The Psychology of Family Dynamics in Encanto - Therapist Reacts!

[@GeorgiaDow]

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[@denisewest1643]

The songs

[@Donpa]

I hope you could do F is for family, it really shows for so many family problems and it's so relatable.

[@nesahayes543]

the movie frozen?

[@BGTitanAvatar]

Honestly, outside of Isa and Luisa, I always feel so bad for Pepa (the aunt). She’s always so frazzled, looking on the verge of a breakdown throughout most of the movie, and her power does not help. That’s why I love Felix (and Bruno at the end) being so supportive of her and telling her it’s okay for her to feel her feelings when all we’ve heard from Abuela this entire movie is her telling Pepa to get rid of her clouds. Like it’s so freakin easy.

[@minceroft3710]

ikr, it ties more into this ongoing theme of characters feeling forced to try and hide their true thoughts and feelings for "the good of the family". I'm so glad they portrayed felix and camilo as so supportive of her

[@EBouleyPhotos]

Yes!

[@WhenRayneWithers]

I have a theory that Pepa was the first victim of Alma's forced perfectionism. Telling Pepa to not feel her emotions and to hide her power all the time. This in turn caused Pepa to try and hide any sort of emotion that could hint to her powers leading to her many breakdowns when the stress becomes too much. That's why everytime her power starts up around her it always becomes "worse" due to the stress of it simply existing instead of allowing the weather to blossom and invigorate herself.

[@TheSpawnfan]

Abuse the power and you lose It, like what was happening to the family, losing their gifts because abuela lost her way, and if it were up to me, their gifts would be permanently gone because i would desert the family and never look back.

[@bazzxliner]

Exactly. Abuela making her feel terrible for experiencing a normal human emotion like its not her fault that's what her gift does. I'm happy she got to let it all out by the end tho.

[@axis2039]

I love that Georgia wears the same clothes as the characters she makes a video of

[@NDJunction]

that gorgeous hair is lit

[@earth2172]

The lil cosplays are cool

[@ningning9731]

same

[@ratohetwayne2500]

Agreed!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thanks !!! so happy they are appreciated and enjoyed. I enjoy doing them

[@xavi3813]

I'm from Venezuela (a neighbouring country of Colombia) and many of the things depicted on the film about family's dynamic is really similar at how many families that come from the Andes (like mine) treat generational trauma. The matriarch of the family (like Abuelas) usually instill an unspoken rule about how you can't talk some things about the family, outright lie about the past or cover some things in an attempt to protect the family from pain, not realizing how that brings more pain and ruptures inside the family, specially between the siblings (being those the children or grandchildren) It is really beautiful the end how the Abuela owns her mistake and helps Mirabel to see herself. We have an ongoing joke between latinos that the most unrealistic part of Encanto is that an old person recognizes their mistakes hehehe. I really liked you analysis about Mirabel. Personally, I really like whenever someone talks about perfectionism is impossible because it helps me deal with my own issues with it. Love your cosplay! Edit: redaction error

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you for sharing about how families work in Venezuela.

[@kassyyar97]

Exactly! Mexican here, (Dont know why we are talking in english but sure, why not) my abuelito has hurt us, his grandchildren, in so many emotional ways, when I saw Encanto I was just so jealous of Abuelita Alma owning her mistakes and APOLOGIZING, because is something that older generations simply wont do, realistically. Heck, even my dad has never apologized to us, not even once. Saludos pana!

[@AtomicWhiskers]

Ey mi paisano, buena descripción de como funcionan las familias por allá!

[@Valandar2]

@@kassyyar97 "(Dont know why we are talking in english but sure, why not)" ... Probably for those of us who watched the video and are from a different culture growing up, to see how aspects of this movie ring true with the culture that inspired its representation.

[@mauriciovillegas7285]

Costa Rican here, this movie reminded me that I have an uncle William, he died in his 20s when my parents were going out. No one ever talks about him, the first and only time we (the grandchildren) heard of him was in a funeral when we saw his grave.

[@nikkigreer1385]

Georgia, if you look back to the opening of Abuela's story, it's insanely vague until she actually tells the story to Mirabel and finally opens up to the real pain that happened that day in watching her husband be taken from her.

[@GeorgiaDow]

very good point

[@wtimmins]

Also note that in the opening, when Abuela cries out for her husband, it's kind of simple and just sort of a 'aaah.' But at the end? You can see someone UTTERLY devastated. Same scene, but way more raw and honest. (I mean, this isn't weird; it's not like you want to tell a 5 year old about the time her grandfather was murdered horribly in detail)

[@Valandar2]

@@wtimmins The expression on her face when she cries out for her husband is probably the most absolute depiction of greif and devastation Disney, Pixar, or any other animation company has put on film. It is the FIRST moment I actually felt something for her other than annoyance - until that moment, I was almost feeling like her words were empty. That moment... THAT grabbed me.

[@hirobiro617]

@@wtimmins It represents how much she held back her pain when retelling the memory to Mirabel I think :00

[@alsorensen2484]

I think the real difference is that in the first version, the focus is on the Miracle and all the things that they gained from it, versus the end, when Abuela finally allows herself to recognize just how much she lost from that miracle. Once she realizes how much she lost and finally felt that pain she pushed down, she was able to realize just how precious her family was and how much she has been hurting them

[@maem7462]

I’ve heard some ppl say they think that Alma is going through survivors guilt and that’s part of the reason why she puts so much pressure on everyone. I’m curious if that might be true

[@FreeTheRats_]

It could be, and in my opinion it's represented as the form of the candle and the miracle. You always hear Alma saying "we need to help the people because we were given the miracle". And if you ignore the whole magic thing, this would still apply. They were given a chance, a home, safety, a town that supports them and care for them, and a big family. And Alma doesn't want to disappoint the people around them, and in her eyes, her family should be perfect, to compensate for everything they have.

[@zagiproductions1630]

@@FreeTheRats_ I think abuela got into that toxic “you earned this life now you have to keep earning it” mindset partially because she thought it was true, and maybe it was. If her family wasn’t perfect, they would lose their miracle, so eventually they became less of a family to her and more of a sort of business. I’ve seen people point out that she refers to them as “this family” a lot, as opposed to “my family” or “our family”. I feel like if I was in her position, I wouldn’t have done much better.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I think it is a very accurate depiction ! nicely done

[@Nyxworld_.]

@@zagiproductions1630 good point!

[@ladyamberskye]

I feel like also abuela had similar pressure she put on herself to be the leader of their community. Like Luisa felt she had to keep the family together, abuela feel she has to keep the community together. I get the feeling she never felt worthy enough of the miracle herself so tried to overperform herself and push her family too also.

[@saikoakuma]

As someone that has a baby sister that I adore, the expression on little Mirabel’s face when she turns to Alma after her door dissipates ALWAYS breaks my heart to see. I personally think that’s when the cracks started, when Alma failed to comfort her granddaughter in her lowest moment.

[@explorateur8159]

🥺🥺🥺

[@prcervi]

bruno is where the cracks started, mirabel is just where it became obvious that alma wouldn't and couldn't fix the issues

[@nicolearaujo330]

@@prcervi Actually abuela says that the cracks started with mirabelle. Could be after she didn't get the powers or from the very beginning. But there as already cracks that they cannot see.

[@prcervi]

@@nicolearaujo330 i know that's what she said, but i was interpreting that as mirabel being to point where no amount of acting on anyone's part was going to be enough to ignore the cracks(mostly around how bruno was treated) that already had started

[@Airyllish]

@@nicolearaujo330 The cracks started with Bruno. Or were you sleeping when the movie shows Bruno having plastered HUNDREDS of cracks inside the walls of the house? Mirabel is accused of "starting" the cracks because that's when they became visible to Abuela and the family, but Bruno's constant abuse at the hands of almost everybody else started the cracks, and Bruno being forced to leave because he knew everybody would blame Mirabel for failing to get a door and would always see the worst in what he said continued to cause cracks. The cracks did not start with Mirabel. In fact they may have started even before Bruno. But Bruno is where the discord and discontent in the family really began to start, with a gift everybody assumed the worst of and in turn everybody assumed the worst of him. Mirabel is simply when the cracks became so huge and ugly that you couldn't miss seeing them.

[@ocsartobi6844]

This movie wrecked me. My growing up experience was a not so fun mix of Bruno, Mirabelle, and Louisa. Having to carry their slack, getting overlooked because I wasn't good enough, and treated like I was bad guy because... well, frankly I don't fully know why. Bruno's line at the end where he yelled "I dont care what you think of me!" at Abuela is where I fully broke. I've had that mommoment with family. Just like Bruno the break point was seeing a younger cousin treated like I was. I had to deal with a life time of that crap. He wasn't going to. I might be less popular to them, but he will never have to deal with that when I'm around.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I feel you. I hope you feel seen now. Appreciate you being here btw

[@irlshintsukimi]

Mirabel* Luisa* This are spanish/latin names Pepa is not Peppa, is Pepa. Isabela is not Isabella, is Isabela. Julieta is not Juliet, is Julieta. Sorry if this comes off as rude, but this are spanish names and its kinda weird to change them.

[@ocsartobi6844]

@@irlshintsukimi more nitpicky than rude, but I see your point. Wasn't looking to offend. I just wasn't sure on the spelling and went with what looked right. Thanks for the heads up.

[@katrinascarlet5637]

@@irlshintsukimi bruh I wasn’t born in the US but it’s always slightly annoying that they add an extra letter to my name because of English. Like writing “Daniella” or “Danielle” instead of the correct “Daniela”. I just hand over my ID when someone needs my name because I legally need everything in the correct name. And don’t even get me started on adding a hyphen in between the two last names.

[@sommerbeasley759]

Omg you said all of it so perfectly! This was my role in the family as well. Bruno, Marbella, and Louisa. My wife laughed when she asked me who I resonate with and I said it depends on what part of my family you are talking about. But it's true. In my family of origin I am Bruno. When you are introduced to the scene where he set his living room up with the peephole so he could still overlook everyone, I was done for. I am very low contact with my family. But I try to make sure I have a way to check in on them occasionally. In may last marriage I turned completely into Louisa. My wife assumed that I resonated with Meribell. And in my life now I try to be that. I just love this movie

[@MonsterPrincessLala]

I love that Georgia lets herself feel her feelings. Like everyone says you can't be a therapist if you feel for other people but that's Georgia's greatest strength and she continues to be empathetic to even fictional characters. It's really inspiring

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you for this

[@aequus1567]

I agree ^^

[@crankyartist111]

In my training, we are told you CAN'T be an effective therapist if you don't feel for others. Hopefully that means the "cold therapist" trend is dying out.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Cranky thanks I am happy that you were taught that and thanks for doing work to help people

[@ahhhhhh8493]

If my therapist can't empathize with me I don't want it

[@Rachel-ip4um]

I absolutely SOBBED at Luisa's song, "Surface Pressure." As it is, I'm a big, strong girl liker her and already saw a lot of similarities. But I have never felt so emotionally identified as I did during that song. I'd love to see you do more on Encanto, as there's just so much to unpack with all of the gifts!

[@parnie9474]

yeah i think luisa's song is the best one i also felt her pressure

[@rimeratalmon1009]

Right?? My son played the song for me and I just broke down in tears...

[@bluenpurple2328]

I was crying silently through the whole song of What Else Can I Do when i heard it. Not only were the vocals and harmonies beautiful BUT I FELT SOOO SEEN THROUGH ISABELA! Like there was another perfect, Latin american girl who had the same pressure of family duties and keeping the family a good name by doing everything perfect, pretty, and proper and never EVER speaking out against it or showing any sign of weakness. Seeing Isabela sing about her troubles made me cry, but hearing her sing about how good it feels to let it all go and how it's amazing to not be perfect because no one is, It just hit me, and I was so happily crying for her. I wish I'd be as brave and break through that cycle, but here I am still the "perfect silently beautiful girl".

[@hope3290]

That's my favorite song in the whole movie.

[@monicasalasviquez673]

I was watching it at my dad's house and a tear rolled down my eye. As a first born of parents that were starting their twenties, their lifes and couldn't finish their plans because they screwed up and had a baby too young, I've been the one to care for them, raised myself and them my baby sis and god damn it, the "Give it to your sister, it doesn't hurt And see if she can handle every family burden Watch as she buckles and bends but never breaks" it just fucking rips my heart out whenever i listen to it.

[@alsorensen2484]

The thing I love most about Isabella is that she associates so much with a cactus. Things like flowers are delicate and take a lot of care and energy to maintain. Versus a cactus that can just be placed in soil and is allowed to "just let it be". A cactus isn't perfect or pretty, it just IS. No expectations, no heavy input. She just wants to be and for others to let her be, herself.

[@DrMutran]

I think it’s interesting that at the beginning of the film, Mirabel talks/sings about her family as being perfect in every way, but soon after that we slowly see the truth. Also, it seems like Mirabel wasn’t the first scapegoat of the family. It seems as though Bruno was the one who was seen as the cause of all the families problems, which is something He and Mirabel can relate to.

[@TheSpawnfan]

Naturally, Bruno would be the outcast before Mirabel, he had the same abilities as Cassandra, and if you know the greek mythos, you know that didn't end well for Cassandra.

[@Peet2022]

Like in every generation there must be somebody family can blame on

[@TheSpawnfan]

Said it before and will say it again, if i were on Mirabel's situation, that family would lose the magic and it would stay lost because i would just grab Bruno, run away and never look back.

[@Zazu1337]

I find it kind of cool how Disney finally managed to have a story without a villain. Because most real problems don't have a clear villain. Most of the time it's just humans with their personal imperfections that try to somehow get along with people they might or might not care about without being miserable. When people approach you inappropriately it's always better to assume a lack of knowledge over malicious intent. Because if we face others with the assumption their actions have malicious intent we villainize them and start a fight instead of searching for solutions. (It took me far too many years to realize that and it is still hard to act like that. In the heat of the moment it is always easier to start a fight and be miserable after instead of trying to fix the actual problem)

[@nagisashiota6110]

13:22 - "Perfect is impossible.. Yes even for you Jinx" I feel so rewarded for watching your amazing Arcane series

[@GeorgiaDow]

hehehehe yay so happy you were. Happy someone mentioned it

[@NemoNebulous]

I love that I found a therapist reacting to this. This movie has some of the deepest themes, if not the deepest themes, of any kids movies or at least Disney. They've delved into mental health here and there, Pixar movies almost always make me cry, but this movie was on another level. And it wasn't even Pixar! Love hearing a therapist's take on it

[@핑엘리]

Cinema Therapy is working on an episode on Encanto, as well!

[@fele09]

I think adults or teens would enjoy more of the movie than the kids, because they didnt have build up expierences to relate with the characters

[@jbcatz5]

Being excluded from the family picture is the catalyst for Mirabel finally verbalising she’s reached a breaking point, and it’s here she first sees the cracks in Casita. She had to tell herself she wasn’t alright to start seeing the truth, and start the road to seeing the cracks in the individual family members and thus work to heal them. Investigating leads her to Luisa and learning Luisa’s insecurities. The shards of the prophecy lead to Bruno and Mirabel seeing he’s not what he’s been reputed to be. Trying to fulfil the new prophecy helps Mirabel reconcile with Isabella and seeing how the cracks can be healed. The emotional rift Alma has made with Mirabel is too big to be overcome and destroys Casita, who is only restored by everyone working together.

[@Snakeofwrath]

I just wish Aubuela Alma had apologized to Bruno the same way she did for Mirabel. She literally outcasted her own son and had people turn against him, blaming him for simply being the messenger. Bruno was pretty much forced to live in the walls for so many years, and she expects him to be okay after a freaking hug? She didn't apologize to him at all, not even a simple, "I'm sorry." That's one thing that bugs me about the ending of Encanto. Aubuela did not earn her redemption with Bruno, and neither did most of the Madrigal family members and townsfolk. The only people who didn't see him in a negative light personally were Mirabel, Luisa, Isabel, Delores, and Antonio. People either just didn't want to talk about him because they would get into trouble if they did, or didn't talk about him because they deemed him to be the problem. Also, most of the bad things that Bruno had premonitions of, most of those people were the cause of their own misfortune. Then being in denial of the fact that they were the cause of their own misfortune, instead of taking responsibility, they wanted someone to pin the blame on. The woman with the fish didn't take care of her fish correctly (it didn't have a proper tank with plant life and its space was too small.), Pepa stressed out when Bruno told her it was going to rain and thus she caused the hurricane that occurred during her wedding, when Bruno told someone he was going to gain weight, instead of doing something to prevent that, he most likely had the mindset of, "well, it's going to happen so might as well not try to fight it," then finally there's the priest who went bald. Bruno could see his hair was thinning, so he told him he would go bald, and well sure enough. Bruno's story is a very good example of people blaming their problems on someone simply warning them of such things. They shot the messenger.

[@acornheart465]

Thank you!!!

[@LittleCindyLouWho]

Not to mention that who knows how many of these "predictions" were just observations in the moment and when they happen Bruno gets anger and blame directed at him because "he sees the future so therefore it's his fault"

[@thebonelessone3107]

It’s like how she mentioned earlier about how “some people pick one person in the family to be the problem child, becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy”. Bruno is the result of that; where his family and town ostracized him so much, that he was forced to hide away. Bruno doesn’t *WANT* bad things to happen, he just sees the future

[@patriciacooney8591]

Yeah exactly my point

[@Nanoqtran]

In her own way abuella did apologies. During "all of you" she speaks directly to Bruno saying the miracle is him not his gift. Its not a "I'm sorry" but finally seeing her own son more then a power now. Also Bruno's sisters do forgive him they cut off his apologies essentially indicating to let bygones be bygones. Many of the problems Bruno "caused" could have been avoided by wording things differently. He has a problem of being too straight forward in his messages. "Hey your fish is gonna die" can be conveyed as "Your fish doesn't look like it's in a health environment. He could use some extra care" same with the gut and hair. When talking to his sister he could have said "sis you look nervous, everything will be okay" but instead worded it in a way that her powers were showing. I have a cousin that's kinda like Bruno, he has autism and a lot of the time he means well with what he says he just doesn't word it properly and people get angry at him for it. You have to understand abuellas side of the problems. In order for her to succeed she needed to be overly strong and had to grow a perfect community. She started from nothing much like our older generations and it's how they are molded. She is a product of her generation and hasn't realized that the foundation she created doesn't have to be repeated. She is forcing the the same expectations of her generation on the next generation despite already eliminating those problems. Everything is shown in the last few songs. Abuella had to be strong for her town. She forgot to actually recognize the successes she had made. Mirabella is the one who lets her finally see that all her fighting succeeded and that she can stop fighting and let the next generation take over despite their differences in circumstances

[@minceroft3710]

im an only child who's constantly thought of as gifted, talented, all my targets are A* etc. so i rly resonated with isabela and luisa because it feels like everything is on you and i feel they really were able to show that difficulty of trying to find yourself outside of upholding a good image, to exist without pretending and to live honestly and humbly and not in a state of "perfection" and guilt. isabela's line "what could i do if I just knew it didn't need to be perfect, it just needed to be, and they'd let me be" really resonated with me in that sense of wanting to simply exist and explore without a constant mental criteria to follow

[@klaravictoryklimecka]

I am an exeptionaly gifted which means that my thoughts processes are completely different from others.... And thus I am not compatibile with the school system, nor any other. Others are noticing that I am different in a way the don't understand, so they unknowingly dismisses me. Thus I can relate to Mirabel (even when she doesn't have a gift) bacause she is the odd one out. The one that wants to belong and feel understood.

[@mellymologist9399]

@@klaravictoryklimecka I understand that. It’s funny cause it’s the other way around too. Others are jealous and try to excel to be like you, gifted and smart, which pressures them into thinking theyre not good enough. So honestly, don’t think too much of it. You’re amazing.

[@klaravictoryklimecka]

@@mellymologist9399 Thanks... that means a lot to me

[@talea9593]

It's so amazing how people relate to the different characters.

[@Metroidsmashington]

I would LOVE to see you react to A Silent Voice. I feel like therapists have the best takes on that movie.

[@riccardomazzon2967]

If you're interested check the video of Cinema Therapy on A Silent Voice

[@GeorgiaDow]

yes that is a wonderful movie

[@p3nnyl4ne12]

That movie made me cry but it was so good

[@allysonennis200]

I need this video 😍

[@idkwhatiam1042]

!Spoiler Alert for Arcane and Encanto! I love your reference to Jinx from Arcane in 13:26 because (this is my own forced opinion) I do think Mirabel and Powder have a few traits in common. They're both constantly trying to prove themselves in a family where everyone has a role and purpose while Mirabel/Powder just get blamed for things going wrong (even if it's accidental) which causes them to overcompensate to show they can contribute something positive to their family. The main difference is that while Mirabel gets recognized by her family by saving the miracle thus bringing her family together, Powder causes her family's undoing.

[@GeorgiaDow]

happy you noticed and loved it hahah =))

[@completelyrandom8671]

Mirabel's fate could've been Powder's if the creators chose the earlier drafts. Look how different Encanto would've been and how the current one feels more solid in terms of story-telling. Best disney film ever.

[@lightningflame2082]

Actually when I was watching this movie at the cinema I got that thought and started imagining an alternate universe in which Mirabel would become evil or crazy XD

[@rike971]

@@lightningflame2082 And then Mirabel becomes Jinx and Isabella Vi (well the last part is less sure but hey let's imagine that)

[@finezyjnafantazja2495]

Main difference between her and Powder is greed. Powder is so focused on goal that she loses track of people around her. Plus they grow up in different culture one doesn't respect women and kids at all second just lost some parts of femine wisdom.

[@trashartist3905]

Mirabels tone when she tells abuela none of them will ever be perfect makes me cry. Because honestly in her position I don't know what I would have done. If it were me I probably would have resented my family.

[@StoryMing]

I would have liked to hear your take on where, in the face of Mirabel's urgent warning, Abuela basically denied that anything was wrong, when _SHE _*_KNEW_* there was a problem going on with the magic. I realize she felt she had to keep up appearances, but she basically gaslit Mirabel before the family AND the entire community!

[@TiredHumanBeing]

I think she did that because she wanted to keep the community from worrying does that make it right? No but she wants it to be a safe haven for the ppl keep in mind it's only been 50 yrs since what happened, happened. I don't think people get over that sort of thing so quickly.

[@elarhy]

What i loved about the scene where Grandma gives the apology, Mirabel does not gives blame .... She gives emphaty, she acknowledge they ARE broken, and then she goes "it can be fixed"..

[@pattraHrn]

The first time I heard the song, my heart drops when she calls her sister „perfect golden child.“ The singer did a great job highlighting her sadness and how she longs to be loved and accepted by her family.

[@GeorgiaDow]

very well done

[@rukasushima4436]

I absolutely love how you always do some cosplay of the show you're talking about, all the small details are perfect!

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you I do try

[@xxcallmeniaxx3272]

Not really a "cosplay" lol it's just Colombian cultural dress Wait wait I see what your saying!!!! It's the exact outfit!!! It is very cool no doubt

[@autumndavidson8686]

I relate a lot to Isabel because my mother always expected me to be perfect. When I was real young, I developed CAPD (central audio processing disorder) my mom didn't want to believe that I had a disability. I barely passed my classes because of me not being able to hear correctly. I should of been in special ed, but my mom was too proud for that. Also when I was a teenager, I was sexually abused by my stepfather, I finally told mom after 6 years of dealing with it. Again, she didn't want to believe me, she still chose to live with him. That was the final nail in the coffin, I never want to speak to my mom again.

[@irongirltoni]

She sounds terrible I'm sorry she didn't support you

[@SigoBemCaminhoneira]

Im from brazil and one thing i love about the movie is that the grandma have the same insecurities that the grandkids have, and so scare that the town is going to realize that the magic is fading. She thinks the worth of the family (and herself) is in what they can do, how they can help the comunity, and then the whole town go help them in the end, showing that they were worried about the Madrigals (the family that took care of them for decades) and not exacly with the magic. One of the last songs, "all of you" make cry so hard... even the movie been about colombia, this kind of comunity that look for one another is so comun in the rest of Latin America, you can see the same family dynimics everywhere

[@asterios1928]

Just shows how much our upbringing shapes our adult selves

[@GeorgiaDow]

well said

I don't know why but I can relate to basically every character in Encanto but Mirabel the most. But what stuck most to and with me was Isabela's "It doesn't need to be perfect, it just needed to be". As a creative person I'm also expecting myself to do everything perfect so that I'm happy with my work. BUT this one line, despite me trying to remind myself, really got to me and showed me that it doesn't matter as long as I'm happy with it. As I already made some stuff for friends for money I got frustrated whenever I saw a mistake BUT they then told me it's okay and it's not even noticeable. Since it's not even mine I tried to focus on them being happy because they have to be, not me.

[@GeorgiaDow]

yes that moment is so fitting isn't it

[@matildeheinzendossantos1313]

I feel like all Julieta's daughters have the wanting to be perfect/enough in common and it might come from Julieta herself, as she's the oldest of the triplets AND a healer

[@raebeingreal2170]

Actually Julieta spoke to Mirable many times about how much she accepts and loves her as she is. She has told her how amazing she thinks Mirabel is. She also spoke to her mother about her actions towards Mirabel but she was ignored. Abuela was the one that was tough on her children and grandchildren. It was abuela.

[@baby.goblin]

It absolutely doesn’t come from Julieta; she is one of the only to support and truly accept Mirabel

[@ohanabobana]

I agree but I also think, that Abuela probably favored Julieta bc she has the most useful gift, and she expected a lot from her children.

[@matildeheinzendossantos1313]

@@raebeingreal2170 I'm not saying she did it on purpose, but we also teach by example, and I feel that propably Julieta's life is full of 'being useful' and always healing others without having time for herself.

[@lonelyronin2428]

@@matildeheinzendossantos1313 I could tell by her hair. Has the most grey hair, almost as much as Abuela. Where do you get them? Age and STRESS. she spent all her days waking up to feed/ heal a literal village, then worry about her family and deal with Abuela shitting on her youngest.

[@theoscargo]

someone on Twitter commented on Disney’s good job at portraying a collectivist mentality that most Latin families have; Mirabel and Bruno were disregarded and outcasted from their family but they still loved their family. as unhealthy as it is, it’s extremely hard to let go of the trauma, pain, and fights because from a very young age it’s instilled in us that we have to stay together, work together, and move forward together *cries in Spanish*

[@GeorgiaDow]

they did do a great job

[@ShardWintreswolf]

One of the bigger themes that I've seen a lot of folks relate to that isn't talked about as much is how generational trauma affects the children and families of some immigrants. And I'd love to see a professional take on Abuela's trauma and how it affected the family. My take is that: The idea that: "[family member(s)] did so much to get here, and if I don't live up to their expectations/succeed/be useful with the "gift" of a new, better life they worked so hard to get, then I don't have value or worth". And while its false, many times families with unprocessed generational trauma will feel if you dare go against the "norm" in any way, it's likely that person is ostracized because _theoretically_ they're a putting the family's safety at risk in some way and /or betraying them; that the family is still not fully able to feel relaxed, comfortable or accepted because they have to survive above all else. Especially if the first generation of family member(s) who immigrated are still alive, but even generations later, things like tradition and familial responsibility can still be incredibly unhealthy because "that's the way we've always done it" and breaking that tradition/responsibility means, again, betraying the family/risking their home. In Abuela's case, she endured a lot of trauma and didn't process exactly how much that changed her, and to top that off, shes the matriarch of both the family and the town they've created. She admits it herself, that she put too much emphasis on her duty to maintain that "miracle" of not only surviving, but creating a new home. She didn't grieve, because at the time, there probably simply wasn't a chance, her focus was on surviving. If something went wrong, it wasn't happenstance or bad luck, it was because she, and by extension, her family weren't doing enough. And because at the time, not doing enough or not sticking together probably meant not being able to survive, its totally possible she conflated her loss with "not doing enough"; pushing herself and her loved ones more because "not doing enough = loss, or not surviving", and she doesn't want to lose anyone again. In Bruno, the family was shown the times where to them, they weren't doing enough for the family. Not just not being perfect, but also letting their feeling or flaws show and putting the family's survival at risk.

[@yamigooops749]

The comment you made starting at 5:45 about going back to the place and event of trauma made me actually cry, Georgia. In February of 2018 I was a senior in high school, and I was involved in a lifeguard save with one of my best friends of 9 years. He was a highly decorated swimmer, and had missed going to the state finals for swimming by .02 seconds. This happened on the day of those finals, because he wanted to get back in the water to start training for the next season. However, while swimming, he went into sudden cardiac arrest due to an underlying and undiagnosed heart condition. I noticed him underwater but didn't think much of it for about 20-30 seconds before my stomach dropped and I went into action. I got him out of the water, and me and my manager performed CPR on him for nearly 10 minutes until EMS arrived. He ended up passing away 4 days later. Since that event, almost 4 years later, I haven't been able to get into a pool without having a panic attack. Everytime I am submerged in water, I mentally transport back to when I was pulling him up off the bottom of the pool. If I'm being honest, I haven't even tried to get into a pool even once in the last 2 years. Every year on the anniversary of the save (not even the day that he died, because the point of trauma for me is the day of the save) I am unable to function normally du to the grief and mental trauma. I've been going to therapy consistently since it happened, and have made a ton of progress, no longer blaming myself for his death. However, the other night, I had one of the most vivid dreams I've ever had where I was attempting to get back into the pool where it happened and he showed up, essentially telling me it was okay to try again. The last time I had one of these dreams was about a year after the event. Until that point, I would wake up from nightmares about the event almost every night. Then he came to me and said that it was alright to move on, and that he was alright. Since that dream, I have never had another nightmare. I'm not really a religious person, though I am agnostiic and believe we go somewhere when we die and can communicate with loved ones, particularly through dreams. So I'm going to try getting into a pool again in the coming days. But this comment you made really struck home with me, and I'm so glad that this is a normal thing that people go through, even though my therapists have said it is already. I resonated so strongly with this scene, and it's so validating to see this kind of thing depicted on a big screen. Thank you so much for what you do, Georgia. I appreciate your content more than I can say 🥰💕

[@maipe6917]

I’ve spent weeks arguing with with my friend about how the candle had to go out, because it ties the family magic to the greatest trauma the family matriarch ever experienced. The magic needed to be freed from the candle so the family could stop being tied to and defined by that trauma.

[@CavemanFilms]

I just wanted to let you know that I have been struggling for a very long time in my mind, and I didn't really know why. Encanto spoke out to me for some reason, and I still didn't know why. But your analysis and what you said in this video helped me realize mental parts of myself I didn't even know existed that were tied to why I was feeling so badly. Thank you so much.

[@hawklegs6940]

I always wondered about the difficulties of raising 5 year olds with magic powers. Maybe one of the reasons Abuela tries to play it off to the town that everything is fine is because of her children? Especially the aunt who can control the weather. Imagine every time two siblings get in a fight, a massive thunderstorm or hurricane happens! I'm more surprised that Abuela didn't become someone who lets her daughter get away with anything in an effort to tiptoe around her negative emotions that could potentially kill people. I can see why they went the route of trying to stifle her emotions, but it makes me feel so bad for that poor woman. I also suspect that a part of upholding the family image might be Abuela overly trying to prove her family is useful to have around. Perhaps they faced the threat of the group of survivors/refugees leaving her and her three infants behind? Infants are nothing but a liability, so I can see Abuela growing to rely on the gift keeping all the people on horseback out as her leverage for the group to keep her and her children around. Then once they turned 5 and got powers, she has to keep it spun as a benefit for the whole community and not a curse or too much trouble to be worth it. I found it so weird how the whole family is tasked daily with "Help the community." and it always came off as "Earn your place here."

[@Kaybye555]

As a latina more than being being forced by the townspeople (in the end we see them helping, they hint at them asking whats up and it seems they are upset but they were just worried for them as we can see in the end). I believe it is more of a forced gratefulness. When we grow up in an underdeveloped country, we go through very hard situations and therefore we are raised to be grateful (mega grateful) for every small thing. This creates pressure to not ever take anything for grantes. This is a pressure thay Abuela herlself felt. She felt that she got a blessing and therefore was her moral obligation to use it to help others as a form of being (or seaming) grateful. It's very tiresome and exactly what she expects from Isa and Luisa she expects for herself. Abuela has lived like that her whole life, probably conditioned by her own parents. That's why it's generational trauma. You don't notice, it's attitudes passed down through generations

[@hawklegs6940]

@@Kaybye555 Ohhh that makes a lot of sense! My mother is from Russia, and my great grandparents on my dad's side are from Slovakia, so I don't have much context of the latino/latina culture from my family. Thank you for explaining :)

[@Kaybye555]

@@hawklegs6940 sure thing. It's always nice to see communities coming together to learn about one another

[@saraa8661]

@@Kaybye555 so basically, Abuela getting that candle (Casita), that gift put pressure on herself and her family to desperately to prove themselves that they are worth it, worth being in this village. Maybe Abuela making her family picture perfect was a contrast to her trying not to face her trauma? Idk lol. Pls do tell me if I'm wrong I'm finding myself not being able to explain my thoughts correctly, or even grasp full concepts at time hahaha so sorry.

[@Kaybye555]

@@saraa8661 it's ok. It's not to put blame elsewhere. She doesn't know any better. Abuela wants to be of help, and grateful and contribute and help others as a way to honor the gift. When you are given a second chance in life you use it to be of help to others and be kind (that's the main thing). So in her attempt to have everyone be helpful and grateful, she took it too far. It's the classic "you can't complain cause you have food and a roof over your head". You keep doing what you gotta do no matter what, and stop complaining, that's ungrateful. So Abuela is not only passing that Pressure onto the next generations, people seem to miss that Abuela lives by that rule as well. She has all the pressure, she was the first one to carry that pressure. She just believes that's the way to do things. Many people in latin America have that concept of life, you do what you gotta do without complain. So Abuela didn't pull this out of nowhere, it is a cultural idea that still persists in many families and countries

[@H240909]

Georgia: “Perfect is impossible... yes, even for you Jinx.” Me: (PTSD flashbacks of Arcane intensify!!!)

[@GeorgiaDow]

Sorry but Arcane

[@핑엘리]

I've seen this movie... fourteen? Fourteen times, five in theaters. This gave me some lovely perspectives that I hadn't noticed before now- my only wish is that there had been time to address some of the trauma of the other family members (Bruno, especially, would have been interesting to see a study on).

[@EndertheDragon0922]

Oh same, there were some really good opportunities which weren’t taken. I understand why they couldn’t go in depth with every character, since time constraints, but I was pretty surprised that Pepa didn’t get time in the spotlight. She’s always trying to bottle her emotions and the closest thing she got to an arc was Bruno at the end apologizing and telling her she doesn’t need to bottle her emotions and her husband was like “yea lol I’ve been telling her that” and boom arc done she lets her weather happen. I really expected her to have something! It must have been very bad for her to keep that bottled up her whole life, right?

[@Nanoqtran]

It probably would have been way to complex, while the movie touched on many different problems they are ultimately too big for a 30 min cutout (or even an hour) They had to focus on one thing and starting with the communication of expectations of the old generation and new generation has to be the starting point. Alot of the younger generations problems generally originate from the older generations expectations and until we unravel that we cannot even begin the conversation of the other problems. Hopefully they will continue to flesh out these problems but I'm just glad they started out on a strong foundation.

[@shouayang6518]

I just watch Encanto and i love it on how much they put into the grandmother. The grandmother reminds me of my own parents. Like her my parents had to flee thier home from war and I can see her how much she is in pain and haunted by her pass that she doesn't want to talk about it and how much everyone act or expected to act. Truly a real person with a painful pass.

[@cautiousgalaxy4613]

I always mask my chronic pain. When I'm in alot of pain I don't want to smile and pretend I feel good. I usually am hurting so much I want to go to the ER. It's hard to go to a family dinner when almost everytime we go anywhere I end up laying in the backseat of the car.

[@GeorgiaDow]

That sounds horrible. I am so sorry to hear that I hope you find a way to alleviate some of the pain you are dealing with,

[@jackwhitbread4583]

I mask mine too, at first I didn't but I couldn't handle the distress it caused those close to me so instead I started to hide it and I've become very good at it. I never complain and if I do find it hard to cope with I developed a tenancy to hide myself in a quiet corner of the house and I'll just read a book or listen to opera music to relax and take a break so I'm not a burden to anyone but myself

[@acheykai]

I just wanted to comment and say how much I appreciate how much effort you put into all your videos. Not just the closet cosplay (which they're all amazing btw), but how dedicated you are to making sure you seeing things in the right light, re-watching things multiple times, seeing things from each characters perspective. Not to mention the way you view each scene with such delicate detail and how you explain everything so to the point with sympathy and psychologically (obviously). Yeah, anyway, this is just the perfect channel for my brain because I'm such an intellectual thinker and just viewing how peoples brains work, and the human brain in general, is just so interesting. So ,Thank you!! And I wish you well for all the videos to come! :] (ps a video on the other members of the family would be so great, like pepa and her anxiety and people telling her to 'calm down, get rid of the cloud', ect)

[@GeorgiaDow]

this means so much to me. It is so rewarding that you see and appreciate the work I do. You taking the time to comment is very kind. thx for being in my community

[@StonedHunter]

I love how you talk about how hard and painful it can be to be told we've done wrong and hurt people. It's especially true for those who have suffered the kinds of trauma Abuela Alma has gone through. This movie covered generational trauma so beautifully that it still makes me tear up when i think of it weeks after seeing it.

[@tenshikuroko9405]

Love the video! Although I was a little disappointed that "Surface Pressure" wasn't addressed, but I loved it all the same!

[@Sam-xd8fy]

Probably gonna be it's own video.

[@tenshikuroko9405]

@@Sam-xd8fy I really hope so! Its my favourite song from Encanto.

[@andrewabril4481]

Lets hope it is

[@GeorgiaDow]

If I do one on Luisa you know it will happen. It Is my Fav song of the movie and have listened to it too many times.

[@annexsis5181]

@@GeorgiaDow can u do bruno too :)

[@Ace_Mentura]

I love your videos, they help me a lot to understand the psychology of the characters, so that it would be easier for me to write my characters believably

[@GeorgiaDow]

happy they are helpful

[@maem7462]

The want to do more happens with Mirabel and both her sisters. The song surface pressure really brings that up for Luisa. She also has a bunch of pressure on her

[@GeorgiaDow]

Yes and its an amazing song as well I really feel it

[@ijlayugan4149]

Favorite thing about Georgia other than her reviews/reactions is her cosplay

[@GeorgiaDow]

Aww !! thank you

[@thingsihate_3333]

16:00 that's where the story becomes fiction to me. A family head ACTUALLY apologizing, not shift the blame or saying "sorry you think you need an apology" because I come from a family of generational trauma and they never, NEVER take that accountability. Yes, bad things happened, yes, I understand that you hurting me wasn't the intent BUT YOU STILL DID. You STILL hurt me and all I want is acknowledgement of my pain, validation and maybe a little remorse for the past hurt. I KNOW it won't change tge past, I'm not asking you to, just say you're sorry for the hurt you caused! God I'm crying. This movie just rips out my heart because that happy end will NEVER happen for me. I will never be acknowledged for everything that's happened, she will NEVER apologize because she doesn't think it's needed and it hurts, God it fucking HURTS. 💔😣

[@pier-lucperras6962]

Mirabel's a really strong character, if I was in her shoes, I would just leave and go live my own life. And thinking that if the family's falling apart, that would be their problems.

[@nyxnightmare3542]

Literally everyone in the family was abused as children, including the grandmother. People rarely just magically develop the need to have perfection. Usually that need is tied to their parents who forced the idea of perfection onto them, creating a never ending cycle. She wouldn't have even had to face harsh perfection like she herself was using; Even the slightest forcing from your parents can make you WORSE than they were, especially if you don't find ways to resolve the issues from it.

[@Rowanstarr]

She didn't abuse them. She held herself to a higher standard to be worthy of the gift. She then passed that on to her kids and grandchildren.

[@Spectralyzed]

5:50 I had a spinal fusion surgery at the beginning of my Junior Year of High School, and now, as I'm heading into college, I get an overwhelming sense of anxiety when I discuss going into school again. I didn't actually connect the two until I had a discussion with my psychologist about it, up until that point it was just unexplainable anxiety every time my parents would try to get me to enroll, and just me explaining the anxiety keyed him in that it was probably a trauma response. He explained it very similarly to how you explained it, that when someone goes through trauma, even if you know that's what it is, when you are put in a situation that reminds you of that experience, your body just goes into fight or flight mode. And you can't really stop it.

[@t.h.mcelroy6597]

Encanto and Arcane coming out together is such an unbelievable privilege. Both, incredibly well written, voiced acted, and animated, full of heart and passion. I'm beyond grateful. So glad you covered them both! Great video 💛

[@LittleHobbit13]

_"Where the real healing comes from is us recognizing that it's not our titles or our deeds [...]. It's in who you are as a person."_ This is what I like about the reprisal of the line "open your eyes" in Mirabel's song with Abuela saying it again in "All of You". In the beginning of the movie, Mirabel sings about how if she only had a Gift she would do great things like her family does. She's defining _herself_ just as much by _not_ having a Gift as anyone else and isn't really counting the other great qualities that she possesses. It's her role in the story to get the family to see each other beyond their Gifts, and then at the end of it all, it's her turn. She has to see herself separately from the magic. "I see....me. All of me."

[@mr.wiggles362]

After learning about attachment theory, i started looking at everything with an "attachment theory perspective". Honestly, you can describe her personality, her feelings and needs as an Anxious Preoccupied.

[@kiratheusagiisworkshop5266]

I hope we'll get some insight in Bruno and/or the triplets because it feels like there's a lot to unpack there and how much the husband's have helped!

[@nataliagrazielacaldeira8504]

I cried a lot when grandma says "I expected a different life" and I cried when the song "Dos oruguitas" started, but I didn't cry when Mirabel's grandmother treated her harshly. After I understood that my mother, who is a widow, treats me similarly and maybe I got used to it.

[@rymhns9426]

The second best part after your incredible explications is the way you mimic (cosplay) the character appearance 🤩! Btw curly hair suits you beautifully and thank you for your reactions !

[@GeorgiaDow]

thanks =) I like my hair curly as well. This was a lot of fun to do and she is such a wonderful character to react to.

[@Ironor8]

I love how you take care in dressing up for each video as the main character that is discussed! It's an excellent touch to a video made great by the deep dive and commentary!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thx for enjoying it. Love the mild cosplays also

[@Delluvian]

"Perfect is impossible. Yes, even for you, Jinx." Nice one. ;) Great video as always, Georgia. I love that you get so emotionally into these videos. It really goes a long way to show how empathetic you are, and I am one of those people who really appreciate that in professionals. If I ever need to go into therapy, that's what I would want from my therapist.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Huge compliment !!

[@twstroastmemesfortoxicfans5705]

@@GeorgiaDow I love Jinx

[@thewatchersystem3344]

I have dissociative episodes with Alters and I relate with everything in this video so so much, especially the role of the Caretaker. We have littles (young/child alters) who hold traumas related to taking up too much weight and taking the blame for everything. Hearing what you said was so healing and reassuring. Thank you so much 😊😭

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thank you for sharing some of your story. I hope you are well and thank you for being a part of my channel.

[@graceh1505]

one of my favorite details in this movie is at the beginning of the movie, Mirabel picks a string off of her dress before leaving her bedroom, and that stray pink string is what led Abuela to her by the riverbank in the end of the movie. I dont know if I am overthinking it, but I like to believe this shows that Abuela, despite how it looked and how she treated Mirabel throughout the movie, DID see her and notice her because she knew that string was from Mirabel's skirt

[@JaggerG]

One point of criticism: if a family blames a single person, it sounds really reinforcing to describe it as a machine that needs all its cogs functioning. They’re just like “Yeah, exactly, you get it! She’s the broken cog that’s hurting us.”

[@Mafer.Vz89]

I enjoy watching you go on and on with so much love and empathy not only for the characters you're analyzing, but to the people that might feel related to them. I'm so glad our field has someone as involved as you are... another amazing video to share with my family hahaha... Amazing outfit, creativity on point every time!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thank you for noticing and being so kind.

[@aelitamcgarden442]

Okay, I really cried... This was amazing! Do you think you could do one with Pepa? She had to control her emotions since she's five...

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you !

[@courtneywalker2187]

This movie and your commentary made me cry. It's so relatable to my own personal story. I am Mirabel 1000% and I wish my parents were like Abuela in the end. I wish that was a more realistic result. It has been such a huge mental pain over many years that they won't really listen and understand how they were mentally abusive so that we can work on healing our relationship. I tried to live up to their high expectations all my life, all while being told I would never be good enough. I got straight A's in high school, with the exception of 2 A-'s. And I still get made fun of for those grades at the age of 30. And that's just one example. My life has been so mentally exhausting and painful. This movie was really hard for me because it brought up those memories all over again. My family's always told me that it was all in my head and that I was exaggerating, but movies like this continue to remind me that I'm not alone in my situation. Sorry for the long story - I could go on and on. Thank you for sharing a therapist's take on this! It helps knowing others get it.

[@Fraudbull98]

I love how you just break down the whole movie and their emotions just what we needed i guess

[@clury9477]

I love this KZbin channel so much. Something about Georgia makes me feel so comforted and warm

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you Resi makes me feel good to hear that

[@Tasha-lz1ic]

I cried during the movie multiple times and I cried again watching this. This movie hits home. Hits hard. I should watch this with my mom and my brother while I still can.

[@axphile]

I love the glasses and the blouse, very accurate for Mirabel! Love the video, love the analysis

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thank you so much!!

[@wolfybear7129]

i connect with Mirabel so much like the pain of not being special like others makes me so upset yet i tell myself i can be better when i in fact im not, so i wear a mask that makes me look so happy in front of people but really im hurt and the pain is growing.

[@TabbyMic]

That was a beautiful analysis. I really resonated with Mirabel. Now I have a better understanding why.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I'm so glad!

[@TheSlowRunner]

I watched your arcane series but your analysis really deepens my understanding for properties I love. Thanks.

[@GeorgiaDow]

thanks

[@legendoflex6881]

I definitely agree with what you had to say about the end of the movie! Honestly after Abuela's sincere apology I was afraid that Mirabel would say something along the lines of "its okay". How she was gonna accept or not accept her apology was what was most important to me, and the fact that she does not deny the fact that yes, the family being broken is because of her. But she doesnt say that she agrees or disagrees. She gives a moment of silence to show that she accepts her words for what they mean, but then immediately afterwards gives back her empathy to her to help her heal and feel accepted and forgiven when that was the first time she allowed herself to be vulnerable to anyone in her family in years

[@pinkpugilist]

This is the first of your videos I've seen, and I don't know how your analysis did it, but it got me choked up. Beautiful.

[@BurntSoupp]

I love how much effort you put into dressing as the characters I love it so much

[@GeorgiaDow]

thanks !

[@aricheec7722]

this video is what finally made me sit down with my mom and talk about generational trauma. they dont joke when they say the first step to healing is the hardest one

[@ericathofferson4164]

What Abuela does to her family, especially Mirabel, is not just generational trauma, but also psychological neglect and abuse.

[@lizillusion2318]

This is why I love all of the characters, their powers, personalities, and struggles just all bounce off each other perfectly for a very genuinely dysfunctional family. I definitely relate to Pepa and Isabela the most, as I feel both the necessity for perfection and I’m emotional as hecc.

[@alfonczarnowski971]

Beautiful analysis. I see a lot of myself in this character and its nice to get some insight on it.

[@Scipio0404]

I felt Mirabel' and Isa's character so much. That perfection that you have to show and thinking about everything you do, since even if you just slip for one a second everything just falls apart. Putting everyone's happynes first and thinking about your's last and the things you can't do because you constantly think how it will affect the others.

[@nicci_rose]

I love this so much !!! I haven’t seen a lot of people analyze mirabel as much as her family and it was really cool to see what you thought of her

[@janelhartman1145]

This movie feels like it's almost about my family and this video is great at breaking down stuff I needed to hear.

[@alishabamba4551]

I'm so happy you did encanto!!!!!!

[@GeorgiaDow]

me too =)

[@CearaIvory]

I love these videos. Would like to say it’s very important to be careful not to be too empathetic to you have to know when to forgive and let go but you also need to be able to recognize when it’s gone too far when you’ve given too many chances and it’s time for you to go.

[@noahhightower8222]

I absolutely LOVE Encanto and just watched it for the sixth time last night (the night before this video was uploaded). After watching Encanto again, I immediately wished that Georgia would make a reaction video for it. Wishes really DO come true! Thank you so much! This movie has so much depth and things to analyze and discuss.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Just for you =) thanks for being a part of my KZbin family

[@yariiiichan]

I never knew I could relate so much to Mirabel. Everything you said and explain is so relatable of the things I went through and trauma I have.

[@classicslover]

GEORGIA: I'm not going to cry on this one. ME: (Smiles knowingly; ) And WOW! Your cosplay ensemble! Just WOW! And such detail...and effort (thinking of your hair...and the shoulder butterfly). And, of course, as always, such AMAZING insights. Super sensitive to others feelings and lovingly understanding. And perhaps I'm wrong...(it's been known to happen;) but was there...a breath of an indicator...wisp of a hint...that you are personally relating.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thank you CL always thoughtful comments and insight. means a lot to me

[@classicslover]

@@GeorgiaDow You are so very welcome milady! (Bows deeply)

[@sarahp4855]

I relate a lot to Mirabell especially during Waiting On A Miracle and when she was walking up with Antonio. I cried so much during that movie. My brothers are the sweetest boys I’ve ever met and biologically they’re my cousins but they went through hell and are now my brothers. I’d do anything for my brothers. My dad has ptsd and during one of his episodes (?) (it’s the best I can explain it) and threw stuff at my brothers and one ran outside and the other ran to his room. My dad went after the one that ran to his room and I tried to get between them but by the time I got to his room my mom was already there dealing with it. I ran outside to my other brother and he was sitting on the swing and my sister was standing watching the door. And I remember once when my parents were fighting my sister woke me up and took me outside to get away from it and she sat me on the swing and just held me. And so I held my brother as tight as I could and I realized then how much stuff my sister protected me from and now that she was in college it was my turn to do that for my brothers. No one got hurt and my dad has gotten so much better. I resonated a lot with Mirabell and the pressure she went through. It’s safe to say I sobbed during that movie lol

[@emiyuu5112]

6:04 When you said that it's difficult to come back to setting where you've been hurt, i instantly remember the time when i was hurt on a school summer camp. To this day, I refuse to attend any school camps, because of this one event. Just a little thought i had during this part, coming back to watching the video now :D

[@meri.222]

i appreciate your videos so much!! i would absolutely love a video about luisa or bruno, they're both so complex

[@GeorgiaDow]

thanks so much

[@DrRyguy24]

I recently found your channel and have been watching many of your older videos and I'd like to say thank you for doing what you are doing. Your understanding and empathy and honesty comes through very clearly. Your patients are fortunate to have you.

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you =)

[@olivergregory5093]

This movie made me cry pretty much from start to finish. I thought something was going wrong with my HRT (testosterone should make you less emotional, not more, right?) but nope, it's just this movie. Every. Damn. Time.

[@lemonythicket1406]

Felt in every sense. I’d cried three times only a half hour into the movie. Honestly, T hasn’t really made it harder for me to cry like it has for a lot of people, but that’s okay by me! It’s nice to be able to.

[@genera1013]

I'm not an expert on the subject or anything, but I've read that testosterone causes heightened levels of irrationality. That's why emotions run rampant during a person's period, because they have an increase of testosterone being produced. So I wouldn't be surprised if your HRT didn't make you MORE likely to cry. Though, to be fair, it is a very emotionally charged film.

[@lemonythicket1406]

@@genera1013 It’s actually more complicated than that. You can have mood swings and irritability as a result of too much testosterone, sure, but those symptoms also occur when you have too little testosterone. Hormonal fluctuations themselves can cause mood instability, but when you’re at consistent and healthy levels it doesn’t make you more volatile or irrational, necessarily. Many people on T report crying less and being more prone to anger than sadness than before. /lh /nm (Sorry for the quick reply! It’s just something that interests me and I got the notification, lmao)

[@parkerbrown-nesbit1747]

I'm way past menopause, and it made me cry. It's just a bloody brilliant, very emotional movie.

[@HisBelovedSon70x7]

I am so glad I found you. From the moment I saw your face and started to hear you speak I got excited. I immediately perceived a strength in you that I delight to find, because it is both precious and rare. The strength I speak of is a strength to love well. A strength that is both a gift and a reward for those who are diligent in exercising it. It is clear to me that you have suffered much in the pursuit of loving well, and it shows in your countenance, the compassion behind your words, and your calm and confident demeanour. I was blessed to hear you demonstrate empathy and understanding for these characters. I danced around in my living room multiple times as I was joyfully listening to you sharing your thoughtful and empathic insight. It brings me joy to know there are people like you in the helping profession that can bring healing, restoration and insight to hurting, lost and vulnerable people. May God bless you, protect you and cause you to feel the full measure of His delight. Thank you for choosing love. I am so very grateful.

[@Vyyyper2]

I am soooo glad to see you absolutely CRUSHING IT on KZbin!!! Keep doing your thing!!!!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Awesome Vyyyyyyper = ) thank you so much and your new channel Wow !!

[@divergentmisfit]

The eldest child often finds themselves as the care taker. The childhood of the eldest child gets taken away as they become parentified with both parents going to work and someone has to look after the kids until parents finish work. So this disconnect from the Matriarch of the family happens when that eldest child is made to be the stand in parent. I often wonder if it’s guilt or a refusal to acknowledge that they placed responsibility on the shoulders of the eldest who didn’t consent to being a caregiver etc…

[@priscillahannah7691]

"Where the real healing comes from is us recognizing that it's not our titles or deeds or jobs or careers. It's in who you are as a person." Thank you so much for this content, Georgia! 🥺

[@GeorgiaDow]

appreciate you thanks for being here

[@soirema]

"Its not who we are, but what we do, that defines us" - Batman

[@Rubberman202]

I saw Encanto for the first time recently, lovely movie. I see people, mostly people lamenting the lack of true "Disney Villains" in recent movies, complaining how "inter-generational trauma" has basically replaced the villain, and this movie sticks out in terms of... that. Of course, not every movie needs a villain, and this movie works just fine without one. In fact, I think it works better that there are no true villains, since I feel like a lot of us can relate to negative feelings that stem from how some of our family members make us feel, even if said family members aren't bad people or intentionally trying to be abusive. In the case of this movie, Mirabel not getting a gift is the inciting incident that leads to an eventual confrontation of how Abuela Alma handles her family, something that was inherently broken and needed to be addressed, though it's still ambiguous as to why Mirabel didn't get a gift (I read it was intentionally written that way, apparently). It makes me wonder if Alma would continue to run things the way she had if Mirabel did get a gift... Also, this movie has great music. You can't go wrong with Lin-Manuel Miranda!

[@ZacharyTay]

Georgia, your videos never fail to make my day better ❤️I love your analysis and listening to your insights!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Aw thank you for sharing that. This comment made mine

[@ragewireloki6213]

This movie broke me. I’m a combination of bruno,mirabel and luisa. I always thought of myself as useless and at times overcompensate but in the words bruno”my talent wasn’t helping the family. But uh,but I love my family,you know.” I’m talented when it comes to animation. But it always feels like its never good enough. But then it got worse where I started crying in the middle of the public. It was awful. This movie helps me,by letting me know that I’m not alone.

[@bluseymour6947]

"Perfect is imposible... yes, even for you Jinx." Silco wants your location

[@GeorgiaDow]

Ha (hides)

[@ttstwist3253]

17:37 yeah, I feel that. I also say I'm not gonna cry but end up doing so. I'm someone who, as my family like to say, "cries for everyone". (Apparently I'm very empathic from what my therapist says, hehe). My family often has to check on me if they know I'm watching a new show or reading just in case since my crying triggers my asthma.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Super feelers unite =) Kind of them to check on you