Ep 7 - Cole Barnett from Netflix Love is Blind Breaks Down Identity, Faith & MENtal health

[@DanilaTranquila]

After seeing Cole cry and all he went through it's refreshing to see him healing and becoming a better person. Thank you guys for giving him a healthy platform to speak his truth.

[@fitmencook]

exactly this. we love to see his growth.

[@JPC629]

Well said Cole "I'm not going to spend too much time on social media if it's robbing away from what brings value to my life."

[@awake2truth511]

So powerful seeing men who have deep values relate and connect with each other. Thoroughly enjoyed the conversation. Cole is heartfelt.

[@leovanariviera6144]

what a positive conversation! It is so good to see that Cole is focusing on his well being and how to heal to improve his relationships. Such a different light from what Zanab is doing.

[@fitmencook]

It was very positive! And seeing his growth was inspirational

[@jon-michael1524]

I was lukewarm to him at first on the show, and he genuinely won me over by the end of the show as a good genuine dude. I also like the talk about relationships and energy.

[@mjgrant1515]

@@jon-michael1524 ya, they did a great job in directing this interview into a positive direction. it made me feel so good to see the growth in Cole.

[@karladacosta]

He is so positive! I’m glad to see she was not able to tear him down with her issues. Regardless of any mistakes he may have made, he deserves so much better. Great interview!

[@laine80]

This was an awesome interview! I rooted for Cole from the beginning, so I’m glad he’s doing so well. Also, it’s so refreshing to hear men having these types of conversations. Keep it up, guys!

[@fitmencook]

thank you for that!!

[@fabibibine]

I liked this interview. It wasn't about putting people down. It was centered around him, his growth. 👍🏾

[@fitmencook]

🙏🏾 that's what we all wanted. thank you!

[@mjgrant1515]

i thought Cole was goofy & even insensitive at the beginning of LIB but after the reunion & watching this and a couple of other interviews i’ve become a huge fan of his. BTW, this interview was by far the BEST one. bravo!

[@fitmencook]

wow! thank you for that!

[@faiillusri]

New viewer here, your podcast is honestly such a beautiful display of healthy masculinity and connection, thank you for all this important work you're doing and keep on going strong.

[@fitmencook]

thank you for that! made our day.

[@esthersim9216]

I’m team Cole all the way and even more so after this interview!! You can see his personality more and he had no malicious intent during LIB. He may have been a little immature but Zenab spun everything out of proportion and made her own narrative that fits into her being the victim in every situation, due to her insecurities that she brought into their relationship. I’ve watched her interviews after the show and she takes no accountability and remains firm that Cole body shamed her SMH I still don’t get how some people can take her side AFTER watching the cuties scene. I wish the BEST for Cole and hope he finds a kind, loving, secure woman!

[@YSANROCHEOfficialYoutube]

Cole has such positive energy, I love watching him

[@st7209]

Cole is a brutal honest and funny guy who needs a confident funny woman who can endure his honesty and Zanab is extremely insecure that distorts her own experiences. He's on therapy and I don't know her. but she really needs one also.

[@jon-michael1524]

Cole's a good dude. Glad to see he seems well, Zanab cruelly tore him apart without cause.

[@riverthoughts2400]

Thanks for putting Cole on your show!!!! ❤

[@Ola_Stawinska]

Very important message about therapy! Yes, even being religious you can go to therapy, it's not a failure or anything like that, same like with going to doctor when your heart or stomach or whatever is hurting is not a failure. We all deserve to get help when we need it.

[@osmosisdaily]

this was a great podcast, I learned a lot. Hasn't been like most o the Love is Blind interviews that are based around furthering the hate and drama.

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

I hope you are doing better Cole! You're a good guy! I hope the best for you!

[@marlynsantos9677]

What a great interview! It would've been easy to be inflammatory as other interviewers have been to entice more viewership but I love how this focused on the positive, was so genuine and humble. It just felt like a safe place for healthy masculinity and compassionate conversations. Super eye-opening about all the things that were left out like the couples counseling and Zay meeting his sister, very interesting. I'm so glad Cole is healing and flourishing from the reunion. So glad KZbin recommendations brought me here.

[@gyvaszodis3561]

Wow, amazing conversation and energy, it took the whooole thing to the next level! So mature, so enlightening, inteligent, so positive! Thank you for that! Subscribing! So happy for you Cole.. , and you've got your spark back!

[@fitmencook]

we are happy for him, too - dude is really on a new journey and we love to see it. appreciate the subscribe!

[@angelface14angel]

I loved this! I love cole’s energetic aura! You forgot to ask about the cuties scene! Lols

[@fitmencook]

lolol we wanted to stay clear of anything related to that - there's def enough of that rhetoric already out there!

[@bethnshermy]

@@fitmencook Respectfully disagree, no amount of cuties rhetoric is too much.

[@ginabonina6427]

Cole is very charming and seems to be upbeat with natural good vibes. It might take some time to find that high vibrational match. Meanwhile, it's the perfect time for introspection and positivity and focusing on oneself, not beating yourself up, creating, enjoying and allowing the journey to unfold and getting to know the people along the way. People typically show you who they are and you can't fix any of them. A sense of humor is high on many lists but is too dependent on other stuff, like mood, situation. Laughter indeed is one of the fastest ways to raise your vibration but most people aren't that funny. And jokes become corny and that silly little voice you used to love becomes annoying. But no need to be unkind or mean so, for me, kindness is tops. More likely than not, kindness is going to be an indication of patience, tolerance and nurturing. And if planning to be wed, have kids, that's going to be needed big time. But I know nothing about that stuff, I can however attest to how freaking amazing life is being unmarried and without kids!

[@SAMsationalx3]

Most Unexpected collab

[@fitmencook]

😂😂😂 facts! But we had the best time learning from each other

[@kristelmacias8401]

5 min in and this is so incredibly refreshing. it’s giving HEALTHY MALE conversations. Thank you!

[@showorchid2641]

Wow! First time viewer and this was such an enlightening and inspiring conversation! Keep you the amazing work!

[@fitmencook]

thank you, fam!!

[@konnyu.torna.kezdoknek]

Beautiful human being you are 😊

[@SamuelsReview]

Thanks guys. This conversation has helped me, as I'm going through a situation. I'm also learning about using my energy as a currency. Good luck to all of you 😊

[@fitmencook]

best wishes to you on your journey! continue to protect your energy, bro - find those things/people that add to it! best

[@minaolivas8984]

My 1st time listening to this interviewer, definitely the best so far! New subscribers..here to stay.

[@radahhhh]

Some man can be childlike and mature at the same time. In addition, human golden-retriever cuteness

[@nikimonae]

Love the Therapy and Faith conversation!

[@fitmencook]

We did too!

[@JimDoveMO]

Great REAL interview. You can tell Cole is not the person Zanab portrait him to be.

[@AiriniMustapa]

This is a good conversation and I can relate. faith is faith. All the best to the men in this podcast / YT

[@fitmencook]

thank you!!

[@mikkibarker8671]

Cole you rock! Keep being open. Z had way too much baggage to get married. That’s why she is a flight attendant. It keeps her from behind nding.

[@lilylomcari1750]

Great interview! I thought Cole was treated unfairly at the end. I’m glad Netflix decided to air the “Cuties” incident tho. If I could make a suggestion tho...the mic audio levels are so off that I had to lower it, maybe speak with the mic more away from your mouth like your guests because it was suupperrr loud lol the quality was good tho. Just subbed because you have great content 👍

[@hollywont9447]

I already knew I liked Cole but I learned that Japanese Whiskey is the best. I shall try it. 🥃

[@SofiAlvaOk]

i love how you said oh wow that's crazy as a simple frase and no give it so much importance like, you can't say that... bla bla, like they did on the netflix show when cole used the same expression, is not that big of a deal. Love this podcast and this conversation, I found myself healing some thoughts with this conversation, thanks.

[@Chocokaylarobin]

I hope he's doing well ngl he seemed so genuine and fun i feel bad.

[@Ola_Stawinska]

7:50 well i have this woth my husband. He has conversations in his head and in the middle of it he start to say stuff to me out loud, like i was able to hear the whole thing from his head. Im, on the other hand, like to be precise in our communication. So its not really a gender thing ;) people are just different in many ways, there is no need to generalize that woman are this and man are that.

[@mgthale]

My husband does it too! I always say „I need more context!!“ 😅

[@Ola_Stawinska]

@@mgthale i learned to ask "did you just have conversation in your head? Because i have no idea, what are you talking about" :D that helps, usually he admit that in fact there was a conversation and fill me in :D

[@WilliamsPinch]

It’s really odd to see a podcast of decent human beings for a change! Just subscribed. You guys are wonderful🫶🏽

[@Sunnyday069]

Thank you, great conversation!

[@naturallyamused]

7:32 To be fair, my husband talks like I can read his mind. I always thought it was the strangest thing and did not realize men think women are like this 😅

[@prettyandcuteadore]

My bf is like this too

[@candacellias]

Dang Cole, I really do believe God does have a plan and purpose for your life. Let this experience push you SOOO CLOSE to God. Get aquatinted with the secret place, and let God burn in your heart. You remind me a lot of me before I FULLY surrendered my life to God and was baptized in the Holy Spirit just like in the book of Acts. -balancing living in the world and being a Christian is… hard bc it doesn’t work. I promise you, give God everything, I mean EVERYTHING. He will show you the way the straight and narrow path-Then His values will become your values. It isn’t about trying to fit into Christian culture, and being the “perfect christian” living your life like that is pointless, boring and ultimately fruitless. I remember the day I gave up trying to do things myself and my own ideas about God-everything I ever knew and grew up with. I said “Here’s my life, here’s my political views, here’s my friends my family my future my Values my body my mind my soul, my heart here’s everything God it’s yours. I will do whatever you want give you whatever you ask. I got on my face and He turned my life upside down. Delivered me from drug addiction, sex addiction, alcohol addiction, depression & ptsd in a moment. I don’t know if you’re familiar with words of knowledge, the prophetic, healing, ect… not sure if you know about revival history, the charismatic movement… I know I wasn’t. And that’s a big reason I didn’t want to give up things about my world including sex before marriage and partying. But Following the REAL God of the Bible is worth everything. Everything. Everything. He is the same today! And I believe He wants to use you. Pick up your cross Cole and join this beautiful life of storing your treasures in heaven. Giving up your life for the honor of being used by God. If only you knew HOW much God loves you, you wouldn’t even want that stuff anymore! I know you know He loves you but I mean like KNOW. And that refilling of His love pouring out on you is a daily filling we need. Pray until you don’t want to leave, until you have to be dragged out of the closet. Fall in love with the Word of God and the Spirit of God, to the point where you cry out of adoration not just desperation. Let Jesus be your one and only. The one who completes you. Loneliness doesn’t have to be crippling but any season of singleness is a gift from God. Gosh Cole I’m so excited for you!! You’ll probably never see this but the Lord is highlighting you to me, and I will be praying for you to encounter Him in some of the ways I have and even more! The Real Him. The Father’s unconditional love is waiting for you. I’m feeling the B attitudes for you so if by some miracle you do see this, I’d encourage you to meditate on that. I just hope and pray you can find and cultivate the kind of relationship with Jesus where it won’t even be a question in your mind of compromising your temple. You were bought with a price Cole, know that you are priceless and that’s why it is God’s will that you honor yourself and future wife and Him to wait till marriage. It isn’t about you or “personal convictions” it isn’t about religion. It’s about love sickness. Get love sick for God, and He will use you to change the world. Isaiah 61:1 Holy Spirit, fill Cole. Overflow him with your love right now. Change him into exactly what you’ve called him to be. Convict his heart & encounter him in his dreams. Give him visions like the one you showed me of you weeping in heaven for us. Lead him to forgive all those who have hurt him. Turn his life upside God, as you do so well. Make a miracle out of any mess he feels stuck with. And prove to him that you are worthy of it all. Amen.

[@Juschillin2024]

Jessie's a PRO!

[@fitmencook]

He’s been here before 😅

[@marlenevalle9348]

Is true most religions separates therapy and God but that is far from reality they go together.

[@fitmencook]

word!!

[@crazygirl1585]

He looks like Chef Gabe Kennedy! 😮

[@No_Regrets_Coyote]

Don’t eat too much Chile. Save your appetito.

[@bobococo89]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@felishasmith5638]

I regret him dumping Colleen, for him.. even if they weren’t to get married, she would have been a better gf. And his Lib experience would have been completely different.. I had an ex “meet him at a church event.. he turned out to be the worst guy I ever dated.. in other words I want a strong bond overall, cause the devil sends his ppl into ur life too. Can’t weed potential partners out, just cause another potential partner pretends to b Christian… zanab was too naggy that for me would have been the biggest red flag..

[@sadiebarnes4291]

22:19 “It sucks to be a Christian when your not living how all the Christian’s want you to live” is this in the context of sex before marriage? Because that’s how God wants you to live not other people, however your sins are covered by Jesus death and resurrection and that’s not to say it’s okay to basically stomp on his grave by continuing in purposeful sin, but it doesn’t mean just because you have sinned that you now aren’t saved anymore. It sucks to be a Christian living in sin and being held accountable by the church or those who love you but it’s necessary to strengthen your relationship with God because once you repent there is no condemnation. Sin is what separates us from god, not people telling you to stop sinning.

[@rainbowdragon9497]

Way to make a ton of assumptions! Lol

[@sadiebarnes4291]

@@rainbowdragon9497 one assumption and it was more of an inference because of the same reason he says his relationship with his parents was strained at the time.

[@gdjwarren2]

Tell them the black don't crack!

[@fitmencook]

it dont! 🤣 melanin + good diet + drink water + mind your business = that's the recipe

[@thewishjar2241]

Honestly you should be thankful that they didn't show more "christian" moments, this couple was the most messy and typical christian couple, all prayer, all christian talk and at the end they worst couple of all the couples. So much hate between them. so much judgement (mostly Zanab) Literally the most stereotypical christians on tv

[@rainbowdragon9497]

The worst couple? Lol. SK cheating on Raven except she knew and they were just appearing to be together for more fame?

[@stephaniemcghee2240]

I wish you would not done such a fluff piece, don't get me wrong but when the came up as recommended I expected to hear about Cole and zaneb, not three bros having a therapy session between them, nothing wrong with that, just expected something different.

[@pineappleice100]

The title didn’t give it away for you?

[@awake2truth511]

I thought it was great that they didn't gossip about zenab, especially since she was not there, but allowed this to be about Cole's perspective and growth.

[@goatpie882]

Unfortunately Zanab’s complete insanity is overshadowing the fact that Cole is just not that great of a person either

[@alishaohara7236]

Your comment makes not sense. He is a great 25 years old person who is still growing like any other 25 years old with sense of humor (which are not many left),Zenab is just an evil, vindictive woman (she is 31) take it from a 55 years old latina who has been married for 35 years.

[@YSANROCHEOfficialYoutube]

@@alishaohara7236 I think they are both fine, just people with flaws and not perfect. They both have their baggage and a man who looks like Cole certainly also has some expectations on what look he's interested in. He definitely wasn't like Shake in Season 2

[@goatpie882]

@@alishaohara7236 I definitely didn’t see it the first time around, totally hated Zanab, but when I rewatched just their scenes, you can see it if you’re looking closely. it’s there, he hides his passive cruelty very well, it’s subtle, so he gets away with it. As someone who also is very goofy and loves to joke around (I’m very similar to Cole, but a female version) I do think people like us can often use it as a cover for being an a-hole. But whatever, the girls who date him going forward are the ones who will have to deal with it, not me!

[@bobococo89]

Yeah he was immature on the show but unlike Zanab he has taken accountability.....

[@Bec_loves_Jesus]

@@goatpie882 yeah I agree, he really isn't that great of a person and said so many rude and thoughtless things, but really he is so immature.. he would be so annoying to be in a relationship with- unless you want to be a mother.

[@sitclalyramos6357]

Men always giving space to abusers, huh?

[@Pleaseaskme]

When he said he wanted this to bring him closer to God…. I jumped for joy! Praise Jesus! I was actually able to delete Netflix after struggling with secular television for years. His tears showed me where I have fallen short in my own character. I didn’t realize that I was a voyeur, and I was vicariously participating. Thank you Cole for your humility. THAT is letting the character of Christ shine to the world. Keep shining brother!