Why aren't you married? How to talk about being single!

OMG! Are you over 30 and not married? What's wrong with you? Nothing! In this cultural video, you'll learn how to describe being unmarried. This lesson is full of vocabulary to describe different types of relationships, such as "divorced", "cougar", "common-law", and many more. I'll explain the particular meaning of words and explain a little bit about the history and origin of them. Single? Married? Divorced? It doesn't matter what other people think, as long as you're happy!
QUIZ: www.engvid.com/why-arent-you-married-how-to-talk-about-being-single/
TRANSCRIPT
Hi, there. My name's Ronnie. Maybe you're watching www.engvid.com or maybe you're watching me on KZbin. Thanks. Awesome. I have a question for you, though. How old are you? Yeah? Okay. Are you married? No. Do you have a problem with this? Because I know before I got married, I had no problem not being married, but other people did. For example, my friends who were married, maybe they were jealous, other people who I worked with, and people who I generally met from day to day.
So, today I've got a special lesson for you people who are not married. This lesson is called: "Oh My Gawd, You're Not Married Yet? What's Wrong With Her? What's Wrong With Him?" So, people automatically assume that if you're over the ripe age of 30 and you're not married, there's something wrong with you. Maybe there's something wrong with the other people who want to tell you their opinion of how you should live your life. That's what I think. So, I'm going to go through some terms, some of them slang, some of them more traditional, and reasons why you can give people why you're not married yet. And it's none of their business, really. I was fortunate enough to have a mom who didn't push me to get married. Thanks, mom. Does your mom push you to get married? -"Come on, get married, get married." -"Find me a handsome guy, mom, who's not a dick. Maybe I'll do that."
So, first of all, people are going to say behind your back, which means not in front of you: "What's wrong with him?" Most of the time people will say: "He must be gay." Because every man out there who's not married just must be gay. This came from a long, long, long, long time ago. There's an area of history... An era of history called the Victorian Era. They didn't admit to people that they were gay because that's wrong, or that was wrong back then. They had this really amazing kind of sneaky word to say, a "confirmed bachelor". Now, if we lived in the Victorian times and somebody told you that they were a confirmed bachelor, we would know that that means that that man is gay. Nowadays, we just go: "He's gay." Or if you're a gay man, you say: "I'm gay." But gay men can marry, so yeah, there's no excuse.
What I'm going to teach you is the difference between men and women being married and not being married. So, if you're a man who's not married, we have a word called a "bachelor". This is a very common, very famous TV show called The Bachelor. If you're a woman who's not married, you are a "bachelorette". If you know anything about French or if your language has masculine and feminine, you would understand that the "ette" part makes it a girl. So, we have the male is a bachelor or a confirmed bachelor, and then we have the female as a bachelorette. So, if you are a man and you're not married, everything's fine unless people think that you're gay. If you're gay, that's fine. The confirmed bachelor.
But if you're a woman and you're not married, we got some really bad names for you guys in English, especially if you're old, like over 30. So, we have two names that are not good that we substitute for a bachelorette, because a bachelorette should be young. We have the word "old maid" and a "spinster". So, an old maid and a spinster are older women who have not yet married or never will marry. So, this goes back to the question: What's wrong with her? Why did nobody marry her? Hmm. This is what we call in English a double standard. "A double standard" means what is acceptable or in society for a man, bachelor - it's not acceptable in society for a woman. So, a man who's over 30 hasn't met the right woman yet, but a woman who's over 30 and not married is a spinster or an old maid. Double standards are not cool at all.
Then some people, tragically, have lost their husband or wife. This is a very bad thing, but we actually have a name for it. Now, the one for women are... Is most common that you know. If a woman has lost her husband, she's called a "widow". Be careful. Not a window. "My mom's a window." Your mom's a window? "Widow", "widow", there's no "n". Okay? So, "widow". And if you're a man who's lost his wife, you're called a "widower". I think that you guys probably have heard of "widow", but not "widower" because in the history of war and health problems, women seem to live longer than men, so widows are more common than widowers, but they do happen.

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Exactly

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that's true

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I agree with you!!

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I think so

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immediately

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I love you. Your personality is so great, I like the way you are. Ronnie for president!

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You're one of the best teachers I've seen in my life.

[@emanoelpereira1844]

This lesson set me free. People don´t understand it´s a choice you make, still they try to make you follow their way of life as the only way ever and judge those who don´t. You know what? Free will is a blessing.

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Solid comment I agree!

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So true

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You're one of my great teachers, Ronnie. Thanks for your videos.

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Me 2

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God only knows how much I love this woman :)

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Abu Hasan 0

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"and it's none of their business really" THIS IS SO TRUE

[@mechitxf]

Ronnie, thank you very much! I learn a plenty of vocabulary with in an easy and amusing way! I really appreciate your that you are an open-minded person, this makes your lessons even more interesting! I hope you never get bore of making videos!!

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You are the best teacher ever

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i don't know why, but i can unsterstand almost everything of you lessons !!! thank you very much Ronnie !

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Ronnie, you are great and perhaps the most sincere woman (tell about everything in a proper way) i've ever listen to! Thank you very much!

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you're such a great teacher Ronnie I'm following you from Iraq keep going

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Hi Ronnie! I am a big fan of you. I congratulate you for not only teaching a good and stylish English but also approaching very important topics like "double standard". All the best!

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I'm happy seeing you, Ronnie. Thanks

[@NKH1289]

never get bored with your lesson. you don't just teach English, but also make this world a better place.

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She's the best teacher ever!

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A teacher and a counsellor! As a fellow teacher, Ronnie, I love your lessons and you have a subbie :) Keep up the great work! All the best XX Dan

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You are an amazing teacher.i can't get enough from your lessons hope you keep going on.

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Ronnie, you are amazing! I've learned a lot with your videos! Thanks

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the best teacher ever, I love the way she is, Roonie really teaches useful things

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ronnie i love u keep it

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There are not enough word to say how much I love your videos.

[@ricardirijillo]

Thank you Ronnie, you were my firts English teacher some years ago here on youtube.

[@1agnesdei]

when i was in high school in brazil everyone was used to sleep with each other as I'm not this kind of girl until today they think I'm lesbian

[@a.mohasniper5413]

Appreciate you really you are agood person sister

[@amanchauhan3940]

Love you

[@_____J______]

Dont let them install their opinion above yours I am like you in that front, I wont sleep with anyone or one who slept with anyone

[@TheDionhn]

Love this lesson.. The way you explain the things is so funny .. Wow.. You're the best!!

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There are not enough words to say how much love your videos

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I am keeping my eye on you positively. Thanks Ms!

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i love how real and down to earth you are.

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I love u Ronnie! you are an amazing person and not only because you are a great teacher but also because you are a great human! grettings from Poland!!

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I'm glad I can learn more and more... thank you 😍😍

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what a perfect teacher you are! thank you Ronnie

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Ronnie you´re the best!!!! Clever and funny at the same time.

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Oh my gawd, I've got everything she speaks! I'm so happy now! thx for everything, Ronnie! you rock!

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You're awesome Ronnie!!! Love your videos and the kind way that you explain every single thing!

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Jessica Bishop I agree with u dear 😍

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Ronnie! thank you for your videos. You are so amazing! Your teaching style is very cool, outstanding, informative in fun way, full of energy, i am very surprized and happy to find you in internet vast.

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Gosh! You made me laugh to tears with this one! You are the very best EASL teacher!!!!!

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you are more than a superb English teacher. you are a good mentor

[@suraqi4893]

Aww! This lesson was really awesome, especially when you gave people your advice roonie: "what happens behind the close doors is not your business!"

[@alanaaragonzulke4431]

I wished I had an Eng instructor as awesome as Ronnie.

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I really enjoyed this video lesson. It is very clear and fantastic. Thank you our great

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Beautiful and simple explanation,so thanks Ronnie.

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I like u, the way u teach us. u r a amazing teacher.

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Amazing class, Ronnie! Thank you!

[@raelb13]

great teacher and great person, good advices and opinions!

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I love your lessons!! Thank you for your time!! Congratulations!!

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I so so so so LOVE your lessons!!!! Thanks a lot!!! You improve my listerning during a very short period of time! Pity you dont teach spanish as well))))

[@janb90]

yes,I understood your lessons thank you you are the best person teaching us in you tube. I love it

[@برهمالفيلي]

common question : you still single??!!? my answer :yes I am single n you have to be fucken awsome to change that (specially girls) or : do you have a suitable girl for me? n again : I fucking love you ronnie

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I learn many things from you Mrs Ronnie I appreciate your help with us. I watching your video from USA

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Thank you soo much

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You are very Nice teacher. I never get tired to say about your very Nice way of teaching.

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That is so so hot topic! Thank you so much ti talk about that! Absolutely true!

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i've learned alot of things because of you, really thank u

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Hi Ronnie, I like this video.... I'm learning english and your videos are very good for me....I'm Brazil in Macaé, this citie in the Rio de Janeiro.Thank you...bye

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Oh, my Gawd, Roonie. You were born to be a teacher, you're awesome.

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what an amazing teacher !! I am enjoying watching your videos Ronnie :)

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I just love these lessons. And I love Ronnie!

[@confidentmaurice9128]

I'm thankful I watched this video it helped me understand that there are different categories of marital statuses and I'm clearly single for the time being. Also, we are all in foundation where we are free to make our own choice s of our own way of life even if it's personal so I must say that even if there's endless amounts of encouragement from society about benefits related to marriages it's best to know that regardless of what others think of us we are free in our own way and like what Emanuel Peirera said, free will is a blessing. Thank you engVid for explaining to me about that information it absolutely helps me with making the right decisions for relationships. Take care and much love and appreciation to you because you are great so keep at it okay👍😎.

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Thanks Ronnie. You're awesome! Excellent teacher!

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Sweetie I know it's too late for this video but you misspelled"separate".Ronnie you rock !

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You are wonderful. Your classes are great.

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I had a great english teacher, but you are amazing, I love your style, I 'need" to learn english because I 'want" go to the US, and first I come to England for 3 month to learn the language and of course to work

[@anethlobina6117]

I'm bachelorette, am still enjoying been myself, thank you so much for reminding me how to answer people's

[@arantheo8607]

Ronnie could consider a second channel to present lectures on any subject of her own choice ( sharing her views on life)

[@Chimalmita1]

You've made my day Ronnie! Ha ha, thanks :) Great lesson ;)

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I have a question? When I see your videos I understand but when I talk I forget it what I can do ? I think and believe that you are the best teacher in the world. Love you!!

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i love to watch your shows all the time...😘😘you are best of the best teacher...

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Congratulations ! your classes are very good !!!!

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keep going i love your teaching way that is very easy to understand

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Thanks Ronnie, in Colombia "Common Law" is called "Free Union with rights"!

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You are an amazing teacher! Great lesson, thank you! :)

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thanks Ronnie! The lesson was really enjoyable!

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Ronnie I like your videos . I watched a lot of them . I wish you continue doing them I like your way of explanation By the way I am English teacher

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good job miss!!!i learn a lot from ur chanel n big thanks

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Ronnie, you are very funny, and a great teacher !! Thank you...

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You are an excellent teacher I love you Ronnie

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You are very intelligent and very good teachers

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thank you for the lesson very useful i have learned a lot from you Ronnie

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you are awesome...you explain things really well...

[@Moerges]

Excellent lesson, Ronnie, as always entertaining and educational at the same time. One thing, though: shouldn't the male version of _divorcée_ be spelt _divorcé_, analogous to fiancée/fiancé?

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Moerges Hello! I’d like to know that too!

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thank you Ronnie, I honestly prefer to be alone, you are as good teacher as adviser. by the way I like all your videos greetings!!!!!

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my beautiful teacher. ..I love you Ronnie

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you are the best teacher in the world.greetings from Russia

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She doesnt worry about making mistake,that's cool haha Love you Ronnie!

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Ronnie. You’re the best

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ronie u r vry good teacher in you tube's ..urs teaching way is very ostentatious ...i always learn many things about ur videoo...u r my bestie ... bossom

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I like how you give class thanks for everything

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I really love your an amazing technique when teaching well done mz Ronnie keep going .

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Thank you for reminding me I'm a spinster. lol

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I can do something about that.

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4ooo essential words umit 24

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I'm bachelor 🙏

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