EP 1 Khanyi Ngobese on being raised by her father after their mother abandoned them at the tuck shop

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A story of Khanyi Ngobese who was raised by her father after her mother abandoned them at the age of 5. #madamspeaker #ceoofselflove #thesafespacechatspodcastwithmadamspeaker #thesafespacechats

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@mphohappiness1736 6 ай бұрын

Shuuu...Your father was a great man. We can't relate but it's so healing to hear how great dad's can be.

@madams___speaker 6 ай бұрын

Great fathers do exist, they are just unpopular 🥺❤️

@sisiphokazimbewu9575 5 ай бұрын

A father's love is everything I know ❤ bona ndithi it's the best thing ever 🥰.My brother is 38, I'm 33, my Lil Sis is 25 . Our dad still tells us about how much he loves us and kisses us before he goes to sleep and come to our rooms to great us every morning . The first people he asks for when he enters his house is his wife (our mother) and us and thats the kind of love I would want my kids to experience one day. Its such a beautiful feeling not to mention a mothers love ke yhooo ❤ andfun nothetha. There's no favorite child we know of, if they have they have them at heart but they never showed or made us feel that ones is loved more than the other and I will forever be grateful for that. I wish you all the best sthandwa sam and I hope that you will. You had the best dad ever ❤.

@nette2144 4 ай бұрын

YOU WILL EXPERIENCE THAT KIND OF LOVE BECAUSE YOUR FATHER HAS GIVEN YOU THE TOOLS TO PICK A PARTNER WHO WILL CONTINUE IN YOUR LIFE WHAT HE DID! I SPEAK IT AND DECLARE IT OVER YOUR LIFE. I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO YOUR TESTIMONY❤❤❤❤. MY FATHER IS EXACTLY WHAT YOUR DAD IS TO YOU. MY HUSBAND IS THAT MAN TO OUR CHILDREN. All our children, adults and teens, still stay with us, AND ARE NOT LEAVING UNTIL THEY ARE MARRIED!!

@sisiphokazimbewu9575 2 ай бұрын

🥰🥰I think I can already see see that with the 2 guys I've dated before. Thank you so so much. This really means alot to me. Will come back one day when I get married hopefully. ❤️🌹🙏♥️🥰😭👰

@nenesibanda4171 5 ай бұрын

I love how this podcast brings ordinary people but with extraordinary stories which many can relate too.

@nette2144 4 ай бұрын

Khanyi's dad was consistent!! One of the most important factors in child development. It develops safe attachment in children. That man is a hero!! MHSCTRIEP!! ❤❤❤❤

@Chidzy.M 6 ай бұрын

I remember in one of your LIVES we touched on men who are best as fathers and horrible as husband's... I think Khanyi's dad was one of those because she mentioned that she then understood why she left(the abuse and stuff) Her Mom never got a break her whole life(terrible childhood) and also, she tried to rectify the choices she made to eliminate the pain by escaping the marriage but that sacrificed her kids well-being so bad. Instead of working on herself and the well-being of her kids, she kept on adding more and more budden to her mental health which resulted in her being too toxic to everyone around her. I think for the most part of her life she was very confused. Khanyi's dad was a hero. She's very fortunate to have experienced that kind of love from a parent in this lifetime🥺. We definitely want Khanyi back😩. I can see this was helping her healing journey❤️ May her parents souls rest in peace🙌🏽

@kefilwem8284 4 ай бұрын

True!

@nette2144 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for such an articulate, well thought of, response. You sound mature and so connected with your being! You thought really deep about this situation, and if this is how you approach most situations you come across, I want to believe that you exist in love and not fear, you are content, and navigate life with maturity. BE BLESSED. SENDING YOU LOVE AND LIGHT. NAMASTE!!!!🙏🙏🙏

@omphe9673 6 ай бұрын

I just wonder if my dad ever thinks of me hey... This made me think about him a lot.

@langutamacheke2412 6 ай бұрын

Step parenting is not easy. It reminds me of my dad, he once said: how are you going to reprimand a child that is not yours? Stories like these reminds me of his words...

@user-fw7gr9mc9o 4 ай бұрын

I was abandoned by my mom when I was 11yrs old raised by my grandmother ,I got married when I was 27yrs old... 2months after I gt married my husband gt arrested left me with my 1yr kid .nami 1 day I will tell the world my story. Thank u cc fr sharing yo story❤

@nette2144 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I bet you are already making an impact in other people's lives through your story, even though you are not on our screens. Those around you, already see your resilience, your strength, your courage and the wisdom in which you navigate your pain. Keep walking your journey sis. God loves you. You are an overcomer!!!Victory is yours!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ from across the oceans.

@langabi408 6 ай бұрын

Oh Khanyi sisi, may you find healing. This is heartbreaking.

@boitumeloratsatsi9599 6 ай бұрын

Worked at the same company with Khanyi, hearing her really broke my heart. She was always so sweet❤

@user-cd8ox7di3g Ай бұрын

Your story is exactly mine Khanyi. The age your u were and how he left and age your mom came back is exactly the same . And your father is exactly my father, our father loved me and my brother till his last breath and I’d still choose him to be our dad every day. Sometimes I wish he was alive to see us and so we can appreciate him to raise us ❤

@nthabee 7 ай бұрын

Madam Speaker are you okay? Eeei! Listening to all this stories, I can't imagine how is it for you... Healing and strength to Khanyi...

@madams___speaker 7 ай бұрын

Thank you sis ❤️❤️. At this point I attend therapy just to offload all this that I absorb

@nette2144 4 ай бұрын

@@madams___speakerGood! You do need to debrief with someone! It can burn you out sis! Your work is helping a lot of us to 1. Recognise that we are wounded 2. That we can heal and have fulfilled lives 3. That unhealed wounds have a ripple effect on future generations 4. That there are still some parts of us that STILL need healing 5. That TRAUMA IS REAL. THANK YOU MY SIS...LOVE FROM 🦘🦘🐨🐨

@MissShazzy 6 ай бұрын

You were born for this Madam❤😍

@vuyokazisiyokoradebe9237 4 күн бұрын

Awu Khanyi 😭😭💔

@sibusisoxego9346 5 ай бұрын

This broke my heart😭😭😭😭😭

@mantelekhitsane8935 4 ай бұрын

I relate very well with Khanyi's story 😢mine is even worse cz she still alive but we have no relationship with her at all 💔🙏

@Marthashiningstar 4 ай бұрын

Why is that happening,what went wrong

@nette2144 4 ай бұрын

That is the worst!! When they are alive, it's difficult to move on because you always have hope that some day things will change for the better. The more you hope, the more you feel the pain, because it feels like nothing is happening. Please find a book called "Children of Emmotionally Immature Parents". ❤❤❤

@dorahmokete218 2 ай бұрын

I can relate 😢

@pfanolusunzi4331 6 ай бұрын

This is beautiful. I felt every word she said … I constantly ask myself why our parents even though we adults they keep on trying to protect us from the truths… sometimes the truth is the only thing we need to heal and move on. This episode made me realise I have a lot of healing to do , I need to initiate this kind of uncomfortable topics. ❤️❤️this kind of content is needed. I wish u well mama

@mokopotsamariam267 6 ай бұрын

One day when I am ready I will share my story to the world 😢😢😢😢

@teetsambo7933 6 ай бұрын

So much challenges we grow up with and our parents had a tough time looking back. Healing is so painful but necessary so we can be better for our kids. Your relationship with your dad was special. God give us grace and strength to heal and live positively for our kids❤

@nette2144 4 ай бұрын

Many of us are hurt and broken because we were born to emotionally immature parents. Some did the best that they could because they didn't know much, but some chose to NOT do anything to be better parents. I agree with you that we must heal so that we can do better for the next generations. ❤❤❤

@TshogofatsoGraceMasina Ай бұрын

I have like that 😢😢I know the pain. We are not on speaking terms

@bridgetmothomoholo4514 5 ай бұрын

Madam speaker I love you sisi❤

@_hangwi 6 ай бұрын

Eish , this right here is sad 😢

@lulama_kay2705 7 ай бұрын

You are soo good at this. Khanyi narrate s her story so well.

@madams___speaker 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. She really painted a clear picture 🙌🙏🏿

@IvySibanyoni-jr2sg 6 ай бұрын

What a sad story 😢

@Maria-yp6le 7 ай бұрын

What a sad story...please do come for part 2 Sis Khanyi

@madams___speaker 7 ай бұрын

I will definitely bring her back ❤️❤️

@nomsatorcida9612 6 ай бұрын

Wow sis you're very lucky to have had your father. He was one in a million❤❤❤❤

@madams___speaker 6 ай бұрын

Right?? ❤❤

@veronicamakhafula6389 5 ай бұрын

So sad😢

@user-dq1xr8cv1s 3 ай бұрын

Khanyi may lord heal Yu my sister eshh sad story

@mphozi-grace9507 4 ай бұрын

Ohh this is my story 😢😢😢

@vivymapota9322 6 ай бұрын

Oh my God Khanyi, im so sorry ❤

@madams___speaker 6 ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@Fi_loe 7 ай бұрын

Love 2 u Kanyi❤

@madams___speaker 7 ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@conversationswithzandymfek2720 4 ай бұрын

This music was "OK" back in the day when the channel was jst a seat down channel with no interviewers. Now that you interact with the guest pls remove it. Lebo you r amazing sisi talk of a true definition of a gamechaanger ❤❤❤

@GiftSikhweni-lz6np 7 ай бұрын

This is so sad😢

@madams___speaker 7 ай бұрын

Right? 🥺🥺💔💔

@swazimulabelesi1679 22 күн бұрын

😭😭😭

@user-em5wj2bp8i 4 ай бұрын

Her story is just like mine. My Mom left me when I was 1 year 2 months. I suffered a lot. I was forced to became an adult at an early age.I didn't know her relatives I didn't know my dad. Somehow my dad's family located me and life was better after that. She later came back 2016 when I was 19 years and disappeared again. She later started communicating with me but she has never been there for me. It's like she's not there.I just wish one day she'll call me to stay let's talk I just want to know what happened and I want her to tell me I love you my daughter

@nette2144 4 ай бұрын

I really empathise with you. It is okay to desire a conversation and for her to take accountability for her decisions. However, please open yourself to the possibility that, you may never get any of that! You are dealing with an emotionally immature person, who is most likely doing what she learnt from her own mother. My desire and hope for you is that, a part of you will never be held back, waiting for that woman to fulfill your desires! Keep living life. Go into therapy if you can, so that your young self can heal and make peace with what happened. I wish you well on your journey of healing. If I could connect with you I would. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@wpp1586 4 ай бұрын

Our father never tell us the truth, I was raised by my dad, of they were not mentally capable they should say. I love my father but the truth still bothers me, again yoi have bad moms.....ours rested so I hope God made her my angel.