What Relationships In Medical School Are Like | Q&A With My Wife

[@EvolvingMedic]

I have a question for you guys: Have you ever felt hesitant to develop a relationship or grow a family because you are pursuing a career in medicine?

[@thehigherevolutionary]

Yes, yes, yes. I'm not even in med school, but I'll start applying after I take the MCAT in a few weeks. Im doing an MBA and at the same time I'm finishing some prereqs for med school I didn't do in undergrad. It's hard, because I have so many classes and I had someone tell me: *come back when you're all grown up.* I'm like, I have to write a 40 page paper... for class - this isn't fun. Sorry, I can't spend 6 hours on the couch watching movies with you. Now I'm single and just resigned to be single until I'm further along in the process.

[@EvolvingMedic]

You definitely have a lot on your plate! 😅 I’m sure the timing of a relationship and where you are in the process will align for you when it’s supposed to. But you’ll always be busy lol so don’t feel the need to push off things outside of school that you’re interested in! Good luck on the MCAT and applying! With all of the things you’re doing, I’m sure you’re going to make a great applicant!

[@reannarichardson3978]

Yes. That's how I feel now. I'm about to be married and I don't know if I want to wait until I finish medical school or start having a family after my 2nd yr. Decisions, decisions.

[@EvolvingMedic]

Congratulations on the soon to be marriage!!! And I feel you with having tough family decisions like that. One thing that I realized is as time goes on, the right decision for you becomes clearer. A year ago we wouldn’t have thought we’d be growing our family now, but then as seasons changed it became something we felt compelled to do. I have no doubt that you and your significant other will know what’s best for you all when the time comes to make decisions. I just hope Madison and I sharing our story and experience can show that it is possible if it’s something you want to do 😊

[@reannarichardson3978]

@@EvolvingMedic yes for sure. Thanks 😊

[@anisas7463]

Congrats omggggg!! And the way y’all look at each other is the most precious thing🥺

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!!! 🥰

[@silasollegario]

Watched this video twice: first time by myself and the with my wife. As a premed, 32 year-old, married, black man, married to a white woman, I've just noticed how much of an inspiration you are to me, dude. You are me in a couple of years... which is crazy, cause I'm older. Wow! Great video, great channel... God bless you, your wife and your future kids!!!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much for this and I’m honored that you resonate with me and have found inspiration in videos and story! God bless you and your family as well! 🙏🏽

[@estherbaffour2993]

Love this video!! I really love your personalities and how you’re bold about your faith in Jesus! We need more ppl like you and Madison in this world❤️love from Canada!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Awww thank you so much Esther! We really appreciate this message and it encourages us to keep going! 🙏🏽

[@octaviagreer8732]

I haven’t even started the video yet & I can already tell I need this. I’m already married, in my late 20’s, & leave in a couple weeks to start medical school. Trying to find the balance between being a student & spouse is what I’m most nervous about.

[@EvolvingMedic]

I’m so happy this video is timely for you! You definitely aren’t alone in those feelings. I felt the same way starting. One you and your significant other find your rhythm though, I think it will be better and easier than expected 🙏🏽

[@mugishadanyvassyli3354]

Congratulations. 🥳🥳. GOD bless your relationship.

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!!

[@emmanueluzobuife8035]

CONGRATULATIONS ON THE BABY!!!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you Emmanuel!!

[@Skepticalstudent45]

God bless you two. Thanks for the raw authenticity SD smith, big ups from a fellow second year🙏

[@EvolvingMedic]

We’re so happy you enjoyed it!! Thank you for this encouragement and God bless you too! Hope second year is going well! 🙏🏽

[@jazzlyngonzalez930]

Congratulations 🎉 and you two are amazing!! My fiancé and I recently got engaged and I’m currently working towards medical school. This video was really helpful and gives assurance that it is possible to have a healthy relationship while still working towards goals.

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much and congratulations to you and your fiancé! You are absolutely right, it is definitely possible to have both a healthy relationship while pursuing your career goals

[@Velisabeth]

You two seem perfect for each other. Congratulations on your exciting news!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much! We really appreciate that!

[@destinymedearis3943]

I'm so happy for y'all!! The love that radiates between the two of you 🥺

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!! We really appreciate it! ☺️

[@kaden697]

Great video as always, this was exactly the video I have been waiting for! Thanks for making it!! - Congrats! Im applying this cycle and expecting my first next month. Good luck to us all!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Congratulations Kaden!! That is amazing!! I’m glad this video was timely for you. And good luck in the coming months! You have a lot of exciting things coming your way!

[@Ola.lady_P]

YOU ARE SO LUCKY TO HAVE MADDISON

[@EvolvingMedic]

I couldn’t agree more!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️

[@Amanda.Cooper]

I'm glad you announce in this video! Congrats you two🎉🎉🎉 Can you do a video on the home buying process while in med school?

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!! And that is a great idea for a video!

[@malickturenne212]

That’s amazing news! Congratulations to you guys!!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!! We really appreciate it!

[@user-ci4bh6cc5b]

Congratulations to you and Madison. May God fill this next chapter in your life one that is full of joy and happiness 🤎

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much Asha!! We really appreciate that!!

[@avenuesofwisdom8064]

I love seeing Madison! I gotta see more of the wifey she glows up the vids JR. We want more Madison Jo😁😇♥️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@EvolvingMedic]

Hahah I’m saying!! Trust me, I’ve been doing my best to convince her to come back in front of the camera lol. #MoreMadisonJo 🙏🏽😂

[@vanessaarnold882]

Yesssss please :) she has fans now 🥰

[@EvolvingMedic]

@@vanessaarnold882 I love it!! I think you guys did a better job at convincing her than I ever could 😂

[@keanutomey3258]

This video gave so much perspective to relationships in Medicine! I’ve been with my high school sweetheart for almost 11 years, going on 2 years married. Our relationship has transitioned over the years due to me choosing a career in medicine. Ya’ll gave some great advice and tips on how to balance a relationship and medical school. I am applying this cycle and we are interested in having a baby fairly soon, but do not know what time would be the best. If you were to able to choose another time in your career to have a baby, would you have? And would it have been earlier or later? And why?

[@EvolvingMedic]

What’s up Keanu! Great question and congrats on you and your significant other’s super strong relationship! I wouldn’t have chosen a different time because what I’ve realized is you’ll always be busy (med school, residency, faculty, etc.). So there’s never a “right” time based on that. To me, it’s more so when you and your partner feel ready and then you learn to make it work regardless of what stage you’re at

[@keanutomey3258]

@@EvolvingMedic that’s so true man, we always make things work someway somehow. Great feedback! Thank you so much!

[@emmanuel9149]

Congrats my guy!! Definitely an encouraging video 🙌🏿

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you!! And I’m glad this video was encouraging for you!

[@TheNotSoSmoothRoad]

Congratulations guys!!! I pray God makes this new phase of your lives very smooth!!!!

[@EvolvingMedic]

We receive that!! 🙏🏽 Thank you so much Tomi!! We’re so thankful to have you in our lives!

[@onikedagreat]

This info is highly needed..

[@EvolvingMedic]

I’m glad you found it valuable Ike!

[@ireneaimufia9749]

Congratulations 🎉🤩, so happy for you guys! 😁💓

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much Irene!!

[@healthcareanalyst8064]

You have a keeper on your hands bro. Dope couple, Madison, seems great and ultra supportive. 💯 🔥

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much! She definitely is 😊

[@rachelspivak1356]

Congratulations, you two! Can’t wait to see your family grow 😍

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much! We’re really excited to share our growth! ☺️

[@iAmNasia17]

congratulations to both of you!!! What a beautiful blessing 💕

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much Tanasia!

[@mandybabe966]

Do you guys recommend using loans to help with some living expenses? My fiance is starting medical school in the fall and I make a decent living but am still paying off my own debt, so I'm worried about not being able to pay bills

[@EvolvingMedic]

I definitely recommend utilizing loans to support your fiancé’s education. We were in a similar boat, but adding stress related to finances will make school (and life) a lot more challenging. Loans at this point is just another resource for you all and if you use them responsibly, they will only be a help.

[@moeelmasry2331]

Awesome video, JR and Madison! You guys are awesome, keep up the great work!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much Moe!! Will do bro!!

[@moeelmasry2331]

Evolving Medic I also forgot to say CONGRATULATIONS TO BOTH OF YOU!! This is so awesome!!!

[@kamaragurl]

Super amazing!! Congratulations

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!!

[@kiannaroxie8560]

Congratulations!! God bless!! And how did you guys pay for a wedding and the house and everything? Is it just Maddie and KZbin? Keep Evolving!! Love you guys ❤️

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!! And we got married 3 years ago shortly after graduating from college. We didn’t have any money lol but our parents helped us pay for the wedding. And Madison’s salary and good credit allowed us to qualify for a loan for a house 😊

[@allthesefoods]

Well God is GREAT all the time. Congrats to you both on the baby.

[@EvolvingMedic]

Amen bro!! 🙏🏽 Thank you so much!!

[@reannarichardson3978]

Congratulations to both of you.

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!!

[@anjafernandez758]

Madison, you are an amazing woman. Selfless, beautiful, smart, very feminine. He is a lucky man . Well, both of you are lucky .

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much for these kind words Anja. I couldn’t agree more! I am extremely lucky 😊🙏🏽

[@bryangomez1384]

What does Madison do for a living?

[@EvolvingMedic]

She’s an elementary PE teacher

[@marknzuri9119]

Did he say jr smith ?

[@EvolvingMedic]

That is my name lol

[@anikasamuel3945]

Do you know Ahmad Shahin?He's a youtuber in 2nd year at Mayo aswell!

[@EvolvingMedic]

I do!! But he’s at the AZ campus and I’m in MN

[@anikasamuel3945]

@@EvolvingMedic oh ok👍

[@calamityaj7318]

I didn’t realize you’re wife was named Maddison, so I thought you were saying “Choosing School and Medicine”💀💀

[@joyleenstrozier4295]

Congratulations!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!!

[@joyleenstrozier4295]

@@EvolvingMedic you are welcome!

[@MDForTheCulture]

my brother!

[@SomtochukwuIbe]

Medicine marries maddison 😊

[@EvolvingMedic]

I love that!

[@jamielevine3821]

Yay congratulations!!!

[@EvolvingMedic]

Thank you so much!!

[@kyngreactionz]

If you had the chance what's one thing you would do better in undergrad before applying to med school? Your wife is beautiful btw 🐐

[@EvolvingMedic]

Great question! I would have spent some more time learning how I learn. I think I was more focused on grades, and not establishing good learning practices and techniques, that the transition to med school was a bit harder than it otherwise would have been. So looking into things like Anki, getting into good study schedules, etc. And thank you so much! She really is! 🥰

[@kyngreactionz]

@@EvolvingMedic Ah I see, Appreciate it 🙏🏽

[@PreMedKeenah]

Madison is an amazing wife/partner. it’ll all be worth it later hang in there guys 🤍

[@EvolvingMedic]

She truly is 🙏🏽❤️. Thank you so much!!