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[@katrinaliu648]

I really appreciate the talk you shared about finding ways to get along with parents. I’ve read somewhere that we keep forgetting that before becoming our parents, they are also just individuals like us with their own quirks and personality (and they still are! Aside from the role of being a parent). If I am a 31 year old daughter, then my parents are 31 years old mom/dad. They’re also learning along the way to become a parent. If they made a mistake, they’re already trying their best and they will learn, so will we ❤️

[@imjennim]

This comment! xx

[@JYYB]

This made me cry, because I know how this is. My dad passed 3 years ago I am 29 now and I didn’t know any of this until my dad passed. My world turned 360 I live 5 hours from my mom but I do and try my best for her ever chance I get because she only has us kids and she is still learning even though she 50. We both are learning together.

[@Leona656]

@@imjennim hey Jenn, this example in Korean example says: "내가 청하의 가슴 위로 잤다면, 그녀는 나를 껴안을 것이다." I've been speaking Korean for about a month!

[@adivinepriestess]

I absolutely second this!!!! I was so excited when you made bullet points! I was like, "I hope Jen talks a bit of how to smooth out the wrinkles." And you did! XD

[@Leona656]

@@adivinepriestess I've been speaking korean for about a month, holistic.

[@sophiachang]

When your dad starts laughing on camera in the morning 😂😂 he cracks me up.

[@imjennim]

He was so hyped in the morning! 😂

[@sri9255]

I really like the idea of consciously choosing to change the dynamic between you and your parents even if Isn’t something you grew up with. Actively striving for peace in that relationship is something I’m doing and it’s so hard. Happy I’m not alone!

[@imjennim]

Choosing peace is challenging, but it's one that I'm continuously trying to strive for too. We're on this journey together!

[@alexiskeo280]

Please keep speaking about family dynamics and healing family relationships! I think a lot of people struggle with this and its not talked about as often (especially being parents of immigrants). Thank you for opening about your family struggles and how you've come to peace with certain things :)

[@imjennim]

Thanks Alexis! I'll share more of my musings as they come. xx

[@IshaSharma11]

Exactly.

[@amandanazareno8350]

Hearing ur perspective on reacting to parents was like talking to a big sister. I really needed that :’)

[@imjennim]

Aww glad you enjoyed it, Amanda! x

[@dream.5708]

SAMEE

[@bonbon5555]

The parent talk is sooo relatable, especially at this time during a pandemic where all the time is spent with family. Was so helpful to hear you speaking about your experience and how to handle those situations

[@imjennim]

Totally! Family is where you patience is most tested.

[@daniapaula5636]

2nd generations responsibilities---so relatable

[@imjennim]

Someone's gotta do em!

[@serenity8910]

Yes! That's every other Asians since age 10! 😂

[@simplybychristine]

Oh my gosh hahaha I can TOTALLY relate to making customer service phone calls for my parents 😂😂😂

[@imjennim]

It is our unofficial duty!

[@sofiahandsafiah]

Same here! 😂

[@lovelovesugar13]

Thank you for being honest about your relationship with your parents. Seeing you interact w your family on KZbin you guys always seemed so effortlessly close. It’s encouraging to know many families and children can really struggle w patience with their parents as well 💖💖 also ded at the boob shaking part 😂😂

[@imjennim]

Ahh, of course. I wanted to share that this dynamic with my family took a decade to build. x

[@S1D0N1E]

lolol the angsty "I JUST DONT WANT TO BE CONSTRAINED" is me every day when I change back into sweatpants after wearing fairly comfy jeans for like an hour

[@imjennim]

LOLOL! You get me.

[@Awwdray]

I'm in that dilemma now. I just don't wanna spend more money on new clothes. I'm convincing myself I will lose weight now 😭

[@S1D0N1E]

@@imjennim Ahh i love you, I've been watching you for so long and your vulnerability these last few months is so appreciated. Your videos always inspire me and just keep getting better, thank you

[@IshaSharma11]

❣❣

[@madsolea]

I live with my parents and I just turned 26. After spending some time away from them in college and coming back to live with them and be closer to work, I realized that same thing about the triggers. Once a parent, always a parent. No matter how old the kid, a parent still wants what’s best for their child.

[@laurachiu3]

Omg is it weird that Jen’s old clothes have somewhat become nostalgic for me too? Like 10:06 I’m lowkey crying @ her saying goodbye to those boots, and the Gerties too 😭

[@imjennim]

Sigh... the end of an era. LOL!

[@Angie_runs]

@@imjennim ok! WHICH crossroads???

[@Angie_runs]

@@imjennim So i can go pick up that dress

[@TwoOnlyChildrenxoxox]

Those boots! I was yelling, “Jenn! No!” But if she wants to get rid of The Cincinnati Post sweatshirt...send it my way.

[@NimaFatima]

I really needed to hear that pep talk about patience with parents today! Thank you, Jenn 💗

[@imjennim]

Aww of course, Nima! Thanks for watching! x

[@lovelessfate]

Jenn and Ben, you guys are hilarious! I love it when u are on camera together. And I'm so happy that you're more relaxed with yourself, Jenn. It's visible and I enjoy watching u be yourself.

[@imjennim]

Hehhe! Thanks Diana! I definitely feel the most relaxed I've ever been.

[@The_Super_NOVA]

Lol your dad's Tesla idea is the same kind of thing that my dad does.

[@bchery4048]

LMFAO, I think its a foreign parents thing, or maybe even an every parent thing. I have family that would say the same thing

[@imjennim]

LOLOL! Are our dads communicating or something?!

[@happysmilees]

My mom says the same thing to me everyday about land/real estate especially since I live in Texas now......😪😪

[@ceciliatanaka2180]

I think it's a dad thing

[@IshaSharma11]

Great

[@amaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

OMG i relate so much to what you were saying about your mum!! Its so nice and reassuring to hear you talk about your mums fearful personality in such a kind way. I have the same experience but it causes me to get so frustrated and upset over our dynamic or the 'toxic' parts of our relationship, to the point where we arent speaking at the moment. I think its hard as you get older because you wouldnt put up with a lot of things from friends or a partner that you put up with when its your family. Its tricky but I really appreciate your perspective. Thanks for sharing this.

[@vvsym]

I feel like we're really getting to know you a lot through this vlog, love your personality!

[@imjennim]

Aww thanks Mary! x

[@CRYSTAL521BABY]

So relatable! From feeling like a kid when you visit your parents house to folding laundry. This vlog is so personal and I feel like I really you are my big sister and just sharing stories and chitchatting. I miss my parents, due to COVId, it’s been more than a year since I have seen my parents and this vlog just makes me happy because I can see myself doing all that with my parents. Thanks Jenn!

[@all3rgic2tofuu]

I have the same EXACT qualms with my own parents! My dad is notoriously indecisive and scatterbrained and my mom worries all the time too. I graduated college a year ago and live at home again and somedays I still feel like I'm the same teenager that would pick fights with them. Watching this I realize that it's definitely more up to me how I handle and react to the things they say or do that bother me. Having Asian parents and being a second-generation kid is like a 2 for 1 deal some days lol but this really opened my eyes to how I can be more kind and work on my behavior. Thank you, Jenn!

[@awquerida7602]

This video resonates so much with me. It's how we respond to how we think our parents are pushing our buttons that is the issue. I do understand your mom's fear. I grew up that way as well as my mother was a very fearful person. I felt like that limited some of the risks that I took or the path I chose. In hindsight I regret letting the fear rule me. I found that reversing roles where I was the parent changed my perspective and allowed me to understand where they were coming from. In today's world, unfortunately, fear is prevalent. The thought that guided me the most in terms of patience with my parents was thinking how my life would be without them. That made me sad. It also rid me of a lot of crap that I was holding on to.

[@KamanGround]

Ommmmg, the urgent tasks that my parents have me do as soon as I arrive at their house. Reading letters, filling out forms, making online payments, booking dr’a appointments, etc. 😩😩😩

[@imjennim]

I knoooow! It used to be an endless list in my early 20s.

[@alliebens4263]

Yesssssss

[@KezzendraQuek]

You guys are not alone 🙆🏻‍♀️😂

[@kezmiot9932]

I love that you talked about your parents. It is so true and real for a lot pf people especially me. I am working on this as well and it’s a give and take when you get older and finding true peace.

[@kyliem2379]

omg this is all so relatable. The parents, the not wanting to get rid of clothes you'll never wear... all of it lol I just did a huge clean out of my closet and had my golden rule be, if I can't remember the last time I wore it, it's out. In the past, I would come up with every scenario in which I MIGHT wear that outfit only to have it sit in my closet for another year or more. Not giving it a thought beyond my golden rule this time around was amazing!! I now have room to grow my wardrobe with things that are actually my current style. And as far as parents go, I have been feeling that frustration more and more lately, but keep reminding myself that they are doing their best based on their own knowledge/how they were brought up. And that like you said, they mean well and want only the best for their kids ❤️

[@haseena1001]

Hey Jenn - I was like LOL when I saw the caption '2nd generation responsibilities'. Family is everything, including chosen family. Our relationship with our parents is certainly an interesting and ever evolving one. Humanising our parents is crucial. It isn't about excuses, condoning or justifying wrongdoings but by humanising our parents we can have a greater level of empathy, understanding and acceptance of who they are. They are also on their own paths and journey as an individual. Nurturing this relationship, growing with them, finding better ways to communicate is tough yet rewarding. It can be messy and complicated, it may not be exactly how you want it to be now or ever, it can hurt, but it can also be the total opposite. Releasing ourselves and them from expectations is important. And sometimes you just need to take it one day at a time 💕 . The struggle when decluttering is real! Lovely vlog as always, stay safe and well x 💖👑

[@imjennim]

Hey Haseena! Always lovely to see you here! Totally on the same page about the importance of humanising our family/chosen families. We are all more than our "roles." We're all our own individual souls. xx

[@nancytsai4724]

everything you said about your parents (and those triggers) hit so hard. Thank you for being so real, authentic, relatable, and helping us all try to be better humans

[@MilkPeaches]

i'm so happy to see how far along your relationships with your parents have come. i remember watching you still at uc davis and you never really spoke to them or about them. and at the time you were just being eclectic and trying to live your life and most parents always have something to say. but it's nice to see how peaceful and matured you've become and that your lifestyle aligns with your family now. time really heals so much and makes you realize so many things. back then i'd fight with my parents too but now i think about how that time would be better spent genuinely enjoying eachother's company while we're still alive. once you get to that point it's so enlightening

[@carameow17]

I'm so touched when you posted the vlog right on my birthday and part of it discovers the topic of homesickness and relationships with parents, which honestly speaks to my current situation. It just makes me feel heard and empathized. I love what you share and appreciate that you do! Send you lots of love!

[@nancydee6106]

I love the talk about your parents, it’s so true when we become more aware of what’s happening and we make a better choice for our self to stay peaceful!

[@vaguemotion3989]

Something beautiful has changed in you! Your vibe is so different here than any other vlog you’ve made. Your seem happier, lighter, willing to showcase more of your silliness and I’m Sooo here for it ❤️

[@avisualdiaryxo]

Jenn, there is this odd connection that I feel when I watch your videos. For some reason the theme of your vlogs always align with the current obstacle I am facing in my life. It’s cheesy, trust me, I know. I’ve been having this resentment towards my parents and am sleeping over the rest of this week; I was not looking forward to it. Seeing this has change my mentality and I’m grateful For that. Thank you for the book recommendation, you truly help me feed my mind, body and soul 🤍

[@brendale4493]

I loved the power of now by the same author. With my parents, I know everything they say comes from love and concern. So, just practicing empathy and not focusing on ego really helps you gain patience in those situations. Esp when parents are far and you don’t see them often, they feel helpless and want to ensure your safety and success so they bombard you with a lot of info and advice at once. I agree with what you said- relationships evolve.

[@thebookbujo]

I love your attitude regarding the relationship with your parents! It means a lot to me to see influencers talk about it and their struggles. It is hard to make space in your mind for acceptance, but when you do it feels so much better ✨

[@melon_park]

Nothing will ever beat your 엄마’s home cooked kimchi jigae 🥺❤️ ultimate love language for sure.

[@cherryayethihan]

a lil pep talk like on 4:47 is why I always look forward to all your vlogs jen!

[@RhiannonAshleeVlogs]

That morning scene at your parents was so wholesome 🥺❤️

[@bettyreads222]

Love those lessons about how to interact with your parents. I've been with my parents for a year now and after being alone for 7 years, it's been quite something to see how they are now and what i was projecting onto them and the importance of patience as you said and just being there for them and also setting boundaries! Yesss cleaning out the closet is so joy giving because you realize what you actually want and what you are cool parting ways with and while keeping things for nostalgia sake can be okay, there is times where its okay to let it gooo. love your vlogs! :]

[@Zeenawarrior_x]

Jenn, you’re like the bigger sister I’ve always wanted. Thank you for always sharing your advice and thoughts. I really appreciate you reflecting there on these videos.

[@angela7096]

My mom is Korean and if I tell her anything that is going on in my life she always has something to say or tell me what I need to do or worry. She will think and think and think about it even after I’ve moved on and figured it out. Then a week later we are back to it. It’s like I have anxiety I don’t need you to add to it!

[@willow9719]

Yea same. I never tell her anything unless i prepare myself mentally for it.

[@neemanayak1409]

Hey! It's really nice and appreciative that you talk about your parents. Because soo many people go through this but I don't think I have even seen an influencer speak about this. You are hands down my favorite person on KZbin.

[@lephuonganhpham904]

It's so lovely and an honor to grow up with you on youtube Jen

[@mieko493]

This closet purge made me so nostalgic! Would looove to see a video where you reflect on how your style has evolved over the years. Perhaps discuss your favorite pieces during different eras of your life and how your relationship to clothes and certain styles may have changed as you got older. What Would Jenn Wear...throughout her 20's :) Regardless, been loving all these introspective videos lately!!

[@sammyss147]

That would be so cool!

[@Caritaira]

Thanks for sharing about your relationship with your parents. I think everyone can relate in some way or another. Love your honesty, Jenn!

[@yutzukuo8406]

I totally feel you, Jenn, My mom is over worry about many things and always thinks about bad sides. Thank you for pointing out this interaction with your mom and providing tips to deal with it. I've influenced by her negative thoughts for so long and I tried to stay with more positive people and read books to change that negative vibes as I am a sensitive person. Love your video as always:D

[@shireenshahizad2337]

I love watching your videos! You are so inspirational to me, in every aspect. You're always reminding us to grow, learn and be open-minded even when it's tough.

[@magdadias6711]

Hi Jenn! I'm doing an internship abroad. I came alone and I didn't know anyone here. In fact, I still don't know no one besides my working colleagues especially due to COVID. Truth is, I've been viewing and reviewing your videos this past month and they've been helping me soooo much on not feeling alone! I love your sincerity and your kindness, your growth throughout these years is amazing and I can only aspire to learn more and more from you. You know your weak points and you try to learn how to fix them. You are such a creative and complete content creator, I can only thank you. You have been the friend that I don't have in here for lack of opportunities.

[@grayonthewater]

This whole video is me like 5 years ago, this is feels like a snapshot of my life I feel like I’m watching my old self 😂 I finally made peace with my parents and now it’s so clear to me that every negative word they say is a peak into their inner world, they grew up poor and without opportunity so of course they feel like things I try to accomplish are too good to be true and they are trying to protect me from the heartbreak they endured. Also, I used to LOVE fashion but finally I realized I was buying frivolously and it was a coping mechanism. I purged my closet and now I don’t buy anything unless I need it, and if I wanna spend on something I don’t need I spend time to think about it and try to donate or recycle something to balance it out. I’m definitely a minimalist now and I am more motivated to be environmentally friendly and not purchase fast fashion. Oh also I don’t wear ANYTHING uncomfortable no matter how cute it is lol it’s not worth it! You’ll never want to wear it and you’ll never truly feel good in it. Only buy shit that you truly love. You might enjoy moving more in that direction, Jen! I know I feel more at peace

[@wowmyelectric]

It has taken me 33 years of understanding that very fact about my parents. They just want to be seen heard and acknowledged. And I understand now why they always act bewildered when I reacted, cause they just are having a conversation lol. I have to teach my younger sister this. They’re not trying to trigger you.

[@smhauolic]

I feel 100% the same with my parents!!! I super enjoy every video you put out, the transparency you provide and the variety of content.

[@flinnndivili846]

Who’s here after the pregnancy announcement? I’m so happy for them! My heart is so full 🙌🏽🎊💕

[@xobobalover26]

Your parent's house is absolutely gorgeous, I love the two-tone in the kitchen! I would be forever happy and at peace knowing I provided a beautiful home for my parents to live in. Love you, Jenn! xo

[@YenahVictoriaJoe]

omg your talk about your parents was so helpful and I can’t stop admiring how honest you are with us! it takes a lot of vulnerability and confidence to do that so thank you ❤️

[@MissNickkieJ]

Thank you for bringing that point up - keeping clothes for that "ideal weight" DOES leave me with a lot of pressure. 🥺 And thank you for imparting the importance of being patient with our parents!! I love how open you are to learning and improving...and I appreciate you sharing the wisdom you gain along your journey. 💙

[@soundous.boualam]

Oh my God thank you for this!!! I totally related to everything you mentioned about your parents, the ideas from your dad pushing you to do 100 things haha, the mama that worries, and as every time I LOVE your content! It's so so cool how, I'm Moroccan living on another continent, and I completely feel and relate to everything you describe about your Korean upbringing... thank you sister :)

[@ThePicklefluff]

hi Jen! I appreciate you posting bonding times with your family. I know that some of these moments are very intimate, and I really appreciate that. My parents are over 1,000 miles away and I wish I could see them right now. Made me tear up. Thanks, & love ya girlie!

[@Aliiii831]

I loved how you talked about your relationship with your parents and how you are trying to have patience and "not take the bait" every time- I have to learn to do the same thing as well. I also became very nostalgic watching your closet cleanout, those boots and gerties took me way back! T_T You inspired my style so much then and still do now. Love you Jen!

[@zen7353]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about relationship with your parents. I've had similar "struggles" with my parents. Watching your vlogs is like getting a therapy session. So many relatable feelings and thoughts. Thank you, Jenn! ❤❤❤

[@sunju7232]

whenever Jenn talks about her parents I just CRY. So heartfelt and relatable

[@olive2723]

New Earth is such a powerful book! I've read it almost three times (all on audible) and just listening to it in the car is such a great experience. It's so nice to be present and feel that intense joy. I think you would really like Women Who Run With Wolves, oh my gosh I've given this book to every one of my friends. It teaches you how to tap into that wild woman, that intuitive nature. Of course, Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is also great. I very much relate to you on having the dynamic of parent to child changed once you start becoming more present! Its truly a gift

[@violawin1358]

This is why I love you the most Jen! You're always keeping it real and I always learn something new from watching your videos. Thank you! 🥺❤️

[@nasreensarah]

This was soooo true to me as well, ty for being so real, honest and constantly focused on improving important relationships. Alhamdullilah you're so inspiring and I admire you

[@kspacecat]

Wow my Korean parents are EXACTLY THE SAME!!! My mom is always so worried and my dad always has investment tips that i NEED to get on ASAP 😂 I love them to bits tho❣️

[@imjennim]

Hahahah! Are these Korean parent tropes that we didn't realize?!

[@nurhanshah9618]

This is so relatable! So spot on about the 2nd generation responsibilities. The other day, I helped my parents to register for their vaccine appointment dates. Eventhough there was a clear manual and step-by-step instructions on how to do so. Thanks Jenn for making this video!! Felt comforted that myself and so many people out there are not going through this alone. 😌❤

[@HannahJYMoon]

Seeing your parents so happy in this house makes me feel so warm inside😭💕 (it looks amazing by the way) I remember you saying in one of your videos that you bought it for them, I can’t wait to one day do the same for my parents!

[@diesdas6809]

love how openly you talk about your relationship with your parents. and in love with your new editing style

[@sarikathakorlal]

This closet clearcut was a VIBE!! Feeling so inspired to tackle all those clothes taking up space which don't even feel relevant anymore 🙌💓

[@newdramalamma]

I love how vulnerable and relatable you are 🥺🥺 it’s so easy to think that your life is perfect and you have a perfect relationship with your parents and compare it to my own; but hearing your stories and knowing that your parents trigger you too HAHAHAH makes me feel so happy and warm inside....thank you for being so real!

[@erstellen7888]

This is so so silly but I was honestly brought to tears. While completely different people I've had a similar experience with my family. Really an experience that's still occurring. I don't want to give up on my family but I honestly want peace. Idk I'm just so happy for you, you've become so insightful, gentle and refined and i just am so proud.

[@suge484]

I too don't like to be told what to do. Your relationship with your parents talk really hit home. Thank you!

[@xobobalover26]

Thank you for the beautiful insight you gave on learning to be patient with your parents. I am 24 years old but feel like I am at the peak of the "snappy" stage and constantly snap at them for any little question they have. I guess I am at that age where I just crave my own space (I still live at home), but it's not their fault, and I know they genuinely don't know how to do certain things and need to ask us kids. I hope my relationship with them gets better just likes yours have with your parents.

[@sarazhang2134]

I just went home this past weekend and had this SAME exact experience! My mom is the same as your dad!!! She always has a million ideas for me to do and also gives me a million things to eat at once time lol!

[@RonIsHarrysLover]

Jenn, thank you so much for this video. It really brightened my day, seeing you live your life with such sincerity. I feel inspired.

[@briannaalford9218]

Everything I’m curious of comes through in your videos, I learn something every time I watch. I love it 🙏🏾

[@mich3061]

Having patience with people, especially your parents, is so difficult because it's hard to distinguish between what you should and shouldn't put up with because our society is so hell-bent on having this vision of a perfect family and making people believe you need to stay around your parents (or kids or siblings) simply because they're you're family. To anyone reading this, you are never obligated to love your parents, to want to be around them, or even "fix them" or adapt to them (because you shouldn't be "fixing" anyone, that's up to that person~ helping is a bit different but that's a whole other convo). I feel a good way to understand is to treat your family like you would your friends; you leave and distance if they're toxic, but know your boundaries about whether or not you have the energy and health to stay because you've grown to love and care for them. Lastly, remember to check yourself because you're not perfect and that's okay, but it doesn't mean you can't make change for the better :)) that was long but I'm wishing y'all the best ~~

[@josijsun]

I really appreciated this vlog :) The part about getting along with parents and about getting rid of clothes that don't fit right now. I can really relate to both! Thank you for sharing your life with us.

[@micamarieabesamis]

I'm absolutely okay with my parents being separated but watching your vlogs with your parents growing old together and looking so happy made me a little tearful. Your relationship with your parents is so beautiful & you're super lucky to have your family intact & well. ❤️

[@sharonyang8822]

omg i love when jenn goes hulk voice LMAO. that's literally me talking to absolutely no one; "am i making myself clear?? I just dont want to be CONSTRAINED. >:O "

[@imjennim]

LOLOL! Me talking to me.

[@themustardgas]

wow i felt like you were talking about MY parents when you mentioned they know the buttons to press!!!!! I really liked this vlog jenn it was so relatable, from the parents to the cleanups and how everytime you try to do that every piece suddenly looks too great to be thrown out haha🤦🏻‍♀️

[@kiabjj]

wow! this is so aligned! i am seeking our counseling because all of the triggers my parents set off in me, but just today i realized that his coffee cup in the mug doesn’t mean i have to be triggered, it’s just a cup!! i put meaning and resentment behind actions he doesn’t even think about. it’s my choice to be set off by it, but your first lesson was so on the nose!!! Not biting the bite and becoming set off by triggers that I created!

[@ji_eunique]

Now I’m rewatching this again after finding out you are pregnant.💕 It just makes a total sense now! Congratulations again. ❤️❤️❤️ also 엄마’s 김치찌개 is the best 🥰

[@leelsbless]

First of all, totally agree with what you said about your parents and your relationship with them. I came to that realization when I moved out and that mindset totally helps when taking anything overwhelming or negative from them. Second of all, you and Ben are so funny. I’m always genuinely cackling when there’s a Ben bit in a video. Loved the vlog!!

[@ntakanti]

I really related to when you were talking about your parents just wanting the best for you, and you needing patience through all that. I am a daughter of an Asian immigrant family in the US and you perfectly described my past relationship with my parents and where I want to end up (where you are with yours). Going to practice patience. Thank you so much, I am always learning from you ❤️

[@jessiengg]

Honestly, love listening and watching things jenn introduces ans talks about.. and have been watching for years. But this is the best video yet. Love the take on how we can control our response to our parents, to not literally bite the bait. I don't know why but we always do, but I guess it comes from wanting to really changing the dynamics of the family at home. Been really loving the content, jenn! Keep it up! :)) 👍😌

[@luciiaragon]

Literally can relate to everything that you said about your parents....the generational responsibilities portion is so relatable as a 1st Gen. I moved cross country for 3 years and I can say that the distance really helped them and I miss each other. When I moved back to my home state we finally were at a peaceful and adult place in our relationship. It is so enlightening to at this point in our relationship. I feel so much closer to them. ❤

[@imjennim]

I'm so happy to hear this, Lucii! Thanks for sharing. x

[@silkwave5200]

ugh I relate so much to this. eventually i got so tired of biting the bait and stressing out, that i made a choice to practice non reaction to triggers and try to see my parents as people with their own trauma projection. try to be empathetic. i can't change them, but i can change me.

[@Gwenm22]

Yes I love this comment! This is exactly how I feel !

[@OLEINNOC]

Jen i love how you always find ways to improve yourself in all aspects. Very inspiring 💗

[@LiloKutie]

Awe your parents are so cute! You can see the joy on their face. And your dad always makes me smile/laugh when he shows up in your vlogs. I wish my dad was still here. 😔

[@Meesaiii]

omg this blog was soooo good! When you're explaining your parents, goooorl, I feel you. My mom and I used to have the WORST fights but now I appreciate them so much

[@erickasingson3797]

Thank you unnie! Every time I watch your videos, it's impossible that I am going home without new ideas and lessons in my mind. ❤️

[@Locomotivetate]

I’ve been following Jenn for years and I can tell she’s changed, she doesn’t give a fuck as much as she once did and it’s so refreshing to see her hold her ground and show the world more of who she is.

[@decs357]

I can’t agree with you more. I’ve also been trying to be more patient with my parents. I think a part of it is also bc we know that no matter what we do or say, parents are the one person that will keep loving you. So we tend to feel more comfortable giving them attitude.

[@Taleofthegreat]

I cracked up every time Jenn would have second thoughts about each piece of clothing that was uncomfortable but was a whole vibe... hahah you don't need them Jenn, let them go!!! You can always buy something similar later!

[@imjennim]

Ughh, I get so attached to my material items! T__T

[@Taleofthegreat]

@@imjennim which of the two pairs of boots did you keep?? :)

[@sarahsal3510]

is it just me or jenn is in suchh a mood here. i love how comfortable she is with the camera. major bis sis vibes

[@klkl-t5l]

Omg what you said about your parents is such a break through moment for me. My parents also trigger me to the fullest!!! I definitely do think I’m zen and got it all figured out and then I see them hahah Love your approach to handling those situations. That’s is honestly amazing advice. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@trishmnz]

i can totally relate with the parents bit and appreciate that insight. i used to have a very close relationship with my mom but as i grow older, i feel this widening gap between us. perhaps it's because i'm slowly turning into my own person and the differences are starting to get in the way. honestly Jenn, your vlogs are my favorite types of videos because they're so therapeutic and enlightening. always gives me a "eureka" moment haha

[@Sochhho]

You have grown beautifully as an individual. Immense love for you. 🤍

[@chelseah8951]

I appreciate the first part about your dynamics with your parents. My mum and I just ended a cold war last week. I am 27 and this still happens lol!! I am Asian too and it is very difficult expressing love since we dont do it openly. My mum defo shows her love by cutting fruits and making food for me too. Thanks for the reminder and I'm determined to make a change :)

[@tigggy123]

Hey Jenn, I really appreciate how you opened up about your relationship with your parents in this video. I don't know if you've talked about it before, but I was under the impression that you had a really great relationship with your parents. Not to say that you don't, but it was very interesting to hear that you butt heads and that even now, it can be frustrating spending time with them. I feel the same about my parents. I love them but I always end up feeling angry, sad, and just bad vibes in general when I'm with them. I also used to butt heads with them a TON when I was younger. Our relationship is better now but they still get on my nerves lol. I agree with what you said that ultimately, they just care about you and want what's best for you! And that it definitely takes patience to see that sometimes lol

[@EstherHeo]

Love what you shared about your parents and how you’re learning to empathize with them!

[@valentinasaso3995]

i might sound cheeky but your videos are the best! intelligent and deep ( dynamic with parents) funny and entertaining ( decluttering you closet) and soo relatable ( I also love folding new washed clothes!)

[@hannahbeth5734]

Your stories about your parents made me smile so much. I relate so much! 😂 Love this vlog Jenn 💕