[FULL STORY] Should I divorce my wife for what she said about me?

[@qs4177]

What he doesn’t realize is that she only “stayed” because she realized she couldn’t make it on her own.

[@nimrath]

Yeah. she needs his resources, and she knows the kids might not choose her either, so she would be liable for Child support too.

[@christopherdelgado595]

Truth

[@jjureidini7530]

Agreed. She got desperate real fast and lost it when she heard she may have to find a way to pay for things lol

[@johnbradbury8610]

because he is pathetic. He should have been gone a long time ago

[@drdotter]

When I finally realized that my now ex-wife no longer viewed me as her husband, I set about subtlely convincing her that she could financially live without me. I started by putting all of her debt in my name and let her hang on to more of her earnings than previously. Once she saw the possibilities of being financially comfortable without me, I asked her to reconcile and treat me like her husband (coitus). That was a bridge too far for her. She asked for a divorce! What she didn't realize was that all marital assets AND debts were to be shared EQUALLY. It didn't matter whose name they were in. She didn't count on taking on half the debt that was in my name. She knew that I had dupped her by then the die had been cast and there was no undoing the divorce proceedings. I retired soon after the divorce was finalized and have the same spending cash that I did while I worked. She'll have to work at her job that she hates for another 10 years!!! I'm a retired multi-millionaire and she is in debt. FTB!!!

[@tufelhunden5795]

She’s already cheating. That’s why the fun times went away.

[@Tiger4ever89]

100%

[@user-oz5yk9bm5c]

They said that they slept with other partners but it didnt really work or help the situation.

[@adhominem8510]

​​@@user-oz5yk9bm5cThe wife does not refuse sex, she refuses sex with her husband. This guy doesn't know anything. She is definitely cheating.

[@freddykrueger8076]

@@user-oz5yk9bm5c Nah, she just didn’t like that OP was getting other partners. She is still sleeping around behind the scenes with other guys.

[@Mashamazzi]

​@@freddykrueger8076 they tried swinging, that's a one for one swap

[@aleveraj]

I was in OP's shoes... not for that long, but a solid half a year. In the end and in response to my attempts to get her to work on the marriage, my then wife chose to cheat and we got divorced. My life took a turn for the better. Hers, not so much. She's on the brink of bankruptcy, and while I feel for her situation, I don't lose sleep over it. Worth mentioning, while I was the breadwinner and paid for everything home related, she used to make good 30% more than me. Tough luck.

[@AshenTech]

my buddies father back in the 90's lived this shite, but his ex went back to college for work and decided she never wanted to be a mom, ended up on some porn series they sold on late night tv and in mags getting 3 holed... dude got himself checked just in case, because he hadnt f-ed her in years but... ewww... just... eww... anyway... he was broken up for a bit.. but had kids to raise and support.. when he married somebody who was under half the ex's age... who went after him hard... the ex lost her damn mind... more so because her own family kept commenting about him trading up, her bro was brutal... compared her to a clapped out geo(the sisters first car...she got thinking she was smart and it barely got her to and from school during college... but at least she had an iphone and ipad and macbook she replaced ever 2 years LOL... ), her whole family are on his side... hell they tried to warn him about her but also hoped she had really gotten her head on straight.. anyway.. dude ended up with a hot AF young wife, having more kids, and his kids inculding the ones near her age, calling her mom... LOL.. thats how bad the ex was... LOL oh, she made over 3x what he was making, not so much after the company started to garnish her pay and ensure the kids got the court ordered support she was refusing to pay knowing oregon only goes after dead beat dads... moms are fine to not pay ever... her company has a clause in their contracts that had she read the thing before signing it she may have made better life choices... around 2/3 of her pay was going directly to him and after she got arrested for trying to attack his future(current)wife.. yeah.. the company moved her into a condo they owned 2 blocks from work, so she could work with he ankle bracelet on....most clients apparently found it amusing, they liked dealing with her on contracts but disliked her personally... lizard people are sort of creepy..

[@nephastgweiz1022]

Ha. Men make money to provide for the family, women make money for themselves. Question is, why did you tolerate this financial arrangement in the first place if she was making more dough than you ?

[@aleveraj]

​@@nephastgweiz1022because it didn't start that way. We started with her as a SAHM. When kids started school, I set her up with a small startup for herself. She then moved on to work for a large multinational cosmetics company, and her income started to grow. I didn't even notice, she for sure did, when her bonuses and commissions got her to earn what she did in the end. But through all that, we never rearranged who paid what. So everything she earned was for her or to play cool mom, buy the gifts I couldn't, etc. Until she started spending on her girls nights out with the aforementioned outcome.

[@ArantyrDarkhand]

​@@nephastgweiz1022becouse hes like the majority of Men pus sy beggars. Pu s sy Its such a rare thing in the life of most guys, that they Will do evertything for It.

[@yvanpajevic9680]

Most whamen SUCK at money! They just can't seem to stop wasting it on utter CRAP! Even the ones who have a degree in business or finance, and should know better, can't save a dime! Without men's support, soooo many feefails would be destitute.

[@zerochance1958]

if she wants 'companionship', buy her a dog and serve her with divorce papers

[@Angel-fz8dr]

Why doing that dog so dirty?

[@scotthinger6397]

What did that poor dog ever do to you?

[@phaethaya]

Or gives her the devorce paper and tell her to get a cat, drizzle drizzle? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MetalSStar196]

@@Angel-fz8dr Because dog therapy is a positive outcome for people who are prone to depression. It's been proven to work. Also, dogs are less work compared to human children.

[@BakuganChampion]

@@phaethayahow is that any better? 😂😂😂 Buy her a goldfish instead

[@IMPATMAN02]

OP needs to respect himself. She said she was disgusted sleeping with him and he still says he loves her and wants her?

[@kylec3150]

Yeah that got me. Also he was paying the lions share of everything while she enjoyed her salary for herself. I'd have asked him how often she goes out for girls night and how often she works late or early or goes on business trips. Feels a great deal like she is guilty about sleeping with her husband and cheating on her AP.

[@MD-xl1sq]

Men are their own worst enemies sometimes. They continue to love and adore women that treat them like utter crap.

[@Fiddleslip]

@@MD-xl1sq It really makes one understand why Adam not only let a snake deceive his wife, but then went on to let her convince him into eating the fruit.

[@isopodslug6365]

Honestly I would wait till she cheated, then divorce her

[@erlinsmaland4191]

@@isopodslug6365don’t ever do that

[@ShocktoSpectre]

Getting friendzoned by your wife is crazy 🔝💀

[@artSTARZh]

FR FR

[@Frvr416]

IKR LIKE WHY MARRY HER IF SHE CONSIDERS YOU AS A PLATONIC FRIEND??

[@CapybaraStories-f7w]

indeed, it’s a pretty intense situation! It’s not just about the 'friendzone,' but also about navigating the deep and complex emotions that come with a long-term relationship that's evolved in unexpected ways.

[@Infinitejester7]

@@Frvr416because it’s only been recently

[@LunaFlame]

Ladies lose their color when they become mothers and it takes a long time sometimes to feel like yourself not just mom. The roommate/friend zone thing happens during that time. Unfortunately this is what makes or breaks a relationship.

[@marecare77]

She doesnt know why she doesnt want him anymore but she thinks about other men, anyons else spotting something fishy?

[@patricklawrence7483]

Very much so. Fishy doesn't even begin to cover it.

[@Ddx629]

She's fucking other men

[@bch5513]

Whole tuna factory

[@virgojake4531]

Fish Market bruv

[@BRENTALDRIN]

The damn oceon

[@KurumiSimp23]

He should have just divorced from the start. She only started kinda opening up as soon as he did the 50/50 financial thing, which makes it kinda obvious what her goal is. And the whole thing about her seeing him as a friend and the "rule" she made about strictly not sleeping with friends makes me think she definetly cheated on him as was trying to make it look better in her own eyes

[@ricoarmstrong7440]

They have children. Divorce is not easy when children are involved.

[@CrazyJay674]

@@ricoarmstrong7440Absolute cope. Stop it. “Stay for the kids” is the antiquated, moronic thing you can do.

[@ricoarmstrong7440]

@@CrazyJay674 Than what else are you supposed to do. Destroy the lives of 2 kids that need both parents ? Idiotic to just ignore the lives you are responsible for.

[@wnuZeLLionaire]

@@ricoarmstrong7440So the kids should live in a household with 2 parents that don’t like each other 😭 what a dumb response

[@GamerDude3222]

@@ricoarmstrong7440 Rather live in a household with divorced parents than one where the parents don't give two fucks about each other (speaking from experience as that kid)

[@maxtortarum4657]

Why in these stories is it always the wife that feels like “she doesn’t have enough” and “deserves more”?

[@mysteryjunkie9808]

Because they are raised by their mothers and society telling them they are perfect and deserve only the best. Which is why a woman’s that’s a 4 won’t date a man unless he’s a 6 or above

[@Reagentsssssssss]

Cuz ppl like it blaming women for all things😅

[@kickblake]

Wait wait wait, she’s resentful because of how much time he spends with the kids, but also all her responses to the therapist are about HER and the kids? Someone’s lying.

[@deadkings4035]

Something is wrong indeed

[@SungJinWu_]

Shes just milking her for money she expects him to play role of husband/father but she doesnt want to

[@DoomBoom931]

Her? The fuck? Heads up, I know it is a spelling mistake, but i thought it was funny.

[@talhaomair1455]

That's every women's desire, she wants all, and give nothing.

[@jonthomson9262]

​@@talhaomair1455thats the thinking of a spoiled child.

[@talhaomair1455]

@@jonthomson9262 can you elaborate?

[@w.reidripley1968]

​@@talhaomair1455A You-Problem: you only seek out women of that sort, or they read you as one to seek out for advantage-taking. Are such people suitable as mates, either way?

[@randomguy5704]

This is how women act when they're cheating. Until that is admitted to and addressed, the marriage will continue to be a fustercluck.

[@tanura5830]

Why do men in west allow cheating? I didn't know about it is not an excuse. She should be housewife and controlled 24/7. Off course she will cheat if she gone all day and flirting with men at work and everywhere else

[@ronhall5395]

True, but it is also how they act when they are just fed up with their current life. Friendzoning husbands is very common especially after kids. The last thing they want is intimacy. However, it is exactly what they need to get thru their funk. Cheating often happens especially if she is super hot. Average looking wives tend to just become roommates, knowing full well they can't make it on their own. I swear sometimes wives would be willing to.sleep.with al.ost any man on earth other than their husband. She said she has always had a policy of never sleeping with friends, but I bet she would sleep with a complete stranger. At least he got her to MC. Most wives will not do that because they know it is all their fault.

[@SteveMccart]

THREE YEARS !!!! That's not a marriage. He needs to lose that dead weight he calls a wife.

[@Ushsbbdbeiizudhur]

these stories get more out of hand daily

[@Rip_Lime1]

Fr

[@Ivefuckinghadenough]

And the sad things is most of these are happening in irl. Yeah some stories may be made up but bro, life is so f*cked up sometimes

[@JreuRyeh-y6r]

They actually seem to be getting calmer

[@holeymcsockpuppet]

It's just coming out. It's been going on for about 15-20 years.

[@Rip_Lime1]

okay?

[@glundgren2097]

Any man that let's any woman dictate his narrative is DOOMED! Develop a personal code, a personal agenda that follows your code, and set boundaries that respect and defend all of it! Ignore anyone that does not respect your path. Stop trying to make any woman happy. We are all responsible for our own happiness.

[@jamiemcv12]

I know 😂😂 what a sucker he is

[@notarat]

She's been cheating for years already

[@tufelhunden5795]

🎯 He needs to leave now or force her out of the house. He also should keep the kids.

[@PandaStuffz]

youre so out of touch with reality

[@matamba9689]

Simple Simp

[@andrewerickson6690]

​@@PandaStuffzlol dna test says different

[@Ddx629]

​@@PandaStuffzIn the words of Patrice O'Neal "if you let a woman talk long enough, she'll eventually tell on herself", and she did that by saying "I've been feeling disconnected from you for years" which means "I've been cheating on you for years".

[@evanmurphy4632]

right there... when she mentioned that what she was feeling, was her own fault, that was the heart beat restarting in this flat lined marriage.

[@HomeDefender30]

No it wasn’t… it was her conceding what she thought he needed to hear to keep him splitting the bills.

[@boejiden7093]

Complete BS. If she loses interest, thats it. Its over. She blames him for not letting her go out and screw around during her prime years because she found a good guy too early.

[@scaredpaul540]

I was waiting when she finally admit that she broke it off with her AP after 3 years, when she realised that divorce will be no fun...well, she will take that "secret" to the grave i guess. I mean, she was clear that shes disgusted for sleeping with you, she simply doesnt want to cheat on her lover with you, simple as that

[@superbirden57]

THIS!

[@FrostyBob99]

Exactly.

[@tufelhunden5795]

Nailed it. She’s for the streets.

[@Theabyss456]

Or maybe her lover cheated on her that's why she wanted intimacy with him but came to her senses in the morning and felt disgusted for what she did but blamed him and again started that whole best friend bullshit to get back with her lover, but when he started distancing himself, she thought if she lets him get more distanced from her he will end things, that's why she started to give him attention again.

[@Mali8029]

​@@Theabyss456 he mentioned swinging, I wouldn't be surprised if she was worried he would find someone else and leave her so she asked to close it but went cheating on her side

[@PetroniloPocaspulgas]

THIS GUY IS SOMETHING SIMILAR TO A DOORMAT. SHE IS NOT WORTH IT. BUT, HE KEEPS TRYING TO STAY WITH HER BUT SHE HATES HIM.

[@chocopappy]

He's a NICE guy Never Insisted Change Exists

[@frankybee9]

Idk maybe he is a man of his words. He made vows for better or for worse.

[@zach2011w]

Or you’re selfish and shallow.

[@coolgamer2135]

​@@zach2011wTake a hike you sucker.

[@haitaelpastor976]

@@frankybee9 Vows are meant to be reciprocal. And she has already cheated like crazy on him during all those years.

[@mrtoffees1202]

When my wife had her first stroke I gave up a very well paying job to look after her (she was paralysed all down the right side) and after 10 years of looking after her before she passed away she said to me she didn't know why she married me, that hurt more than anything else, I could have left at any time but I loved her but this hurt more than anything I've ever had but if I had I would left have been called many different names, 😢😢 im now rebuilding my life for me and have found a beautiful lady inside and out😊

[@MetalSStar196]

Sometimes, near-death can bring out a person's true character. People truly do expose their own true self when they get a sense of their own mortality.

[@coolgamer2135]

A simp to the core. I hope you learned your lesson

[@mystdragon8530]

Strokes damage the brain. She may have damaged that part and forgot.

[@coltonsmith3724]

Learn punctuation

[@firstLast-jw7bm]

brain damage can alter a personality via physiological damage, similar to how a lobotomy or shock "therapy" would change someone

[@vanity4718]

This is wild. I could never essentially beg someone to want me. 😭

[@nimrath]

Yeah. he is simping hard.

[@raizen21ss56]

This is more of a prominent thing with dudes. Historically, women have had a much easier time leaving their partner and moving on to the next. We love each other differently. Men tend to love women idealisticly while women tend to love men opportunisticly.

[@HomeDefender30]

Right? Sometimes my wife and I will go a couple week stretch without intimacy and when I express my frustration she has at times just laid down and said just do it and get it over with…. And I am like, that’s NOT how it works… I don’t want it if you don’t. I don’t want it to be a chore.

[@antimatter4733]

Bro denying his wife sleeping with other men was the cause is wild... The amount of stupidity that is needed to even consider that in a marriage is mind blowing...

[@1bestfriend2u18]

I think marriage is like a growing organism. It needs nurture. It takes work. It takes attention it takes time and you gotta be intentional about making time for your partner. Not just your partner, but also yourself. Because if you're not happy with yourself, nobody else can make you happy. They can do nice things for you and it puts a Band-Aid on it, but in all reality, when you are taking care of yourself, it's a much different life. You then become better for not only yourself but your partner and your children.

[@BruceBailey-b7x]

Good analogy. I've been married 3 times. First 2 lasted less than 5 years. Stupid girls. My current has been with me for 33 years now, and she's a good wife. Our marriage works because we both put the marriage's needs before our own wants.

[@1bestfriend2u18]

@@BruceBailey-b7x congratulations on 33 years,, wishing you many more

[@nyronfranklin5789]

In other words... The grass is greener where you water it.

[@coltonsmith3724]

Irrelevant. She cheated

[@devilhdante]

Nah, he shouldve divorced her. Using the kids as an excuse to blame him for not taking time for herself for friendships and personal happiness and also expecting him to always cater to her needs and wants shows how immature, spoiled and toxic she is.

[@genestarwind733]

She probably cheated on him already

[@zmortis111]

"One night she came home drunk and had sex with him, and was 'disgusted' in the morning." She was disgusted because she felt like she cheated on her side action with her husband.

[@stonefacedninja]

Bottom line, she wants to explore the streets again. Give her what she wants.

[@mattl6300]

Only a simp allows his wife to friend zone him and he stays with her.

[@pawelhyzopski6456]

Ever heard about responsibility? Ever heard of loosing everything in divorce? Not as simple as one believes.

[@mattl6300]

@pawelhyzopski6456 ever heard about self-respect, honor, and courage?

[@pawelhyzopski6456]

@@mattl6300 i guess your the one who leaves kids with mom and mind your day off. Ever been thru divorce? Read some of our stories. We come from different shapes and sizes. And i can ensure you, to some of us you wouldn't dare to speak it this way 😅 Anyho, life is not bipolar.

[@zach2011w]

@@mattl6300guess you haven’t because the OP had all those things. I hope you stay single because you sound really selfish and can’t tell because you think it’s just self-respect.

[@coolgamer2135]

​@@pawelhyzopski6456Never too late to erm arrange/set up an unfortunate accident 😉

[@1bestfriend2u18]

That book The 5 Love Languages is a great resource for working on marriage. I wish them the best.

[@evelynhernandez69]

By Gary chapman?

[@courtneyharris1006]

The fate of the "good guy". All the thoughtfulness and communication skills women ask for...wife is repulsed by him😂🤷‍♂️

[@Til_I_Collapse]

Plus, all those same skills they claim to have and for years, she says NOTHING specific about her problems with him.

[@GrymeJr]

And her sexual desire can be reignited by a stripper that reads on a 3rd grade level

[@Ddx629]

@@courtneyharris1006 Yup, this proves women don't know what they want or will never share it outright.

[@AliothAncalagon]

Dude is wasting way too much time on a relationship that will never recover. If your partner doesn't care about you for 3 years, what more evidence do you need to understand that you are simply not important enough for them?

[@nephastgweiz1022]

The only reason it kinda worked is because she realized she's worse off without him. This is not love nor desire. Your plan isn't working, dude. She's still thinking in transactional mode, "what is the best move for my security ?". Had she realized she can make it on her own, she'd happily kick you out of her life. The only way to save these kinds of dead bedroom marriage is to work on yourself, get in good physical shape, get more social, get promotions at work. It's sad to say but yeah, when she feels that other women are interested in you, a competition anxiety kicks in and she starts seeing you like a desirable man again. It is always worth it for yourself, but is it worth it to do it just to save the marriage ? I'm not sure. It puts you in a place where you have to qualify for her love, qualify for her desire. This is not healthy.

[@buggy_1508]

Is it just me or is this somehow and some way kinda motivational?😭

[@John-Scott]

Yes. It's motivating me to avoid marriage (and stepfatherhood) like the plague, warn brothers to get out if their girlfriend or wives are moving like this, and educate men on the concept of self-respect and walking away from the disrespect and never putting themselves in these situations in the first place. She friendzoned him and felt disgusted after sleeping with her own husband? And he still wants her? Here lies another fallen comrade. She was never his. It was just his turn.

[@peteh.5142]

She stayed with him to use him as an ATM. Time for him to leave.

[@ozzytres3914]

Props on the 2 of them for not giving up

[@ric2097]

Yeah...both being miserable deserves praise ??..your a damn fool

[@ghfudrs93uuu]

she gave up before the story even started

[@haroldvazquez]

Wow, she really wanted the benefits of a husband without doing anything. She's ridiculous, I swear.

[@GeneEndicott-j7s]

Unfortunately I know a lot of my friends experiencing this b.s women instigate this. My wife tried it I said F this and left her.

[@euchiron]

She is a manipulator and probably a dismissive avoidant, and he will likely always be friendzoned

[@scotthinger6397]

OP needs to divorec her ASAP.

[@1polonium210]

Your marriage cannot be repaired. File a divorce petition ASAP.

[@maxximus8904]

Had something similar, only for a few months tho. Gf had a setback, which I considered not a small one but also not a disaster. She had a house fire an all her electronics died, some stuff was burnt, but she had 90% of her stuff in tact She decided to not only not have intemacy, but make my life into a living hell by picking fights wherever she could and telling me i cheated on her for literally no reason. I told her that if this is the way she deals with a mediocre setback, i don't even want to know how she deals with an actual huge setback. Then she went apeshit on me so I broke up w her lol

[@CarlosSantos-kv9ip]

She wants to be taken cared of financially. She’s no different than most women, she’s just more direct about it.

[@JoseDiaz-rd9fh]

This is why you need two separate residences on your property. Eventually your wife will friendzone you or act a fool. Withdrawing your presence immediately when you are disrespected is very important. It's not always going to work but it usually will. Women constantly downplay the significant contributions men make in relationships. Don't allow them to gaslight you

[@suisenzero1]

A malevolent dictator said it best: “Return her to the streets! This, I command!” -Serpentor

[@black-wizard-zeref]

? 9:30 ? I would of done same but also prepare divorce papers [50/50] instead. She told him she doesn’t love him and she neglected him a lot from sex n all that she treated him as if a disgusted friends. Even when half drunk she did it woke up and just looked disgusted with him.

[@zmortis111]

She's disgusted because she feels like she cheated on her side action.

[@jdmozee12]

She wanted to be roommates and coparent but paying 50/50 was too much 😂😂

[@lonewanderer8743]

Story written by a marriage counselor.

[@Noramythseeker]

Its…not gonna work. It sounds like she only stayed because she learned she can't handle giving 100% on her own and is just staying and accepting whatever comes

[@zettozettomer2640]

She is already cheating. If all she wants is companionship, that's not a marriage. Time for divorce.

[@sebastiancervantesll]

Did you notice the shift. He now has more of the heavy lifting with his chest out doing the 180. Well played Miss, well played.

[@fatimasiracova5680]

Well,her plan is backfired💀👍

[@toquinlan]

When he said, "Of course, I agreed". That showed the root of the problems.

[@davidsanneman5293]

i don't even know wtf this means. just get a divorce.

[@Xand3rCha0s360]

Despite the comments it does sound like the wife and husband both realized their mistakes (more so the wife) and want to try to fix their marriage. This is probably the least "out of hand" story I've heard on this channel lol

[@coltonsmith3724]

Wrong

[@CapybaraStories-f7w]

the steps you’ve taken to understand and address the issues are not only commendable but also incredibly inspiring. Have you considered seeking additional support from counseling professionals or support groups to continue this journey ?

[@ghfudrs93uuu]

Yet, useless.

[@ladyweasellou3367]

Who complains their spouse is a great parent?! 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@jorgenflykt7056]

What the fuck is wrong with people? Rules and lists!? Go separate ways asap.

[@raharmonnelson7537]

Because she thinks she can do better she resents having spent the time she has with you.... she blames you for her not having the life she feels she deserves but never worked for 2:53

[@WilliamBrowning]

The wife is not willing to work on anything, can't explain what is even the issue. She doesn't give any Fs about him.

[@Lord_Phoenix95]

Sounds like what my ex did to me except she never talked to me about anything.

[@zmortis111]

My ex wanted to "talk to me" as well. She said our relationship was making her "unhappy". So I asked her about the guy she was chasing after on-line. She didn't think I knew about them. She confessed about it, and I handed her papers at the end of the week telling her, "This isn't a jail cell, you can walk out the door anytime, but I'm not going to ever let you back in." I filed on our fourth wedding anniversary.

[@GODCONVOYPRIME]

​@@zmortis111so she was fine with that?

[@catallguy43]

@@zmortis111 Proud of you man - too many guys would have tried to 'work on it'. If I need to convince you we should be together, we SHOULDN't be together.

[@asurawrath7801]

Friendzoning your spouse is crazy. Why is he putting up with it? She can search for another "best friend" ...

[@ramjet118]

She is broken, she is for the streets.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Story 1: Your wife is completely toxic! You need to divorce her now!

[@JerryLynch-yt5fg]

In this story the therapist got rich. Way too much psycho babble. The wife would have just gone along with a divorce. She had all but checked out and the likelihood she had been cheating or nearly to, seems pretty evident. He on the other hand waited too long to challenge the status quo. Downward spirals of thousand cuts of pain is abuse of the spouse. Confidence that in 10 yrs they are still married is low.

[@otaviotisikawa2594]

Never have I seen a marriage that sounds like they have very nice agreements while being so inorganic and lifeless.

[@Shenheking]

Bro for more men like him on this planet, we need. God bless them and shield them from women who just wants to play with marriage.

[@SkylarDear_466]

0:45 shorts people

[@Phoenix_Of_Fury]

She wants a companion? Get her a cat and serve her with divorce papers 😑

[@Stronghand-yw1lk]

He needs to go ahead and divorce her because she ain't worth it. How can I say that? Because he ain't worth it to her! She friend zoned him and that says it all.

[@ghfudrs93uuu]

But before that he needs to go through a new round of "healing" where he makes her sign a post-nuptial agreement

[@vynsythe]

No way i got physically and mentally tired from listening all the work tbd op listed, holy shi😭🙏🏼

[@rasharddauvergne342]

Doesn't even realise that she had already cheated

[@Nakaelena]

This is what happens when you play checkers then realising your actually in a game of chess. If the roles were reversed the man would be destroyed. Dann double standards.

[@USER_S4V4NT]

dont expect a man to play the role of husband if you don’t want to play the role of wife

[@phaethaya]

This is one strange story. OPs wife friended zone him, he made 180 and worked on himself. They still in "friendzone", live like partners, did 50/50 for wat? Her needs and happiness?

[@zmortis111]

He's lost her respect, and she's just using him for resources. Being the doormat he is, he can't admit to himself she's been cheating on him for quite a while.

[@gordy7877]

She feels that she settled for you. Now that she has a meal ticket locked, she wants to live like a 20 year carosel rider cause she "missed out". She feels you're too beta to walk.

[@garychesser5277]

Yes. You are long overdue for divorce.

[@Belle-75]

Here before it blows up 👇

[@marksaleh4437]

Me

[@Rip_Lime1]

Hi

[@PradeepKumarror]

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[@JreuRyeh-y6r]

Your gonna be here for a while

[@ronaldfinkelstein6335]

OP should bring home a kitten, then pack up his stuff and leave. And, of course, file for divorce. If OP Is friend zoned, why should he even share a bed. He needs to get out!

[@Crispy_DAWG]

They rediscovered individuality, something important in any relationship. Regardless of what point you are in life, don’t stop living for yourself. Kids are not an excuse and don’t burden/blame them for feeling trapped. I felt that way for years until i realized my mom could have left or done more for herself and instead chose not to.

[@DeMarcusFountain-sv6fi]

Now this is what I like to see. Both husband and wife decide to work together on their issues and try to improve instead of cheating or leaving. If more married couples did this, there would be less divorces

[@benjaminwoodham6682]

This is one of the worst marriage situations I've ever heard of. That wife is a freaking terrible person

[@gilbertwoodward75]

Divorce her immediately.

[@narliehs1648]

OP has a very healthy approach to this train wreck that is his marriage. He's really taken the therapist's words seriously. The updates seem to show improvement in the wife as well, but time will tell if she stays the course toward s heathier and happier future or falls back into old, isolated and resentful habits.

[@chaos696969]

she is a horrible person she is sad cause she has kids by him so she should just leave

[@raypendergrass694]

she is cheating

[@zmortis111]

Yep. The worst part is I bet he understands that too, he's just not willing to acknowledge it because he's hanging on to a non-existent marriage, fantasizing they can "fix" it.

[@chadisnotachad]

Dude should leave

[@emasters8619]

I would have immediately divorced her after that drunken stunt.

[@akuiori]

This is very close to what im going through now, but the therapist is only worried about what she wants...its not looking good

[@zmortis111]

That right there is the issue, you went to a therapist. They are around to make money by keeping you going to session after session. At the end of the day, look into your heart and decide for yourself if you want to be disrespected by them until they finally find someone else to move in with, or are you going to claim your dignity and offer them papers so you can have your dignity back.

[@oussamachahidi9201]

She took OP for granted since he was the one taking care of the house financially and he was giving her attention, when he changed, she woke up. that's why never gave too much attention to a women except your daughter

[@GeorgeGiann]

Sure! Let’s have coffee and talk about it! Expenses 50-50?! HELP! Asking for help for some of her personal things and not having someone to unburden? HELP! Feeling stressed and crying? HELP!

[@Him-t7y]

Women are like children at times and standing your ground with the 180 helped her understand it’s not all about what she wants and that happiness is an inside job!

[@RealCurrencies]

Three year dead bedroom. Stop paying the bills after max two weeks man! My God, that guys accept this, and next act 'surprised' if things only get worse.

[@gilbertwoodward75]

I had an ex-girlfriend friendzone me, that's why she's an X. She found out that I have a super power, my own mother hated me, so I only bonded with my children. Grown Women, very slowly, or not at all. I have the😊 capacity to walk away without any drama.

[@Lucas-ck1po]

Three years of this woman claiming her husband disgusts her and openly admiting she thinks of other men... She was cheating for quite a bit already, poor OP.

[@MetalSStar196]

The issue I have with these scenarios posed is that I struggle relating to men who still feel sentimental about their marital partners. The moment I sense someone lose respect for me, I lose empathy for them in turn. That's how I react in self-preservation. I still view the other party as human, but not as an ally if that makes sense. Either I trust you 100% to have my back and like you a lot or I don't trust you at all while you're still useful to me while deep down I don't care anymore. People feel crushed when that switch is flipped, but I don't care anymore. It doesn't sadden me because their problem was never my problem in the first place.

[@phillipjohnson4156]

Yep, I'm the same way

[@bch5513]

I so wish my BIL would have tried the 180. But he wanted so much to "save " her that he let her mistreat him. He is a first responder and it is in his nature. He is getting a really HARD lesson now when he is seeing what she really was doing to set up her getting everything in a divorce now.

[@The-Man-On-The-Mountain]

It's not that complicated: she feels disgusted, she loves you as a friend (doesn't love you), the relationship is done, she's gone, forever. Kicked her out and move on. Women unfall in love and there's nothing, NOTHING, that you can do about it. The more you try, the worse. It's over.

[@frankconley6321]

Every man married or not must always be prepared to walk away. The wife must be made aware of this from the start. Women NEVER respect a man they feel they have "locked in". The vast majority of men are in a marriage for life. Too many women today get bored and resentful in 5-7 years.

[@ManliestofMen]

Couldn't be me... divorce with immediate effect!!!

[@spinmaster0]

This 180 dynamic should not have been agreed upon. Simply because she is only seeing how bad it is out of desperation. She has to WANT to make it work and not simply because she cannot handle it on her own. If a couple is living like friends in the same house, it can NEVER work! If she is not interested in her husband, it should have been 'end of story' there and then.

[@HgHg-yp6ft]

Divorce and DNA testing for the kids...That woman told the doormat that she is disgusted to have sex with him and that she is "thinking'" of other men and his response was going to a therapist?!

[@phillipjohnson4156]

You know he drove a Volvo station wagon to the therapist office while crying. Probably a small fella in more ways than one. Probably not very handsome, not in shape, ect. He must feel like he has no other options. If I were his friend I'd try getting him to cheat.