I think the appropriate answer is : "If we are a couple, I don't have the right to decide on my own what is good for you, so I should tell you." And for why people say they like 'secure' but choose insecurity. It's probably because danger/insecurity creates excitement (The love bridge experiment). The same as pi Mai is not actually a playboy but the character flaw creates interest. Of course this is only true for the majority of people and not for people who test highly on the conscientiousness scale.