Factors that Influence the Process of Healing from Childhood Trauma

[@barbaramulhall9470]

It's an interesting topic. I acknowledge that it is difficult to cover all the nuances in an individuals life experience that impact the healing process and show up in the therapeutic relationship in one video. As an experienced trauma therapist and trauma survivor, I often think that one of the biggest mistakes made by clients can be a lack of understanding of the process of healing and what therapy is and is not. Maybe therapists don't explain this well enough in the early days of therapy. I was one of those clients who, when I began therapy, long before I studied to become a therapist, had no idea what healing was about and what it looked like. I was in crisis, and I needed support to keep me in the world. Many clients show up to therapy in a similar way to how I arrived at therapy. Comparing ones journey to another often leads to disappointment in oneself as we tend to judge ourselves so harshly. In my experience, no one heals in a month or a year. Healing is hard work and incremental, and unfortunately, clients often miss the wonderful steps that they make in their healing. I am not suggesting that there are no signs of healing in a year. There can be great healing done in that timeframe.So much work has to take place outside of the therapeutic hour to support one in their healing, and some are not willing to put in the hard work and so blame the therapist. Unfortunately, we live in a world where people want a quick fix, and the therapist is often blamed from the misguided expectations of a client. The coaching and EAP fraternity have, in my opinion, a lot to answer for here. While choosing a therapist who has the education, the experience, the resilience and the desire to travel the healing journey with a client it takes time for most clients to build safety and trust in the relationship often as a result of deep attachment wounding in relationship with caregivers who betrayed and abused one in childhood. It took me many, many years, to trust my current therapist at depth for fear of being hurt again. I can look back now and realise that I was protecting myself as I found it difficult to find safety within myself, and so it showed up in the therapeutic relationship. Had I moved away, then I might have blamed that therapist, and that would have been wrong of me.We both had doubts. However, in the end, we worked hard to build that much needed safety in the relationship, and I learned what safety feels like for me on an emotional and physical level. I do agree that it can take time to find the right person. Not all therapists can do or desire to work with trauma. While so many can and do the work necessary as a trauma therapist to walk beside their clients and do amazing work in supporting those who trust in them. Thank you for your video!😊❤ *Edited to add...I have no doubt that everyone is capable and deserving of healing.❤

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience. ❤️ There is definitely a lack of understanding of what therapy is and what it takes and means to heal. It's one of the reasons I think it's so important to be able to have conversations about it and for people to share their experience. 😊

[@SusanReeves-ft1sg]

Thank You Peggy. I found this really helpful. Susan

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

I'm so glad. ❤️ Thank you for watching and commenting.

[@denisf.1744]

Factors Are Always Great Knowing So You Can Have Better Understandings Of It All But Then Only You Can Make Decisions As What To Do😘

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

Yes! ❤️

[@denisf.1744]

i found out the only way it works for me is when it’s all initiated by the therapist to help in any way because of,shyness,shame,humility,anxieties,and social anxiety as I have been with several therapists 😊😐Truths thank you for bringing this video on to learn more about it all 🙏namaste

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

It's pretty natural for people to feel as you described. You are not alone. ❤️ Thank you for sharing.

[@denisf.1744]

I found it doesn’t work without the medications,and treatments as it makes or turns it more into addictive behaviors,and also finding it also needs professional help to get the right kind of help as they understand it all better,and have a lot of hands on experience which is necessary when getting treatments,and takes a lot of practice,and most of the time only brings it to a minimum,and have to get consistently because of lot of traumas that happened,and now needed a lot more attention 🥵😘❤️

[@denisf.1744]

I Feel If You Can Bring More Videos On Of About The Treatments What’s Involved If Any Needed To Come After The Therapies 😘

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

I'm not sure what you mean in regards to treatment after therapy. Do you have an example?

[@denisf.1744]

Like perhaps exposure treatments as examples and what’s involved during treatments and any other types treatments available to get better understanding

[@savannahsanderson2268]

Lol! No me thinking that my process should be further along then it is (just to clarify I opened up about it in February of 2023 and then I started getting counseling in May of 2023) so there is that hahaha. And YES I joke and laugh to deal with it. Is it healthy? No. But is it fine? Maybe.

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

Thanks so much for sharing. You've taken such a huge and important step and that is a lot to feel proud of. Laughter can be a helpful way to cope at times. As long as you're also willing to face what you're facing in therapy. ❤️

[@savannahsanderson2268]

@@PeggyOliveiraMSW will I’m trying it would be great if I stopped holding back everything

[@denisf.1744]

Thank You Peggy For This Wonderful Video as It’s Helpful To Learn More On What To Expect,And If Can Do More Videos🦋🧩❤️

[@PeggyOliveiraMSW]

I'm so glad it felt helpful. ❤️