For Wives & Mothers ~ Fr Ripperger (series on Marriage 4 of 5)

I just discovered father Ripperger 3 days ago, and I just can’t stop listening to him, I’m learning so much. Especially the one about spiritual warfare. Thanks to him, I made a better confession this Saturday.

[@elOratorio]

Bendiciones 😊🙏

[@FreedomAndWisdom]

I love listening to Fr Ripperger he inspires me always

[@marianafaria6960]

Please pray for my husband and me. Please...

[@veritaamante6226]

Praying!

[@DaninaPetroskova]

Mariana Faria Rezarei por vocês.

[@danielfernando7098]

Praies the Lord for his goodness always... Amen.... Don't worry sister... when u totally surrender to God ... giving everything to him.. like ur heart, soul, body nd mind... asking for his love apone u r family...he is going to tie the knot... with u r husband forever... have faith Strong like the Mountain....I will pray for you..... God bless you...

[@maggiecampos3037]

I am praying for you. Things will get better, trust in the Lord.

[@mairiamdebron1084]

Mariana Faria praying for you both.

[@laureenhaynes705]

Having listened to to the roles of wives and husbands, I wonder what to do if you have been married for over three decades and have grown children who have left home and the Faith? We have obviously failed as parents in our roles, but all we can do is get up and be better in the future, by much prayer and sacrifice. I wish we had heard these talks long ago, granted Father is only one year older than me. These talks need to be available and even required for couples in the process of preparing for marriage. How many marriages would have never taken place, and of those that did, how many marriages would be on better footing because of the lessons given in these videos. I pray it is not too late to save the family, by having good and faithful husbands and strong and obedient wives so the children will have a stable, loving and God fearing household to grow up in. Holy Family pray for us.

[@lwest46]

A lot of kids leave the faith, even when both parents are devout. The pull of the world is so strong. All we can do is fast and pray for them and pray for the words to say when the opportunity presents itself.

[@msevers6242]

Father’s wisdom is so helpful to families.

[@Karmingiry]

I've listened to a number of Father's videos and he sounded tired in this one. Praying for him!

[@daniy8771]

He probably just exorcised a demon out of someone haha

[@catholictreasurechest]

Thanks for posting this. Everyone seems to be struggling right now.

[@Meira750]

What I am needing to know is how to reduce my "masculine energy" and increase my femininity. I am essentially a very feminine woman but that was suppressed and discouraged as I was growing up. I actually got mixed messages. My mother was a doctor. I have had to forgive her for that because she actually told me "I have patients dying and you want to bother me with your silly teenage problems?" She wasn't a super feminist and she gave a fem appearance but I'm very sceptical. I won't say more since she is no longer here to give an accounting of herself. But I was also told to not be "silly" but to "think like a man." I of course married very passive men. One annulment, one death. Now, I'm alone, living in Israel which is a very macho society. I don't mean where the men peacock around but even the women are tough and mannish, even the ones that look like Gal Gadot. I am not treated like a lady by anyone. I am praying to be able to move to Italy which is my ancestral land and where men still appreciate a feminine woman. I've made two trips in the past 2 years and I never felt more feminine and appreciated in an appropriate way. So, now that I'm alone in this tough land, I need to be tough to get certain things done. I don't have to swear like a sailor or anything, but I do have to be very assertive at times. And really take initiative to advocate for myself because I have no protector. I am praying for a good, Catholic, rightly ordered husband.

[@miracles_metanoia]

Fascinating the difference of cultures! May you find peace and joy wherever the Holy Spirit leads you. Also, Glad to hear that you're embracing your "very feminine" nature that God gifted you with. Mother Mary is a really great role model, and she was instrumental in helping me also reduce my hard-core workaholism, and increase piety.

[@jeannemarie3704]

I grew up very masculine too as my mom died when I was 8. My Korean War vet dad raised me.. I literally had no feminine role model once my mom died. I looked like a boy til about 15.. I had to be "boyish" to get dad's attention. It really affected me...I learned on my own here and there but really it was terrible having disordered childhood.

[@inedanap6253]

God bless you! I hope you are able to find a strong husband and companion. Just as a side note: I would be careful using the word "energy" to describe your disposition as the phrase masculine and feminine "energy" is frequently used to refer to new age occult practices

[@BazookaDoe]

The book "Fascinating Womanhood" helped me do exactly this. Dixie Forsynthe. her and her daughter and husband have a KZbin channel about the book.

[@lwest46]

What is “masculine energy”? If I take out the garbage, am I being “masculine”. If I’m not a mindless spendthrift, am I being “masculine”?

[@hollyvondross9635]

No regrets if you live this no matter what happens to your marriage.

[@elaineoboyle5041]

Thank you father for this, your doing amazing work for God, God bless you and your family.

[@johnruplinger3133]

great talk.....not what I expected. Fr. really hits at the heart of matters here.

[@mariamiller4509]

Thank you for your work 🙏

[@roseg1333]

Thank you so much I find so many of these to be true in my few years of marriage 🙏🏼✝️🕊️

[@marietheresa1709]

Thank u!

[@jennifernelson6187]

Sometimes if I nag I am completely unaware of it. But my husband does not put up with it!!! I try not to!!!

[@millsaddy4739]

I appreciate this sermon - penanceware yes indeed :)

[@dynishaabreu4544]

My mom is very soft and does all her house chores. But my brothers and father do disrespect her sometimes. I think when mother shouldn't give In too much. Coz men take that for granted

[@eleanatopp1]

Well, she will be bossing around in Heaven. 😅 And that's for eternity!

[@panes840]

​@eleanatopp1 regardless she shpuldnt have to put up with toxic male patriarchy

[@user-vs1tc3kj3z]

How does a virtuous woman respond to a husband who hates her? Just take it and pay for him. But what if you just don't have the strength to deal with it anymore?

[@BrocNKoda]

My ex husband was one of the most nagging, controlling person I’ve met. I don’t regret staying home until my son was in kindergarten but it took a toll on my job opportunities after we divorced when my son was in kindergarten 3rd grade. Women should have a plan in place in case they need to return to work.

[@bridgetgress]

No such thing as an "ex husband" in Catholicism. He's your husband. You might be civilly divorced, but you are still married.

[@paulbany6603]

Amen

[@arlette2722]

Lovely

[@MyLittlePwny7]

"A good wife will not nag her husband", "why would you want to establish a mother-son relationship with your husband?" These points are often brought up and framed as a problem on the wife's part. In reality, a person will have to "nag" their spouse to do something because that spouse failed to fulfill his/her duty in the first place. For example, wife asks her husband not to leave his beer cans on the coffee table and computer desk and to instead put them in the recycling. He says "sure" and continues to leave his trash all over the house. Wife asks again. He still doesn't listen. She reminds him again and again. The point of this is that when you have a partner who keeps nagging you about something - it's because you have failed to listen and fulfill the task asked of you multiple times. This goes to the next point about mothering your husband or treating him like a child: Children must be regularly reminded to fulfill their responsibilities and obligations, and these habits must be continually reinforced on a daily or weekly basis until they mature enough to be responsible on their own. When someone is married to another adult, it is normal and reasonable to assume their spouse is already mature and responsible enough to keep their word and perform basic duties in the relationship as a team, such as cleaning up after yourself, remembering to flush the toilet, or picking your clothes up off the floor. If your partner is nagging you, here's how to stop it: Do what you say you are going to do - do not procrastinate - do it NOW.

[@skydancer1867]

The thing is, it often is a problem on the wife's part. Women have a tendency to invent accusations against their men when they feel insecure about something. Furthermore, even if she has legitimate complaints, nagging will not tend to have the desired effect, especially if done consistently. This is the source of a vicious cycle in which the husband becomes annoyed with his wife, and hence withdraws. The wife then becomes more agitated by the withdrawal, and the nagging increases, etc. This is an unfortunate fact about being a woman. When a woman has an effeminate husband, there is very little she can do about it.

[@skydancer1867]

Furthermore, it is not true that the man will stop the nagging by doing what she says. When a woman sees she can dominate a man, she loses respect for him, and will nag him more, continuing the vicious cycle.

[@TheShamuraja]

Probably love is missing. Have some couch time everyday, where you cherish each other for 15 minutes. Maybe you will see that he is an individual human being after all. Plus from the woman point of view it is always clear that she is right, but talk and LISTEN to other men. Ask them about their reality and respect it. Don't look down on them. Actually listen.

[@NaruIchiLuffy]

Nagging is not equal or the same as giving counsel/engaging in conversation. Moreover, if leaving empty beer cans around is really the extent of your husband's defects, which I suspect it is not but if it were, growing in virtue would allow one to look either past it (perhaps with gratitude for everything else that he does get/do right) or otherwise engaging him in said rational conversation (not nagging) to determine the why. It is entirely possible as another commented that your husband is effeminate, but if you married him that ship has sailed. That is why discerning these things in dating is important. If that is indeed the case, going forward you might look for ways to help him grow in virtue. Perhaps share and watch this series with him. Lastly, I want to remind you that one of the points made in this sermon was that a husband is more likely to convey/share his innermost life to a virtuous wife and keep distant otherwise. And that this is extremely important for long-term intimacy. Now, one last question. How would you describe airing a partner's defects to others outside the relationship instead of dealing with them? Would you describe that behavior as virtuous?

[@MsJNix]

Some men are not clean, and it appears you married one. Sometimes both people are not clean and they get along great, but their house is constantly dirty. You should talk about this with him, but that does not mean he will ever change.

[@dynishaabreu4544]

The moher son relationship point can go the other way around too? Why would wife want a father daughter relationship with his husband? Jow can you defend thar?

[@lukak882]

Peasant women worked so hard in the old days, whole day actually, thex worked all the chores and they taught children and they worked in the garden, I mean ALL jobs.. Maybe it is actually time in front of us where women will get some relief.

[@susi3639]

These talks are difficult to listen to because it's like Fr. Chad Rippergger says we reap what we sow, thanks Eve.

[@evaschroeder266]

I'm in the process of becoming a female theologian. Women are suffering from a generational curse because of eve but it can be broken. That's also why we get unfairly bled for the bad things that happen to us.

[@bespokefit]

@@evaschroeder266There is no way to undo original sin. The only thing that I can see in the future is the final judgement when Jesus returns. Until then, we suffer and strive for virtue.

[@poojageorge741]

Proverbs 31:16 states that She looks at land and buys it and with money she haz earned she plants a vineyard. @ Fr. Ripperger to better understand can you please explain.

[@lwest46]

@panes840 it’s not written down. :) I’m going by some attitudes I’ve encountered through the years. My comment that you’re responding to? I apologized for it in another comment. I spouted off my opinion before finishing the video. Lesson learned ;)

[@tinabarr5550]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@User5411Valekona]

Hopefully I meet my future husband soon

[@miracles_metanoia]

"Young catholic professionals " has excellent networking events and catholic dating app also is useful

[@finallythere100]

Please someone explain what is meant by women needing to avoid " creative things." Thank you.

[@johncooney8495]

created things not creative. in other words turn to God and detach from his creation

[@NaruIchiLuffy]

I heard creative the first time through as well, but yes created things is the actual term Fr. used. I think he meant following worldly people instead of discerning what God would want us to do (lead a graceful and virtuous life). He used it in the context of explaining what fear of the Lord is - a turning away from created things towards God.

[@inedanap6253]

I think it's a very bad idea to make that "lamb chop" joke. I know several virtuous young men who wanted good Catholic marriages fall into despair, particularly because that attitude makes them think that God will give them an ugly wife. Many think that they will have to choose between being attracted to his wife and having a virtuous marriage. Even if it's meant as a joke, I've seen too many vulnerable young men misundestand. If you are not attracted to her virtue AND attracted to her personally, you are choosing wrong

[@theresevooght1706]

What about if the man isn't virtuous? It feels like a lot of emphasis on the woman but we can't control his virtue thats his personal efforts and prayer to God?

[@MonicaLabbao_littlemonicat]

Father Chad talked about that in 3/5: What Husbands need to do. This is 4/5.

[@bespokefit]

Your ears are completely unaccustomed to criticism of the female gender. It’s foreign, no doubt.

[@Mr.BaSir20]

Fr. Ripperger addresses that both in this video and the seperate video on husbands and fathers.

[@panes840]

​@MonicaLabbao_littlemonicat he did talk about what men need to do but I'm sorry, I'm hearing more and more on this episode about what women need to do and I'm listening to him thinking, "yes, i agree father, but this applies to men too".

[@Naomi-bw5qs]

Listening to this makes me realise that no modern man is worth all of this. What for? Marriage isn't worth it in this era. What are men supposed to provide that I can't provide for myself.

[@skilo581]

Are you catholic? If you are, you know the answer to your question.

[@Naomi-bw5qs]

@@skilo581 I am Catholic. I had my first communion on New year's Eve 2023. So a convert from agnosticism. Feel free to enlighten me.

[@lwest46]

I haven’t listened to this yet and I’m almost afraid to. I’ve been married 29 years now. My husband and I are a good team. We are the caregivers to our adult handicapped daughter and things are good. But I wear sweatpants, I pay the bills, he washes dishes sometimes, I speak when not spoken to first. But there’s mutual respect and we’re happy. I’m thinking that Father would be appalled at all that. As for whether it’s worth it or not…if you’re feeling that way, maybe you have a calling to be religious? I grew up without a dad in the house. I’m quite capable of handling things on my own but it’s nice to have someone to share the day to day things with. Just thought I’d add that.

[@Naomi-bw5qs]

@@lwest46I have come to the conclusion that if he can provide a luxurious lifestyle then it's worth it. If not then I have decided not to entertain the idea of marriage.

[@lwest46]

Fair enough.

[@lwest46]

I made the mistake of reading the comments before watching the video. I anticipated a boorish, chauvinistic rant about how wives should basically be Stepford Wives. Mindless breeders. But that wasn’t his message at all. He challenges women to embrace virtue because we’re the heart of the home. Father, if you’re reading this and see the comments I made before watching the video, please accept my apology.

[@grettaler]

Is this video in spanish by any chance?

[@Lunalovecraft1984]

This is me except my husband is the nag/angry one

[@annawesolowski2016]

Ephesians 5

[@marjorie7928]

In my understanding Fr said virtues woman can live with other women. Example your mother in law? Is that correct ?thank you for answering

[@soccerlife5041]

Yes.

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

❤💕

[@romgvmnwiktawftypwlu9313]

Gee I hope no man would use the gold ring quote to wound.

[@losdeldostacos8007]

11:45

[@miqueorque]

The only way I’m ever being a home maker is if the man pays $300,000 to pay off my student loan debt. It’s his responsibility, not mine. Marriage is a one way ticket for me to not need to pay the debt myself, and for a man to take care of me. It’s the perfect opportunity to be treated like a queen. 👍

[@evaschroeder266]

Well, it is the man's responsibility to provide for his family

[@erkrad7162]

Dominique, you’re correct in wishing to be treated like a queen, but queens ought to act prudent and not squander the kingdom in obtaining the king. It’s an act of self-sacrifice and selflessness to aid the king in providing for the kingdom, not just oneself.

[@miqueorque]

You don’t recognize sarcasm. You just proved that men will never be willing go to provide for a woman, and will always find a way to put women down. How dare you say that a woman is squandering the kingdom, when IT IS HER JOB TO STAY HOME. Realize that it is the MAN’s JOB is provide 💯 no matter what! Women stay at home Men work If you don’t agree with that, then you are not a Traditional Catholic but a HYPOCRITE!

[@MargaretNolan-c1t]

Your chances of marriage are slim to none and slim done left the building. You are NOT a queen, dear. Catholics recognize only ONE Queen: Mary, the Queen of Heaven and Earth. Over 300k in debt, shows you are a fool. Unless you are a REAL medical doctor, you will be in debt FOREVER. You can't be all that bright if you accrued that much debt.

[@bespokefit]

You ran up a massive student loan debt. It’s very unlikely anyone is going to willingly take on that massive debt. You did this to yourself. There was a time when you were debt free and much younger. A better candidate to be a traditional wife.

[@jasonpeters473]

Was this priest wounded by his working mother as a child? He seems to hate women that work. He sounds like a man that has some serious abandonment issues!

[@crystalbraganza2715]

It’s called natural order…you might want to look into that…a woman can change the direction of a nation by how she raises her children…I look around and weep

[@democracyisajewshill3341]

Simp

[@princessdiana62]

That’s ridiculous. I guess you totally missed what he said.

[@darja25]

Lol, his mother was a stay home virtuous woman and his father was a strong role model who had 2 jobs and never permitted his wife to work! That’s a true husband. That’s why father Chad is such a masculine role model. He had terrific upbringing!

[@sandradsa1340]

Listen to his talk to the husbands and you will retract your words about this holy priest. Truth is bitter and Fr. Chad makes no bones about it. Thank you Fr. Chad for giving us God's truth.