EPISODE 2: MARRIAGE (Full Interview)

[@joysoapNG]

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[@lifeincolorxo]

“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?” - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

[@GreatnessUrge]

Boys are too. It's not just the same way because the two genders are NOT the same. Boys are thought to be strong, bold and they are pressured to make money because these qualities will help to fulfill their traditional role as husband and father. There are reasons to all these things and you won't know why until you fully understand that both genders are naturally wired more differently than they seem.

[@amarachibertilia6020]

The short clips made the older woman look bad. She was actually very kind and respectful with her words in this conversation. I pray Mojibade gets married to the right man. She deserves it.

[@rachealbanta]

"Double Jeopardy if I'm late and I get it wrong"!!!! This is what keeps me going. God helping me, I can't marry wrong at this point in my life.

[@GreatnessUrge]

Lol. But even lateness has level. The more late you are, the closer you get to menopause. Then it's finished.

[@eliezerbalogun9904]

I love this conversation. The older lady is traditional in her views, while the younger lady is modestly mordern in her views. Really, the society should stop increasing the pressure and insecurities of the unmarried ones. I likewise believe the unmarried ones must have faith in love and believe in the blessedness of marriage if they'll marry right. This is a very balanced and civil conversation.

[@joygirlonyeka9159]

Who is the society? 😅society go give me food chop??? Society don chop?

[@AyomideDesignsOfficial]

Likeee😅😅 I kept asking

[@afeezraji8881]

Na that one dey always muzz me. Society this, society that... Abeg make everybody dey their lane

[@khaye200]

I wonder o!!!!! After the wedding the couple is left to face life on their own.

[@GreatnessUrge]

Do you girl. You are on your own 😅

[@emerald3788]

After what happened to her, she still answered "she feels women should be married by 24,... and early"

[@okpiaifodeborah465]

This was such a balanced conversation. Both ladies were articulate and made important points. It would be interesting to have one of these interviews with a lady who does not desire or intend to get married.

[@XAVIERXANDER]

This young lady displayed maturity beyond her age. Intelligent, self aware and confident in who she is. I'm in love.

[@kayedans8779]

She’s over 30 she not a young lady

[@health.harmonize]

@@kayedans8779😂

[@EmmanuelUdeozor-d5c]

Lol... You're in love. Ashawo

[@dabby_sam]

She's not young ma

[@almaikyagh]

She is young👌

[@yvonneoshevwe2334]

Society no go dey your husband house with you ooo. Society no go feed you and your family oo. Society no send you.

[@rosewaterpetals6487]

Mojibade is unbelievably gorgeous, respectful, wise and emotionally intelligent. You can tell she has done the work on herself or maybe she had a good upbringing and didn’t need to do much work, either way, I salute her. So it makes sense if she’s single because she has high standards. People like her are rare and she understands her value enough to know that she deserves her equal. Now on the older lady, when I saw a snippet of this video, I actually didn’t expect her to have such good intentions but it appears that she does. However, what’s confusing to me is that she understands that societal pressure and standards are unfair & maybe even destructive, but she doesn’t attempt to criticise or oppose those standards. Instead she upholds the status quo and toes the line. Culture & tradition are important, but we must learn to resist, oppose and rid ourselves of practices that don’t serve us. But I applaud her for being gracious in attempting to understand Mojibade’s point of view.

[@ChristabelOnyiaorah]

Honestly, I respect both women. They’re from different backgrounds and thus, have different views on life. However, they were both respectful of each other while being assertive and expressing their views. I didn’t see the “rudeness” from the older woman like some people commented. She was stayed on her ideas while asking questions from the point of curiosity.

[@omogenaija1]

She's my age mate, and I don't understand this reasoning. I have also been married for 17 years and counting. For a second, I thought she would have been close to or if not over 60 years of age. If you're 45, it means marriage for you happened at 27. Thought processes like these are what force women into loveless marriages or even stay in abusive relationships, all for the sake of marriage. The need to be wholesome individuals before marriage is much more important than being married. Wholesome people thrive when they do decide to get married. As a Christian, not everyone of significance in the Bible got married. Should we say that they didn't achieve anything because of that? In all thy getting, get understanding. Mojibade, I am absolutely proud at how you expressed yourself. Education is one thing, but critical thinking and evolving is another. I'd hate to be this woman's female unmarried relative. One's happiness is not dependent on companionship. There are many lonely married women in droves. I sincerely hope folks can enlighten this Mrs. and open up her mind that tying the knot is not the end and be all.

[@deolaronipede372]

God bless you for this ma 🥹🙏🏻

[@aduair]

I agree, so many married but lonely depressed and frustrated women who got married because of societal pressure. Marriage is only beautiful when you are with the right person, otherwise it becomes a prison sentence

[@lovelyvideos4934]

I honestly thought she was 68 years old.

[@bettyscorner5837]

​@@lovelyvideos4934she is really looking older than 45

[@ayodejipopoola2333]

She was expected to be married at 24 but got married at 28. Clearly stated she's happy in her home. Explained her logic for why she wants women to get married early because of the advantages. Didn't force her perspective either. She even explains that she balanced her career and family life. I'm intrigued how that shows a person that was forced to marry? If marriage is what you want and she wishes you get to it early so you can live fully especially if you want kids. So pass through that stage early. It doesn't sound like someone with ill intent to me. She's not saying go and marry wrongly.

[@Tabbitthha]

Mommy was just being honest and she listened,So many moms and aunties won’t listen like this,get married,Have my grandkids Your happiness doesn’t matter lol,Great session wished it was longer , Mojibades words should be on Marble!!!

[@GreatnessUrge]

So you think the old woman care for her more than her own aunts and mom? 😅 Even from the old woman response, she is not in approval of the 'old lady' believe, it's not her business that is why she's dishing that out stylishly.

[@chineduobikili8809]

I feel like the short clip that was trending on other platforms was very unfair to the older woman. She's very reasonable and has valid points and reasons for her point of view. The clip was totally out of context and I hope it wasn't the interviewer who did that simply for clout.

[@koladeogundare978]

We know them. Na their work na. Let’s wish them well

[@taifadeyemi]

Honestly, this woman seemed quite open minded to me. We are not born with knowledge and experiences may shape and teach us. We learn everyday. Really happy for Mojibade too, she speaks from a place of depth and I’m sure that she didn’t come about this state of mind in a day too. Let us continue to give grace to one another. Thank you Joy!

[@vickypeju6644]

Good job mummy. I don't see anything that requires bashing here. Make una no transfer aggression on her. She stated her perspective without undermining Mojibade's. That's laudable.

[@thenaturalgeng]

Someone is finally saying my mind. I don't see anything wrong with what mummy has said, I don't understand the hate, it's just funny to me

[@koladeogundare978]

Let me come on this comment, I love peaceful women who are not combative every single time but are able to listen, pick lessons and throw away whatever is not meant for them, thank God I am married to one like you ladies. Here’s the thing. Moji says she’s happy, happiness is her ultimate goal and if she says she is happy, I believe her. The woman is stating facts that is as old as human! In the last few decades, we have changed the narrative and I dare to ask, is this serving us better as a society? Modern women can be smart by marrying early (in the peak of their natural beauty and fertility, men value those far more than your money and status that older ladies carry about with so much air of arrogance) thereby avoiding this career/family crisis decision woman are faced with once they hit 30! NB: peak of women’s natural beauty and fertility shockingly to modern society (although older societies knew and understood it) is 18 - 24! Sorry for my long sermon, the media is full of what women want but never let men speak and when we do, the women push back like they are bashing this older woman using shame, insult and the need to be right. Cheers❤

[@koladeogundare978]

And lastly, most ladies who are married to good men will see not one single thing wrong with all the woman said

[@anthoniachris800]

I love this lady... she has highest self control have ever seen

[@Gamazerus]

One’s married, the other isn’t, both are happy and that’s what matters. I’m happy for both of them. What a soulful conversation this was.

[@Segigo]

it was mummy's smiles for me. Those smiles have experiences

[@Sadekayode]

45 no be mummy

[@nazakuba5130]

When you turn 45 and have more life experiences,we can come back to discuss if 45 is mummy or not​@@Sadekayode

[@emmanuelolabiwonninu]

I believe we all have our opinion about life. I cherished How Mummy reacts to the conversation and at the same time understand Mojibade's view. We all have our opinion about life and we all on our own will face the consequences of our actions😊

[@thenaturalgeng]

Exactly

[@uzomaeinstein490]

Mojibade is a reflection of what a mature, secure and confident lady should be. Honestly I am impressed with her thought process. I love her already...

[@ayaadeniji]

I love how you remained respectful while making your points. Unfortunately majority of Nigerian society thinks like this woman but we will change the narrative. They will also push you to accept the suffering and smiling in marriage to maintain the Mrs title narrative. Marriage is not just about having children neither is it the gateway to heaven

[@kaysmellsgood]

She's the kind to preach endurance to women in abusive marriages

[@omololaolashebikan7478]

No she hates seeing women suffer in marriage.Shes totally against domestic violence of any sort

[@christabelamanso7970]

Exactly!!

[@ayodejipopoola2333]

That's an interesting conclusion you drew there. As nothing she said gave any inkling to her supporting abuse. @kaysmellsgood

[@chiomafortunesdiary]

I hope to be on this show someday and share my own life experience relating to marriage and society 😊😊😊

[@gbidemi1]

She is so eloquent. The truth is that the old folks need to understand that their is difference between olden days and the new days. Things those days are different from now.

[@nazakuba5130]

Our days is really different with so much dysfunction . Our ladies don't want to get married but they all want the benefits of marriage without the commitment. We are trying too much to become like whites and it's causing more confusion for us . Take away premarital sex and all this stories of I'm happy and complete without a man will change.

[@TheKanmiAjayi]

“If you’re coming, you better come strong” God bless you for that word

[@sallyBoo957]

Behind all those snark remarks and rude questions, Mama looks at her with this sense of longing like she wishes she was as secure in herself when she was her age.

[@omololaolashebikan7478]

Lol

[@neulite24]

​​@@omololaolashebikan7478 Well done for doing this Ma'am! God bless your home. I am of the opinion that everyone is on their lane, and it doesn't matter at the age you marry. You raised some valid arguments, as well however everyone needs to do their thing. Marriage will happen for everyone in their own time!

[@Gray_Studytube]

This mama is 45 yrs old Only!! Moji is close to her in age o😂

[@jacquelynirieguna261]

Lol😂

[@_amintrouble]

Revisit this comment when you're still single at “mama 's” age.

[@BigOyindamola]

It would be considered double jeopardy to be labeled "late in marriage" and still get it wrong

[@thenaturalgeng]

This was so beautiful to watch. I loved the sincere conversation they both jad, sharing their perspectives from different generations and points of views. I also do not see anything weing with whatever mummy said, she was just being the mother that she is and was showing genuine concern, thats all. I'm glad they both had mutual understanding and respect for eachother, so so beautiful to see❤❤❤

[@eyitayophilip91]

Well stated..Although the authenticity of talks like this can bitterly be untrue. If she’s keen on her stance truthfully and genuinely happy,i must commend her thought process and satisfaction. It takes alot to arrive where she is. Healthy conversation,Good listeners,Pretty Women👏🏽

[@beccasounds]

I can purely relate with this conversation. This is a typical example of how the older generation question the unmarried especially at our late 20's. There is really more to life.

[@oreofekomolafe]

Wow… I really enjoyed the session.. personally I want to push the weight off and be this free but I am also an Embryologist… and I will be dropping this point for educative reasons… if you observe you would be getting married late… I’d advise you freeze your eggs… for many reasons like egg quality, ovarian reserve and response to hormones as we grow older… even if you look fit at 40/45yrs your ovarian reserve has reduced and is reducing and the quality of egg is depreciating.. so freeze the eggs at 28-35..depending on how long it takes then you know that at 50 years or 42 years you will not be using a 50yr old egg but a 28/30 year old egg.. rooting for us all❤❤

[@kaysmellsgood]

When it comes to this fertility issue I noticed most people focus on women and egg alone...what about when its the man that has the fertility issues? Low sperm count, even poor sperm quality, a lot of men smoke, drink and live recklessly which can also lead to fertility issues for them..A lady getting married in her thirties won't be marrying a young boy either she'll be marrying someone in his latest thirties or above 40....what if after freezing her eggs and doing all you've said even though she's still fertile and the man is the one with the issues nko?

[@oreofekomolafe]

@@kaysmellsgood good day ma’am, as you’ve rightly said men can also have issues and sincerely men should give themselves to doing semen analysis now because we have a lot of younger men are having issues like low sperm count and the likes but as there is a solution to the woman there is also for the man .. semen freezing also applies and we’ve had situations that with or without the age men also have Azoospermia(absence of Sperm cells) and other anomalies… where different solutions can be applied… it’s a man and woman thing and both parties should look out for each other 💙. I hope this helps

[@johnandrew4563]

Good day mam Thank you for this , it's really informative and educative Can any hospital offer this service or there are special hospitals that offers it !

[@enakomeofekeze3523]

I believe not being married at 30+ does not necessarily mean you are picky or looking for a rich man. Life happens. You don't really know what goes on in their life. Constantly reminding them of marriage puts unnecessary pressure. If you desire that they get married get closer to them , understand what's going on in their life. You might see reasons.

[@KoyeLadeleMosimiloluwa]

Genotype for example is a contributory factor as to why a number of women are single. This is outside their control, and the risk of going ahead is high

[@sophiaabubakar2631]

Mojibade is such a pleasant brilliant lady! 💜

[@faithawodiran8117]

My own is I hate the way some men come and pose like they are a woman's savior because she's "getting old". Nobody changes at the altar! Let us take note, the tuxedo doesn't change him at the altar or improve his character. Marry your friend too!

[@nazakuba5130]

And if you do not see a friend to marry,marry and kind man and make him your friend.

[@Gray_Studytube]

This “mummy” is just 45 o!!! She’s a young lady stop calling her mummy 😂 I don’t know why she looks so old This was a wonderful exchange It’s great to see both sides and make a choice Moji is so eloquent and intelligent I hope “mummy” has learnt something new and would learn how to treat her children if they are late bloomers

[@Lola-seven]

I was shocked with the 45 years ...I saw her on IG and I thought she was in her 60s( no insult though)

[@o.vincent1]

​@@Lola-sevenEvery woman at 45 will look like this without make up and with this kind of dressing.

[@factsandopinions577]

​@@o.vincent1nahh my mom is almost 60 and she looks younger than this mommy.

[@onyekaeluwa3649]

​@@o.vincent1nah auntvis 55 years and looks younger.

[@onyekaeluwa3649]

I am old😂😂😂😂

[@ShadyBlue]

This young lady is an inspiration. I am just a year younger than the Aunty and I totally agree with every response from the young lady. Be secure in yourself and the right man with come along at the right time. It’s better to be secure in yourself and know who you are and what you deserve. Happiness is key.

[@kayedans8779]

She’s over 30 she’s not a young lady

[@naomir8205]

@@kayedans8779 it’s the mentality for me. so she’s an old lady? You ppl are ridiculous. The 45 year old woman is young too mind you.

[@kayedans8779]

@@naomir8205 My friend none of them are young the 45 is not just older but has move farther in life’s journey as an individual that’s why she looks even way older

[@naomir8205]

@@kayedans8779 lol. All the best to you on your myopic life journey. Ciao

[@faithawodiran8117]

What's this thing about being old because one is 30 sef? It's a big lie abeg. A woman isn't 'old' at 30.

[@estherchi08]

This was my literature teacher in secondary school, Mrs Olashebikan 🥰🥰🥰

[@omololaolashebikan7478]

Waooo.Good to hear from you!

[@ekeagwuimmaculate5911]

Isashi senior Grammar school to be precise😁

[@omololaolashebikan7478]

Waooo. That was long time ago.God bless you

[@estherchi08]

@@ekeagwuimmaculate5911 yes 🥰🥰

[@estherchi08]

@@omololaolashebikan7478 Good evening ma, feels good seeing and hearing your voice again ma 🥰🙏

[@BlessedToyin]

Guys, there have to be two different standpoints to have a balanced conversation. For example, the older woman's stance might not be her stance in real life. Remember this is content and they are both representing the views of different generations, however, it has to be real as much as possible.

[@Cherrydearie]

I feel you girl. Love your confidence, honesty and self awareness. Enjoy every phase of your life, so when you get to the next phase, you don't start feeling like you missed out on something in the previous one. These days I simply just avoid some relatives. I don't want to offend anyone by how I react to their annoying "we are still waiting" questions. If their disturbance pushes you to the wrong spouse, will they come and carry the cross with you? People should honestly just let ladies (and men) be. It will happen when it will happen. Everyone is walking their life path; no two paths are the same.

[@piusidoko1208]

Marriage cannot stop you from achieving your goals in life.

[@almaikyagh]

No it can't. But it will happen when it will happen, you won't put a hold on your life waiting for marriage to happen. Everyone wants the beauty of companionship, but because one hasn't found theirs, doesn't mean they can't be happy as they wait.

[@_thepottersclay]

The host is really eloquent and PATIENT I appreciate her for that!

[@lauravictor1924]

Finally someone that relates, you can be single and really be at peace with it because you know what you want and what you wont settle for. Good session👏👏👏.

[@ketoafrikana4953]

Wish this episode was longer, as the first one was. The points made felt rushed. I'd have also liked to see more dialogue towards the end. Seemed as if it was the younger lady being interviewed. In all, great episode and well spoken individuals. I'm happy to see us challenging the status quo.

[@ListenWithMo-qy4xc]

I'm not going to lie, the interview with this woman isn't so bad. Tbh, I feel like she was respectful to Mojibade. She's the kind of person that would change after listening to a different point of view repeatedly. She's actually not that bad. Mojibade was awesome btw 🔥🔥🔥

[@temitope_ilori]

I share the same sentiment. The truth is that society did form a large part of the belief system of the older generation and if some of us were born in that generation, we also might share the same perspective. Thank God this generation is quite different.

[@user-qt2km4nu5r]

Get married when you meet the person your heart desires. Just pray it comes early but if it comes later, who are you to question God. In all, be realistic in your criteria for a partner and position yourself to be seen. At the end, the goal is to be happy, fulfilled all round and stay married. Finally it is God that gives children whether early or late not withstanding the biological clock.

[@42n8dzydoo]

Nice interview. When people hammer at a point defensively sometimes, it could just be a coping mechanism. Like "having to say I'm happy" multiple times in one breath gives that vibe on both sides (married and single). I wish everyone true happiness.

[@olaidesemiat]

It's the way the men in the comment are foaming in the mouth for me! Are these the men "society" wants us to settle for? Biko, go pick the ones that want you and leave the ones that don't want you alone.

[@demmytywo6337]

I feel she really needed someone to talk to, to pour out her heart to and i'm happy she was able to do all these in this interview

[@hundredpercentpositive]

I'm only just watching this after watching the snippets on social media. And I am beyond shocked to learn that the older lady is just 45! 😮 I'm older than her and can never see marriage the way she does.

[@hundredpercentpositive]

Mojibade is very articulate and comes across as genuine. Mrs Olaosebikan is also very respectful and genuine, although her perspective is skewed.

[@Damilonge]

She doesn't look old. It's how's she's dressed. Her skin is smooth and Flawless. If she dressed younger, she'd look younger

[@KunlemiaBelinda]

Wow Moji . You're a spec ..you will definitely marry right when the time is due❤

[@robertihuoma2043]

Very constructive and balanced conversation.

[@Charles-ei1di]

Mrs. Olashebikan was my English teacher in secondary school. Great Citizens.

[@kayedans8779]

Someone said she’s her literature teacher so which one

[@muhammedmujab8516]

Literature in English

[@Charles-ei1di]

She taught in more than one school. And I also didn't take literature in school. When she taught in mine, she was our English teacher and also literature.

[@kareemhameed4042]

She taught English... She taught me 12 years ago.

[@lindoskyi]

Again, if you're not mature enough for marriage, you'll ruin not only your life but that of your spouse and your kids. During the wait, build yourself, learn, read, chase and achieve success in every area of your life because you will need it in your marriage. This is the same pressure they put on couples who don't have children. When are you going to have children? Why are you wasting time? Once you have 1 child, they'll come back to ask you to have more. Please, do things at your own pace and trust God through every season. I'm happy i married at 35 because i was ready in every way. Mentally, physically, financially... name it and these things didn't come in my 20s. I can also tell you that this growth has supported my marriage in many ways and still does. I was very hot headed as a younger girl and would have probably walked out of my marriage if i had married earlier or even made it dysfunctional. I do not agree with this teaching but it's my opinion. I'm turning 46 this year by the way

[@tochukwuifeanacho3843]

How many children from your side?

[@lindoskyi]

@@tochukwuifeanacho3843 I don't understand the question.

[@francheza1]

Did this mummy check the foreign exchange rate today? Starting marriage with a few thousands and room & parlour in this economy. Okay ooo

[@tayookunfolami2522]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ajisafetoyin2369]

I LOVED, LOVED watching this! I'm not surprised at Mojibades intelligence. That's the EAGLE SPIRIT right there ❤

[@morakcares]

This lady is amazing. I feel really angry by the way the older woman spoke being unmarried at 30 for a woman isn’t something to be sad about. If a woman said she’s not getting married do you even know what she has seen,faced, endured or suffered? Women of older generation doesn’t even know how terrible men of nowadays are sha

[@mayowaedgar]

Mojibade: After marriage what next? Mummy: Babies! (With so much joy) We love mummy jare. 😂 Kudos

[@flok7201]

The woman watching the lady like what is this talking😂😂 Trust me I understand this woman sometimes its insecurities and low self esteem is causing this, im hearing it in her voice. Im happy she didnt have a daughter.

[@kaysmellsgood]

They don't pressure their sons that much...they want the guy to make money first and be established before settling down but as a female child immediately after school it's marriage... whether you've achieved your goals or not

[@melodyoghenebrorhien9537]

The most important thing is to be self secured Thank God I came across this video The pressure the society mounts on singles is too much But i'm not shaken anymore I'll marry right and at the right time

[@beatricejames7420]

I'm Yoruba by tribe 24years old It's almost like the deadline I have to get married is this Year And I must marry a Yoruba guy Now I've never dated any Yoruba guy, none has asked me out before I'm very single and the pressure is getting on my nerves Most of my age mates in my circle are married with children I wish that society and parents can allow their children to breathe If the husband comes fine and good Some of us are not even picky, we just don't want to marry anyhow or manage anybody hence the delay I pray that God will satisfy us early and make us all happy

[@EREBETV]

Hmmm I understand you quite well It is well dear

[@beatricejames7420]

@@EREBETV thank you

[@omololaolashebikan7478]

@EREBE .TV I guess I am ready for that video shoot now. Let's do this lol

[@omololaolashebikan7478]

@EREBETV

[@deolaronipede372]

Amen ohh. That’s just it, don’t marry anyhow please. It’s not one of those things you do to score points 😭

[@gbengasobowale9614]

We know people that said they werent bothered in their 30's. Confident. Strong. Opinionated. We even tried to link them up, and we were seen as being ambituous. Now close to 50's and they want to marry.

[@bidemiabiola8097]

This lady shares same mind-set with me. Not like we are that picky, its self awareness and you cant be that aware and still settle for someone who wont value you non relate same way as you. They wont just fit in and you wont want to imagine living the rest of your life wishing you're never married or praying your partner will grow, mature or understand to a certain level. It's going to be exhausting! I am in my early 30s, not depressed and will always be genuinely happy for people. People see me and think I am 20s, honestly.

[@Jassys-Hangout]

Wow I'm so happy to come across this great platform that talks about things I have always thought of in our society, an avenue like this that I have thought of becoming one day. Things that have shaped and changed my childhood, things that have turned me into the type of female I am today. I'm still young maybe but I have seen a lot, I have experienced life, and life showed me. But I have learned through all the experience and those experiences have molded, broken me, and made me strong.

[@SholzTV]

Moji- you did that!!! Tell them!!🎉🎉❤❤

[@oyehamhammed2019]

Funny how i saw someone post his view about this on twitter and i was just pissed at him, but watching how aunty mojibade defended herself and like-minded women as a whole, i feel soo satisfied😊I just love the CONFIDENCE, especially the being "too successful" part. Great interview regardless ❤

[@oluwatoyinoyetayo7858]

I love Mojibade.. She spoke my mind. God bless you sweet. God when is a banter and ends there. There are many married now and wish to be single again. If you will get married do it right so you don’t rush out.

[@mimialasan9480]

I can’t seem to find the first part of this interview.Miss Mojibade is so self -aware ,confident and a big inspiration

[@tundedavid7364]

She made so much sense. she has identified herself and where she is right now. But I don't understand why people understand marriage to be a hult, or a slowdown. I believe marriage to be about likened alignment, where two people with similar objectives come together to love support and make each other become their best versions.

[@drlovie]

The other woman is only 45, however, is very outdated in some of her views, despite being only about 10-15 years older than the other woman. Everyone is free to their own opinion, however, her remarks towards the other woman were quite invalidating. The rush to have kids and not have financial independence is what is actually contributing to the oppression many women encounter worldwide. It should be important to promote educate, financial stability, and personal desires before having children. I like how respected the other woman was despite her values and personal aspirations being doubted.

[@XAVIERXANDER]

If a woman who was married at 28 holds this kind of view, imagine what she would have said if she had gotten married at 24. Thabk God for not giving her a daughter. She would have destroyed her head with nonsense mindset.

[@kaysmellsgood]

Do you get if she had a daughter the poor girl will be feeling pressured at a young age feeling as if she can never be truly happy if she's not married yet

[@omololaolashebikan7478]

Lol

[@nancyokosi1]

Honestly. But come to think of it, she'd be a mother in law,

[@neulite24]

The issue with all of you is not finding the balance in this conversation. You all had debates before and the crux is to generate contrasting opinions. People have married earlier and had good marriages. "Some" Clowns have married late and still married wrong. So far you are living, you can't take away what the society thinks, alot of you ladies come online to bash the woman and go to your beds to cry and pray for a man, so c'mon. Take what you could take, and keep it moving. You are entitled to your mindset, she's entitled to hers Y'all denied their is no biological clock? Yab association

[@sariat2307]

​@@neulite24There is biological clock yes, but there are also practical solutions for issues when they arise. Some people married young and are yet to be parents. Some people become parents and life just happens. We don't get to dictate what is the right time for people to make decisions about their lives. There are so many married people and parents out there that have no business being married or being a parent to anyone.

[@oyindamolaoyadele2885]

Wow, this lady is wonderful. I wish you the best 💗

[@tolusanwoolu5663]

That's what the scriptures say. Whatever you gace in life, be grateful and happy

[@pauljegede4185]

Two different lenses I love how attentive both women are and how they respond in their "Truth" to each other.... Thank you both Thank you Miss Mojibade for being constructive and respectful. Thank you for communicating eloquently and graciously. Thank you Mrs Olashebikan for allowing Miss Mojibade speak her truth. Thank you for listening and seeing Miss Mojibade's point of view. Two Truths spoken Thank you for this Joysoapng😊

[@goodnessiredia1526]

It’s funny how the interviewer became the interviewed. 😂 Our African mothers

[@AyomideDesignsOfficial]

It was great watching this and listening to Mojibade☺️

[@dizixv]

Very insightful conversation…. I like Mojibade, she’s so graceful and so confident in herself.

[@estheraiyeniwon9551]

I am bit confuse. Is there a market in Nigeria where they sell or pick husbands from? Because ko ye mi mo oh. Between last video and this one. The confusion is real for me.

[@Agu-042]

Ajamgbadi market them plenty there

[@lukekehinde4515]

I've to detach her words from her feelings. She displayed insecurity, fears of the unknown, classy preferences. Even if there are points, happiness does not come from fulfillment. As earlier said in the interview, you can't miss what you never have. She wanted to cover the deep response with words. She even trailed on feminism ideas to compensate for her lateness in getting married. Well, I wish her good luck. Nothing kick-in until that age of reality. Late 40's, 50's then we can talk

[@koladeogundare978]

Boss!!! They won’t allow men like us speak. The whole media is full of what women want but they won’t allow men speak or rather they pick weak men so speak so as to soothe their narrative and what they want to hear. She is fighting biology. She’s fighting family who genuinely care Social media is not smiling cos life will ask you difficult questions but all they want to do is to explain away their stands. The strategy is HOPE but as her if hope is what is serving every other aspect of her life that she’s experiencing result. She wants family to talk about other things. Those areas that she has results. But this one where she is not and not ready to take accountability, she wants to blow grammar. Let’s all leave them and stop asking them when they are getting married. Let’s tone down the societal pressure. But I hope she can stop herself at night from asking herself what is wrong with her. Cheers Boss

[@chidiebereaguziendu7031]

But there's no award for getting married early. Marriage will never be the source of happiness. And who says she can't get married at 40?

[@koladeogundare978]

@@chidiebereaguziendu7031 this is actually laughable. This mindset is what a lot of ladies innocently do not know is very dangerous. In every other aspect of life, we quickly find what works, work hard at it and record success but for settling down, especially for women who have very much short window, we tell them things like this. I will rest my case.

[@chidiebereaguziendu7031]

@@koladeogundare978 it's still the same mindset that forces women to only think about marriage. No one is saying marriage is bad but when that's the only thing a woman can do to make her feel valuable, then it's messed up. That's why the only thing most women can offer is marriage and giving birth. Men like you who like et exert dominance always prefer women who are only marriage focused because you're intimidated by a woman.

[@Jassys-Hangout]

Mrs. Olaseibekan You are lucky to have married at the age of 28. But hope you know that every female has the luck you had. You finished school at 22 but many started their schooling at 22. How do you expect them to meet up with Marriage at a reasonable age which society has stipulated Give your grandchildren early? Is marriage about producing seeds all alone? Who doesn't want to be loved? Who? But are we in a society where males always females to explore their potential fully, to explore and live to the potential they have? Many ladies are already broken due to their background and growing up to the extent that the marriage of a thing is not the solution to repairs then anymore. You had a good background

[@Crown_Jewel_Felicia]

I was already thinking of a way to send mail to my mum's church to help us beg their members from pressuring our mums. They bring that pressure home to us.

[@ucheanekwe7759]

And who says married friends don’t cheat on their friend?

[@odusanyaomotoyosi7663]

This is a great conversation, love it

[@oabdulazeez]

She's happy, without married but dating 😂😂😂 I love the questions from mummy

[@ThaliaHanita]

I got in amarriage situation at 19 i have had 3 kids and am 32...i feel like like getting committed early made me miss alot in life ..i sacrifised alot and feel lost most of the time..i feel like ive not achieved anything for myself or enjoyed anything or be independent rather give to my family...so its better alady marries in their thirties to be contented in life.

[@beebeetea]

wo! Well done o jare Mojibade. This married woman, please park - the way u respond to her or just comment is a bit erm - not too nice. She's only 45 and acts like 100 years old! Mojibade is probably her younger sis if born of same parents but she go do too much aunty toun gbemu! who cares, girls get right with yourself - understand who you are and keep growing! Don't let ANYONE- deceive you - marriage is sweet ONLY WHEN you are the right person and with the right person. Rush in - n u might miss it. There are still some girls who think they are incomplete without being married - they think being in their late 20s mean death sentence. They think that being a MRS completes them without thinking of what marriage is really about. They miss red flags because they just want to get married. Again, stay single for as long as you want but whilst in your singleness - develop yourself

[@kbronz2371]

Wanting your kids to get married at 24 cos you want them to give you grandkids early is selfish to me

[@jurmanggabriella5749]

This is very educative, let people breath, afterall Death is paramount.. wether you married or not, once you find fulfilment its ohkay.

[@aladegboyemercykike7864]

I stumbled on your channel for the first time today and i love your perspective about this issue.

[@faithogechi]

What is people's business with "society"?????

[@yvonneoshevwe2334]

Good question. Society will not feed me and my children. I cannot be thinking of marriage because of society.

[@faithogechi]

@@yvonneoshevwe2334 likeeeee,do you get? Do we now get married because of the society?

[@daffdeeh8166]

I wonder oh.

[@champion3669]

Food for thought…sincerely i feel its her “mindset”

[@deolaronipede372]

Society this, society that. That’s why we have too many broken kids who have grown up into needing therapy to be sane. And that’s even for those who can afford it. Smh. And how youths spans from 21-22 only is still a wonder to me. Youths officially start from 25-35 but what do I know when society knows better. lol

[@ademolaadebiyi7061]

Thumbs up to you, mojibade. Beautiful, brainy, and real.

[@shotbylawal]

Her background influences her perspective

[@otekanonso7059]

I read the comments……. All I will say is That time reveals everything to everyone weak or strong

[@onyeadornkiruka9782]

I feel that single woman should not go all through the pressure. Even the bible doesn't say every woman or person should be married. Some will the single and some married

[@bisolaadebiyi356]

This woman is beautiful!!!

[@marvelajayi1439]

Specify o. Which woman

[@BBAdenaike]

@@marvelajayi1439both of them are

[@kareemhameed4042]

"It will be double-jeopardy if I get it wrong" I understand this Aunty Moji... I hope you get your heartthrob soon. Someone who will love you for you.

[@amarachigabriel8125]

After marriage, and after children, what happens next? Isn't it important we emphasize on purpose and fulfilling our primary assignment while having these things. At your death bed will your joy be that you only got married and had kids? 😂 These things are beautiful, but our relationship with God and fulfiling our primary assignment is more important. If marriage is a part of that, great!