Farhan bin Rafee | Don't Marry Them to Fix Them | The Strangers Podcast

[@fatimah.ummkhalid]

Beautiful talk. But at the start you asked the shaykh to reflect on his childhood and before he could even get into it, you jumped to the main topic. Would have been nice to hear more of that. May Allah reward you both and accept all that you do.

[@thestrangersstudio]

Great observation! Sheikh Farhan had requested we cut that part to get to the main topic sooner to benefit more viewers. May Allah reward you and allow us all to benefit.

[@bakii8364]

JazakAllah khayran for this podcast may Allah preserve this Sheikh for this beautiful knowledge

[@razaiqbal83]

Great title and message, too many make this mistake including myself. Learnt the hard way

[@amanihijazi9228]

Very good video allahumabarik, learnt lots also got reminded of ALOT Jazakallah kheir for this video may allah reward you for sharing ameen❤

[@strivingforjannahh]

‎جزاك اللهُ خيراً‎ for the insightful advice Sheikh, but we also needed to remember that there’s a khair in everything, even the struggle itself in the process like Zulaikha and Prophet Yusuf as’s love story. No one is perfect, no one and nothing can separate people if Allah had already written them to be a couple in Lauh Mahfudz. Not our parents nor our race as long as we’re Muslim, that’s one of the reasons why Allah created marriage; to unite and strengthen the ummah, to spread the beauty of Islam, to give dawah for those who aren’t religious become religious. May Allah lead us to the righteous path and grant all of us a pious spouses أمين يا رب العالمين

[@Aahahss01]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته The love story of Prophet Yousef and Zulaikha isn't authentic, and so to use that as a basis of expectation will make your base/foundation weak.

[@taimurahmad]

As another brother pointed out--the love story isnt authentic.

[@FarhanBinRafee]

BarakAllahu Feekum. Firstly nothing is authentic regarding Yusuf Alayhisalam and Zulaikha or as some said her name was Ra’eel. However those who did acknowledge it said, that it was an example of a story where someone left that which was Haram, did not act upon it, and then after leaving it was rewarded later by Allah ‎ﷻ. This was mentioned by Ibn Al Qayyim rahimahullah. So we shouldn’t give hope to those who act upon the sin, and do not leave the sin aspect of it. We should give them hope in leaving the sin and achieving that which is better which is the Halal, which is where all goodness is inshaAllah.

[@seondeon6204]

Subuhanallah! I fell into a trap of an evil relationship thinking “we make it halal” soon, it was a distance relationship and it went on for 6 years. I knew it wasn’t right , but the lady was telling me that her daddy has accepted it , her father consent was all we needed , I spoke to her dad and the man was telling me she’s mine .It went on and on in a deep rabbit hole of depression, anxiety, fights, arguments, disagreements, cheating, and differences in opinion and sexual frustration . She literally became someone else after some time in the relationship, she got ready to fight me because of how she said have been hurting her over the years, when she started to snap back at me, everything then started to go down the drain Subuhanallah! Allah literally blocked all avenue to have made this halal . Biggest regret of my life 😅, anything built on haram would never ever turn out well, that’s the lesson I learnt from that hellish relationship I was in. May Allah forgive us and protect us!

[@HaiderAli-ud4qk]

SubhanAllah may Allah azawajal grant ease , forgive us and prevent us from falling into the steps of shaytan. Jazakallah khair for sharing your story to enlighten us.

[@TheStrangePoet3791]

SubhanAllah, how tall is the Shaykh? Idk if it’s just the camera angle but he looks huge lol 😂 allahuma barik

[@hamdhirizmi175]

Yea he’s not the smallest 😅

[@FarhanBinRafee]

Close to six and a half feet, so huge might be an oversized statement 🥲 also thanks Hamdhi.

[@TheStrangePoet3791]

@@FarhanBinRafee MashAllah allahuma barik, maybe it’s just because I’m a small person but it’s not an oversized statement for me haha.

[@jengalaxy000_00]

Interesting video, thank u for this. Just have a ques, if we cannot talk to the guy/girl online, thne how do we get to know that person? Also, how does one start looking for a spouse especially if your a female?? And that person doesnt know how to find one or talk to the guy?? Can please include timestamps in your vidoes.

[@jamrah8713]

You would get a proxy to get in touch with them so you can get the father involved (usually a sibling or even your own parents)