Folake Abiola: Loved Ones Reveal The Truth Why She Took Sniper To End It All

[@carolinenjoroge9092]

Me, I dont have husband, but I'm living well! Can't ki myself! Me! Nope!

[@taminachips4703]

Yes even all those things don't give you happiness you make yourself happy

[@ogonnaosuafor1584]

😍😍😍😍😍😍😍🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@easymathstutor]

It's disheartening my sis, why people idolize marriage

[@obiobi9378]

Be happy my dear. There are some people who are married but they wish they are still single because they marry the wrong person.

[@abigailolufunmilayophillip8705]

I guess this correct sexy babe Caroline Njoroge na Igbo babe. Abeg my dear sister Caroline Ngoroge se na news say Igbo ladies dey born out of wedlock in this our time or marriage? Abeg reply me my darling.

[@Roza_Victorious]

It's a shame that some people think "husband is the key to happy or fulfilled life". How many husbands out there destroyed their wives one way or another??? Let women be. Marriage is not for everyone, and some are living their best lives single. Only God knows what she was going through 😭😭

[@jarsosengbe1187]

I say this all the time and those sorry ass wives think Im jealous

[@drjides]

Thank you for saying this. The absolute truth

[@snowwendelltimieyer8229]

Whether u like it or not, u need a man in ur life, period

[@ZoeBredan]

Well trust me even married people go through mental health...it's beyond marriage...you can even have a good husband and still have mental issues.

[@altheafoster632]

Well Said like your comment..Totally💯agree

[@ifeomamadagwu5625]

Losing someone recently has made me almost go into depression, if not for God I don't know what would have happened to me by now. He saved me

[@faithieflame4976]

Ifoema Madagwu, thank God you are ok now. Sharing your inner most thought with the true God can give you peace. Phillipians 4-6 says "Do not be anxious over anything,by prayer and supplication along with Thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God; (7) and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your MENTAL powers by means of Christ Jesus". So sorry for your loss.

[@ririd5435]

Thank God for your life. Pls take care.

[@tbjamztv]

Hmmm my condolences. All thanks to God

[@viviennjboke563]

@ Ifeoma Madagwu. My deepest condolences to you and yours. May God console you from all sides. It is well with you forever. Ndo o!

[@dienejd8664]

Understanding you perfectly sis, no matter our age, the age of the departed one, how strong people may think we are, this is a tough Journey, getting to term with à loss of loved ones. But as I have been saying and believing , that comfort and Healing can only comes from The Almighty

[@nurserossie4812]

May she rest in peace ..life is so precious to be wasted ..so many cancer patients out there will give anything to have a few more years ..don't take life for granted no matter what if u are living you never know the plans God has for you ..Times may be hard things may not go your way but always be optimistic that after a storm a rainbow appears ..

[@Chataine91]

You have no idea how much I needed to hear this.

[@ednaa4382]

May GOD bless you

[@ubahmariam2815]

👍👍👍

[@use828]

Nice Comment !!💯☺🙏🏿👍🏿 May God give all of us relating to this one way or another, the strength to carry on and NEVER STOP BELIEVING THAT WHEN HE SAYS HE WILL NEVER LEAVE NOR FORSAKE US, THAT IS WHO HE IS- THE SPIRIT OF TRUTH. Isaiah 40:31 Those of us who put our hope, our trust in the Lord. We have our strength RENEWED, because we ride, soar on high on HIS Wings as Eagles. We run never get tired, walk dont faint, go through challenges and never get depressed because Jesus Christ has already, some 2000years ago, nailed our burdens anxieties infirmities diseases worries troubles to the cross🙏🏿 We just have to keep believing and always be in a thankful mode. We came naked, and shall leave naked the way our Grandparents and their parents left naked. Even our body will be eating by rodents arts and worms. The battle field is in the mind. Lets drop this attitude of justification by works, as if God owes us anything but to worship him be happy with ourselves family and society at large. Even all these couples marry marry things, I hear over there, there is nothing like that. So why not just make do with what life destiny places on your hand, rather that be unhappy for the rest of ones life, for something anything King Solomon calls it ALL EVERY EVERY = VAIN I am thinking that,humans will never stop worrying, especially we Africans. We have a special kind of worrying. We even worry over other people's WORRY🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️

[@elizabethlaleye1220]

Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning. If you know anyone going through mental health issues pls give them a word of encouragement. The devil will always bring bad thought in anybody life when you are passing through difficult times. Pls speak to people who can light up your countenance, soul,watch comedy, film , go to party and never allow sorrow to have hold in your life. Above all give thanks in all situations & circumstances. You are still better than someone our there. No condition is permanent. It is well. It is sad to know the woman committed suicide. May God comfort her family & loved ones she left behind.

[@tochukwunjoku]

Summer you're right all the things you mentioned about Yoruba people are actually some of the traits that I've learned about them recently and I love them for it! Typically, Yoruba people tend to have more support network around each other, so the idea that she kpai herself for that reason is not true!

[@oduyemi45]

Folake Abiola was my senior in Secondary school. Very lovable and nice to all. She died of depression not because she didnt have a husband or child(ren). Her death is so heartbreaking and it's sad to read and hear what people said and are still saying about her. Thank you Summer for bringing out the truth. Folake Abiola, May your soul rest in peacefully.

[@fatimatmuse7945]

Too sad... May her soul rest in peace..

[@oduyemi45]

@@fatimatmuse7945 Amennnnnnnnn

[@filmgal7065]

Thank you Summer for coming out to clarify this gist. EVERYBODY in her life..I mean EVERYBODY, sister oh, church member oh, Pastor oh, colleagues oh knew Folake was battling severe depression. How do you expect her to keep a relationship with this problem...PLS!! Everything isn't marriage. Narrow minded people..Who did Marriage help?, Women living in bondage and they will be bragging as MRS...Nonsense!!!!!

[@isaacoguamanam253]

Honestly speaking my gorgeous sister summer Aku, you have said it all, the truth is that a lot of Nigerians do not actually understand the meaning of depression, it is very sad indeed, depression can even make the person to hate his/her life. May the almighty Elo_him keep on helping us all.

[@flozy7542]

Amen

[@helenikpoje5379]

Husband matter in Nigeria is second to non. The way people take husband matter is the reason why a lot of women prefer to die in marriage whether it is working or not

[@hauwamusa6980]

You're awesome Summer 😍 I love the way you're so "all-rounded" in your knowledge concerning matters. You're an inspiration indeed. Thanks 🙏👍

[@nnekairoegbu2360]

Mental illness is very real, depression and anxiety is definitely one of it. Living in Nigeria alone can give one depression, too much pressure.

[@kylieking8163]

I have anxiety and I'm Nigerian

[@adebolaadekoya4754]

Hey Summer I just want to say from mental health perspective as a Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner in America. The story of "no child/husband" too is not wrong. Having children, married, having pets are protective factors that will screen for in mental health. Most of the time people with depression and suicidal thought will not go ahead to end their life because of those protective factors in their lives. The other side of the same coin is that not married, no child, no pet, social isolation are high risk factors that make people with severe depression to go ahead and killed themselves by suicide. I read comments here of her friends, colleagues, Church members aware of her mental health symptoms and did nothing about it. All those behaviors they saw deleting contacts, strange attitudes, ending relationships are her crying out to people for help. Someone should have reached out to her "hey, what's going on" and probably safe her life. My recommendation is that people should be one another's keeper and anybody could have mental illness, as causes are multifactoral, rich, poor, young, old, etc I wrote 2 articles in Guardian and Vanguard Newspapers in 2015 about Suicide and mental health. I think I will create time and create more awareness about mental health in our society. Thanks

[@summeraku]

That story is wrong because that is not her story. She wasn’t depressed because she had no husband and children… in her own case she had no husband and children because she was depressed. It will be wrong NOT to tell a person’s true story. Here’s how it was written on Punchnews. 👇 The source said, “She had been suffering from depression for years and her death has nothing to do with loneliness or lack of a husband or sex. Within the last seven years, I know she was in a relationship twice. “She ended those relationships on her own because of depression. She said she did not want to bring someone else into her life when she could not take care of herself. She was going through extreme depression, but people that did not know what she was going through have been posting rubbish online. Link to the full article here punchng.com/lagos-telecoms-accountant-commits-suicide-friend-blames-depression/?amp

[@adebolaadekoya4754]

@@summeraku I hear you, Punch reported as journalists - a story, but I am interested in mental health and helping others catch the symptoms that could claim people's lives. I am a mental health Clinician and I save lives. People have children by adoption, people have pets, dogs, cats, horses, name it, that brings them joy and occupy their life and give them value for living. Let's save lives, let's create the awareness that social isolation is high risk and could predispose people to depression and taking their own lives as in this case. GOD said it is not good for man to be alone., not only in marriage, people could be in marriage and be lonely. But we need social interaction for healthy mental health. We're not amplifying the story of journalism to be the criteria for mental health crisis. We want to save lives by getting the criteria and facts right. The lady lacked protective factors that could have prevented her death. I dive into this story because I am saving lives here and I want to save many lives of my Nigerian sisters and brothers. I did that for many years in Federal psychiatric institutions in Nigeria before I came to the US. I am still doing it anytime I visit home, I volunteer across African countries free to save life. Life is good and no one should be denied of life saving information not just journalism or family story that did not care about the deceased when they had the golden opportunity to support her and seek treatment and recovery. Thanks

[@tiwalopeonipede1511]

@@adebolaadekoya4754 You are totally on point! Social interaction is key. I am currently in an hostel because I am depressed, despite having a husband and kid. I know sucide is not an option, but I am not happy. I have been socially deprived being in diaspora and an extreme introvert. My phone is currently buzzing from family members home and abroad. Telling me to go back home, saying I shouldn’t let friends or men deceive me to leave my marriage. You can imagine. 😭😭😭😭. They don’t understand I’m just sad and depressed.😭😭😭I have a good job as well. I hope I will be fine.

[@christyadelakun6636]

@@tiwalopeonipede1511 Please be well. You do not need to see a psychiatrist or mental health NP now but please see a therapist, if you are in the diaspora, please check online or go through your health insurance. If you are in the USA, your insurance will pay for about 6 sessions or more if needed. Most times, families can not provide what they don't know or are professionally trained for, so please see a therapist asap. If no you do not have health insurance please let me or Bola up there know, we are mental health specialists, and we do not want to lose you.

[@tiwalopeonipede1511]

@@christyadelakun6636 thank you! Please how can I contact you?

[@ThestorytellerofKatunga]

Osinachi was married... She was killed by husband abi!!!

[@summeraku]

No mind some people and their mentality

[@jjmkitchentv4397]

I love the way you take your time to explain things, thank you for sharing 😊

[@imanihaidara2994]

I also love Summer Aku’s manner of breaking things down, taking time to find the most crédible explanation. To shé has the most analytical and unbiased, common sense, minds. I love the way shé speaks. I am view ing from Washington, DC😊🙏🏾

[@onyismart6451]

I have been depressed years back lost a relationship (that was supposed to end in marriage)it took a lot(close family unit n true friends to heal) n years to get pass that and ever since then the desire to be married died now just wanna have a partner who understands n support me.Am not in that zone presently.Depression is real n in different phases.

[@d.ogunleye9009]

Thanks for the awareness. Mental Health Awareness is very important. Our culture mocks Mental Health. It’s not a Joke, we should all take it serious and stop mocking people going through it by saying “maybe they did something bad”, that’s ignorance. It can happen to anyone, let’s support and love one another. Thanks Summer.

[@beatricefasoranti5130]

Another significant error pointed out here. Thanks.

[@filmgal7065]

I use to work with this girl at Econet/ Airtel and it's sad how people make up lies and story to make gist juicy. EVERYBODY working with her and even her church members knew she has severe depression issues. At times she will block everybody or delete all her contacts and other weird stuff BUT we never saw this coming. The mistake her family did was to allow her live alone, if she has attempted harming herself in the past, she should have a live in companion that will ensure she takes her drugs. NOW MORE that ever, I will never believe any gist on social media until reputable people accredit it, see how they rubbished this lady that was mentally sick. Which dirty husband, isn't it the same husband that are killing women and driving their wives crazy?

[@tpshalom]

I also don't think she committed suicide due to husband issues solely what about a male comedian who committed suicide. A good husband makes a difference oh, when my dad and mum met, my mum didn't want to go to school again because she was in love. Anyway, her parents didn't allow it. She became a matron in control of 2 hospitals. God knows more than we all. Lord help us, some medications actually cause suicide thoughts.

[@gardensteps]

@Chioma It is very good of you to try to set the record straight and defend this woman's honor. I mean, why would anybody ever off themselves because of lack of a husband or wife? SMH. Glad people like you and Summer are putting out the real story about the poor woman. Depression is a devastating beast!!!

[@filmgal7065]

I recently watched a Chude interview of Betty irabor of Genevie magazine. She has everything, husband, grown up children doing well, money, fame but she attempted suicide twice. It was her husband that saved her. Betty is now an advocate for clinical depression. Our pple are so illiterate and unexposed.

[@ladun8250]

Thank you for defending this lady... A lot of Nigerians don't know what depression is.. you can have every good thing and still be depressed. May her soul rest in peace.

[@use828]

Just so you know that your intro and body of your narrative has a nice flow and I was enjoying it till your closing and you decided to go personal, carry your own experiences and views from your own relationships with the opposite sex, and box all together with what is actually a woman's world. A few years ago, a Female from the North stabbed her husband to death, because she suspected he was in an affair. How many women came out to condemn this?? Even this Osinachi case, I bet you there are more men who condemned it. The alcoholic beaverages company net billions because Nigeria men no de fit shout. Check out the statistics, its more MARRIED MEN than Bachelors or young Adult men who consume alcoholic beaverages, because we no like wahalla. When we come back sober, even if Madam says Idiot, we say thank you and jejeli just find the corner of our bed. Our Niaja women get special anointing for skin pircing, body itching insults. Unless you wish to lie to yourselves. You guys are specially gifted in the area of tongue lashing, and yes sometimes your Husbands are not spared.. Husbands Fathers are verbally and physically molested slapped beating up talked down on, in the presence of their children every day and you know what? These men can't come out to say this, because of the stigma , they will become laughing stock to both family friends and the society at large.How does one go about saying, "Olboy my wife slap me today" even to friend. Or is it your parents or Inlaws you will tell this to? Men suffer tooooooooo in marraiges but can't say it, because of our society and how they will be perceived as WEAK MEN. So, next stop is the bars, its alcoholic beaverages and the breweries keeps netting billions quarterly, because Man no fit shout or Man no de CRY. ****Your closing statement about Men is too TOXIC. Using words like DIRTY and STINKY to describe men. Atleast if not for anything, give some respect to your FATHER. Or are you a product from one of the laboratory experiments? If you are still Single, I will advice that you watch what comes out of your mouth Girl (Life and death is in our tongue) , such that you don't go home with a stinky dirty Male. Such that you don't attract negative and dark energy. ***There are GOOD and BAD people everywhere and the marraige institution is not an EXCEPTION.

[@divinegrace112]

Very important as you have said it, there's a need to be our brothers keeper.

[@earthsign6305]

Summer Aku, you are absolutely right. Today, i was at the market and the woman I wanted to buy something from said... "A woman's life has no value if she doesn't have children". I had to educate her by letting her see how wrong that statement is. But, she said it because that is what the religious, and cultural, upbringing she had told her. And they started, telling me the religious books also said it. But, after talking to them they saw things differently. If what the family of the woman said, is the cause of her death is true. It's because, she didn't have someone to tell her she is more than enough by herself. It's time, people start understanding that they are enough! You have a job to feed yourself, and have a roof over your head. Be, contented with that and any other thing you desire will come eventually if that's what you want.

[@propheticwordsandteachings6077]

The Bible didn't say nothing about a woman's life being useless without children

[@tivlumunaminde7911]

In black Africa particularly those with least developed systems that support and encourage healthy living, cultural influence is a strong feature in the day to day life of people. This include character and characteristics, manners and mannerisms, custom and costumes. It's an inescapable way of life of a people. It is in this that husband, wife and children play a very important role as a replacement for the institution of social welfare, health care insurance, financial support system, post retirement care delivery services, etc, that is totally lacking in our society. Therefore, it is a matter for great concerns placed by tradition when a man or woman is not married, and or does not have children. The worry is - what becomes of a guaranteed happy life when civilization pressure has made people so individualistic, with little or no quality time for those not your own blood? What of life in old age? It is within the context of above cultural understanding that the woman you met at the market as a petty trader with no assurance of a guaranteed life at old age placed zero value to a woman with no children, and she was right. However, am more worried by your comment which did not put forward how wrong she was, nor the kind of education you gave her with better options for a secured support in her pre and post retirement life which according to her, by tradition, is the value of children.

[@obiobi9378]

@@tivlumunaminde7911 The market woman was wrong. Single women have lived a life of purpose and added value to their communities. A popular example is Mother Theresa of Calcutta. How can one then say a woman's life is of no value if she doesn't have children. Trust me, not everyone will marry or have children. That doesn't mean their lives is of no value.

[@tivlumunaminde7911]

@@obiobi9378 sometimes it's difficult separating perceptions from reality. In this case, am concerned about reality of an african woman within which value for children, is located, and not a debate about the value of women with children and single women as your op-ed implies. (Single women is not under discourse here) Suicide is a mental health issue, it doesn't happen in vacuum, and the discourse in this case is about probable cause which are many one of which the market woman pointed out, and as such couldn't have been wrong.

[@obiobi9378]

@@tivlumunaminde7911 There are nuns like mother Theresa in Africa as well.

[@ririd5435]

Our culture doesn't wanna acknowledge mental health Summer. Even here in south Africa our parents will ask you what depression are you talking about if there is chicken in the fridge. You can be depressed at work but our culture the society we grow within will call you lazy instead of acknowledging mental health. We need to familiarize ourselves and kids with counseling and therapy. Its necessary.

[@IyaT-c5e]

Is therapy free?

[@ririd5435]

@@IyaT-c5e im not so sure hey. Im so black my brain was washed to believe therapy is not for us. I have medical aid which covers that but I have never been there. Where are you ?? SA?

[@ezerbia]

@@IyaT-c5e In South Africa, therapy is freely available to those seeking it and are near some facilities like public hospitals.What I have noticed in recent years is that Covid 19 pandemic and the vaccines that are forced on communities has made many fear hospitals at a time when many need therapy. It is a complex system with wicked problems for one to manoeuvre in.

[@exhortationsbyeva6345]

Some ppl will be like u have a car why are you depressed...African mindset 🙄 what does a car have to do with mental health? !

[@ririd5435]

@@exhortationsbyeva6345 exactly. Those are the lines they throw . You ask yourself is the car in mind. 😢😢😢

[@nouramoin4260]

Good evening Summer,you're right, I just went through a course (mental health first aid UK) concerning this matter,just yesterday it's very vaste, people are locked inside themselves with mental issues and these can be easily missed if you're not properly trained to spot it. Thank you for bringing it out🙏

[@nkatekomshwane3872]

Hi there what Institution was this in the UK? Thanks if you feel free to share

[@yetundeafelumo8755]

@ Nour Amoin please where did you do the course? Thanks

[@janin4real]

she was actually a nice person Ife she actually walked out of a relationship because she would have caused that person a lot of emotional harm, because she would have been pretending she had to heal first but unfortunately she didn't give herself that opportunity

[@ZoeBredan]

May her soul rest in peace. Depression is real.

[@olujonzin]

Thank you Summer, you and True Crime Daniel took out time to find the facts. I watch your channel knowing you will not serve unverified news. Well done!

[@abigailolufunmilayophillip8705]

Mental health is real thing please beloved brethren take care of your mental health. It doesn’t have to be in your family line or DNA to have mental health issues. Everyday I wake up I say thank you Lord God Almighty for the gift of life and the soundness of my mind which has always been my thanksgiving from my childhood till date. I still said this line as part of my prayers this morning. Happy Sunday my beloved brethren.

[@sherwade2297]

Clinical depression is REAL . And it sounds like the pressure to be married n bear chn is immense in Nigeria. It's terribly sad that in 2022 people don't get the mental health assistance needed, medication, and societal traditions n culture still creates so much stigma. We are born WHOLE. Marriage n chn doesn't define us. I pray that more education and awareness n acceptance, n wisdom with shame and fear can be realized. May her soul RIEP, and may God comfort her family.

[@akhimie]

Thanks for the elaboration..There's one other thing you need to bring to account (Nigeria a country in full Depression) ..The Nigeria as a Nation is in a state of mental degradation ..Nothing is working!!!!

[@MaddyCircle]

Marriage is something that I have actually lost interest in, many yeye men don plenty pass yeye women

[@Evang.chris.]

Please I need a second and caring wife, if you change your mind.

[@filmgal7065]

It's painful for us to see her name slandered over marriage issue when we knows its not. She was born that way and has always been on medication. I use to work with this girl and what Summer said is true. Ask anyone that worked in Airtel or works in GLO that knows her.. EVERYBODY knew her depression matter was very strong but we never knew she will go this far. Ask her church member down to Pastor, they knew too. She used to attend some RCCG parish in Lekki and even started going to Elevation church .. go ask her Pastors they knew.

[@ednaa4382]

@@filmgal7065 Wow. May Her Soul rest in peace Amen.

[@filmgal7065]

@@ednaa4382 Do you know ma, that Betty Irabor owner of Genevieve magazine has similar problem. Her interview on the issue is on KZbin, check it out. She wrote a book about her ordeal which is ongoing. Betty has husband, children, money, name it, but she attempted suicide twice. Its her husband that saved her... (She said it with her mouth..not gossip channel) So this illness is real.

[@AmicahSkinS3crets]

Trust in Yahweh, he has a good man for you, forget about all the so-called yeye ones.

[@ifehansson2254]

A Nigerian husband is often the start of your misery in life

[@filmgal7065]

Living in bondage..Most Nigerian men are prison warders and beast.

[@poshmidwife4685]

🤣🤣

[@kehindeikulogun1784]

@Ife Hansson. True talk.

[@diplomatdiplomat2800]

Not all of them. Some are good

[@ndorikeenyinkeowo7773]

I’m with you a million times. A lot of them are psycho.

[@mabelakuwaroberts4809]

Summer Tnk u so much u always know how to interpret issues well.

[@abigailolufunmilayophillip8705]

Summer, na before before wey Igbo girls no fit born out of wedlock or without marriage. Now,Igbo girls dey give birth without marriages do your reach well my darling Summer.I know a very good numbers of Igbo ladies who are baby mamas now.

[@benitaotu7625]

It's a pity !may her soul rest in peace. God knows the truth! Only God TRULY Satisfies. People look for fillers in the wrong things and they remain empty. It's high time people know God for themselves. He is Real and loving! If only people can know Him and have a relationship with Him.

[@sharonlorna8255]

There are also married women with beautiful children and are still suffering from depression 😢

[@altheafoster632]

agree!

[@abiola6081]

You are the only youtube blogger l listen to. You always speak sensibly. God bless you so much. Xxx

[@olamijiadenuga8813]

Thanks Summer, I love your narratives and perspectives

[@WhenMomsPrayIntl]

God bless You... The need for mental health education is important this days...

[@suzy_q1]

As usual You are so spot on Summer . We Africans can never come to terms with the fact that a ‘ fulfilled ‘ person can indeed get depressed. It’s an ailment nothing do do with ‘being strong , rich or what have you . We need to strengthen our traditional support systems and also medicate if necessary.

[@euniceizevbigie7975]

I am so so heartbroken that she had to go through that and the pain the family she left behind is going through, I pray God to heal their hearts. Nigerian is a country where mental health is not taking seriously and those that suffer from it are usually laughed at. The story gets convoluted when it happens!!😢

[@rebeccahillsares8253]

Hello Summer ❤️.Thank you for addressing this issue.people are going through a lot.please life short do what will make you happy.

[@odionugbiyobo2316]

We need to get into doing things that makes our lives meaningful with or without husbands and wives.

[@filmgal7065]

It's not loneliness or marriage ma. She was born that way and has always been on medication. I use to work with this girl and what Summer said is true. Ask anyone that worked in Airtel or works in GLO that knows her.. EVERYBODY knew her depression matter was very strong but we never knew she will go this far. Ask her church member down to Pastor, they knew too. She used to attend some RCCG parish in Lekki and even started going to Elevation church .. go ask her Pastors they knew.

[@ylashconceptyemilashore9529]

@@filmgal7065 Really???? Wao!!!! That's so sad

[@dinydgeraldine3254]

You always said it right Sis💕, our people neglects mental illness alot nd it's high time mental health awareness should be a daily topic!

[@zeea6507]

The honest truth is that in Nigerian society and environment marriage and having children seems to be the most important accomplishment. Even as a successful woman some people will like you to know that still not married. Mental health and mental wellbeing is very important a lot of people think they can just pray it away without looking at the underlying root cause and solution.

[@DerahAchieves]

This woman's story is so sad. Seeing that this could happen to anybody. Many Nigerians think they are normal but they aren't . Many of our daily interactions and how some people brutalize their children or other people's children with the cover of training. Anyway may her soul rest in perfect peace. At least the truth of her demise is out. May her family be comforted in their time of mourning

[@empresskofoworola]

May her soul rest in peace, am not surprised because Nigerians knows how to taunt people especially women, Nigerians will say their singing praises to God but indirectly they are singing to insult you, it worst when you are in a poor environment ' God I thank you oh that you gave me husband and Children am better than some people' if this woman off herself because of lack of husband and children, it is the people around her that make her off herself. But for me I have made up my mind to take it as it comes. If I get good if I no get its also good I dey strong kakaraka and gidigba no shaken

[@vivianjames3521]

Marriage is not a pre-requisite to heaven....have a relationship with the LORD...HE makes all things beautiful in HIS time. Stay in HIM.

[@filmgal7065]

It's not loneliness or marriage problem ma. She was born that way and has always been on medication. I use to work with this girl and what Summer said is true. Ask anyone that worked in Airtel or works in GLO that knows her.. EVERYBODY knew her depression matter was very strong but we never knew she will go this far. Ask her church member down to Pastor, they knew too. She used to attend some RCCG parish in Lekki and even started going to Elevation church .. go ask her Pastors they knew.

[@habibaladi9660]

The truth of d matter is that we should open up our hearts & find out d true purpose of life itself,why we're in this world in d first place,if one finds & knows d true purpose of life,it will solve these psychological issues & will help one to feel stable & happy

[@levisiyk2843]

I have been in love with this Aku, she is making sense.

[@voiceofhealing6248]

Thank you so much Summer for ur explanation, I totally agree with you. Lots of people are really going through situations that they can’t even explain to anyone., especially people with high reputations and most of the time they bottle up a lot inside that can lead to deterioration of their mental health which can lead to serious depression and complications in the health or even suicide. Please I alway advise especially women to look for one person to confide in, that you can talk to with when you are feeling down and overwhelmed with issues because saying stuff that bothers them inside as this can go a long way to help and bring so healing. Women are made up of a lot of emotions, I also know that most people can not be trusted to to keep secrets but ask to God to direct you and trust me there are still good people out there and you could also see professional councillors if you can afford the cost because everything you tell them is confidential and professional. May God comfort her family in Jesus name. God bless you greatly Summer, please keep the good work.

[@Jojo111]

There is this kid on social media who’s talked about crimes, he’s from Nigeria 🇳🇬. He met her family who said she suffered from mental illness. When her father was alive he will move in with her and make sure she takes treatment. Her father passed and her sister and brother either of them will move in and do the same. Both of her siblings are married now and no one could help her when she’s in such state. Even her neighbors attested to it even the gateman. Whenever her illness starts she will walk around up and down that’s how they’ll call her family. Sad 😢 no one could assist her. Now she’s dead they’ll come to collect her money and properties. This is a lesson Let’s learn to find assistant or personal nurse 👩‍⚕️ May her soul rip

[@abigailolufunmilayophillip8705]

You’re right dear. I saw the video you referring too by Daniel Crime a Nigerian the content creator of “Crime”. I learnt of Miss Folake’s death for the first time this week Tuesday from your referral viral video the video creator is Mr. Daniel . I have always placed so much importance on mental health personally because I believe you don’t have to have it in your family line or DNA for you to end up having mental health. Manage your mental health my darling brethren.

[@olivegrace1508]

There is stigmatisation on Mental health in Some African communities.

[@wordpressguy8893]

=Thank you Summer Aka for such a wonderful elaboration on the subject of MENTAL HEALTH! When I stubborn across such video, I have no choice than to share my opinion. I love the fact that you said mental health or mental sickness can be managed. Meaning if, someone who is suffering from mental-related-problem finds his or herself in the right environment,hang around with the righr friends...symtom like chronic depression, suicidal taught which are often associated with metal illness will eventually disappear.i did share with you audience, the case of my mum so, the first is to separate the person from a ridicule enviroment(those who like to spy & laugh at you) second, is to seek the help of a therapist.lastly,but the most essential aspect is that people are going through this, needs lot of fun, care(show him or her love) & be patient with them.i remembered singing & dancing our local music for my mum right at the hospital during one of my visitation.the senior nurse walked-in & she was very please ! Such move triggers INSTANT RECOVERY! Unfortunately, we Do not know how to manage anything in the zoo country! My advice to young ladies & young men is to learn how to manage depression before going into marriage. Believe, it's tougher & harder to manage once you are in. Marriage is not all about S3X🙂!men should get that into their skull. Thanks - Chucks from Rome

[@levisiyk2843]

You are so great. Bro

[@benoge8560]

Depression is very common among wealthy people,too much wealth or being wealthy at a very young age could lead to depression in some cases , thats why little life challenges is needed in life, when we have everything or power to fulfill all our dreams or desires may also lead to depression.Hopes and little challenges gives us power to strive forward.

[@rekiyaE]

I understand you perfectly. Well said!....those challenges birth your purpose and gives you a sense of direction and meaning to life, which leads to life's fulfilment. Life is all about purpose, find your place and keep going! 🥳🤗

[@beatricefasoranti5130]

I like your illustrations of comparing Mental Health with other health concerns. Maybe, if we actually see it this way, it might reduce the negative impact and help us to realised that people suffering from mental health need support like other people with other health challenges. Thank you for this illustration.

[@abigailgbadebo4437]

Thank you for clearing the story about her.killing your self because you are married or have no children does not made sense. A lot of people battle this disease silently with out asking for help. They needed to sink for medical treatment. I prayed God Almighty comforts her families Amen.

[@anniecyberspace]

I thank God for His wisdom upon wisdom

[@Martina-vv7nl]

Summer!! ♥️ Sis well done for putting this out there, many of our people do not know how things affect them or others. We judge ourselves x others. It's so important to take care of our mental health and look after it. Bless you Sis 🙏🏼 ♥️

[@susankamara6508]

May her soul rest in peace. Indeed mental health is something that African should take seriously.

[@inspirewisdom]

Thanks for the analysis Summer!....... You are a beautiful soul! and a great blessing for us online. Keep on sharing The Good News(in a sublime way) you will save alot of lives in The Name Of The Lord. I love the background. It must be called Aku Gardens or Summer Gardens!. It looks peaceful! loool!

[@marylandi5462]

GREAT EXPLANATION SUMMER!

[@rogerzendong1284]

As a man thinks in his heart so is he. I which you to prosper in all things even as your soul prosper. *Insanity and oppression begin with a thought which develops into an abnormal state of mind. When an individual becomes oppressed and then depressed in the mental realm, it often opens the door for demonic activity. Demons desire to take over the minds and the bodies of human beings. If Satan can begin by oppressing you with negative thoughts, then he can move further against you* When I believe 21 years ago something terrible happened to me. A thought came into my mind that I will go to hell (I used to be a lonely and not joyful person before I believe). I didn't know the impact of the decision to follow Christ so when that thought came as a timid person I was just in my corner battling that thought. One day during a prayer siège I was literally harassed in my mind as If someone was just beating hardly at a door wanting to enter. It was horrible. But I was afraid to talk to someone. One day the wife of the couple of the house church I used to go ( they knew I was depressed and they were praying for me) told me : your attitude is because of what is in your mind. Then I got the idea in my mind to memorize bible verses. When I did that it help me in my meditation and my focus was on God and that thought just disappeared I don't know when. *To renew your mind is the greatest challenge and it last a whole lifetime*

[@nnekairoegbu2360]

Yoruba culture is one of the most liberal cultures in Nigeria, having children outside marriage isn't a big deal. Some of the men and women have children all over the place. To them it's no big deal.

[@gardensteps]

Hi Nneka. I don't think the Yoruba culture is so liberal that having children out of wedlock is no big deal at all to the point "some of them have children all over the place". No. But it is true that the Yoruba culture will not severely castigate or shun a woman from society because she has a child out of wedlock. It's not a great situation, but if it happens, mother and child will not lack the support of family and friends, not even one bit. Also, let's not ascribe Lagos' lifestyles to all of Yorubaland. In the smaller towns and villages, if a girl has a child out of wedlock once, she would not become a pariah. Second or third time, she will be known as a fast girl. Reputations matter.

[@taiwoogunleye5424]

@Joy..u are 💯 ✅️

[@tegaokeme1057]

👌👌👌👌👌👌👊👆🏽 so on point

[@sarahokehi6357]

Our culture has destroyed a lot of people. Stigmatisation is the worst thing. Society, family,friends create a person they want you to be. It’s time to be yourself.

[@Lifestyle_and_Healthy_Living]

I'm sure she would have reached out to people but like you rightly pointed out mental health issues are treated like non issues in Nigeria until it wins and the person ends it. Even at that speculations are made to further humiliate the sufferer! May God give us humane hearts in Jesus Mighty Name 🙏 Amen. God rest her tired soul and re-energize her in the afterlife

[@nbg3601]

Summer thanks for the superb education on the need for more attention to mental health issues. I am wondering why the possibility that someone arranged her death is being ignored. She is rich and living alone. Why do people not see the possibility that this could have been a homicide? A fingerprint examination of the bottles that were found may have revealed something else. This does not mean that she was not mentally ill, it only says: if she was so sick and unable to cope with living, how come she had a good job and was able have a career minding a company's accounts? And, why don't we see her official side in all these stories? Surely, if her condition was so bad, then she would have had episodes in the office, right? Why is the official side so neatly deleted in all these stories? Could she have had episodes of this in the office and then, some threatened to fire her for her health condition? Why are we completely ignoring these pertinent questions? I ask because it is the first anniversary of her death. Why did her family refuse to have her postmortem? Did they abandon her in the hour of her need and therefore feeling left alone in her struggles, decided to end it up? Too many questions seeking answers

[@adeoloye7083]

psychiatric issues are real. Most people in the society is affected one way or the other. regardless of wealth. it can be trigger by many factors. it is advisable to have NGO or other organisations to educate our people in Africa. generally. I've seen a case of a person been dumped by a partner then ends up in a mental institution. Not every mad people we see on the street in Africa is mad. Western countries do have ways of managing it hence we need to do the same in Africa in general. God bless us all

[@ebuetsestella2020]

Thank you for this insight. Our brain is part of our body. It can be sick like our eyes we save with recommended eye glasses, or like our kidney, liver, teeth... If this truth is assimilated by everyone, we will have empathy for those having mental health challenges, and be ready to help them!

[@verasworld3028]

I am living as a Single woman, very happily staying without a man. I don't need to kill myself because I'm alone. I really thank God that, I am well and sound. Being Single doesn't mean a woman is worthness. Our culture is a mental Slavery to endure in unhappy marriage lifestyle. I refuse to please people around me. I am 100 % proud of coming out Sound from all I went through in like. To God be all the glory and Praise It wasn't easy but my God kept me going. Thanks for Sharing

[@ezenwadarlington8509]

I hope you have a child at least because the way you are sounding like someone who have had too many heart breaks.

[@bridgetdavid1244]

I don't believe she killed herself because she didn't have husband or a child, There is more to this story. No matter what, Nothing Worth taking your life fore!!!

[@bolanlewuraoloruntola382]

Those type of jobs too are problems sometimes all what the job can offer is money but not peace because they pay they Will make sure that everything is the job the job owner will manage your life

[@yetolaoluwasina5282]

Really feel sad about this. If you have a man that treats you right, good for you. But some men have made some women worse. The emotional stress and unhappiness women go through in a relationship is really sad.

[@jeffreyshaibu7770]

Perfect. Sis. thks u r the second person/you tuber that has given us the truth about her death. Always dig deep, As u have done in this video and her true story. Not all those who called their selves You Tuber, they will see new on the internet or social media they don't even care to dig deep, they will just come-out and start talking nonsense.. ===keep ur good work=====thks once again

[@filmgal7065]

I use to work with this girl, what Summer said is true. Ask anyone that worked in Airtel or works in GLO that knows her.. EVERYBODY knew her depression matter was very strong but we never knew she will go this far. Ask her church member down to Pastor, they knew too. Like you I will be wary about any gist I hear going forward.

[@shiyghansolangesolangenyuy9618]

Summer a good friend of mind called me yesterday crying.someon who has been asking her out and she turn town on the basic of rudeness and irresponsibility.forwarded her the message claiming she is next to die husbanless. I felt so bad for this friend because she trying hard to be strong and orphan for that matter struggling on her own. People are so insensitive gosh

[@hopealivewithevang.olubunm2287]

Why this? She could have adopted a child and live her life joyfully. We brought nothing into the world.......

[@Janetakintunde]

It is not easy for a single woman to adopt a child in Nigeria.

[@hopealivewithevang.olubunm2287]

@@Janetakintunde I see you point. The government requires a couple to adopt a child to balance the all round development of such a child. I don't think that should matter much. It happens in the US too. So sad!

[@adeniranbolaji3616]

What a sharp contrast ! Osinachi the eku eme singer never had mental issues, her own challenge was the mis begotten man she erroneously tied herself up with died @ 42 leaving 4 kids behind. This woman that took her life had ended two relationships possibly because the men involved could not accept her for who she was. Those men never really loved her. They were only out for fling with her. A genuine love from any man will melt the depression out of her.

[@tkosaa3509]

May God rest her soul. Mental health issues doesn't respect age , sex, marital status or financial status. Many marriages are even more stressful and depressing than being single.A lot of married women can also do same. One main reason that may keep them going could be them feeling responsible for the kids in the union. Yoruba will say " Ojo iku lojo isimi" meaning "death is the day you rest from all life's many troubles" . May God rest her soul.

[@orimidaraolusola569]

You are very right about Yorubas being liberal

[@priscaibeana6292]

It's a pity, may her soul rest in peace.

[@FUROTV]

Oh my God is really bad. May her soul rest on

[@Awake_Africa]

Yes depression is eating deep into us Nigerians because we changed our ways of life. Growing up we lived as one big community but it's you these so called civilised ones that say it's not ok because the oyinbo does not . I live in oyinbo land and I see how people die due to mental issues, families don't really bond because they say privacy reasons now people are dying you are blaming it on yet another factor. Live naturally and everything will be fine. I wish her to rest in peace. This new empowerment movement will land you people somewhere

[@MrSop]

🥲🥲 Mental health is something we take for granted in Africa! Many people have ended their lives as a result of poor mental health some of which had led to depression 🙁🙁. She seems to be a self made woman so I don’t think her depression was caused by poverty, and also can not fully buy the idea that it was caused by not having a husband. Woman of her financial status wouldn’t find it difficult to get men clustering around them. May her soul rest i peace.

[@unstoppableunstoppable8687]

I hate how Igbos treat singleness. That woman’s death is not associated with her situation she was simply depressed unfortunately

[@sherrymo]

This life ehnnnn,ending it all,it’s not easy.i hope she finds peace.

[@rosemaryeno4917]

Feel something say something, but be watchful of slanderers.

[@ritahinabukenyaiii838]

I’m 36 now with a good job, good health and money in my account but the loneliness sometimes makes me think of ending it all. All my friends are married with kids and living their best lives. It scares me to end up alone😢

[@lizzyo563]

Sweetheart, I am 50, I am not married! Get busy girl, go to school,develop yourself.... you have to value yourself and your life. I love 😘

[@highlyfavoured6789]

Ritahi, I am 43 and got married last week. Please I beg you, you are worth living and getting married is not a guarantee that you will be happy. God loves you and He has a good plan for you. Don’t give up my dear sis!

[@EngracedOluwaseun]

I'll be 36 next week. Single. Happy though, but my senior colleagues at work make it their duty to use my singleness to mock me at every slightest chance. Every conversation always hinges towards age-shaming and single-shaming my person. That's the only issue I have.

[@EngracedOluwaseun]

I'll be 36 next week. Single. Happy though, but my senior colleagues at work make it their duty to use my singleness to mock me at every slightest chance. Every conversation always hinges towards age-shaming and single-shaming my person. That's the only issue I have.

[@lizzyo563]

@@EngracedOluwaseun my dear IGNORE them! I know what I am saying when I said IGNORE them. Get busy improving yourself spiritually, mentally, financially etc. They will seek your confidence!

[@thembakaziolisah206]

Let's follow Jesus whether poor or rich husband or no husband baby or no baby let's seek deliverance allover no die bec of depression there nothing impossible with Jesus

[@ebieyiebufegha4953]

Abet which tribe or village u come from in Igbo?

[@risba3409]

Life worth living my sis husband or no husband. Some husband might kill you self .see this gospel singer that husband wickedly killed her see this lady that husband set house on fire and she died. Pray for good husband 🙏 ooooooo not any how one's....

[@flozybaby101]

Good morning

[@waplepayne5582]

I feel that this is so sad for the different tribes some of them still live in the pass

[@dienejd8664]

Mental heath is real, let's be our brothers and sisters keeper

[@niyoleo]

A lot of Nigerians in Nigeria are depressed for living in Nigeria and living in suffering and/or poverty. Not every woman or man that k!lls themself is because they didnt have a spouse or child(ren). Maybe it's cuz theyre always struggling one way or another.

[@baybeecakes450]

Abeg Osinachi had a husband and where is she now. People should sharraap

[@kavumbarbara291]

I think if a woman is single that is d highest loneliness in this world ad depression being single is the worst thing on earth..two a woman that is martied to a caring husband i dont mean money ooh..i mean gives her affection ad time she will never get depressed..depression comes with a reason..depression is when one is fustrated about somwthing ..ad it is mean my this lady could be in the relationship you just mentioned but not getting what she wants in d relationship it could be the man not asking for marriage but just relationship..it could be she knows the guy had double relationships outside her ..cus i can't see a lady of her age stopping a relationship with a guy cus of depression ..it could be men doing d same thing to her

[@peterapena7362]

Mental health illness has been relegated to the background in Africa, and some of these cultural values and societal pressures aggravate the problem

[@OpenfloorbyTima]

There is definitely an underlying issue such as undiagnosed mental illness then add high functioning depression to the equation, it is a ticking bomb...we are so behind in identifying and treatments of mental illness

[@frncamiriam8390]

If you follow Nigerians wide mouth,you will loss inside a thick forest..if any little thing happen to a single lady or a divorcee Nigerians will tag it tht its bcos she's not wth a man..wrong mentalities. Do u kn tht 85% of women in their marriages is going through high depression for what they ve been receiving from their spouse . Linda ikeji shld be an example of ladies dying for not been married,she decided to guide her peace diligently, those stuff is indicating tht we re yet to be civilise in this country call Nigerian.

[@adeade3469]

Point of correction, it depends on the family you come from. In some Yoruba families, you'll be totally banished by having a child out of wedlock.

[@jossieo8530]

I still don't know why I'm not believing this story that she did that to herself. I keep doubting it.

[@tounajibade6409]

Married, unmarried all people have issues, what cause mental problems, expectations, rat race, competition etc. Omo do not exist to fit into what you can not attain.

[@amazingfavor1880]

It looks like punch reported the situation upside down, it sounds like the lady is lonely, loneliness is one of the big factors that can put people at risk for suicidal ideation, depression etc, and who knows why she chose to walk away from a relationship?

[@filmgal7065]

It's not loneliness ma. She was born that way and has always been on medication. I use to work with this girl and what Summer said is true. Ask anyone that worked in Airtel or works in GLO that knows her.. EVERYBODY knew her depression matter was very strong but we never knew she will go this far. Ask her church member down to Pastor, they knew too. She used to attend some RCCG parish in Lekki and even started going to Elevation church .. go ask her Pastors they knew.

[@ngozipatriciannamani7918]

Are you sure she did it to herself?. We are in naira. May be someone wants her off the way.

[@Ologun1]

Sad day allaround, We Need to talk about Mental Health more often. TRADITION is ripe for a radical Great Reset.

[@chikanjoku9884]

It's so sad.