We Hated Each Other: The power of true acceptance |

Shawn had spent many years of his life pursuing the grass that's greener. For years, both father and son struggled to find a connection and put their egos aside. What made these two strong characters re-evaluate the way they looked at each other?
In this raw and honest conversation, we explore how a father came to understand his son's decisions in life, and what they both learnt about each other.
00:00 - Intro
01:06 - An unexpected surprise: Watching themselves in a short film
03:51 - What happened in the short film?
05:22 - A pivotal point in their relationship
07:04 - The older generation and their lack of affection
07:25 - Sharing about the growing up years
07:54 - How Shawn saw his father growing up
09:30 - Anthony sharing about his ideals about toughness
10:19 - Growing up as a gay person in Singapore
10:52 - Sharing about his own misgivings as a dad
11:28 - Dad feeling rejected by Shawn’s moving out of the family home
13:38 - The first step to reconciliation
15:30 - Having a change of perspective after surgery
17:46 - Shawn coming face to face with his dad’s mortality
18:30 - Dad accepting Shawn’s sexuality
19:00 - Confronting societal’s expectations as a father
19:51 - Shawn talking about what his father’s acceptance did for him
20:50 - ‘Love is patience. Love is effort’
21:00 - Being patient with the growth in their relationship
21:20 - Dad’s ways of showing his love
21:52 - ‘You know you’re a good father right?’
23:00 - An advice for how to reconnect with your loved ones
YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND ME is an intimate peek into the struggles that we often find so familiar, especially in familial relationships. Witness honest conversations between family members as they unpack what it took to get them to a place of understanding and restoration.
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[@HIENGUYEND]

It’s a journey to the path of healing. I’m glad to see they were able to acknowledge their differences and accept each other’s. Love this…

[@ChubMel]

TTC is doing so well with the series :( can't stop crying but thank you for shedding light to the real problems we all faced

[@thetrampolineclub]

🥺We're so glad it's something real that you can connect with. Thanks for coming along on this journey🫂

[@estefaniamasson8640]

So happy that you and your father can make your relationship works.

[@fernanza]

This was such a heartwarming video 🥹 I can only hope one day that my relationship with my mom can be open and honest like this but the chances are slim. Either way, I have accepted that I am my own person and I have to move on with my own life for my own sake. I hope that anyone struggling with similar issues can find it in their own heart to love themselves as well. You are deserving of love 💖

[@renukanayak5402]

Such a great video made in such a descriptive way. Loved it.

[@kt.g.3055]

What a beautiful... openhearted conversation...😢 Beautiful how the both of you did your path to finally understand and love each other... It made me cry a bit cause...I wish my dad would be able to do the same... To move forwards me... To speak to me... But when I became Ill... He totally rejected me...and each time I try to speak with him he is just in that rejecting mode... So we only keep our discussions as polite mode....and it hurts me soooo much...cause I can see the way he is with my sister...my brother...my mom...and I wish I could have that kind of relationship with him too...

[@thetrampolineclub]

So sorry to hear about your situation. Must be tough :( Perhaps there are some things that's been left unsaid that both of you might not know how to bring up yet. But I hope this brought you some hope that restoration with him is possible too 🫂

[@aimenabbasi2297]

I was eagerly waiting for this one Shawn. I personally resonate with your experience cause I share some estranged relationship with my father and no matter how much I try it goes back to zero. He says alot of things that hurt me and I have no choice but to stay silent cause in our culture we don't talk back with our parents so there isn't really improvement. Loved the way you two communicated with each other and worked on your relationship. It healed some part of me

[@thetrampolineclub]

So sorry to hear about your relationship with your dad. Family can be really hard sometimes. It means a lot to hear that this brought some healing to you!

[@Banayaga]

Love this series ❤

[@AziHejazi]

This was beautiful 💜

[@melvinquek98]

so so goood

[@rosalyng1979]

Great video! Though it's more organic to see the two interviewees communicate with each other rather than to the interviewer

[@aak6658]

❤

[@heperspires]

💖

[@maureendrennan9328]

❤❤❤