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[@evolveyourmind]

Behind every child who believe in himself Is a parent who believe in them first! Big shout out to all incredible parents out there💙

[@littletailsfarm8446]

This is awesome

[@mondavou9408]

@Bodywork•Therapy Collective Aren't we all god's children? 23 and ME didn't tell me I was adopted. You're mean - I'm telling MOM!! 😉🤣🤣

[@lukev539]

@Bodywork•Therapy Collective no he wasn’t. He had brothers and sisters. He was the first child after the fall who’s Father was YHWH to redeem all that would believe. Jesus replies, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” He points to the disciples and says, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.” In Luke's Gospel, Jesus pulls no punches.

[@jakepellow1677]

Very insightful. Big shout out to those who succeed without the fortune of a 'perfect family' :)

[@candacem791]

Appreciate the wisdom !

[@charlesw5357]

To anyone becoming a parent or already is - The fact you clicked on this video is testimony to the awesome parent you will be.

[@joaqimkhesser]

Appreciate brother!

[@chrisbenford3680]

I make plenty of mistakes but i try to be a better father every day.

[@Frugalchef]

Thank you. I’m struggling

[@pelessongjewelry4316]

Big hugs to everyone struggling as a parent. It will bring out the demons in you that you never knew you had❤ the more we look into ourselves and our own struggles, the more we will heal our children. Don’t let the guilt keep you in bondage❤

[@core.planet]

@@chrisbenford3680 good father!

[@benbearkiller]

I was an addict and bringing my son into this world in 2017 changed my life. I’ve been sober ever since. Glory to God.

[@rodolfodiaz6732]

Proud of you Bennett….God bless you and your relationship with your son

[@rodolfodiaz6732]

I’m a father of 2…..boy and a girl….and must I say that Jordan Peterson is a true inspiration with his knowledge on life

[@esthercave8111]

My son was born in 2017. He is a gift from God. I tell my son everyday my heart could explode by how much I love. He is incredible,loving,sensitive an absolute delight. I thank God everyday for him. We are born again Christians, disciplining him on the most important thing in life. A relationship with Christ Jesus his lord and saviour.

[@JN-xv9tl]

Well done.

[@indigobeauty1]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 that a beautiful thing!!! You're Amazing for putting your child future and need as priority 🙌🏽

[@that1guy487]

"4 years of your life go by so fast." This is a crazy understatement. Faster than the blink of an eye.

[@themacocko6311]

Science shows that time is perspective. The more the brain has to process, the slower time is. If time is going by quickly, it has to do with the type or lack of activities in your life.

[@Kapitalist88]

As a 34 year old who's turning 35 soon, I remember my 30th B-Day vividly, like it was this morning.

[@hamig306]

@@themacocko6311 when im bored, time is slow af. when i'm busy working or playing, time flies

[@StellarJAGuar]

Feels like I started college last year. I’m 22 now

[@vaquera9368]

Yep. I remember holding my firstborn son at three days old and saying, “He will be eighteen quicker than we can imagine.” My mother in law told me to slow down. I understood how time flies from watching my nieces and nephews grow so quickly since I was an aunt at the age of eight. My son is 27 years old now. Looking back I sure miss all those times with them as children. However, I’m blessed to say I was able to homeschool all four of my children, so I spent a lot of time with them. ♥️

[@marcussmith4913]

can confirm... I missed my sons early life. I was there but I wasn't paying attention. I had my own problems back then. Theres not a day that goes by I don't wish I could go back and enjoy that time again. Life problems are never as important as you think they are. Pay attention to your kids.

[@sensei.minty.apricot]

Same here, as a mom to my 12 yo daughter. I was there, but I was growing up too. I'm 32 now, matured and trying yo mend everything I broke within her and everything I broke between us. Feels like I was just there in her young life and felt like I had plenty of time to correct myself. I didnt. I missed it. And I was there. I miss her so much. I too wish I could go back and just be the mom shes always deserved.

[@mixedcuisines3m852]

@@sensei.minty.apricot I am glad you are trying to mend things with your daughter and dear, look at the bright side always and be positive. Hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@honeybadger8942]

@@sensei.minty.apricot That's when a mother's advices become useful.She can help with her grandchild.i.e if she is a good human being.

[@thebookofyourlifemotivatio7950]

@@sensei.minty.apricot 12 years old is a great age to mend everything! So many things you can learn together. You are not a perfect mom ( no mother is), but you are perfect for her. You can teach her a lot from your 'mistakes' and your success. She is not perfect either ( no child is ) but she is perfect for you. She can teach you a lot. still a great relationship to build. It is NEVER too late. It is a life long process. You can do this! You will find a way.Love💜

[@mbabe7777]

@@sensei.minty.apricot you can’t go back, but you can say just these words to her^^ and then spend every day you have going forward proving it, and showing her with your actions how much love you have for her.

[@jamesalexander3905]

It's so spot on.... I'm addicted to alcohol... I have 13 months sober and my son is 5.. I missed out on so much because alcohol was my god.... I always dreamed of being the dad I never had ... I gave that up for one more drink... I got my act together... I was blessed with the opportunity to come back into my son's life... not every father gets that chance ! Again ..I abandoned my son...just like my father .... but I came back... I fought... I asked for help ..... I get to be the dad I never had... after messing up... I just wish my father starter to fight at least half as much as I did...

[@flexdriver1246]

Well said ! I’m a recovering addict 2 1/2 years clean… having a child is the greatest gift in the world! It is good to hear the humility in your post. You are a miracle god bless you and your family!🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@lukejaffray2518]

he said poor parenting is passed down to the next generations and its up to you to break the cycle.. And good for you to Break that!!!!!

[@atheinasophiajade1044]

God bless keep up your good work.

[@johnbraucher1499]

Don't EVER let that liquid rule you! That is all it is, is a fluid. Think about it as your worst enemy, it TOOK time away from you and your son. I couldn't IMAGINE that feeling, well I could because I was absent for some reason too. Not as long but I still dwell on it every day. It's almost driven me to drink due to the guilt. But ya know what. Once that switch hits, don't ever let it go back! We are PERFECTLY capable of NOT being addicts. Don't EVER let any twelve step program that's setup for failure, tell you you're ALWAYS going to be an addict, and you will NEVER not be. You can get RID of it completely. It's UP TO YOU. Don't wait, don't procrastinate, take CONTROL. Or you will regret for the rest of your life. There is NOTHING more precious than that time with your son. I'm glad you realized this and I hope you think of my words if times are hard. They shouldn't be hard now tho. You've realized the importance and the consequences of what you were doing, and I'm sure you know now that life is WAY better without having to wonder if people respect you, if people think you're just an absentee dad who drinks constantly....ECT. it's SO much better especially with some time, to get rid of all that built up anti trust and animosity with your loved ones. Always remember too, no matter WHAT happens, there is ALWAYS SOMEONE who is experiencing the EXACT same thing or worse than what YOU are. There are so many beautiful things in life and amazing people. And it's way too short to screw around. I believe tobacco and alcohol were MEANT to keep us down. Don't let em do this to us. Fight. Again, I hope these words help you. Please read them carefully and take them to heart. Take care of this stuff and raise your boy! Much love!

[@Rascal3l3]

I'm so happy for your soberness not to make this like a meeting, but I was addicted to opioids for about 10 years. I have now been sober for 4 years and have gotten my life back my sons whom I too missed out on and my wife who's love I still cherish and respect I crave... This man Mr. Peterson is right on point my wife and I do a lot of what he recommends with out even knowing it... Very good clip

[@JJ-xi1fq]

I am a mother of 5 sons yet I grew up with no brothers. 31 years later I am still learning about the wonderful attributes boys and men bring into our world. God bless our boys and us mothers who raise them into good men.

[@robertvolk6573]

It's so refreshing to hear a woman speak positively about men and boys. I hope your sons know how lucky they are to have you. With luck, our sons and their spouses will pass your attitudes down to your grandsons. God bless.

[@JJ-xi1fq]

@@robertvolk6573 thank you. Such a beautiful message to start my day with. I am also a teacher and I’m fighting each day for the boys in my class. In the system they have become inferior girls and are therefore misunderstood as learners. They are wrongly identified as having ASD, ADHD, OBD etc. Literally labelled and figuratively castrated. I remind their parents that their sons will one day be men so they need strength and leadership. Keep praying for our sons and thank you.

[@julib9452]

I have 5 sons also, but I also grew up with 6 brothers and a wonderful father. The men in my family have always been important in my life and I am grateful for all of them. No matter how strong I am, it's always nice to have my husband there to open a jar for me when I just can't get it open. Lol!

[@lizzy5437]

I’m glad someone has a positive outlook on boys and men because I do not have that. After all the horrific things they’ve done to me and to women I know, I’d hate to have a son. Although my father was the only amazing man I’ve ever met, and I know they exist; I’m glad there are mothers like you who can help build them.

[@JJ-xi1fq]

@@lizzy5437 thank you for your honesty. I’m sure if you had a son you would raise a fine young man. Our pain can teach us but our willingness to change our perspective can change our experiences. God bless you.

[@midnightduzit]

Since my daughter was born, I never talked to her like a baby, I would hold conversations with her and my wife would look at me like im a weirdo. I gave her emotional response when she needed it, fathered her like any good dad would as she grew up. I’m always big on communication. She’s eleven now and is a great kid, great student, smart, funny, goofy, a really easy kid to take care of and I still look forward to her teenage and adult and challenging years. So yeah, dude is on point. Those early years are so critical.. speak life and wisdom into them…it just got easier over the years. Love your kid to best of your ability and they love you forever.

[@Sugarsheila.]

I did that too! Someone came up to me at a food court once and commented that my four kids (all under 10 at the time) were smart and well behaved (they were eating!) and it made me feel good to have an outsider approve of my relationship with my children. The older woman said we were having a real conversation and she hadn’t seen that very often. That’s how I always saw them…as little humans, and we talked about everything! Children are delightful and very smart on their own if you listen to them. I adore my wonderfully flawed and perfect little humans….even though my oldest is 23 and baby now 15. Time flies!

[@midnightduzit]

@@Sugarsheila. ❤

[@peoplearecrazy1798]

I do the same with my daughter.

[@dreamfeat11]

I hope it remains so, the teens for girls are especially hard and they can change completely, you may not recognize th for a bit…

[@wilhelm2398]

@@Sugarsheila. I think we all wish to have the compliment truly given to us one day. Make sure if you ever see a similar situation to pass on the compliment to a well deserved parent and family

[@leo75dorn47]

Staying home with my daughters is the best choice I've ever made in my life. 🥰💜 We scraped by and sacrificed, but we did it. The greatest gift my husband has ever given me ❤

[@TheHoot7]

What's your husband do for a living just asking cause I keep telling my wife too stay home but she thinks it would be too hard for us to survive with 2 daughters and just life what it throws at us. My heart tells me to keep convincing her but man with the way this world is going it seems un doable.

[@patrickolivier1]

@@TheHoot7 my wife stays home with our baby boy and we did that for both our sons. I’m a self employed home renovation contractor and I also install in ground pools in the summer

[@jjmurphey88]

So beautiful

[@timharper4246]

@@TheHoot7 take the bull by the horns and say thats how it's going to be. Your wife is wanting to see you make the confident decision. It's the right thing to do and it what's best for the children.

[@saiqhai9968]

I love staying home with my 2 year old daughter. She's so funny and delightful to be around. I've had pre school teachers asking me constantly to send her to pre school, I always say I won't get this time again especially since she's my last baby. The always look at fe confused!

[@joostvandenbogert9616]

We need more stay-home parents parenting the next generation!

[@lucieciepka1031]

I can not describe to you how expensive it is to stay home, the sacrifices and budget stretching that you have to do. Not everyone can afford it and not everyone who can afford it should do it because it’s falls disproportionately on the two parents and put stress on the relationship.

[@hunterwebber6025]

@@lucieciepka1031 not with that attitude. gotta be stronger than that.

[@elenaatanasova9573]

I don't think that this is what he meant. Spending time is important but spending quality time is much more important. Which means to really take the most of the time together. Also, going out in the world early on helps them develop all the skills he talks in the video - social skills, responsibilities, rough play etc.

[@timharper4246]

@@lucieciepka1031 my wife stayed at home for the first 4 years of my children's lives. I was earning 12-14 dollars an hour at the time. If one parent has a reasonably good job or works overtime, mom can stay home.

[@lucieciepka1031]

@@timharper4246 so no sacrifices and no budget stretching what so ever? You didn’t cut on your spendings? Or did you put everything on credit? Also if the minimum wage is 7.25, then at 14 en hour you earn twice that. Do you think it was as easy on your wife as it was on you? Did you kept “courting rituals” of going out from time to time? Did your wife had time off from the children? Because if the grand parents aren’t nearby then you have to pay for that time off. Also how long ago was that, cause I’ve seen fruits and veggies price double and triple in just the last 2 years. How is it not expensive to cut your household’s income by 40%?

[@shirleychesterman3462]

Even before I had kids I knew that was going to be the biggest responsibility of my life. And I intuitively knew I’d better be ready when the time came. I have 4 adult children now and I adore them. So often when they phone or visit and download all their feelings about something happening in their lives they finish with, ‘Mum, I’m so sorry for dumping on you again.” To which I inevitably respond with, “Don’t you ever apologise for telling me about your life/feelings/worries.” How lucky can you be as a parent when you become a safe space for your adult children. But that means building a life time of relationship first.

[@billyc2572]

I could really talk to you....

[@scottgoulette8900]

Beautiful sentiment, I have 4 kids too, 2 adults and 2 teens and my biggest desire in life is to have them consider me (and their mom) a safe haven to vent their joys and frustrations... it hasn't always been easy but that is my focus and highest priority and hopefully we will be blessed with grandkids one day who will look up to us also.

[@NM-kx8ud]

I wish all parents had your mindset but sadly that's not the case and like my mother, parents only have to put clothes on your back, food on the table, and a roof on your head, LEGALLY.

[@crystalkathuria4381]

I love this, I hope I get this when my children grow up

[@Summonization]

@@NM-kx8ud my moms the same…. She said foods in the fridge , roof over ur head thats it….. I basically learned most life things from other people and internet.. :/

[@norcalrestoration]

83 now, 4 kids. The family that plays together stays together. Yes, meals together, responsible chores that give self esteem and feeling of family.

[@K-WAYY]

💯💯

[@jimmyAndrewJamesShepherd]

Never in all my life have I read or heard someone breakdown the dynamics of family structure and articulate such a clear distinct path to follow or use as a guide for parenting in/or trying to unite the family cohesiveness like a team where EVERY MEMBER plays a role and is valued for it! I hope that makes sense. It moved me to tears hearing this, and of course recognizing how far removed my father and mother were from this. This should be copied and given out at the hospitals "baby section" to ALL new parents. It's soaked with sincerity, love and heartfelt passion! Truly Mr. Peterson you are a beautiful human being. I wish I had stumbled upon you in my 30's instead of the age of 58!

[@ledemele4408]

Me too !!!! I made so many mistakes with my own children, but I can show them I know better now.

[@vaquera9368]

Agree.

[@libtardwhispererllc1272]

Get in the Bible, it’s the ultimate guide for parenting besides he created us, he would know.

[@tommac21]

Nobody can. Every family is different. You may raise your kids differently then I. Doesn't make it right or wrong. As long as you do it to the best of your ability. And they grow up to be responsible adults

[@thebosfam8887]

This is SOOOO GOOD on so many levels. I'm an only child, with childhood trauma, but am raising 4 kids under 6 years old better than I ever thought - because I beleive a relationship with God can help overcome trauma and you can stop the transcendence of prior negative generational parenting. We eat together. Pray together. Honor God with our lives. Married 16 years. Very blessed.

[@taylorthomas2089]

I have a one year old. My wife had our second on the way and we lost it. A month later we found out it’s because she has cancer. 4 months later now after chemo it has come back. She is paralyzed from the chest down and can’t eat. Her platelets are too low for a feeding tube. We have one more shot with another round of chemo but I know how this is gonna go. I write to encourage JP as he encourages me. You are helping.

[@user-em9qu4sq3z]

Many blessings to you and your family

[@graytoby1]

Bro, sending my prayers for you and your family

[@JordanBPeterson]

I wish you and your wife strength and courage.

[@Theoryxxx]

Praying for you and your wife. Jesus is a miracle worker and your wife will be healed by the grace of God, I have no doubt about that. May God strengthen you during this fight and don’t lose faith in the goodness of the Lord!

[@taylorthomas2089]

@@Theoryxxx thank you and we pray for a miracle to save her but if she doesn’t make it I won’t be mad at God for the miracle we didn’t get. It was a miracle I got to meet her in the first place. Thanks to all.

[@johnfastest9143]

I was a tradesman in my 30's when my kids were 1 and 3. I traveled for work and made a good living. I missed my kids while I was working, more importantly I realized they missed and needed me more. The old timers all told me to go home and raise my kids, if they could do it over they would have been there. The only lesson I didn't have to learn the hard way, you only have one shot at it. Work, money and all other things don't matter when you can't get time back.

[@qwnpngwn672]

This video brings tears to my eyes...im a mom of two babies and i almost died earlier this year. Its often a surreal moment when my kids do something new..i just keeping thinking that Im so lucky to be alive in this world to see this moment ❤️

[@vincent6058]

God bless you

[@ironcity4392]

It really is the best part of parenting. Seeing their first soccer goal, or their first bicycle ride. More subtle and amusing to me is seeing them get a joke or push a chair over to the counter where the cookies are. I look at my wife and say "They get it" it's the best part of life. I'm happy that your children have you. Write down those little moments to carry with you forever.

[@Mimi-bs7kn]

God bless you my sister and Im so glad you survived your ordeal. I hope god protects you and your family.

[@qwnpngwn672]

@@vincent6058 God bless u too

[@qwnpngwn672]

@@ironcity4392 beautifully said! Kids are such a gift

[@NCLUSA]

I don't know how or why I came across this man, but I am so glad I did, he's one of the best communicators of our time.

[@aminahallen8920]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@tommac21]

Why because he told you ow his family is. What everyone is supposed to be clones of his family. All he's doing is pushing his book. There's nobody who can tell you what's right or wrong

[@NCLUSA]

" There's nobody who can tell you what's right or wrong" So Christ was just pulling our legs, right?. Go Fish (: @@tommac21

[@kezl3037]

Wow, listening to this takes me back. I remember my daughter having a tantrum in a shop as I wouldn't buy her a rubber chicken. I started having one too, sat on the floor pretend crying. They never did it again. I was told I brought them up tough as I would make sure they were always polite and kind tho stuck up for themselves. Now they are 16 and 18 I couldn't be prouder of them and we have a great relationship. Take note of this parents, you will thank him for it

[@TeaCup1940]

I wonder if this technique works with all children...

[@gardenjoy5223]

@@TeaCup1940 This technique works with most children. It doesn't work with most parents, who would be too embarrassed to do that. But if you can get over yourself, this technique is a quick remedy indeed. The kid will be too surprised to continue. Or too embarrassed for you :) Like kez l describes: "They never did it again."

[@Cheerio_Plays]

My wife is pregnant. I am still mind blown. I’m about to be a father. The panic is real, but so is the excitement. I had a crazy 20s, I’m 29 now. I actually have my life together now, for the first time ever lol, I’d say over the last 2 years I really grew up, but I still don’t know if I’m ready. I’m just praying every night I don’t mess them up in any way. My wife and I didn’t have a perfect childhood. I had a good dad, but my mom has issues, she didn’t have a dad and her mom had issues. Life’s good, but we had issues and trauma. I just want to be a good dad. Idk what I’d without my dad, I’d probably be worthless and it makes me sad but I’m praying I can measure up to him or at least be a good dad. I am already having dreams about protecting my family. I just hope I can do a good job. I am not perfect at all, but I think I have most things oriented for now. Pray for me

[@SavedbyGrace1157]

Having your life together, and being aware that you want to be a good dad is half the battle. Trust me, The second you hold your child for the first time you will melt and forever be putting that human first. Becoming a parent is the hardest job on the planet. It is also the most rewarding. God bless

[@csv8944]

Sounds like you care more than most even before birth. I sincerely hope all is well. Kind regards from the Netherlands and Godspeed

[@spacekowboy9993]

As a father to a amazing little human, I will be the father I never had and teach the child the things I never learned

[@Sidelinefighter-expert]

Same my man ! heres to fatherhood !

[@jamesfignar1254]

Me too!

[@brentanthony6038]

And me.

[@roberttrujillo6139]

The power of family is immense! I have an 8 year old but her mom left us when she was a year and a half. I have been with her every day of her life. My mother watches her when I am at work. So to be blessed with watching her grow and develop is amazing! It really is more rewarding spending time with her. Things like potty training, teaching the Golden Rule, how to tie shoes feel like more important accomplishments than anything else I have ever done.

[@lydiamalone1859]

My mother used to always tell us that she wasn't raising children. She was raising future adults. At the same time she was the master of pranks and was always the one who started the water balloon fights. She was a great example of how you balance it all. We were never told what to think we were asked a lot of questions about why we thought what we thought. This simply forced us to think it through. Lol.

[@MartinHabovstiak]

Oh, I really like that phrase. I suspect some parents look at children as something lesser and it's causing various problems. That phrase seems to express well how it should be viewed instead.

[@vaquera9368]

That is great about your mother. She was was right too. She sounds amazing. I tried to raise my kids to be productive members of society and I always told them that. I also took them to the voting booth with me to show them how important that was and I even discussed the propositions with them. I let them pull the lever for me too, always making sure it was on the right person I was voting for! They got voting stickers as well. I played with my kids as well. Lol Now, I have my three sons actively serving in our military (their choice) and my daughter working as a paramedic. I did a lot of things right; I did a lot of things wrong. I tried to do the best I knew with what I knew.

[@bradtheabolt817]

I try to do this with my kids. So far it seems to be paying off. Hopefully you’re a well adjust adult as a result of her style of parenting!

[@wattakesselly6463]

Blessed 💫

[@thebookofyourlifemotivatio7950]

@@MartinHabovstiak Yes! Very well said. Thank you!

[@MiniPainterGamerDadD20]

My daughter is 7 months old and she amazes me every single day. She just grows more and more aware of her surroundings and her smile lights up my soul like I've never known before.

[@cjtsn466]

OMG so glad I watched this.When my son was born me and my wife worked and my job required long hours of work.We decided that I quit my job and get a part time one ,so we can spend more time with our baby.We moved to a smaller apartment,lowered most of our expenses basically gave up on many things.I sometimes wondered if I did the right thing.But after watching this video I realized we did the best thing.He is now in high school happy,respectful boy with perfect grades .Teachers thank us for the way we raised him.Maybe we owned a nice house now but our boy could be an unhappy child.

[@bcc7777]

I'm a single mom. We get social security from my husband passing. I'm now homeschooling them, due to recent changes in public schools. It's tough, but I'd rather move into an apartment than never be able to fully engage with my children.

[@cjtsn466]

@@bcc7777 I’m sorry to hear that.I also homeschooled my son for almost 2 years because of bullying in middle school.Now he is in high school doing great.I think he learned more from homeschooling than going to actual school.Trust me you won’t regret homeschooling them

[@bcc7777]

@@cjtsn466 it's a Rocky start, but I'm glad they're not involved in the current issues. They were literally having conversations with their friends about who had been vaccinated or not... They're 8 and 9 😔💔

[@cherls15]

I'm 36 and a single mother. My son is 15 now. I clearly remember the moment I knew that the biological father wasn't going to be around because he chose that. I remember feeling the guilt, the shame, the powerlessness and the fear. At 20, I knew that I had everything in me to be a dedicated mother but obviously, I knew that I was young and alone. At 21, he was here, my son. There I was day in, day out, terrified yet beyond competent. I felt guilt for not working, so what did I do? I went out and got a full time job. At 21, I was living on my own with a small baby that I loved more than anything and now I decided to work full time. Why did I do this? Well I felt guilt and embarrassment. I thought that others would think I was useless if I wasn't working. I felt useless. So I got a 9 to 5 job. Only, it wasn't 9 to 5, it was more so a 5am to 9pm job. Once I factored in traffic, chores, cooking, simply getting a baby ready and then unpacking at the end of each night, yes that's right, I had to wake at 5am in order to cook our dinners, clean the house, battle traffic and prepare my baby for the 10 or so hours he wouldn't be with me. Me - his only caregiver, his only person. I would leave my house at 7.35, drop him to his carer at 8am then be at work by 9am, got home at 6, exhausted beyond anything I've ever known. Life became unbearable. There was no life. After 6 months of that I realised that each time I woke up in the morning, my chest tightened and my heart simply felt like it was suffocating. Why? Not because of the toil of everything I had to do for that day, no. It was about knowing that my son, a small, small being in this world, would be without me and with this professional carer who simply had a job to do. That was it. I had decided in that moment, I would be without a good amount of money and instead, I would be spending my days with my son. I would budget. I would try my best to fill our days together. I would be his mum. Since then, I've prioritised time with my son. Even when we are together but not necessarily interacting, we are connected. Now at 15, I still work part time as he is still my only child and I agree so much with the part of this video in which you talk about how having 1 child is harder. I've always felt that, I've always not wanted my son to be alone after school while I'm working. I'm always the one around to play with and even now at 15, it's quite a blow to him when I don't play with him. Obviously at 15 it's mostly gaming and I can wholeheartedly say, gaming with my child is a joy. Sometimes he does want to kick /throw a ball around or play with nerf guns. Sometimes, he just wants me to sit up with him late at night as he feels a bit lonely. I know this sounds like we are too attached however, we aren't. It's simple, if I'm not here, he is alone and it's not a good feeling. Looking back, I felt like I must have been messing my son up because he only had me in his life. Because, I was young. Because I was stressed. Because one person can't possibly be two. Now as a 36 year old, I look back and have nothing but adoration and awe for that 20 something year old. She was aware and intelligent enough to recognise that her son needed her as it yielded a far better long term result in terms of parenting. She also raised a child that is mature, intelligent, regulated, kind, empathetic, considerate and loving. I very much appreciate this video as it encapsulated everything I tried to achieve and still am continuing to do. Oh, also, while you are correct about fathers being better at rough play, I did also take that into consideration. I encouraged my son to use his imagination and as a result, he always went running around the house playing with enemies and allys. Monsters and transformers. And finally, me.

[@YasminMahnaz]

You should of tried your best to put him in play groups..group activité.. sports....15yrs and no other kid ??? What are you scorned for life did u turn into hermit? It don't take 15yrs...u did what u could but at year 10 was more than enough to not have him suck ur thumb...I had only kid for 8yrs... the father was a douche.. divorced after 2yrs.. now we're in court still on going because he decided that since I got married after 8yrs... the birth father wants his egoooo and child bak..I waited for this loser ... after year 5 of his games I went out..I had dream of same broken family to be fixed and he kept promising me...lies. he remarried in secret..I had 2 babies and he got jealous and had one last year and another coming this year. I'm also going have another kid...I love kids..I never wanted my kids to be alone..8 year age gap is better than no siblings. U can't fulfill a guys life.. its miserable for his upbringing and video games are waste of time unless u make money of it. Parents rid their kids to TV or video games out laziness. Thank God o6 didn't get game console until she 11 but i still regret it. I only did cause his father bought one and said he had keep at his house and taunted him with it every time because of our court issue. My ex is avillian and grew up without a father..I should known better that absent fathers make loser sons and his mother est evil to. I wish your kid had siblings.. after you die he has no one. That a shame. Too bad you can't adopt.

[@teocola2652]

Op i think you did a great job! 💚 Love and health to you two

[@cherls15]

@@teocola2652 thank you very much! 💜

[@cherls15]

@@YasminMahnaz it's good that you back up your very one sided opinion. My son went to plenty of playgroups and daycare but part time, which was best for me and him. He now has a tight group of friends that he is popular in. I'm not sure how you concluded that you know everything about my life from my comment on KZbin. Video games are not a waste of time, it's only a waste to people who are not capable of understanding or enjoying it such as yourself. You enjoy your kids there and I will enjoy my one.. who gets all of me, my attention, my energy, my wisdom etc. It works for us.

[@CornishTigerTV]

@@cherls15I don't even think fabulous is writing to you, even though they replied to your comment. Anyway I had tears in my eyes reading your story. (36yr old man). I would have loved to have had a mother like you. (I grew up in foster care). You should be proud of yourself. X

[@MrXantrias]

What he said about her daughter that loved her brother to death because he was a rock of support for her, that really touched me. Love between siblings is so pure... it's always great to hear.

[@micaelalanman6958]

My parents were excellent at raising my siblings and I. Now with my own on the way, I am so looking forward to raising capable, contributing humans. I think one of the best things my parents did was always stay busy with their own projects, but found ways to include us kids. We did everything as a family. Building a new home, yard work, building fires, eating at the table together, cleaning out the car, buying groceries, planting in the garden, etc.. We were always a team. During my middle and high school years my parents owned a property on a lake with only a shed. We brought our camper there and spent every weekend in the summer together at the lake. Every weekend, for years. No electronics. Only bonfires, lake toys, four wheelers, dirt bikes, a trampoline, books, board games, and lots of friends. It was the best parenting move. My parents enjoyed the respite and relaxation and us kids were raised being outside, often bored and dirty, but loved and valued as an important part of the family. We were always a team. I share this to encourage others! I know now all of the things my parents had to say no to (sports activities, summer classes, exotic vacations, zoo trips, etc.), but in the end what they said yes to was way better.

[@pjg_77]

A family that eats together, stays together

[@steveunderhill5935]

Peterson agrees. He’s said ~90min a week min to stay connected or else.

[@pjg_77]

@@steveunderhill5935 right, I lost both my folks last year and I miss the dinner times more than anything else Steve.

[@robinsdawson2058]

Superb! We lived a military lifestyle - chose to live on 1 income and I was a stay at home Mom. No regrets for us or our amazing young men. Children are our greatest gift and deserve the best you can give!

[@thechancellor-]

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing. Be a great parent.

[@oahuguppyguy5797]

You have to blame yourself! It’s called taking responsibility for your actions . No one is perfect we’re all going to make bad choices and of course we’re to blame for them! If you don’t blame your self for the things you’re directly to blame for you’re setting yourself up for failure. The important thing is to learn from the things you did wrong pick yourself up and do better and yes that especially means the things you’re to blame for so ALWAYS blame yourself for the things you’re responsible for and did wrong.

[@enemiesatthegates9459]

I love this man. I've seen over the last few years the way he has touched so many people and positively impacted their lives. Personally speaking he has helped me to be a better father and try to be a better man.

[@DonCron]

We have 2,5y and 8 months old kids. damn did I listen a lot to Jordan Peterson during this process. And it helped a lot. Our kids are socially and intellectual ahead it's unbelivable and we're so proud of them. We're relying on my income only as my wife decided to stay with the children as long as they're 4 or 5 at least. Best decision ever. I never loved my wife more than I do now. I've never respected her more than I do now. If she would have been able to provide for the family it would also be no problem for me to stay at home with the kids. So don't get me wrong. We never took "mealtime" so seriously. We do take food serious (always fresh cooking) but never had fixed times where we eat and we often ate separately from each other. We haven't been doing this since we are parents. We are all eating together at least 2 times a day. I come home for lunch if possible and for dinner we always eat together. It became sacred to us. And we have our rituals now...rituals were even my little 2,5yo don't mind to turn off the tv or stop playing - he loves our "traditions" for mealtime...My older son was by far the youngest in the "kindergarden" with only 1,5 years of age (well it's prior to the kindergarden, but English isn't my native tongue and I don't know if there is an equivalent to this in English) - and he needed the least for the initial phase and there was never, until this day, a problem with him. He is eating good, he's sleeping well in the noon he started talking very soon and already tells us exactly what he did there, with whom, what food they had and who was sitting next to him while eating. He helps set the table since he is 1,5yo. He WANTS TO help. He wants to be needed. Because of our mealtimes we spent together, he also knows where to put what on the table (above him - looks so hilarious) and is commenting it "here is papa...here is mama...here is baby" ... If he see me working in the garden, he asks me if he can help...it's so incredible because we never thought him this stuff directly. It's like his mind instinctively knows what's the right thing to do.

[@iosifilies5837]

Man, glad to see you're doing your best for your family, for the psychological healthiness of your kids and for the happiness of your wife.

[@DonCron]

@@iosifilies5837 thank you lad

[@WwJd2tmthy1]

I wish I had the info at my fingertips 30-20 years ago that parents have today. I would know why I parented the way I did. My 5 kids had a very chaotic life. I made some bad choices and I have been accountable for them. My 29 yo son hasn’t talked to me in 3 1/2 years and I have a 3 yo granddaughter and 3 mos old grandson. The irony of this is; I am a totally different person. I have healed (well, it’s a process) from my CPTSD and if he would just talk to me, he would see my change and Ik I am an AWESOME Grandma. He doesn’t even have a relationship with any of his siblings. The role of Narcissistic Grandparents( paternal Grandmother and maternal Grandfather with a codependent Paternal grandfather and maternal Grandmother) The Paternal Grandmther (Malignant Narcissist) has succeeded in ripping apart my children’s relationships with each other with me the Mother. Her obsession for me is outrageous. I am happy to say I finally stood my ground with her and was a truth teller. Her reaction to me was actually what exposed her to some family members that were only going on my word; conformational. My 19 yo daughter has realized and is still in the process of accepting that her Grandmother has carefully woven chaos through her life.( this woman instilled fear in her and had her believing I was a crazy drug attic whore) Ik something was quite right as I had to fight for joint custody (spent my entire retirement to do so) but fast forward and the Narcissistic Father took on a Narcissistic girlfriend) so at 13 and 16 my two youngest ran back to me. 3 years of nurturing my relationship back with daughters) MN grandma literally came in a swooped them away. Fast forward like 6 months and 19 yo FINALLY saw it. I just pray for my 16 yo. She displays several narcissistic traits. I must let go and forgive myself for all my mistakes. I’m 52 and made bad partner choices, though I have 5 beautiful children who IK with all my heart will find their path and heal from their trauma. 🙏🏻❤️‍🩹

[@S1aughtahyou]

lmao this dude is on hella benzos

[@DonCron]

@@S1aughtahyou which dude?

[@mr_mc_bk]

I don't remember where I heard this phrase but it goes "You have two lives you live in the world. The first you are born with, and the second is when you realize you only have one." When it comes to parenting however, there is no second chance. I wish more families today understood this...

[@cynthialawrence9562]

I needed this right now.....I have a 4 month old and just went back to work, and it is such a physical and emotional struggle. I know many women do work with infants, but just because everyone does it, doesnt mean its the right way of doing things.

[@cherls15]

Sorry you have to go through these feelings. Working while your baby is being looked after by someone else is always heartbreaking... All the best.

[@neetaj3598]

I'm a single parent with 3 adult kids and a 3 year old. I've always had to work, there's nothing wrong with it. Everyone situation is different. I'm the sole provider for my minor child unless I want to live in public housing and collect welfare I have to work! I have a great job, I just have to make all of my off days count and I don't work any overtime.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

​@@cherls15sh makes me cwy

[@barbikinkin]

I have raised 2 of the most amazing children ...life was not easy when they were little...but they have turned out to be amazing humans.

[@Fern_Thaddeus]

I cannot say “Thank you” enough for sharing this. This is incredibly NEEDED!

[@mysteryvan3338]

Having my daughter really forced me to confront subconcious patterns that I was taught about parenting as a kid. Many toxic ones. It can throw you for a loop but if you perservere and work through the realizations as best you can, you will be the one to heal the next generation. God bless you if you relate, we are making waves that we can't yet see.

[@alaalfa8839]

Dr. Bruce Lipton explains how children´s brain works between age 0-7. Little kids don´t understand the words but their brain is fully functional, the subconscious mind of the brain records everything you say. He says the brain is a computer, especially the subconscious mind is like a CD recorder, it works 95 percent of the day. Therefore you are not aware of 60 000 thoughts, but you are aware of only 100 thoughts a day. The reason is partially, because your subconscious mind is trying to protect you from harm, fight and flight response. Therefore you need good habits of the subconscious mind. So if a child is misbehaving, it or doesn't realize that he/she does something wrong. People are not aware of 95 percent of their thoughts. You may tell the kid that it's a wrong thing, but tell it only if the kid calms down so the "prefrontal" cortex gets activated. Because the emotional part of the brain is in a different place than the cognitive part of the brain. People are stressed or excited by something, but the problem is the part of the brain that creates excitement is in the same place of the brain as the part of brain that creates stress. Little kids are mimicking adults' behavior because they have mirror neurons in the brain. He says the first 7 years are crucial, for their mental development, because the first 7 years they learn everything they need to know to become a good adult, with skills and values. They a learn lot of skills very fast, but they don't analyze the information, they just receive the information as a radio antenna, because their brain is in state theta. Frequency theta means imagination and hypnosis. Therefore they easily learn things. At age 8 they start to make their own decisions. After age 10 their learning skills slow down.

[@TeaCup1940]

What toxic patterns are those?

[@mysteryvan3338]

@@TeaCup1940i believe all parents do their best but it seems to be fairly common toxic pattern for adults to all agree that being a parent means they can disrespect their child in anyway and get away with it just because it is not extreme. Like spanking, yelling, ignoring, ridiculing, and ordering around like they are employees. Many times those behaviors are normalized and if our parent smacks us for having an attitude it’s supposed to be okay. But I think that is teaching kids they are lesser than others and unworthy of respect. Parents should not be able to treat kids however they want to without restraint, as our duty is to teach, love, and protect, and that is the main pattern I am breaking. My kids will be able to speak for themselves and demand respect and move freely within the boundaries I place for them.

[@jpsphoto-vision8803]

​@@mysteryvan3338 I agree that physical and mental abuse is toxic, but after raising 3 children (now teens) and trying to fix the lack of discipline and enforcement of respect, because I was trying to be the "loving" parent who saw the child as equal... This is also toxic, they need structure and discipline, they need to see you as a parent. If they don't see the hierarchy in the family then how can they understand the hierarchy of God which is what the family represents on earth. They need love, not acceptance of bad behavior, they need to be raised in the word at home and have precious cuddles in the chair or couch while reading together, they need discipline... Light discipline for minor things and harder discipline for dangerous things... Like messing with an outlet may require an immediate smack on the hand but drawing on a wall would require cleaning it off or if they are too young to use a sponge without eating it, taking away there crayons and having them sit in a highchair watching you clean it off. Taking away toys they refuse to take care of or if they bite, bite them and explain that biting hurts and you shouldn't bite because it hurts people. I figured time out was sufficient for pretty much any major issue and not sweating the small stuff was the best route, we went to church sometimes but I never really read my Bible and was more going to church for the break from my kids... If I could go back in time, I would do things so different, like I'd never send my kids to public school, I would homeschool from the start and do so in the word. I would have structure and discipline and would forgo the big house and material objects so we could purchase land and live the way God designed which is what we are just starting to do now.

[@mysteryvan3338]

​@@jpsphoto-vision8803 thanks for this I have actually been needing some guidance in this area recently. My daughter is only a toddler but after being an extremely gentle parent I have definitely seen the results and realized she needs a lot more structure and discipline. I do plan on homeschooling her though, so I am grateful for this advice. I love that idea of family representing our union with God and living how He intended. Blessings, thanks a lot for this it was much needed.

[@triciajohnson8332]

yep. he's right. my kids are grown. i was work focused and missed the best times i could have. you NEVER can fix this issue. no matter how you change and spend time when they are older, it is too late. no matter what fancy clothes, or electronics....will never ever make up for those years.

[@Carlosity223]

6 mins in and I can’t stop tearing up… 4-5 years of having a little kid is true, we miss so much and when we get home from our busy lives we struggle to give more and more when the industries/corporations already drain so much of us… it’s great to live the moments in my head with my 3-yo daughter.. I’ll die seeing her as my last vision of my life…

[@JN-xv9tl]

Keep on keeping on. You’re a great parent!

[@PilotLiberman]

I must say…this video is amazing! I just became a dad 3 months ago and this video has all the things that I personally believe…from child to elderly people.

[@bladeaddison3189]

As an older parent … with one child … some of this was tough to hear but also helpful and insightful. Thank you.

[@robertacress4945]

❤❤❤ I would do it all over in a heartbeat and it was the best time of my life. I failed many times as a parent but by the grace of God we made it through. They have made me one proud mama and they both went into the trades.

[@callsignNoctra]

I needed this one 🙏🏻 This man never fails to teach me something new.

[@etaokha4164]

My daughter will be turning 4 next year and her father has never been involved. Me I've experience every stage of my daughters life and she's starting big school next year. Am grateful for being there for my kids. She's also gonna be a big sister in June am grateful she'll be the first person to meet her sibling. As a single mom I couldn't be more proud I did it and choose my kids over anything else. #blessed

[@LeanBack_HaveASnack_TakeANap]

Just gave my 5 month old daughter her 10pm bottle while listening to Peterson. Hopefully she sleeps thru the night and my wife can sleep in til 6 instead of 4 or 5. Our son just turned 2 years this week and we can't even remember what we did before having kids. There's very very little that compares to the feeling of a little one snuggling the back of her head against your cheek before giving the Burp and the slow exhale of a long awaited drift into sleep. Don't wait too long to do this friends. And cheers to all the fellow travelers. Good night.

[@user-nh4tm6hh4j]

I had a religous mother. At the beginning of every meal before we ate she would say a blessing. I was always thanking god for our health, our family and the food we were about to share. It was pointing out the important things in life.

[@sharonandrews5798]

The first 4 years is so important because this is when the child develops their manners and morals. They learn to mimic your behaviour so if you want a well mannered child, then you need to be that too. Children may not always remember what you did but they will always remember how you made them feel. Children thrive on routine and when you have to change that routine it usually takes 7 days before the change is normalised so stick to it. This has worked for my 7 Children and my 9 grandchildren.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

I used to act like my 7 mth was a rocket making all my extra noises and she used to love that just giggling away. She's spoiled bc she's a baby?! I let her stay the night w/ her gma bc I worked a double + went in the next day. But I got her back & now she hates it & cries fr. Idk if it's in my imagination but I wonder if she tried putting her out of her baby cycle by doing something drastic. Like purposely dropping her so she won't want to be held as much. I keep doing it anyways, not to be a jerk. But I'm the first person she needs to learn she can always trust. & If her behavior is still funny, when I witness anything, when I don't hold her, I'll only keep imagining. It's just hard tho. Even if I put her in daycare all I can think about is the bad news clips 😟. I love munchkin. Everything she does is precious to me. She wears her teething cookies all over her chunky cute little face now. She goes through those things in no time. & I just hate the way her dad fams act. They really have an attitude of she doesn't know better. But I do.

[@duke857]

We raised to great responsible productive adults. We enjoy and cherish every second from 0 to the present. The best years are 3 to 8 in my opinion. The bonding and guidance needs to be done early to mold them into the adults that they will be come.

[@shaylarodriguez4003]

To raise children that become good people is the best thing you can do for this world.

[@coachsimons3467]

Be a ROLE MODEL for your child. All of their traits and characteristics develop between age 4-17 (mostly). They will see how you speak, behave, respond to stress, how you deal with emotions, communicate etc break the generational behaviors and BE BETTER. Our kids deserve a great , happy life with good morals, manners, education, love.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

My teenager tells folks I'm a typical asian tiger mom. Wever the term. No I'm not. I'm a typical mom. Duh I want her to do good in school. I want her to have a better future. & I don't lb things into her head I can't accomplish myself. I try to reward her good grades, :/ or bribe her. But she thinks she can get away w/ just showing my assignments & tests here & there. Like 😑... Alright know it all... Try me more w/ your actual report card

[@FlipNasty1]

This man Peter Jordanson is just amazing...

[@bassgirl_denalia9087]

Thank you, Dr. Peterson. I desperately needed this. As an only child with two toddlers, I'm often lost. Your wisdom is greatly appreciated. ✨️ ❤

[@solution6690]

I'm changing my life right now.... I needed this.

[@JN-xv9tl]

Best comment!

[@Mr-Willy]

My son is 2 years old and i am doing everything explained by JP in this video. And I am having so much fun, my second son will be joining the family in September. Already excited about it. Thank you for the wise words JP. 🙏🏻

[@davec.3198]

We have 3 kids. My wife is a stay at home mom and I work from home. I can't agree more that having a young one under 4 is just amazing. This was a wonderful talk and I feel like i'm fortunate to be alive at the same time that JP is here. Great perspective.

[@richardmiddleton7770]

Man this is THE single best video on the internet! FACT!!

[@dreambeliever3652]

The more I hear this guy, the more fundamentally SPOT ON he is!👌

[@rathnaitmullen8541]

ALL parents and grandparents should see this! I've got so many regrets with my kids, I'll never stop feeling guilty.

[@johnpeterson2987]

Live in the moment bro. Its ok.

[@ruthcostea5633]

Do not feel guilty. Give yourself some credit for what you did right & do better everyday.

[@ashapatel4887]

Same here

[@sarahdiaz1232]

I felt the same way, but you don't know what you don't know.

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

Forgive yourself

[@christineallen1]

I'm teary right now. To people out there, take good care of your children, give them attention and love them dearly

[@empressstaceyjackson5375]

I’m a mother of 3 yr old girl, man is she ever amazing, Im so grateful. She so bright. ❤🙏🏾

[@nadiapepperpot7474]

I'm 43. God has blessed me with a one yr old grandson. I'm happy to say that I got the chance to enjoy raising another child in my life time. What I lacked with my own kids,I'm able to make up with my grandson. I enjoy every moment of every day with him. The love that he shows me is out of this world and vice versa. I pray he know everyday that I do whatever it takes to make him feel save and feel ultimate love n joy❤

[@OGReniMartinez]

❤

[@GuitarSolosInc.]

As a skateboarder raising two skateboarders, that last segment hit me so hard. Much love Jordan. You speak the truth.

[@Qumi222]

As a mother of 3 toddler girls I can say this man is absolutely correct👏🏾. As a 25 year old I am grateful to know these things & to help other mothers navigate!

[@joshwhojames]

This man's children are going to be or already are set up to win at life. I'm not sure how old they are, but they should be forever great-full to have a father with so much wisdom and understanding.

[@3920cruz]

Dr, Peterson, I believe this is among the most important videos ever produced with your thoughts and guidance. My wife and I are in the business of caring, raising, and educating children from 3 months of age up to 5 years as we own and operate daycares and preschools. From your opening statement on year 0 to year 4 being the most important time is on target, the "bulls eye" so to speak. You see them change from lumps of flesh unable do anything at all to learning how to manipulate their parents in less than two years! You can participate in the development of their character to a small measure to keep them on track, you can help correct the flaws they fall into by correcting incorrect actions and behaviour, etc... And as you conclude, once the child reaches age 4-5, the time is over, done, complete! From age 5 - 21 years, the kid in front of you basically remains the same, only changing slightly as they learn the more detailed skills in life and gain the de facto knowledge of the time. All parents with young children need to be in possession of this knowledge, and sadly, I know it will not happen. As a provider of childcare, I know how critical the early years are, and it amazes me how so many parents do not open up to understand it or how the so called "experts" on young children, and government officials, and early child education people truly don't get it and just default to the trends of their respective specializations!

[@RTCrmCreative]

❤ listening to Jordan Peterson 👏 👏

[@user-hs2wu2br47q]

I’m privileged to be able to take time to watch my 8 month old grow up day to day while still being able to pay my bills. There’s times where I’m caught up with work but when there’s down time I make sure all my time goes to her & being with her.

[@PlayshotKalo]

“They go in their room, they make a little drawing, they’re all thrilled and they come out and show it to you.” Lol. No lies told

[@HoboMinerals]

I truly enjoy listening and watching everything from Jordan Peterson. He educates himself on both male and female statistics and uses it productively! He doesn’t deserve the bad things people say about him and I believe he could change this world if more listened to him… Keep going man, we need you

[@Spacecat357]

Staying home with your kids is never wrong!

[@alicassidy8913]

The best years of my life are when my daughter was born up until she turned 8. They were magical for me. They do go by very quickly and I miss them every day.

[@mrandersonplaysgames6344]

It's so hard. I've been dealing with generalized anxiety disorder and major depression. I've been in and out of wards trying to deal with it so I can be present with my daughter. It's so hard. I love my daughter with all of my heart and to think my mental problems have failed her is the worst feeling in the world.

[@eseoraka]

Stay strong 💪. Love conquers all.

[@LolaT250]

Your not alone just take it day by day.

[@brendarios2552]

Spot on, with my first pregnancy... I found out I was pregnant right after I got licensed as a nurse. I was selfish and I wanted to work. For 2 years I worked full time and I worked an house away so Mon-fri I only spent time with her for about an hour before she fell asleep. That guilt gets me so bad, 9 years later I had another baby and I made sure not to go back, I’m home and I love it but that guilt still lingers and so many things I missed with my first. My husband just says well... we weren’t around to see that 😔

[@thereturnofveronicasawyer9998]

Working is not being selfish

[@brendarios2552]

@@thereturnofveronicasawyer9998 it was in my case, I didn’t need to work. I was only 21 and couldn’t imagine staying home.

[@sebastiansaik1656]

I wish so many people had a parent or parents like this. The sad reality is that not everyone has the gift of a parent who is there for them.

[@davidrains3918]

I somehow instinctively knew what it took to make good children because when my four kids and/or my five nieces and nephew were under my sole supervision for a few days (the moms liked to go on two to five day “getaways” a few times a year) they were happier and better behaved than usual. I was always the fun adult to be around even though I was also the strictest. From the time they were toddlers they knew what I expected from them. If they disregarded my expectations their punishment was simple, the next time they asked me to do something fun with them I would politely turn them down and tell them that if they didn’t care what I wanted then why should I care what they wanted. Even a toddler can understand that. I spent much of my time with them playing on the floor or yard making roads and ramps for toys or “forts” to hide inside ( little kids love to hide). ALL of the kids quickly understood how things worked. I also allowed, and even encouraged them to do risky things the other adults forbid. Especially with the boys the risky things were the most fun and gave them a deeper sense of accomplishment and self confidence than anything else. Then the moms came home. Nine happy angels became bickering little whiners in the blink of an eye. And that’s how I knew I was doing it right.

[@pisceananarchyvortex7223]

I didn't separate from my kids for work when they were little and it's my one of the things I'm the most grateful for. We were living at poverty level but we got to be together. ♥

[@robbietuned]

I love this video. Great advice from Jordan as always. Just remember it's never too late to be a good parent. Many of us have a family with both parents working. Sometimes long and very weird hours. Not everyone can have more than one child, I have two that are 12 years apart. But they do need to get out and play with some other kids. We aren't miracle workers but we all can be great parents. So shoutout to those of you that do your best!

[@tommarshall7247]

Yes, the only thing is that if you put off being a good parent, it will be too late to be the good parent you could have been. A parent who has been absent through their own choices will find that they have lost the irreplaceable, and arrived after the moment. Turning that around will be a monumental task.

[@zenguidancetarot]

I'm a single mum. Proud of my 9yr old. My age, having him at 40, went a long way to giving me the tools in raising him balanced. Guilt was always there. I ran my own biz. One great childminder (old school) and me (also raised old school) raised this child into a wonderful human being. Economics was always a struggle this world makes it hard enough for 2 parents, just one is a constant balancing. I never spoke baby talk with my son. He is adaptable and wise for his years. I'm blessed.. I stood in my foundation, my spiritual knowing and I was ready to share what I learned and shift things generationally with emotional expression. Having to be both mum and dad is not ideal but I was balanced enough in the Masculine and Feminine play naturally. Thank god for my strength and for a young soul who knew where he was coming to. Grateful.

[@tommarshall7247]

I left my teaching job when it became impossible as a single parent- faced with not being able to take holiday, and sending them to a childminder, I was signed off with stress and chose not to return. It took me years of self-employment to earn what I used to earn in 1, but I've been able to be with them, and that is priceless. One of the best decisions I ever made.

[@cristinagomez5067]

My son literally saved me from my drug addiction . Being a single parent of 3 kids Is literally the best thing that has happened to me . I get to make these type of decisions on my own . God knows exactly what he is doing with my life . He knows why the kids dads are not around .

[@WabbitAttackk]

It's so so true as a mother i feel like if I'm not working it's wrong and if I'm working it's wrong. Not to mention my daughter is an only child but i push myself so very hard to make sure we are best friends and have a solid relationship

[@Theoryxxx]

Me not working during the first 2 years was the greatest gift God could have given me. I did everything with my daughter and I pray that God will give me the ability to be stay at home again soon. Nothing more rewarding than raising my child. My career can wait but her time with me can’t. Hugs to you, do what’s best for you and your family. Forget the rest!

[@sherriianiro747]

Your family comes first.

[@keltonbaker1587]

Becoming a parent has been a scary thought. Thank you Dr. Peterson for the inspiring advice. I truly feel like this video has helped me become more prepared.

[@tommarshall7247]

I was terrified at becoming a parent. I'd held a baby just twice in my life beforehand. I'm so grateful I've had the chance to be there for my kids. One of the biggest decisions I made was to intentionally choose to get out of the bed in the night or whatever and be nice, be kind, not grouch and get out all angry. I knew it would be happening all the time, and I had a choice how to react. They're teenagers, now. They trust me and we can talk, have fun, and it's good to be together. Having a little kid lets you slow down, stop and look at a caterpillar or whatever, read stories. Very very hard work, sure. But worth it. Don't use dummies, let them talk. You get to talk and sing, too🙂. One last little thing. When my eldest was small he would resist being dressed in those all-in-one baby suits, with legs and arms, so he'd straighten his legs so you couldn't get him into it. Someone taught me to just tickle the soles of his feet. No need for force. Just a tickle, and he bends his knees. Easy. And maybe there's a lesson there. Sometimes a tickle is more powerful than force. God bless you.

[@joenichols3901]

I had a pretty unhealthy upbringing, tons of constant chaos, anger, etc. I'm in a position where I can change that and access to information such as this is truly priceless

[@Lilia9323]

I am so grateful I got to spend the past six years at home with my kids. This is the best gift I have ever gotten.

[@robingraves2682]

I have a GED. I work on a sod farm with my hands in the earth. Beautiful wife 2 children. Mortality becomes apparent when you look into your child's eyes. There's a beautiful cycle that's made even better by being here. Living in America. The land of the free to do as you please and be brave even when others aren't. Feel good indeed.

[@foziaar5878]

Jordan Peterson talks a lot of sense… the best decision I ever made in my entire life was to be a stay at home mum. The first years of your child’s lives are very important , every milestone, cannot be missed. Every moment with them is precious. Cherish it. And having more than one child is a must, your children will thank you for it. Being a mum is the hardest and most amazing job in the world. Dads need to be around too. ❤️

[@carlrogers8113]

So, you screwed up your husband relationship with your kid because of your being selfish. You should have been working part time as your husband should have which would have allowed him to have better connection with your kid. So selfish on your part!

[@carlrogers8113]

And no, being a mum is a pleasure, and not the hardest job. Working 40-60 hours per week for 40 years as men do, is the hardest job.

[@foreversoul6828]

I stayed at home to take care of my boys for myself. Children's need there Mother in the early stages. Best thing I ever did was stay at home with My Boys and putting my life on hold 💯 Worth it!!

[@MG53v8]

Ive got a 3y.o and hes got a lil job where he keeps an eye on the car keys and gets them when we need. Very proud of himself 😊

[@josephvanwyk2088]

Sad that most parents lost this basic common sense. Jordan is like a chieftain that sits everyone down at the campfire and TALK common sense. Great philosopher of our times.

[@saynafa7446]

Complètement d’accord

[@stoneinthefield1]

I love this guy! Straight to the point and great advice.

[@gravestoner2488]

My 2 year old daughter, this christmas morning took a very long time to unwrap presents. Withoit being asked she insisted on throwing away every peice of paper she took off a present before taking another.... she makes me proud

[@blahblah914]

I finally started to stay home this year after being a travel nurse, I lost so many years trying to get everything material wise for my kids. My oldest is I'm his last 2 years of high school, and I'm finally home, my youngest is in 3rd grade. I finally get to see everything now, and be a part of their everyday lives.

[@anthonybaransky137]

2 years of constant pain. That's unimaginable to me (thank God) I believe your telling the truth with everything you say because you say where you got it from🙂 may God smile on your family forever for the pain you had to endure, and will still... Thank you very much for all the inspiration you provide me and to the world. I'd vote you president of the world if such an office existed and I had the right to cast a vote🙂

[@APhilly]

I missed my son's first 5 to 7 years of life. I regret it so much. I wasn't there to help him with all the things that is mentioned in here. And the fact that I can't change it, is never ending guilt. My son is lacking in regions that is mostly my fault. The absolute worst reminder within being with your kids is knowing that because of my struggles, they are now part of his struggles! It's almost unbearable. Thank you for this video. Not so much for me but more for the fathers that need to see and hear this Like I needed to, but didn't get the opportunity.

[@eseoraka]

Aww… don’t look back in regrets. Let’s make the most of the time we have left.

[@Gacha_Ava64]

Your love for him is beautiful. I have the same struggles.

[@tilly.....editssssss8056]

Jordon Peterson is a modern day Prophet. He should be listened to and his teachings followed. A true gift in deed.

[@caroleclifford2138]

Breaking bread together is bonding, & bonding is essential. ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@vinetam]

This was incredibly encouraging. I'm expecting my 3rd child after twins (4,5 y.o.) and now it feels like it's gonna really be ok

[@johnochicago8457]

Absolutely true. I have two sons and three grandchildren. After four they start to show independence. The first four years are so formative.

[@variolaa1089]

Got it. Did everything right. Thank you daddy. Just trusted my feelings.. and didnt get a working licence, till the little one was 7... thank god... :D had so much fun.

[@xyomga]

As a new dad I'd like to thank you for the advice