FINDING MYSELF AGAIN| DAY IN THE LIFE OF A SINGLE MOM 2020| Tres Chic Mama

[@annkuhlman6603]

My son just turned two and I'm a single mama. I've made the resolution to go out once a month and do something for me. Even if it's just to sit at Starbucks and read a book. It's crazy how much of myself I've lost since having my son. I too am ready to reclaim me!

[@TresChicMama]

Ann Kuhlman Yes Mama that is an awesome goal!! Some days Id love to sit alone at a Starbucks haha You’ll get there, slowly but surely ❤️💪 You’ve got the right idea

[@francescazela3969]

Can I just tell you that you have the most loving and supportive KZbin following?! I was scrolling the comments and each comment is nicer and more complementary than the last!! Props to you mama for building this loving community, it’s rare to find!

[@TresChicMama]

Bella Zela 😭❤️ I seriously have the best followers. I feel like we are all friends & support one another! I’m so proud of all of us 💪

[@briellabenitez3024]

Just recently found your channel and I’m so glad I did! I’m a mom to 2 girlies, a 2 year old and a 9 month old 🤍 just thought I’d let you know you’ve really motivated me to push my boundaries to become a better parent. 🤍 When my first daughter was born 2 years ago I felt like I really forgot to take care of myself and lost myself in the process of becoming a mom and the self confidence I had flew out the window! Recently I’ve realized I’m not as ‘happy’ as I could be with myself, if that makes sense, which has resulted to me not being the best mom and partner I can be to my family. I’ve decided 2020 is gonna be the year I work on me, better me and find ME again without feeling guilty about it! IN OTHER WORDS thank you sooo much for encouraging other moms like myself to do better not only at mom-ing but also for ourselves! Also you make me miss vloging 😂🤷🏻‍♀️ you make it look so fun 🤗 THANK YOU AGAIN HAYLEY 🤍

[@cuhpcakes]

Never fails I always get so motivated watching you! Whether it’s cleaning or cooking meals or just doing fun things with my toddler! Love you! 💕 sending so much love and happiness to you and Sydney!

[@TresChicMama]

Janellang THIS makes me so happy!! I am so glad you get motivation from my videos 😭❤️❤️❤️

[@geminikay5]

So happy you're finding yourself again!!❤ I'm sure it felt great to get your nails done. That's my jam too! This momma of two under 3 is hoping to get some me time next week as well🙏

[@TresChicMama]

Kay Martin You deserve it girl!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@kristylanglois9290]

All I can say is - you go girl. So glad I came across your channel over a year ago. You’re an inspiration♥️

[@lillychambers-go4qz]

Sydney is so adorable! You do such a wonderful job as her mama! You can tell she adores you and is so respectful of you! Which is huge for her bring a little girl 🥰💕💕💕 I'm loving your channel!

[@karasmith5751]

That’s a great friend! So glad you were able to somewhat enjoy getting your nails done. Haha it’s like a ticking time bomb taking a toddler places like that. 😭

[@jessbravo10]

Happy new year! I have been wanted to tell you that you are a great momma!

[@TresChicMama]

Jessica Amezola-Bravo Thank you so much! Happy New Year 💗

[@hellohsunshine]

Love the basket you got for under your entryway table! Looks great!

[@TresChicMama]

Marla Johnson Thank you! I love it too 😍

[@hellohsunshine]

Tres Chic Mama also going to definitely give that peach sangria a shot once I am no longer pregnant. Looks delicious!!

[@bellanik2385]

I love this! Treat yourself. You deserve it. I know you will achieve all the happiness and more this year. I can feel it! ❤

[@sweetsupernova631]

You’re raising a good daughter :) power to you and blessings to your family. Xoxo.

[@elishaperez1668]

I’m so glad you had a good day! You deserve it and more. ♥️

[@TresChicMama]

Elisha Perez Thank you! It took a long time to get here but man it feels great ❤️💪

[@ChrisAlana]

Love the basket and looking forward to what this next year has in store for you! Cheers to 2020!

[@TresChicMama]

Chris&Alana Thank you love ❤️❤️

[@christabuckler136]

Holy crap I love Sydney. She’s so stinkin cute I love to hear her talk. From one single momma to another you are doing amazing.

[@ferrariw.9142]

That's an awesome friend!! I'm glad that you went into TJ Maxx, I don't know if we even have on anymore here in St. Louis, but we do have a Marshall, so maybe they have cheap bins too

[@mandiefield1467]

I do the limiting thing too- I’m not a single mom but my husband works 12 hour shifts and so I’m with my daughter a lot by myself and I work part time -so I have the mom guilt of well I’ve been gone all morning so I shouldn’t leave for the gym or go get my hair done ect but also I’m scared to do those things too with just her and me. I’m glad you went and got your nails done!! You deserve it! Also jealous of your drink hahah #pregnantlife

[@brendae4491]

Since I started watching you’re videos You given me so much motivation. I’ve been taking my son with me get my brows done every 3 weeks and it’s not so bad anymore. I use to take the stroller but now he just sits in a chair next to me. Great video !

[@TresChicMama]

Brenda E Awww I’m so proud of you!! They get used to it & it just becomes routine. Plus we are taking care of ourselves, which shows them how important that is 😄❤️

[@cuhpcakes]

I also got that parenting book! Thank you so much!

[@TresChicMama]

Janellang Can’t wait to get more into it 🙏❤️

[@joyr4461]

You are a good mom. Like you said you have to take care of your self. Dont be afraid to go to new places with your child.

[@annaw9037]

I’m so happy you got to do something for yourself, even if you do have to bring Sydney. She’s such a good girl! So much love for you two! 💗

[@TresChicMama]

Anna W Its been feeling so great lately! Thank you hun 💗

[@Styles_and_sass]

You are so inspirational girl!

[@TresChicMama]

Kiki Morabito ❤️❤️ Aww thank you!

[@amym4991]

I do the same thing with limiting myself! I'm learning too to try things! I've always wondered about the Jane site! I might try it now!

[@TresChicMama]

Amy M I’m obsessed now!

[@maryadam7616]

Glad it was a good day for you. You deserve it so much. Have a great weekend.♥️♥️🤗🤗

[@blindhousewife8866]

How cute is her lil voice!!! 💙💙💙

[@ruchiRocksta]

Just the motivation we needed for the start of the year . Sending positive vibes

[@tiffanygreen4524]

I’m so glad you did something for yourself you deserve it ❤️great video

[@karenaragon3735]

Another awesome vlog! Hope you can also do a room tour! ❤️❤️ Sydney is such a cutie

[@olesyamussman4929]

that's crazy that it takes so long for your nails to get done! wonder if it's the dip powder (i've never done that).. the place i go to i can go in and if there's no wait i just do a gel color on my nails and it takes 20-30mins!

[@aprilcline4864]

So glad you shared your outfit, I have to stroller my twins a lot. It's a lifesaver sometimes. Enjoy your weekend mama .

[@TresChicMama]

April Cline Strollers are a Godsend haha 🙌

[@samanthakwait8782]

I only ever get my nails done when I go home to visit family 6 hours away lol you are brave though!

[@justjessica7744]

I seriously love your videos! I have a 2.5 year old as well! We CAN DO ANYTHING!! I take my daughter to the nail salon. Stroller = saving grace! ❤️

[@TresChicMama]

JustJessica yessss girl! I’m seriously so proud of all the amazing mamas who take their kiddos to do these things!!!! You empower me ❤️💪

[@arielleburbee8898]

I wonder if an over the door shoe hanger/organizer would work better for one of the entry way closet doors. Love watching your videos!

[@TresChicMama]

Arielle Nicholson I wish my closets would allow for that 😭

[@sandycolin3804]

Hi. So do you think the 'no bad kid' book is a good buy?

[@marlapadilla7913]

So cute your friend showed up to help you have some alone time!

[@TresChicMama]

Marla Padilla It was a nice surprise ❤️❤️❤️

[@adriannatrujillo6829]

New subscriber , oh my God I am glad I found your vlog.

[@lorenraquel1]

Yasss to pampering yourself!! I haven't taken my 2 year old to get my nails done bc im terrified lol

[@TresChicMama]

lorenraquel1 I was/am the same lol But it can be done 😆🙌❤️

[@adriannatrujillo6829]

Love your glasses!!

[@nikkiforde8320]

Hey new subbie loved your vlog let's say u give me.some motivation to get out my comfort zone im a momma of two and it isnt easy most times ill feel like im stuck n cant get out because I have kids n I go enjoy life again but watching I just made my day love seeing u got ur nails done up and u chill n came home n did ur thing love more videos like this

[@nikkiforde8320]

My keyboard is typing shit but I hope u could understand what I wanted to say

[@TresChicMama]

nikki forde Bahaha I understood. My autocorrect/fat fingers are terrible lately 😆🤦‍♀️ Thank you so much! I truly feel you on being stuck or feeling like I can’t do anything. We’ve got this. It’s the little things we do for ourselves that add up & make a huge difference ❤️💪

[@nikkiforde8320]

@@TresChicMama ur welcome im just happy I found a channel thats amazing n true and just enjoyable and just makes ur day motherhood is hard work but ur just right it's all for a good cause

[@nikkiforde8320]

@@TresChicMama omg and happy New year sime reason it feels like we're in 2019 :-) still although its 2020

[@artsygirlmarilyn6296]

Thanks for the long vlog. Yay. 💐💐💐💐

[@rociogonzalez9984]

Love this video♡♡♡♡ Have a great day!

[@I007Dee]

Plus I think we are happier moms when we take care of ourselves, so important...

[@tracyhalpin724]

It takes awhile to get your life back again!! But once toilet trained you slowly start having to bring less and less with u , which helps ! And their unpredictable behaviour tends to become less and less! I've now a 6 n 8 year old and baby / toddler stage a distance but not forgettable memory 😅 lovely vlog... happy new year to you x

[@TresChicMama]

tracy halpin Yesss slowly but surely getting easier/harder at the same time haha

[@tracyhalpin724]

@@TresChicMama I know it gets easier on some things and then new problem arises.... like an answering back toddler 😅 the joys of being a mammy tho- worth every bit of the drama!

[@TresChicMama]

tracy halpin Absolutely worth it all ❤️❤️

[@Kelsey-es1vb]

I wish I loved my vacuum as much as Sydney does!

[@TresChicMama]

Kelsey Nuffer Hahaha right 😂

[@katycheroske8612]

Loved this video! And I love your shirt! I’m definitely going to order a valentines one! My 3 year olds bday is 2/14, my baby is 2/13.. Sydney is feb too, right?💕 never cared for Valentine’s Day before and now I’m like GIVE ME ALL THE HEART THINGS!

[@TresChicMama]

katy cheroske SAME! So the one I am wearing, I got a matching one for Sydney 😭😍💗 She’s February 8th! The sweetest time of year for birthdays 😉

[@jen___b089]

You could have got sydney out half way and got her nails painted. My daughter same age loves to go and get sparkles on her nails 😁

[@TresChicMama]

jenna____ I was going to & then my friend showed up haha Next time 😄❤️

[@Battle-gods]

How do I find those glasses? ❤️❤️❤️ love them

[@justjessica7744]

katie.r gallagher amazon :)

[@TresChicMama]

katie.r gallagher Actually these are from Quay Australia 😄 Hardwire blue light blocking

[@TresChicMama]

JustJessica I returned the Amazon ones bc they were too yellow. These are from Quay Australia 😃

[@robbie-leighlock8573]

I always pick at my nails so don’t get them done, but you’ve made me want to get my hair dyed, I think I just might😂x

[@TresChicMama]

Robbie-Leigh Lock Hahaha Yay!!! Anything that makes us feel good 😘😘

[@DahliaPeesly]

I've started getting a little better at doing things for me. I find it easier now that my little is older or maybe I'm just not as anxious about it. My girl was worried that you were cold. Lol she said she wanted to give you a blankey 🤣

[@TresChicMama]

Keely Lynn Hurst Oh sweet girl ❤️🤗🤗

[@cassandramoon3754]

I struggle with the same things as a single mom

[@TresChicMama]

Cassandra Moon Its so easy to get caught up in why it would be difficult to do things 🤦‍♀️

[@laurenciampi7441]

Girl. Try impress nails. I’m a mom of 4 and I am constantly cleaning. I wear dish gloves when I do the dishes and they stay on for 7 days! Just dip your nails on acetone first, then apply them before you go to bed. Don’t wash your hands until the morning. I swear by them and get better deals online then in stores.

[@TresChicMama]

Lauren Ciampi My nails are extremely thin & sort of flat shaped and NOTHING stays on them 😭 I’ve never tried them bc I assumed they wouldn’t work. I may just have to now 🤷‍♀️

[@littlewifethatcould]

Since my daughter hit 3 years old, I started doing my nails myself because I became terrified of bringing my daughter and my husband was/is always gone. Now I have two kids, so getting my nails done is out of the question. So I do them myself. Have you considered doing them yourself? I just do gel polish at home (gel polish lasts longer than regular polish and adds some strength). I do it when my kids go to bed and just put on some KZbin and Netflix. It’s kind of become my way to unwind. But I will admit there are some nights when I need to do a new set, and I’m too tired to be bothered. I make myself do it anyways because having my nails done helps me feel a little more put together. I do miss a nice set of French tip acrylics though. 😉

[@TresChicMama]

Veronica Anderson I’ve never done anything other than regular polish myself. Which is pointless on me as it lasts barely 24 hours haha I can look into the gel but don’t know the first thing about it 🤪

[@littlewifethatcould]

Tres Chic Mama It sounds more intimidating than it is! All you need is a UV/LED lamp, a base and top coat, and a color. Having a bottle of rubbing alcohol is good too. You just buff you the nail, ever so slightly. Dehydrate the nail with some acetone or rubbing alcohol. The put on a base coat, cure it. Then apply a coat of color and cure. Then repeat one or two more times. Then top coat it and cure. You can use a small brush (the elf tiny concealer brushes work perfectly) dipped in alcohol to clean up around the cuticle BEFORE you cure the polish. It does take practice but it lasts over a week or so. I’ve had some manicures last three weeks. Amazon has everything you’ll need. Just search for a UV/LED lamp. I would suggest the brand Aimeili (pink bottles), on Amazon. They have a no wipe top coat, so you don’t have to wipe the sticky layer off of the top coat after it’s cured. I have DND and Gelish and I still prefer my Aimeili base and top coat! They also have a matte top coat. They offer a ton of colors too. I have several and love them all. The brand ModelOnes is also good for colors. But I find their top and base coat to be garbage. If you are still feeling uneasy, there’s a ton of videos available on KZbin. NailCareerEducation is one of my favorite nail channels. Suzie has the most soothing, comforting grandmother type voice. But just type in gel polish tutorial and you’ll find a ton!

[@ellamonet6055]

New subscriber here i was just wondering how you initially made the decision to just take on the journey i find myself scared frozen of failing

[@ReedMeFashion]

Self-care is very necessary!

[@TresChicMama]

LaTisha Wilson And it feels so amazing 👌💗

[@JJJakubiec]

You are beautiful and doing an amazing job ❤

[@TresChicMama]

JJ Jakubiec Aww thank you 💗

[@camirovisk]

LOOOOOVE funny bunny!!!

[@TresChicMama]

Camila Lipowczan I think I’m hooked haha 😍

[@theamberchelle]

Can Sydney come give my kids lessons on picking up their toys? 😄

[@jomo3735]

For the gym I always recommend YMCA because they have awesome childcare. We did LA fitness, 24 hours and Y is hands down the best. They play with them, do crafts vs just 'watch' them, mom gets two hours at the gym. You could also do some editing if you bring your laptop; ) I went before just to read a book... Also ask for their scholarships because as single mom you will probably get a nice discount

[@TresChicMama]

Painting Water I’ve just recently looked into the Y. It’s not super close but an option! Also, I desperately want a laptop this year so I have more editing time 😄❤️

[@smd-yx6it]

Hayley, you have flawlessly beautiful hands. You should get some fun rings to show them off. 😁

[@TresChicMama]

smd 1949 Oh my word I have always hated them haha But Yes, tings make them more feminine looking & I love it! I want to get more ❤️

[@courtKNEErae]

Walmart does nails?! I’ve never seen that at a Walmart on the west coast!

[@TresChicMama]

Courtney Roberge Really?! Ours usually have salons in them haha

[@HELLObear86]

I’m in Southern California and our Walmart does.

[@cookingwithoreo7627]

I like the way your being your self! I have kids and there all over me and all over the house with there toys lol kids eh lol

[@elizabethchurch9720]

Brave mama at the salon

[@diamondh]

So your Walmart has a nail salon!? I mean the ultimate super center or what.

[@TresChicMama]

Lauren Brooks Hahaha Walmart’s around here have everything you need for real. I thought they all did 🤷‍♀️

[@leannafigaro7172]

Just catching up

[@8kids4me]

TWO HOURS? Mine have never taken more than an hour

[@downsyndromemama]

If your person can remove 7 nails and redo a whole set in an HR I'd be worried

[@TresChicMama]

Cynthia Blinn I don’t know haha It took forever for the dip to be removed. Plus we had 2 potty breaks with Sydney haha 🤷‍♀️

[@8kids4me]

Tres Chic Mama well that’s different! I thought she just was slow! ❤️

[@8kids4me]

Lori Ann Hood I have acrylic refills now, used to have gel. Neither took more than an hour

[@joyr4461]

I am a single mom too...

[@JJJakubiec]

You don't have to go gym, I hate gym but work out 20min every day at home either with my kids or nap time.

[@TresChicMama]

JJ Jakubiec I have never been motivated to workout at home. I really wish I was 🤦‍♀️

[@meganschneider3483]

Hold up! Walmart does nails?!

[@TresChicMama]

Megan Schneider I always say Walmart instead of the name of the salon inside Walmart haha 😬

[@meganschneider3483]

Tres Chic Mama oh! Ok that makes way more sense

[@philippapay4352]

Great basket for under the entryway table! Actually I think the touch of openness from the nature of the weave, itself, is good in that it makes that area visually somewhat less closed-in. We all go up and down, in and out, 'round and 'round. I think my weird brother once said that with all the phases even adults go through, he figured that meant the last 15 minutes of life should be great. I told you he is weird. But, I kinda get what he meant: when is the respite from being buffeted about by change and crisis and circumstance and chores. And with a child, every time you think you are on solid ground and have a good schedule, happy relationship worked out here come more phases for the child. The joy of it is that you get to teach her. The hell of it is that if you don't teach her well now, pretty soon she starts to leave the realm of your control and dominance, externally and internally, so you will lose your power over her bit by bit. The world and all that's in it is seductive. I would be telling you how worried I am about you if you were "steady as she goes" all the flippin' time. It would be abnormal. And you would have nothing to share with us or with Sydney. Children, the ill/injured, those with mental challenges, can get quite resentful of parents/others they have been given to think never struggle with anything because they seem perfect all the time. And they will rebel against what they do not see, even if it is hidden inside the parent and the confidentiality of a shrink's office. And that will be because they have spent every moment up to that rebellion feeling inferior to the parent who never cried, shouted, vomited, made a mistake, had to apologize for misjudging something. Other than through your constant love and willingness to share what you have with her, even in lean times, what you most have to offer her is a living guide to real life. It is how you handle heartbreak and failure and accidents and fear that will teach her constancy, hope, effort and courage. I had a feeling Sydney would be pretty good while you got your nails done. She had been good that other time at the hairdresser or some sort of salon. There need to be salons with play areas the way some gyms have childcare for while you are working out. You can always tell her to be well-behaved while you get something done that you need to do, because you will not do something she wants to do if you cannot trust her all the time to be well-behaved and polite while using her words and inside voice when around others, etc. Otherwise, everything you do for her in her mind is to win her favor, so she will manipulate you. She does not know she cannot survive without you. It is true that all children, except in spurts of sympathy, are utterly self-centered. I presently know someone with several children whose 2-year-old is quite erratic, even when not in meltdown mode which is fairly predictable. She no longer feels she has any real control over how her toddler behaves in public, so has had to make the temporary decision never to go out to eat with her again with other people, so that the whole occasion does not get ransacked by this toddler terrorist. But, she has a husband who is good with the kids and household and parents nearby, so can get out with a girlfriend for a drink on occasion without the wee one. The others are in kindergarten and elementary school. You said you were limiting her screen time at home to evenings before bedtime after supper, so when you have to go to the hairdresser or some such is a good time to take a tablet with you to keep her occupied and she'll consider it such a treat, an indulgence and not just the same old, same old. It may seem odd to you if you are not familiar with it, but in lieu of dance classes or gymnastics which are demanding yet can be very cliquish depending upon how the ballet master or gymnastics instructor handles the class, I would recommend looking into a martial art like taekwondo. It is an art, sport, spiritual discipline, body training, and could protect her as a female alone in a dorm on a college campus one day. Probably no one will mess with a brown or black belt in taekwondo, which is not violent. But it is highly skilled, precise, extremely strong physical movements that promote one's sense of self-control and ability to handle things around them, if need be, by exhibiting strength. They teach moral principles, like integrity, in each class and there are lots of girls taking these courses. They do not discriminate and there is no sense that anyone cannot be taught, as with situations where a ballet master or gymnastics instructor could be among those who favor those whom they consider to be gifted and might bring them some glory. The concept of personal glory in that sense does not exist in martial arts, which are about knowing and using and disciplining the self from inside and through the body's movements. I think they begin admitting students from about the age of 3. Any of those 3 disciplines would be good for her with the right teacher. Taekwondo may have a more lasting benefit and influence in her life. You looked so warm in those new boots that they made my feet hot. You are doing well, believe it or not.

[@TresChicMama]

Philippa Pay Thank you!! I’ve been delaying the class thing due to the tough phase we have been in for a few weeks now & the flu going around like rapid fire 🤦‍♀️ But soon!!!

[@jennnnnaaaacaroleee]

Ooooo girl, don’t get dip manicures- they are so unsanitary, there’s no way to sterilize the powder. Love you and Sydney and DITL vlogs

[@TresChicMama]

Jenna Zaborowski I know 😖 Izvestia seen all the viral pictures haha Im truly thinking of buying my own somehow & bringing it. It’s the only one I’ve tried that stay on & doesn’t damage my thin nails 😭

[@progressongs4346]

That is so awesome that you are taking time to find yourself. Take a peek at our channel for some diverse children's songs to show your little one! Our songs are sung by two Broadway singers and aim to represent the underrepresented in society. Join us in teaching the future generations about diversity.

[@jennifermoore5155]

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[@katiefloyd7238]

Ugh it is such a chore to get your nails Done . I hate it I just do it myself and find it relaxing and cheaper. But I hear ya sister such a chore meh

[@TresChicMama]

Katie Floyd I don’t know the first thing about doing my own nails haha But I really wish I did. Paint doesn’t stay on at all 😭

[@katiefloyd7238]

Do gel!!! Amazon has some good stuff the light and everything polish etc.