Escaping the Trap of Harsh Criticism

Do you criticize and pass judgment on others? Do you find yourself with a negative disposition, always finding fault with something or someone? Is it difficult for you to see the positive in a person or a situation because the negative is so evident in your eye? Are you bound to give your critical point of view for the good of all mankind?
The spirit of criticism is rampant even in believers’ lives. If you have been a victim of abuse, you can have more tendencies towards criticism and judgement. Maybe your parents constantly criticized or demeaned you and now you do the same things to others. This is a coping mechanism that is rooted in our emotions and our mindsets and needs to be deal with. A tree with bad fruit will grow instead and will control us for the rest of our lives.
If you recognize yourself in this description, then you’ll understand that criticizing other people, circumstances, or conditions in your life can quickly become very toxic to yourself and others around you because:
Cynicism makes you immune to joy, to satisfaction.
Others try to avoid you.
The love in your heart eventually runs dry.
In the Oxford dictionary cynicism is “an inclination to believe that people are motivated purely by self-interest; skepticism”: doubt, distrust, mistrust, and suspicion.
Proverbs 10:12 says “Hatred stirs up contentions, but love covers all transgressions”.
We are all created for intimacy and love and when we have the spirit of criticism in our DNA its very difficult to find and love people, to give you empathy and the support you need to heal emotionally. No one wants to be around you.
You will be a polluted still water and no flow of the Holy Sprit will go out and you will continue to suffer, and you will not grow spiritually in your relationship with God.
What are the motives behind the critical spirit?
Ego
Meriam -Webster dictionary describes ego as the practice of talking about oneself too much; an exaggerated sense of self-importance: Conceit
Conceit means favorable opinion especially excessive appreciation of one’s own worth or virtue.
This includes jealousy or envy, vengeance, anger, hatred, and holding grudges for the purpose of personal gain by destroying the other person.
The following Synonym for egotism is startling when you ponder and think about it.
bighead,
complacence,
complacency,
conceit,
conceitedness,
ego,
pomposity,
pompousness,
pride,
pridefulness,
self-admiration,
self-assumption,
self-conceit,
self-congratulation,
self-esteem,
self-glory,
self-importance,
self-love,
self-opinion,
self-satisfaction,
smugness,
swelled head,
swell headedness,
vaingloriousness,
vainglory,
vainness,
vanity
Fear
Control
This is feeling out of control and using manipulation and shaming someone to gain control.
A critical spirit offends God and causes Him to judge that sin. Luke 6:37 says, “Do not judge, and you will not be judged; and do not condemn, and you will not be condemned.” God warns us in Matthew 7:2 that we will be judge the same way we judge others. Unless dealing with a heretic teaching false doctrine (1 Corinthians 2:15; Matthew 7:6, 15-16; John 7:24; 8:15, etc.).
A critical spirit in action is the opposite of loving your neighbor as yourself. Relationships are broken when there’s gossip, backstabbing, judgment, and slander. When we are critical toward others, we put ourselves in an authoritative position over them. This isolates a critical person from fellowship with others. People tend to separate themselves from harsh and critical authority.
A critical spirit is a negative attitude of the heart that seeks to condemn, tear down, and destroy with words. In contrast, constructive criticism involves opinions that are meant to build up, especially in regards to heresy.
A critical spirit creates blind spots in a person’s heart and mind causing them to believe they are being constructive. It is characterized as the ungodly.
This is feeling out of control and using manipulation and shaming someone to gain control.
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