These Van Life Parents are ABUSIVE

[@dramallamarama5300]

It’s the fact that, without fail, the parents always have a massive bed in their own private room (aka the baby factory) with real doors and 4 walls. All the while their 7th born is sleeping on the kitchen table.

[@Purplesquigglystripe]

For real though why is it always the families in the 99th percentile of number of children

[@vivii__]

"baby factory" I'm in tears 😭😭😭

[@irlginger]

Baby factory…☠️

[@Camilla.rc8]

No bc why where some ppl making their kids sleep on the floor

[@GOUdamn]

Stoooop having children 💀💀💀💀💀

[@amethystimagination3332]

The fact that two of the children in the first clip are sleeping on the actual floor with no mat or anything and the parents have no problem with that is upsetting to say the least.

[@ili719]

I think that that family posted videos in their house too

[@dani_drawzz]

Probably creates terrible back problems as well…

[@iluVioletLink]

i've seen the comments section on that video, and seeing the creators like commenters who are like "well haven't YOU slept on the floor before?" And like. That's besides the point. Yes it could be normal to sleep on the floor but only like on the veeeeeeeeeeery occasion like sleep overs, staying over at a family's house... those once in a lifetime scenarios... but on a TINY VAN? with MULTIPLE CHILDREN? Even people who sleep on the floor needs to have comfortable mattresses/padding, or that they'd use something like a futon, etc. But on the floor, bare, and only having some shit like a sleeping bag is just sad.

[@dani_drawzz]

@@iluVioletLink It’s even worse when the parents have a full sized bed and walking room.

[@amethystimagination3332]

@@iluVioletLink Yeah, when people sleep on the floor it’s usually only for a night or two, not their whole childhood

[@Caleb_FC]

i remember one where the daughter’s only wish was to stay in a hotel for her birthday and the mom kept saying “she loves the van she just wanted a change of environment!”

[@danika9411]

This is so sad!

[@blackbear7624]

oh yeah it’s the same family who video their daughter punishment in this video. and they didn’t even give her a hotel room, instead they get an apartment/air bnb and everyone cram into that one apartment. with her wish i would’ve guess that she wants some alone time in her hotel room just enjoying it herself

[@nonamenoface3654]

Didn't the mom also admit said birthday kid always ask for hotel rooms for their birthdays? Mom said it off hand like the kid was "quirky" for wanting to not sleep in a coffin for a night.

[@lizzynoelle1959]

yes FamilyOfNomads. that same daughter ended up with an eating disorder and the mom said "we though she had anorexia but we didnt realize how bad it was" so they literally knew something was up but didnt care until it got more severe

[@laurenc4138]

@@lizzynoelle1959 I’m so glad someone else sees this! Honestly this family screams “my kids are just accessories”. That poor kid is SO mentally unwell, she had such a severe ED that she was hospitalized for SIX MONTHS while her POS parents went traveling. The mother literally has flown to Florida to get a haircut but left her poor defenseless struggling daughter at a hospital for an eating disorder that was obviously reactionary to her surroundings. Then they post a video about how “these things are no one’s fault” basically saying “we 100% aren’t to blame this is just something that happens” Like no tf it’s not. I hate them and I hate how they have this like army of mindless zombies who regurgitate praise back to them on every single video. It feels like a cult anytime on of their shorts pops up.

[@Idontknow42756]

As someone who lived in an rv for over a year, whenever my parents decided to get intimate..I could hear EVERYTHING. Traumatizing

[@reneeramirez2183]

Did you know that is also SA? You shouldn’t have heard that and I am sorry it happened :( hope you doing better.

[@RainAngel111]

Right? Like even if they have the self control to not moan, it's impossible to do that completely silently

[@DragonBoy-ch7hw]

@@reneeramirez2183sa cuz you overheard your parents getting it on? Get over yourself

[@theleonpasta7336]

Lol, i couldn't imagine being comfortable doing there mere feet away from my kid, like i understand everyone has "needs" but I feel having your kids play outside (preferably supervised by someone lol) while you do it would be a better option, or fuck just do it standing up in a damn public bathroom or something if you really can't go without! Cuz unless the kid is like a literal infant and isnt even aware of the world yet i could never ever be comfortable doing something soo intimate right next to em! Even if they're asleep!!

[@Thatoneguythatloveskeycards]

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[@annikahunter247]

That one woman who literally had 3 kids sleeping on the FLOOR OF THE VAN while they got a huge ass bed made my blood boil.

[@shawnariggs2485]

Yep I saw that that made me sick and she wouldn’t specify this one sleeping on the floor. She would say Timmys sleeps here So she didn’t have to explain that her child is literally sleeping on the freaking floor. It’s so sad people think this is acceptable.

[@emcaco]

Seeing that made me scream.

[@hiyylight]

shouldn't parents be the ones who sacrifice their comfort for their children, not the other way? Like of course parents are human beings and should be comfortable, but not at the expense of their children

[@annikahunter247]

@@hiyylight exactly. That’s what I was thinking, which is why it made me so mad

[@oooh19]

@@hiyylight exactly! But many don’t sadly

[@jscrawford5795]

Seems like a perfect set up for abuse. Always on the move, so teachers, neighbours, doctors, friends etc, can't notice something is going on with the kids. Kids can't form any relations with any other adult, so they have no one, no 'safe' adult to turn to if they need to.

[@toxihex876]

I'm pretty sure they're typical narcissists, judging by their inability to grasp the simple fact their kids need certain basic things and their reaction to backlash. When someone responds with "well you're still giving me engagement by commenting so the joke's on you HAHAHAHA" it's commonly because they can't understand that the person opposing them isn't out to make them feel as much pain as possible, and even if they are, they realize their contribution through engagement is so small that it doesn't matter. It's a "mommy's special stash" amount of copium to want to grasp at something so small just to feel like you're on top as much as possible. Even in middle school I found that argument to be beyond silly, idk what their mental age has to be.

[@phloats.]

Also, everything the children are doing is probably monitored. Almost all of the families shown in this vid only have a thin curtain separating each of the rooms, so there is no way these children have ever felt the sweet feeling of actually having any privacy.

[@loze2804]

the entire "living" situation is already abuse

[@sammyssandwich]

@@toxihex876 yeah, saying "your still giving me engangement by commenting" is a terrible ass excuse for child abuse.

[@anthonyrowland9072]

Kid named Enoch=automatic religious lunatics. Let alone also being van parents...

[@XxfelixzxX]

I remember seeing a van life were the kid literally asked to go to a Hotel for their birthday, just a normal none special hotel, just to be able to sleep in a normal bed. That broke my heart

[@cuddlybear8732]

Omg that's horrible I hope that kid got what they wanted

[@riftendrifter]

wait is that the same family whose daughter had to be hospitalized for an ED?

[@deadflypremium]

@@riftendrifter yup

[@vanillakittie]

​@J3ster! eating disorder

[@st_z0na]

@J3ster! eating disorder

[@chloqrxs]

1:15 "everyday i wake up and i hope you're gay!"

[@born7z700]

😭😭😭

[@FloorSimons-r9y]

Now i cant unhear it anymore😂

[@rnptenafly]

What movie is that?

[@sannetts]

​@@rnptenafly marriage story

[@playerone1090]

@FloorSimons-r9y same

[@poke-charlie]

the irony of “my children can’t have technology as a punishment” while your parents film a tiktok about how great your shitty living situation is

[@5unR4e]

​@@emilypurdy2097 Why would someone buy likes for a random comment on a random video? Also, people can like but not comment. That just means they appreciate the input, but have nothing to add on.

[@poke-charlie]

@@emilypurdy2097 do you really think id spend money on a youtube comment you dumbass

[@MegaKhelditia]

Somehow, the way you phrased that, made it plain to me that "No Electronics," as a punishment of a kid at any housing level, sounds suspiciously like, "You can't call for help while the memory is fresh!" 😢

[@valentinagiovanardi6080]

For someone with very little room for toys or offline hobbies, the no-technology punishment hits different than it would having more options

[@emilyjohn2034]

Not just no technology but also added the punishment of CANT PLAY OUTSIDE! And ya that’s until they finish all their chores but it’s a small child they deserve brakes and to try and push them away from playing outside is insane

[@thegalaxypenguin1635]

Molly didn’t do her chores last night, so we stopped the bus and kicked her off to survive on her own in the forrest. We will be back in a week to check on her progress.

[@Karia_Winchester]

It's funny that he compares it to paying a light bill when they live in a fucking van.

[@ShadoeLandman]

Molly celebrates her newfound freedom, independence, and privacy from living in the forest. "Much roomier than the van," a hiker reports to have heard.

[@graetyyy_motherwas.here.1340]

But fr tho

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

@@ShadoeLandman Molly has become one with the beats and the trees and reports that she will never go back to van life. She makes money by posting weekly to her KZbin channel, and by earning tips through teaching lost hikers how to survive till help arrives.

[@nicolemariereads25]

Remember when a Japanese couple did this to their kid to "teach him a lesson?" In bear country? The kid was ultimately found alive and safe, but these people seem like they'd defend their decision to the death.

[@LucaSitan]

Whats really concerning is that these parents get to control their kids 24/7. No school, no friends, no outside hobbies. These kids have no one to help them, no one to confide in. And who knows what goes on behind closed doors...I hope they at least sue their parents for the money they were forced to generate for them.

[@EllentheGranen]

… I never thought about it like that, but you’re so right

[@puppetpawss]

Not to mention, with no address and never staying in one place, these families could essentially pick up and run whenever they feel like it if somebody gets smart enough to call CPS

[@bookshelfhoney]

Exactly, it's a total nightmare. The kid can't even go to their room to have a little alone time, so horrific

[@1-Alien-1]

There is nothing bad going on behind those doors, because THERE ARE NO DOORS 💀😭

[@KorianHUN]

​@@puppetpawss something something Epstein... horrifying what could bd happening to these kids.

[@aztralsea]

I’m 17, I grew up in a situation a lot like this (for me it was due to poverty though) and I just got diagnosed with C-PTSD because of it, and I didn’t even have my whole life broadcasted to thousands of people on the internet, I feel really sorry for these kids

[@isabellacampeau6172]

A lot of parents don't seem to realize that kids don't only need privacy from the parents, but from each other too.

[@daydream5120]

Exactly! No child is going to want to spend their entire time with their family!

[@no1legobatmanfan]

agreed. my house only had two bedrooms that arent the master bedrolm, and theres 3 of us, so my brothers always shared a room until recently when one now lives in the sunroom (its basically just another bedroom at this point). teens need their own spaces to express themselves, id hate it if i had to share because my room is basically where i decirate with all the things i love.

[@Teddy-qs3pc]

!!!!!! 👏🏻seriously👏🏻

[@littlesparrow303]

@user-md7dk9cn8eyes I was thinking wait til they get into teenage years because they’ll get taller & will want privacy & personal needs

[@vibrantgleam]

@user-md7dk9cn8e THIS. My mom knows that me and my brother are older and we have our own bedrooms and privacy. _We have a whole upstairs to ourselves.._

[@Kitunae]

In Stardew Valley - the family in the trailer, the parent Pam sleeps on the couch and she made sure the daughter Penny has a proper room with a door. Pam is a struggling alcoholic and even she has her priorities set right. Unlike these folks!

[@lieeemss]

I love stardew for this "little" detail

[@N95j]

now that you point it out, it seems even more sad. *fictional* people have better life choices than real, breathing humans..

[@Lu_c_]

Yes, i really liked that detail

[@Laine_h3arts]

OMG YES STARDEW!

[@buttered_bread299]

Stardew is awesome Yet terrifying

[@nealastrickland3064]

I was almost a van kid. My parents moved across the country to get away from toxic family. They were understandably stoked and wanted to cruise the coast in a beat-up 2000 Toyata Corolla. They had the time of their lives until 3 year old me asked to go "home" and pointed to a hotel. That's when it hit them that traveling forever wasn't good for me. They immediately moved us into a rental home with my very own bedroom. It wasn't very big, but that house gave me a stable childhood and a good education. It's a story that proves to me that my parents love me unconditionally.

[@felixonpaws..]

Your parents are good people who love you very much 🥺

[@Tea_laBlue]

So glad they figured it out and put you first 😊

[@FishyFinster]

W parents

[@Kooldood0874]

"here, you obviously deserve this more than me" 🫴👑 *Your parents *

[@Vizedar]

Gotta love responsible parents

[@XenophliX]

10:55 when my lego collection has a far bigger shelf than actual human beings you know something’s wrong especially when the parents have a comically large bed that takes up 1/3 of the rv

[@cockroachfather9501]

I feel like the cute van life is for like- young couples without kids. Or like old people who just hit retirement age and just wanna travel.

[@isabellavalencia8026]

And the homeless.

[@katie.hin.1318]

I think it could work with like a young child who wont care about privacy as much or like as a summer roadtrip thing.

[@dreamkitty]

@@katie.hin.1318 definitely non-school aged children and if so, only the summers. no kid would enjoy this lifestyle full time.

[@katie.hin.1318]

@@dreamkitty oh yeah absolutely, like no older than six unless their doing a big summer trip in the rv

[@tonyamell23]

@@katie.hin.1318 Exactly!! Maybe like a toddler, but 12 kids??!!! That’s just plain crazy!!

[@eerie_descent]

As someone who grew up in an RV, you dont just hear your parents go at it. The entire thing rocks. These people are keeping therapists employed...

[@onlyvalidmgk5987]

I gasped. I hope you're working on ways to traumatise them back

[@M1AH]

smells like nursing home for your parents

[@invadercow1533]

Jesus Christ… You think they would do it outside or in a hotel or something…

[@Iheyoka]

That's fucking horrifying.

[@Bakugoukatsuki-sk9pq]

Are you ok I will call you a therapist 🫠🙃

[@anamonoke]

As someone who due to financial reasons had to sleep in the same bed as their mother till they were 12. Seeing these people willing do this to their children just boils my blood.

[@leonlastname8070]

yeah same here. makes me pissed of for sure

[@sammythewizard420]

I shared a bed with my mom, dad, AND sister for YEARS. Lemme tell you it was hard even tho i was used to it. I didnt have ANY privacy. and for these parents to CHOOSE to do this it blows my mind

[@justine8387]

I am sorry you had to do this everyone deserves their own space and privacy.

[@hyde3155]

I shared a room w my brother and parents till i was like 7 or 8 and then shared a room w my younger brother till i was like 12. Then i shared a room w my grandma till i was 14 when after surgery she moved into my older brothers room and in result i lived w my brother untill my grandma died and he moved back at round 15. The privacy i have now is yhe best thing that ever happened to me. I dont get the parents that force their kids to share rooms if they have enough money not to. I get that my family doesnt have enough money so i understand y i didnt have my privacy for a long time, but purposefully people doing that infuriates me.

[@masochismtango]

@@hyde3155 i had to share a room with my brother till i was about 10. i feel bad for these kids truly, the parents have a choice to let their kids have privacy but they dont give them it. it boils my blood.

[@effortukate]

I remember a time I moved from my house and changed 5 rental flats in 2 weeks, when eventually my dog started to pull me to random house porches and refused to go. He wanted to stay somewhere at last. And imagine what a child must feel.

[@haileeknox1179]

In high school, I had some family issues where for the first semester of my sophomore year, I needed to stay with my grandfather in his diesel pusher RV. Whilst I had a fantastic relationship with my grandfather, he still stressed the idea of privacy and having my own bedroom as a teenager whilst living in an RV setup. This man, a 64 year old retired veteran and firefighter, pending a cancer diagnosis, GAVE HIS 15 YR OLD GRANDDAUGHTER HIS ENTIRE BEDROOM. I feel so guilty as an adult when I think of the back pain and struggle this sleeping arrangement must have gave him, but OH MY GOD do I have the utmost respect for him to be so mindful about my comfort in camper style living. If my grandfather could give a bedroom to a kid in an RV, these parents most definitely should, or avoid the livestyle entirely!

[@kennadiedunn8918]

grandfathers are the best ❤ glad you have that nice memory while going thru a bad time.

[@psychedelicelle]

What the heck!!!!!!! That makes me so happy to hear… Mainly because you appreciate it 🩷

[@nissanjuke2013]

don’t feel guilty, you didn’t put yourself in that situation and i’m sure he was okay with it for your comfort. that’s amazing though, what a man

[@laureneggyolk]

Awww❤❤

[@SadSpaceCowboyClown]

💜💜

[@amberferrell2951]

As an abused kid, this kind of life makes child abuse so easy and very hard to track or report.

[@di7209]

Like yeah child services sucks quite a lot of the time but this amount of isolation really makes it easy for parents to get away with using them since there are no other adults looking out for them.Especially since it’s usually teachers or neighbours or friends parents that report signs

[@Kb-gh2rk]

Oof. This didn’t even occur to me. Holy shit you are a thousand percent right. Sorry you went through that.

[@Fangirl1327]

Exactly!

[@shadowsoulless6227]

Yeah they're constantly on the move so they don't have neighbors that see them routinely They don't have any friends in person because they don't stay in the same place consistently They don't go to school so teachers/counselors can't see any changes in them or recognize any signs of abuse For all anyone knows these families could be sexually abusing their children and because they are in charge of their social media and they are the ones editing the videos, It wouldn't come out until the kids become adults and escape. Then it will be "child abused for 18 years, No one around to help" or something

[@nobodyimportant1968]

@@shadowsoulless6227 And, unfortunately, a child exposed to lifelong abuse in isolation is likely to take a lot longer than just 18 years to leave an abusive environment - especially bc constant movement also like, perfectly prevents a teenager from ever having a first job, and possibly might even prevent them from getting a driver's license until they escape the abusive environment. leaving an abusive partner as an adult is one thing. i've helped ppl escape before and the amount of work it takes and time it takes all while the person continues to face abuse while working their ass off to escape is just... horrifyingly endless. and, you can't really hide a secret stash of money/a diary/resources/etc in such a small space...

[@hanscapon222]

Never forget the original van lifers, The Thornberries, and how much their eldest hated it. Eliza may have loved the adventure and exploration, but she was pretty young. Debbie was a teenager with no structured life or social group and was so desperate for it that she begged to go to boarding school.

[@cheshirenevande4701]

And she loved it, from what I remember. She thrived at boarding school.

[@hanscapon222]

@@cheshirenevande4701 exactly, because Debbie hated living in the van and thrived in the stability of boarding school

[@queenelizabee7246]

wow that’s deep

[@paolamiao3580]

Damnn, thats sadd

[@kwallmeep2216]

Don’t forget their youngest child that was pretty much feral.

[@RoseAdventures]

Funky frog bait sucks at research!!! (Your clarification was super respectful and responsible good job)

[@krimsonklaww611]

A bedroom has 2 requirements. 1. It needs to have a bed. 2. It needs to be a room. At best, these are bed pantries.

[@Lucky-Charm-547]

At worst, these are mat-floors.

[@defokochu]

Real like you can’t make ur kids sleep on a couch every day 💀

[@Mamagiri-sx3lt]

Hey! The couch is better then the ground at a hotel cause you kick to much and can't share the bed with your sisters cause you could injure them 😖

[@TheLionPear]

Even that is a low bar compared to real estate requirements: it's not a bedroom without a window (fire safety) and a closet. So these van life people are very very very below minimum standards.

[@Anfilkins]

also, it needs to have a closet. So, in every sense it's not a bedroom. At BEST! it's a human locker.

[@sleepy_goth747]

RV kid here, let me tell you, frog is ABSOLUTELY right. I've been living in a camper with my 3 brothers and parents for the past two years, and these past two years have been an absolute detriment to my mental health. Yes, it is an amazing opportunity I've been given to have seen all the places that I have, but I cannot recall a single positive experience anywhere I've been. I receive little to no education and I'm scared I won't be able to pass my GED, I will probably be repeating high school once I turn 18. I'm lucky enough to not have my entire life posted about on the internet, but even then my parents cross the line sometimes when posting to Facebook. There is no privacy, and my two youngest brothers are forced to share a "bed"(a broken dinette) and my other brother sleeps on the couch, while my parents have a large California queen bed with doors and all the privacy in the world. If you are considering this lifestyle with children, you are guaranteeing that you end up in a nursing home in your old age.

[@VetAccountRedacted]

Good luck, mate.

[@Pennyallavodka]

Omg that’s awful! You don’t have to answer this obviously but, do you get any opportunities to work and save up money to move on your own when you turn 18? Like how do kids in that situation find footing to start their own life?

[@Elainaj93]

I wish I could send a ged prep book to you. I got mine at 17. You could try to see if there are any good free prep courses online or videos to help you study. I totally forgot all the sites I use to use.

[@beesquestionmark]

I just can’t imagine this. Me and my bf want to try vanlife for a bit but we even take our cat into consideration when trying to think about what we could do

[@androconiachangeling6535]

Yeeeaaahhh RVs aren't built for 6 people, the only thing I could tell you is to lash out in a way that lowers your parents quality of life so they no longer want to live on an RV.

[@Bootleggies]

How can these parents justify their kids sleeping on the FLOOR while they get a huge ass bed? Absolutely infuriating.

[@awryarbi9902]

I was in a van for a week and we did that but we took turns with the comfiest spaces and the floor. These parents suck

[@PippiOnePointOh]

Right?! That one kid was on the bathroom floor! AND! He looked well into his teens!!!

[@anawaldrop2721]

0-9-😮😮😮😅😅😊

[@sage1my]

bro when I was as big as them I was sleeping in my moms bed this is awful

[@funtime_omega7781]

EXACTLY! IT INFURIATES ME!

[@CasanovaDraws]

I’m school friends with a child from The Family Of Nomads, and I can tell you, she disappeared for a long while due to medical issues, but she couldn’t tell us anything, most likely due to her parents. We thought she died, when we say she wasn’t able to tell us anything, we mean ANYTHING.

[@Scintillate9]

I have seen a total of one van life family I approve of. They have a large RV and only one child, and they clearly prioritize him. He has a large area all to himself, and even a little extra area for friends. They keep track of his friends so whenever they’re in the same area they meet up, so even traveling the country he has a consistent group. And it’s very clear he’s *enthusiastic* about his life and enjoying it. Because of how clearly the parents prioritize the child and go out of the way to make sure his needs are met, I’m okay with them. It’s horrifying they’re the exception.

[@astryslii]

Whats the channels name?

[@dragonfruits1950]

@@astryslii can you also tag me in the answer please?

[@tracygowans6292]

It’s the momtrotter I believe I love their channel

[@salamander6014]

ooo that's neat

[@lilianabacilio5812]

See I def see this as a cool good thing especially considering US education in comparison. I thought you could do it right like this. From the comments people grew up like you’re describing and actually enjoyed that life. Parents online are so selfish these days

[@norbertfunk2155]

I grew up like this :))) With four other siblings and two pets!! Can confirm IT ABSOLUTELY SUCKS. No privacy, no socialization, no education, no stability or consistency, little to no room for your stuff, and we definitely heard the horizontal tango more than once. AND I actually do have chronic back pain from sleeping on a shelf!! Traumatizing and abusive. I'm glad to be out of there. This video is so painfully spot on.

[@keplrr]

I'm very sorry that happened to you :(( I hope you're doing much much better now!

[@norbertfunk2155]

@@keplrr I’m doing a lot better! I have my own apartment now and plenty of space to breath. Genuinely hate that this sort of thing isn’t more talked about. Kids shouldn’t be treated like luggage for parents to pack up and move around as they please.

[@anonymouscausewhynot]

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Glad that you’re out of there!

[@Z5Z5Z5]

Can't wait for the abandonment and anxious attachment issues

[@chaos_is_my_guilty_pleasure]

Well damn mate, that sounds rough as heck. Hope you're doing better.

[@eveningzach]

when my mom, brother, and i lived in a one bedroom apartment, my mom gave me and my brother the bed to sleep while she slept on the couch. it's ridiculous to me how terrible these parents are

[@airbreather9000]

Your mom is amazing.

[@Beginnerreadsthebible]

You have a great mom who loves you

[@drawn_by_starla9462]

My mom would have done this for my brother and I too. The best parents always put their kids before themselves.

[@jacksyoutubechannel4045]

It _is_ worth considering that it's been _very_ common, throughout history, for an entire family to sleep in a small one-room house. These families often included _lots_ of kids. (As a famous and successful example, Dolly Parton grew up in a one-room cabin she shared with her parents and eleven siblings in the 1950s.) So while it is a lovely and kind thing your mother did, it doesn't make these parents "terrible."

[@eveningzach]

@@jacksyoutubechannel4045 the difference is that in those circumstances like my own family's, we were struggling financially. Even for a one bedroom apartment, my mom was just barely scraping by to afford rent. These families often times CHOSE this lifestyle. It wasn't one where they had no choice and had to resort to living in an RV just to survive. That's the difference. These parents saw van/RV life as something exciting and went headfirst into it without thinking about their kids. These parents gave themselves full privacy and their OWN room. Whilst their kids had no privacy, no room for themselves, and no place for them to express themselves.

[@The_jojo_show12312]

HAHAHAHA LOOK AT THIS BOZO THATS BAD AT RESEARCH EVERYBODY POINT AND LAUGH HAHAHAHAHA

[@silvialanfredi7388]

Bro i don't understand why are all these comments from 5 days ago

[@The_jojo_show12312]

@silvialanfredi7388 she posted a remake and said that she goofed up the research. As a joke she said to go into her comments and call her out on it

[@shinyrayquaza9]

The "kid shelf sized accessory" thing made me think of a deeper rooted issue too, the fact so many parents keep having kids just because they love the "baby stage" and how "cute they are" but neglect them when they're older and god forbid development their own thoughts and personality.

[@Nelia2705]

Yes! We should start asking "do you want to be a parent" instead of "do you want a baby" because it puts more emphasis on "there's more than the baby stage". Also, this question should only be asked if we *know* it's okay for the person, because you never know what people are struggling with (like infertility, miscarriage, wanting to be child free).

[@Widdekuu91]

In the case of Christians, there is no need to ask. They're gambling, ready to win. One day, a bright light will shine out of the cervix and then they know...he's back! And all those Christian! women want to be that woman.

[@franz.francisco]

My mom is like this. She concieved because she wanted a baby daughter, not a child, nor an adult. I'm a guy, and grew out of the age she wanted when i was 8. She's never wanted me, especially after i grew past her "cute little object" age. It messes you up

[@bakageyama222]

@@Nelia2705exactly

[@snail_oatmeal7325]

yes my gosh! my own mother dragged us around like a burden from state to state and when we finally stopped moving she decided she had enough and i was old enough to abandon me with my early 20s brothers for a kid that is in no way related to her, just a kid that doesn’t see her for who she is. i feel sorry for the kid often because she really doesn’t deserve my “mother” as a “parent” or her father as one either. they’re both high school drama queens..poor kid having to deal with BOTH of them?

[@CarmenWinstead-o6z]

This is just terrifying. I went to a sleepover at 2 twin van life kids, and they were all just constantly asking me questions on how our house is like. I told them everything, and they begged me, my parents, and their parents to have a sleepover at my house. They came over, and were extremely scared after the youngest one had taken a ten minute shower instead of a five minute one. They couldn’t take showers longer then ten minutes, causing them to never have hot water. It was so sad that the youngest one came out crying because she though she was in trouble. I seriously don’t go one day without thinking about them it was so sad.

[@kayaissimo]

Holy smokes! That’s horrible, I hope they’re better now.

[@yarddweller]

That sounds more like a situation they were forced into due to money. If not, and it was the parents' choice, ew.

[@Ariiibryanttt]

Omg hopefully your parents or u said it’s okay when she took a long shower cus she deserves it ❤

[@Sharkcookiess]

Oh that’s so sad wow they don’t deserve that

[@brauliolopezmariscal1400]

Ain’t no way. I need at least 10min to shower

[@-evelynn-]

Those kids are literally sleeping in COFFINS, THOSE BEDS ARE COFFINS, ITS NOT EVEN BEDS.

[@Maytrixwasheree]

They are sleeping in the cause of their future back problems 😭

[@bruhdudeguyman]

They can't even sit up straight without hitting their heads on the ceiling! It's ridiculous!

[@Clader80]

Even my tent trailer for vacations, we have all our own big bed

[@The_Rusalka]

That one where the space was absolutely tiny is ridiculous. I’d imagine it’s hard to even turn in it, and what about when they get their growth spurt. No way those mattresses are comfortable either. If I was in such a situation, I’d rather set up a tent each night.

[@mica9159]

I felt claustrophobic looking at it 😖

[@St4rEditsAndStuff]

2:43 and someone was sleeping on the floor?!

[@WitheroftheGrave]

Yeah, it was in the bathroom to which is even worse

[@SaltwaterTaffyz]

The fact that they have so many children too

[@Cookies_HH]

2 kids sleep on the floor :/

[@Lily1213-f2z]

Yes😅

[@MuzammilAli-nt9hc]

Avg middle child experience...😢😢😂😂

[@goo6763]

even sharing an actual bedroom can be very hard, i feel so sorry for these kids

[@imeverywhere9110]

I smell lps popular fan

[@MarsMadMan]

Your profile picture give me flashbacks and so many memories 😭

[@wtfminty5050]

Yes exactly, I've shared a bedroom since I was like four and I am eighteen now. It fucking sucks.

[@grumpyoldlady_rants]

I shared a bedroom with my brother and two sisters and, once my brother got his own room, my two sisters. We all survived. A lot of kids today have it too easy.

[@goo6763]

@grumpyoldlady_rants it isn't about whether people survive or not lol. i think you know that. something that doesn't kill a person can still be a struggle. having to share a bedroom can be hard.. even though it's not hard for everyone, obviously. every person is a unique individual. sharing with multiple people is not a foreign concept to me. in my own childhood i've shared a room with multiple people and sometimes one person. not all of those situations were the same experience. some easier, some harder. people have differences in how they feel about privacy and personal space, to some it can cause a lot of stress while to others it won't. all depending on circumstances. i believe that all people should have access to a personal space and that if you can provide your children with that, you should. people won't always have that freedom because the world isn't fair, but i think they should have it. pretty inoffensive opinion that children are deserving of their own room if not having one negatively affects them. in my opinion, a person's home isn't meant to cause them stress or discomfort normally.

[@katisbeingsilly]

“every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.” goes *perfect* for this

[@Shoehuaa]

Fr

[@Aliceainthere]

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[@Weeeeeeeeee_eee]

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[@im_wavey]

frrrr

[@wowoskdlwoa]

frrrrr

[@bunnyraptor420]

Due to our situation, when I was 16-17 my mom and I had to live in a camper for a brief period of time after we moved from state to state. And thinking back, she let me have the bedroom area. It was tiny, and had a sliding screen for a door, but I was comfortable, and she let me have that privacy while she slept on the couch in the living area. Seeing these parents just makes me appreciate how my mom handled things.

[@napstablook6479]

Your mom is an amazing woman for that!

[@pukebarbie]

love to you and your mom, hope things are better now 💙

[@noreenelizabeth6617]

If I were in the situation I'd do the same for my boys. I'd find a way that they could have their own space.

[@AHHHHHHHH21]

Your mother seems like an amazing person, way better than these sickos could ever be

[@Eimear..]

Props to your mom girl! 💗

[@Panzermeiller]

I used to be homeless and i deadass had better living conditions than those kids 💀

[@faerie5926]

As someone who had to share a normal sized bedroom with their sibling when they were younger, I hated it and was so excited to get my own room- I can't imagine how these kids must feel.

[@blueghost4769]

Same. I always had a lot of trouble falling asleep and my brother snored all the time so it was even harder, i was always so jealous when every pair of siblings i knew started getting their own rooms way before me. I can't imagine what these kids feel, especially the ones that have shelves for a bed, like it looks like they can barely lift their head in there.

[@hnichole]

I hated sharing a room with my sister when we were kids too! We shared a small room from her birth (she's 16 months younger) until I was 17, and I honestly think it was responsible for 99% of our relationship issues. We were just too different -- I liked to stay up and sleep in, she sleeps early and gets up early, we had no room for our respective things and complained about "your side/my side" which wasn't reasonable because the room was too small lol, it was easy for her to just take my stuff because there was no physical boundary of "this is yours, that is mine." Literally as soon as I got my own room, our relationship improved dramatically because we each had our own space, and now my sister and I are super close. We had the option in my house for us to have our own bedrooms too, my dad just refused thinking it would bring my sister and I "closer." I can't imagine how much worse it is for these kids with even less space, less privacy, and more siblings.

[@alexdoorn234]

From birth I shared a room with my triplet brother I liked it actually. And then we had to move into a small flat where I had to share my room with 2 of my brothers. I am happy to have my own room now.

[@lydiaesc7781]

yep same, had to share until i was 14 and he was 17, we both hated it. I was always super excited when he was spending the night at his friend's house because it meant i could have the room to myself, felt like an actual holiday. can't imagine what it would be like with even more siblings + parents VERY close nearby in an even smaller space.

[@krizzygirl206]

My sister and I shared a huge bedroom growing up, but we were still itching for the day we'd get our OWN rooms.

[@somestranger8530]

I truly feel for these children, especially the fact that that one girl was humiliated online because she “didn’t do the chores,” and these parents sharing her punishment online is just horrible.

[@rosesweetcharlotte]

Thinking on it, why even present this as a punishment? OK, your kid wanted to not do her chore. Then just let her know that she will have to do it tomorrow. That isn't a punishment, that is just honest time management. Presenting it as this punishment is just trying make yourself look tougher than you are.

[@2turg_2furious]

@@rosesweetcharlotte also I feel like it teaches the kid that chores are just punishments and not something you do because you need to because it will help you if that makes sense

[@rosesweetcharlotte]

@@2turg_2furious Exactly. Chores are just things which have to be done. I definitely did my chores better when I felt like I didn't HAVE to do them or worse things would happen

[@robynmontgomery9826]

At least the parents are making money off their child punishment porn.

[@emilyviktorija9012]

Not to mention creating a child who will be a perfect victim of capitalist exploitation, being psychologically primed since childhood to know that your worth is based on your ability and willingness to do physical labor.

[@mial4770]

I am 15 years old and currently living in a caravan with my parents, sister (13) and two dogs For 6 months. Not for money issues but to “Learn about the road life 🤠”. I hate it. The bathrooms are tiny, I can’t sit up in my bunk bed without smacking my head on the roof , There is no privacy or space, I feel so isolated and alone Homeschool is terrible , Everyone is constantly stressed and fighting, All I want to do is see my friends Please don’t do this to your kids.

[@bangtansbitch_2136]

I feel sorry for you

[@cochondindeseduisant8003]

I hope you're okay, that's horrifying 😢

[@blaska7131]

Hang in there, I know it sux right now but life will get better. I had a similar life experience and I can tell you that as an adult, you'll find and make your place. It's just really really crappy that you have to endure right now and Im sorry for that.

[@Laiba.k]

299th like

[@ru.m.6119]

I hope you can get away from that horrific experience.

[@_cspiluvs]

13:52 we dont send our skids to school 💩

[@OCS_n_FandomL0ver]

This made me try not to giggle at 2:00AM

[@L30lovesramune]

EMU

[@krisshnapeswanipeswani3190]

by doing so YOU MESS UP THEIR SOCAIL LIFE AND CRITICAL THINKING. by going to school they get to meet new people and exchange ideas with new perspectives. BY HOMSCHOOLING A CHILD YOU HARM THEIR MENTAL HEALTH

[@brook_angel]

​@@krisshnapeswanipeswani3190the entire reason why many homeschool is to shelter their kids from "scary" unknown and and unapproved ideas and thoughts. It's about control. That's why it's literally illegal in my country.

[@teacherCF]

Anytime a "bedroom" for children is primarily another space, like a living room or dining room for adults, that space will not feel like the child's space. I'm a firm believer that tiny houses can be done amazingly well, but you have to actually incorporate your children into the design and not tack them on as an afterthought

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

Totally agree. A couple was featured on a KZbin channel regarding their tiny home, and their son’s bed was a dog bed put on the bottom shelf of their clothes drawer…. Everyone was asking what happens when the couple wants alone time, and some one said they shut the drawer 🤣💀.

[@cosmicreef5858]

Especially not 12 of them These people do not deserve kids. If you are not willing to learn from the first to prepare for them because they DESERVE IT or at least do not put them through the same struggle as the first little one then you do not care for them and it makes you a psycho

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

Yeah. I didn't have it nearly this bad, but my room was also "the guest room" ie, none of my stuff was in there, and any adult who came to visit meant I was turfed out onto the pull out sofa. That alone has given me a complex - I'm so fierce about my stuff and my space because of it, and that was inside a house where I got an education and socialisation. These poor buggers...

[@courtneycherry5582]

Right mom and dad get their private place why not the kids too.

[@w_7337]

I live in a poorer state, even my mom forced one of her drugged out friends to give the only bedroom of his trailer to his 4-5 year old toddler. "If you have a kid, they deserve a space to theirself. You don't make them suffer for your actions, you give them as much privacy as you can." Is exactly what she told him. All of these adults can't even do that much. They should be putting theirself in shelves and drawers far before they ever make their kids bunk up and sleep there. Give them as much privacy as priority before yourself. They have no respect for these kids, they're just lining them up like objects on the literal shelves of their 'home'. It's disgusting.

[@forwhenimgone3785]

I saw one of these where they had to take their oldest daughter to the hospital for fainting and wanting to unalive herself. She was diagnosed with a few things including anorexia and they made a video to ' educate ' about what that is. They claim it's impossible to notice before it gets to this point, and there's no known causes. The daughter was in a mental hospital for months and started losing weight again as soon as she was back home. But don't worry, they got her a pet rat with a cage bigger then her bed, so it's all good.

[@panselinapendragon1731]

what were they called/ where can i learn more about them? i’ve never heard of a car this bad before 😦

[@forwhenimgone3785]

@@panselinapendragon1731 I'm not positive. I think they might have been called family of nomads? They deleted some of the videos after getting a ton of backlash.

[@bonelessmice6828]

the rat died because they plexiglassed the sides iirc

[@Zoe-Jewel]

@@bonelessmice6828 as a rat lover im fking pissed that poor baby-

[@crypticcorvid]

@@bonelessmice6828 How does plexiglass kill a rat? Honestly asking since I thought it was similar to acrylic, which is basically just strong plastic.

[@Ashley_e91]

I’ve literally only seen ONE family that did this right. They had a HUGE van with actual rooms and big beds for their kids.

[@galaxycat9966]

Even if the living conditions were right, what about the social conditions? Not hate, just a genuine question, did they have a way of making sure the kids connected with others their age properly and were able to keep in contact and develop properly?

[@veg_a_eat_ian]

Can you recall their channel? I would be refreshing to see it done right lol.

[@707Ac3]

@@veg_a_eat_ianI’ve seen some videos of KidigitalNomads that I really think are a good example

[@veg_a_eat_ian]

Thanks @@707Ac3 ! What do you think of Family of Nomads' set up? It looks pretty spacious.

[@tendous.boyfriend]

fr! i saw one where two like 6 or 7 year old had a queen sized bed EACH. i'm 15 and i'm still on a twin

[@wevefriends]

17:22 accurate representation of van life children

[@jc7579]

Family of TWELVE living on a road is absolutely psychotic

[@hanscapon222]

That had to be satire, right? Some of those kids were legitimately on the FLOOR

[@starsandbullets]

​@hanscapon222 They were just on a cross-country roadtrip BUT their actual home isn't much better

[@StandAloneSoul]

Agreed, psychotic, neurotic, delusional, lunatic, and very self-obsessive.

[@emilyyamasaki4968]

I'm not sure what their living situation is now in NY (but according to another commenter it's not much better). But, before going cross-country, they lived in San Francisco in a 2 bedroom apartment. The parents of course had the master bedroom (they may have shared with the baby), the boys had a bedroom, and the girls had the living room...

[@Chachixo]

@@emilyyamasaki4968 honestly shocked they didn't have their kids taken. 12 people in a two bedroom...apartment?

[@rhapsody-bliss]

These parents are always so greedy. The kids are always an afterthought. They don’t think about their social lives. They don’t think about their living situations. They only think about their dreams and their lives. It angers me to no end.

[@jennamars80]

When you believe that children are just what you're supposed to do to add to the Christian conservative army - when you think your only responsibility to them is to teach them discipline to make them productive little producers and consumers and that they exist to serve you, then you have no reason to consider them as actual people with needs, rights, and respect like these asshats. Once these kids grow up, they will find out.

[@wolvie1618]

People like that don't deserve kids. Being a parent involves sacrifice and compromise, which these a-holes refuse to do, at the detriment of their children. These poor kids are gonna have a hard time adjusting to normal life when they grow up.

[@luxuscarnage4828]

It's frustrating bc so many of us would love to travel but we actually want our kids to speak to us later down the road.

[@childeofepickness]

unrelated but n25 miku pfp!!!

[@DellikkilleD]

children dont need social lives, until 18 they are simply property of the parents.

[@darwinrussell]

I was a teen parent, and we took the living room to give the kids the bedrooms in our two-bedroom apartment. What the hell is wrong with these selfish, clout-chasing parents?

[@pirateramblinrose]

This reminded me of something I had forgotten, once we were travelling over two days to go holiday and stay at my uncle's for school holidays, we never went on holiday and couldn't afford much so we stayed with fam, it's a 2-3 day drive and we stayed at a caravan park in a cabin, there were two rooms (one with a bunk bed, the other a double), my younger brother and I had the bunk beds and my mum gave my teenage brother the double bed/other room, she took the crappy fold out couch in the living room/kitchenette area... I'm grateful for parents like this over these selfish tit-tacker parents..

[@whatshereads1]

My husband and I have done this because I refuse to have my kids in cramped spaces, they deserve their space and a lot of it. I actually like sleeping in my living room 🫣

[@writingisfun9842]

@@whatshereads1 Just as I like sleeping in small spaces. Claustrophobia is for losers. (Just kidding, claustrophobia is common and only fun to joke about when in moderation.)

[@liltrashpanda174]

@@pirateramblinrose sounds like you have a great mom

[@pirateramblinrose]

@@liltrashpanda174 I sure did, she passed when I was 15, she was an amazing single parent 💕

[@AstackableBird]

"FunkyFrogBait sucks at research under that video, GO GO GO!"

[@silvialanfredi7388]

What?

[@AstackableBird]

@silvialanfredi7388 I do as the funky frog bait of the future commands.

[@svience8072]

**has NINE children** Let’s get the absolute *smallest* thing we can live in :)

[@mikek3658]

And actively ensure that our nine kids are wholly unprepared for the real world by not educating them.

[@AnnaLea-c4c]

2:32 Thea dont live in the Van….. They were on vacation. They are musician they lived in san fransico….. I followed them more then two years.

[@xoava_]

Its for the gram!

[@Snail.Slurpee]

Seriously. My mother has 9 kids and as soon as she hit 5 kids she thought “I need to get a bigger house.” So they worked until they could get a big, fixer upper 3 story house. And they gave most of us as much privacy as possible, 2 of my brothers shared a room, 2 of my sisters shared a room, I got to share a room with my sister and my brother got his own room, my oldest sister got the 3rd floor to herself and my oldest brother got his own room on the first floor. And my parents shared a room. And they made it work, we now have 6 kids at the house and it’s the best it’s ever been, it’s about to be 4 as well.

[@sheridanvance7426]

❤

[@adtoohey]

It's one of those "what's classy if you're rich, but trashy if you're poor" things

[@kat3217]

More like “classy if you don’t have kids, trashy if you do.” I have no problem w couples doing this to travel for a few years. It’s when they rope in the kids that i have a problem

[@nikkimcdonald4562]

Plenty of kids grow up poor and understand the struggles their parents go thru for them. Now imagine growing up like this and realizing that your parents chose that life for you.

[@datguymiller]

Abusing your children

[@ufos-cos]

This isn’t classy period, even if you are rich.

[@hannahlockwood2654]

This>>>>

[@primusadversary401]

And most of the time, if you hear it from the kids perspective, the kids are miserable because they have NO privacy and don't get to grow up in a normal, comfortable household.

[@kafkaskitchen]

That's is completely untrue. I'm glad I grew up a traveler. There are ways to have your own privacy.

[@Umbra_Dux]

@@kafkaskitchen Did you notice them say ""Most of the time"" ? Your experience is not universal

[@xgothxbunnyx]

@@kafkaskitchen you remind me of those people who like to compare trauma. Just because your life was great in this lifestyle doesn’t mean everyone else’s is.

[@avayoung6720]

Ummmmm yessssss thank you for knowing that

[@lain1437]

@@kafkaskitchen not when your parents are recording you for money…..

[@CaitCarter-z8b]

Makes the Dursleys look good. At least Harry had a door he could close.

[@souperbulous1349]

As someone who was a "van life kid" for around a year ( alongside my two younger brothers ), I can confirm it was absolutely terrible. Difficult to make friends, difficult to find any sort of privacy, and difficult to grow and navigate your area comfortably.

[@spideysenses4275]

i an only imagine

[@Aroace_simp]

Same I lived in an rv for 4-5 years growing up

[@algsunshine7075]

But that's still not abuse and you had a better life than literally half of the planet

[@souperbulous1349]

@algsunshine7075 Not once in my comment did I refer to it as abuse. Nor did I say I had it worse than anyone. I was simply stating that, yes, being a van life kid absolutely **sucks**. It damaged me in ways I still can't quite explain and haven't completely healed from yet. While I am grateful that I had the opportunity to travel and try something new, it doesn't change the fact that the experience was absolutely awful and if i can avoid it, I hope to never live like that again. 🤷‍♀️

[@christinaassioura2160]

@@algsunshine7075 it is absolutely abuse

[@michellematthews671]

Honestly, sharing your children's daily lives online is such an invasion of their privacy.

[@WolfgangDoW]

Should be illegal And some older kids are now suing their parents for family channels even too

[@kaekaeno]

Yess, I'm so tired of all of these "tiktok moms" who record their children doing literally ANYTHING. Like, I understand taking photos for family memories and private photo books, but not recording and then posting it online, so random people can see every aspect of your children's life. I can't even imagine the feeling when something important is going on in your life or you're having some private time and then your parent instead of being with you just takes out their phone and starts recording to later put it on tiktok with a weird voiceover.

[@tinabeanajustabean]

And really convenient for pred@tors!!

[@thechin9241]

I agree Generally sharing anything about yourself online that can link to your real identity is asking for trouble Especially for children

[@Ginknee666]

It should be illegal honestly

[@emis_crochet2003]

As a 19 yo with an infant son, I've accepted that I have to put some of my adventures on hold for a while. I don't understand how full grown 30 yo adults don't understand this.

[@MaraMara89]

because not everyone should have kids... unfortunately it is still viewed as a norm to have kids after marriage and some people "give it a try" not thinking about the fact that this is at least 18 years of hard work

[@kaitieohare7524]

I had my son when I was 20, and I gave up on going to a college in a different state or living in dorms. I pushed back all the plans I had for traveling and new experiences. It's been 1 year since he was born, and I can't think of anything I'd rather do than make sure his life is as amazing as it can possibly be. Too many people from older generations seem to think that because they created their kids and make sure they're clothed and fed, their job is done, and they can do whatever they want. It makes me so disappointed

[@bleh6703]

damn, you're already a better parent than some full grown adults

[@thelemurofmadagascar9183]

@@Dave102693 People decide to have kids because some things in life are worth making sacrifices for. Children give parents a sense of purpose in life, and the joys of having a child is unparalleled to any other kind of happiness you'll ever experience. Yes, it's difficult, but anything worthwhile in life will always come at a cost. Frankly speaking I couldn't care less if you choose to not have kids, but it's really not hard to see why most other people want children even if you don't. I also didn't want children at one point in my life, but even at that time I understood why other people wanted them.

[@majesticsquid5643]

I think that younger parents understand the needs of children better than older parents partially because older people have simply forgotten what it felt like to have needs as a kid that only a parent could fulfill, and how it felt when those needs weren't met.

[@Whiteguydan]

Funky frog bait SHUCKS at research😍🫵

[@chxrlies.angels]

the one family where the kid literally asked to stay in a hotel for their birthday was fucking INSANE

[@babbyham.]

The parents defense of that was insane too. "Umm ackshually we went there because our RV was too cramped to hold more kids"

[@IlovewoMENsoverymuch]

Yea I think I saw that

[@cricketxing]

The mom in that family INSISTS everyone loves living in an RV, but we never hear anything from the kids 💀

[@pizzachi]

does anyone know the channel name/video?

[@lifeisstrange2605]

@@pizzachi family of nomads

[@brittanylawless680]

the frustrating thing is that since these people have no permanent home base, it's pretty much impossible to even call child services on them.

[@bibblenipple]

😭😭😭😭😂😂 girl fr

[@kr3atorrr]

Yes. I’d their always moving, that have no exact location to tell child services.

[@kr3atorrr]

If*

[@miguelenriquebeltre8882]

Bro, there are issues w this way of life but not anywhere even close to being bad enough to necessitate calling child services! Could you even imagine how much worse that would be for the kids?

[@merrowley]

@@miguelenriquebeltre8882 on many us states it is considered child neglect to not at minimum give each child their own bed

[@E7XEE]

The fact these parents will turn about and try to blame the viewers is insane

[@VirangeRose]

Seriously man

[@The_Buzz_Force]

yeas

[@deltaloraine]

Exactly. THEY are the ones putting out the content, the viewers are just commenting on what they see. And it’s not good

[@Hydrangea_Babe]

they bussed all the way to Egypt

[@odigana2721]

not the vewers the "trollers"

[@mzshastalibra4705]

12:22 LIGHT BILL? IN A BUS?

[@Samuel-e5z9w]

That’s what I said like maybe a generator but idk

[@LameBoyIee]

The parents clearly don't care enough for their children to even give them their own private space. Even in an orphanage you get some sort of privacy.

[@dixienormous420]

Not true! You only get the room to yourself for a short time before another kid Is transferred in if they aren’t the same day already. That’s if you only share a room with 1 other person when usually it’s 3-4 in a room. Yes even if you are a teenager

[@butameremortal9424]

No you don't. I was a "ward of the state" and I can assure you that you NEVER have a seconds peace nor privacy. Unless like the other commenter stated your blessed and have a roommate leave or something like that. But it won't be long before some other stranger is in it.

[@mightymeatymech]

@@butameremortal9424 never was an orphan but when i was homeless and in psych wards, shelters had like 100 of us per 'room'. psych wards had maybe two or three beds but one time i lucked out and got the solo room, i lived like a freaking King that week

[@butameremortal9424]

@@mightymeatymech absolutely 😂 it's strange because I'm a loner. But I like to be in crowds. I wonder if it relates to "growing up" Hope your in a better space now 🫶🏼

[@ProjectLethargic]

wdyym they don't get privacy, they have the thinnest possible curtains ever

[@ValiareTheForsaken01]

Makes me think of a pair of brothers I knew in high school. They lived in a trailer with their parents. The trailer had two bedrooms. Their parents could have chosen to take one of the bedrooms and force the boys to share the other. Instead both boys got a bedroom and the parents slept on the pull-out couch. The parents decided that their teenage sons getting their own individual private spaces was more important than their own comfort. They didn't have much but they were trying their best. Much more than I can say for these #VanLife 'parents'.

[@jujublue4426]

I have a friend who has a younger brother and her mom couldn't afford a bedroom for everyone so she let each children have their own bedroom and slept on the couch when my friend was still living with her. Some parents do value the privacy of their children even if it means less comfort for them, if I had to become my sister's legal guardian ( both my parents are alive and healthy so it shouldn't happen and let's hope it doesn't) I would leave the room to her and sleep on the couch too.

[@TheManeUnicorn]

This is how I did things. Now my son walks all over me.

[@not-so-obvious_autism777]

@@TheManeUnicorn You should put your foot down. That’s so ungrateful of him and you’re still his goddamn mom and he would’ve never been comfortable or even existed without you.

[@jennaok1576]

@@TheManeUnicornwdym

[@squashforsale8466]

@@TheManeUnicorn sorry to hear about that. Hope you’re ok

[@SirAsdf]

"This is where Enoch sleeps." Said with all the love and warmth of a serial killer pointing out where he buried his victims.

[@beth8775]

Right? It didn't look like he was even on a sleeping pad of any kind.

[@BlueMoonFoxtail]

@@FirstnameLastnames Honestly even the name was a dead giveaway to how their "lifestyle" was going to look. Poor damn kids. I hope they get away from their awful parents asap.

[@PeachysMom]

@@BlueMoonFoxtailyup. Fundamentalist christians, the biggest fans of child neglect and abuse

[@IloveJesus-q6v]

My brothers name is “Enoch” it’s a good name! It’s a Christian name so I don’t understand why any Christian would treat there kids so cruel..

[@sorbet-fox]

@@IloveJesus-q6vthe name “Enoch” means “disciplined” and “trained.” See how that plays into shoving 6 kids into a van.

[@JaneDoe-tc8to]

the way the hype dad rants like "if I don't pay my light bill, they come turn the damn power off". Sir, you live in a bus, no they do not.

[@amateur_artist_storiesmand3853]

Also not washing your dishes immediately has no consequences in the adult world…like 0 repercussions

[@olbird7647]

I remember when they made the kids bunks bigger, bragging hiw each now had their own tv! 🤦‍♀️

[@msthecommentator2863]

A more accurate comparison would be if you're behind on the electric bill and a guy in a suit from the electric company shows up to your house and starts cyberbullying you for being poor.

[@Cuck-n-bull]

​@amateur_artist_storiesmand3853 this makes me think that it really is about controlling their daughter and not the dishes. I'm sure she was giving them some unrelated fight and it wasn't just the dishes.

[@Shatterstar]

Also if one fails to pay the light bill, the electric company doesn't come to their house, force them to work, and record the entire thing onto tiktok.

[@dirtyboglimwater]

My boyfriend is a victim of RV life and he has so much trauma from it. He begged his parents to give up custody of him to his grandmother when he was high school age. He is an only child too… that much lack of privacy with 3 people in the RV.

[@tealablu3759]

That would’ve been extra awful because he would’ve had no one his age around!!

[@rosesweetcharlotte]

​@@tealablu3759 Really, this. These parents act like they're preparing these kids for the real world and like school is a fantasy land, but these kids have no real friends. And the fact is, RV life is a sort of fantasy existence.

[@RuletheWorldwithsong]

@@rosesweetcharlotte I’m the oldest of 4 and lived in two different travel trailers growing up while being homeschooled. It’s so secluded. It sucked when kids would come to the trailer park on vacation and then leave and look at us like we were weird

[@rosesweetcharlotte]

@@RuletheWorldwithsong The thing is, you guys were weird. Your experiences were so different from the other kids. That is very much the problem, you were denied this normal experience.

[@jessicalindly2118]

@@rosesweetcharlotte It’s also scary because of that. These kids have no regular contact with anyone. What are they supposed to do if they are being abused by their parents? There’s no one they can tell because there just isn’t anyone around.

[@szweetsztuff]

I once saw a woman on KZbin who lives in a van. She has a queen(ish) sized bed with no kids and a dog. She’s really nice to watch and her dog has a lot of room on her bed. She’s the *only* van life creator I actually watch.

[@bunnyjeans.]

i think I know who you're talking about! I like her as well:)

[@pcbassoon3892]

I think it's fine if all participants are adults.

[@ianaamdan]

true. if you're single or a childless couple, it's definitely fine to live this way.

[@Bustermachine]

@@ianaamdan The problem with every alternative living youtube trend is that the second any of them get traction they got caught in a cycle of one upmanship that eventually complete guts whatever made the trend interesting in the first place. There's a similar trend with hobby channels where you start watching someone when they're making furniture with basic tools and you're really digging it. Five years later and they're popping things on their CNC milling machine . . .

[@TheAngelCreator2009]

Is it Court and Nate ?

[@circuseyescitrus]

here for Future Froggy to say: BOOOOO FUNKYFROG BAITS REASEARCH‼

[@waffleasaursrex2176]

As someone who has some pretty bad back pains, I feel so bad for these kids, it really is abuse

[@6Shots_ofEspresso]

i have severe back pain even though my bed is really comfy. if i were sleeping in what is essentially a COFFIN, i would probably have straight up scoliosis

[@aperocknroll88]

Funny thing is that until I was in my 20's I could sleep on a carpeted floor without issue. Those matresses that are in there could he quite comfortable. They look clothed and healthy. Happiness is in question but we can't assume anything.

[@jfool10125]

@@aperocknroll88 just cuz it works for you don’t mean it works for everyone else, bad beds can lead to serious medical issues get off your high horse

[@luxuscarnage4828]

​@@aperocknroll88 That might be bc back issues are different for everyone. You might have the type of issues where a hard surface feels better. I asked my back doctor about this and he said most people actually need adjustable mattresses. These shelves are not adjustable unless you make them way smaller by stuffing more padding in them. Also, you are seeing them clean and fed but you can't know that. AND privacy is incredibly important for development.

[@missfortune8553]

@@jfool10125 They spoke about their own experience and said the ‘kids happiness is questionable but we can’t assume’, nothing about their comment makes your aggression reasonable. Take your own advice and get off your even higher holier-than-thou steed.

[@saraha.6787]

I’m a firm believer that any video with children in it shouldn’t be able to be monetized

[@amethyst1062]

Me too

[@howtodrinkwaterin5simplesteps]

100%

[@shmark77]

I don’t think young children should be in vídeos period honestly

[@MrMyspacepimp]

children shouldn't be a parents content source. it's exploitation and shouldn't be allowed.

[@saraha.6787]

@@shmark77 oh 100% but from a legal standpoint i think that violates free speech or something. i think legally social media sites should not be able to monetize videos with children and that would immediately de-incentive anyone trying to make money off their kids

[@Briannaashing]

As someone who’s parents forced me and my younger brother to live in a travel trailer with 3 cats and no privacy for 4 years, THANK YOU for speaking out on this. My brother and I literally slept in bunks with no curtain or personal space while they slept in their bedroom. It is an abusive and neglectful living situation that NO child should ever be forced to endure.

[@CarrieH827]

Can I ask how's your relationship with your parents now?

[@Briannaashing]

@@CarrieH827 I have no contact with them unfortunately.

[@CarrieH827]

@@Briannaashing Sounds like you're better off without them anyway. Hope you're doing well now.

[@kurtwagner4663]

​​@@Briannaashing I am sorry to hear this Are those 4 years the reason? If you don't mind me asking, you don't have to share if it's too private of course.

[@Briannaashing]

@@kurtwagner4663 there were a lot of other problems, but it’s a big part of it. My parents fell into bad drug addiction while living in the trailer, which only made everything worse. When we first started living in it, it was only suppose to be temporary while they found other housing. Over time, my parents got complacent and lazy and didn’t care that we were suffering every day. It was a horrible experience living in that trailer with no privacy and no ability to have any semblance of ownership of my space. It was also filthy because my mom is a narcissistic hoarder. My brother and I voiced our problems repeatedly and asked them to get themselves help so they could adequately take care of us, but they didn’t. We moved into that trailer when I was the ripe age of 14 and my brother 12, and I only got out when I left for college. Hardest thing I ever had to do was leave my brother behind for 2 years before he graduated HS and I could get him out. There’s a lot more to it but that’s the gist of the living situation.

[@soull_less]

FUNKY DOESNT KNOW HOW TO RESEARCH..GO GO GO

[@PixieoftheWood]

I remember when I was a kid, I had a friend whose single dad couldn't afford a home with enough bedrooms for him and his two kids. So he gave a bedroom to each of his kids and slept on a futon in the living room. That right there is the difference between these people and a parent that loves their kids.

[@kaiseayaandruis1597]

similarly in my case, my parents had to fit the 4 of us and our grandpa, so while we lived 2 kids in a room, they had their bed and slept in the living room for years untill our grandpa passed away(we're talking over 20 years here) and they renovated his old room for their own use, bc they understood that as the adults in the situation they could handle not having a fully private space while the kids need that to develop properly

[@carnifaxx]

yes, we did the same, we couldn't find big enough apartment for us and our kids in a time pressure when we lost the previous one (the owner needed it for himself, we were not evicted), so the children remained in rooms for 2 and we sleep in a kitchen. It's not even that bad, I even enjoy my tiny closet office :D We could have trapped them in 1 room for 4, but a) I would feel bad for them all the time (even though they often move to one room for a night or a movie, but it's their will); b) it would be never that calm as it is when they are just 2 in one room. But I need to say, I'm a bit opposed to each child having their own separate room - I don't think it's a good basis for future relationships, when you never dealt with another person in one space. I especially don't like the idea of small children being left completely alone.

[@ARorHR]

My cousin did the same. Both of his kids have their own floors (each are suites) and he sleeps in the small bedroom so his teenagers can have privacy!

[@TheAcadianGuy]

Not all parents have the same level of self-sacrifice and willingness/opportunity to do so. These should not be perceived as the benchmark for good parenting. I shared a room with my two sisters till I was 17 years old. Become parent first and THEN we can talk.

[@katiesaravia4285]

Nah those kids don’t pay rent the parent deserves a place to rest their head after working and parenting all day. They can share a room. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids.

[@PaniPunia]

There's a book written by a woman who was raised on a boat. One day her parents decided to sell their house in England, buy a yacht and sail through the world. Let me tell you - she had to work very, very hard to get education and build a life for herself, and she doesn't have warm feelings for her parents.

[@PaniPunia]

Wavewalker: breaking free by Suzanne Heywood, if anyone's interested.

[@SamPostStuff]

Thank you for the book title! I was gonna say, this video and this book reminds me of another book, The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls, an autobiographical memoir. The family's situation is different compared to this book as they had to scrape to get by throughout certain points of the authors life, but the parents do follow the drifter/nomadic lifestyle, and does cover adult themes such as abuse, alcoholism and brief sexual assault. I read it in school and it moved me a lot. I won't get into spoilers but it does end on a lighter/bittersweet tone, mainly in regards to how the author views her life and her parents, but relating to this video, quite frankly there would be no shame if the kids resent their parents for this van life and I hope they get out of it and are able to get their lives back on track. It really won't be easy and it's something I feel like I'd lose sleep over on their behalf. These parents I don't think are able to fathom what this will do to their children.

[@adrianomaly1760]

Yeah, I read the article she wrote to accompany the book release

[@K1S7Z3]

That's exactly what I was thinking about when watching this video

[@Jennifer-mv9pg]

Cost 10 years of her life and I think she was lucky to survive disasters such as storms and shipwrecks. Who puts their kids' lives at risk?

[@Rin-or8wu]

I feel bad for little molly cause imagine being a young girl having to do literal work to have your own VR headset and when you finally have it, your parents force you to share it with your siblings and you only get to play for 10 minutes a day.

[@Your_Local_Rat13]

Bro I would definitely steal their phone or smth and force them to only have 10 minutes a day with _that_ , and force them to share with children. If you rightfully _earned_ something, you should NOT have to share, and you should be able to use it any way you want.

[@Evija3000]

@@Your_Local_Rat13 Well some time limitations aren't bad, but that should be like maybe at the 2 hour mark, not 10 minutes...

[@Percy_PotterEdits21]

She worked to get it herself, it should be hers and hers alone.

[@Gothic.GoAT_]

Makes sense to work for it but the other kids should have helped out too if they have to share it. Also the parents too instead of making her do all of the dirty work. Honestly they should get an hour at a time or get two headsets with an hour at a time. I would get an hr and switch with my brother and wait for my turn again. 10 minutes is crazy especially when being cooped up in such a tiny space. That headset is literally an escape for them.

[@creeperslayer241]

No see, she worked for a *different* one, the one she got was a gift and therefore is not hers and invalidates all the work she did and is up to mom and dad to control. Thats how they validate it. Its bullshit

[@onomatopoesie]

As someone whose single mother decided to sleep on a couch in the living room for almost 20 years (until I moved out) just to make sure I had a room for myself, this makes me feel very sad for these children. I already really appreciate everything my mom did for me, but now, after watching this, I do so even more.

[@Jess-em4ri]

I literally just watched a talk about this phenomenon. It's called something like "the doll mindset." Basically, the parents think of their children like dolls that they can pick up and put down and play with whenever they want. The parents don't realize (or possibly actively ignore) that their children are, you know, people with needs. Knowing this mindset exists really makes sense of all these wild parenting influencers.

[@umbrellaghost5927]

That is just as scary as it is interesting

[@kainepeterson6638]

Got the talk?

[@elmossy]

I've heard it referred to as "child objects" before, so sad.

[@danicalily3332]

Just stop with hate

[@Prottatype3]

@@danicalily3332 i support this message, but this video and comment i also support

[@sarahelucey]

I feel like kids suing their parents when they grow up is going to become more and more common.

[@justinluc2572]

The best part about that is the easy evidence available to view online! 🤪

[@MadameAshlini]

And it’s going to be so satisfying to watch. I hope all of these kids win

[@natalieomeara0220mdfan]

I really don’t like my mom and stepdad, now I’m grateful I have them. even tho I enjoy my dads place more, my heart just reaches out to these kids. the worst thing is claustrophobia. what if a kid has that? those bunks are the smallest things ever. also, if the van gets hit by a car, it’s just gonna break. I was telling my dad about this and he said that they weren’t like car tested or something. he basically said if the van gets hit, the whole things gonna fall apart. I feel terrible for these kids. I feel so bad, imagine being a little nugget and realize later in life that it sucks ass.

[@therealgeeber]

Thank you Mr. L

[@marissa._]

I wish to God that my abuse was filmed so that I could have evidence. The abuse was EXTREMELY bad!

[@xx_robotkrew_xx1446]

Nothing says, “we love our kids” like putting them in coffins with curtains or on pull out couches while mommy and daddy get a beautiful comfortable bed and privacy. Oh! And let’s not forget the lack of structure and friends these kids have. I remember this one van life family where the mom was publicly shaming her youngest daughter because she didn’t want to do the dishes one day ( as most kids do from time to time )

[@noranizaazmi6523]

Its in the vid i think the chore part

[@Erika-xm2mi]

I want to hold these parents in a chokehold so badly. I've been claustrophobic ever since I can remember, so if my parents were to have put me in a "bed" like the one at 1:41, I would have kicked, screamed, and bit them. Those aren't beds, for crying out loud, the kid can't even sit up in them. This is just one step more ethical than psychological torture.

[@aliramaekers5180]

Coffins? Little cozy spaces

[@OnyxTank]

@@aliramaekers5180 coffins are comfortable and cozy so yes a coffin.

[@mariewasser1097]

@@aliramaekers5180 nothing is cozy about not being able to move around much at all and simply lifting your head a bit could give you a concussion. A fluffy tight coffin indeed.

[@n.r.m.15]

Can you imagine never having privacy. Never having school functions. Teachers. A regular doctor. Friends. A neighborhood. Social engagements. The ability to sleep without panic-inducing claustrophobia? They are traumatizing these kids in so many ways. If you want to be van lifers, great, wait til your kids are grown or don't have kids. It's irresponsible. It's immature. It's selfish. And its abusive. These vans are cool for a short vacay or road trip. Not life with 2-10 children. My heart breaks for these "van life" kids.

[@Cedarparsnip]

Yes, I can imagine it - I lived it as a kid.

[@n.r.m.15]

@Cedarparsnip that's absolutely heartbreaking. I'm so thankful my parents were mostly great people

[@matth2283]

"We want our kids to be believers, to think for themselves" saying that, but nailing nothing but obedience into their toddlers is crazy. "No chores done? Well time to traumatize you"

[@thesyrupdude]

it also seems like less education in terms of STEM, english writing and grammar as well as their homeschooling practises not actually seeming educational also kinda nails it into me that they just want mini-mes at their beck and call. they arent teaching free thinking or proper skills, but their thinking and skills that benefit them instead of skills they will need once they leave the home and need to find a job. as well as that one guys response to the trolls feels very "yes i know i am doing wrong unto my kids and creating broken people, but yall cant do anything na na na na boo boo"

[@Izzy-cp8yt]

​@@thesyrupdude unfortunately that happens a lot with homeschooling due to the fact that laws surrounding it are basically non-existent. The coalition for responsible home education has a lot of resources on just how bad it is nationwide, but in many states a parent with an active abuse investigation can remove their child from public education to "homeschool" without any kind of paperwork or notification of any kind. The children just stop going to school, and that's that. They're stuck at home with a parent actively being investigated for abuse. And I'll bet you can guess how many of those cases end. There's little to no oversight of homeschooling, even in the "good" states (one of which I live in), and the result is the well educated, well adjusted homeschoolers are the minority. But because they're the only ones that are able to access testing, too many people have a very high opinion of homeschool education. Sure, Megan tested higher than the rest of the 12th grade in her district, but Abby, Max, and Tracy never even got to *be* tested because they either didn't have the resources to get there, or were murdered before they were old enough. It's awful how homeschooling let's parents f up their kids, and nothing is done about it.

[@jeb3180]

@@Izzy-cp8yt you're spot on with this statement but i think it also depends on the system. i was homeschooled for majority of highschool (i only have 3 years of experience so i cant say much) and i used the cambridge system but as a private student so my qualifications are the same as (if not better than) every other highschooler in STEM. but that being said, i became socially inept especially since a lot of the time spent at home was during covid so yeah not a lot of communication which is definitely stunting my growth now that im in my final year of schooling

[@cosmicreef5858]

Also you can not expect something that you are not willing yourself to follow(ESPECIALLY as a parent)

[@saberthecoolest]

“we want our kids to become leaders” the only thing they’re leading at 18 is the escape plan

[@patrycjawolanin598]

there was one family that expecially angered me, one of their children was diagnosed with autism and depression from what i remember, and they still refused to give up van life it was obvious from their videos that that kid had problems with lack of privacy and no sense of stability, its absolutly heartbreaking to see how little they care for their own kids

[@itz_BB-SA-roleplays]

my cousin (has autism) lives in a RV like this... but also has a nice home to live in. they only like in the RV when they come to see us or someone/somewhere else.. (he has his own room in their house and privacy)

[@blackbear7624]

oh my god, can’t people call child services on them?

[@shaywatson5084]

If you’re talking about Family of nomads they did actually move down to Florida to get their kid the help they needed and stayed there for almost a year I believe.

[@alastryona]

​@@shaywatson5084But then once they regained some stability they went back on the road, I've seen lot of people (including myself) concerned that their health is gonna worsen again since the parents seem to refuse the idea that a lack of a "home base" and stable situation is part of the problem.

[@shaywatson5084]

@@alastryona it’s something I’m worried about as well, but it’s also possible that their daughter felt that they were ready to return. They’ve said countless times that they will do what’s best for the kids, and in the year they were in Florida I didn’t see them posting very much. Which makes me think maybe they do actually have their kids best interests at heart. I also follow them kinda loosely so I could be 100% off on if they’ve been posting or not.

[@JasonBrown-d3o]

Another point I don’t see people addressing about van life is how difficult it would be for the kids to get away when they are older. They cannot have jobs through their teenage years from the constant relocation, but once they turn 18 they also can’t just go get an apartment bc they would need financial support from their parents. Not to mention that if you rent an apartment you’re gonna need proof of income. Abusive van life parents can easily trap their kids and really stunt their adult lives

[@ThatOneChorusKid]

OH MY GOSH. This is correct… can i post this on their comment sections???

[@daphnelikefromscoobydoo]

I was just about to say, it feels sort of intentional

[@ThatOneChorusKid]

@@daphnelikefromscoobydoo you make a point..

[@raerohan4241]

Not to mention the social isolation. Homeschooled kids _can_ be well-socialised, but you need to put in a lot more effort and time into taking them places where they can meet and connect with peers. But these kids are constantly moving around, so they can't build social relationships with anyone except family. That's terrible for their development...

[@kmac291]

Oh my God, Van Life families are basically cults This is literally textbook cult behavior

[@urfav_mimzzz]

you showed real concern for these children and i dont blame you at all. these parents really need to pull it together because these children cant keep on living like this ! its truly concerning i hope the people that put their kids through this need help.

[@someoneawesome8717]

Fun fact: for three years after Hurricane Katrina, my mom, sister and I had to live in a trailer that had a fairly similar layout to some of these, so from age 10 to 13 i slept in a cubby and I kinda developed the opposite of claustrophobia, my sister would sleep on the couch. Had social media been prominent during that time my mom would have been MORTIFIED to see people bragging about living in those conditions

[@bwbuske]

FEMA trailer?

[@someoneawesome8717]

@@bwbuske yeppers that's it

[@contra5123]

I think the opposite of claustrophobia is called agorophobia.

[@19Carmelita92]

Fellow Fema trailer person here! Why would anyone willingly choose that life for their kids??

[@someoneawesome8717]

@@contra5123 that too but what would be an attraction to tight spaces? I'm absolutely scared of places that are way too open but I feel so much safer in tight spaces that I had to essentially make a coffin out of large pillows and plushies just to feel safe enough to sleep for several years

[@dexthepurpleduck238]

I'd like to see these families in 10-15 years and find out how many of the kids have gone no-contact with their parents.

[@PenguinsAreNeat]

if i were one of the kids i wouldnt have just gone no contact, i would have executed my vengence by burning the rv to the ground

[@jeanvictor8178]

​@@PenguinsAreNeat i see your point but let's calm down mate lol

[@sohailahaithem2424]

​@@ke4692that's messed up... are you alright now?

[@PGT860]

they pop out 5-8 so that surely one is stupid enough to forgive them Edit: not to mention neglect their education and social skills so they don't know better

[@cecaniacc]

There will be surely a podcast of "1 on 1 talk with someone who grew up on a tiktok van life influencer parents"

[@jjmccflurry2287]

As a kid who’s parents did this, you are absolutely correct, I have back issues, I’m just now making friends, I was homeschooled all my life, and while I do great at the arts I lack proficiency in math and the important things. If you are going to do this you need to do it right, or you’ll screw up your kid.

[@Kae-Lee]

Same :/

[@Hello_I_Have_Appeared_]

I hope your ok

[@ashhole10]

yeah omg and i was thinking like if you're ever mad or need space to yourself, you can't really get "alone time" :(

[@gini1802]

@@Kae-Lee so exactly is van life like? Just asking

[@AriandNat]

@@gini1802 I have lived in a camper. It SUCKS! I mean there are some fun parts for for the most part it sucks. You don’t get you’re own space, you can’t have pets because it’s to small for most pets and there things, you’re cramped and the camper I had didn’t have any AC so when it got cold it got super cold in the camper and when it was summer the camper was super hot! It’s not something I would recommend to anyone!!!!

[@Ladybugirl20]

funky is AASSS at research ngl

[@hauntedshadowslegacy2826]

Y'all do realize this 'van life with kids' thing is an easy way for abusers to avoid CPS by not having an address, right? If they get investigated in one place, they can just drive off to another.

[@Mostie-ev7oh]

I was on a certain bird website and legitimately there was a whole thread about this hardcore abusive christian fundie family that used the van life to essentially avoid cps and grift. It was like 13 kids of various ages and the parents were all relatively well fed while the kids were clearly too malnourished for their age.

[@tiannacarson3076]

@@Mostie-ev7oh do uk which family that was ?

[@Mostie-ev7oh]

@@tiannacarson3076 Jill Rodrigues aka Rodrigues family ministries. The Quiverfull movement and just generally Christian fundies are a depressing rabbit hole.

[@ashley2319x]

My dad and stepmom still found a way to get away with abusing me and we didn’t live in a van. I was choked, smacked, kicked, thrown and slammed to the floor multiple times. When I got spanked it was to the point where I’d go numb- and I would stop crying due to me feeling no pain. That would piss my dad off even more and it would upset him that I stopped crying so he’d get me in the backs of my thighs. I was COVERED in bruises. But it was in places that teachers couldn’t see. I had welts shaped like my dads hand that turned into multiple bruises shaped like my dads hand. I had a busted open lip- I was close to needing stitches. My step aunt called the cops b she knew I was getting abused. The cops came and they told the officers that they popped me in the mouth and said I purposely bit my lip. The cops bought it and went back to work. Once they left I was beaten so severely I felt my ears ring and I was dizzy. I used to faint before I even got beat because I was so terrified. Parents don’t have to live in a trailer to get away with abuse. My entire childhood I was abused physically and verbally, and sexually (by my stepdad).

[@jollyquinn430]

@PersephonesRose-nr3oo I understand why you feel this way. But don't forget that this is a comment under a video that's about abuse, in a comment section that's also about abuse. So it's not really inappropriate when someone shares their experience.

[@yongf9990]

privacy is an *insanely* important thing for children, especially those who menstruate. this breaks my heart to see these children living like this

[@ansleyb7316]

why is it especially important for girls?

[@thetillerwiller4696]

I feel like if this is a short term living situation (for camping, going on a vacation etc.) it’s fine to tough it out, but long term? That sounds awful

[@thehamsterarmy2380]

@@ansleyb7316 girls start puberty before boys could be a reason, idk if that's what they were referring to though

[@freya6921]

@@ansleyb7316girls mature / start puberty earlier than boys

[@thetinykid4169]

​​@@ansleyb7316 Girls mature and start puberty earlier than others. While it's not really anything to be ashamed of, I can imagine the kind of scenario that plays out when one of these girls gets their first period and is learning to use their period products on one of those bunk set ups. All your siblings will immediately know when you try to tell your parents and fix the sheets/go through the motions of getting blood out of the sheets. And of course learning to emotionally regulate and handle the whole period/puberty event is going to be hard. It's already hard without your siblings breathing down your neck while you're trapped in a rv.

[@RoNerdEvie]

“FUNKY FROG BAIT SUCKS” -FunkyFrogBait

[@FreyaKitten]

The bit that gets me is not necessarily the lack of privacy, but the lack of friends outside the family for the kids

[@rivviegobrr714]

it's like a fucking cult :(

[@thehistoryandbooknerd8979]

Children **absolutely** need privacy.

[@Your_local_bunny_friend]

Yes!

[@Your_local_bunny_friend]

@DavidBlackton Military does provide housing for stations for the family School is a option but if the option arose to take the entire family then the rest will move with the military parent

[@sarahbarton4100]

We grew up remotely, always in a house...we were isolated, and only had siblings to play with...we are all very able as adults to socialize and to enjoy our own company. I went 7 schools.

[@lianamarie4895]

I can personally attest to being filmed as a child. My stepmom didn’t have a following but she would record my meltdowns after she was emotionally/physically abusive and send the videos to my teachers and friends. It still haunts me to this day.

[@heather8518]

That's awful! I'm so sorry that happened to u.

[@blackqweenmars]

That’s horrible she didn’t deserve you

[@lifekindasucksrn6442]

Once, my mom took a photo of me without my consent and got really mad at me and threatened me when I begged her to delete it. I can’t imagine how awful it was getting that all the time and getting it sent. Lots of love

[@Discordia5]

That is horribly abusive and unfair. I can't imagine how stressful that was. What a horrible woman.

[@lianamarie4895]

Thanks everyone. It was a long time ago, but actions like that definitely have an affect on the kids when they grow up and I just wish their parents were more aware.

[@Montesama314]

The punishment for not doing chores shouldn't be PUBLIC HUMILIATION AND EXPLOITATION BY FAMILY.

[@trinitytaylor3662]

If its any conselation they exploit the kids regularyly so its not a punishment😄👍🏽

[@letonoska7348]

It´s really humiliating. Honestly, while my parents aren´t influencers, they loved posting video´s of me being "clumsy" on Facebook (one time I got stuck in a hole in winter and couldn´t get out because everything was covered in ice and upon seeing this, they got a camera and filmed me for like 35 minutes - why help me?) when I was young, and I fought with them back then about it (to no avail, children´s privacy are up to their parents completely) and I still think that´s messed up. But to upload this for possibly milions of people? How is this still legal? PS: Also imagine knowing so many people know you live like this and probably never seeing the backlash regarding it. Like the whole world´s telling you "yes, we think this is fair to you"

[@QuigleyYT]

I also think kids are always having new experiences, issues or feelings so when a kid who had previously had no problems finishing chores suddenly refuses to, theres a good chance there's a reason behind that (not to mention neuro divergent or disabled kids who may only be beginning to experience their differences and when they don't have the words to explain why things are difficult for them often receive shame or negative assumptions). Obviously they do need to learn that not doing what needs doing leads to consequences, but they also need to learn to manage time, energy and emotions healthily, and might just need to express what's bothering them to be able to do what's asked of them. Whilst shame can be effective in the short term in getting them do stuff, in the long term it'll hinder them emotionally and stunt your relationship with them. And that exploration of why they're struggling can only truly healthily happen in private with people you trust

[@bumbabees]

@@letonoska7348 my sister once did that after she pulled a prank on me. we had an awful relationship and i had a MASSIVE issue with feeling stupid so it was not funny to me then, and it still isnt now. she also once posted pictures of a little "storybook" i made on my tablet. basically about how miserable i was. looking back, sure, it was kind of cringey. but i was eight and i put a lot of emotion into it. and she just posted it because she thought it was funny. i was lucky enough that she wasnt a big influencer or anything, but what if she was? id never be able to live that down. its beyond me how so many adults have zero consideration for a childs feelings or wishes. it might not seem like a big deal to you, but to a kid, its everything. they feel emotions so strongly and to make fun of that is, imo, one of the shittiest things you can do.

[@xXSYK0NAUTXx]

@@letonoska7348when I was on a cruise vacation in 2017 it was my first time ever snorkeling and everyone had already gotten out to eat, I wanted to go back in but nobody else would come with me. There was a seaside grill/bar that the workers would throw tortillas into the water for the fish, idk if they knew I was in there or not, but they threw one right next to me and I was looking underwater and suddenly was swarmed by 30+ big pancake fish, one swam right up on my stomach, I started having a massive panic attack in untouchable water and all my family did was laugh and record and eventually posted it on facebook as well. A worker had to come get me out of the water because I couldn't move from fear of being in the water all alone with dozens of huge fish🥲

[@Storming_edits]

Boo!!!! BAD RESEARCH 😡😡😡🫵🫵

[@kenny1370]

The worst part is that there ARE RVs and campers out there with actual bedrooms aside from the master. They tend to be bigger and therefore more expensive, so these parents are cheaping out at the expense of their kids, and that is awful.

[@krs2729]

my husband and i live in an rv with a separate bedroom and twin bed & we still wouldn't have a child while living here...

[@heath6802]

@@krs2729 If you can do that, I don’t see why these people cannot!

[@remus2390]

yup, my grandparents had a camper like this for vacations. master bedroom on one end, and another with a bunk on the other end. both had doors. definitely not cheap but if you’re LIVING there with KIDS that is a necessary investment

[@satanscheeks]

my mom owned a 32 foot. it had a master bedroom but less than a foot of space between the wall and bed, the dinner table and couch turned into a bed, and there were two twin bunks tucked in the back half covered with walls, decent spaces. these parents are actively choosing to put their recreation needs over their children’s needs.

[@sleepysmartboy6287]

The fact that when we were low on money as kids my dad got us a 2 bedroom trailer and the girls slept in one room, the boys slept in the other and he and my mom slept on separate couches for years says a lot about how these families CHOOSE to ignore their children's needs. Not to mention online schooling is often FREE they COULD have their kids in an actual school so they don't fall behind but likely it would take time away from -exploiting them for views- , I mean making Van Life TikToks

[@whowhy7554]

Yeah I was thinking through all these TikTok’s why none of the parents let two or three of their kids sleep on the KING SIZED BED and they sleep on the couches instead

[@tobywood00]

thing is, the most important part of school aside from basic arithmetic is socialization. teaching kids how to get along with others, and how to behave normally when you cannot. its why daycare is so important for young kids. homeschooled kids never get that and you can see how it screws them up

[@SpiritWolfeMoon]

I have a lot of respect for your mom and dad for giving y'all the actual rooms.

[@bizygirl1]

In other words, feeding mommy and daddy’s big ego’s.