boundaries with exes or lack thereof with Leandra Earl

[@LlamaLlamaRedPajamas]

Leandra’s got me kicking my feet and giggling through this whole episode

[@alexandralecce2517]

Will always love “I’m in love with Kevin, guys.”

[@3Oh3metrostation]

lol yea don't worry about it. she's got kevin 😂

[@ShelbyAlex]

I am a 28 years closeted lesbian (Due to geographical location), I wish I could celebrate this week with other lesbians, but right here I feel loved and connected, Thanks Shann, your existence means everything.

[@BengBalboa]

Im 28 too but im not really closeted lesbian i just don't come out everyone assume i am lesbian and im okay with it the thing is i think im the only one lesbian here in a island who people living is just under a hundred.

[@ShelbyAlex]

@@BengBalboa I feel you, being a lesbian can be very isolating, but I'm planning to leave wish me good luck

[@BengBalboa]

@@ShelbyAlex no luck dude just wishing you a good one.

[@daggerix445]

You got this, Alex! It's probably late already but Happy Lesbian visibility week!

[@ShelbyAlex]

@@BengBalboa thanks dear ❤️

[@nath9773]

"Greatly loved deeply missed" RIP Eva... Shannon, thanks for this great podcast...every episod is remarkable!

[@3Oh3metrostation]

In reference to what shannon was saying in the intro, CHECK ON UR FRIENDS AND FAMILY. you never know what people are going through. especially the happy ones that always put on a smile and seem great. Make space to be there for people u care for. 💙

[@kristinaskufca1873]

25:20 Not the "other person" being Fletcher and no one picking up on that 😭😅

[@lilakloppenburg290]

As one of the many many girlies with a big huge crush on Leandra… 🙃🙃😍 this is the best crossover ever, lmao thanks Shannon

[@WritingRN2]

Agree. This made me like Leandra even more. HELP! LOL☺💞💞💞💞💞

[@SpottedTheo_oo]

Your intro was … it couldn’t have been done any better. Thank you for checking in and being you.

[@melodyrose1873]

That was so kind for you to speak on Eva's passing, well done ❤❤❤

[@th-bx6bq]

the beaches and the aces are my idols dude, they're so cool. so to hear about Leandra and Cristal behind the scenes is blowing my mind rn, v wholesome

[@debbiebeveridge1883]

You always seem to have so much fun in Canada with your friends there. Seems like a nice vibe.😘

[@healthyberry8302]

Leandra carrying herself very confident is beautiful ❤

[@douniak1518]

your neighbor is so real for that😭

[@3Oh3metrostation]

Shannon's vulnerability is everything. Loved the humor and stories this epi. As much as it sucks to lose control of editing, I'm glad she'll have more time for research and feel prepared. I can't believe she did it all herself to begin with. Podcasters usually have teams of sound engineers and producers and cohosts and editors. Truly proves how genius shannon truly is but doesn't let on. 🌈🌈 From a bi girl: HAPPY LESBIAN VISIBILITY WEEK ❤ love u all!

[@tenzero5274]

She’s so sweet and funny. Never heard of them before, and this was such a great introduction and fun episode. Will def check them out

[@3Oh3metrostation]

I just discovered their music thru shannon too. I like the song "Edge of the Earth"

[@Queen.Ashanti]

Literally listening to the show at my corporate bank job where it’s sooo quiet, and I’m cracking the f**k up 🤣 This was super entertaining! Sending you lots of love Shannon! 🫶🏽

[@dont_mess2837]

I came out when I was 24 and I relate to this episode so much! Now 31, I try not to think of my experiences as a regret so I’m working on giving myself grace as well and living for the closeted kid I was

[@emmasnell1467]

I now have a huge crush on Leandra omg her energy is amazing!

[@Bryannacornelissen]

Leandra is sooo real, it helps like hell, that she is experiencing it all too, so I don't feel weird

[@WritingRN2]

First off let me say, Shannon I am very sorry for your loss, and I appreciate you still taking the time to make an intro for this episode. Because honestly, you could have just said, "I can't do it," and just started the episode without one, but you chose to remain authentically you, by showing that you aren't always having good days. And that's totally normal, because we all hurt. We all feel sad, and we have to give those feelings as much of a voice and weight as we do the happy ones. Love you right back.❤ On the episode: This episode brought me so much joy. This podcast is truly my favorite part of the week. Every single episode makes me think, and there's always something in them that makes me feel seen. I feel the same as Leandra when it comes to wishing I had been able to be myself growing up, but I did the same thing as her...I pushed away any feelings for girls that felt "wrong" to me because I was scared of what other people would say, even though my first kiss was with a girl when I was nine, and it was perfect. Honestly, I currently identify as bi/pan, but not because I felt like it was easier to come out as that, but because I've never been in a relationship with anyone, and I honestly don't know if I like girls or guys more. I just know I'm attracted to both. Both males and females give me insane butterflies in my stomach and warm fuzzy feelings. And by the way what Teagan said to Leandra put me all the way in my feels.😭Leandra seems like such a funny delightful person, and it was cool getting to know her a little through this episode.❤ Thank you for bringing joy to my week.

[@wintergreen1784]

Was honestly so helpful to hear about you navigating friendship w ex, including messy parts, gives me hope. and wish there were more people your parents’ age queer and alive and able to be guiding/mentors (thinking of hiv/aids crisis), but so grateful for you and your words 💐🌷

[@TaylorStephens-te5qw]

I love your podcasts...they help. Thanks for all you do!

[@3Oh3metrostation]

❤❤❤

[@poliwagswirlbetastar3769]

Gosh I just want to give you a hug after that intro 😢❤

[@nicolejacques2612]

I was a few epidoses behind, good to be back (couple rough weeks)

[@kellylaraine1712]

I honestly think this was SO much better than the last 2 guests/episodes.

[@mackenziecollins585]

NO WAIT BUT DONE WITH DOLLS??? core memory unlocked

[@loaningg]

my old boss used to work with that worlds fastest clapper guy. he said he was always walking around work clapping😭

[@anikarahman193]

Goodnight shannon 🌙 Thanks for the upload 😘

[@Cathy15155]

Thanks for the Canadian anthem shoutout! ❤

[@Rayraykj]

Love this one! You seemed much more at ease in this one and I love itttt

[@ashley_casebolt]

37:46 these are the exact words I needed but didn’t quite understand until hearing you say this. ❤ it’s so scary when you have no idea what’s going on (esp at such a young, vulnerable age in life) but people are hurling verbiage at you with an undertone of “this is wrong” that will make you averse to it.

[@Leorising711]

Sorry for your loss Shan

[@kanereall]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t.

[@MoloSaidu]

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

[@kanereall]

Really? How do i find one please?

[@MoloSaidu]

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@kanereall]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@_cp96]

These types of episodes are so fun, I felt like I was there! Also, the thought of someone getting a unicycle from Peterborough is wild hahaha

[@jessstep5536]

Hey Shannon I’ve been watching your videos for years ❤️

[@saleamen]

Ooh the not wanting people to be right hits home SO hard 😅

[@celineszysnik1542]

Thank you so much. Being vulnerable is so big. Loving thoughts

[@me9818]

I'm going to listen to The Beaches

[@LucyLeigut]

This was great! Loved this podcast!

[@B.Remling]

Loved the end of your intro 💛

[@valkyrie9864]

good to know i m gonna attend a fletcher concert during lesbian visibility week 😏

[@melodyrose1873]

You've got your marketing strategy for the Patreon down 😂

[@livletliv09]

Meaning??

[@MTTigre]

@@livletliv09everyone wants to see the spicy kissing 😘

[@melodyrose1873]

@@livletliv09 she said "everyone kisses Leandra" on the Patreon and I just think that is like the ultimate marketing for her viewers to buy the Patreon hahaha it's smart

[@3Oh3metrostation]

Smart girl that shannon. She deserves all the success.

[@ClaireWedgeworth]

*Never been this early for anything in my life😂💕*

[@pigg90]

38:40 is so relatable 😅

[@nicolellumigusin932]

Just what I needed 💗

[@Idkmanjustgowithit]

I thought this was Timothée Chalamet as I was scrolling 😂

[@nowthisisliving]

which one of us?

[@terrisparks311]

I am finally catching your live. I love your content Shannon. I wonder if you know my fav couple Kristen & Steph? Really sorry for the loss that has you down - put that beautiful smile back on you face. Watching your show helps me as I fight depression & anxiety daily - I am fighting them which is a good thing.

[@theaudshow]

Can’t wait for Indy pride!!! My home state. Love the beaches. Great episode ❤️🌈

[@nghb9747]

Im exactly experiencing the same feelings that i feel like i can't keep up to my friends and have relationships

[@nikkimac16]

Respectfully and lovingly - I am a disappointed to hear that you’re dating already. I was really hoping you’d spend time alone, enjoy your own company and work through what holds you back. I hope you hold space for that growth and don’t get lost in another relationship. (I’m currently perusing a career in Sexual Therapy and will specialize in queer women’s sexual health, education and pleasure. Growing alone for a bit holds so much value). Wishing you the best.

[@saywhaaat11]

It's their life and their choice. You don't know what kind of dating they're doing and this is a bit unsolicited.

[@queernarwhal]

If you think this comment is appropriate you need to do some more studying because you are not ready to be a therapist. Boundaries.

[@dais35]

I want Shannon to rank Caris new album the antidote

[@_braune_]

Shannon x The Beaches is peak lesbian awareness

[@kayseyo601]

Love the didn’t know girls could be gay thought it was only guys. That was exactly what I thought and how I felt until the era of Shannon, Rose and Rosie etc

[@taylor5456]

I just realized I'm having that delayed adolescence, actively dating for the first time... while living in my parent's house at 28😅 its so high school and I just connected the dots

[@portialyons6096]

Would you ever have amberscloset on here?? I think it would be a good vibe change to your show! Just a suggestion

[@lauramolano892]

Great podcast Shan! I was getting so into Kylie's story. I want to know how did Friends therapy work out. Never heard about it and I think I might need it. Ever since high school my feelings for my girl friends have gotten me so confused. Sometimes really INTENSE and I don't want this to keep jeopardizing my friendships with my straight and queer girl friends!!!!

[@_JustV]

This was hilarious, loved it.

[@h.h.7550]

Uuuffff, thank you, I feel less alone 😶

[@vinitashakarwal7152]

Shannon herself is a great therapist, she understand everything, everyone and give best advice, but she fucked up when it comes to herself 😅

[@breakfasttacos4550]

we need kevin on the pod!

[@PooletXD]

Beautiful intro❤️. I have a question, are you going on tour??? Like podcast live with audience??? Or something like that? I need to know everything❤🥹

[@danielleraymond8376]

Can someone ask Leandra if the Beaches are gonna tour Australia?

[@GoingOutside.]

dream guest on your podcast??? (see what I did there?) - katie gavin/josette maskin/naomi mcpherson/lucy dacus/julien baker or phoebe bridgers!! so basically anyone muna/boygenius would be so very awesome!!

[@Torsee]

48:43 Shanon, on what the good book says😂 Good Book, more like the Good Novel..Fiction at its finest.

[@3Oh3metrostation]

shannon is so much funnier than she realizes especially when it comes to religion. there was that other episode where she was like "i prayed for jesus to give me somethin.. he gave me nothin" lol

[@AshDale-u5z]

Watching on KZbin and listening to the podcast so it’s in stereo.

[@zoetyyler]

I live in Port Angeles which is a ferry ride away from Victoria and I was so at peace knowing you were right across the water from me 🤣 I love the long podcast episodes but in reality I could listen to you alllllll day. Would you be interested in doing a special kind of thing where you have multiple guests in an episode to give all kinds of feedback ?

[@livletliv09]

Just curious...Do you ever change ur bedsheets?🤔

[@Aleacim1]

one more day... ❤❤

[@3Oh3metrostation]

💙💙💙💙

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

Another great episode ❤ 🌈

[@Katyinyourarea]

❤️❤️❤️❤️what a intro 🫂

[@2818Marie]

Loved the video! Where does the sweatshirt come from?

[@karolinanyklesova4987]

48:00 it’s giving the miseducation of cameron post 😏

[@Liz-r5l]

The green sweater brings out the green of your eyes ❤. Love the episode guest. Also, since you go to Canada often pleaseeee Collab with some queer hockey players or figure skaters.

[@emilialuna2140]

If you didn’t know, the sweatshirt is band merch for Turnstile!

[@kelsangchandra1942]

when is Amy Ordman coming to the pod

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

And rip Eva 🙏❤

[@The-Labbed-Life]

42mn is the most lesbian thing ever 🤣😭 when I think it can't get more gay than this, here is Leandra's story, this is wild to me

[@Pfgode]

yes you guys are in late adolescence, hopefully it will pass

[@hilarious557rox]

Chappell!!!!!

[@lorenaramalhete]

Happy lesbian visibility week 💜

[@zoetyyler]

My audible gasp when Shan said “the girl I’m seeing is Bi” 🫨

[@floofymuffin]

SAME

[@3Oh3metrostation]

happy she's happy

[@Torsee]

26:38 Your guest was just so vivacious and full of life!

[@reneecowin986]

Speaking of lesbian community, I live in Vancouver, Canada and if you’re gay and you live here, the only lesbian friend I have is my girlfriend. I want lesbian friends 😭

[@xdreamerxstar]

i wanna see Soph Mosca here

[@pigg90]

Shannon's going on tour? 🥺

[@bosoxry]

22:21 Feel like this was a good opportunity to mention that there’s a lot of bi erasure within the queer community

[@kencoleman5007]

This is so cool. I saw the Beaches and the Aces at Boston Calling '23, and saw the band's again on later tours afterward. The Aces' show at the Royale in Boston was my first time at the venue. The entrance is so hole-in-the-wall that I walked all around the block. I saw two people stepping out a door to the alley and the Royale logo was stenciled onto the inside of the door. I was all "Excuse me. Can you tell me how to get to the front entrance of the Royale? I'm here for the Aces concert." The woman lifted the brim of her and shook my hand "Oh my God, you're here to see my band! Hi, I'm Cristal!". I introduced myself and quickly talked about the band's show in May. She's so cool and down to earth.

[@kencoleman5007]

Personally, as an MTF, I definitely wonder what it would've been like to come out earlier. While I've been connecting more with queer women since... I learned who Sally Ride was. But in the 90's, 2000's, and even 2010's, society wasn't thar accepting of transwonen. Especially if they can't pass for cis female. Before I had come out, some lesbians had crushed on me, and one used quite the line in some punny repartee. A middle school classmate asked me if I was a d*ke, so people could recognize the queerness.

[@SaM-t5v1u]

She's nice♥️🔥

[@Viajeramzm4]

Came out as Bi first so yeah my mom went through the same thing at first lol... then came out as a Lesbian 2 years ago.. that was easier for my mom to understand way easier Bi erasure? generational thing? I guess Happy Lesbian Visibility week

[@MAB53]

More #360 vids plz (here from the bonnaroo vlog). Also thank you for this video 😆🖤

[@growitplantit4390]

Tik Fucking Tok! Is there life beyond that? Please help my fellows.

[@ITZAKY-o6x]

Happy lesbian visibility week

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

Also happy lesbian visability week love u and appreciate you all

[@madaleeX]

Question- I know you said that you will most likely propose first (when that day comes), and I know most of that is from you saying you don’t like surprises and stuff like that, but is part of it also because you date femmes? Some people assume that the more masc leaning person should be the one to propose. I’m a chapstick lesbian/ “stem” that dates femmes and I’ve always thought it was cute when femmes propose to their chapstick/ masc partners and I’d love for a femme to be the one to propose to me

[@bernardecreighton1508]

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[@RockyHorrorPictureH0E]

Can you please call Lesbian roll like that from now on?

[@ITZAKY-o6x]

The intro made me cry😢

[@StevenHawtin]

Shannon you are beautiful young lady straight or lesbian i hope you find your true love like our rose and Rosie IAM a 70 year old hetrosexual married man think love is love and You deserve happiness

[@bethanjenkins3318]

I love Wednesdays

[@SarahRobinson-l9e]

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