What To Do When Meeting His Family

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It's coming up to holiday season, and if you're in a new relationship, it's likely you're going to be meeting your partner's family.
There's no getting away from it... this can be a terrifying time for anyone.
I don't want you to feel like you're going in on your own without support here, and so in this week's video I've put together 10 clear action steps that you can follow to relax and leave a lasting impression that will cause your guy to think, "I knew I made the right decision".
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[@ilisilva88]

I like that part about respecting the protector.

[@vidycz15]

"compliment people nothing can go wrong" "that skirt is so fetch"

[@laurenchafin2404]

+vidycz15 "OMG that is the ugliest effing skirt i've ever seen"

[@sarahimansubhan9745]

"Everyone should just STAB CEASER!!!"

[@jimenasalasugarte6935]

Hahahahahahahaha

[@girlwithacamera27]

vidycz15 I love this so much😂 and the funny thing is most guys probably don’t understand it

[@mr_spookypants]

vidycz15 hahahahaha love it!!!

[@Ynmintt]

1. Don't try to impress too much, give your own opinions 2. Don't be cold with the colder person in the room 3. If in doubt, be affectionate 4. Complement liberately 5. Respect the protector in the family 6. Help out when you can 7. Bring something that shows you thought of them 8. Don't be in a hurry to show how much you love your partner 9. Don't be to eager to show your success 10. Don't gossip

[@sethtenrec]

#4 freedom for all!

[@SaikolaM]

Now that I've realized how much you can do wrong, I NEVER want to meet the parents haha. Seems so damn stressful!

[@midnightportal3952]

Same .-. I have to next Wednesday and don't want to .

[@MistahUnknown]

What do you mean "I have to"? If you are not feeling comfortable doing something, don't rush into it. Maybe you aren't ready to meet the parents as yet... I do wish you good luck on that day

[@siennavenezia792]

Be afraid, be very afraid.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

How did it go?

[@mikilovesanime]

I have to meet them tomorrow night for dinner :/ helpp

[@lovemecom3832]

In short just be yourself! That's it, you don't need to impress them to become a person that they want you to be.

[@LoveStrategies]

Great video Matt. These tips are great for meeting anyone at anytime - not just the family. This is important advice for anyone out there.

[@GerthuyaRana]

Sexy Confidence g

[@irenemugo8367]

I actually, agree with you Sexy confidence. I've just watched now and thought of replaying again with that mindset -of meeting anyone

[@michellerimanmarakus5298]

I'm going to his parents house tomorrow and I am very good at ruining any conversations I hope I don't ruin this one 😂😂😂

[@Solydathaifan]

Michelle Riman Marakus how did it go?

[@kamseumelanie5911]

😂😂😂😂

[@dorothysimply1050]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 🙌🙌🙌

[@veekay3158]

@@Solydathaifan No, reply after 3 years. RIP

[@sethtenrec]

Michelle, time to report back

[@paolanazzaro8966]

What you said about gossiping reminded me of a guy I used to date who used to say only mean things about his exes. Every time he was talking about them I immediately tought: "who knows what he's gonna say about me once we break up". It is indeed very unattractive

[@thehautecouture14]

I'm a senior in highschool and I'm meeting his parents but he's the principals son, I couldn't be more nervous!!!

[@arveengill9418]

Aww good luck! Like Matthew said let your personality shine through :)

[@rod3546]

Are you still with him?

[@thenewtypetheory1616]

How did it go?!

[@wawaskittletits4031]

Are you still with him?

[@valkyriesanborn189]

I am meeting my boyfriend's mother tomorrow and I am excited... she seems like a great person... from what I hear. I am not really nervous... I feel really confident that she will really like me... parents usually do like me. 🥰 My boyfriend met my parents a couple of weeks ago and it went so well. My family is really likeable and creates the most amazing environment that people usually wanna be a part of. That really put my boyfriend at ease. My dad has a lot of respect for my boyfriend for being an upstanding guy who treats me well. Wish us luck! Things are going well!

[@sarahdavid147]

Yeah my family is really accepting but then my boyfriends family is super if not overly cautious about anyone dating their son. They don’t know what to think about me yet.

[@kim123792]

You need your own TV show all young women needs to hear things these real rules of life I love It. True words keeping it real

[@22dolxxxphin22]

1)Don't try to empress too much 2)Don't be cold to the coldest person in the room. Don't alienate them. Kill them with kindness 3)If in doubt be affectionate. If you are an hugger, hug. 4)Complimate people and be kind 5)Respect the protector of the house (mother or older sister) 6)Help when you can. At least offer to help. 7)Bring something. Better if it is something connected to them. Try to be original and specific. 8)Don't be over-affectioned with your partner. Don't try to show how amazing is your relationship 9)Don't try too hard to show your achievements and good qualities. Don't seek attention, let them find out your achievements with time. 10)Don't gossip!!!

[@hailyami3660]

The one that looks cold but is the nicest

[@cing9545]

Its not that you have to show it in front of other people. I think the easiest way to show it is to be it. To be kind, to be thoughtful, to be respectful, to help out, to avoid gossip.

[@saeidehrad5070]

When I see you uploaded a video, I rush to see it as soon as possible It gives me a big smile It's so heartwarming to see how generous and caring you are Thank you for your existence matt^^

[@Toulousegatito]

Meeting my boyfriends family for the first time, and spending Xmas with them. 😊

[@briannarussell5021]

This video scared me😂😂

[@nstruebluey39]

Matt, Looking at your videos I can't help but ask myself, 'why isn't Matthew married?" I later realized that people like you come in the world to help others. Knowing what you know, the love will find you. You seem to put us first. X

[@HLB313]

He doesn't discuss his own relationships, so he may be. At his events none of his team wear a ring. I saw him say in an interview he didn't want his own relationship status to come under scrutiny so he keeps it private.

[@LilMissonamission1982]

Because he is waiting to marry me loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool i'm play he is amazing though

[@jessicaw9011]

maybe he's just one of those people who chooses not to (get married and just stay single). Doesn't even have to be a player kind of mentality, just for some people that's not the end game, like some people not wanting kids.

[@twigzyisdying]

He's literally wearing a ring lol

[@sarahcube12]

The coach doesn’t play the game

[@lovellsouthey6661]

i loved the "be kind".... thats the best advice!

[@sundaisycake3372]

Thank God I'm watching this right now, I'm going to a baby shower this Sunday, and I needed to know what to do and what to say! Thank you so much Mathew You!

[@MrBurritofish]

This was a great video way more helpful than the others I've seen, where they state obvious "tips" like "smile" and "be nice"! These tips were actually informative thank you!

[@hobbyhive]

I'm the girl everyone wants to match up with their sons. I've never met parents that didn't like me. But the guy himself, I sometimes find, gets annoyed because his family likes me so much he feels pressured to consolidate the relationship and all of a sudden it is their idea that he should settle down with me, not his. :/ Guess I've got to wait till I find a guy who is secure enough in the knowledge of whether he loves me for me, not because I tick all the boxes.

[@aphroditeg2712]

After meeting the family, say sth like: "I loved meeting your folks, but I love you and us the most and want us to progress at our own pace." Assuming you are happy with the pace the two of you are prgressing. If you want things to move faster, mention sth about how it's great the family sees the two of you as a couple and how that will help you two grow your relationship

[@sophiaaguado9483]

teach me your ways!

[@lavvylass]

Share some tips please :)

[@Be1smaht]

I really want to talk to you. I'm curious about that quality

[@Be1smaht]

@@sophiaaguado9483 I'm so surprised that others are curious about this too

[@elsie877]

I used your advice and his mom loves me! It was such a great meeting. thank you for the advice!!

[@abigailraquel5402]

These tips were on point!!!!! 👌 especially in regards to respecting the protector of the family and not showing too much affection for your boyfriend in front of the family. Makes things very uncomfortable for the family!!!

[@AshyShash]

Oh my God, he looks a lot like Daniel Radcliffe. He even sounds like him and has similar movements.

[@rosegarcia2371]

Aisling Kelleher He belongs on Grey's Anatomy. McHunky.....hahahaha

[@Ninitschga]

Thanks a lot for this video Mat! Even though I already met my partner's family in 2008 for the first time and I get along with them very well it's always good to be reminded of the small things that make life easier - especially around this time of the year when everybody is very ambitious & eager to create special moments for the whole family to enjoy. Right now there are quite a few changes happening in our life and my sister in law is going through a rough time, so my husband's parents are a little worried, because at this point we're all in transition and nobody knows how / if our plans will work out. This video was really what I needed to remind myself of what they need from me right now. :)

[@Thehaha2014]

"They will ruin your shit!" Lol

[@Sassygonzo]

Lol i know right. Best thing ever

[@AdisCandra]

married for almost a year, currently on the train to meet the family for the first time. this video helps tremendously.

[@julijafirer3969]

I'm scareeeed I'm meeting his mum today this is so stressful she's really nice and kind but I'm still panicing god

[@jocelynpimentel1428]

How did it go?

[@rorrt]

What worked well for me was at a family gathering, which had my anxiety through the roof. But forcing myself to be away from my GF as she would be my safety blanket. And speak with as many people as I could manage, then return back to my GF and relay any bits and pieces of information I gathered.. Massive win-win. I learned loads of cool stuff from a diverse range of people. And i think it showed her that "hmm, he wants to be part of the tribe" [or words to that effect]. Plus having a sort of order of gentle questions to ask.. I'm from the UK, and my GF's family loves football and film, so I could have some pretty interesting conversations pretty quickly.

[@PaulsMom93]

I’ve been doing dishes and setting the table, and taking peoples plates when they are done with their dinner. It’s the least I can do for the wonderful meal they provided!

[@CelestialHeartz]

I love how applicable your videos are, to so many different situations in life. :)

[@helenarichard]

You're like a friend to me Matt. I don't know if it's solely because of your videos, but I found the man of my dreams this summer. I'm meeting his family this weekend and of course I came here for a quick check.

[@kayleecole4512]

I'm supposed to meet my boyfriend's mom, brother and sister today. And I talked to his mom and sister a little on the phone and they seem nice. 🙏

[@gamblingchick5152]

Love this video already met them so stressful and it was around the holidays too! Thanks Matthew for the video needed this.

[@smartlinkage]

Everything you said in this is completely spot on. So impressed with your broad insight and depth.

[@daisychimbay437]

This is the most and only helpful video especially for mature relationships!! Ty!

[@SantNabi]

In my culture, (West African) you should be nice, but yet quiet and well mannered. Not too many jokes or compliments.. In fact, you should avoid eye contact with the elderly, and not be too loud. And for the rest that he advised, definitely do. Gifts, cleaning up, connect with them etc.. And be yourself. :)

[@saddestjas]

Thank you for this, truly gonna rewatch and prepare myself. I’m so scared but also excited…

[@teacis471]

2:45 compliment honestly. Fake compliments are obvious.

[@karenjacome7117]

OMG I found the right video! southamerican meeting my boyfriend's family this thanksgiving!. You're the best Matt!

[@tibahasan3753]

I would offer to help with food and dishes , but i wish they wouldn't let me.. I want to have fun chatting and snacking=))

[@kamseumelanie5911]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 me too

[@SpaceOcelot4548]

Needed this! My boyfriend is the youngest/only male in his family, so I’m meeting two protectors, his mum and his older sister.

[@mollysdemetri]

THANK YOU SO MUCH! I've been feeling nervous about meeting his family and I'm really happy you made this video.

[@roonevieve7946]

When talking to a new friend I always say 'do you have any song recommendations I have completely run out of songs I like' some people will explode at the question and open their Spotify ect. If they say no then idk start talking about songs u like HAHABA

[@ToEnlightInLove]

I appreciate the part about the Protector.

[@elizabeth96270]

I love you so much for the contribution you have made by teaching people how to communicate, thus perfecting their life. Sincerely. - Elizabeth

[@lovellsouthey6661]

this is wonderful advice for meeting ANYONE!!!! thank you

[@KpopLunatic]

Thank you Matthew! Your tips are so dead on accurate! :) Everything you say really makes sense and have a reason. I was nodding my head & agreeing throughout the video hahaha. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving Matthew! :)

[@heathermuffins]

Here's a question for you: What should you do if the "protector"(i.e. mom) finds out something about you that makes them not like you anymore? My ex's mom found out I was an atheist after we'd been together about two years and went from loving me to hating me almost immediately. I didn't tell her, but it is a part of my life, she was bound to find out eventually.

[@camzjones]

this was very useful, thank you so much!

[@Bellecinno]

Literally lying down in the same way as you are in your pic xD

[@camzjones]

haha

[@midnighthowl7671]

05:36 serious face lol

[@jjello3943]

The video: How to meet their parents The ad: Do you know how to dirty talk? Surprisingly dirty talk isn’t dirty, it’s beautiful. It turns them on

[@mysocialaccount9026]

Watching this in 2019 before thanksgiving and freaking out...

[@carolinatopete8830]

Going to meet my boyfriend parents tomorrow night I'm so nervous its giving me bad anxiety 😬

[@jennakenna7252]

I Love you to Matt this was a very clear & concise vid/info good job.! Shout out to Jameson also lol.!

[@Quinn_wolf]

I found this video at a good time because I’m meeting my gf’s family on Black Friday when they’re having their Thanksgiving dinner. I’m nervous as heck because yAaAy, social anxiety

[@Rosey7teen]

I'm the protector haha. I'd probably rip someone apart if I thought they weren't good enough for my brother.

[@chenda2067]

How to deal with family member that will interview out the door on every levels of topics they could think of?

[@sneakystef]

please do a video on tinder and your thoughts on it! i think its ruining dating for everyone!

[@camthinguyen398]

I’m coming over to my future in-laws in 2 days. Oh my god. I’m freaking out.

[@alexlisamarie7953]

Cẩm Thi Nguyễn how did it go?

[@camthinguyen398]

Alex Lisa Marie fortunately, his family loves me. Lol. Now his mom texted me often and she kinda takes my side in anything

[@genesisurrutia]

I'm from Latin-America, and we are normally hugers and kissers, and it's weird when you go to kiss or hug someone from Europe, because they usually they don't do it. But it's normal to do it and they like it, they feel you are warm and friendly. Also smile and talking about how it was your life in your country.

[@jayjay-lt8uz]

French people kiss but don’t hug. I remember the first time I met a British person, I kissed them and they were shocked haha I felt bad

[@CIRCLEOF4TRESS]

Nice video. I met my in Laws for the first time in the Philippines in May 2019. Awesome experience!

[@FRMHEVN]

Matthew you are a treasure. Thank you. Hope your day is awesome! 💖🙏🕊🌞

[@fortunatelebelo259]

There can’t be a Matt video without mentioning Suzan 🤣😂 what a lucky girl 😊

[@joycekim1738]

"Kill them with kindness" @1:48 in the video....that moment when Selena Gomez's newest song "Kill em' with kindness' rings a bell....lmaooo

[@mitchellusayiwevu2344]

Matthew started it haha

[@luvclothes]

I met his family this week. Few days before thanksgiving... I'm glad it happened tht way being tht I won't be able to make it to his family's thanksgiving

[@vlj9013]

I remember during my University time, my boy friend brought me home to see his parents and friends. I screwed up and didn't regret. Now I work as an expat, it's so difficult to meet someone serious enough to bring me to their parents.

[@anne34879]

I have Italian bf and when I used to live together, I had to visit to my bf’s brother’s family every month and also had to stay 2 days there sometimes. It was weird for me and stressful. Now I’m a bit relieved after the start of a long distance relationship.

[@avriltheindigo3429]

I'd been wondering about this exact topic lately... Thank you for posting it :D

[@DIAMONDGIRL57]

Compliments need to be genuine; don’t compliment to impress. Anyone can see through fakeness.

[@KerolsGames]

Now I’m even more scared to meet everyone at Christmas

[@duct_tapeheart6484]

Thanksgiving 2017 is tomorrow!!! Super excited to have found this video to add to my arsenal of relationship tools.

[@helenarichard]

The offer to help is important. My parents command me, so i always forget to offer. So when my partners asked to help to do the dishes, i am always pleasently surprised. Unfortunately, that means i have to help too haha. I wash and he dries. It reminds me to always offer to do dishes if people cooked for me. My sister in law never offers that and my parents think she's lazy and rude but yeah nothing they can do about it. They don't hate her but you don't choose your family in law and it shows.

[@monicalevyt]

This video caused so much anxiety in me!!!

[@MoCtheFirst]

"They will ruin your shit" - so true XD

[@WhiteAngelLovesEarth]

I'm kinda dead inside, it's impossible to make a good impression. ;D

[@nryan8190]

Meeting my bfs mom tomorrow who is from Kazakhstan, I don't speak Russian and she doesn't speak English lol. The anxiety levels are so high!! But something my bf said is to ALWAYS help clean up after a meal etc.

[@jessicaw9011]

I tended to do most of this already, except the helping out part, when I met my ex-fiance's family for the first time and every time after. Our (second) first date was him inviting me to a family wedding :p

[@rahaenayatshoar9271]

I really liked your advice like always. I don't have a partner, now. But I check your tutorial every week. I think most of them are necessary lessons for daily life in any kind of relationship with men or women, young or old. I feel you a close friend of mine who's a profession. I do thank you. Raha

[@lilymay8913]

Very timely for me as im meeting my guy's family this TG.

[@Itsellasky]

Going to meet my husbands family in Alabama... never met them. Kinda nervous. We have age gap and racially diverse...

[@lakeishajackson3634]

I meet his family this weekend, I’m nervous 😬 I’ll be using your tips thank you 🙂

[@julianaguerrero2952]

well I am happy to know i was doing something right when i met family's i learned from mom 😉

[@zzulm]

If only Guy from "meet the parents" had seen this video. Ha ha 🤣🤣🤣

[@brittanymcdonaldbarr1106]

This is called Southern hospitality/ Manners where I am from in the south.

[@jeracaballeda7752]

your so smart mathew wow your friend and your family and your girlfriend if you have they are all lucky. im amazed by your attitude and the way you speak and everytime im watching your videos i was like wow. im so amazed the way you speak. im one of you fan mathew.

[@Hanni77716]

I’m going to my boyfriend’s house tmr…my issue, im extremely shy with new people…let’s hope they can hear me and I don’t mess up.

[@galaxyjack5802]

I’m a week or so I’m meeting my boyfriends very conservative grandparents. They don’t even know I exist. I can’t see this going well.

[@Lively-Semiramis]

Thanks so much Matthew! What about the time you respect the protector but he keeps being rude and disrespectful and nosy to you? 😊

[@ihcarpy]

Everything you say in this video is spot on. 👌

[@thatlovegirl12]

I’m watching this at 5:30am. Last night during the middle of my date my guy invited me to go to Sunday brunch with his family (the very next day). Normally, I don’t like short notice but I feel obligated and I can’t let him down. I’m soo nervous.

[@thatlovegirl12]

@PurpleGoomy it went okay. His parents liked me. But we had a few issues with our food, my food was under cooked, and they messed up my boyfriends food as well as his father’s food. But I didn’t complain. I was very thankful that they treated me to brunch.

[@freyachandra1869]

gosh this gave me so many helpful tips! Thanks so much!!!

[@teydi3825]

My boyfriends family doesn’t like me, and his older step sister would be the protecter but she and him had a thing and she hates me because she still likes him and she’s made his family hate me and said that I’m an alcoholic. And now his family despise me so I don’t think I’m ever going to be able to show them that I’m actually a good person

[@xorejeane]

Thank you! Really helped, meeting the Parents tonight lol wish me luck ! Oh, I also bought the a bottle of their favorite wine b4 I saw this

[@Solniadora]

Matt can you make a video on "how to tell if he wants something serious" ? I've been dating this guy for a month and a half, it seems like everything is perfect. But at some points I doubt he might want a serious relationship :/ What are the signs? He is a gentleman, picks me up leaves me at my doorstep every time, he holds my hand he seems to care, but today is the second time we get to hang out with a few "friends" in comon and we do as we're just friends :/ His closest friends know we're dating, idk what to think :c

[@breannagarcia7850]

Solniadora dating for a month and a half is probably too early to tell if hes serious. Most common relationships have been proven to only last two or three months if they aren't serious due to their lack of commitment. Id say wait to ask if he is serious until after you hit that mark. Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months and by judging over time i know he wants a serious relationship. I say give it some time before asking if he is serious about it. His actions will speak louder than words so pay attention

[@Joleenzy]

Can you make a video about meeting his friends? ❤️

[@karencorcoran2198]

I’m meeting my bfs family 2day I hope this advice will help me

[@sillybeeful]

Good advice for life I think

[@angelinagalarza4807]

what do you do to not make it awkward when your guy friend that you like is meeting your parents for the first time and your dad is very overprotective and the guy is not very talkative and you both are teens

[@danielleb.3102]

First video that gives me hope. thank you. You are truly awesome (: