Episode 22: “Get Out Of My House and Go To The Store” with Kate Berlant

[@WilliamTSherman6969]

Alison Roman and Kate Berlant is the crossover I didn’t know I needed but my soul has never felt more validated.

[@bretteelana189]

This has been my favourite Solicited Advice yet! Love Kate! Have her back!

[@georginaisabelrossi7520]

Advice to the divorced mother -- churches sometimes put together gorgeous community thanksgivings!!

[@robertstanley9633]

I genuinely enjoyed this episode, I did not want it to end, and Im obsessed with Kate Berlant! All her points were valid, great sound advice and I love when someone gets it. Thank you for sharing Kate Berlant with us

[@kylelysher8197]

Family Stone is my favorite holiday film, so nice to have it acknowledged, albeit not in great circumstances 😂

[@alisoneroman]

Best holiday film

[@MarvelousMsMiriam]

I’m getting Katherine Hahn vibes and there is no greater compliment

[@willjay916]

Allison's comment to "Go to the store." reminds me of the SNL Target skit of 2016.

[@velocitygirl8551]

I had the exact situation of my husband’s family icing me out f every holiday, and finally he said we can’t come until you stop… we didn’t see them for 2 years! And we had a baby they didn’t see until she was 2… we’ve been married for 21 years, that baby is 19… it was the only way! Ugh… sending my love to her!

[@naomiemoore5725]

What was the reason? Frankly, to me that would be a good thing. Saving buckets of money and skipping family drama. It is clear they don't care for your part of the family. I truly feel so sad for you. It is heartbreaking. Over the years, I hope you created new family traditions that you now celebrate on your own.

[@mry5892]

True. be kind to folks. invite them.

[@elizabethdscala]

Your husband's sister is your husband's problem, and he needs to take care of it OR you have a right not to spend holidays with his family. That will make it his mother's problem too. The problem YOU have is your husband, whose first commitment needs to be to YOU.

[@VistasVlogs]

This year at thanksgiving dinner I did the “go around the table and say what we are thankful for” thing and my brother immediately looked to his son and and said “you don’t have to do that” and the entire table was silent and awkward the rest of dinner. Plates were cleared quickly and it was an uncomfortable moment to say the least

[@savannahdwyer]

Pure kitsch is the perfect description of a marshmallow and it’s why i love them so much haha i’m the person who scrapes extra mallows off the top for my plate. love kate, loved this ep. thanks 🤍

[@wendygrimshaw8131]

Diamond Kosher salt is impossible to find in Canada. I recently scored some across the border in NY State and did a massive happy dance in the grocery store isle.

[@barbarachristensen1902]

Everyone wants to be in the kitchen with me. My granddaughter gave me the perfect Christmas gift…a pair of socks quoting what I tell them…Get the F*@k Outta My Kitchen.

[@naomiemoore5725]

Bbq or deep fry the turkey. We have bbq'd turkry on a weber kettle. Turns out beautifully and I prefer the bbq rather than oven. But that is me. We don't prepare traditional sides, our parents were European. Creamed spinach, cucumber salad, sweet potatoes - NO marshmallows. Buffet of homemade sweet treats, including flourless chocolate cake. Leftovers are turned into turkey soup and turkey croquettes. Just have a great time and don't stress!

[@pinkpinkpinkpink8888]

Sweet potato + marshmallow tip: buy a blowtorch and torch the top to make it extra-toasty?!

[@nmichave]

***Alison, I like the darkest shade of taupe on the wall behind you. 😁

[@anneprendergast7834]

Kosher salt isn’t much used in the UK. Most foodies will use Maldon sea salt or some equivalent.

[@samaragon5426]

Wow, rare occasion where I disagree with Alison. No no no to forced gratitude expression around the table, absolutely hate it lol. All your other takes today are spot on though.

[@basbleupeaunoire]

I'm a southerner - we have ham. But yeah, also turkey.

[@mumin80s]

You can't buy canned pumpkin in Australia. Online prices around AU$ 10 - 20 per can. You may have to bring some with you if you want to make pumpkin pies.

[@pantstown40]

I’ve seen it in various Woolworths in a section for American foods, often had marshmallows, fluffernutter, sweet baby rays, and most wonderfully - jaritos cola. ☺️

[@BamPlan]

I clicked so fast

[@pantstown40]

As a Canadian living in Australia for 13 years, married to an Aussie, I have some advice for the thanksgiving question. Firstly, turkeys are available in most grocery stores. Unlikely to find a fresh one. If you are demanding to cook your thanksgiving meal, pls also be open to letting the aussies share their version of holiday meals. It’s the time for gorgeous mangos, stone fruits, seafood, salads, etc. often aussies with British Irish etc traditions will have a cooked bird but serve it cold with salads. It’s never going to be the same, but my advice is share and allow yourself to be in the moment to enjoy the tradition here. Also, nobody likes a bossy north American so also be prepared to have the piss taken and have a thick skin and welcome jokes. ❤️🤞😘

[@noktilux4052]

There is something about Alison Roman 2.0 (not this vid but the entire migration/upgrade) that's kinda Martha Stewart and pushing me away as if I'm a lowly poor person who is not part of the new realm. The old NY apartment and sh*tty little stove was way more relatable.

[@bretteelana189]

She is now MOTHER teaching us (her children) not peers. I'm kinda into the elevation. People can't stay the same forever, especially when their lives have completely transformed.

[@noktilux4052]

@@bretteelana189 Fair enough. I'm simply pointing out that I find it alienating. Perceiving radical income/lifestyle inequality is not enjoyable for many people. Research shows it is not good for a society.

[@bretteelana189]

@noktilux4052 I completely understand what you are saying. I am from Canada. I have a minimal budget for groceries for my family and do ALL of my grocery shopping at Superstore (Canadian equivalent to Walmart) I live in a farming community so I can find fresh eggs beef and chicken etc for relatively decent prices from farms. I still find all of her recipes pretty relatable and easy to make with the ingredients I can afford. If she makes a seafood pasta, I may have to pass do to pricing but I currently have a chicken dry brining in my fridge using her turkey recipe. And make lemon pasta quite often!

[@noktilux4052]

@@bretteelana189 The recipes themselves are fine. My issue is with the whole lifestyle context: fancy kitchen, fancy house, fancy shop, fancy dinner parties, etc. "Look at my glamorous life funded by your KZbin likes and subscriptions as you toil away like a pleb in an awful job!" Of course she's not intending to convey that message, but the imagery is in one's face and fundamentally depressing, like watching people show off on Instagram. Similar vibe with "Pro Home Cooks" for the past year or two. Anyhow, sorry to be a dower, but that's my experience and why I rarely watch the channel these days.

[@bretteelana189]

@noktilux4052 I do completely get it. I really do. I think I look at her more as something I escape into. I love watching the fire crackling behind her and I love walking through stores like hers and maybe buying one special item. I think it depends in how you look at it. I will never be someone who can afford her lifestyle, but I am someone who likes to dream.