EP: 1 | Divorce...

Friday Night Lights with the Stivers is all about talking about the 'tuff stuff.' The topics we are nervous to talk about with others. The problems we bottle up inside and never get to share with anyone. Well...We are here to change that. You are not alone, we have all thought it and now its time to talk about. Our first episode is about DIVORCE! We almost went through one but made it through. We discuss in this video our experience and what steps you can make to not give up yet.
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[@victoriabarney6199]

47 years married to one man. Now a widow. Marriage isn’t easy. It takes work and commitment. Friendship is key and love fills in all the crevices ❣️♥️♥️♥️

[@maxinekelly8417]

So true have been married 47yrs too sorry for your loss 💕❤️🇦🇺❤️❤️👍

[@victoriabarney6199]

@@maxinekelly8417 thank you❣️ I know I will see my love again♥️

[@barefootreba]

So sorry for your loss.

[@terrywright1513]

I'm so sorry. 47 years young in marriage. Blessings to you.

[@debwiley3914]

There's also the people who have suffered years of verbal, emotional or physical abuse who NEED to get a divorce for their own mental stability.

[@fionapaterson-wiebe3108]

Very true. I’m sure many of us know of a case like this. In that case, I think it’s more like an annulment, because the abusive partner can’t have made honest vows to begin with.

[@krisannett2710]

First thing they said, if there’s abuse then get a divorce. Get out. They’re talking to those of us that are married and not being abused.

[@debwiley3914]

@@krisannett2710 I must have missed that sentence.

[@susiefarnell785]

I went through verbal, emotional and physical abuse for 26 years

[@debwiley3914]

@@susiefarnell785 16 for me. I’ve been happily single ever since

[@bonniebell1104]

My ex-husband changed right after we got married. He would physically push me away when i wanted a hug. He wouldn't show affection in any way (except when he wanted, well you know). Before we were married he was lovey dovey but once we were married that was the end of that. He blamed me for his problems. Eight years of torment and lack of affection finally made me long for the love and respect that I deserved. So I got the courage to stand up for myself. Now I am happily married to a man who knows how to treat me right. My heart finally healed.

[@helencline5768]

We’ve been married 65 years,been together67 still much In love 😍

[@toykawilliams3273]

Very Rare & Praise The Lord!

[@darlenemartin248]

That's wonderful. When God puts you together, it will last

[@MissLauren20]

I’ve always said, don’t introduce THAT word into your marriage because once you do ... you’ve opened the door. Best to you two!

[@purplephoenixartbymicheled9298]

❤ Soo true, me and Hubby will be marred 22 yrs, we went through a lot, when the first time he said that word,,,WOW it was like a knife went through my heart, and then it just snow balls,,,NEVER SAY IT, UNLESS YOU BOTH ARE GOING TO DO IT..But don't do it,,UNLESS he or she is ABUSIVE !!! Then just leave NOW,, I know I been in a Very abusive marriage for over 10 yrs. they will not change ,my Mom was killed becuse her boyfriend was jealous !! sadly In was only 19 it still HURTS TO THIS DAY IM 60,

[@christyc3720]

I agree 💯

[@suehinson1629]

Mrs Graham (Billy Graham's wife) was once asked if the thought of "divorce" had ever entered her mind since she married Mr Graham? Her reply: "No never! Not divorce! Murder maybe, but never divorce!" Just thought I'd share! For a smile!

[@StiversHomestead]

😂😂

[@morningwoodfarms713]

😆😆😆😂😂😂

[@midsouthhomestead7527]

That's a good one but a little true. 😁

[@lindakell6854]

Well said you two! I’ve been married for going on 47 years, and was at the brink one time. It’s worth fighting for and not only you, but your children will thank you! Put God in your marriage and He will help you in the hard times! Much love. ❤️

[@tammihall4070]

Amen

[@TheFamilyFarmHomestead]

My wife and I have been married for 52 years we figure we will stay narried for another 52 years then make the decision whether to get a divorce or not.

[@thepadillafamilyhomestead]

One of the things my hubby did before we got married was really talk about how divorce was not an option.. if it was marriage was off the table. We both believe that marriage is a promise before God and that it is an example God's relationship with the church. We are both not willing to break a vow with God. It changes how you approach issues and irritations because it is forever. Proud of you guys for talking about this. 🥰

[@emilylong9887]

We did the same. Being from broken families we vowed to never put our kids through that either.

[@bsuter1226]

My husband and I did this as well. Most of our friends said we would never make it but this July will be 23 years together for us....and 18 out of 23 of them are now divorced. God HAS to be the center of a marriage for it to be healthy and lasting.

[@billieburgess265]

It's expensive, stressful, and sad but if you're in a toxic relationship it's worth it. Otherwise, talk it out. COMMUNICATION is key!

[@kalaipaa]

Thank You for your Honesty!!! The enemy is everywhere, He loves whispering in your ears. Next time be aware its the enemy. Trust in the Lord and the path he has laid out for you!!!

[@margaretckamaka5552]

Amen Pokichan960

[@marybeyiard8271]

That was truly beautiful 😍

[@1TsuNami]

So true! 💕

[@normalynn2425]

23 yrs married, 30 yrs together, 7 yrs. dating/engaged. We are best friends, we work at it by being thoughtful! It is not always easy, but we are still, truly in love!

[@moxximum]

That was my comment! Oh thank you so much. I hope this isn't too difficult to resurface but your boldness to speak out is beautiful.

[@grannaboo03]

I am so very proud of you two! This was a message that definitely needed to be delivered. I have been married 46 years to a wonderful man, but in our fifth year of marriage we almost threw it all away. It took some work and some effort… Just like you said there were weeks where we sat on the opposite end of the couch and did not speak...we were living under the same roof...but were functioning as roommates & not lovers. It still shocks me how close we were to throwing it all away! I congratulate you on the success of your marriage, your loving family, and a great channel that is inspirational to many

[@judybaugus2909]

Im still married but we are seperated. Im the one who wanted it. We lived together for 34 years. I love him. But I had to love myself more. Sometimes people change drugs acholhol or just life can change a person to become mean or hateful. I tried everything to reach inside an pull out the goodness but it came clear that to stay sane an alive I needed to seperate. Hardest thing I ever did. Im now on a path to finding health peace an happiness. Love you guys

[@Airedale2001]

I can relate to this . If something can't be fixed despite trying , you have to think of your own well-being and move on , difficult at first but things do change for the better .

[@cassidystraub4509]

My parents balled on the way into the court for their divorce. I know they both regret not giving it their all before calling it quits. They are both equally unhappy in their current relationships and it’s just heartbreaking. I will learn from them

[@janetdewey883]

I can relate with all my heart. We're the ones that bawled. After all these years, sometimes still do.

[@cassidystraub4509]

@@janetdewey883 thank you for your comment 💛 I pray the peace finds us

[@addieanderson2043]

My husband and I were in the Navy. My mother call the base Chaplin and wanted him to talk to us about my husband to be insisting that he would not get married by a priest. To any 18 year girl family interferes was the catalyst to elope the next day. In May we will be celebrating our 60th anniversary. Not that all has been easy . Both of us are so stubborn that we would never let my mother opinion, which was it would never last a year. We have had our ups and downs but we have survived You are on the right road.

[@elvablankenship9760]

We have been married for 40 years. My mother told me before we married, never forget why you are getting married to one another. When you look always look back to that.

[@bridgethardy657]

All I can say is WOW! This is on another level; like seeing you guys for real .

[@sheahawkins2552]

Remember even when you don’t like him/her, that this is your person you stood in front of God and family and said ‘my choice’, ‘my love’.

[@rachelcampbell9733]

Remembering that you have to give that person grace when they mess up or make you mad and remember that you do things that irritate them too. 🙏💗 praying for my husband helped us grow and he prays for me. It makes a huge difference to know that they love you enough to pray for you.

[@wendyshepard2080]

I remember I promised God...and when I'm the MOST ready to give in I pray to love him as Christ loves him, to see in my hubs what God created in him

[@daneiliachandler7183]

I wish I could have had this video before my divorce. In tears but I know I have to move on but I am gonna call my ex tomorrow and talk to him.

[@marybrim5406]

Love this Friday night stuff❣️ Looking forward to Fridays now!😘

[@morningwoodfarms713]

Amen! 🙏💖

[@Sandy_SplashLoftFarmApiary]

My husband and I met and two weeks later we were engaged. We just knew we were meant to be together, that was in 1995. Over the years we’ve had our struggles just like every other couple, but we always remind each other that we are best friends. We also keep the happy times in our lives alive by reminiscing about them. We have always been there through each other during the sad times like tonight. I’ve been catching up on your videos every night this week while sitting in the car waiting for hours while my husband is in the hospice sitting beside his dying mother. We have to take the bad times with the good and keep loving each other through it all.

[@Oregonmac]

I've been married for going on 8 years now. We have never brought up divorce or joked about getting a divorce. We have our moments when I would like to pop him real good but most days I prays Jesus for making such a wonderful man for me. 360 day a year he is my favorite person.... those other 5 days though 😒😆. Great video guys and looking forward to the next Side stort: we got married at our kitchen table. A pastor, his wife, my best friend from grade school and his best friend from grade school. We had a lovely dinner got married and had cake. The next day we told everybody..... people got pissy but we didn't and still don't care 🤷 . We had money for a wedding or money for a honeymoon it was an easy choice 😏

[@KAMB_n_Jinx]

I lost a 35 year relationship. Married 27 because communication broke down. It’s worth fighting for, but both have to be in it to win it. Glad you worked it out. Wish I had been able to do the same. I do know I’ll never give my heart again. Too painful.

[@monicag75]

Okay, I married my HS sweetheart 27 years ago. Way back in 1994, 19 years old and 2 months pregnant. We were engaged but if we had kept the date I would’ve been 8 months prego 😲 3 kids and 2 grands later and it still gets hard. We literally had to grow up together. And YES JEN!! I was the immature one as well. Finally at around 30ish the word divorce was banished! It’s hard, I won’t lie BUT the reward of pushing through the hard seasons is a blessing I can’t describe. If there is still any ounce of love then stay and work it out. God will bless your marriage for it. Also, putting God first, your marriage second, then the kids, is the order it should also be. If the marriage is good then the family is even better. Remember he/she isn’t just a parent, he/she is your BFF, Lover, and the one who is the key holder to all your dreams, desires, and your past. Cherish that. And yes!! Go have a date night, hit those back roads and go to the spot on that country road that knows a few secrets as well. ☺️ God bless you all.

[@oilswellnesswithmarsha3159]

I am so glad you kids came onto my life. So much wisdom. God is Good.

[@canbanythang5004]

Amazing advice thank you for sharing i think we needed to here this. Yall are awesome....😊❤

[@carol67460]

You two go strong, get stronger, love each other through thick and thin you are awesome people with awesome children.

[@elizabethhicks9844]

This is a good topic...most couples want to give up because they are inmature... and want everything to go there own way...divorce should never be a option ...because if it is not a option you have to work on a solution...when you marry someone it should be for a lifetime ..you were married before God an made a covenant...dont break that covenant

[@loritanner4478]

Most give up because its easier than doing the hard work of working things out. I've been married 42 years now. And believe me, it hasn't always been a picnic. This past year has been a real pain. But wouldn't want to go through it with anyone else but my hubby and best friend!

[@elizabethhicks9844]

Yes ...everyone wants a easy out...we've been married 34 yr this yr...been together for 40

[@enosyodermattieyoder4298]

Yes one huge way to keep alive the love is to remember the love you had in the beginning and why you really wanted to be married to the person you're married to

[@karencatalano4349]

I was divorced after 20 years but communication was a problem I look back and if we would have talked over things things may have been better but again it was his way,his idea so it was not a friendship we had. Respect is important to have each other. I pray more people listen to this to you both it makes so much sense and so true

[@janiceschriber4762]

Sure wish I had heard this 25 years ago. Once your Best Friend has died, even though you had both healed -- 23 years after divorce -- you don't get that "do over". I pray those toying with the thought will stop, kiss, and begin to allow healing.

[@cindyhand6880]

Great job, you two, I've been married for 37 years to the love of my life, we have had good days, bad days, sorrowful days. But we committed to each other, asking God to walk with us everyday. And we have been blessed. Young couples need to know, a marriage will not be perfect everyday. We all have to go thru life, and there will be good days and sad days. God's blessings to all.

[@reneekeith945]

Please have a lovely weekend 😊 thank you as I've been going through some hard times and hearing your words meant a lot.

[@krisannett2710]

When my Mother passed, she and my Daddy were married for 59 years, 1 month and 9 days. They argued, but always had each other’s back. Her definition of marriage was put a cat and a bird in a cage, shut the door and say live happily ever after. But, they had a great relationship. I didn’t meet my hubby until I was 42, best choice I made when I said yes.

[@sandycrews6819]

Just missed the start live but I'm glad I was able to catch it a little late. Y'all did a good job on that. I can imagine that you brought encouragement to a lot of folks.

[@elizabethstephens6471]

I have been struggling with room mate syndrome. To busy, to stressed, to overweight to feel good about myself and sure that no one could possibly find me attractive. Feeling neglected, defeated, alone and unsure how to start my come back story. I sound bitter and angry and cannot seem to break the cycle sometimes. Try. Then try again.

[@seedsofcolorfarms1462]

I am 8 years married and feel this way everyday of my life....

[@mneraasen224]

I am so proud for you two for making it through and sharing this video. I didn’t choose the right partner and at this point am not looking to get one. However I am uplifting everyone that has , and that is trying to keep it going🙌🏻💗

[@suesweetpea7]

YOU TWO ARE AMAZING AND I PRAY YOU CONTINUE TO LET GOD USE YOU THROUGH YOUR CHANNEL. LOVE Y;ALL AND GOD BLESS

[@morningwoodfarms713]

AMEN! 🙏💕

[@danixsathompson1625]

Amen! Breathe and breathe some more! This is wonderful! Work together. My sweetheart and I have many years of love. This is beautiful. This is such a throw away society. Do not throw away what a little bit of love and care because bigger love and care thrives when fed. Love y'all!

[@tonyapedraza180]

If only I hadn't had that word in my vocabulary 30 yrs ago!!! Man the things we regret!!😒😐Love y'all!!💖

[@grammiekaren1343]

All good things, that you have learned from, Life is all about learning lessons and helping others and I think you both are doing both. Love you both. You never know who needs to hear this message.

[@morningwoodfarms713]

Couldn't have said it any better! It's all about learning lessons and helping others. Amen! 💖

[@teresasappington7698]

What a great topic, I truly love you all’s smiles! Keep fighting for the right thing! You all make my day!

[@lorrainepeckham4211]

I love younger couples doing the old thing of of remembering. I have done, that.25 years in.Told my husband one time after a fuss.I remember the day we got married,.that is why I am still here.We have like must couples have the arguments and little snits.We moved on .He is my best friend,.my hero and ect .He is also a Vet,so we went through that also.The good,the bad and the ugly.he is still my best friend./I am not perfect neither-He calls me the driving force. We are both strong people.We get things done and step on each other toes.LOL I would not have this any other way. God has blessed me with this loving man./He is a keeper :)

[@amoore0713]

Thank you for sharing! I can totally relate. I feel fortunate we came out of it and we are intentional with nurturing our relationship every day somehow so we don't get back there. 🙂 even if it's only 15 minutes

[@morningwoodfarms713]

👍💖

[@leahjeanford3688]

Great video. My husband and I have been married 42 years. Yes the "D" word has come up at different times. Our biggest issue was communication. Looking at it from this side 42 years in it is so worth it to stick it out and make it work. We are retired now and our days are filled with homesteading, three kids, 13 Grandkids, and one Great Grandchild. It's a great life, God has blessed us!

[@suehinson1629]

This was great, and I for one think well needed. Thank y'all, God bless.

[@lauramooney5181]

I love how both of you tackle hard subjects with truth, love, respect, kindness and laughter towards each other. Thank you for setting such a fine example.

[@virginiareid5336]

I wish mine had allowed me to do this. You mention the two things I could not forgive. First was the cheating, but when his guilt made him mean and got physical ( supported by liquor), I took our two small boys and left. Just because mine did not work out, doesn’t mean that someone else’s can and will. It is very hard to be both parents, especially when you are a female and they are boys.! This was a wonderful video and I hope it goes viral for y’all.

[@MamaZsTexasKitchen]

Very well said, My husband and I almost called it 4 years ago. But said no we are going to make this work and I fought for it He fought for it. Marriage is work but if you take Divorce off the table not matter what!

[@donnadonna9288]

Good to see y'all..take care of each other.

[@pjf883]

Really proud of you two.Came along way,One of the first videos I watched of yours was you guys being close to divorce. You stuck it out.So many ,especially young people give up to easy.You did it and look now your thriving.🥰 Good info for people.

[@tonyabarnes6056]

I love you STIVERS 💖

[@robertaemms6327]

Thanks for this. I look forward to future topics.

[@thepadillafamilyhomestead]

BTW the background is gorgeous. Great job on creating a beautiful space.

[@karolynpieren5129]

Almost married 52 years. We do not ever ever say the D word. It’s not an option. You can marry your best friend but you don’t have to be clones. We are total opposites in everything. But we knew that and have learned tolerance patience forgiveness and to choose your battles. Trust is key.

[@bo4all4ever]

If yall did a FNL on the topic of Depression... would be a God Send.

[@sheilacirioni4676]

You guys seem to have found your happy place in your life that's super great. Everyone goes through tough times. You are 100% right. Been there..& back.✌♥️🥰🍷😁

[@trishfarmer4880]

Keep loving’, keep smilin!

[@carolkimbell5174]

Great video and good advice. Really enjoyed it!

[@zelda401]

I was so worried this about your former issue So glad it's not about you Good for you for discussing this

[@lsieu]

I'm amazed at the transparency, compassion and wisdom you two, so young as the two of you are, have to give. We make life together so complicated. Getting back to ones commitments is key. Thanks for this video!

[@allisonsfollys7713]

I was married 35 years when my husband died. One reason I stayed was than even when things were bad (and in 35 years there were bad times) I looked at people who got divorced and they were not any happier than I was. Divorce is harder than working it out unless there is real abuse involved.

[@cindymoldovan2783]

We got married in 1968 to my best friend, after he came home from Vietnam, had 2 kids and in 1986 I came down with Guillain Barre Syndrome and I will be spending the rest of my life in a wheelchair, I had too much nerve damage and residual from it. My husband has stuck with me though our personal hell now for 34 years taking care of all of my personal needs and never complained once about having to do one thing for me. We will be married 54 years and I wouldn’t have been able to go through all of this hadn’t it not be for him! He is the love of my life and still my very best friend! Love your channel! Y’all keep it real!

[@janhatchett7834]

Amen! While not every marriage will succeed, this is great encouragement. I have been married for 33 years and I have learned that if you can make it through the tough times, you will be even stronger and happier on the other side-but only if you don’t quit!

[@wendyullstrom1351]

I failed twice and the last one told me why “you are just not good enough” now I know and I am learning to accept myself as is.

[@monicag75]

And so you just accept this? You gotta love yourself. I know that’s thrown around a lot but it’s true. I promise you God wants you to succeed in life and especially in marriage. Turn to Him, start journaling, and start looking at yourself as worth it! You were born for a reason. God is with you Wendy. I know all this because I go through my self doubting at times but I pray and get productive in something that calls to my soul. Once you do that it’ll all fall into place. I’m praying for you and I don’t even know you. So what do you think Jesus would do for you? 🤗🤗🤗 Have a fabulous day!!!!

[@helengarrett6378]

Nobody is not good enough. If you are o.k. with yourself and you have friends and family to validate you, you cannot be not good enough. You are good enough for you and your social circle. That's pretty good.

[@maggieabrent]

Truly excellent advice. We have been married close to 30 years. It is work but the rewards when you work through insecurity, immaturity and stubbornness is amazing. Stick it out couples and realize you said YES for a reason.

[@stokely418]

Great topic! Thank you for sharing your life with us. We love you both!

[@melisacanada994]

Takes 2, I never gave up ,through so much . Alcohol, and one sided communication,no real affection, his way or no way. Met when I was 16. About 40 yrs now,yes I stayed, now I'm sick more n more n getting old. I'm tired. You guys are great together. God Bless you.

[@bdoyle9881]

GOOD ON YOU GUYS !! Great video!! Put God as the foundation !!

[@christinaburcham7632]

Love you guys and love your lights.

[@kathyquinters5521]

My advice to everyone starting all new relationships is to be friends first, then become best friends so no matter what...you’ll always have each other in life, love, family and lessons. While the kids are growing up you’ll have your best friend in your corner with you. After the kids grow up and leave you’ll have your best friend. In the golden years you’ll have your best friend to sit with you and walk down memory lane with you. The key to every relationship if it’s friendship or romantic...communication. If you have good communication there’s not much you can’t work through. Talk things out and figure life out with your best friend. Life is hard enough without the pain of mourning relationships and facing starting over. The biggest things you’ll go through in life will be a wedding, death of loved ones, buying a home then moving, debts, big decisions for children. You’ll want your best friend by your side to help you make big decisions....and never go to bed angry. My Grama always told me that.

[@kayleneswadling7978]

I agree with everything you say, my husband and I have been through so much over the last 32 years. My daughter was born with a Celt lip, then my husband was in a car accident, then our house got flood out, then I got hurt really bad and now I live with chronic pain and just 2weeks ago we lost everything we owned in a house fire, and all this happened since 1997. You just have to getup each time and keep going, because there is always someone worst of then you are. So just keep loving and smiling.

[@albanymountainhomestead]

We did serperate for 9 months, but didn't push divorce right away... We found our way back, and better than ever together! 21 yrs in May and still going strong! Is our life perfect... Heck no! But I wouldn't trade this life we have built for anything...

[@sherryhumphrey3868]

I love watching you guys, you brighten my day, going on 2 years a widow was married 45 years but you guys just lighten my heart watching you

[@punkin4061]

I'm sharing this of course and I cannot wait to read the success stories that come from this 💞

[@Coastal.Redwood.Homestead]

Great job guys! I really enjoyed your topic and I have been with my husband since I was 14 and we have 5 kids and 6 grandchildren I filed for a divorce three years ago and when they through with it we were divorced for 3 months and got remarried to each other. God brought us back together. And like I said I was 14 and he was 17 and I’m about to turn 51 and he’s 54. Never give up and seek the lord in all you do.

[@nancytabor8302]

Well said. I am married 53 years to the man I fell in love with at 16 years old. I am also glad that you acknowledge that divorce is sometimes the beginning of healing. Good job you!

[@valeried4504]

God bless you two....

[@Tenamf]

I was 18 when I got married & now 56 it’s not easy but keep pushing & remembering those vows ❤️🙏🏼

[@bumblebee7982]

God bless you for your honesty! 💜🕯️🙏🌹

[@PeggyLeeSebeni]

I love that you have been so transparent and are willing to help others find their way through the challenges of marriage. We need more role models like yourselves in this wayward culture that imagines life should always be "On easy street". My prayers go with you in your added endeavors. Keep showing folks how it can be done. May God bless you with abundant joy as you Glorify Him in all you say and do.

[@cheriemartin3767]

You Get MORE of what you FOCUS on ! Great blog Jenn and Zack ! Monday makes 35yrs..

[@jkgirlify]

I lo e this so much, I married my best friend 22 years ago, we have struggled through so much, anyone who tells me they don't disagree or fight or ever go through a bad moment, they are lying in their relationship, marriage is work, work is OK, always remember the why, the why you got together, that is exactly what I always say. Love you guys for sharing this.

[@edensgarden1775]

Me and my husband separated for a few days one time. Fidelity in our marriage etc. But we made it through it all and now we have been married going on 28 years. We love one another and as the years go on we are in a much better place.

[@kathygarber9407]

Wisdom from y’all shared with others ....much needed in this crazy world ! The more I watch your down to earth videos the more I love you 😘❤️ Be blessed and favored always 💖🙏🏽

[@nancyheneghan4760]

We’ve been married 47yrs and yes we’ve been through it all. We are both stubborn and hard headed😄. But we both always get to the point of how much we love each other. Every time I go to a wedding and they have one of those books to write in I always say I’m the hardest times remember when you first fell in love and how. I had one bride tell me thank you so much.

[@laural8875]

Jen & Zac ... Gosh I sure love you folks ... you are both so amazing!!! So glad you shared this message ... It is so needed in these difficult times, when people so quickly give up on a commitment that was made to the one they loved. We've been married 37 years this year ... been through some really, really, really rough times ... been through some really, really, really amazing times! I married my best friend & my husband married his best friend. At our worst times ... when the word "divorce" would leave our lips ... the only reason we did not go through with it was because we had made a VOW before God! "Feelings" would have walked us right up to the lawyers office with a credit card in hand!! But a "Sacred Vow before the Lord" always kept us going back on our knees before the Lord to ask Him to help me/us forgive each other! The "feelings" often took time to follow the decision to forgive & love each other again. But I can say that after 37 years of continued effort to care for each other with love, forgiveness, patience, kindness ... and the list goes on ... I can now say, in our "older age", we are so grateful to have each other! Life just wouldn't be the same without the one who knows all my weakness & strength ... the worst & best of me ... and loves me still! Bless you both for having the courage & passion to share on this difficult subject honestly & with such sensitivity ... one of the many reasons I love you both!!

[@WitsEndFarm]

Been married for 32 years, and I agree with what you said. I enjoy your channel so much, you are so genuine it feels like iam listening to a friend. But what I loved about this video was how Zach looked at you, like everyone wants their man to look at them. Keep doing what you are doing!!!

[@marshasmith6320]

My marriage was doomed from the day we said I do. I was mentally abused for 16 years. He threatened to hurt me and our son if I didn’t leave. I left. It’s been 16 years since and I’ve never been happier. Me and my son have been on our own since. He’s 31 now and a wonderful young man. The only thing I regret is that I didn’t leave sooner. I have PTSD from spousal abuse. If you are being abused it’s not going to get better. Get out now. I’m so glad that you Zach and Jen stayed together. You are a wonderful couple with wonderful kids. Love y’all.

[@staceywishart9971]

I’ve got to remember this new segment.

[@TheWildSeed]

Love this video!! Like marriage homesteading is a lot of work. Both take a huge commitment. Both can be tiring. Both can be demanding. But BOTH are so rewarding. Both are an imperfect dance through nature and time. Dig in. Do the dirty work!!! It’s so worth it. ~married to my best friend 💜

[@galeburkman1586]

I always tell my husband as long as we're together we can make it thru anything.

[@TeamBensonHomestead]

I love this great video guys

[@StringfieldRidgeFarm]

Love your honesty, you two do a great job! And I love that cup Zach lol 😂

[@kruzonk]

About to celebrate our 35th wedding anniversary. I was 17 and my husband was 19. I love to watch you two!

[@karenthompson9350]

My husband and I have been married for 45 years this past Valentines Day. I was 18 years old and he was 19 years old. He was my best friend like you said and he is still my best friend. Just like y’all said during rough times we work on trying to remember how we felt about each other before we got married and how we felt the day we got married. Plus I told him that in our family we didn’t believe in divorce, that it was until death do you part. I then informed him that I was a “real good shot” ( of course he knew I was just joking 😊). You two are such a great influence, and such a blessing.

[@adelewatkins9386]

There are just some things you can't over come. Drug use and abuse, mental or physical abuse. Sometimes it doesn't matter how much you love them or care, sometimes it's better to leave.

[@Airedale2001]

Yes it sure is . Even when you have tried to fix the relationship and the other person doesn't change , it's time to leave for the sake of your own mental health and well-being.

[@adelewatkins9386]

@@Airedale2001 absolutely 💯, somethings aren't fixable

[@darlenemartin248]

Wow, this is so good. I'm divorced and okay with that. I'd love to had some guidance when I was going through it. I pray that anyone that may be going through bad times sees this video. It just may make them think twice about losing each other. By the way Gatlinburg, Tn. is in my neck of the woods. It's a beautiful place to get married. The little chapel is so charming. I love it.