Why Was She "Sold" by her Mother? | Consuelo Vanderbilt

[@ittybittykittymama7582]

Her second wedding photo looks quite different from her first. No tears there, but only a happy smile! The later photo is that of a truly happy woman! Yay for Consuelo!

[@tinacarter5304]

I'm so glad she got to marry for love! Many were too scandalised by the idea of divorce and stayed in such unhappy marriages. Heartbreaking when you stop and think about it. So happy for her!

[@outlawJosieFox]

People still stay in unhappy marriages today. Divorce is an expensive business.

[@stormyskyz4251]

Imagine using your right to divorce from a marriage, to better your life, only to deny that freedom and comfort from your own daughter to repair the damage from your own choice. So selfish omg

[@katiefountain2407]

And honestly why would you want to get back into that group? They sound like a shit*y lot to me.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

To your own daughter not from your own daughter

[@noragilotti3646]

I read her book, The Glitter and the Gold. It was fascinating. She was a great and generous lady who endured much, and gave even more back.

[@jujubees5855]

God bless you, mijo, for not letting these folks be forgotten. Much love and respect for your hard work from Texas.

[@stares_mthrfckrly]

The issue with Alva is I highly doubt anyone told her “no”. And she didn’t want anyone, including her daughter, to tell her “no”.

[@Lyrielonwind]

A full blown narcissist.

[@unhiddenhistory]

You can see the sadness in Consuelo's eyes in every painting and photograph of her.

[@maryaltshuller885]

I read Anderson Cooper's Book about the Vanderbilt Dynasty and he quoted Consuelo saying that her mother was a dictator. Strange how money, power and prestige can warp a person.

[@peacemomma7122]

Comprehensive and excellent video. Thank you for sharing.

[@axelsqip]

Thank you for this interesting video. I just regret that you passed rapidly about her life in France. I live in Eze, on the Riviera, where M. Balsan and her had a stunning estate and received so many famous people between the World Wars. The estate still exists and is in private hands. Consuelo Vanderbilt left a strong and dear memory in the village.

[@outlawJosieFox]

You should make the video ❤

[@vanessahenry7238]

Description of 'Sold' is an understatement. Pretty much what a daughter is, because with money like that, love is not the match

[@deniseconsultant1538]

I really enjoyed it. I enjoyed all of your videos. Interesting. Good work. Thank you.

[@exdus235]

Very nicely done. So comfortable to watch as the music's volume was kept low. Like that each image was captioned with the person's name and dates. An all around good job. 👌

[@WolfMaiden11]

I'm glad she was finally able to find happiness in her second marriage. Shame on her mother.

[@danielrosas5685]

THANK YOU FOR THE STORY. WELL DONE. NOT EVERYTHING IS ROSES IN THE BEST FAMILIES

[@violettesager3946]

THE BEST FAMILIES 🤔 are the poor ones LOVING THEIR CHILDREN 😉‼️

[@facetedperspectives9950]

Consuelo was one of the most fascinating women in history. Her soul tenderness and sensitivity are evident in every picture of her. We often fail to see that patterns of behavior don’t change. Her mother was a character and that’s the kindest thing that can be said about her. Her daughter was a tool for her social advancement…. disgusting then and now. Alva was a narcissistic bully.

[@huldrrrr9486]

Unless you were one of the wives of the married men she slept with

[@Lyrielonwind]

I think is Alba, related to an Spanish aristocratic family.

[@theresebortzfield188]

Alva seriously disturbed. Horrible and abusive mother

[@lhl9010]

@@theresebortzfield188 it was how it was for the upper classes, go read an dget informed.

[@nobodyyou_know7836]

@@lhl9010 still is

[@robinettes5774]

I’ve been watching the new series The Gilded Age and absolutely love it. Your videos helps me follow the families like the Astor’s. Thank you.

[@ForgottenLives]

I also enjoyed it !

[@patriciamartin6756]

Poor Consuelo. Her mother was a bully. Thank God , Gloria was , I think , the first Vanderbilt woman to control her own life

[@chatita9527]

Fortunately nowadays IN OUR SOCIETIES we can marry for love and divorce when we want to. This is freedom, and we should be grateful for this! There are still societies / countries where marriages are arranged and forced, and divorces for women are not possible. TERRIBLE!

[@julijakeit]

Yes, unfortunately in our society people now marry recklessly based on "Instant Chemistry" and do not check in depth the abilities of their future spouses to raise a family which results in insane amount of divorce and unhappy children. We should not discard what was beneficial from he pas but adapt it to he modern times.

[@darlenemestas5839]

The families, some, still have genealogy meeting before marriage. They go over the family lines and hereditary issues.

[@deborahdean8867]

Dont get too excited about it. Divorce has always been theoretically possible in every culture, it just might not be practically possible. But today, you sure cant say people, especially women, are happier than they were in times ost, and you certainly cant say western women are any happier than cultures who still practice arranged marriages. In fact, I know people today who practice it and are glad it's their parents making the decision.

[@kmaher1424]

After the divorce the Duke converted to Roman Catholicism. He wished to remarry in the Church so an annulment was necessary Alva testified that she had bullied and lied to force Consuelo into marriage. The annulment was granted and the Duke married. The Duke's second marriage was unhappy but he had saved his estate Consuelo and her mother reconciled since her story had a happy ending

[@juliahelland6488]

Thanks for sharing this! I absolutely enjoyed listening! 💯❣️

[@leopardvixen2242]

Very well done! I love The Gilded Age! Mini series like The Buccaneers, are my fave. One of the best vacations I've ever taken was to Newport, RI, to see all the summer cottages. Unfortunately, we didn't have time to see Marble House, but we did see the other prominent Vanderbilt home, The Breakers. I can't wait to go back! The history of the architecture, people, culture, everything, is fascinating! I'd love to see more videos from you about more of the Dollar Princesses, as most have been forgotten!

[@peggyh4805]

Newport is a must-see.

[@Gilded-girl]

Fun fact: Consuelo’s second husband Jacques had a brother named Etianne. He had a love affair with Coco Chanel. If they had married. Coco Chanel and Consuelo would’ve been sister in laws.

[@lindseystein9676]

Hopefully the brother wasn’t another nazi like some of her other love interests. Coco Chanel has a dark past

[@frankfowlkes7872]

Consuelo had a very good relationship with Winston Churchill who was the Duke's first cousin. She found Winston much more interesting and entertaining the her husband the Duke!

[@AmorDivino-e5q]

I like the story of this interesting woman,she seem a very cool and calm person,two virtues I admire. Thanks for this biography very well presented.

[@CherryPi314]

They have a beautiful mansion here in my town of Newport Rhode Island....and wow, what a mansion it is! They had one of the first elevators of the time on Bellevue Avenue

[@smorgasbroad1132]

Alva was a toxic narcissist. That Consuelo named her home in Florida after that monster mother baffles me.

[@vieiradosreismariadelurdes9105]

Alva maried with Vanderbilt ,than Divorced... and than maried with Belmonte.... .

[@sierraball444]

Stockholm Syndrome is real 😞

[@tell-me-a-story-]

She still loved her mom. She probably thought it was all normal, as she had no perspective on how other children were raised. She probably never fully understood that she’d been abused.

[@richardlippincott8881]

wow. SO interesting. I am so glad Conseulo found happiness in her later years. How awful for her marrying a man who only cared about her wallet. Incredibly demoralizing to be in that position. She must have felt so devalued. But, her kindness shined. RIP dear Consuelo.

[@lynneh9744]

You should do a vlog on Gladys Deacon, the other woman in Consuelo's first marriage. She had an interesting life and childhood, which contained madness, murder, and scandal, was a compulsive liar who became an acknowledged beauty; later on becoming Duchess of Malborough, and then later on a recluse who bred dogs and chicken I think. When I read her biography, she sounded a horrible woman, but without doubt, she had an interesting life, as did her parents.

[@themysteriousdomainmoviepalace]

And she returned in this life aa Meghan Markel

[@hunnybee971]

@@themysteriousdomainmoviepalace snicker.... SLAP... Not funny. Yeah. Okay.

[@noorgonzalez1076]

@@themysteriousdomainmoviepalace 😮😢😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Isaiah 33:5,6 Revelation 21:3,4 Psalm 37:10,11

[@bobbyrutherford9359]

Forgotten Lives always has great content in his cases I really enjoy watching his videos

[@Garbeaux.]

Well done. She happens to be distant cousin from her maternal side of the family. Her aunt was my great-great grandmother. We actually have kept the ‘Vanderbilt’ silver (we just call it that) which was given as a wedding gift. I read her autobiography a few years back but felt a lot was glossed over. I guess she couldn’t really say how she exactly felt.

[@timefoolery]

Very cool! I’m related to the Spencer’s 😊

[@kylesteele3936]

I want some actual proof. How would such a distant relative have any of her things. Don't mean to be skeptical but everyone claims things like this. I would think the English relatives kept all wedding gifts.

[@Garbeaux.]

@@kylesteele3936 I’m talking about wedding gifts that her family, possibly mother, gave when my great-grandmother was married. Hence why we call it Vanderbilt and not Marlborough silver. I never said I had any of her personal things. Please reread. Wanna family tree? Lol. Give an email.

[@Caterina...3]

@@Garbeaux. Why would you even bother to reply to someone as rude as that person who questioned you. Just the fact they asked for proof; such a troll!

[@lb8141]

That's fascinating! You need not have to justify or answer anyone. Thank you for sharing 😊 I am Custis on my mother's side.

[@loretta_3843]

It's amazing, we think wealth brings freedom, happiness and everything good. She was living in a tyrannical home and married off at the tender age of 18, (basically, in the simplest form), like property. My parents were penniless Italian immigrants, but they chose each other and had 60 happy years together. I imagine there are many fabulously happy wealthy people out there but it's good to remember any level of society has it's problems and at least when you're in possession of a light bank account, you know your friends are there because they actually enjoy your company and care for you. This is something many with wealth have to worry about and it can't be good for your sense of self. Consuelo seems like a lovely lady with compassion. Sorry to ramble on!😄

[@Cate7451]

Thanks for saying this it’s good to know. Every generation needs to know this.

[@cathiwim]

Women and girls WERE considered property then, and in many places, still are.

[@bettinabarry8423]

Always enjoy your presentations and this one doesn't disappoint 👏

[@ellebelle8515]

A very imperfect mother, in many ways, was forcing 'perfection' on her daughter in an excessively cruel manner.

[@ashleycrowe6649]

I absolutely love your videos, thank you for making them! 💕

[@cottoncandy4486]

You are a great story teller. Great story.

[@heathers7265]

She was such a beautiful woman. And had such a sweet face! ❤️

[@jessicaryan3805]

Great report, I felt like I was in the company of aristocrats! Thank you!

[@oevilone]

Thank you for covering her life!

[@TheLaughingVampire]

It's really mind boggling to me how someone can march for women's suffrage and then marry her own daughter off like equipment at a farm auction.

[@RSZ229]

Great job! But how could her mother do that to her when she herself experienced damaging consequences from a divorce?!

[@Fran_Fuentes]

Thank you for this piece of history that you're sharing with us

[@loonylinda]

really enjoyed this .

[@marthadavenport1032]

I LOVE THIS YOU GIVE ME NEW KNOWLEDGE EACH ONE I WATCH YOU DO AN AMAZING JOB PLEASE KEEP IT UP THANK YOU

[@catholiccrusader5328]

Consuelo was pretty cool a damn good woman and I'm glad her second marriage was a good one.

[@rebeccagable9629]

Very interesting--thank you!

[@arribaficationwineho32]

Daughters were used as chattel in previous decades. Bartered for family fortunes. So glad women do no longer suffer this horror

[@Himesua]

There's a movie called "The Buccaneers" It details the lives of four women who were similarly raised to be married off to English aristocracy, much like Consuelo Vanderbilt and Jenny Spencer-Churchill.

[@kaloarepo288]

Yes it's based on a novel by Edith Wharton -I watched the tv series a long time ago but I don't think there was ever a feature movie on it -I could be wrong!

[@ruthanneseven]

Haha! I'll bet very few Brits know about this!

[@jeanplunkett5580]

@@ruthanneseven Oh yes they do .🙂

[@Gilded-girl]

Edith Wharton based one of the characters on Conseulo. They met but I don’t think Consuelo liked Edith very much .

[@michaelplunkett8059]

​@@Gilded-girl Edith socialized more with her Uncle Cornelius and Alice Vanderbilt. I believe she was over for tea when their original Breakers burned down.

[@Caterina...3]

Loved this! Thank you for all the work you did on this video.

[@sharimccormick1352]

Very interesting and spoken so very clearly. Thank you.

[@Lady_Chalk]

If you happen to be near Asheville, North Carolina, visit the Biltmore Estate. It is absolutely beautiful, and built from pure love.

[@auntiem0thman]

Absolutely gorgeous at Christmas, I spent lots of time in my childhood there thanks to my grandma getting perks from her job.

[@comparedtowhat2719]

Pure love, huh. Don't think so. I read it was built by one Vanderbilt trying to out-do the others in "my castle/mansion is larger and grander than yours."

[@Gilded-girl]

The Glitter and the Gold ends when Consuelo is about 45. If you are interested in what happened to her after that , there is a book by James Brough called portrait of an America Heiress. He follows the rest of her life and who her estate went to .

[@theresapatterson7482]

This story was very interesting, I feel her mother wasn’t interested in her daughters happiness. All for money and status, madness. Consuelo she was a beautiful looking young woman, I think to be forced into a loveless marriage is heartbreaking I feel very pleased for her having a divorce and moving on with her life. Consuelo after marring second time and living in U. K. She did wonderful things and went on to live a long life. A story that turned ok after a horrible beginning.

[@debbralehrman5957]

Thanks for all your great stories.

[@ELKE-]

I'm not first place, but always happy to be here!😉 Thank you FLives for great research history. Love your work

[@GriffithsJacqueline]

Great video, I hadn't realised she led such an incredible life.

[@m.f.richardson1602]

Always interesting. I always learn something new.. Thank you Peace 💕🇺🇲

[@Skarfp]

Amazing how beautiful Consuelo was considering her mother was such a pug.

[@richardshiggins704]

Excuse me , I love pugs !!

[@floraposteschild4184]

She was pretty enough when she was young. But eventually got the face she deserved.

[@zero2imperial]

#FACTS

[@comparedtowhat2719]

Pit Bull.

[@angelabolton4478]

I know, right?

[@wholeNwon]

Blenheim was a gift of the UK to the first Duke. "The Glitter and the Gold" is an interesting read. Her descriptions of visits to Q. Victoria are amusing. Her visit to Russia was interesting. The Empress declined to meet with her but the Czar did. I was once invited to tea by Mrs. Alfred G. Vanderbilt II. The invitation was delivered by a liveried footman or butler (don't recall which).

[@berenicewaters4096]

Wow, how was the tea wirh the family like ?. Must ve been amazing surroundings. Thanks for sharing

[@janetcw9808]

Did you go? 👍🏻

[@3frenchhens818]

I like it very much when the very rich have social consciences and help the poor, work for women's rights and other good causes. That's how the lucky should be.

[@annfisher3316]

I have been deep diving into the industrial and gilded ages lately, so this dove tails perfectly. Seemingly the opulence did not bring joy to many....

[@helengorton894]

WONDERFUL and so informative..thank you!!!

[@richardshiggins704]

Excellent biography. Very well narrated . I seem to recollect that the Vanderbilts are now rather down at heel compared to their glory years .

[@mbsheisey]

Income tax did them in, I think.

[@aprilmorrison9627]

well done. thank-you! I enjoyed this.... 🙂

[@donnyetta]

Thank you - Your work is very interesting.

[@PamelaTitterington]

Great video, which makes you want to know more about this lady, and others at that time ,thanks as always

[@59tante]

Great story

[@ForgottenLives]

Glad you think so!

[@patriciabaughn4749]

Well done and interesting. She did much philanthropic work and is remembered for that. She had thevmeansxyo help people less fortunate and willingly did so.

[@t.h.337]

I've been to the Vanderbilt mansion located in Biltmore, north Carolina. Is it the same Vanderbilts? I believe so...but anyway it's a cavernous but also gorgeous place that reflects an completely different age and way of life. I found it fascinating.

[@here_we_go_again2571]

The Vanderbilt who created Biltmore Estate was a cousin of William K and Alva Vander- bilt (Consuelo's parents) There also was another branch of the Vanderbilt Family that moved to the UK (back in the 1800's)

[@t.h.337]

@@here_we_go_again2571 thanks for clarifying. I had a feeling that it wasn't the same Vanderbilts that he was directly talking about in this video

[@mairim4578]

@@t.h.337 her mansion is in New Port,Rhode Island,I saw both,where Gloria Vanderbilt family had another mansion,

[@mallorygraf8574]

​@@here_we_go_again2571Yes! I visited that huge house and was astonished at how big it was....so beautiful. I was impressed by how big kitchen was...as big a a hotel kitchen.

[@boston_octopus]

William K. Vanderbilt's brother George built Biltmore - Consuelo's uncle George.

[@TA-cm9yi]

Hello from Alberta, thank you this was a compelling FL.

[@danacarter4793]

I always wondered how a duke was associated with the Vanderbilts but never took the time to look into it , Thank you for this vid,very informative 🥰

[@jendamum]

Found your channel and had to subscribe. Great content and I look forward to seeing more!

[@aubreyshelton3217]

You are adorable.. honestly. Love the background 💓

[@lisapop5219]

I've always wondered how she got her first name

[@cadillacdeville5828]

I look forward to every time you upload 💕❤️😍

[@jamesnaas4727]

Yes! Very interesting! Loved it! 😎💪👏👏👏

[@daviddevlogger]

I wish my book of life was written in pencil … There are a few pages I would like to erase

[@RowanWarren78]

Well said

[@ruthanneseven]

Go for it! I think of that as well, until I realize how much more I learned from my mistakes, than my successes. ✌

[@katie195]

erase and rewrite

[@vinny160]

Wouldn't we all???

[@RowanWarren78]

@@vinny160 you know...I think there are a couple of things I would change, but for the most part, not much. I have learned so much from my mistakes.

[@sandraobrien8705]

She was an interesting, quite striking looking woman and really doesn't resemble her father or mother much. In the 1905 portrait by John Singer Sargent of her with her husband and two sons, I think she looks exotic, strong and quite foreign really for someone of Dutch and English descent. She looks more Greek. I like the strong position Sargent chose for her and the fact she looks ready to complete her half turn and walk right out of that painting, directly towards the viewer. She is the only one in the painting you get that impression from. A year later she did just that and separated from her husband.

[@tell-me-a-story-]

I think she just resembles the Cuban part of her family a little more. (Some Hispanic people look similar to Greeks) And took after her I think it was her grandma.

[@huldrrrr9486]

I feel horrible for her as a child and bride, however that is no excuse for her planning to abandon her children on two different occasions and sleeping with married men and being partially responsible in wrecking their marriages. Just because of what her mother selfishly arranged for her, it doesn't give her the right to selfishly almost ruin her children and other innocent women's lives

[@Sweetlyfe]

Let’s blame the woman shall we?, what about the men they were ruining their marriages, also it was very common for the aristocracy to take a lover.

[@huldrrrr9486]

@@Sweetlyfe You're putting words in my mouth. If she were a man my comment would be no different. I'm not blaming her for the unhappy marriage, or even taking a lover. I'm just saying she didn't have to ruin other womens marriages or her children's lives by having affair with married men and leaving her children, which would break both their hearts and their reputation. The married men were absolutely as responsible of course I'm not defending them at all, but this particular video and comment were about Consuelo

[@brenda1378]

You need to study how life was in the period, how children were seen once a day and must never be heard. How woman had no right to their children. How men could beat wives and children up and down the street.

[@huldrrrr9486]

@@brenda1378 I have, and I have read her memoirs. There is no mention anywhere of Consuelo being abused by her husband, awkward, snobbish and stuffy but not abusive, on the contrary he was surprisingly forgiving of her trying to elope early on in their marriage, and she had a quite close relationship with her her children, but that didn't stop her from trying to leave said young children so she could run away with married men. There's also the fact that this would ruin their reputations for life. I know she was in a really miserable, complex situation. I believe she was at heart a good person who went through a lot of pain, but also sometimes a selfish and flawed who also put others through a lot of pain, I just felt they deserved a mention too that's all.

[@brenda1378]

@@huldrrrr9486 You just come across that a woman should shut up and put up. I do agree that in my opinion it is very wrong to have affairs with married people, but with those people it was always the done thing. They married or were forced to marry for any reason but love.

[@myheroesofamerica719]

Wonderful job!

[@ThomasHarding1990]

correction : Blenheim Palace was built FOR the 1st Duke of Marlborough not for the 9th Duke.

[@jenniethrockmorton5660]

I enjoy all your videos.

[@languageresources2314]

Why can't I stop seeing Taissa Farmiga as Consuelo Vanderbilt? That show ruined my life, lol, it was so good!

[@berenicewaters4096]

There used to be a brand of clothes named Gloria Vanderbilt which I used to love. Another excellent video from FL. This story reminds me of The Guilded Age TV series written by Julian Fellows that was shown in the Summer in the UK.

[@normatible9795]

Yes, I’m wearing a pair of jeans with Gloria Vanderbilt brand, size 8 , I bought in Costco for 14,99. What a coincidence that I’m watching this !

[@robine916]

Gloria Vanderbilt is Anderson Cooper's Mom!

[@blue-dragon31652]

She was from the rich Vanderbilts but they lost their fortune. Cooper took over the monetary affairs from his mom when he was teen because she didn’t understand money.

[@east32nd]

Yup these are Gloria and Anderson’s ancestors

[@cls2res]

And let's not forget Cora (Levi?) of Downton Abbey fame😊. Her character saved Highclere with much-needed American capital.

[@VesperR8]

I’m enjoying this series of wealthy heiresses

[@vinny160]

Another stunning story...

[@tinaboostrom7549]

I find this video amazing. I'll be watching more in the future

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

Alva actually locked Consuela in her room and threatened to have the man she loved assassinated if she didn't agree to marry the duke. Talk about a Mommy Dearest.

[@hunnybee971]

The first thing I noticed with the Family Portrait with Mummy and the children: No one smiled. How sad.

[@patricialong5767]

I've heard them called "Dollar Princesses.'

[@jacquetracy3194]

I think she was a very brave woman.! She was a survivor...

[@meeeka]

Oh please!!!! Do Jenny Churchill!

[@deanedge5988]

excellent images

[@Pierre_en_CI]

i love this channel ;-)

[@mollypinto4666]

Very interesting thank you 💓

[@NannupTiger]

Diana, Princess of Wales, was a Spencer

[@alfredbonnabel7022]

The Vanderbilt Family had their troubles... money 💰 gives you freedom, not happiness.

[@eshim3961]

@6:22: Withrop Rutherford, Consuelo's early love, later married FDR' s longtime mistress, Lucy Mercer.

[@happy_bubble7]

Excellent video.

[@lunaharrison60]

The book is phenomenal

[@raquelrodriguez6359]

Wow for someone whose name means consolation she sure had a problem finding consolation for herself.