16 Things Confident Men Never Do - Confidence Boosters for Gentlemen

[@richlrn64]

As you know, there are a lot of KZbin channels offering recommendations for men. This one is THE best.

[@jollyyellow]

Agreed. Too many channels out there give advice to men based on getting men to do more or be better for other people. At the end of the day a man has to look out for himself because ultimately no one else will. What good is a man to anyone else if he is no good to himself?

[@mariasmith2198]

Shouldn't you rename this "How to be seriously soy in 16 easy steps"? This is the most judgy video I have ever seen. Practice what you preach. EVERYONE laughs at other people sometimes. Because ITS FUNNY. Its OK to expect other people to have coping skills and not be sensitive. And confident men are supposed to be competitive, and keep the pecking order clear. Everyone needs to know who the leader, and who the follower is in every situation. That's the best way to get things done. No one wants to be around someone that is constantly rude.....but no one is going to stand for such a total milk toast either.

[@alexandersmith7061]

Always hate it when I hear other channels talking about being the “alpha” in a situation, especially when it’s being told by a dude who is wormy and insecure

[@josephvalentine7]

Aww knock it off lol

[@alexandersmith7061]

Joseph Valentine Bro, Joseph Valentin is the coolest name ever

[@LoganVega]

My mother always said.. " There are things in the world you can buy...and Class is not one of them"

[@samhumphrey4859]

Errrmmm... Class in our modern society is literally defined by money and possessions what are you talking about

[@thegodfather_8455]

@@samhumphrey4859 class can also be a character

[@patricklansbergen168]

@@samhumphrey4859 being classy usually means that you hold yourself to a high standard in terms of personal behavior, appearance, etc. It's usually used interchangeably in reference to a person having a high degree of character.

[@bobtaylor170]

Men with class don't need to try to project confidence. They're comfortable in their own skins. At the same time, there are standards of good taste which are universal, and you either have a sense of this or you haven't.

[@ZZMJo]

@@samhumphrey4859 NO, it's not. There are plenty of billioners, they own money not class.

[@freyagreaves1460]

I am female, but I still watch this channel and use the advise, seriously the best advise for all situations all the time!

[@benjaminodonnell258]

*advice

[@NewEarthBlog]

I enjoy all the Gentleman's Gazette videos and articles!

[@glasius22]

This is how we know this channel does well... Good for you friend :)

[@saynotohookups]

I just found this channel because I wanted to know more about table manners. After I watched that video I wanted to see more videos.

[@celestialjunipers6829]

Same here, I actually want to try out their cufflinks!

[@Jopedius]

Confident men are able to compliment others who succeed in the same field or trade without feeling insecure. Excelent video btw

[@MyGamer125]

I just wanted to say that I appreciate this channel. I lost my grandad at the very start of this month. Dealing with that has been one of the hardest things of my life, he was such a great role model for me. I want to be more like him so that I can feel connected to him, in some way at least. And just about everything you guys talk about, it feels like you're explaining my grandad down to the letter. He was a remarkable man, and I'm going to miss him greatly. So thank you again.

[@kcmozart]

One thing confident men NEVER DO is brag about sexual exploits to make themselves look good. Especially when they use the fact they are cheating on their spouse to make themselves seem more attractive, virile, and powerful. Doing this sends the message to others you are untrustworthy and disrespectful of others for two reasons. First you don't respect people in your life who are supposed to be the most important to you, be lying and going behind their back thus breaking an important commitment you made with them when you became their spouse.. Secondly, you show others you are unable to keep the intimate details about your life private. This shows people you may not be able to keep other important things to yourself either. To me men that do this are not gentlemen at all.

[@shawnbra9095]

What if the person really does get lots of women and dates how does that effect you in anyway?

[@josephasbury4492]

Also forced marriages are practically nonexistant in the western world. Going back on your word if not something despicable is at the very least very disappointing.

[@vicrod74]

Agree. Never kiss and tell. What happens behind closed doors stays there.

[@arx3516]

Real gentlemen regularly cheat on their wives without anyone ever suspecting anything!

[@kcmozart]

@@arx3516 Which begs the question if they are actually gentlemen in the first place.

[@rose6772]

Thank you for your videos- as a woman, it is a relief to have a voice out there to guide our men to try and reclaim real manhood. Ignore the negative comments- keep it up!

[@Mamewi212]

the best thing about this is how Sven is at once confident, self deprecating, and genuine

[@krunoslavkovacec1842]

Confident men upgrade their style by watching Gentleman's Gazzette. Love the content!

[@amenasumi4165]

Yes

[@krunoslavkovacec1842]

@@amenasumi4165 Yep

[@alexs06347]

Yes

[@bobvanbutselaar]

It is a sign of humility and genuine interest for social or other purposes to assume that someone might know something you don't. It is also the smart thing to do because it prevents you from blindly walking into walls all the time.

[@playingcalm5116]

loser

[@martian9999]

a confident person is generous. You know that things will work out fine in the end, because you make your own luck. So, you are never tight or cheap. (Generousity can be a financial thing, but more importantly, you need to be generous with your time, with your affections, your compliments and your attention).

[@zang9147]

“I’m not a good manager.” Immediately enters the top 20% of managers by virtue of this self-assessment.

[@ICEMANinHD]

But not the top 20% of earnings or promotions

[@joelstephenson8017]

😂

[@deanwest2744]

A successful man who was a corporate manager at a company I worked for told me that he viewed himself as the least important person in the room. At the time it made no sense to me considering his position of authority. But after working with him I learned the wisdom in this: He valued the opinions of others. He wasn't afraid to admit he needed help or that he did not have all the answers and would seek answers and solutions from others. He was humble. He was not greedy with his knowledge. He built up others and by improving them, he improved the entire team. And most importantly, he only asserted his authority when necessary and never in a demeaning manner. After developing this mindset and attitude, I was quickly promoted in the company.

[@8AM_AU]

Dean West I love this concept, they call it ‘servant leadership’, there’s loads of info on the net under that term if you want to learn more :)

[@newjerseybt]

As an older retired man, I don't have many of these problems anymore...I just wing-it with confidence and don't give a flying **** since time is getting short.

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

newjerseybt brilliant attitude

[@newjerseybt]

@@andreasleonlandgren3092 Thanks!!!!!

[@paulsaul2487]

Here Here!!!!

[@melvincan7761]

My man,

[@justsomeoldguy3839]

As a good friend of mine says: "The more older I get, the less I care what you think about how I look"

[@miguelhiguera6591]

Hey, thank you for the video! I consider myself a confident man, and I do the majority of the things you say a confident man does. Funny thing is I feel other men see a threat in that confidence, and it is sometimes annoying. But, I'm happy to see that videos like these are made and can help balance the toxic masculinity that exists in pop culture!! Confidence feels great

[@sasankpotluri4873]

Yup. I can relate to you! Being confident usually intimidates people, similar to being very attractive compared to your group of friends

[@tieoneon5240]

agree confidence sometimes sets off "alarms" for others who then posture up etc but thats the way it goes

[@j.3592]

The video started with "Confident men don't need another person's approval" and so I was waiting for the cliche "Be sure to like this video" at the end, but you didn't do it. Excellent! Really love that blue tie on your outfit at the end. It adds that touch of *different* to the outfit to make it stand out, but at the same time it's not too brash at all. It really looks good.

[@mariasmith2198]

Doesn't change the fact that confident men don't need anyone telling them how to be confident. So the stupidity hasn't gone anywhere.

[@darvintorres149]

Lol 😂 great comment ....but this man is awesome.

[@labellaescrima1996]

you're blind if you like his outfit...honestly!

[@cynthiahernandez3598]

i am female but truly enjoy this channel just to see the host, you're a very charming, intelligent, tasteful gentleman.

[@kurtmueller2089]

Those small acted parts between you and Preston always crack me up

[@ThePaPappy]

Modesty really is a virtue. The world is not obligated to adore you. Life does not owe you a living. If you rise, help those around you rise also. Some things outweigh and pay more returns than power and wealth.

[@babbar123]

Compared to AlphaM (from whom I unsubscribed) and even RMRS, this channel keeps things real, relatable and personal. Keep it up and don’t follow suit of others.

[@jthwang4841]

babbar123 good to meet you. i did the same.

[@rcr76]

If you need to say your “Alpha “ your not . Be yourself

[@drtero1539]

Just glad that Sven never tried to sell me some Vincero or Movement

[@blazinmark1]

Роман Темиров “Every man needs a Rolex” -ArchieLuxury

[@hgbugalou]

@@rcr76 He isn't serious about it. Its suppose to be tongue and cheek. He talks about it sometimes.

[@kendalldenney]

These are great attributes for women as well. I really appreciate positive, elegant content on this channel!

[@JD-vv2qp]

I took a Chinese friend out for drinks, and they were denied entry to the bar because, although they were a designer brand with huuuge logos, sweatpants are still sweatpants! Dress for the occasion, and remember that tacky branding will never make up for poor taste or poor fit!

[@guinnessharvey4476]

Not sure what your friend’s nationality has do with this. I can take a guess though:)

[@annrrf1464]

No. 10 is gold. A man who is not a content creator who spends too much time on social media is a no-no.

[@rodrigomagnabosco2230]

Raphael, working as a salesman at a menswear store, your videos and articles really help me develop my skills. Hugs from Brazil!

[@thoseoldphonos5722]

Instead of being raised to have confidence, my dad did nothing but make sure I felt bad about who I am. He does it to this day. I'm slowly, very slowly learning to have confidence.

[@vbnmorbus]

You're chad, keep up the work

[@garrettwilson7795]

rooting for you king 👑

[@ThugHunterfromIsrael]

challenge your father to a fist fight and win. that should be your goal

[@fallonshannon1925]

My stepfather hated because I had red hair and reminded him of my real father before he. He wore work pants and a Hanes pocket t-shirt I dress like I work for Wall Street lol. So I beat him in the end anyway.

[@jackstajacksta6426]

I love the way you and Preston act out little scenarios 😂, good work guys.

[@MashabaZA]

Thanks!

[@justindavis3924]

There is something to be said about class. This channel has taught me a great deal on how to dress classy instead of flashy which I believe has become almost a lost art. Thank you so much and keep up the good work on the channel!

[@miikanieminen6514]

Great advise. I would add that confident men listen more than they talk.

[@d.martins4471]

This channel is the proof that if youtube is used wisely, you can improve yourself in all subjects dramatically. On the other hand, if a social network is misused(like 99% of the people do) you will get dumber, blinder, fooler and whatnot. This channel is a gem. Also, Sven, you're the man!! haha

[@keithwixtrom6435]

Excellent video (as always)! I especially liked your last point. I think it was Benjamin Franklin that said, when noted how nicely he was treating someone who had mistreated him, "I treat him as a gentleman, not because he is, but because I am."

[@crystalheart9]

So many people mistake bragging for confidence. Bragging is begging for attention. Confident people don't feel the need to do that. Lots of good advice here for men and women.

[@lewiszolna5000]

As someone who has been inspired to be more confident by you guys at GG even before this video was put up I'd just like to thank you for helping me to be more confident. Great video guys. Keep it up.

[@squidward66]

great video. the modern world sorely needs men who are confident, masculine, and responsible

[@FUBARGunpla]

of all the mens help channels i've seen ( not many but enough to know their usually just trying to get someone laid) this was easily the best, for me a confident man uses his confidence to uplift those around him and not as a stepping stone to power.

[@beru58]

This one is a gem: "You can only be as good as you dare to be bad."

[@adrianridgway4333]

I totally want an ALDI T-Shirt!

[@JamesRDavenport]

Or a Whataburger polo shirt. Muted orange with duel white thin stripes and a modest logo would be Texas classy.

[@TonyBombardo]

lol, I literally went on amazon to see if they existed right after he mentioned that... (they don't, but some people custom make them elsewhere online) . I saw a photoshopped orange track jacket the other day online that said Aldidas on it . That needs to become a thing.

[@JamesRDavenport]

@@TonyBombardo That is awesome!

[@yachtboy6756]

ALDI, the grocery store?

[@Lachsnacken_]

Ich auch, Bruder

[@theusmn_]

I am in my early 20s and a college student, and one thing I have learned is to accept your lack of certain abilities and expressing them rather than faking. It helps you learn more and become better.

[@DISTurbedwaffle918]

My sister got me a $60 watch for Christmas and I get complimented on it all the time. Price is secondary to style, if it looks good, it looks good, emd of story. That said, most stylish things cost at least a slightly more than modest sum.

[@Hallelujah3r]

Nice tip...

[@ice319]

I LOVE this video, Sven!! Definitely true on all fronts! I like that you put the one about treating other people poorly as the LAST point. Everybody seems to kinda "know" that you shouldn't treat others poorly, but tend to forget to follow that mantra. If you had put this point first, a lot of people might have checked out of the video, thinking that the rest of that stuff wasn't important. But this video is very well done, and the points you highlighted were all great. I just found this channel a few months ago, and already you guys have opened my eyes up to a lot of style hints and tweaks. Keep up the phenomenal work!

[@Likwidl]

Love the intermittent sketches you do in this video to further drive home your points. Silent cinema is not dead!

[@susanma4899]

I was just listening to his talk while playing cards. Now I have to go back and find the videos, lol!

[@StickPeopleAndPuff]

"You take your hat off inside, you say sir and ma'am, you be polite, and you hold doors for people. You're from the South so you best act like a Southern Gentleman, son." -My dad

[@carltrotter7622]

0:59 - I love the way your wallpaper mixes with your velvet smoking jacket. Very dapper.

[@gentlemansgazette]

Thanks! It was actually not wallpaper, but a faux malachite mural my wife and I made in our old condo.

[@carltrotter7622]

@@gentlemansgazette , how sweet. I've been watching your videos for a while now and your content is truly remarkable. Keep being who you are and making your videos. Preston and yourself have made yourselves as influences. Use it wisely :) - Carl

[@blonded3598]

Gentleman's Gazette very dapper

[@reiko57]

I'm a blue collar guy but still really enjoy this channel and really wish the world were more formal/respectful.

[@D0land0_94]

Most of these tips are about honesty, Confident men are not dishonest, they are genuine, and people can usually tell the difference

[@driving101drivingschool2]

So this whole video is really a testament to how confident you are

[@shanepasha6501]

Excellent episode. Very detailed, you went down a list of situations that don’t get taught in school, it’s life experience. Thank you.

[@livekaos]

I’m glad someone is promoting Gentleman, these days some people are trying to make us thinking that being a Gentleman is not political correct and socially acceptable...

[@keithfreeman2139]

These are some really good tips. Good to know that I already live by them. It boils down to simply treating others with respect and knowing your limits but be willing to step out in faith that you can accomplish a goal that may seem scary.

[@Hotspur62]

"To thine own self be true." It was a line from Hamlet that I read in high school and that's the rule I've lived by ever since.

[@ScotchIrishHoundsman]

Hotspur62 awesome! Thanks for sharing!

[@noelt2238]

"This above all, to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man." (Hamlet I, 3). Polonius' advice to his son is timeless and eternally true. I wish I had learned it in high school. My life might have been different.

[@Newbill17]

Well said and well done, especially the social media advice. I recently deleted Facebook and that was the right choice for me. I made a lot of mistakes on social media and I own those mistakes. The style on this channel diverges quite a bit from mine, it is more formal but I appreciate the perspective, how well it’s done, and I learn a lot watching.

[@dahyun_love]

Even before you start talking, I feel like a better man before watching your video. This is great! This is huge!

[@omax1023]

I felt confident enough to hit the scribe Icon, and even more confident to hit the bell Icon! Half the battle is being honest with myself, and seeking the right channel to help me along the way! Life lessons on GG, I'm listening......

[@Jalapablo]

All these things are the polar opposites of what narcissists do. This is an excellent video.

[@lovelao7615]

I love a confident man. I’m married to one. Blessed me:)

[@anthonys5568]

Without hiding behind my screen, I"l let you know you are a young man with maturity beyond your years. Keep it up!

[@stephenwalton7526]

Thank you for pointing out that you should dress how you feel comfortable. I like dressing up a bit, my girlfriend doesn't. She always comments when we go out that she feels under dressed when we go out, because I'm usually wearing a vest or blazer (I live in Texas and it gets way too hot to wear a jacket unless I need to), and she's wearing yoga pants and a t-shirt. I try to tell her that we are both dressed in ways that make us happy, and that's ok. I don't make her dress up unless it's a formal occasion (wedding, funeral, black tie). It's totally fine to dress how you feel comfortable, unless it's an occasion that requires formal attire.

[@upsydaysy3042]

LOL it's the same with my partner. We go to parties, I in 12 cm heels and himself in an old hoodie.

[@styx4947]

In general, I certainly agree with you on these points. But the one on 'dressing inappropriately for an occasion' does not necessarily mean you're unconfident. Sometimes people don't know what is 'apropriate' for an event.

[@pedromena813]

I appreciate the time and effort you put on each video. Such a great work put together. Thanks

[@PeonyRosey]

I discovered this channel while searching for tips on pilling knitwear and I immediately subscribed. Great content!

[@joys0s126]

The way you give your examples i just relate more with you

[@jaydo1879]

I came across this channel yesterday. I like where you guys are coming from. We desperately need a resurgence of gentlemen in our world. Keep it up!

[@AldoEsAmor]

I am a confident man and confirm all this man just said to be 100% true. BTW I loved the detail you made about sharing all that financial stuff with your wife (and overall respect in a relationship) that is something a decent man does. Many men don't. And it saddens me. Great video. Loved watching it!

[@chumarirunning5370]

Most truthful point here - you'll never see a Walmart logo on a shirt, just expensive brands

[@Lou.B]

What a great video! So rich with terrific advice and examples. I appreciate the thoughtful and well-crafted messaging, and especially commend you for your insights and self-awareness. I'm certain that your colleagues count themselves as fortunate to work for a man who not only recognizes his own limitations but also has the courage to rely on their abilities. Well done - and continued Success!

[@robertfay1150]

What a sensible man you are. Respectable well mannered kindly in your tone and attitude. How refreshing and a good example for others. Well done and thank you. Carol

[@Arminian100]

I love this video. The only complaint is that you left out "what confident men do instead" for the last part. Now, obviously, they do the converse, which is treat all people with respect. However, I think there's another personal element. While I have my own insecurities that I battle with, like all men, I am a very confident man. I realize this is because I was raised in a loving, caring, and supportive environment where I had 2 parents who believed in me, recognized my abilities, and voiced it--- while being honest with discipline, my shortcomings, and maybe what I wasn't good at. This self awareness point which you brought up, I believe, should be extended out. A confident man recognizes strengths and weaknesses in others. They vocally praise and support those strengths, 2ith the same confidence in others that they have in their own strengths. They also do not belittle weaknesses, nor point them out for sport - - -, but offer support, care, and help, wherein one might be stronger in this other's weakness. Confident men set the tone around them. Their confidence isn't only about or for them. It is a way of life that they bring others into. They create environments of support where people are built up, supported, and praised.

[@ThatBeachDude]

I’ll admit I accidentally came across your channel. It’s refreshing to see a channel with honest and practical advice on being a real gentleman in various situations. Subscription is well earned.

[@123djpma]

The style suggestions from this channel have been great, and very helpful. I live in the woods so formal dress is not often called for, but when it is, I feel better prepared to navigate it. That being said, in this video, there are are more general descriptions of how to be a gentleman - and also a good person. It really resonated. Hard to elaborate more, but I wish all of us could act this way. I am aspiring to it.

[@ricardorosas3740]

I'm Brazilian, I live in the Midwest (US)... knowing that your father is Brazilian made me like this channel even more! Great Channel!

[@rachelbaziak4159]

I’m not a man but I do enjoy what you have to say about manners and etiquette,it applies to everyone ! I’ve learned so much from you and thank you!

[@Fonkemman]

One of the best videos in KZbin right here.

[@analysissel]

This video surprised me. I *love* this video. It praises and encourages healthy, happy social practices, and puts an emphasis on the unhealthy aspects of social climates and relationships. The point about anonymity and the internet in particular caught me by surprise. I was somewhat worried this video might be haughty, uptight, or look down on the viewer, but I am pleasantly surprised to find out it is not so. Keep preaching what you're saying.

[@ccasche5088]

Great words. I tell my kids the only reason people are mean to others is because someone hurt their feelings in the past.

[@gordonsemple1157]

An excellent video! I work as a results based coach, often finding men rediscover their passion and becoming confident in themselves. All of the points you raise are essential. Keep up the excellent work in providing timely, and valuable information.

[@ForTheLoveOfSuits]

I’ve just watched this for the second time. I think it’s worth watching once a year to remind myself how to be a gentleman. Great video.

[@jeffharrington9771]

Great video!! I also think confident men are happy for others that are more successful/fortunate than themselves. I think jealousy and downplaying others success (like they didn't earn it) speaks volumes to your insecurity and lack of character.

[@craigslistnothing6015]

The one thing I wish you'd added was "Confident men don't avoid apologizing". There is nothing more infuriating than wanting to forgive someone, only for them to bark at you like a dog: "No. "I didn't do that". "I wouldnt ever do that". "How could you say that about me". "Thats not true!" Confident men are eager to grow, and your authenticity should reflect fully in any apology you might need to give.

[@philipsmith500]

Very relaxing to watch. You make life seem very simple.

[@Blabbermouth-w5w]

A confident man also realizes that asking for help will most often not yield any. IOW, a confident man is always prepared to go it alone.

[@kickbillcom]

01:00 totally looks like a James Bond's movie villain XD

[@MiamiCoffee2023]

Hello from Miami. So many of us are so thank you for taking yourself up on the Gentleman’s Gazette, thank you.

[@myronvenero9371]

That advice about “shared life”. Alot of guys need this one.

[@TheTOBroShow]

0:45 when you pass an exam that you thought you where gonna fail. I like the humor of the host. Very good.

[@Official_MikeyT]

Me after my Corporate Finance exam last semester.

[@ScotchIrishHoundsman]

I really need to get better at saying “no” and also, I need to quit telling idiots in the comments that they’re idiots. You have helped me, o enlightened one.

[@sponky475]

As a trans man this channel is a blessing. These are the "guy talks" I never had. Really appreciate you guys and all you do.

[@thallescolares1806]

Unfortunately, these are the "guy talks" most men don't have the privilege to experience. Thus the low quality of men nowadays.

[@mariasmith2198]

This is perfect for transmen. And anyone else that thinks there are fifteen genders.

[@victorordonez-barros4509]

I knew I had confidence in my self,but I never knew how confident I was! Excellent video thanks

[@ppatpparis]

This was a wonderful video!!! I am sending it to my daughters. These are great suggestions for everyone. Your channel is awesome!!!

[@isaiahwertz]

I love this channel more than any other channel

[@nacionalista1779]

There is a fine line between dressing classic men’s clothes and plain cosplaying careful guys Sven pulls it off the right way

[@TonyBombardo]

I feel like that's very important. I could never personally see myself wearing the things he does and pulling it off. I mostly watch this channel for the fountain pen stuff, life tips, and because I love this guy's voice. lol

[@matthiasmichel6966]

Vielen Dank, Raphael, in meinen Augen eines Deiner besten Videos.

[@MrHarrilasagna]

These are solid examples Sven. Thanks for the video. An alias can be good for security reasons. Only in the beginning of course when tying up loose ends before going public.

[@freedomwatch3991]

So much life wisdom within this video. Thank You mate.

[@babbar123]

Simple and to the point. Well put 👍

[@chrisjefferson264]

These are great points! I don't understand how this could be a thumbs down. Those must be the guys who think they are confident and aren't.

[@srinidhiiganeishmallyaa3746]

I’m a girl and I enjoy watching your channel . Educative and informative 😊😊 Also I live in Germany🤓

[@williamhodson9718]

Your videos are superb; they give exactly the kind of information a man is looking for when he's taking it upon himself to learn the art of being a gentleman, inside and out. Good job!

[@bobbybackmarker9665]

A really nice vid from a confident man. I've learned something from this.

[@metatechnologist]

Thanks for being considerate with the timestamps.

[@aesma-daeva]

Brilliant video as always. Love the chemistry between Raphael and Preston.

[@IwoIwanov]

The best content right here. Great channel. Thanks for this.

[@TONEBHURT]

Great presentation! 👍