[FULL STORY] AITA for not reconciling with my family after being framed for theft?

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@Anon_30 3 ай бұрын

The sister was actually the goat for not blaming the brother for anything, and even apologized to OP, unlike some of the family.

@ihaveraebies 29 күн бұрын

real

@c6.bennett38 3 ай бұрын

What the hell is with these parents acting like children when they know that they are wrong.

@musical_costumer7976 3 ай бұрын

Not sure. My parents would ovcassionally accept it.

@astrofan1993 3 ай бұрын

I think it comes down to how each generation of parents was mentally equipped to deal with criticism and taking accountability for their actions. I read an article a few weeks ago on The Huffington Post about a therapist who inadvertently created a social experiment when she critiqued the different parenting styles between various generations of parents on TikTok. She ended up getting responses from parents all across the age spectrum. She found that older generations (specifically Baby Boomers) are less mentally equipped to accept criticism and take accountability for their wrongful behavior towards their children, tending to dig in their heels, getting defensive, and lashing out when confronted with how their actions hurt their kids, which usually results in the children cutting off their parents once they reach adulthood. Some even went as far as to say that they would prefer isolation from their kids instead of dealing with "snowflakes" (their words, not mine). Conversely, she found that younger generations (specifically Millennials) are better able to take criticism and accountability for their actions, apologize to their children when necessary, and as a result are trying to have a better relationship with their kids. It says to me that as we learn more about child psychology and better parenting methods, we foster parent-child relationships that are more open, understanding, and loving with each subsequent generation, as younger parents tend to be better equipped to deal with criticism and take it into account compared to older generations of parents.

@c6.bennett38 3 ай бұрын

@@astrofan1993 I ain't reading all that (I read it all)

@ghoulie11 2 ай бұрын

@@astrofan1993 BS Millennials will bend over backwards to give their kids what they want, not because they love them more, but because they're incapable of saying "no".

@anthonyewell3470 2 ай бұрын

they're children that had to skip development steps due to upbringing. That's why they're in some ways "mature" and yet childish

@violetgerner7755 3 ай бұрын

the date at the end just made it nice like sweet the dude might end up happy with her

@Caramel6027 3 ай бұрын

I agree, it was such a sweet way to end the video. =)

@draconicswordsman1751 3 ай бұрын

I am looking forward to the new AITAH or the tinder date cheating... LoL

@violetgerner7755 3 ай бұрын

Real

@tehlazypsycho5405 3 ай бұрын

The tinder is kinda a red flag but hopefully they are a nice match

@gamerskull9164 3 ай бұрын

My man is a fighter…and got himself a girl…damn.. I gotta graduate and do this shit myself…minus the family thing

@Revy575 3 ай бұрын

"you are still on thin ice because of what you were falsely accused of". Tf?!??

@eskimolost2012 3 ай бұрын

Then can't handle back talk with facts about her loose legs and have to be warned about friends exclusive bf. Then play victim when only daddy took her side only get forced sorry when aunt took op side more than his mom

@Revy575 3 ай бұрын

@@eskimolost2012 family dynamics in some families are fekkin WILD

@jacobbissey9311 2 ай бұрын

The thing that got to me wasn't the fact that he wasn't guilty of the thefts, since the uncle might have possibly not been aware of all the goings on about that stuff, but the fact that he thought he had any authority over OP in the first place. You have to have authority over someone for them to be on "thin ice" with you, or at the very least they need to actually care about your opinion of them. Being older doesn't confer authority, especially when he's already an adult himself. The uncle doesn't have anything to hold over his head, so why would he expect OP being on "thin ice" to matter even a little bit?

@BitExist 2 ай бұрын

@@jacobbissey9311 Typically from my own family experience, Uncles tend to be like that. They can be very toxic to their Nephews and Nieces, especially when they've insulted their Children. The problem is that half the time they overstep their bounds, like this Uncle did; and treat them like they would treat their child without thinking. That's why the only apology was "Sorry" - If OP wanted, they could throw it in their face by replying "It's great to know I'm on thin ice for something I have never once done, but was accused of my whole life growing up" - Which would point out the obvious stupidity, which would damage their ego quite a bit. Alongside making them less likely to say stuff like that to them.

@Maninawig 2 ай бұрын

That comment about his cousin's friends was baller. I mean, her and her dad were accusing him of things he didn't do when she had skeletons ready to be weaponized.

@PookieitsYua 3 ай бұрын

NTA. Let the mom be inconsolable the favoritism is crazy

@JKGirl90s 3 ай бұрын

ironically it started from OP and his sister getting more attention and gives the brother mental issues- likely middle child I suppose.

@nope-qp2sm 3 ай бұрын

@@JKGirl90she was the youngest, OP s brother

@JKGirl90s 3 ай бұрын

@@nope-qp2sm oops- it just sounds like stereotypical middle child

@mssssssssssssss 2 ай бұрын

@@JKGirl90smaybe don’t assume based on stereotypes 🙄

@z.z9255 2 ай бұрын

Fr! And then she has the audacity to make him apologize to his uncle and little shit cousin to “keep the peace.” Ma’am, are you serious? Mom sounds like a moron

@league-of-shadows 3 ай бұрын

I see the brother and cousin are both kleptomaniacs. One steals things and the other steals bfs.

@spacelady4935 3 ай бұрын

It’s not a coincidence that the child who had far less severe consequences is the one who would behave so horrible…

@FrankWhite-uc6gt 3 ай бұрын

It is stupid to have anything to do with this family except for the sister.

@tehlazypsycho5405 3 ай бұрын

At least the parents have eventually realised their wrongs and tried to reconcile. There are many cases where that simply doesn't happen and the parents just keep acting like little children for the rest of their lives.

@shadowsnake5133 3 ай бұрын

@@tehlazypsycho5405 problem is they shouldn't have been given the chance, this type of accusation and punishment is enough to where actual charges should have been brought in, and op could have had their life ruined permanently. You don't get to do that, apologize and move on, we're now strangers and i want nothing to do with you, even just for one's own safety, is the proper response. There's no trust, and op is a damn doormat.

@koryano321 2 ай бұрын

100 percent agree. This guy is a pathetic simp. The fact that he got his parents to take back that maniac brother? What a joke. Might as well get blamed for your brother's crimes at this point. Simp and suck his dong even harder OP.

@BakedBeans6969 Ай бұрын

@@shadowsnake5133Nah, he’s actually making amends for his family did you hear the timeframe in the story saying he’s a doormat is actually crazy. Did you not even listen to it?

@capriciousgaming9322 3 ай бұрын

The only time I actually click a link from a short to the full video, and it was worth it. I'm glad everything turned out well in the end. Brother is getting help, cousin's getting karma, and OP has a date!

@xzero13474 3 ай бұрын

When the counter to his cousin came I actually laughed out loud it was insane

@tommenno 2 ай бұрын

"I demand an apology!" "I'm sorry you raised a whore."

@DimoVasilev-n7c 3 ай бұрын

What you said to your cousin actually killed me I’m dying in the floor laughing 💀💀💀💀💀💀

@Zenithx622 3 ай бұрын

the fact teh brother is getting therapy and can have a future nto being disowned and OP reconciling with teh family and starting a new life. Is extremly lucky. notmally it;s always torn apart. hope goes well for them all

@animelike4826 3 ай бұрын

Definitely NtA. You are a very mature, strong (at least mentally) and good person. You were the person who recognized that your brother had real problems. And you gave him a chance at a better life despite what he did to you. That shows that you still love and value him. Whether the outcome of everything will be good depends on them. Your brother needs to rebuild the trust in him and resolve the issues he has. Your parents need to recognize their past mistakes and misdeeds and work on them with everyone. I see a slight change, and unlike the people (who probably haven't heard the whole story) who say you should run away. I think you should enjoy the date, go to the sessions with your family, and let's see how it turns out. There is an improvement in the parents' behavior, even if there is still plenty of room for improvement. And they are owning up to their current misbehavior. There is a professional there in between and if there really is no hope, you can always walk away. I wish you all the best.

@Xineohphlip 3 ай бұрын

2:27 for people who came from shorts

@Thestitch.angel.fan- 3 ай бұрын

Thank you man❤

@lincolnwheel8596 2 ай бұрын

Thanks

@moimeself1088 2 ай бұрын

You're a star! ❤

@CertifiedPapyrusFan89 5 күн бұрын

Thank you friend

@jessicathompson236 3 ай бұрын

NTA Obviously, but awesome unexpected happy ending

@duck-kw8gn 3 ай бұрын

@user-tv4uz5gk2ofym no? That guy got a date

@That_Squatch 3 ай бұрын

Nah stop being fickle for other humans who dint change that easily keep them out of your life for good. Be a real man and stick to your decisions no matter how stubborn it seems you stick to your word and dont go back on it

@neinei9203 2 ай бұрын

elaborate

@niallowens6312 3 ай бұрын

Family is garbage, op really should have remained nc. They're lying even in therapy? How did the parents "focus" on op and sis growing up when they wrongfully accused him of theft the whole time? And when they finally learnt the truth they weren't even going to punbish the criminal, but they didn't hesitate to ruin op's life (for nothing). Also, the sis? Stolen stuff was hidden in her room, did she never go back to that through all the years?

@carlosgarcia-pd4wq 3 ай бұрын

you get it wrong. T hidden the stuff he take on the sister room, that was catch on camera. the sister didn't still anything.

@pastrychef2202 3 ай бұрын

NTA all around first off your parents should resorted to cameras before they took you out of vacations and cancelled your bday. Also wtf is with siding with the uncle when she JUST got you back. I personally wouldn’t trust them as far as you could throw em. Daughter at 19 should kept her mouth shut. Those that live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. Uncle, mom, dad , cousin all AH.

@Livia-pp3ub 3 ай бұрын

Good that he got a date!!

@asherdales 3 ай бұрын

Those parents are so s**t. They punished OP for stealing but it kept happening. At what point do the parents go "let's set up a camera before we kick him out just to make sure" because either it's him and he's dumb as rocks for doing the same thing in the same way with the same hiding spots or it's not him. That was a good response to the cousin and uncle. Don't talk s**t if you can't take it especially when you're s**t talking about something you know is objectively false. It's just not worth OP's time to interact with anyone except for the sister anymore.

@saniyahrichardson7850 3 ай бұрын

For those coming from the KZbin short 2:30

@damnedlegionaire 3 ай бұрын

Thanks, homie.

@Koz. 3 ай бұрын

Man your a real one

@SaltLord23 3 ай бұрын

Ur a real one thanks

@Quillebabbe 3 ай бұрын

tysm

@tehlazypsycho5405 3 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot man.

@AFriend748 2 ай бұрын

This is probably the most real sounding story I've listened to so far

@2ZenAuthor0 3 ай бұрын

Womp womp to the mom, if she can punish her own son when she doesn't have proof that the OP is the thief, then she should be punishing the thief fairly

@dailyRddit 3 ай бұрын

NTA. I'm confused why they accused OP of stealing the money even without evidences? Thats so cruel to a child at that age. Its ok for OP not to forgive them

@tehlazypsycho5405 3 ай бұрын

Idk why but parents just tend to take whatever the younger kids say at face value, like kids are incapable of lying. When its usually the younger children deceiving and throwing their faults at their siblings. (I know cause i've done that too. Only minor things though, we were pretty chill with my brother)

@Panwere36 3 ай бұрын

The blatant favoritism is beyond the pale. The fact they didn't even think it would be the other brother or their daughter is a level of tunnel vision shows a predisposition against one child. The parents getting it is good, and the sister "T", but the OP is totally right. Also, the parents revealing the truth to the extended family was good, and "J" turning out to being a very "skilled thief" doesn't surprise me at all. "J" getting therapy matters, because what he did was way out of proportion for "refocusing the favoritism on himself". The female cousin and the uncle getting the ripped by the aunt (the uncle's wife) is just icing on the cake. That exposed that favoritism is a family problem, as "R" really was the last person that needed to be criticizing anyone honesty, and the uncle's reaction showed "R" was obviously the favorite in that household. In short, the entire extended family may need therapy to break the cycles of that.

@claytonthomas1980 2 ай бұрын

The OP has been through a lot of grief but have overcome it over a period of time and chose to live life for himself plus obtaining a date in the end as well, good for him.

@monarchy028 2 ай бұрын

Holy shit! Reasonable people! The parents apologized when they realized they were wrong, as did the sister, the brother doesn’t get everything right away and has to work to earn trust back, and they went to therapy!

@C.G.Gaster 2 ай бұрын

Now uncle and cousin need to pull themselves together

@tempestst_pr0to 3 ай бұрын

The parents are probably punishing his brother for lying, not stealing.

@misternoodle1236 2 ай бұрын

"Mom is inconsolable." "oh no, she is facing the consequences of her own actions."

@sammer28 2 ай бұрын

Parents act horribly and play victim when the kid wont put up with it. Yikes

@aryapallepati6354 3 ай бұрын

Bro is too savage

@apolonio2788 3 ай бұрын

2:32 for people who came from shorts but other details that it did not mention are there if you watch it

@lukebrunner1548 2 ай бұрын

Glad to hear there was a positive trend. OP is most certainly NTA. That situation would drive just about anyone crazy. I hope the trend continues toward reconciliation (as long as it remains healthy for all involved) and positive outcomes for OP's family (OP and their sister in particular).

@adrianzietka1738 3 ай бұрын

Sounds like completely reasonable reaction to me don't forgive for money otherwise you are likely to regret it in future

@ryananzaldi3082 3 ай бұрын

My brother would be a known stealer and would always piss off me and my sister. It was just annoying. He steals my Pokemon cards and I have proof (my binder is missing random slots that magically appear in his room). Then *bam*! Nothing happens. Unbelievable!!! He pisses me and my sister off, *bam*! Phone gone for an hour. BRO!!!! (Obviously you had it worse, I’m just saying I can relate).

@tonyhupp2379 3 ай бұрын

Tinder is the worst place to get a date.

@West2048 Ай бұрын

Next story: My date was a serial killer hiding as a girl who likes flowers 💀

@FoxFlare 2 ай бұрын

Oh wow, that was really interesting with the same OP in the two stories

@valeriewilleto5583 2 ай бұрын

Good luck Op on all your future endeavors!

@hirohiroarikawa6806 2 ай бұрын

They destroyed their relationship with OP he “Obviously” stole everything, un-disowned the real thief who also destroyed a truck, now the mom has the audacity to ask for OP to apologize to her POS brother and niece. That would be the final straw and I’d tell them I no longer want a relationship with the mom as she picks her family over her own kid, and anyone who sided with her is also getting dropped

@megadon2 2 ай бұрын

a rare wholesome end, yay

@thewhitjobs9949 3 ай бұрын

Nah bro u deserve better and don’t need to worry about their dumbasses

@reignpowerrandamody9460 2 ай бұрын

Honestly, I feel like the op and the father were hit the most out of this. From everything the father has done and tried to do I feel he's been the most sincere with his attempts to make up. Especially when he defended op by telling him he didn't need to apologize. He was just given false info and went off that. But yeah, J and R are both definitely the ones who were in the wrong, followed by the uncle and the mother.

@Rayne_stone Ай бұрын

2:32 for those who came from shorts

@golden6743 2 ай бұрын

already making unreasonable demands of him on their very first dinner together, which might i add the whole purpose of which was an attempt at an apology for essentially ruining the rest of his childhood because of something he never did. these people dont deserve to be called parents, they utterly failed both of their children and if i were them id die of shame.

@katycravens9344 3 ай бұрын

J might be a kleptomaniac

@anniedeedrix6732 3 ай бұрын

Nope , he is just framing his siblings . It worked once so it can work again

@bumziekom3563 3 ай бұрын

@@anniedeedrix6732 i disagree with u cuz if one is a kleptomaniac they would continuously steal things expensive or not its most likely for the thrill of it so the framing part has nothing with j's most likely kleptomania

@kkbb4fromwAlmArt 3 ай бұрын

dayum he's been through it all

@Kidwithbandana 3 ай бұрын

2:29 SUCKS FOR HER LOL

@Youthinkyoutheking__burgerking 3 ай бұрын

Killers of the flower moon is really good

@SeaFireK 2 ай бұрын

It sounds like the younger brother was the scapegoat of the family, or at least treated like a ghost, until he started framing the eldest son (OP). Then OP became the scapegoat. Then when OP was proven innocent, younger brother was scapegoat again (legitimately this time). I am really, REALLY glad everyone got therapy and cooler heads prevailed.

@ChefRye1 2 ай бұрын

Nah I would have still told my parents to eff off, they showed that it wasn’t about the crime it was they showed that they loved one sibling far more than the other.

@SionDracul 2 ай бұрын

Yeah, the fact the family still believe he is still a thief shows why reconciliation was pointless. They will never drop the image you are a thief even after being proven to have been framed by the brother. I would have never reconciled, they would be dead to me. All of them. The sister would be fine, unless she started pushing me to reconcile. Then I would have cut her off too. My mothers side of the family are toxic, they steal from, swindle and manipulate everyone around them. My mums mum, when babysitting me while I was 6 years old at her house, took food off of me to give to her lodger ans said "if you want to eat get a job" I went into the kitchen and took my mums spare key, don't know why my grandma had one, my mum is way too trusting, I walked an hour home, at 6pm alone. I got home and made myself a crisp sandwich and fell to sleep watching cartoons. I woke up at 10pm an hour after my mum finished work. I rang my grandmas just for my mum to answer in a panic, apparently the police had been called etc. Even when I walked passed my grandma and lodger, took the key from the draw and left the house they didn't even notice. I told my mum what happened and she was livid, after the divorce my mum didn't have many options, it was after that she started taking me to my grandparents on my dad side. I actually got looked after there, my grandfather was probably the best role model I could ask for and my grandmother was extremely kind to me. The comparison to how my mums family treated me was what allowed me to realise how abusive they were and even though my mum kept forcing contact, I cut them off, once I turned 18 I cut them off completely. It took my mum another 17 years to realise how toxic they were. Meanwhile I am married with a son, my wife wanting another soon and happy without the toxicity and drama they bring.

@albertomontemayor5900 4 күн бұрын

He is absolutely not the a-hole in fact my words would have been much much more harsh than his

@riss.h2478 Ай бұрын

Deal with it yourself 😂🎉

@jfjdheudchxjxj8238 2 ай бұрын

2:32 for people from the shorts version (roughly accurate)

@Kaziglu1 2 ай бұрын

The brother sounds like he's sociopathic. And stay away from Tinder dates.

@BitExist 2 ай бұрын

When a child notices that their sibling gets blamed for something they've done over and over again, it will lead to them believing that they can do no wrong. When they got caught, and realized there's actual consequences, the world flips upside down. The parents realistically should have looked further into the situation, and installed Camera's much earlier on, or setup a phone to record the hallways in secret. Doing so ensures they can actively catch who is doing it, rather than throwing blame. Typically a teenager wouldn't lie about it, nor would they commit the same offence they got caught for multiple times. That should have been the major indicator. The parents fucked up both their Sons lives as well as their ability to trust, and by being incapable of ensuring that the family understands the situation they've created an estranged situation.

@8Nozz8 2 ай бұрын

The rock would be so much better if his contract didn’t say he can’t lose

@pokemaster1725 2 ай бұрын

The uncle should’ve lost a tooth for that comment, it was already known it wasn’t him and that he never stole and his parents should’ve shut that shit down by separating their bill from the rest of the party

@whoagainwastaken32times 3 ай бұрын

uhm.... how are the grandparents 40 yet the parents 50.... either I need to retake my math classes or uhm... shit don't add up-

@NoizuWilhelm 2 ай бұрын

Where did it ever say the grandparents were 40??? They only ever mentioned the grandad and never mentioned his age. The only people who were in their 40s were OP’s aunt and uncle.

@ArmyTiny-nz8od 2 ай бұрын

The Pimp Cousin: Oohhh hide your wallet guys OP: your bestfriend tells me a gossips that your a pimp

@RoyalHAMM 3 ай бұрын

2:31 for shorts

@sayadiva123 2 ай бұрын

Mom can cry till she’s blue in the face. You believed one of your own children was a their WITHOUT PROOF and punished him severely. Even degraded him!! No one was on OP’s side. Now that the presumed “thief” was no longer in the house and y’all finally found the TRUE THIEF…all he got was his phone and video games taken away? Nah the whole family can kick rocks. Unequal punishment is heavily unequal until mom’s sudden epiphany for an “adequate punishment”. And then they wanna buy OP’s reconciliation with a new car?? Bruh no.

@MilesMilam 2 ай бұрын

Makes sense, you’re the middle child

@Badandrandomgameplay2 2 ай бұрын

We all know this isn’t gonna end well 8:53

@deskbreaker69 2 ай бұрын

Worst part about this story is Killers of the Flower Moon lmao

@glynismarshall9924 2 ай бұрын

No he is not the one in the wrong because his parents and other family members should have got the evidence first before just accusing him not even listening to him try to tell them that he didn't take it and then after they set the cameras up they don't give his brother the same punishment as him. Just taking away his phone and grounding him for a little bit really doesn't teach him jack s*** because what if he tries it again. And also his uncle and his daughter were in the wrong for what they did to him and said they know he was falsely accused so it was wrong for them to throw it back up in his face and yes it might have been wrong for him to throw her cheating on other people in her face but then again it wasn't, I think in my opinion that the only reason they all started to apologize is because they want it something out of it or because they didn't want to feel like they were guilty of something well that's just my opinion...

@kkomotooffcial 3 ай бұрын

2:32 for shorts users

@thecinnamonguy5127 2 ай бұрын

Imagine being on thin ice despite being proven innocent. I would have told the uncle to F off also. And the cousin sounds like a spoiled brat.

@Razzberry_dollz 2 ай бұрын

That part made me almost as mad as the theft being un disowned

@blitsriderfield4099 3 ай бұрын

R and Uncle are delulu if they think that was in any way appropriate

@jame1625 3 ай бұрын

It's called justice.

@Blacc-opsmm 3 ай бұрын

Guys, if you wanna actually sound like the KZbin show like a version of this, put it in 1.25 speed

@DAMitAlI 2 ай бұрын

Based off the kids ages when the brother did those actions he might have schizophrenia. Beginning of puberty and early twenties is correlated with symptoms worsening.

@TradeWinds66 3 ай бұрын

Taking a tinderella to get sushi? Only sleepers and sweepers on tinder, treat them accordingly

@kaidenstewart2018 2 ай бұрын

OK, I just found this from the short I was watching the short at the end I ended up just saying I missed the part where that’s my problem. She can go crying in her room for all I care she can stay in there for the rest of her life.

@Aubies333 3 ай бұрын

2:32 for the ppl from shorts:) have a good day

@Wayward_Insomniac Ай бұрын

5:03 how unfortunate 😔

@loading6580 2 ай бұрын

this whole story is just a big case of "womp fucking womp"

@OneidaGC 2 ай бұрын

does anybody else think this is a Grand Chorokee commercial?

@eskimolost2012 3 ай бұрын

Nta would go no contact with them

@giornobpr6546 Ай бұрын

I honestly would've said something to Uncle, like "do you have something to say to me, Uncle? Because I would love to know exactly how you've raised a Cheating Gold Digger of my Cousin, maybe you could be just like her. Or maybe, you could be the one stealing from your own Wife, without her knowledge. So you gonna keep your mouth shut, or wanna keep talking that shit spilling from your mouth?"

@jamesgoesoff1992 2 ай бұрын

This is bullshit because no one would refer to a 2001 Cherokee as dependable.

@Dragonheart6641 2 ай бұрын

The parents were somewhat justified for that. I mean, they shouldn’t have done that bad of a punishment but yeah. Other than when they only took away your bros phone. Your parents should have told them about how it was really your brother WAY before that.

@Dragonheart6641 2 ай бұрын

Oh and congrats for the date

@sadeye99 Ай бұрын

if you're coming from a short it starts at 2:33 :)

@havencorrp Ай бұрын

Im sorry but if i was in his situation i would never tried to reconcile with my parents, what they did was super awful, they ruined bonding with there child

@SQullyforlife 2 ай бұрын

NTA period

@yellowman617 2 ай бұрын

Don't bend or break....f em

@CodyJonesXD 3 ай бұрын

*Where's The Video With The Rest Of The Updates!*

@laurabenevelli6783 2 ай бұрын

OP, you just have a VERY dysfunctional family and it seems you were the brunt of your parent’s excuses instead of trying to fix the problems. It took to many years for them to try to truly make amends.