ESFJ tier-ranking the 16 personalities

[@trinaq]

I love how the ESFJ talks as though she's instructing preschoolers how to do arts and crafts. The passive aggressive tone just makes the video. Also, it's not surprising that she relates everything back to a party theme. "If you're not gifting, our friendship is drifting."

[@Blockidk-i1n]

Lol it's ironic that Fe users can be so out of touch with the kind of tone that puts people at ease, not that I can talk.

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

That's 100% Blair from Gossip Girl

[@dxfifa]

@@Blockidk-i1n It's Te demon. They don't know and don't care about respect, hierarchy, what people think, what makes people feel useful. Just what makes others feel the right emotions, be nice to them and everyone getting along

[@Blockidk-i1n]

"I don't normally put INFPs at the kids table, they just sort of find their way there anyway" sigh

[@ElizabethWalters-yk4ui]

fr!!!

[@Lorenzaccia]

I want to be in the upper categories... Just once... Who love and understand us ? ;-;

[@ZuerstJesus]

@@Lorenzaccia Meee!!! Come to my party as my guest of honor!

[@AdorableOracle]

I did see a tier ranking once that had INFP and ISFP at the top! We must never give up hope. Now, if you excuse me, I’m going to go work on my novel and talk to my snake plant Henrietta.

[@trebaneconapise7793]

@@Lorenzaccia I feel like bringing a gift is an automatic open door to the super guest tier. :D

[@mustaineboots]

You know this series is esfp-made when half of them are party-based

[@ZuerstJesus]

You're right!!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@FruitsChinpoSamuraiG]

Ah yes, the kids table. Also known as the ''don't talk to me unless it's not small talk'' zone lolol

[@sagemaster1357]

sounds fun ngl lol - INFJ

[@FruitsChinpoSamuraiG]

@@sagemaster1357 it does ! but rather than crafts they should have some mario kart or mario party games instead

[@kyurei4478]

We host this zone as INFJs, would you like to join? Just know that small talk is prohibited. These kids are currently trying to reinvent the world. Additionally, we also help them finding a point in joining adults.

[@LiorTamir]

​@@sagemaster1357 Well personally I hold the preconception that a small talk is just an intro for a real talk. And they will continue this with me... Sometime.... This preconception may or may not be a delusion. - fellow Infj.

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

​​@@LiorTamirYou're up for a lot of disappointment there in the world. Btw, if you ever find out what's the cause and purpose of the universe and what matter and light and energy and consciousness are, pls do let me know!

[@rhdrewable]

I love the totally NOT judgmental tone when discussing the INFP playing with grass and/or starting an introvert hub. LOL

[@trixi1608]

I am an INFP and my mum is an ESFJ and I have been scrutinously judged all my life.. *sigh*

[@kyurei4478]

​@@trixi1608Yeah, S types can be very judgy, not just the SJ types actually. I would say tho as a J type, a judgement isn't always to take negatively. It can be very helpful sometimes to reconsider your actions when you can listen. But usually it's just biased judgements and people only take it as an occasion to say they're right. Many people forget what an impersonal judgement means. Not a judgement because you think you're right but because you think it's right. There is a subtle yet major difference.

[@saintfighteraqua]

I like to make crafts and rings and things from grass. I didn't say I was good at it.

[@rhdrewable]

@@saintfighteraqua I usually find the pet at the party. Extra points if the pet is outside because then I feel bad for it being left out. Grass doesn't suck either, though.

[@ILoveSkzandFelixx]

@@kyurei4478 AS types? that sounds intiutive bias, N types are very judgy too actually ive seen more N types who are more judgy than S types

[@jashepoon]

Kristin, you're a gift to this world use this for next time you attend one of Marty's parties unprepared!

[@annarichter484]

ENTP: I know that not bringing a gift triggers you. More fun for me right from the get-go. 🤣🤣🤣

[@HerKnightable]

(ENTP) If I show up I probably made up my mind exactly fifteen minutes before I was supposed to leave to go to said party. 50/50% I actually showed up.

[@qualitymcbro8452]

As an ENTP, I was thinking I probably would by the 2nd or 3rd, but then I watched the video to completion. Yeah. No gifts. I'd still probably go, but no gifts.

[@kyurei4478]

It just fascinates me how ENTPs' Fe is so different.

[@spOOkytimes]

My partner (ENTP) thinks gifts and cards are stupid and I (INTJ) secretly agree. I just venmo people now. I appreciate when people just ask for money or charity donations.

[@kyurei4478]

I mean if showing affection through more personal and attentive ways than money is just stupid now...no wonder why everyone thinks people in general suck and don't actually care about them lol.

[@Moonlitwatersofaqua]

We love the esfj for accommodating everyone's party needs even when she's secretly about to blow a fuse. Its a skill and we love her for it.

[@LetsallberockstogetherP]

"ENTPs are... valued extroverts, with... valuable things to say..." You can feel the inner rage lol

[@jamiel6169]

How to get an INTJ to your party: Make it their responsibility to show up. Then we WILL bring a gift, we WILL help out and we WILL play any game you have *pre-informed* us of. And as soon as you pull out something that you haven’t communicated, that is brand new, we’re out.

[@Kettvnen]

hate to admit but thats accurate, we probably need to tolerate changes a bit better haha

[@KulebyakMaster]

​@@Kettvnenas soon as you learn to accept some chaos in your life, it becomes so much easier to live. Not to say i am the most "enlightened" person in the world, but it truly did change my life for better in many ways - INTJ of 20y.o

[@lt.branwulfram4794]

As an INTJ, when I was younger, I was forced to come to parties by my family and always ended up making my own Kids Table to cope. Now that I've achieved an iota of independence after reaching my early 20s, I can gleefully not go to any parties without fear of getting dragged against my will.

[@quietcave]

Love the part about INTJ spot on! Give us a written set of rules like 1. Arrive at stated start time +-30 min 2. OK to depart at arrival time +60 min 3. Sit in a chair outside a 120 degree arc of the party game to avoid said game participation 4. It is acceptable to hide from other guests for x% of the time you are at the party 5. Here are the x specific topics that will be discussed in group session so we can prepare responses prior 6. Specific list of acceptable gifts incl size/amount and who to hand it to or where to place it upon arrival. Essentially any rules, conventions or parameters regarding attending a party as we’ve only been to three in our entire lives.

[@jamiel6169]

@@quietcave heavily relatable! If I could get a contract for all expected responsibilities for any given social event I would check off every box and feel validated 😂

[@Hsg1006]

"Where people can go to...introvert" - Dear Kristin 2024

[@Hsg1006]

That subtle superiority complex by the esfj elevates the vid so much.

[@praneethalva7776]

9:28 I'm sorry, ESFJs. You can't incentivise (read: lure) us. That's dishonest. Don't mess with our Fi. Keep releasing great videos like this at our own pace, Kristin! -INTJ

[@trebaneconapise7793]

Honestly the gothic literature theme was tempting though I'd probably bail on it realising that 90% of the attendees, including the host, somehow know some characters from pop culture but have never read any of the books and are blissfully unaware of the themes, metaphors, symbolism, context and literary heritage, and might spend the entire night romanticising Dorian Gray. If I'd even bother arriving, a single mention of "the Frankenstein" referencing the creation would send me into an unnecessarily long rant, followed by a dramatic exit from the scene. Not to mention that there would be SO MANY amazon-bought black corsets as an outer layer because it's "hot and victorian" and nobody even considers that it was freaking underwear. So maybe it's for the best that the INTJ didn't arrive, we'd go straight to "warning: vibe change".

[@ethanpintar5454]

People can mess with your Fi all they want, there’s no sacred rule against it

[@kyurei4478]

INTJs think INFJs get lured on the contrary but that's not the case. We have Fe not Fi so we just see things differently and simply agree sometimes. It's just tiring to be underestimated based on preferences.

[@praneethalva7776]

Woah, I was not expecting more than five likes on my comment! I had half a mind to delete it!

[@EyeHeartSUSHI]

HAHAHA as soon as you mentioned the group "wants to help with things so they dont have to talk.." I knew istp.. i like to help. physically.. i hate talking at group gatherings.. i usually place myself on cleaning duty to avoid people. been doing this my whole life.

[@welcometochaos4]

My personal preference is to avoid the whole thing altogether... Unless there's good free food. Gotta save money somewhere, and distracting yourself from whatever it is you're avoiding at the moment is _kinda_ a bonus...

[@scone1025]

My favorite duty is vacuuming a pool when it's still slightly too early in the season for anyone to actually be swimming

[@EyeHeartSUSHI]

@@welcometochaos4 see the problem with me is.. i love avoiding parties all together too.. but sometimes my low fe won't allow it.. like a close family member.. or my best friends wedding.. or something where I'll feel guilty if I don't go. That's when I have to do things like this. Otherwise I avoid everything.. (work parties or any gatherings.. stuff that's not actually mandatory)

[@welcometochaos4]

@@EyeHeartSUSHI A fair and accurate rebuttal. I'd have mentioned those in my prior message, however, I didn't want to ramble on too long, as I don't know how long the average amount of speaking is. This has led to me almost not talking at all, lol.

[@EyeHeartSUSHI]

@@welcometochaos4 fair my friend. 😆

[@redroverly]

INTP: *Hopefully gets put in a kids table since they arent any other better options.* ESFJ: INTPs were born for the kids table. INTP: Nice! Also ESFJ: "They're too slow with tasks" INTP: Good, I would rather be. Why would I do chores of your responsibility of your party? Good video nonetheless!

[@MariaGarcia-pc9bt]

Nail it! I HATE going to parties where I'm forced to help, like hello I would never ask you to clean up my parties. (the few that I have lol)

[@Moonlitwatersofaqua]

My reaction was: esfj: intp was born for the kids table me: yup seems fair esfj: they are too slow with tasks me: that sounds like a challenge.

[@megham11]

"Time for the intuitives! I'm just going to take a vitamin C..." killed me

[@simonetozzi7912]

Same! 🤣🤣

[@adhistie1694]

😂😂

[@lilblondiebear]

The real party is at the 🌈✨️🩷 k i d s t a b l e 💜✨️🦄

[@linmonPIE]

Heck yeah! Adults are boring. Let’s go out in the yard and make mud pies and play with their pets 😂

[@thepickles8833]

“Party? Great! When can I not show up ?”

[@ElizabethWalters-yk4ui]

fax!

[@jajphotog77]

Hey, "hostess", I am the gift! LOL

[@coultersheppard2052]

ENTP detected.

[@ccheyenne]

As an ENTJ, I represent this remark. You're welcome for my attendance, I am going to go eat as much food as I can, now

[@traumagent324]

yep, I absolutely agree. Showing up is the gift itself. - ISTP fungirl

[@kyurei4478]

Well, that's why gifts are disappointing sometimes I guess lol.

[@header_guard1112]

INTJ, I agree. I don't want to be here.

[@bb_ghosty]

kristin doesn’t know that kids in the US are taught a song of all the states in alphabetical order & it shows :) i can say them all in 18 seconds -entj

[@jackies1729]

I didn't learn this song... but my Grandma always swore by the alphabetical order method :) but I'm 53, and have had a rough month, so my brain is a little frizzled right now

[@CharlieAnderson-o7e]

I didn't learn that.

[@bb_ghosty]

@@CharlieAnderson-o7emy friends from different schools/states did, so it’s definitely common. it could be an age thing. we’re gen z

[@ccheyenne]

I'm a millennial and I was not taught this song

[@lilblondiebear]

Omg almost 30 years later and that song still lives rent-free inside my brain.. 😅

[@KahunaPuffin]

INTP: I truly appreciate how aggressively welcoming and accommodating the ESF*s are portrayed as being towards all the other personalities (even those with the audacity to not bring a gift!). Even when they don't understand, they are understandING, and we all need someone like that in our lives. ❤️ My party vibe is that of an undercover Starfleet researcher trying to blend in to an alien civilization in order to observe, so "INTPs were born for the kids' table" is the most accurate statement ever. 🤣🤣🤣

[@linmonPIE]

What about the INFP who brings a handmade gift (if it’s a birthday/ baby shower etc.) because they’re an artist but then proceeds to hang out by the snack table and/or play with the pets the whole time? … Asking for a friend 👀

[@ESTJchip]

as Kristin innocently claims that ENFJs wouldn't try to rearrange stuff behind ur back . . .my Mother. . .a TRUE ENFJ . . . rearranges not only tea towels. NOT only the whole Kitchen and contents BUT will redecorate ur whole house and life if they get the chance. . .

[@ChrisM-w8y]

** shows up just to name all 50 US states (and their capital cities)…then leaves. - an intj

[@spOOkytimes]

***also pays the $20-$100 fee via festive card to take some food and a piece of cake before promptly making a French exit.

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

Not akward at all!

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

Not awkward at all!

[@Scruffed]

As an INTP, I'll normally take the INTJ approach of just not showing up, unless all of the following conditions are met: 1) The party is organized by someone I know and care about; 2) I know most of the other guests and find them bearable to talk to; 3) There's a substantial meal involved, not just drinks and chips/nachos; 4) I'm not expected to do much beyond attending, eating and talking, unless it's something I really enjoy (i.e. not drinking, singing and dancing).

[@renab.7390]

INFJ here. Same goes for me. Which is why I rarely attend (or am invited to parties. I don't mind though. I'd rather spend a cozy evening at home than go to a cumbersome (or boring) party. side note: Obligatory after work "parties" with colleagues are the worst. 😑

[@daisydaisy246]

This is why I always ghost people who sent me party invitations if I didn't care about them enough. Never reply to their texts either. Thanjs -INTP

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

As an INTP, I do agree. But I have tried to make it a game to switch to our mirror function for parties with some psychological force (entj) and then go there, behave as if the party was mine and kiss all the girls. It does work!

[@dazzlebreak4458]

I am an INTP too, but I usually make an effort to attend if there is chance that there will be interesting people

[@MariaGarcia-pc9bt]

As an INTP with an ESFJ mom , I can confirm she hella judgy, this lady loves to cook and party.

[@sylviaowega3839]

The INTP, INFP, ENTP’s and even INTJ’s will scan the whole room for finding their own tribe; and if not sit by themselves

[@kindauncool]

Nah, ENTPs wil just find somebody to talk to and make their tribe. INTJs are would-be kids' table members though I do concede on that

[@KY-jd1nl]

Yeah as one ENTP, i would say probably not lol (assuming its a party I want to be at in the first place). With so many new people and combinations, why would I seek out the same old "tribe" Im familiar with and/or see often? Like what a waste

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

Mostly this means to sit by themselves or talk to the only other intro for the whole evening.

[@jimclayson]

INTP here. I've known more xSFJs than I can even begin to count, including my parents. While we experience the world in very different ways most of the time, and my house is NEVER going to be as tidy as theirs, there's no one I trust more to look out for the people around them, be they friends, family or a random stranger who wandered too close. They ALWAYS give more than they take. They may not understand my point of view 73.6% of the time (which, coincidentally, is the same percentage of statistics that are made up on the spot), but they're always there when they're needed.

[@LiorTamir]

Just know that your statistics joke is appreciated. It made me feel unexplainably fuzzy.

[@jimclayson]

@@LiorTamir 😉

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

That's all true but they are still awkward and waste their lives with lots of nonsense, right?

[@jimclayson]

@@CIA.2024-u9b "...waste their lives with lots of nonsense..." My ESTJ sister would probably say that, but no, I don't agree at all. xSFJs are all about family and friends and making sure they're protected and provided for. That's about as far from "nonsense" as I can fathom. Sure, they get fixated on odd details and get stuck in their ways... but that's true of most types in one way or another. They're the backbone of any society.

[@MurMurYoutube_Astra]

I just imagine INFP and INTP sitting at the kids table, drinking tea and trying to realize where they are

[@michael_koski]

Lol, I'd put me in "will help so they don't have to talk to people". As an INFJ, I always find myself helping clean dishes, set the table, etc., just to avoid socializing for a while. I even rewash things just to delay going back into the sensory-overload action (...and extraverts). *terrified look* But yes, the xSFJ's passive-agressive looks will work on me. And I do end up in a secluded corner with a circle of other introverts, haha. -- Ana

[@__Anna___590]

I don't honestly know why it was so good. But that has to be my favourite in the tier-ranking category.

[@_itsnor_1603]

Well as an INTP i'm not gonna show up to the party unless you are a close friend and I am very social with my close friends. If i am unexpectedly found in a stranger's party i will gladly join the kids table with INFP they are cool.

[@renab.7390]

INFJ here. I'd firmly put myself in the "will help so they don't have to talk to people" category. 😅

[@kyurei4478]

Yeah me too as an INFJ. That would be a good alternative 😆.

[@mimi19932]

Me too

[@abesapien9930]

"There's something to be learned for everyone in this video" Already triggered

[@LeoS.B.Rosevillte]

Teaming up with INFPs ✨

[@saranonimus9211]

Me at a house party...get my security beverage...guzzle security beverage then get stability beverage...inspect all bookshelves and knickknacks to gain information on established values of the domain...find observation perch where I will spend the rest of the party ~INTP

[@jackies1729]

Challenge Accepted: Arizona, Alabama, Alaska, Colorado, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Iowa, Idaho, Kansas, Louisiana, Montana, Missouri, Minnesota, Mississippi, Illinois, Indiana, Maine, Nevada, New Hampshire, NOrth Carolina, North Dakota, New Mexico, Oregon, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Tennessee, Virginia, West Virginia, Kentucky, Utah, South Carolina, South Dakota, Washington, California, New York, New Jersey, Maryland, Connecticut, Delaware, Michigan, Wisconsin (best one ;) ), Nebraska, Wyoming, Vermont, Arkansas, Massachusetts, Texas - 15 minutes (longer than it used to take when my brain box was fresher) - INFP (and, yes, Wisconsin is the best one :) )

[@Necro3Monk]

States are pretty simple, just read them off a map in your head. Never do people say it has to be done in alphabetical order. :) I had them memorized by 2000 population (California, Texas, New York, Florida, Illinois .....Vermont, DC, Wyoming) once, but haven't kept up with more recent censuses and the memory from back then is fuzzy.

[@jackies1729]

@@Necro3Monk My Grandma didn't say it HAD to be alphabetical, but she recommended it. Yes, picturing a map of the states is a good way too - or remembering which ones one might have visited. I did know all of the capitals (and a lot of world city capitals back in the day... my Grandpa used to test me when i was in grade school - i was/am such a history/geography nerd :) ) By census is a very unusual way - interesting

[@huntedsnark7507]

Well, yes, but are you Australian? (An Australian who randomly adores Wisconsin, perhaps? I always thought that was a lovely name, by the way, along with Vermont.) But, you see, this is something Australians challenge each other to do, because it's a bit obscure to us. They all seem familiar, but when listing them out, we're prone to overlook the ones that have fewer disaster movies made about them. 😉

[@jackies1729]

@@huntedsnark7507 no, I live in the States (Wisconsin 😊) and, yes, it is a lovely name. I do like Vermont too. Both have very pretty landscapes too. We have a lot of lakes here.... And forests 😊

[@huntedsnark7507]

@jackies1729 I've always been rather in awe of northern hemisphere temperate forests. 😁

[@UrWeid]

Here it goes: completely another meaning and atmosphere of a "party" from an ESFP one, and I'd better go to ESFP's for sure. (ENTP) Also having an INTJ regularly coming to my house for entertainment, cozy watching/playing parties etc and always asking for more time together I treasure it now even more after looking at this ESFJ xD

[@uninterestingname114]

At the states challenge, I instinctively paused the video and started listing all the states in my head, concluding that they can most definitely all be named in the space of an average party. I’m an INTP. It’s scary sometimes how predictable that makes me.

[@Sofiarey285]

ENFP are great gifters when we want to be and it's unexpected, just because. Bringing a gift because it's expected is completely different. It doesn't mean anything.

[@ZuerstJesus]

Yep, true!

[@erinl422]

Oh no she caught on to the folding-napkins-as-an-excuse-to-avoid-eye-contact-and-small-talk strategy -an ISTJ

[@helenshianimation7567]

I love how INFP doesn't even know where they are and INTP is just too slow and ENTP doesn't know how to say 'hello' and 'thank you'

[@Sykkulogy]

unrelated but i remembered a while ago how i much i miss typing teas 😭

[@JohnHenrysaysHi]

It's all related! Bring it in, sista! jk Typing teas rocked.

[@huntedsnark7507]

To this day, every time I try a new tea, I read the description to see whether it would work as a 'type'. Actually, I don't even need to try them, I just stand in the shop, reading the boxes.

[@thesupremecheeselord]

I can feel the passive aggression of the esfj seeping through the screen

[@PockyFiend]

I love how Kristin's ESFJ characters has changed from the Mary Poppins-like vibes of her earlier work (case in point: "The 16 Personalities' Inner Monologs at A Party "), to the catty, passive-aggressive vibe of her latest videos (cases in point: ""The 16 Personalities Through The Eyes Of An ISFJ," "The 16 Personalities Working Retail," and "The 16 Personalities at A Parent-teacher Conference.").

[@sagemaster1357]

I love the infj part about giving us the passively aggressive smile to make us join. Which is honestly true because sometimes, deep down I do feel guilty. 😅

[@sashad6157]

I rewind that part to hear again as I can confirm its true ... :) ... as IN..

[@kyurei4478]

Yeah it's the same with ENFJs but I think we simply agree and it pushes us to want to be more Extraverted with Fe. We're not going to take it as negatively as other Introverts I feel like.

[@ramennight]

I have never heard of this gift giving things for parties. Closest I've heard is "Oh yeah, its your job to bring X food to the party" and everyone is supposed to bring something so its not expensive for the host.

[@mojyoqueen350]

As an INTJ I attended a party ONCE in my entire life and it was my best friends birthday party. And I went there only because my bf is an ENTP and he thought that telling everyone that there will be a party is organised enough [he didn't even mention an hour, nor date], so I was obligated to help. Never again, parties are boring.

[@kindauncool]

Lol sounds like cope to avoid getting out of your comfort zone & engaging that Se. Parties are only boring if you are -INTJ

[@denisesiddon7241]

About right. The infp would go to the kids table. We are kids at heart

[@DreadCanary]

As an INTJ...meta-discussions about the party would entice me. Like, pretend "throwing the party is a strategy game" explain some basic concepts and how to spot them and then set me loose. Because if you frame a party as something I can optimize...Imma wanna optimize it.

[@spOOkytimes]

I was thinking this exact same thing 😭 as an INTJ, I quickly become the vice president of the party to, not only optimize it, but also to always know everything going on and never be surprised by an activity. I also love gossip and being in the know so I can handle awkard situations with more ease.

[@farhankapadia6814]

Funny how both ESFX types based their tier list on how they both would rank the types on how they would be at parties

[@WillKMemoria]

As an INFP... Yes Kids Table 💖💖💖

[@arcadianfox8127]

If you don't feel strongly about your integrity, ESFJ, why should I? Good luck with your party. All the best. I'm sure all those guests genuinely care about you.

[@lilblondiebear]

That is the most intj comment ever. Well done

[@adamg5193]

That lawnmower improv was incredible. And scary.

[@applepatronum4934]

....I am so surprised people should bring gifts to parties. Now i am rethinking etiquete. -ISFJ

[@trinaq]

I would definitely end up at the Kids' Table, since I'm an INFJ who rarely attends parties, so wouldn't get on well with Marty. She likely wouldn't even know who I am! 😹

[@jashepoon]

I'd be happy to see you come over and we'd chat about movies all evening long~

[@trinaq]

@@jashepoon Yes, introvert movie party! That seems right up my alley already.

[@frogleeloo5]

ENFP here, i get what you mean with the forget to bring a gift thing but i however ALWAYS bring gifts that i made myself three seconds before the party. And they are pretty creative most of the times because i am scared that the person i gift will be disappointed lmao

[@woundedhealer5416]

Me, an ESFP (before the video started): "Oh, this ESFJ would put me in S tier but watch, she's gonna be jealous and stick me in A tier instead." Kristen you totally get it xD

[@edwright4892]

Another corker to add to this hilarious series! 😂

[@masaya0107]

Lol I’m cracking 😂 ESFJ to us ENTP is like karen next door. Hahahahhahhaha

[@waltermelon920]

As an ENTP I never forget to bring gifts buuuut by the time I’m ready to leave a party, it’s because I’m drained and will not be putting in the effort to get stuck in an additional ten minute goodbye 😂

[@chrisc7265]

LOL I am an INFP with a 3 year old and I always end up hanging out with the kids adults are dumb and I couldn't care less what they have to say, much prefer playing with stuffed animals

[@supersoup4672]

I was explaining to my intp sister how you were an esfp pretending to be an esfj ranking the other mbti types “Wow that’s meta” haha

[@trebaneconapise7793]

As an INTJ who has been forced to be present for some parties by my ESTJ mother, we're either helpful so we don't have to socialise (but the loud environment and lots of people drain us pretty quickly) or vibing introvertly at the kids table. Though that is if we're genuinely forced to stay and cannot escape. My mum's 50th birthday party went on until about 3 am and I left with my ISFJ grandma around 9 pm after four hours of waiting for it to be over with earplugs in because I don't have a car and grandma was driving. My ideal image of a "party" is a quiet discussion of various sociopolitically-philosophical-environmental-literary topics at the library - if I somehow am sure that there won't be people making wild claims having done zero research and getting personally offended by constructive feedback. I would actually be more than happy to attend this kind of a party with once a week to once a month frequency. Still would probably be stressed out as hell about the first few. PS: When I was a child, I kid you not, the most blissful parts of visiting any friends of my parents who had children was finding their room in terrible mess and being allowed to clean it up. It was amazing, I once spent half a birthday party of some girl reorganising the furniture in her dollhouse. My Se is miserably weak but the Si, inherited along with some OCD from my grandma, is thriving. Thanks for listening to my TED talk.

[@torid.344]

This is 100% my mom 😂 and it’s even better because she’s an ESFJ and my dad’s an ENTP and that take is 100% what happens at parties 😂😂

[@SarahLorenz]

I am an ENFJ and I fully agree to this explanation. 😂 But my tea towels are folded properly!

[@ZECRA602]

4:23 That line slaps hard ngl

[@Younce_Davies]

I am so happy you put us in the vibe change category. Now find an ENTJ with ADHD and see how much of a vibe change we can be (aka me).

[@JosefCarlos]

INFP so accurate, I literally played with my co-teachers' kids during our Christmas party the whole time

[@johnny_roots]

I am an ESFJ and I always avoid the passive agressive approach, I've noticed we do have this tendency and it can make people feel awful which is something we definitely don't want. I feel that I've also had time to mature some things with time, there must be some advantage of turning 42 lol. Anyways, thanks for this, because as much as I don't see myself in this behaviour anymore, I entirely agree with the list and it can actually be useful to manage different folks during a party 😅

[@traumagent324]

Currently having a little situation with an ESFJ girl who tries to interpret everything I say into something highly vulnerable emotional, even though it is purely fact based. She got a ragy backlash from me and still tries to become 'close'. Super annoying. All ISTPs be warned ;) On the others side: I have a language-learning-tandem-ESFJ-friend. So if the relationship has a clear purpose, ESFJs can be very useful... especially with consistent meetings :)

[@godKiller.369]

As an INTJ who actually shows up to the ESFJ`s parties (his house is within walking distance) I appreciate being put in S tier.

[@Nagish_]

I have an Esfj friend and she really see me like a filler… I guess it’s because im not an extrovert 😭-ISFJ

[@NickDailyWins]

To me I am a super guest. I bring gifts, show up on time, initiate activities and help cleaning up. However I can see how when there are substances at play my mere pressence might turn a party upside down. -Entj

[@gouki4u]

As an INTP who is only a couple of strong drinks away from being an ENTP, if there is booze at the kids table, the ESFJ should be ready for a vibe change.

[@owlsama567]

As an INFJ feeling like extrovert next to INFPs, INTPs, INTJs...

[@atropinecaffeine]

INTP here: if you don't have a cat, rent one. We love cats and will stay all night to pet one.

[@sagemaster1357]

I see you're cat lover -INFJ

[@sylvianimates]

same here -isfp

[@MissEliseIsTired]

Yes, I will go talk to all the pets over the people.

[@kaliah1494]

As an ENFP that has only heard the tier descriptions, I was tempted to put myself in tier 1 until I heard "vibe change" because that sounds so potential me. Oh wait...me and ENTPs are going to the kids table After the video: omg what! I AM the gift at a party! 😂

[@Raaymond92]

wow the ESFP one is so accurate it hurts, has to be that ESFJ vibe. or it might be that the maker of this video just knows the ESFP so well :p

[@aesthie_dakuki]

as an INTJ, I can confirm that ranking me in 'super guest' is pretty honorable and it made me love you. 🤩🤩🤩🥰🥰🥰

[@RobJones-ru8bk]

In the name of all other types, you do not have to bring a gift.

[@purplemind93]

This was a mood increaser! Well done K! The segment into intuitive types and the kids table haha

[@sandercohen5543]

Well i'm glad that's over and done with -INTP

[@void5239]

Agreed. INTP as well. Annoying video at best.

[@NoticeMeSenpaiii]

I knew I'd be downgraded for not bringing a gift as soon as I heard the categories. Oh well, at least I know I'll still be invited 💅🏼 -ENFP

[@LawsRealm]

As an intp I have dragged intj to parties a lot. While they got me a presentable appearance for a party almost always.

[@kyurei4478]

Great cooperation of using the lowest functions 👏.

[@ZuerstJesus]

That was so fun to watch! I'm so impressed how great you can characterize all these types!

[@saintfighteraqua]

I knew where I belonged as soon as I saw the last category. Leave me some books, crayons, paper and puzzles. Can we swim after?

[@sidm4070]

I Love ESFJs ^°^ -infj

[@NightCloudI]

same -infj

[@ElizabethWalters-yk4ui]

yes! -an Enfj 0~0

[@diaz6874]

I don't.

[@ElizabethWalters-yk4ui]

*ahem *Passive-aggressive looks "wHy DoN't WE uNpAcK ThAt? 🥲 -A highly offended Enfj I don't actually care just be nice pls.@@diaz6874

[@kyurei4478]

Vastly underrated type that deserves more attention rather than putting my INFJ type under the spotlight times and times again when I prefer seeing others shine lol.

[@jijitters]

I am so pleasantly surprised by the ISFP placement! This shows your understanding of us and that you didn't base this purely on an introvert stereotype, because among the Ixxx types, we're truly the ones closest to being extroverted. We're just...extremely picky about when we do it 😆 An ISFP will be very active at your party...if they decide to show up!

[@tadejlah902]

As an INTP, you absolutely nailed how I would be at my first job in the ESTJ video.

[@ElizabethWalters-yk4ui]

this is awesome!! I love it your acting is fab! -Enfj

[@jadeyu7197]

as an enfj i fully love the quality of not noticing the glass being knocked down being valued HAHAHA i ALWAYS feel anxious about that especially with xSFJs present fjsdfkansd

[@tvr9664]

3:14 oh you think you can control us istps, oh trust me, if someone tries to ruin my isolated fun, I can turn my practical help into a practical nightmare :> (here’s a tip, don’t give me fire duty)

[@DawnsTower]

As a person who grew up in the USA, some of us learned a song for all 50 States in alphabetical order, so I could def do that challenge. To be fair though... I don't know a lot about regions in Australia... so don't be impressed ^_^

[@MarcusCaddock]

You are placing INTJs at the top of the tier for not doing anything in regards to a party thus incentivizing us not to come to any future parties yet still having a high honour. Thank you. P.S. INTJs will not bring a gift unless it is communicated to us that it is a social norm to bring a gift. Once communicated, we will always bring a gift when we come.

[@maxmogavero952]

And then it will be the same exact gift every time until otherwise advised.

[@olivererz6197]

Challenge accepted. Maine, Rhode Island, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, New York, Pennslyvania, New Jersey, Maryland, Delaware, Virginia, Ohio, West Virginia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Florida, Georgia, Tennessee, Kentucky, Indiana, Mississippi, Alabama, Illinois, Michigan, Wisconsin, Minnesota, Missouri, Louisiana, Arkansas, Texas, Iowa, Oklahoma, Kansas, Nebraska, North Dakota, South Dakota, Montana, Wyoming, Colorado, New Mexico, Utah, Arizona, Idaho, Nevada, California, Oregon, Washington, Hawaii, Alaska. Finished. Timed at 2 minutes. I think you forgot to invite your local geography nut to the party. Probably the INTJ. -ENFP

[@anushadanadamani284]

as an intj, i never show up to parties.. especially when there's a big group around. but my best friend (enfj) is jus the life of the party. it's like we're 2 sides of a coin. sometimes, she tells me about how to trap people into liking you at a party and whatnot but.. i don't really see the point of it

[@lemonfighter5806]

"eating all the food without giving back any small talk" just screams Esfj

[@kyurei4478]

Very surprisingly pleased as an INFJ by what the ESFJ said about us. We have a complex dynamic with Fe doms I feel like cause even if as she said they sometimes try to make others feel guilty, that's not so a problem for INFJs I think because first, we notice the manipulation trying to make us feel guilty (good luck manipulating an Ni dom) but secondly, I think our own Fe just genuinely agrees with them out of our own decision. So we would voluntarily follow their lead and not out of manipulation to make us feel guilty like other people might do but because we would feel guilty ourselves from our own decision. I don't know if I explained that clearly cause that's quite tricky to explain but basically they don't manipulate us out of guilt, they genuinely convince us cause we agree. I feel the need to mention this interaction cause I feel like Fi people who tend to be pissed off by that would assume their INFJ friends are fragile and get manipulated and influenced way too easily when in reality it's a conscious decision and more like ESFJs open our eyes in that case. All types with Fi tend to not perceive it that way cause they have Fi and not Fe. ESFJs' behavior is way less harmful than it seems to be when it's with us actually so I'd like Fi friends to not be too hard on ESFJs. Beside, Kristin is right when she said we're good at keeping introverts engaged. I recently realized myself that we're basically the ENFJs of introverts so other introverts really seem to get more comfortable in our presence cause we're not too pushy and we know how to talk to them so they can participate in the way that fits them and everyone, even introverts, can have a good time at parties after their "session of therapy" lol. The INTJ part was hilarious and yeah, I think the most disrespectful thing to do is to put them in best guest to send them a message cause their perspicacity will get them. If the part about the neighbour is authentic that is literally the best and fits perfectly in this video 😂. ESFJs are interesting people to me because their stereotype usually depicts them as people who are as nice as they're judgemental and I find it really weird. You expect someone judgemental to be mean. So that gives them a very candid side. Like they're very opinionated but it doesn't come from a place of anger. I think it makes it easier to want to try to open their mind unlike an ESTJ for example even if ESTJs don't always do it out of anger either but they're colder and come off more as mean which is detrimental to them I think. It's more bearable, especially for Intuitives (probably not so for NTs cause they're less likely to take that into consideration but I think they should). I find it unfair how people seem to take Te seriously but not Fe. Maybe changing it would make for a better world and people would appreciate others more. Being nice is actually hard and deserves some recognition. Proof is not so many people are capable of it. Have you ever think about it being the key for stopping the feeling that everyone sucks and is a jerk ? Only if you can feel guilty you can look at yourself into a mirror and reconsider your actions in regard of others. Judgement and guilt are a blessing we should learn from. They can keep harmony when used healthily.

[@CerisMoonlight]

I didn't know i had such an effect on an ESFJ ~INTJ