsible. I live as if I have 1 year left (so I have to plan everything) and he lives as if he has 1000 years to live (so he has plenty of time and doesn't need planning) 3. He doesn't plan things properly and we may get into situations, so I am always in charge of packing, planning, booking. 4. His jokes are too inappropriate and foolish. Mine are sarcastic. 5. He is a little more selfish from my viewpoint. Also I have to fold his laundry and find things. Anyways. I wouldn't change our relationship. It is said that duals are a perfect match, but I don't think this is always the case.

[@Milkman4279]

I'm an ISFJ and my wife is an ENFP. We've been happily married for 20 years.

[@Kim-rw6tz]

awww...it is so adorable ~_~

[@jgcheng]

ISFJ can sometime become INFJ when you are in enlightenment mood, which make ENFP loves you more :)

[@joanaborrellsanchez9225]

My mom is ISFJ and I'm ENFP, we have problems because she's all time saying to me: "be more organized with your things!" Or "do that!" She's all time organizing my life and I become tired and irritable. I know she do that for me, but I only want liberty to do my own things (obviously I help with home, I clean the bathroom and the kitchen every day, I'm the responsibile sister) and she's too much exigent and has unrealistic expectations about me, my sisters and my brother, so she gets easily frustrated. But I can comprehend her behaviors and situation, and I love her.

[@stephcurran]

INFJ here happily married to an ENFP.

[@habibak8476]

The ENFP in me literally zoned out 5 mins into this video, I was flashbacking into the time when I and a bunch of my ENTP/ESTJ friends used to be loud in class:") ahh, those were the days. But I still don't understand why I have more Introverted friends than extroverts at this point. like- WHATTT

[@PS-xb9hc]

Because we tend to see a lot!🤪 More than we would like to...and listen here as infj

[@manojjainism]

THAT IS EXACTLY ME

[@voyance4elle]

I am also drawn to introverted people... I often find them to be more interesting, thoughtful, deep....

[@traebadmon]

Haha read this comment while zoning out broooo 😂 @3:44

[@starkydaniel]

INFJ here - I just recently took the MBTI test and I find it fascinating how accurate it was to me. ENFP's seem to be the kind of people that I have a mutual understanding with, something I am not use to because I generally have to be someone else to other people. I personally like to empathize with people and take on their problems as if they where my own and that takes a extraordinarily large amount of energy from myself. I feel like ENFP's don't require this kind of treatment it's almost like the people who are ENFP's are the same to INFJ's are to other types. The ENFP is my favorite personality type so far because of the compatibility they have with my own. I enjoy ENFP's company because when they get me to talk about something I am interested in and knowledgeable about and They understand me more easily than other types. As a INFJ I find when I talk about stuff that I care deeply about I describe it through feeling, metaphor and sentiment due to this it makes it very difficult for most people to comprehend because it's not purely based off of reason and logic. I have one ENFP as a close friend and she is very a genuine and open person that cares about me a lot. I hope this was fun to read as much as it was to type, expressing myself through text is a lot more difficult than talking because I have to make it make sense. lol

[@locdout80sqt26]

💖💯

[@kcmn0089]

Let's just a mature infj and enfp are great together, otherwise it can get toxic.

[@estellagarcia4097]

I wish infj wasn’t so mother flipping rare!!!

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

AGREED lol

[@deshont42]

INFJ Here!,,😊😁😂🤣 LOL

[@Kim-rw6tz]

AgReEd !!! hahah

[@theodoratepes2473]

DeShon T me too

[@stephenemmons4504]

(I am an INFJ) Haha, I honestly like that my type is so rare because it feeds my ego. ): But I wish there were more people like me that I could talk to!

[@dionelalberto2298]

My crush is an INFJ. I'm an ENFP. on the first months we're together I felt like we have a connection that i can't explain. We really argue a lot on simple things yet we were still so close and enjoyed being with each other. I always introduce new things and always telling to try this and that LOL. What I really hate is that its really hard to understand an INFJ just like my crush because of being extremely private and sometimes i felt like i'm annoying that person :( It really always makes me think on how to act towards her. Lol. But from this video and also reading the comments, me and my crush also experienced that like i always share many things and she always questions me. She always test my brain and i really hate that but i still like her LOL hahahahahaha For now, she still don't know that i really like her. I'm just making her feel special and that i want to talk to her like always chatting her (but she said that she's really not that expressive in chats and many times that she left me on seen..it frustrates me tho. lol). Omg my comment is so long im sorry HAHAHAHAHAH Also, she is the one who introduced personality types to me few months ago. Haha and today i learned that we are compatible. It gives me hope HAHAHAHAHHAHAH thank you! Also if you can give some advice to me on how i can handle my INFJ crush please please help me HAHAHAHAH

[@babychewbacca9211]

Are ENFP’s drawn to coloring their hair flamboyantly? I don’t dislike it, I actually love it. INFJ-T

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

I think so hehe, idk if there is a statistic, but I would think ENFPs are high on the "would-dye-their-hair-outrageous-colors"

[@yasselesca]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi I dyed my hair the exact same way like Michelle, so yeah could be true - ENFP

[@gladyschristman9594]

Omg, yes. I am an ENFP and I totally would color my hair flamboyantly! Love it!!

[@daniellewalker256]

Yes. We get BORED.

[@seraphlazuli6251]

My ENFP loves dying his hair.

[@leo4236]

I'm INFJ and have only dated xNFPs. This is so spot on! Especially the "reality crASHING DOWN" and "can you complete something?" - I feel so called out 😅

[@marilouviola9516]

ENFP 😊 that is goofy, have a good sense of humor and can have a deep conversation with and emotional connection. I hope I can meet some of you in person🥺

[@sodaa2489]

What country do you stay in? You could start a personality based social media group for your community. That way, you'll find us more quickly.

[@scottfeeney695]

Goofy is adorable enfp thing. Dunno why.

[@octavia88]

Dear fellow ENFP, remember that if you want to catch an introvert you need to think like and introvert and go to places where introverts want to be!

[@infj-tguy6275]

Would you still be so eager to meet me irl if you knew beforehand I was red pilled?

[@rameshcppodcasts]

Infj 8w9 from Kerala, India

[@bigbufobufo]

I’m an INFJ and I am fascinated by ENFP types. I find them very entertaining to be around but I agree that hanging out and being in a long term relationship where you live together are totally different. But I think mature adults with life experience can make it work because they know how to compromise and be mindful about the other person’s needs and pet peeves. INFJs and ENFPs are very different in their outlook and approach to life.

[@AmberMcQuiston]

My boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago after a very passionate 6 month relationship. I'm an ENFP and he's an INFJ. This is the only video I've seen that perfectly describes our dynamic and our problems. I'm devastated by the break up and keep searching for answers as to why we couldn't get along. He was constantly irritated by me and called me negative. He started turning every conversation into an argument even though I am very non-argumentative. He was very irritated by my changes in plans and me being indecisive about things... He was not spontaneous, and I am.

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

I'm sorry to hear you broke up. It's hard to be with a person like an INFJ because they can be very critical. Why do you think you couldn't get along?

[@PS-xb9hc]

As an INFJ we need structure .I'm sorry about the break up:/

[@voyance4elle]

@@PS-xb9hc Thank you for reminiding me 👍

[@marilouviola9516]

Maybe he is an overthingking INFJ and has a childhood trauma he easily absorbs negativity then and they need break or rest to work on their peace

[@user-zf8bq2fq3j]

We like to plan and hate indecisiveness.

[@May04bwu]

I'm INFJ and my boyfriend is ENFP. I agree with this completely. I'm always so anxious about the future and every decision, but he's so chill about everything. We've known each other for 10 years now and we always gravitated towards each other. So interesting :) It still blows my mind we got together a few months ago. I never loved anyone this way. We have our differences and misunderstandings, usually I feel like he's not empathetic enough and it escalates from there, but we always talk it out eventually.

[@May04bwu]

*I edited a typo

[@barrypatrickius]

I am dating another INFJ and she was raised in a similar culture and we share the same faith and politics on top of it. We are both deep people who have no use for superficiality and shallowness and we are both communicative!. I don't know about me, but she is intelligent and interesting(I think she is just being nice when she talks about me). I under the potential for disaster(huge disaster) with two INFJ's who don't share the same world views/core values and two INFJ’s in a relationship will either be a match made in heaven, or something you may never recover from because they knew you the deepest, they understood you, and it still didn’t work(because of different core values/not enough similarities and not enough work on strengthening typical INFJ weaknesses)- but our relationship is unbelievable. We ARE confirmed INJF's but we are both analytical, logical, objective, practical, reasonable and easygoing(except when easygoing isn't appropriate, neither one of us are afraid to confront others). Think of a lively, warm, emotional(in a positive sense), passionate Mr. Spock(from Star Trek). We have both worked on strengthening the inherent weaknesses of INJF's in ourselves before we ever met. We relate on a level that is almost supernatural. We get along almost seamlessly . We understand and comprehend each other as well or better than ourselves and the similarities we share in personality traits, beliefs and opinions are eerie. We always communicate and never shrink from resolving issues, never avoid discussing differences of opinion when they do occur, but in a year and a half we have never had a fight. This stems from our similarities but also from being real, genuine and sincere people and not seeking our own well being first; our strong inclination to meet each other’s needs creates a healthy balance of give and take. Thanks to our auxiliary function of Extroverted Feeling (Fe), my INFJ partner and I have a knack for taking into account the emotional needs of others and we utilize it and apply it to our relationship. That said, my observations of people putting themselves first in any type of friendship/relationship have only deepened my appreciation for my INFJ significant other, who, without thinking twice, seeks to fulfill my needs just as often as I do hers.

[@barrypatrickius]

Thank you Michelle

[@margauxtepartage]

Very beautiful testimony that gives hope in humanity, in valuable and healthy and vibrant and alive and warm relationship

[@kiznyctslyer6408]

Why keep seeing these comments on how INFJ and ENFP found each other makes me so damn jealous and exited at the same time 🥺🥰😭. Like, where's my ENFP??

[@mi7455]

omg i can relate so much with you dudee , istg i wanna meet an infj so bad but theyre rare so- :((

[@MN-sq4sw]

@@mi7455 we are maybe not even that rare just well hidden 😉

[@octavia88]

Probably out there dancing, mountain climbing or doing something crazy right now...

[@kiznyctslyer6408]

@@MN-sq4sw Where are you guys hiding then?

[@kiznyctslyer6408]

@@octavia88 I think the problem is on me. Most of the time I disconnect with the world. Just in my room, discovering things and want the ENFP to find me. Damn I'm so pathetic

[@tingni5744]

Interestingly, I as the INFJ am the idealist and optimist in my relationships, and I have found my ENFP friends to be on the more pessimistic and “realist” end. The Ni-Ti of the INFJ leads them to block out reality sometimes (or oftentimes) in preference of their visions and ideals. Whereas the Ne-Te of the ENFP means that their intuition & imagination takes reality more into account.

[@magotchii5225]

LOL. I'm an INFJ and I'm a really big-picture kind of person... My ideals in life is actually really huge... Quite honestly I'm scared that I'll slowly forget this kind of enthusiasm once I grow old, but no. I can't live without it... Maybe its just me, because I've suppressed a lot of stuffs I wanted to do as a child that I still can't move on and cling dearly to my undying ideals and expectation for this world....

[@octavia88]

I'm no expert but I think mani INFJ share this fear. The fact that you are self aware about it means you'll never forget your ideals.

[@eloisenyssen7242]

Hey, I never comment anything on KZbin but thank you for this great video ! My ex-boyfriend is an ENFP and I'm an INFJ. It was really great, I'm really sad to see what I've lost, especially when I see all the comments... We had to break up (even if we didn't want to) because he's Muslim and I want my future kids to have the choice. He understands. He found another girl (an ISFJ) and that hurts me a lot. I sent him a text about how I was feeling, that I was finally sure I wanted to be with him for the road even if at the end we wouldn't have been together. He said it was adorable, but that the only solution was to see if it works out with the other girl with the time, that he can't leave her like that and shouldn't have done it with me... I thought I could move on after that but it really hurts me a lot. Now we're friends but it's not like it used to be. Sorry for writing all this but I really needed to, I hope someone will read it and answer me. I wish y'all all the best and a great day or evening ! (English isn't my first language, French is, sorry for my mistakes)

[@jasone5895]

ENFP here. Don’t be too hard on yourself and do whatever you need to do to heal. I see it’s been 1yr ago so hopefully you’ve already done that.

[@dhartipatel5395]

I am an enfp and my ex was an infj. We broke up on due to some circumstances. He's dating someone and it hurts but i guess he's happy and yes we too are friends (which honestly in my opinion exes shouldn't be, it doesn't free us completely) hope you have had a better time.

[@sumaiyaali8704]

I couldn't agree more about the bond that we ENFP's share with INFJ's and the way we look at the world and we try to fix it. But I always end up falling for the INTJ 😂

[@voyance4elle]

I wonder why 😄 have you found out?

[@sumaiyaali8704]

@@voyance4elle I think of all the people that I have met, only the INTJ could measure the depths of what we saw and thought, with me. So I guess that is/was the reason.

[@voyance4elle]

@@sumaiyaali8704 very interesting!!!

[@chrisbennett6236]

I've dated several ENFPs and I didn't argue with any of them. Though oddly only one of them ever cheated on me and I didn't say anything I just walked away. Anyways I think my not bringing reality crashing down on them was due to my strong moral belief that everyone has the right to express themselves in whatever way they are most comfortable with. Either that or I just hate conflict that much

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

I am not a fan of conflict, soooo, I can relate if that was it. I'm sorry that you went through that. If that were me, I would have benefited from being called out on something like that.

[@chrisbennett6236]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi I thought about that but I literally caught her in the act with her ex while I was watching their one year old son cause they said they needed sleep. It was probably my fault as much as hers for getting involved with her so soon after they split. Though a year and a half isn't exactly a short time either but I'm sure you understand what I'm saying. It's unfortunate things went down that way for two reasons: she was a sweetheart and I really enjoyed being around her and second she and I ended up having a son together that she didn't tell me about and I found out she wouldn't let me see him. And in NY it's up to the mother. So it was huge disaster all around. But like I said none of the other ENFPs I dated did anything like that. One died, one stopped taking her meds and her Schizophrenia got out of control and I'm still friends with the other one.

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

@@chrisbennett6236 wow, well that's quite awful. A year and a half, in my opinion, is a pretty long period of time, but if they had a kid together, i can see it might not be. Those experiences together seem to be very intense. It sounds like you have lived a very interesting life so far. I'm sorry that your child is being kept from you. It's sadly very common for women to do that as NY is not the only state whose laws work like that.

[@chrisbennett6236]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi I also wanted to mention that I 40 years old and I have more or less moved passed many of my types shortcomings like the need for perfection and I was never controlling of others but I was very rigid in how I behaved. I did not start conflicts as a personal belief and that had led to many problems with the girls I dated that weren't ENFPs. I refused to treat others in a negative way even when they were doing it to me. My first hard lesson about my rigidness came when I was 14 after I did something incredibly stupid to keep a promise was the result was my best friend/girlfriend was killed. I realized there were more important things and that sometimes circumstances change the narrative so I didn't need rigidly keep my word no matter the cost. I learned when I was twenty after coming home from the military that there were things I preferred to my pursuit of being perfect at everything I did. I have always been easily distracted by ENFPs warm positive energy and that irritated me when I was in high school and up to around twenty when I met another ENFP that for whatever reason I couldn't keep myself smiling all the time around her. I still think about her often even though I haven't seen her in 15 years. I learned patience around 10-12 years ago with a young lady I adored but due to lazy parents she had no idea how to function on her own. I taught her how survive and be independent when it calls for it and she taught me patience. So I agree wholeheartedly that these relationships work best with growth. Though I'll admit learning lessons young and always respecting other people's right to be themselves gave me an advantage many INFJs never have. Currently I'm trying to learn how to not be overly protective of the people I love and not to be such a worrier. Those I'm finding those harder than giving up my pursuit for perfection, being less rigid and being patient. Hopefully I'll get there.

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

Chris Bennett sometimes we have to learn things the hard way. I hope your future lessons do not come with so much pain. Thank your for sharing a part of yourself with me.

[@cmdrefstathiusplacidus9003]

Please forgive the off topic ISFJ comment: ENFP man married to ISFJ 13 years, together for 14. We call ourselves The tortoise and the hare, we joke to ourselves.There are some similarities, there are some difficulties that arise as well, especially with conversation, but honestly I think any pairing can work depending on the emotional health and maturity of the individuals. This is my second marriage, my first wife of 14 years was an ESFP, she was the singer of the band and I was guitar player. Not good long-term match, maybe a good best friend but that's about it. We both agree on this to this day.

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

yes as an ENFP I have some great INFJ friends! honestly, I feel like they understand me better than anyone else. but man, INFJ males, where you at tho? 😂 edit & update: I am now dating a male ENFP, funnily enough!

[@marilouviola9516]

Hahaha. You magnetised a guy instead of a girl. Hahahah 😂😂 atleast you already have an INFJ in your life 😊 hahah😅

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

@@marilouviola9516 yup 😂😂 grateful for those friends, still looking for that soulmate though hahaha

[@marilouviola9516]

Then hope you'd find your INFJ male soul mate😊 I also hope I met my ENFP soul mate. I fell inlove with an ENTJ he is so respectful, sincere, also funny but straightforward that it hurts my sentivity and so goal oriented that he choose career over love so our personality clashes at some point maybe we really need those who are really match to our personality. Or maybe if it is possible to change my personality I would change it, so that I could still love him and we can still work and save the love we have for each other.

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

@@marilouviola9516 Thank you! 😊 oh I see, that does sound like it is painful for you at times :( I don't think you have to change your personality if you want to stay together, different MBTI pairings can still work wonderfully together after all, maybe just some compromise can be met instead? if the differences are negotiable, that is. Anyway, I hope things work out for you two whether that is to stay together or part amicably/be friends instead :)

[@marilouviola9516]

@@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202 Thank you for that wonderful piece of advice. ❤️ That gives me hope. I feel that we can work as friends because we have that good communication and we got each others humors and we respect each other.

[@TheBittenBullet]

I've noticed that a lot KZbinrs talk about multiple INFJs they've come across in real life. How can they meet so many of them if there's only 1 in every 200 people?

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

you've only met 200 people in your life?

[@TheBittenBullet]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Hmmm....Yeah, that actually sounds about right. I'm in the 1st percentile for Extroversion.

[@jambononi]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi 😂

[@nekroknight12zombievoid86]

They both keep each other grounded. Enfp keep infj open to possibilities in morals and ideas. Infjs keep Enfps focused on a single goal of importance. The real problem is when a third party is involved(another person's job opportunity,change in life etc). I'm attracted to enfps myself. Once I saw your firsr vid, I knew you were an enfp

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

exactly. but it can also stem from within the relationship, especially in long-term relationships. INFJs and ENFPs are quite different and over time, those differences can be more obvious and cause problems. Not to say they always do, but they definitely can

[@nekroknight12zombievoid86]

The inferior function in both types can cause havoc as well. Especially in each others dominant position

[@CianMcCarthyMusic]

Hmmm... you make a good case for the ENFP, Michelle. Still though, I'm wary about it being all just a clever ploy to simply ensnare us poor defenceless INFJs!! :P

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

If only, us ENFPs are the poor defenseless ones!

[@bodine219]

Aww lol. You need more ENFP in your life. They are squishy friends with no hidden spikes. I actually really like the way their minds work. -INFJ

[@AstralLaVista]

Enfp here and i hope not... i want love one day

[@simonevilmorty2723]

Within 5secs of this video I could tell you were an ENFP. Just based on your genuine feelings. - INFJ

[@simonevilmorty2723]

@JustHikaru It represents Earth in alchemical symbology, I placed it up a long time ago. Being stubborn, resilient, and patient with the love of nature. I felt it was fitting as an avatar for me.

[@voyance4elle]

@@simonevilmorty2723 oh nice!!!! Thank you for the explanation 🙏 I feel like that!!! Like mother earth 🌍 I am also an earth sign (Taurus)

[@davidcook680]

She seems vary pleasant. I'm a INFJ. I could see how being around her. Would be nice. I'm extremely introverted these days. I do see negative all over the world. Maybe having somebody extrovert like her. Would help alot. I'm talking to this girl so positive and outgoing. It is contagious to me. I'm enjoying our conversations alot.

[@yuu_miran]

I have experience with being friends with an enfp in my life and its really inspiring and full of joy but only if an enfp is not morally corrupted, otherwise, everything positive mentioned just fades away.

[@spirituallymed4864]

That Te used throughout this video... Loved it! You go girl tell them the truth

[@rafybj1981]

With all due respect, you are beautiful, I'm an infj male and when I saw you could resist but to hear your voice, WOW, I saw the video like 10 times

[@jaynsilentboom]

"Every pessimist as just a scorned optimist". I am an INFJ, and I have experienced many negatives in my life as a result of the this human experience. But it was my internal resilience and optimism that gave me hope. I can't agree that we aren't optimists. In fact, we are, but most likely, we have been hurt so many times by reality, that we THEN become jaded at times. And so having an ENFP is like reconnecting with that young innocent inner child before the world ruined us. That is what you are experiencing.

[@unicknoe]

Я ENFP, мой парень INFJ и мы идеальны)) эта поддержка, полное взаимопонимание - самое лучшее что может быть. Мы вместе можем быть собой, делать что хотим, хоть прикалываться над друг другом, мы всё делаем с любовью и прекрасно друг друга понимаем, нам очень хорошо вместе))) а дальше будет лучше я знаю ❤

[@be-th3_light]

I am INFJ and I fall in love with ENFP . I feel that we have a very deep connection. We speak with hours and every time we have what to say . It's never bored . I feel the butterfly In my stomach.

[@mikesavad]

i don't get why all the females that are ENFP in these videos have pink or purple hair.

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

I just like purple- its my fave color, so why not put it on my hair?

[@mikesavad]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi i like purple too... but i found it odd that so many of this type colors their hair. unless i'm looking at the same person. hard to tell at times.

[@BunniLovePickle]

Cuz ENFP’s have good taste. ;)

[@voyance4elle]

ENFP here... I had purple or pink or violet hair for years 😅

[@yasselesca]

Also ENFP here who had purple hair xD It's my fav color and it looks nice in the hair.

[@360Cruzerman]

Idk if I'm a unique ENFP but I can trace my ideas and explain myself logically and articulately. I don't have that problem of not knowing where an idea came from... this could be from my F only being 55% or my N being close to 90%.

[@el-ti8gd]

I’ve been with my ENFP for nearly 2 years and can confirm it is a perfect combo 🥰

[@isosoriharrison9556]

Lol most of my friendships are ENFP’s haha however, I’m a weird INFJ I’ve learned to push myself out of my bubble which is hard and extremely uncomfortable. Very very true, I can be black and white, however I’m also developing more way of looking at the positives through the negative values. I know ENFP’s like to be encouraged. I keep being spontaneous even though it scares me because it makes my life more interesting when I’m always doing something though I give myself a day to recharge.

[@akaboo69]

ISFP but I wanted to see if you agreed but imho yes because the functions are opposite and in the right polarity

[@thebealers2102]

Great explanation. I'm new to these models but I'm apparently saturated with ENFP traits. Thanks.

[@ptbambich]

your glasses and your hair match... michi... nice info... thank youuuu....

[@jessicajones4160]

I LOVE ENFPS Michael Pierce's "Axes and Quadras" video has some great insight into miscommunication between Betas and Deltas and you should it watch if you haven't already :)

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

I definitely will check that out!!! and thanks :D ENFPs are preeeetty cool, if I do say so myself hehehe

[@voyance4elle]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi haha 😄 giving ourselves compliments - so ENFP 💕

[@reemabakshi4758]

Love your Lakshmi on the wall ❤️ the spiritual enfp coming out :)

[@rameshcppodcasts]

Enfp from India? Infj from Kerala here

[@taketheredpill1452]

ENFP here. Was so excited to see your video, cute fun-loving INFJ....wait a minute...'D'oh!

[@argosfe7445]

We can be total downers and in a super arrogant way. I really hate that part of myself.

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

We all have a part of ourselves that we don't like, but I can tell you that I do often appreciate that you are able to see and express the negative.

[@PS-xb9hc]

It also makes me sad not to see everything all rosy out in the world, I'm just realistic but there are days when it hurts so much that the ENFP relieves all that heaviness from us.

[@SamongpetsMTA]

Me and my friend, we are friend for life. ENFP and INFJ. I asked her what made you get along with me so well? Why you are my best friend? I have so many friends but why you? she said hmm that’s simple “I just ignore you” what she mean is, do whatever you think it’s good, I‘ll walk with you without doubt. But if it went wrong, we’ll ignore and pretend it’s never happens. She never aggravates my faults. She just “ignores” it! She’s always proud to had me as her best friend.

[@JulietTheGirl]

Thank you! You have a very beautiful voice!

[@realsidmation]

Did I tell you you're AWESOME 😉 YOU'RE AWESOME!!

[@benschreiner7511]

Funny, still trying to figure out my x nfp (Test Res.) I laughed so hard @34-37 seconds. I guess I know now. Nice Room 😉 Vid helped me and my GF to take a reflection on us. What we realy liked was the 'cut to the chase' - insightful, straight and authentic. Thank you. (From me: nice editing - it made my day - relatable) Struggling with the F/T still - may be due to my upbringing, family.

[@mzi668]

Enfp girl-colors hair purple and changes color often Me, Enfp boy- gets braids,then dreads, then waves🤣

[@johnvermintide]

abraham mbiba how tf do you know my enfp crush hair is colored purple

[@bangmain5355]

You nailed INFJ... The dishes in the sink analogy. Spot on

[@voyance4elle]

So true 😆🙏

[@deshont42]

Thank You!,, INFJ Present.. As soon as You started speaking I automatically knew You Were an ENFP!.. 😊

[@EH_888]

I failed to mention earlier that one of my best friends is an enfp. They are an excellent companion.

[@Liquate]

I agree with most of this but don't agree with the negative outlook on life coming from INFJs. I am an INFJ 5w4 and tend to have a pretty optimistic look on life. I do have logic to balance it though, but I am never going to think negatively before positively or realistically.

[@youlan4110]

As an enfp I’m probably not that typical. I have many ideas but indeed follow through and finish some of them. I’m outgoing but get overwhelmed very quickly and then will avoid people for a while. I feel so excited and anxious about the future. Like I know I need to follow through but I get so insecure along the way. So I really appreciate the presence of a calm infj. And they are just precious human beings.

[@bbspooks]

As an ENFP too, I read our extrovertedness can be perceived as introverted because we require a lot of recharge time. I identify with that.

[@aaronalvarez9954]

Hey guys I’m also an ENFP. I found that the only times I get overwhelmed is when I have to use the shadow part of the brain which is infj and it’s very mentally draining. But if I’m out with other intuitives I can talk to them for hours and have limitless energy. I think you have to find the right people to be around to unlock that extra version all the time.

[@jeffreysherman8224]

Actually, Michelle, INFJs are perceivers. Our first function is Introverted iNtuition, a perceiving function. The letters for introverts are a bit deceptive. The P and J are flipped for introverts because the lettering system of MBTI is uses the first _extroverted_ function. In an introvert, that's always going to be the second function. You're right, we'll bring some law&order into your life, but we're both perceivers. Just remember to switch the P and J for introverts. ENF(P) = Ne, Fi, Te, Si INF(J) = Ni, Fe, Ti, Se

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

Yes, i definitely like the socionics look that Ni/Si doms are actually perceivers, though I was focusing on the elements for people who are newer to MBTI. I don't think that INFJs being perceivers changes their need to have follow-through and to finish what they start :D

[@nekroknight12zombievoid86]

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[@jeffreysherman8224]

@Francesca C Thinking and Feeling are decision making or "judging" functions. Sensing and iNtuition are "perceiving" functions. The direction, introverted or extroverted has nothing to do with that classification. E.g., Fi, Fe, Ti, & Te are the judging functions.

[@jeffreysherman8224]

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Michelle, can you explain the functions or perhaps point to a resource that can provide clarification? Thinking and Feeling are decision making functions (judging), and Sensing and iNtuition are information gathering functions (perceiving). I thought I was clear about what was judging and perceiving, but there still seems to be confusion. Thank you.

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

Jeffrey Sherman I’m sorry are you asking me or Francesca?

[@drewgrant2795]

when you started talking about the dish my god that’s my whole relationship with my ENFP partner🤣 love your vid!

[@helenhoang6209]

Does anyone here verge from infj to enfp? Ive gotten both personalities based on the different moods im in!! This has been happening for years as well!

[@shooksrule]

Love the video but I’d say I’m a very positive INFJ and not negative or angry. I always see the positives in life

[@cmdrefstathiusplacidus9003]

Matter of fact this ENFP dude is doing laundry dishes and about to try to fix a dryer that is squeaky. I have gone insane. Thank you so much for pointing out how the cognitive stack factors into this, I was guilty of this as well when I first started seeing all of this on Facebook years ago. Then I actually started learning how it works. The emotional health, abuse issues from the past, maturity how well they're able to engage their secondary functions in a healthy way, all these things factor in the likelihood of a successful relationship.

[@BasedGodEmperorTrump]

I had a "work wife" that was ENFP (me INFJ) and the relationship was one I'd never experienced before. It was amazing.

[@emilianamontardit6815]

and that´s why wolfstar is the best couple ever thanks

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

It’s always said that ENFPs and INFJs are inside-out (and vice-versa) versions of each other and I agree. ISTPs and ENFJs, I guess, are the other INFJ shadow types and I’m sure they’re al compatible relationship-wise. From what I’ve seen they are.

[@Melle_Tanya_]

I’ve met one ENFP as an INFJ (he was just a friend) we just clicked and understood each other communication was so easy

[@BunniLovePickle]

Not only are you mirroring my personality but our glasses are similar except mine are a little more square, dark, n have a little purple and our hair is purple except mine is very dark, kind of maroon. Similar length, side part. I have brown eyes, not blue. I’m like the villainous, older version of you. XD

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

:o we should do a mash up hehehe

[@northstar12389]

What I am pondering here is. What tells apart an INTJ from an INFJ ? Cos' I've been looking for an good answer and besides socionics and mbti tells me I am a intj, i slam doors, cry when someone screams with me and I am too warmth person. Besides I am sure my 1st is Ni.

[@cedriceric9730]

interesting! intj are basically infjs most of the time since we lead with Ni and were basically the exact same people there are no two types as similar , i mistyped myself as an infj for a full year too i didnt think i need the test since the profile matched so perfectly an intj can only be a full INTJ with an entj once you get each other there is no better pairing also intjs have a significant bias to scientific concepts infjs are more towarda arts another more significant difference is enfps "find" you instead of the otherway round for infjs somehow enfps can just tell someone is intj not infj so you can just ask them HOW?

[@chrissyquartly2893]

Good video!

[@ghostsheet777]

I like the way you speak

[@alba.c.c1237]

I'm an ENFP, my best friend is an INFJ and my girlfriend is also an INFJ, also my girlfriend's best friend is an ENFP, so when i found this everything made so much sense.

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

Bless. Both types are exactly the same and exact-opposites. Makes for an interesting combination (both types have a little of the other in them, anyhow).

[@bodine219]

I want an ENFP :) You guys have such a great vibe and one added benefit that you didn't touch on. INFJs sometimes have a tendency to chameleon. It isn't intentional; it just happens. But ENFPs don't seem to cause this as much. I don't know if it's because we're so opposite in some ways and already the same in other areas. The way we clash is actually pretty awesome. OR it could be because your type tends to morph a bit, but either way it is really nice. :)

[@voyance4elle]

Yey boyfriend (INFJ) has the temdency to chameleon and forget to stick with his core... I think I help him re-center himself, because I genuinely care for him and want him to always be his authentic self and be comfortable... I think being stable in yourself is very important and helps you enormously through life. ENFPs are a bit like earth: stable, patient, forgiving...

[@octavia88]

I'm an ENFP and I can be a total chameleon too, only its subconsciously and unintentional. Maybe infj feel more like themselves because we are really malleable ourselves?

[@kacake]

We can relax we can be ourselves

[@AndeAndrea]

I liked this video, however just for a stats correction for you: INTJ females make up roughly 17% of the INTJ population; and INFJ male's make up less than half of the INFJ population, Making both of them the most rare. It seems INTJ females to be THE most rare, but not sure entirely. I really like INFJ's as well, my bff is one, and she's literally the only person I talk to about "emotional" things. hah

[@infj-tguy6275]

My god I didn't know pessimism was my thing, that's actually explains alot

[@elmehdisaniss2731]

Thank you.

[@lhaipilhingkipgen7482]

Wow! I keep zoning out watching this video I can’t watch a video of someone just talking but I wanna watch it 🥲

[@mikegeorge3392]

You're a genius... I'm an INFJ

[@uckBayNguyen]

I have a friend at work who is an ENFP and we click so well.

[@davidcook680]

I'm a INFJ male. Maybe I should look for this type of person. I think ENFP might be nice to be around. Just watching you in this. I like you. I can imagine how it would be nice. To be around you. It would take a while though with me. I'm severely introverted these days. When you talk about being a realist and negative. God I am. It is because of the world so much of it. People too.

[@snapstories9395]

I'd love to fall in love with an ENFP! As an INFJ, I love the idea of being pursued by an enthusiastic person! ♥

[@juliano9862]

me desculpe encher me merda os comentarios mas gosto de suas feicoes e acaba q como nao uso redes sociais e nao tenho intimidade com amigos. usei vc .. seu canal pra abrir minha caixa de pandora. obrigado

[@Noon_00Nz]

Which type has a calm and sweet voice?

[@miemeniemeyer2859]

For everyone, would you say that this ENFP x INFJ relationship counts only when it's love? (I would say no but I don't know, maybe I'm wrong) I'm asking it because my mom is an INFJ and I am ENFP, I feel really lucky lol Sorry if there are any mistakes, I'm Brazilian, still learning English (:

[@caviaporcellus4012]

Yeeee!! We're perfect match!

[@alistairproductions]

No infjs can be pretty annoying in the way they do their Fe thing as if it actually mattered for anything , and then they always act like they know everything for sure

[@Ankitkumar-kq1no]

Is it pic of Saraswati maa behind you? Btw here and INFJ from India

[@PolskaHerobrine]

How many of those INFJs you met were actually pessimistic and negative? I'm an INFJ and I'm very optimistic, I really don't get the stereotype here.

[@infernal..]

Infj here - I'm optimistic but realistic in a way

[@PolskaHerobrine]

@@infernal.. Same here xD

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

I have 3 close INFJ friends, idk about "pessimistic" but they can have some pretty dark (but realistic) thoughts sometimes haha

[@hugsxkissesftw3959]

My INFJ DH is way more pessimistic than I am.

[@stellabae2250]

Ppl see it as pessimism but it's just being realistic like yes an INFJ can be optimistic but we know the limits between optimism and delusion

[@jenniferleigh1674]

I don't know. It isn't working out well for me. I'm not really sure where the disconnect is.

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

:( i'm sorry to hear that :(