Finding your family: What happens next? | Full Episode | SBS Insight

For adoptees and people who are donor conceived, meeting your biological family can be one of the biggest moments in your life. But these reunions can be challenging and not all result in lasting relationships. This week’s Insight looks at the complexities of meeting your family later in life.
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[@janicescott7338]

So nice of the mom not to be offended that her daughter doesn’t want to call her mom.

[@kjmax1068]

So hard for all parties. Very emotional time. I had 3 choices, abortion, adoption or raise as single mum. Made appt with clinic in NSW. on confirmation I cancelled. People encouraged me to adopt. I didn't. Baby born 1981. Never regretted

[@susanpendell4215]

Thank you for having the courage and love to give birth to your baby.

[@Prinzenelleke]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1631">27:11</a> "Good or bad, he is definitely one of us." Yup. That is family.

[@stellaz2595]

I met my half brother for the first time when I was in my sixties and he was in his seventies. He was a lovely man, and I was glad to know him, but it wasn't the same thing as growing up with a sibling.

[@colourfulili]

I’m so immediately struck by Jamie’s compassion and graciousness toward his family, especially his birth mother. It’s so moving!

[@christinemillman1093]

adopted from the hospital 1953, met my maternal sister in 1996, met my paternal side 2019. An adventure to say the least... Paternal 50% Albanian - the rest United Kingdom and France.

[@lindahicks1969]

Jamie, she is lovely. I’m so glad you had the opportunity to make that trip. A new sister, brother and Mother. You hit the jackpot!

[@judymcpheron5955]

His is so enlightening. Brave adoptees and wonderful birth parents. How difficult the situations the biological parents were in. To make such a huge sacrifice. But to tell a person they were given up to spite the philandering father is cruel. So rejecting. Please make more videos on this topic. Praise, praise, praise for all your work to produce this. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@Emy53]

Carole and Annette look so much alike. I am happy they found one another.

[@Emy53]

So many broken hearts when there are secrets kept. I don't blame the adopted individuals to want to know who they are, but I also feel that the women giving up their child also needs their privacy respected, if they so choose they don't want to be exposed in puplic . They can arrange to meet privately if the biological parent is in a position where she doesn't want to be exposed. I don't want to judge these women but adoptees have a right to know who they are.

[@susanjoy1501]

I think the birth mother that abandons her baby is probably ridden with guilt and shame that is why it's difficult to make contact. Two sides to every story

[@susiearviso3032]

I wish someone else would find my family. I think I'm in the wrong one.

[@Emy53]

All these beautiful individuals could have been aborted but they all were given life, and that alone is a huge gift and a blessing.

[@Emy53]

I imagine it's painful learning that you were given up, but both your biological parents stayed together and had more children after you. Why don't these parents try to get their child back, or was that not possible after you give up your child...

[@luguy8347]

That was tenderly done. All unique but the same puzzle.

[@beccalove8791]

You can’t just tell your mom that everything’s ok if she’s falling apart emotionally

[@Selhernandez34]

Finding your birth family isn’t always about wanting to have them in your life but more so you can find closure and move on from that chapter. Some of us find them and see them that god wanted us to have a better way in life by providing a ‘better’ family to love and raise us. But sadly that doesn’t make us feel any more accepted by either family.

[@lwscijunkie]

We ought to support young mothers in difficult situations if she wants to keep her baby...The stigma of unwed pregnancy is a think of the past and Planned Parenthood says that most moms with an unplanned pregnancy actually want to keep their babies but feel that they can't.

[@yvonnekneeshaw2784]

Always interesting topics. I enjoy the interviewer as she asks great questions and very easy to listen to. Thank u. 🇨🇦

[@eileenwatt8283]

I took DNA from my half sibling and full siblings to trace our family. My half sibling had a high match with someone that didn't match any of us. I message the lady and she told me she was adopted and looking for her birth mother. In 15 mins I connected her with her birth mother, my sister's half niece whom I never met but my sister knew of the adoption. Its been 5 years and I hear from them every holiday to thank me for reaching out and reconnecting them.

[@taffykins2745]

I just found your channel and subscribed. Enjoyed the program very much and am looking forward to the next one!!!

[@veronicagreenaway6842]

Brilliant program, thank you.

[@cherylsage4026]

At age 51 I found out I have a sister I never knew existed. I want to meet her, but I'm in California and she's Gernan.

[@luciaschieffer8958]

I love this program

[@timothyzakaria7397]

Wow this is good

[@angelstarz3367]

Where can I watch all full episodes of SBS Insight?

[@luguy8347]

Subscribe and notifications happen when new shows come on

[@timothyzakaria7397]

I didn't know until I was about 28 but my skin darkens from the sun I realize that my biological father is darker. I have yellow in my skin which could be Asian or Middle Eastern. I believe my biological mother is from Afghanistan

[@timothyzakaria7397]

Having uneven skin can be weird and cause an individual to have insecurities.

[@DigoronKavkaz]

Sad :(

[@janicescott7338]

Elena looks just like her dad.

[@junipertree4me]

Rerun

[@respecthewoman]

I wish the interviewer would have closed each talk with something to indicate that she was about to ask someone else another question. Like, 'okay, thank you John. Now Sue, have you ...... ?' Instead she just talk to others without having a break in the chain of interviews. That bothered me. Anyways, Rachel looked like her mom for sure, so glad they all had the courage to reach out and find the truth. That takes a lot of heart. Cheers Everybody. Be well.

[@susanpendell4215]

" They tanned and I burned" My mother, who has very white skin, her mother had a darker almost olive skin, but grandpa was white. The color of parents is irralevant as people with dark skin can have lighter skinned children. I had a friend who was like that with her children. When your genes are mixed, you can come out whatever color. So what about color? Color doesn't always tell who your parents are.

[@susanpendell4215]

For the woman who was dropped off as a preemie, just take it one day, one step at a time. How you were found and how small you were, it's a miracle that you survived. So you were meant to be here. The Creator YHWH meant for you to be here, know that. So, as to your parents, your mama must have been in some kind of trouble, scared and alone, possibly in an abusive relationship or her parents didn't want an unwed mother with a baby to care for. Least likely scenario was that she was dying and that's why you were a preemie. So those are the likeliest scenarios. With this knowledge, you can go on. Don't fret, just keep searching.

[@susanpendell4215]

There are parents right to privacy, that is not to be found, called or otherwise contacted. The child's right is to know where they came from, family health history (what runs in the family) and possibly why they were given up and where the families origins ancestorially are. This doesn't not override the parents right to privacy while giving the child at least some idenity of who they are so that they can get o n with their lives and what health issues to be aware of. Carol looks a lot like my aunt. So odd, as I don't know that we're any relation.

[@kathyfugere6085]

Doesn't make people want to know you

[@Truthseeker371]

Why is it so important to have bloodkin? This cut and dry age, it's a priviledge to have people we can call family. Even biologically related families are dysfunctional and don't know where everyone is.

[@dannsherstone1037]

The sperm donor approaching the child - I don't care if she is 40 - and even through an agency - is totally out of line.

[@breablevins9533]

At <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1790">29:50</a> I'm just wondering what about covid is so funny she giggled at the fact that the young lady's father was recovering from covid and that's why he wasn't there I don't think it's a laughing matter it's the worst thing I've ever experienced in my entire life

[@fatmaalbeity9097]

Better get marriage first before bringing legitimate child then give it to adoption but if getting marriage is not the solution then try not to bring a child that u can not take care because bringing a child is big responsibility or better stay away from sex till ur ar ready ..because its not fair at all for this children to live like this its a child right to live an grow up with both parents an a loving home

[@judymcpheron5955]

Idealism. Far left. This is Cruel to say: these babies have no say over their conception. Welcome to Reality! 😒😒😒

[@francosuarez]

It is interesting to see how promiscuous women blame men and pretend to be victims. It is also interesting to see the forgiveness given to these #singlemothers. Today, paternity fraud, paternal alienation and other crimes against fathers' rights continue to be impune. The narrative and laws must change to have true equality and responsible women who are accountable for their sexual misbehavior.

[@angharadswansea9343]

You self-righteous evil person. May God forgive you for who you have become.

[@MichelleLuvn25]

Shut up

[@mary_puffin]

You watch these moving stories and this is the comment you leave? Some of you people are so bitter you can only see one thing, you fail to see humanity. So, what about the men who slept with these women? Can we not lay some of the promiscuity blame with them? E.g. the man who lied about being a widower, or the American soldiers in Vietnam who left their children behind. The bigger question though is why you're so focused on promiscuous women after watching these very personal stories. What about the children?