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[@DudeWilliams]

Carla Herrera, I am touched by this video and everything you said. To be so hurt inside but have so much tenderness and intelligence inside is touching. I have the same problem but I wasnt even abused. Your message and sharing has helped me feel less alone and less bad about myself. Thank you, and thank you for being a beautiful soul inspite of the toxicity of others.

[@syonyt5926]

🙌

[@butterfIyy1]

I am sorry you're going through all that. I can understand the aniexty part. i struggle with it a lot myself. im not really a social person and have many insecurities about myself. I always think others are better than me. I always let myself down too much and don't open up to anyone anymore and can feel so alone in my head sometimes. i also want to work but my problem is aniexty aswell and it bothers me so much. I hope you will feel better and get through this. you sound like a very nice kind hearted person. wishing you the best... take care

[@carlaherrera681]

Diana awhhh you're so sweet. Thank you. Your message means a ton.

[@michaelmorse4312]

Oh Lord, our God have mercy 🥺 Your beautiful creations Carla, has experienced somthing beyond aweful, devastating, trimatic that know one should ever have to experience. Father, I pray, I pray that you would speedily send a host of you heavenly angles fly quickly to give her protection so that she will know that she at all time has the protection of the angles of heaven at any moment she calls upon the holy of Jesus and to minister to her. Father, I pray that you will give Carla the Holy Spirit to comfort her, to give her peace of mind, and to preparing her brokenness and freeing her from the torment of her heart and mind because of the things that no one should ever experience. I pray all these things on the behalf of Carla. In the previous name of Jeses amen. Carla, I am so sorry that you had to experience such abuse especially at a young age. When you should have only known trust, unconditional love, protection, encouragement, peace of mind and the joy of life. Our daughter has a friend who we have adopted as our daughter who have experienced the tragedy of abuse. We can not fully understand what she has gone through but we do see the effects that it has had on her heart and on her mind. We are in constant prayer with her. It is an wicked thing that has happened to you. But I want you to know that there is hope. God can repair your brokenness. He loves you and He is angry when these things are done particularly to children. If you like we have a friend who is a Christian counselor that I can refer you to and if you ever need someone to pray for you and with you my wife and I are available. Know that you are not alone. God hears your cry and so do we. Look to God for your strength, peace of mind and restoration of your heart. You can reach out to me any time. God bless

[@GanjaaaBoy]

This world we are living in in this day and age is not meant for sensitive empathic minds. I hope there will be better worlds after this one, all we can do right now is to try and make the best of it. There is so much rotten right now its no wonder people are getting lonely and depressed.

[@carlaherrera681]

Tom Falconburg yeah, it’s not and I hope so too.

[@DudeWilliams]

I am very impressed and touched by the kind and supportive words from so many random people here in the comments. Seeing her video and knowing how immature and insensitive and uncaring most people tend to be its amazing and refreshing to see so much thoughtfulness and support by strangers. Carla Herrera and all of you have made my day. Thanks.

[@MattSavina]

Hi Carla, Very sorry to hear about the things from the past that have had such a harmful affect on you. I really hope you’re doing better now. Are you an INFJ personality type? It’s not always easy to spot fellow INFJs, but for you I feel like I can see that very easily. My challenges and past is different from yours, but I still recognize what you’re going through from feeling the exact same thing and fears before. We have the ability to get so hurt and depressed by other people, but we also have the power to overcome it+. Praying that you’re blessed today and that 2020 will be a BRAND NEW year for you with new hopes and dreams. -Matt

[@carlaherrera681]

Maestropia Music thank you, I very much appreciate it. Yes, I’m an INFJ. A part of me kind of wants to take this video down, but then I posted it to maybe help others.

[@MattSavina]

Carla, Without a doubt it's helpful to many people, so thank you for using your hardship to serve others. I'm also have the INFJ personality so I can empathize with 'some' of your pain, and exactly how you've reacted to it. Don't even bother reading or pay attention to the haters on KZbin. Just focus on all the people you're helping! There are a lot of lonely people in this world, who need people, just like you. -Matt

[@carlaherrera681]

Maestropia Music thank you (: you made me smile. I appreciate your thoughts and words; more people need to hear appreciation, someone that gets them, and loved.

[@MattSavina]

APPRECIATION. You are exactly right, Carla. It's free, but for some reason most people have a hard time giving it away. My name is Matt (the person responding to this thread...), and perhaps you'll get another smile out of this outTakes video... kzbin.info/www/bejne/qKOXpJRojJaUrJY

[@carlaherrera681]

Maestropia Music haha the Barbara Walters and the playing ping pong with the guitar parts made me chuckle. ^_^ thanks for sharing

[@Sinekyre14]

I'm a man from Scandinavia. I am blown away by the deeply spiritual and wonderful person I see on this video. When wonderful souls are born on this earth, they can be a target for very evil forces who seek to corrupt them. Through your horrible experiences, you have kept your amazing soul and loving expression in your eyes. I am beyond touched and feel for you and with you maximally. We will get these dirtbags who attack good souls and we will win, we stand united. Much love from me

[@carlaherrera681]

You made me teary eyed. I greatly appreciate your words and meaning. 🌻

[@migsmethinks5801]

Felt this. Hugs (or headpats or whatever you prefer) from the future to the 2015 iteration of a strong woman who will later be known (among a great many other titles of her awe-inspirimg personality) as 'Carla the Red Vengeance". -A friend from 2022

[@YoshiIsCool1]

You never Deserved Abuse Mental Physical Abuse Or Emotional Abuse. I been thru It all As well. You DESERVE AN AwesomE Life And NicE Friends to Have.

[@taikuntengoku9510]

So sorry for what your going through, don't give up or give in to fear, once you do so it takes over you If your Chrstian, remember Christ will ultimately vindicate you ( Habakkuk 3:10- end of chapter) no matter what the issue is. Get better and hope your doing better and Ok today

[@-The-Stranger-]

You're never alone. "I[Jesus] am with you always, even to the end of the age." -Matthew 28:20 Please don't ever give up, God placed you on this earth for a reason, for tomorrow, and the next day.

[@gothicgraveyard9691]

I hope thing are better since you posted this. Know you are not alone. And I am sure many people here, including myself will be happy to chat with you if you ever need it. All my best. You are a beautiful person both inside and out. NEVER forget that. hugs

[@carlaherrera681]

Gothic Graveyard thank you!

[@nofd1977]

keep ya head up girl, dont dwell on it. im the same way but i try to find the little things in life we forget we are blessed with. Something as simple as goin to read a book at the library. I am all to myself now and love it. PRAY TO JESUS AND HE WILL LIFT YOU, PROMISE

[@bellablu888]

Please read the book Conversations with God.

[@Jvirtsmedia]

How does that correlate to "fear of work"

[@carlaherrera681]

Justin Villarta if you really want to know and are truly wanting to understand, I will tell you how it connects in my case. If you're asking because you want to be critical, I don't want to waste my time explaining.

[@Jvirtsmedia]

Im not asking on a critical standpoint. Im asking because i don't understand the concept of how they correlate

[@carlaherrera681]

Justin Villarta Justin Villarta it's an irrational fear, yes, but it is very real. It feels like I'm going to get killed and die. I cannot think or concentrate and I begin to get anxious. I recently got courage, out of I don't know where, to apply to jobs and actually got the job. Along the way, beginning with the idea of applying to the interviews, I was terrified. The people that may understand my fear are mainly the ones that deeply suffer these things.

[@maxvilla5558]

Justin Villarta Not doing it right.. Fear

[@YoshiIsCool1]

@@carlaherrera681 😭😭😭😭😭😢😢😢😢😢

[@donaldnelson1371]

I understand you a lot of people feel like us we just got to keep her head up and you really got to do what makes you happy even though it's hard sometimes because it makes you feel selfish just keep your head up and love yourself and that is very hard🙃❤️

[@jorrithouweling2274]

Keep on going and learn, Carla! Love from The Netherlands. Hope you are better and 'stronger', now!

[@carlaherrera681]

Thank you 💛

[@LWolveMusic]

Full power to you for this roller coaster life 💪😎❤️...

[@naturedegree5671]

Lovely and nice presentation Friend 💐🌸🌺🥀🌹🏵💮🌻🌼🌷

[@carlaherrera681]

Nature degree thank you (:

[@misszmaira5863]

I recommend the book 'Feeling Good' by David Burns because it sounds like you might be suffering from depression and anxiety. At times we create negative thoughts that turn into false realities and think that our problems over rule all others. I have an extremely rough past, but I learnt to not let it affect my emotions. I became a self emancipated minor at 17 years old and now I'm 29 about to finish nursing school. We can control the way we think and the only thing thats stopping us from happiness is ourselves. I could say a bunch more, but this would be too long. Hope it helps!

[@bellablu888]

You have to believe in the Lord Carla. He has power over all evil things in this life and the next! HE has the power to change you from within.

[@jacksonferretti3159]

Ahhh im probably too late on this but im gonna post anyway.... As someone who can relate to abuse, it really haunts you. The feeling of helplessness is so damn overwhelming that it carries on for the rest of your life. It can make the simplest of tasks overbearing and hopeless. The need for validation is excruciating and often a hinderance for personal growth... You begin to become desperate for acknowledgment that it if its not met you begin to become bitter at the world. For me it made me violent as a child due to the abuse from my first foster parents as well as the kids who bullied me in school... It even drove me to put a knife to my chest when i was 7 and a half... But something and i dont know what kept telling that something was better out there... Im 31 now and still struggle with those demons especially after meeting so many beautiful people from my service in the military... I just got to keep pushing and bursting through walls and i truly believe that those times when i think of my dream just are gonna come true... Stay strong champ... Wish you the best

[@YoshiIsCool1]

Sorry Bro I went Through about the same :(

[@jacksonferretti3159]

@@YoshiIsCool1 appreciate your service sir... Wish you all the best in life... One day we can both make this world a better place

[@carlaherrera681]

I’m so sorry to hear that you went through some really really gut hurting times! Especially being little. Thank you for your words!! 🧡

[@jacksonferretti3159]

@@carlaherrera681 appreciate your reply... I'm doing ok these days... For the time being im back home in Rhode Island reconnecting with family

[@carlaherrera681]

Jackson Ferretti of course (: that’s great to hear. Trying is the best we can do sometimes.

[@YoshiIsCool1]

I"m So So So Sorry I Feel For You This Breaks my 💔

[@YoshiIsCool1]

So Sorry about you're going through all of that Pray and Stay Strong God Loves You

[@Nadirthebottomrock]

I know this is a late comment, but I hope you are doing well! God bless you Carla.

[@Nadirthebottomrock]

Is it bad I have an internet crush on you(in the most respectful way)? Hope all is well!

[@carlaherrera681]

Nadirthebottomrock I’m flattered. Thank you.

[@opticalpower]

Amazing you do right keep going my friend ✨ Kader : Artist & Vided Creator from Optical Power youtube 🎥 (Las Vegas)

[@jesusislukeskywalker4294]

hope things are going ok

[@carlaherrera681]

grasshopper things are going okay, ups and downs, but I’m still here putting in all my efforts. Thank you

[@YoshiIsCool1]

You Deserve Happiness and Love and Respect

[@420f37]

wait this isnt the bathroom how did i end up here

[@aleksseb5504]

I hope you are doing better! I've been through those moments. Life does get better, I promise. I heard and felt your every word, because I've been through this myself, but now life is so much better. Place your trust in Jesus. Jesus loves you in and out, He knows your every thought. Only Jesus can set you free.

[@carlaherrera681]

Aleks Seb ❤️I appreciate it

[@aleksseb5504]

@@carlaherrera681 I'm glad you're alive and well. 😊 I'll pray for you. 🙏

[@carlaherrera681]

Aleks Seb thank you; prayers are extremely appreciated

[@patric51077]

It gets better never give up !

[@LouisCognault]

Curiosity brought me here from comments. I hope you're better now, 3 years later. If we cross paths IRL, you can count on me for a hug.

[@carlaherrera681]

Louis Cognault I should’ve deleted this, but I’d hoped some people suffering from similar situations felt like they weren’t alone and that some can relate. Thanks, it’s something I wouldn’t have wanted you to see or really anyone that I have limited contact to see, but no worries. That’s very sweet of you; rarely do I get hugs.

[@LouisCognault]

@@carlaherrera681 Hopefully, you're now surrounded by people who understand you better, or at least don't make you suffer because they don't work like you and expect you to function the same way as they do.

[@carlaherrera681]

Louis Cognault not exactly, but I don’t expect people to understand me. Nonetheless, thank you for wishing me well!

[@bernitaldown9136]

You still alive? 🤔

[@carlaherrera681]

Bernard Labansat yes, thank God

[@YoshiIsCool1]

@@carlaherrera681 😍😘🤗

[@carlaherrera681]

@Indigenous Lady I totally understand that. I haven’t been able to watch my video all the way through entirely. My advice to you is if you REALLY want to watch it, accept that you might get emotional. You can watch it alone and cry if you need to; it’s okay if you don’t feel put together. I put this out here to help others and maybe the can relate. If you have been through really rough situations, it might help in some way and that makes it worth it. You can also pause it or watch it in pieces. Be easy on yourself 🤍 I hope my advice gives you the push to feel more clear on your decision. So much love your way💜

[@jcwarlock]

4 years later, hope you are doing better pal, time is a healer, keep it up

[@carlaherrera681]

jcwarlock I agree, time helps; thank you 🙌🏻

[@developer-metalhead151]

@@carlaherrera681 I mean sure,ig my jokes aren't that big a help,give all the credit to goddarn which if I am not mistaken is just a simulation that can be replaced by a computer :3 Big brain time😳👌

[@michaelcunningham8273]

Your beautiful inside and out!@@

[@rammexrammex7530]

carla, no trates de agradar a la jente, nunca lo vas a lograr, y no pienses en quitarte la vida, eso es un efecto que afectara a todos, dios nuestro creador, tiene un proposito para todos, y nunca te pone una prueba que no puedas pasar..agradale a dios primero, y veras que empesaras a ver todo mas claro, dios te vendiga😊

[@YoshiIsCool1]

Idk but would like To Text and Or Follow On Fb or Twitter or IG ???

[@developer-metalhead151]

The girl looks really cute while crying 10/10 will pinch cheeks😳👌

[@joeohler6069]

Accidentally clicked this, while watching a video about footage suppressed by the WWE. Regarding your situation: Others fear what they don't understand... Just like when gainfully employed college grads throw shade upon "those other" college grads, the ones who are still stuck stocking shelves and waiting tables (despite graduating with honors). You gotta be G-d-damned perfect, to get a professional job offer after college. And you, dear, ought to spare yourself the pain of earning a college degree but having nothing-to-show in terms of occupational advancement prospects. ~Well, carry on!~

[@YoshiIsCool1]

Same And I am Glad that I Did

[@markdavidking8413]

Let your not be troubled if be with God never think of killing yourself you are to beutiful for that believe in Jesus he got you

[@SimonMohaimin]

Within 0:33 seconds, I fell in love with you dear. From now on never claim you are alone. May Allah bless you.

[@Tropicamania]

Where r u from

[@YoshiIsCool1]

Oh and btw I am A Huge WWE Fan Maybe you would like to Talk about WWE.

[@JesusHernandez-hj3no]

Carla por favor. Sonríe. LIFE is a Valious Gift. Deveras. IT is true. Take GOD'S Hand. Blessins. ❤ feel sorry for all the hurts you have had.

[@JesusHernandez-hj3no]

Saludos Carla 🤗

[@TejAsh19_]

Belated comment but hope you are doing fine now

[@carlaherrera681]

I’ll hopefully do a part 2 in the future. 🩷

[@borattopaz4592]

Hey Carla. I came across your video from a random comment. Some of the things you say I go through as well. The "fear of working" might be from being infantilized by parents or someone in your family(whoever raised you). When you're infantilized by your parents, they raise you all throughout your developmental stages as if you are incapable of doing things for yourself. And that can go on into middle school age, high school and early 20's too. Also extremely over protective, sheltering parents can be the cause of this feeling of fear of the outside world. Fear of everything outside of your parents. I personally was raised in fear and not socialized at all. As a kid my mother has this Unnatural fear or paranoia that something bad was going to happen to her son. Even simply playing with other kids or going to sleepovers, doing what other kids do, being allowed to play in the playground with other kids etc. you know how you see dogs sniff each other and socialize? I was not allowed to do the human version of that as a kid. Psychologically that affected me. I was held in the house for most of my life. By the time I was in middle school and high school I had already developed extreme social anxiety. Extremely sweaty hands simply being around my own classmates. Every environment where everyone is relaxed and having a good time, my eyes are darting around the room and Im extremely paranoid and scared (my mothers paranoia passed on to me), im thinking this person is looking at me weird, or i said this weird or did this weird. It got so bad i stopped going to school cause I was so uncomfortable being around other kids. They would shake my hand and feel how sweaty it was and would make a disgusting face that made me so embarrassed and made me feel like some monster. I couldn't take it anymore and just barely graduated high school. But my first semester of college it continued and I just couldn't take it any longer so I left class one day and never went back. I justified me dropping out of college with "oh I'll just be a music artist (which is actually a dream of mine) but when work came up in conversation years later i felt those same feelings. So I avoided that too, never really held a job and im still living with my parents currently. I have fear to even be on my own and do things for myself because my whole life i was made to believe that I couldn't do things for myself. When i try to do something for myself a standard task or errand Both my parents would stop me and say "no you cant do that, you dont know how to, i will do it" and my father would tell me to my face that im not good as so and so, so i cant do it. To my face talking down to me and telling me that something is not for me because i am not capable or good enough. The reason i have low self esteem and confidence issues is directly caused by parents telling me im not good enough and my mother sheltering and not socializing me so I can't even get that confidence or self esteem from the outside World. They held me in the house drilling me with discouraging, confidence destroying statements and simultaneously teaching me to fear the world. There are so many detailed examples of mental abuse, things that my father said to me growing up that I can share with you so you can come to the root of your problems. Just let me know if you'd like to talking about it and if you see some similarities in our stories. Good luck, im here if you wanna talk

[@carlaherrera681]

Hey, thank you for sharing your personal experience and for your kindness. The the issues I face definitely stem from family. I empathize with your situation and how you have learned someways to begin to get a little comfortable with your situation. I know it’s so hard.

[@borattopaz4592]

@@carlaherrera681 thanks. How have you been doing since this video? Has that fear gone away or is it going away? Would you describe your feelings as social anxiety or is it some kind of trauma? Only share if you feel comfortable to do so of course

[@borattopaz4592]

@@carlaherrera681 if you wanna talk about it in private and not on youtube comment section, my ig is tad.rona and my email officialmontgomeryts@yahoo

[@davidm11dm92]

No one can help us out accept God ......ask and you shall receive the gift of salvation in the name of Jesus don't give up

[@YoshiIsCool1]

Thank you so Much For This Video It Reminds it Of Me I will be here for you if you need A True Friend

[@davidm11dm92]

you need to talk to God and close your eyes and just let it out to our Lord Jesus....he will give you the peace and mind you need in your life

[@gothicgraveyard9691]

How your god helped those kids not to be shot in school, or the way he didn't let people die during the hurricanes, or the way he stopped people starving to death every day in Africa? That is right he didn't stop any of that. Some made up character isn't going to magically fix mental illness or help someone out of depression. Talking to someone will. Reaching out will. Sure being spiritual may be part of your solution, wellness plan but saying this is ALL you need is the WORST advice ever. Please stop spreading harmful 'advice' like this.

[@YoshiIsCool1]

You're Not Alone I Can Be You're Friend and Support You're Friendship.

[@YoshiIsCool1]

I have Almost died Alot I have Depression,Anxiety Attacks bad, Bi-polar and Other Problems with me. I Never am happy and always In Depression Mode. I Go Ghost All of the TIME. I Feel Like The World Is Against Me When I am Alone All of the TIME I drink Rarely I Drink But That's What happens when Anybody is In DEPRESSION MODE

[@DHFlip18]

What's up pretty girl Carla, how was your day? I happened to stumble across your video by chance and simply want to wish you a happy day 😃

[@YoshiIsCool1]

I am the Same Way

[@harishdevadiga2382]

Hello

[@Tropicamania]

I love your voice dear

[@YoshiIsCool1]

😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭

[@YoshiIsCool1]

Hi You're Beautiful

[@Tropicamania]

Wow

[@ranjitsusra5587]

Hiiiiiii

[@bamsteiner3340]

Sweet Latina..... Smile it can't be that bad 😄