Ep. 4: Time After Time | "Kyle" (S1E3)

Grief. Where do you begin when you feel like you’re slipping through quicksand? Jack and Rebecca bring home three babies while grieving the loss of another. Randall just reunited with his birth father, William, but now grieves his terminal illness. All channel their grief differently. How do we go through the process of grief with care and ultimately come out on the other side of it? Who do we lean on in these moments of darkness so we don’t have to face it alone? Kate reminds us of the importance of being there for each other, no matter the circumstances… time after time. Deep breaths.
00:00 Intro
00:31 Discussion
01:01:09 Fan Segment
01:05:12 Credits
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[@rg22usa]

I just want to say that Mandy Moore is the best actress, I mean they all are. But I think her portrayal of Rebecca from episode 1 to series finale… phenomenal and honestly underrated and should win ALL the awards.

[@QMW11]

Truly one of the best performances in television history

[@aekelly]

​@@QMW11and *insanely* she never won the best actress Emmy!

[@milirodriguez8493]

​@aekelly Right?She definitely NEEDS to, especially after her portrayal of Rebecca. She played her in different ages so so well. I think from all the cast(all which we fell in love with), she did the most portrayal from age, which means different growth experiences for her character. Also after finding the death of Jack...oof, she did amazing to get us in the feels

[@cherin5892]

Sterling being the lead podcaster does a great job holding it all together. He knows how to communicate the story and back ground. He knows that when it's off topic Sterling brings it back.

[@unapologeticallycoco]

Mandy Moore deserved an Emmy for her performance as Rebecca! Masterclass.

[@jillianbaker8442]

she absolutely did

[@angd4268]

No one else could have played Rebecca so glad they didn't have different actresses.

[@lunaloutfy]

“The show is not sad. You’re sad. Life is sad.” I agree with you, Chris… there’s always something that will throw us off-course in this life and will allow us to connect to the show on a much deeper level. We just have to go through the motions no matter what. Grief is a powerful and complicated emotion, a feeling that no one will ever come to understanding because everyone handles it in a different way. There’s no right or wrong when you’re experiencing it. Thank you for discussing this topic, you guys! It’s very important ❤️

[@LizaJane761]

That was an excellent statement it’s so true

[@DawnWoods-fo4ns]

I loved watching the show but having the actors discuss each episode has given new life to This Is Us! They are so genuine with the backstory and insight of what they did while shooting the series. Loving this!

[@Dazzlefae]

Them mentioning Jack's tendency to sleeping on the floor in the first few episodes just made me think, he was literally in a war. He would've slept on the floor a lot during that time. I've heard that sometimes that carries over after you leave the warzone. I'd never really thought about it before, but for some reason that kinda hit me listening to this...

[@kokopelligirltam]

definitely a possibility... thanks for sharing it!

[@MaddieBullock]

Wow, okay that actually makes so much sense. I wouldn’t have thought about that. Makes me wonder if that was an intentional connection

[@theresab4748]

I just want to say that Chris could absolutely do those audio recordings for Calm or any of those meditation apps. I’d listen to that every day! 1:03:13

[@carolbreen520]

Mandy, you handled the portrayal of older Rebecca to a tee. Chris is so right. There was subtleness of movement, dialogue, even gaze. Extremely well done!

[@MCMNasty2]

Ms. Moore was definitely an unsung hero and actor on the show. She was a shining star.

[@cliffco823]

After rewatching the show a couple of months ago I realized just how slept on Mandy Moore is. She was the only actor to consistently play all phases of her character throughout the show. And she did so brilliantly 👏🏿

[@loriflori]

I just adore this podcast! I know I truly loved the show, but listening to the podcast, I am learning WHY I loved it so much! Things that touched my heart, just "because it DID" but your drilling down on the acting helped explain to me WHY it did that to me. I am shouting, "yes, that's how I felt, too!" or "yes, that is how it affected me, too!" So very enjoyable to be listening to this. I had no intention to actually watch the series again, because I loved it so much the first time and didn't want to watch it after being analyzed, but the more I hear the podcast, that is EXACTLY what I want to do. Thank you.

[@tracykcarson1]

Mandy Moore was robbed of her Emmy! What a genius!!

[@writestuffla]

God I love Sterling's energy. And how can you not want see Chris every chance you can get? My mother lost her son and she just kind of lost her mind until we lost her less a year later. The grief is too much. There's a part of you that never gets over it.

[@aekelly]

I'm so sorry.

[@GeorgimFamily]

As a parent that has been pregnant 9 times with 10 children. (none living). We also had 5 adoptions fall through so we are childless. This show made me feel loved and seen.

[@nateburguete9327]

Sending you love

[@GeorgimFamily]

@@nateburguete9327 Thank you.

[@michaela2706]

Speaking of handling the babies and actor freedom, 1 that sticks out a lot is when Toby introduces himself to baby Jack as "the 1 with the beard". And, like it was just meant to happen, the baby playing Jack touches his beard and Chris says "exactly". Just felt like the perfect thing to happen and perfect response.

[@chill0314]

Mandy Moore, Hair and Make up crew all deserves their flowers. So many times I had to remind myself that was makeup. Her as an older woman was so believable. It really felt authenticate from her look all the way to her behavior and mannerisms.

[@alyssadawg1210]

Love to hear yall talking about how talented Mandy Moore is because one of my favorite topics on the planet is how talented Mandy Moore is

[@alelihariana8697]

Mandy Moore is so timeless. Watching this podcast right after finishing the series I'm mind-boggled by her portrayal of the lifetime of Rebecca, and Mandy is younger than her adult children and still provides such a maternal foundation to the entire show. Incredible.

[@brandihall2369]

Please don’t stop doing this! If you guys can keep this going for every single episode I would be so grateful. There was a part in this discussion where you all are talking about grieving and feeling like there was so much more that you should have done for that person that passed away. Sterling said “you did all you could do, certain things were outside of your control.” Immediately sobbed! I had press pause and allow myself that cry because no one has ever spoken to that part of my grief when I coincidentally lost my mother to stomach cancer. You all have no idea the impact that you are making. This Is Us was hands down my favorite show and I hated to see it come to an end. This podcast was so needed! Please keep going 🙏🏽

[@roseuapb1908]

Please do all 106 episodes! The show got me through a very dark time in my life and I am forever grateful for it and you all.

[@juliathrush4401]

Oh the tears when Chris mentioned the real triplets. 😢 I am telling all of my friends to (re)watch the show and improve the experience with this podcast.

[@erikamatthews3622]

So I did the breathing exercise here at work and started crying at my desk 🙃 so I would advise everyone to watch this episode in your home LOL.

[@allisavalencia7351]

I love this show bc it’s not just sad, it’s happy, it shows real family tribulations and touches on topics that are so necessary but it’s also so funny, and just all around a great show

[@bellaventimiglia35]

Question: How did Mackenzie (young actress who played 8 yr old Kate) feel about her storyline? She was really, really good!!! Perhaps this can be addressed for the next episode: “The Pool.”

[@stephaniecoles2138]

I wish they would address this. A while ago I read that they discussed it with her parents to make sure she was ok with it. I would to hear more about that.

[@stephaniethompson1265]

The end fan segment about grief was beautiful and so helpful. I almost skipped it but I am so glad I didn’t. My father passed 6 months ago and I am still deep in the trenches of grieving. I thought that being a grown 40 year old woman that I would be able to process my dad’s passing fairly well. But at the end of the day as they said. He was a part of me. We were a we and now I am an I. It feels lonely and jarring and so hard to accept. Thank you for being so open with people and creating this space for fans and viewers. It is beautiful.

[@itomanpr]

That meditation segment at the end...very soothing. Beautiful walkthrough of the feelings that we face in this episode. I hope we get more moments like these.

[@kokopelligirltam]

please do all 106 episodes! so loving bfing with you all every week! so appreciate the meditation at the end! This is so well done!!!

[@Murfstatus11]

Mandy Moore really brought such a levity to her character. I think she’s such an amazing actor and the writers crafted her arch perfectly.

[@zeynabhoseiny279]

Just want to let you know this podcast is very dear to us. Thank you for doing this guys ❤️❤️❤️

[@SorichSala]

Thank you for our weekly therapy session ❤️❤️❤️ love your perspectives and your takes on the episodes. Grief is a tricky thing and I believe the show provides so many examples of how we grief and we don’t feel so lonely. So thank you so much

[@elizabethburnett5772]

I just finished watching the entire show for the 3rd time, how I miss this show.

[@stefanienovodor4936]

I lost my dad two years ago and related closely to every episode as a mom of two boys aged 15 and 8. Wife, mother, daughter, caretaker. I related to Rebeca very much. It’s amazing you’re doing this and it’s incredible to see it through your eyes. Nothing has been more difficult but it is true that this show has started many conversations in our home. My parents were married 42yrs and four kids and two grandkids. They worked together as nurses and were clearly soulmates. It’s almost like reliving my childhood through other eyes. I see my own mother’s grief through Rebecca’s eyes and feel it deeply. Nothing is more difficult to navigate than grief because nothing is more permanent.

[@stefanienovodor4936]

He passed of Glioblastoma (brain cancer) at 62yrs young. He fought valiantly for almost two years and lost his battle to Covid as a complication. Thank u

[@dorethacarter6480]

I love this podcast and am reliving the series with new eyes thanks to you guys! Literally the best series I've ever seen and it never disappoints!

[@mindfulchristianmeditation4223]

Wow! The end meditation was remarkable. Thank you ALL ♥️♥️♥️

[@kajenma]

I loved the show when it was on. I love listening to you talk about each episode. Your take on your characters and the wonderful writers that you worked with. I look forward to each podcast. Thank you

[@allisavalencia7351]

The end of this episode was a NEEDE! You guys all 3 have such soothing and calming voices! Like I feel so warm and comfortable listening to you guys🥹🤍

[@MaddieBullock]

Please do all the episodes!! I’m obsessed with this! 🤍

[@Estadisponibleparami]

I love every character of This is us, but I had a crush on Toby, the sweetiest and funniest man ever ❤. I loved to hear Chris speaking more in this episode. Thank you all for doing this, I'm enjoying it so much. I have watched the series around 5 - 6 times... Sending you so much love from Spain.

[@AbigailMera]

I am rewatching the show again while watching the podcast and I have to say that I am loving it! I am not sure if I will can hold myself to see more episodes after I reach the end! So please, keep them coming!

[@MaddieBullock]

Same here! I’m ahead on the show so I’m catching up on the podcast, but I’m LOVING it!

[@livinginadaydream838]

This podcast is so special. From beginning to end I am just in awe listening to your stories of being on set. The breath work at the end was incredible and thank you for including it.

[@murielgouvia457]

This podcast is really good for all of us fans! Thanks for doing this! It is a fan´s dream.

[@lisebetta]

Yes, yes...please do all six seasons! I really like these first 4 epis! Suggestion, I know there might be copyright issues, but it would be fun to watch an epi with you and hear your commentary!

[@ishakumar3055]

Omg when I first finished all the seasons I was so sad that there won't be more of this show. But you guys are just as amazing as the characters you played. Thank you for thinking of us and creating this podcast.. it feels an extension A warm hug after something beautiful and rewatching the show now slowly and listening to you guys talk about it is my new highlight of the week. Oh my heart. ❤❤❤

[@michaela2706]

The 3 part episodes where each of the big 3 have a storyline are always extra special! Just watched "1 hell of a week" in season 4, incredible!

[@giovanafischer8354]

Please just keep up with this podcast, it is amazing ❤

[@dylaneborgen900]

Yes please do all the episodes!!!!

[@deelaw5290]

You all are beautiful people. I enjoy this rewatch podcast so much! I love hearing your perspectives and experiences with your own stories and that of your fellow castmates, the inside information. and like watching the show- i have a tear in my eye! I can't believe the story of the couple with triplets/twins- heart wrenching, but what a God send this show was to them especially WOW! I related to so much of this material over all seasons- between randall reconnecting with his father, seeking information about his mother, as well as when kevin and randall had their awful fight. I connected with randall being the fixer- and his therapy session discussing that! wow. that hit home! so much of this series hit home. brilliant writing and brilliant acting!

[@finallymax1]

I really enjoyed the relaxing moment at the end.

[@tamicasilvers9648]

Can I say I watched and tweeted, Instagramed, and Facebook, at the time of the show. I had every emotion during its run. I didn't know that I would rewatch it. Since it started to resurface on Facebook I said I couldn't rewatch because I didn't want you all to leave to begin with. I loved you all from the beginning it brought back my childhood the innocence of kids when adulthood wasn't so evident. I turned on KZbin to see this podcast and said ok my favorite cast is talking about my favorite show I'm going to subscribe. I love y'all and decided to rewatch I'm in love with my Pearson family I'm rewatching I'm back in and still in love and I want to hug everyone again ❤

[@aekelly]

Omg!! Sterling's realization of what Kevin, Kate and Kyle would have meant! 😮 😅

[@rbinion1223]

Love love this podcast. What a genuine and authentic way to talk about grief that people face in their lives. This was a very moving and powerful discussion.Chris, Sterling and Mandy speak from their hearts about the realities people face every day. I hope that you cover every episode from every season. Especially some of the ones from the last season. I know it will be a while but it will be worth it.

[@TheDeRaye]

What a great podcast! Just started rewatching the show, and I've been watching this to go along with each episode and I'm loving it!

[@clairewalsh4029]

I loved hearing more of the behind the scenes about how you found older Rebecca's look - so fascinating - would love to see the looks that didn't make the cut!

[@Zoe___oOooo]

I really enjoy seeing you in this beautiful setup 💖

[@valerienash5305]

I have a question about Randall. Kevin is always referenced as the oldest, but it was shown that Randall was born almost a day before Rebecca and Jack had their babies. They had him share a birthday with Kate and Kevin, which ok, he could have been born after midnight. I know Kevin is Kate’s big brother, but Randall was the oldest of both. Just wondered why that was never brought up.

[@ajpreclaro1608]

I’ve been rewatching the show with my parents and wondered the same thing. Maybe it’s a continuity error in the writing?

[@AnaSantos_ie]

Thank you for this podcast. ❤️

[@sydwee915]

I am truly enjoying these podcasts.

[@patriciaramirez2982]

why had I never thought about the fact that the triplets were gonna be named with 3 k's lol

[@schmidtfam04]

Right!??? I was just thinking Kevin, Kate………. Kyle……….whaaat?

[@ericaleach1110]

Neither had I. In fact I had wondered why, when though she changed from Kyle, Rebecca still didn’t choose a “K” name for Randall. Like I know where Randall’s name came from but not using a “K” felt like separation

[@Tyanes17]

I love this podcasts! You guys have such thoughtful, intelligent and humorous remarks. It brings my attention to details I missed when I first watched the show. Keep going, guys! xoxo from a brazilian viewer/listener

[@adinya4860]

Thank you for this podcast ❤❤

[@deidrehudnell9165]

I enjoyed the show and watched the series three times and I am truly grateful for this podcast.

[@ILoveNaeSayers]

Been rewatching to keep up with the podcast. Enjoying reliving the series with y’all!

[@Sheisgreatness]

Just watched this episode last night preparing for the podcast review

[@mersac9049]

the characters for this show was extremely well thought out. The love I have Jack is pulling on my heart strings. Rebecca and the kids too. And Toby. I love love love Toby and Kate. So glad the actors are likable too and not just the characters they play. Fenomenal show. The best writing. From beginning to end.

[@sherribuell6217]

Thanks for these episodes. Always been a Mandy Moore fan, but I wasn’t ready to watch the show when it first aired, but have recently binge watched it. OMG! Y’all are family now!! I can’t get enough of y’all! Thank you all and Dan Fogelman for perfection in television history! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@finallymax1]

Lots of love from Brazil. You're guys are amazing. Best show ever! ❤

[@ericcrocker5330]

I love hearing about Mandy's experience with playing all the different ages of Rebecca. My new favorite actor since watching the show!

[@bellaventimiglia35]

Here are your five stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ (should be more!). Pls, pls, pls continue with this podcast. I am NOT a podcast fan, but I LUV hearing abt all the bts tidbits, esp abt my fav tv show of all time!!!

[@ChinelAntoinette]

I just binged watched this series. When I got to season 6, I was balling hardcore! I have to go back to episode 1 again lol 😂 But I need a crying break so I’m on another binge of friends. I’ve been bouncing back and forth from friends, everwood, and this is us.

[@Glo419]

I cannot get enough of this podcast & you fabulous people! Epic writers that give you the words & you turn it into magic ✨✨ Kevin & Kate: I had forgotten how co-dependent they were. Well, I think Kevin needed Kate a little more. Kate: singing in the bathroom, I love that song! Charlene 1977 'I’ve Never Been To Me.' Tobey: Best all around amazing boyfriend, funny, thoughtful, caring, needs sexy time….sounds like me lol Jack: 'I think the babies broke my wife.' Dr. K: The most perfect doctor ever! Tess: 'He’s hiding something' Randall: 'Before I give you permission to hobble off like hobo joe' Amazing!!! Love you guys!

[@BigThreeChiu]

12:31 Thank you Sterling for reminding us the permission to grief. Always enjoy Chris' outro 🤣

[@wackywagners3463]

I think having any actor come back and speak on the show, is amazing, but having Mandy return for the podcast, is pretty epic!

[@gailallisonlindquist6398]

I just want to say that Toby otherwise known as Chris hits it right on the head because life is challenging life can be very sad and when I have cried in each and every episode, I have seen it touches on a nerve. It affects me and I can so identify with the characters in this series, it is just absolutely mind blowing the creativity put into it and the outcome is just outstanding. I don’t know what else to say about it other than it will stay with me and resonate probably for the rest of my life and I am enjoying your podcasts very much.!!!!

[@jacquelineshea1824]

I'm so happy Mandy played all the ages. You connect to her so much and her acting is top tier.

[@kimcocking4115]

Love this. All the episodes please!!

[@yaramartell3062]

IM FROM VENEZUELA WATCHING FROM CHILE THAKS FOR ALL THIS LOVE!!! BRING MILO SOMEDAY PLEASE!!❤❤❤❤🥰🥰💋💋🦋🦋

[@kennedilurry4832]

Listening now and LOLing at the K, K, and K comments because my two younger siblings and I were named after our dad and we all start with K’s and have since we were little gotten the side eyes and jokes to the K, K, and K naming😂😂😂

[@cmtp33]

When the show ended, I always said I rewatch it from the beginning since I feel like I missed out a lot. I didn't start watching it live until season 3. So, I just started to rewatch along. Am on episode 4.

[@neVar512]

Rebecca’s decisions about Randall’s father though make so much sense. As a 1979 adopted child. Closed adoption was the norm. It was so different from now. As a mom I understood her decision so much. But also the missed opportunities in it. The last season actually sparked me to finally search for my birth mother, whose name I always had. Discovered she died less than a year before.

[@annapoornig9373]

Please get Milo for few episodes as it will be great to hear from his side ❤️❤️

[@LizaJane761]

This was such a wonderful podcast today. Specifically the calming time you all did. That was so special. I usually do the calm app but haven’t past few days and this was so special. Sterling you would be an excellent voice for meditation for something like the calm app. All of you were wonderful. I can’t explain how much I appreciated the grief talk. I lost my Mama to cancer almost 4 years ago and it’s still so hard for me. The things you said, the hug, was just so sweet. I hope you are able to go through all of the seasons and episodes. Thank you for doing this. 🙏

[@dramallama10]

Ugh, just crying here 😂... Love this.

[@Macha49]

Loved podcast #3 as much as I loved the show. All three hosts make it so interesting. Mandy Moore is an actor par none although every one is great. She plays three stages in Rebecca’s life from teenager to 90 years so effortlessly. The transition is seamless. She deserves to win so many awards. Yet the powers that be have overlooked this phenomenal actor’s talents.

[@nadjap5218]

I love everything about this podcast! Rewatching the episodes and all the behind the scenes info is soooo great! Now my 2 kids are 6 and 9 and I can relate in a different way. When I watched the show the first time around I had a baby and needed all the advice for that age and totally related to the exhaustion that also took place in the Pearson household! Now with bigger kids it's different issues I can relate too! It really is a show for everyone at whatever stage in live! Love it! Thx for doing this!!! ❤

[@AnjaTurner-hf6sf]

I am so enjoying this podcast! You all are incredible! I wish I could just sit and chat with you all about this amazing show! About to rewatch the series for probably the 4th time!

[@FFlores79]

Speaking for all fans...we can see Toby being into Kate ..what we couldnt see or grasp that fast was Phillip being into Kate. Lol or vice versa. That was forced and seem thrown together to wrap things up

[@aliciarice8494]

Love this show. Had started rewatching prior to knowing about the podcast so I’m starting over with you all!!!

[@shandramonique1879]

your voices are all sooooo soothing😍 especially at the end with the breathing moment. love you guys🩷

[@RobinZK67]

I love this. I absolutely love this. When Sterling (Why did I just go to type Randall 😂) said “ This Show!” Was me every single week. And I didn’t start watching until the end of season one. But every week, I would go… OK, time to cry. And the house knew it.

[@its_baryl]

STERLING is such a wordsmith!

[@roseentz8459]

So distracted by Sterling’s soft green sweater😂❤❤❤❤❤love it! Love them all!

[@annapoornig9373]

I started with rewatch of 1st episode along with podcast but now I am already on episode 14 😅… can’t wait for 1 week for each episode.. but I do watch podcast because it’s fresh in my mind.. great show and great bunch of people here 😊 truly a very genuine and beautiful show ever made ❤

[@gabrielzonta]

You guys are wonderful... Thank you for that

[@burgundyphillips7202]

I love this podcast. I love you guys, and this show so much. ❤ Thank you 💞

[@user-xr6tr3kd2j]

The only thing I love more about This is Us is this podcast. Mandy, Sterling and Chris make a great team. I also want to see Mandy mouth the outro as well as Chris! :)

[@sarahjacobson1995]

Mandy Moore was so incredible as she played so many different ages throughout the show! ❤

[@shanecadden5303]

This show definitely presented a family lacking support systems by way of friends and family.

[@tamicasilvers9648]

How you describe Gerald McRainey is so on point! To identify with each person and Beth oh Beth hold my mule sis I'm with you 😂 even Rebecca reflection on motherhood defending your family even with your husband I know that lane and woo y'all William life was lifing and even seeing and living someone through addiction 😢 ❤ have mercy being the one who fights with weight have mercy! Y'all I'm back in!!! 😢😂❤🎉

[@cherin5892]

This show is relatable cuz all of us have challenges. Doesn't make us sad people it's that we empathize and sympathize with the characters