Feminine Personality Privilege- Why Are Some Women Called "Masculine'?

[@vam9785]

When you are feminine and friendly some people see that as being fake. They can't relate to it cuz they are not very nice themselves. Upon seeing you they have already decided they don't like you or that you are evil, stuck up whatever so being nice translates to them "oh she thinks we are stupid, she is fake, manipulative".

[@rachellebrown333]

They are CHARMLESS so they hate what they don't understand.....making people feel comfortable especially when they are strangers in a new place is a skill highly valued in marketing + customer service even some models struggle with this which is why brand ambassadors are put on a high pedestal compared to the rest + often paid more money

[@diamondjack-cooper5322]

My baby daddy said something similar to me and it's just so heartbreaking and draining to interact with person like this! AMEN!

[@chrisharris2367]

I experience this working in the hood lol I’m polite and black woken give me the stank eye

[@IndigenousExotical]

In my Native American Women studies courses, i have one lecturer who was soooo insightful. We had a class discussion on when is activism enough or complete to an individual? She reminded us that we can work towards the change we want but that also our peace and joy is sacred and should also be prioritized. We did not come up with an end solution of course but it was good to acknowledge the work is never done and to not individualize that burden we deserve to enjoy our lives.

[@briolivia]

I think some people underestimate how radical choosing peace is

[@IndigenousExotical]

@@briolivia that is so true 💯

[@MB-yw8nm]

I definitely have femininity and personality privilege. Ive def been called fake before by unambiguous black women at workplaces just because I’m nice, polite, smile a lot and am friendly and adaptable. Meanwhile everyone else loves me. I am always like ???

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Wow !

[@MsLotusBlooms]

True. I am black and my sister is actually tiny...120 pounds, very light skin and she is more masculine than any man I know. She gets so much respect from men in my family though. She has dated men for many many years. Almost a decade per man. She has never once received a proposal. They spend so much time with her but never take it further. I am brown skinned, larger over 170 pounds (losing weight) but but am inherently feminine in nature. This has been since I was a little girl. Never been very respected by the men in my family but got engaged in less than 1 year of trying, hypergamously, and interacially. Femininity matters!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes I believe feminine privilege is a real thing . It’s a social skill that can be cultivated. I never believed in it until I looked it up on chat gpt 😂

[@Mackenzietkd526]

As a Catwoman fan if you do the "catty" archetype please include Catwoman ... who actually has been played by 3 different Exoticals (Eartha Kitt, Halle Berry and Zoe Kravitz) lol.

[@Chingchinglotto]

Michelle Pfeiffer is my favorite catwomen, and she's an exotical WW 😅. Idk if that makes sense. They tried with Anne Hathaway and it didn't stick. Only exoticals can play cat woman.

[@Highwizardd]

oh yess catwoman has always been one of my favorite characters

[@vam9785]

​@@Chingchinglotto Anne Hathaway does not have that feminine spiciness. She is pretty but not spicy enough for a role as a Catwoman. Catwoman is a sassy, dark character. It needs a woman that has been through stuff.

[@xoxosisihere]

@@ChingchinglottoI completely agree with this as a Batman movie series obsessed woman.

[@impiscesbby]

@@Highwizardd

[@DesertSunset7]

I love how you addressed the selective outrage. It’s the most obvious among sjws, but it’s rampant among people in general. Far too many people who claim to want a better world only want a better world for themselves. There are so many examples of oppressed groups doing the same to others as soon as they get any power. Recognizing this makes it easier to appreciate and take advantage of my privileges.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Exactly. Also with the ism conversation, people only complain about the isms THEY ARENT BENEFITTING FROM. I don’t see ANYONE complaining about ALL the isms in general.

[@patriciaochoacordova3559]

"SELECTIVE AUTHENTICITY"... What an interesting semantic term! 😅, I adore how you wield vocabulary ☺️👍

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Thank you! 😃

[@Libertydream7]

You're so right ! I used to complain a lot and was a so called justice warrior. I'm so done with it, I still care about injustices, but you cannot make this World heaven on earth, only God can.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Exactly. I don’t want to be protesting 24-7

[@notmycircusnotmymonkeys3627]

I hear this. Especially as someone with anxiety and autism it can get really intense and exhausting for me. You have this drive to save the world but you can’t. I will always always care about people it’s who I am. But I will do it personally and encourage those that I care about and know would care to do so too.

[@Rosaline1700]

I was just thinking of this…femininity vs masculinity. And how I have femininity and how I attract masculinity. Even in men that are feminine.

[@Ohsnapitzann]

I see alot of masculine acting women at my job and neighborhood. These women will create their own problems and complain about it. Another side effect of a masculine woman is keeping a very messy house and car.

[@CreolePearls_]

Girl yes! Having unclean and dirty habits is indeed masculine. I don’t have respect for a woman with a unclean home

[@DeLaLuna0G]

I had no idea a lot of these traits were privilege! I have a lot of them and I'm getting more thanks to this channel. Thank you ❤

[@ExoticalsUnited]

yes i never viewed it as privilege until other women kept pointing it out to me on this channel. i thought all womens personalities were viewed as feminine (unless its a red pill guy talking.) but after further study and some chat gpt research, femininity can also be a form of "privilege"

[@DeLaLuna0G]

@@ExoticalsUnited I had no clue. I'm glad to learn about all the privileges!

[@PrettynBetween]

I had a thing with curse words too 😂😂 I just always thought it was a masculine thing to do.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes I used to think it was masculine then one day I said fuck it , I feel like cursing sometimes 😂

[@s.mclovin800]

my mom would always tell me a woman shouldn't swear so I started swearing more lol

[@handelnuremberg8757]

Serious video request: How to deal with unflattering images from when you had a "glow-down" I used to have no bad pictures of me but now people have captured me when I gained so much weight.... How to deal with this?? Any examples from celebs who managed this? How to deal with bad images being shared of you in general? Or people capturing you on video where you were slouching or looking very ugly... It's creating this major insecurity in me that despite glowing up again and looking beautiful I know these images and videos exist!!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Who has the bad images ? Are people sharing them on social media? If so you can report that

[@vam9785]

everybody likes a glow-up story. You can use those images to your advantage by showing what you became after. People will start asking you questions about how you did it and see you as an inspiration. Don't let people bully you.

[@handelnuremberg8757]

@@ExoticalsUnited Facebook refuses to take them down :( But also in general people having then and sharing them around. One girl who hates me took a video of me slouching and blinking and wearing the worst outfit (when I was completely down) and then she shared it with a lot of people in their DMs... I need some motivation to rise above that and I feel you can do that

[@raventolliver4316]

Here’s the way to rise above this: the people who are sending around the bad images of you, posting them, etc. are doing so because they feel like crap about themselves. There is something about you that they envy, which is why they want to tear you down despite your glow up. They want people to focus on you in your worst moments, so they can feel good about themselves in their bad and worst moments. I mean, really. Why are they spending so much time thinking about you and hating on you? Consider that for a moment. They don’t like you, or don’t want other people to like you, because the beauty they see in you makes them so insecure about the ugliness in them, that they want to distract other people from that by claiming you are the ugly one. Do not let them distract you from your own beauty.

[@lovenature6312]

Know that those people who she is sharing those images are seeing/ will soon see through her behavior

[@Whoknows688]

7:20 I have done advocacy work (volunteered, unpaid time spent in the stuffy general assembly downtown) within my industry to help various causes for black professionals...funnily enough, I never once saw any activists there to help 😏 It's annoying, and it's all talk.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Exactly. I’ve actually done thousands of hours of community service as well as multiple things in the black community with the NAACP etc …. But of course none of that matters because I’m just another opp who is “not black enough” 😂 I’m so glad I burned the cape . Yikes !

[@IndigenousExotical]

@9:38 whew! People are getting so upset over storytelling and others expressing their experiences! I noticed our society in the US has really lost some basic comprehension skills, one of which is deciphering who the audience is for when reading a story or article. If it doesn't apply to you then why waste your rage for something that has nothing to do with you?

[@classassignment3643]

I love the Normani album and it’s so unfortunate to see her so bogged down in the way she has been. I wish her lightness and fun on her artistry journey.

[@stephaniepink9060]

Yes!!!! ….isms are tiring! Yes!!! Amen!! Jesus Christ is Lord!! All these worldly things people get caught in is Non-sense!! I am a follower of Jesus Christ! All these people who have these issues need Jesus Christ in their life!! Decide to follow Jesus Christ !!❤❤🙏

[@Chingchinglotto]

I love you EU! I know you read comments so can I please make a suggestion? Can you do a video on the movie Soul Food????? Please! I am begging you! Terri lived my exact same experience as the only MLSW in the family. The uab sister stole her man, and married him. The uab cousin slept with her husband. Big mama bullied her into accepting the fact her sister was with her BF. I remember hearing the women in my family discussing the movie from the other room, i was too young to watch at the time. They called Vanessa Williams a Zebra and a mutt. ( I didnt realize that was a mixed slur back then). They laughed out how she couldn't keep a man. They never made fun of vivica or nia. Both of them were married to losers. Nia was being nasty in her own mama house with her jailbird bf. Vivica settled for a blue collar bum that made only a fraction of Terris salary. I could go on. But i really want you to. Please. Uabw have called out how poorly Terri was treated, but they never make the connection that she was the only MLS one. Please EU!

[@MoneySnatcher011]

22:14 calling you catty for responding to UABW is so hypocritical. If you are catty, then they are aggressive asf.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Right . How come everyone else can scream into the camera, curse , and talk about peoples fried leave out yet I am not allowed to laugh at jokes, comment on KZbin channels, talk in a snarky tone, or be catty. Why are they holding me to such a high standard ? Why am I expected to be on such a high pedestal ?

[@j.t.hellstrom3791]

Oh, perfect picture of Halle Berry by the way...That's the Halle I'll ALVVAYS REMEMBER!!!😊😊❤❤❤

[@j.t.hellstrom3791]

Wait, how was the "Fridge T-shirt Girl" havin' her shirt flipped up at the bottom like Dat when both her hands were in her pockets???Did anyone else notice that?! Wtf...? Like the comment if you noticed that!!

[@princessatheexotical]

The lore is expanding

[@littlemisssunshine5305]

@@princessatheexotical😂

[@princessatheexotical]

​@@littlemisssunshine5305 if thats you in your pfp your absolutely stunning😮😊❤

[@littlemisssunshine5305]

@@princessatheexotical oh my gosh you’re so sweet!!! yes it’s me :) thank you so much

[@littlemisssunshine5305]

@@princessatheexotical you’re gorgeous too!!!! 🖤

[@ExoticalSauce]

Barbie 2.0 is chrissie approved 🙄

[@j.t.hellstrom3791]

You ALWAYS told me you weren't into mysticism @Exoticals United!! I knew that wasn't true. Either that or this journey thru the realms of "Dark Femininity " has revealed some darker truths your Scorpio nature wilfully exudes. I told you once that you are the 3rd level Scorpio a.k.a. "The Golden Eagle" because mentally you have achieved the full scale of your sign; you are equivalent to me...an Air sign. Wasn't I right?? Air +Fire= Inferno. Told Ya!!😮😮😮😊

[@sugrusweeney9420]

Correct me if I am wrong Scorpio is a water sign

[@j.t.hellstrom3791]

@@sugrusweeney9420 Yes, I believe it is. Though I wasn't implying she was a fire sign.

[@patriciasoare1713]

great video

[@Mondayzz]

Great video ❤❤❤❤

[@ambrusin4889]

First!