If Someone BETRAYED Your Trust, WATCH THIS! | Matthew Hussey

[@kristymounsey3941]

My ex walked away three weeks before the wedding. Years later I see that this was the luckiest day of my life.

[@amandamiele123]

Love this 💪🏻

[@vj9055]

So proud of you!!!😘😘 My mom had a similar story to yours....her advice to me was; "you can't sacrifice your happiness for a hallmark moment"!! She met and married her now husband 6 months later after that and have been together for almost 40 years and I never heard the word divorce!

[@davidjon426]

Gud for him😆

[@bhmgmusic_nahbi]

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[@OffWithReligion]

Yeah he clearly didn’t love you and did both of you a favor!

[@stephaniecameron3987]

"The loss will be greater on their side because you walk away with the most loving person that relationship had in it; yourself." 💗 I really needed to hear this. Thank you, Matthew!!

[@summmer77]

@@familyz9349 same here!!!!!

[@deborahmoura7761]

Wow!

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[@katee.kinnear2714]

it doesn't actually work this way, sadly. I finally trusted someone and after four years together, he left me for someone younger and married her a few weeks after breaking up with me. they are happy ever after and I'm too humiliated to leave the house

[@jrrichard1977]

Absolutely needed this. I really have to not give all my love away & save some for myself 💖

[@MathiasSchreiber-y9p]

I recently went through a tough breakup. My 7 year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex so much and can't stop thinking about him. I've tried everything to win him back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss him a lot and just can't stop thinking about him.

[@Donaldhelmick]

I understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar situation when my 12 year relationship ended. I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to win him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, and their guidance ultimately helped me to bring him back into my life.

[@MathiasSchreiber-y9p]

Amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact them?

[@Donaldhelmick]

His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help restore your relationship with your ex.

[@MathiasSchreiber-y9p]

Thanks for sharing this valuable information. I just looked him up online and I'm impressed.

[@earlmiles6334]

Sorry. Married 25 years and discovered 7 year affair a year ago. Horrible. The worst part is I still love her.

[@souparnikap]

1.Give an amount of time and energy you are willing to lose 2. Trust beautifully it's your standard, not because it's comfortable 3. Use trust as a way to make your relationship more beautiful 4. Trust because the alternative is futile 5. Trust because letting go is sexy 6. Don't let your demons define your boundaries 7. Trust not that someone will never hurt you, but that you'll be fine even if they do 8. Love your person so beautifully that if they break your trust,the loss will be greater on their side

[@TheLoudseed]

#4. YES! I always say I don't want to live in a world where I give up believing in goodness in the face of all the tragedy.

[@mercylisa8748]

@@TheLoudseed message he right now on whatap

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[@drishtik6355]

Thank you.. ❤

[@Chaz_NFQ]

The first one hit home

[@GayathriRasingolla]

“Love your person so beautifully that if they break your trust, the loss will be greater on their side, because you walk away with the most loving person that relationship had in it: yourself.” - Matthew Hussey. That is so beautiful and comes from a place of not resentment towards the other person but a place of love for them, love in general and self worth 💕 It resonates. Thank you.

[@fabioladosramos8020]

Love this

[@EdelweisSusie]

….. and lose weight, change your hair and make-up so that when you meet your ex in the street, you look f-ing fabulous!!! It will be like a knife through his (cold) heart, trust me.

[@gueswhathappened]

Everyone should watch this every year, I keep forgetting how good those videos are.

[@goldlocky6801]

I've listened to this one sentece over and over again: You don't do it because it is comfortable but you do it because it's who you wanna be. This made me burst into tears, because as one of the worst things I have lost trust into myself. I always had such a good gut feeling but fear is horribly overshadowing it, so that I can barely sens it now and I have muted one of my best guidance in life because of fear and dissapointment into myself. I'm rebuilding slowly and step by step but this sentence made me realise something very important. Trusting myself always was a standart and it should be again. Thank you Matthew!

[@fortheloveofteaching9514]

I also have an issue distinguishing between anxiety and intuition. Anxiety can be so overwhelming that it feels like it hinders intuition. The only thing I know is that intuition is a peaceful calm sense/feeling while anxiety likes to scream loudly.

[@citichic2311]

True sending you love and light ❤️🌞

[@bsem7278]

I was crying really hard last night to the point of feeling suffocating inside. But once I started hearing your voice, somehow I started feeling the strength in me. And, when you said the #8, I realized that it’s so true. I stopped crying completely & went to sleep soundly. I have been every thing you taught, while he didn’t care to do much to prove his words to me. So, I will not lose so much. But I have loved so beautifully, the loss will be greater on his side. Matthew - you have no idea how your great videos saved me times & times again. Thank YOU! Now, I just have to be strong enough to walk away.

[@carmeloelborisway4063]

I pray you find yourself well

[@leahc9695]

Same just happened to me 😢 Xxx

[@braziliandbrazilian7363]

Super hard when u trust them and the time u trusted them they actually were just lying to you and u gave them the benefit of the doubt. When you realize the time and effort u put into trusting that person was actually just a waste of time but I guess that's a risk being in a relationship

[@fuzzypanda1684]

I'm not sure what's worse. That, or having someone prove that you can trust them for years, all while being genuine and showing they want a future with you, only to then leave you without warning for a guy she met the week prior, coincidentally the same week you finally believed she'd earned your trust and you gave in, trusting her 100%. One's a long con, the other is lulling you into believing, then pulling the rug the moment you give in.

[@knightshadow3284]

Exactly 7yrs wasted and a kid together and he’s known he didn’t want to be with me for almost 4 yrs. He never had the guts to say it even though i offered to break up multiple times. I can feel it but he told me I’m silly.

[@sharonm1]

Love this advice. So basically dont over give and hold back a little so you dont fall so far; trust because its the right and noble thing to do; trust because it sets a safe and positive tone in the relationship whereas lack of trust pollutes it; Give your partner room to breathe and let them be free; have faith that you can get through anything and if they leave you will be alright; no-one ever regretted being kind and loving and if your person lets you down you can have a clean conscience that you gave it your all and they lost you and you lost someone who disappointed you

[@rmlopez0880]

Thank you u for this

[@sexymary]

Pin this, please !!!!

[@SHOGO140787]

I trusted easily until I was betrayed. No going back after that, unfortunately, especially when they half-ass the job of fixing it.

[@fuzzypanda1684]

Or they just say sorry while still intending to date the person they left you for. I could never be with someone that caused someone I cared about so much pain.

[@co_lrs459]

Been experiencing anxiety and depression lately coz of my failed relationship. Im so tired being not chosen. Trust is broken. Now trying to stand again and your videos helps me

[@roman4892]

😓 same.

[@juicypoet]

I can relate, Its rly hard when this happens with friendships too :') don't forget that someones inability to see ur value or want you to stick around isn't indicative of your worth. I'm wishing you the very best!

[@batteryincorporated]

Man these video’s are actually preventing a suicide attempt over here. Thank you so much.

[@fuzzypanda1684]

Exact opposite for me. I did the things he says to do, and didn't do the things he says not to do, but I still suffered an incredibly painful betrayal, and it's not my first one. At this point, it seems that even when I do things right, I still don't get the results I should get. Like, I encouraged her to go out, meet new people and have fun. The first group she meets had the guy she left me for not more than a week later. 3 years gone for a guy she'd just met because I encouraged her to meet new people.

[@TanzaniteHayley]

“Letting go is sexy” - only Matthew Hussey can convinced a concept like that and I’m here for that level philosophy 👍🏼

[@jonathanwells1172]

He's really a genius

[@jonathanwells1172]

He's really a genius

[@bhmgmusic_nahbi]

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[@TheMbeje]

I would say it hardest thing to do more especially if you have an anxious attachment style and you've been hurt before

[@lovinganaspie6493]

lol I don’t know that I agree. I guess I don’t have that same belief in that kind of relationship. I just am not the type of person to go out and leave my man home.

[@Ciclopea2]

At this point i just gave up, i don't have it in me to go through that process of trusting someone again, i'm learning to feel at peace with ending up alone because i think nothing will be better than this peace of being on my own, no drama, no games, no lies, no bullshit. I do have a lot of love to give, but i guess i'm learning to be the one to give it to, investing in yourself just feels safer. I liked that example about going to the gym tho, for me i do enjoy working out because of how it makes me feel, and that should be enough.

[@helensanderson7092]

I agree 100% with you. My boyfriend hasn't contacted me in 5 days and I have no idea where he is. So I'm giving up on relationships and starting to give myself love, time and happiness. I have been let down, broken hearted to many times. I'm better of on my own

[@paredescax]

@@helensanderson7092 You are the greatest person you can be with Helen.

[@riasb]

Deadass, I feel you. I’m done 😂 I’m on my own and it will stay that way.

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[@Eg-jd9zt]

For me whats helped is that trust is earned. It takes time. There’s no rush to trust someone. Let them prove themselves over time

[@iamrestored5858]

I had a recent breakup. (a month ago) it shattered my world again , bring me back from my childhood traumas, but sometimes the most beautiful thing happen even there is breaking especially when it t leads to your healing. this break up open my eyes and heart and soul to understand myself more, why I act the way I act. it's difficult to know these things but u cannot cure the wound when u constantly cover it. thank you Jesus for helping me understand the root of all my traumas, fear of rejection and abandonment. thank you Matthew for your videos. it helps me a lot. God bless you.

[@vgr3263]

#7 Trust not that someone will never hurt you, but that you’ll be fine, even if they do. Thank you, Matthew! I know I will be just fine (I feel that I already am), but it feels reassuring to hear you say it!

[@jackpetersen7545]

VGR,You look beautiful 🌹,Hope you are with a good man!

[@harman.singh24]

What you say at 9:30, I was so relieved to hear someone articulate my exact thoughts! I was misunderstood to be insecure when my ex flirted with others and I was silenced by saying "You're insecure that I'll leave you".. Its not the leaving I'm worried about, I was confident that my partner will never leave - its the betrayal & disrespect of my bond with my partner. Thank you Matthew for articulating such a simple thing so beautifully :')

[@ssebleon]

A lot of us come here regularly to find peace and reassurance but also, to work on ourselves. I am proud of you, whoever you are. I respect your efforts to not settle with your current self and to make yourself valuable. I currently deal with a girlfiend who is devoted to me, builds with me and always brings transparency to any discussion or disagreement. I love her for that. She's also prone to get along better with guys because of her type of personality and due to past female friends betraying her. I'm confident of her intentions yet the fact that she allows certain chemistry to flourish with one worker is worrysome and feels disrespectful. I haven't yet figured out if its my demons defining boundaries or that i am not compatible with a personality like that. Still searching for that answer but in the meantime, I will love her beautifully.

[@sofalvarez]

THIS ❤

[@alexare7948]

Wow that last one was a mic drop moment. So beautiful.

[@scarletteshane1720]

I really needed this. I was heart broken when my fiance ( now ex) broke up with me after he cheated . It damaged me. Started dating again and turns out to be a toxic or more cheaters . I just closed my heart. Now I meet someone telling me he loves me and that I am the one for him, I get flashes of how my ex fiance said same thing. It really scares me that I don't want to be heart broken again

[@buahburke9912]

IDK about you, but I'm too ill anyway. I don't have the strength for another run in me.

[@nehaimtiyaz6357]

Now I think you're mature enough...let him run after you ..make him your last priority... don't be mean, give it all that has to be given in a relationship...no matter how much you want him, always remember that if he's gone, it's his loss.... people just don't change...a guy will make the same excuse everytime with everyone he leaves...and if he goes and becomes happily married to someone else...what the fuck...let them be fucking happy or sad or whatever...no one and I mean no one gets away by hurting someone...I mean there are some who stay with you and complain about you to someone else...so leave her instead why whine....but one day or the other they will ask you about marriage and ask you to finalize something...and snap...they'll show you their true colours by saying things about you that are true but is this the moment you were waiting for to kill someone...and in anger they marry someone else or their parents choice...oh puhhlease it's all bullshit... mommy's boy didn't ask mommy before making her his gf😁😁😁...

[@rosegeorgina6230]

@@buahburke9912 amen. Not worth it.

[@alondraacosta-mora6504]

Follow your intuition

[@dominalgenesis]

Shits so wild how easily people can lie to you...

[@practicemongolian53]

@@emilyfarris563 .+:1 : (:2:1:3:) :9: 2:1: 3:8:9 :4: whatzpp him I was like this before I know who can help you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here

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[@buahburke9912]

Plz stop posting this annoying pic/jingle

[@earlmiles6334]

It's so disgusting. The lack of integrity and morals is impossible for me to understand.

[@ruchikatikyani897]

I used to see my relationship as perfect. Recently my guy cheated on me. And it's so hard to still trust back with all the insecurities and anxieties. For me it's like a new side of him which I never noticed. It's hard 🥺

[@jward3961]

Sorry you're going through that it sucks. I found out two years ago it had gone on behind my back for years. We're in a better place now but it's not easy. Hopefully you get there someday too if you're going to give it a try.

[@blueocean811]

@@balkh_555leo4 girl leave, i might be a stranger but trust me it will never get repaired. He didn’t think about you when he did it and he will do it again. He had enough time to not do it but he still did it.

[@joannastanden5816]

This is me right now

[@blueocean811]

@@joannastanden5816 i am so sorry to you and the pain is unexplainable bad but NEVER go back to a cheater it will never get fixed trust me never.

[@raquelmariejaruda891]

We were in a ldr relationship. There was an intuition that he was cheating on me when we were apart. We were so happy when we met again. Then, one night, I felt that I needed to check his phone. I never did that before. But something tells me that something was off. Then I found out he cheated on me a few days before we met. It deeply hurt me. I'm in pain, as I just found out a few hours ago. I confronted him and I want to leave him despite he has also gave up a lot for me. I need help to move on. I could never trust him again and love him the same way as before.

[@js8536]

I was in an abusive marriage, able to get to a safe house, remain safe and rebuild my life but didn't date for 7 years. I did find a great gentle devoted spouse but still have trust issues with everyone. Your wise advice has alway been helpful. Thank you for your sincerity.

[@claudiaclaudia8599]

Work with a good therapist.

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[@buahburke9912]

Why this stupid song over &over?! 😕

[@buahburke9912]

EMDR helps.

[@lon3bon448]

I'm glad you made it out, I'm sure the moments where you trust your current spouse stand out to them and mean a lot to them! I hope your life is full with luck and love in the future

[@eeedona.3747]

You have done way more for me than therapy 😭

[@TheLoudseed]

I've struggled with this so much and really hurt and lashed out at someone because of my own neediness last year. That person did not deserve it. I think about what I wrote and I'm ashamed at how mean and cruel I was. I ultimately apologized, but the damage was done. Working on yourself is a day in/day out process. All I can do is ask for forgiveness, and not make the same mistake the next time. Wishing the other person happiness, because at the end of the day, the only person you 'can control' is yourself and how you react to things that happen. #7 is so key. No matter what happens, you will be okay because you decided already you will be fine no matter what. I always get so much from your videos, Matthew, thank you.

[@rorabarnes893]

Absolutely you did the right thing

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[@reneesimmons1890]

I have done the same so mad at myself.

[@buahburke9912]

A real guy who can handle life will not let that break him/you.

[@Eg-jd9zt]

I used to give trust blindly to the wrong people. What’s worked for me is trust is earned. Take your time getting to know someone and observe their character. It’s ok to be guarded at first, you should be Bc you’re valuable and you need to be earned. Let trust build over time. There’s no rush. Especially when dating take your time. People are not their true selves until a few months in. I did this and trust is building over time as it should. There’s no rush to trust someone and anyone rushing you is probably not a healthy person

[@kristenfuller9168]

I'm being rushed it feels like. My boyfriend broke my trust for the second time. He's lied to me he blocked me for not responding to his messages on Facebook. the reason why I feel like I'm being rushed this because he's getting mad at me for not talking to him and not trusting him. He got mad at me for not saying Merry Christmas or Happy New years to him so he blocked me over that. It is not the first time he did it to me. The last time he did it to me is cuz he thought I was mad at him so he blocked me for it as well. He's now begging me to forgive him he's begging me to trust him. He's like I didn't mean to block you I'm sorry how many times do I have to apologize to you. He did that to me last time too. Even last time he promised he wouldn't block me again and he did it to me again. I just can't handle him doing this drama over and over again. He's not respecting my wishes by giving me space he's trying to make me talk to him trying to get my attention he's being too needy to me. And keeps canceling friend request and sending me a friend request. Saying hi can we talk

[@Eg-jd9zt]

@@kristenfuller9168 he sounds really immature and like he has issues lol. I’d run 🚩

[@gigibtsurvivor3348]

Protecting the relationship with healthy boundaries is important. Not placing yourself in situations where you are alone with the opposite sex (or someone you are attracted to) is important. The other partner should have the same standard which has been agreed beforehand.

[@keiraadolph442]

Hello fellow KZbinr you can fix your anxiety with the help of Dr James he helped me stop my bad emotions he can help you too...

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[@windysmith7367]

I agree but so many claim we are insecure if we try to set these. I think Matt would say we are boxing them in. However, I think if you are both committed to a healthy relationship this should be a boundary. Why would you want to place yourself in a situation like this?

[@jessa9877]

Not really. It takes two to tango and a faithful partner will not cheat no matter what.

[@richardgreaney]

"For anyone who has been through a relationship or a situation where they have been hurt, betrayed, lied to, had the rug pulled out from under them unexpectedly... lack of trust becomes the natural corollary to this scenario" I had never considered that point of view until seeing this video. It's so true.

[@MyRandomLife247]

No 8. had me in tears. At least you can walk away knowing that you are a good person and capable of giving love.

[@matthewfarmer1933]

Its hard to love and trust again but theres that special someone out there for all of us somewhere. It's that what I'm holding on to more than anything else despite still being heartbroken after almost 4 months of a relationship ending. Love to everyone out there suffering, we've got this 💙

[@firewalkwithmecooper]

Nah, there isn't someone out there for everyone. Plenty of good people never find the person they're looking for. You could try, try, try and still never succeed. But if you stop trying you *definitely* will not succeed. That's the truth. It's for everyone to decide if that struggle is worth it for them.

[@matthewfarmer1933]

@@firewalkwithmecooper thats a very morbid view to have, people just need to be willing to look long enough and put themselves out there...

[@practicemongolian53]

@@matthewfarmer1933 .+:1 : (:2:1:3:) :9: 2:1: 3:8:9 :4: whatzpp him I was like this before I know who can help you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here

[@witneygrace]

Usually these lil videos I find don’t help much, but this one TRULY helped. It reached every point spot on, thank you!

[@messerjokkel1316]

„But he doesnt jeopardize the beauty thats actually there for a demon that is in his head“ thank you man, needed to hear that.

[@hootowlme]

This is the first video I’ve seen with genuine sounding and accurate advice.

[@imstacey666]

Thank you, Matthew for this video! I really needed it right now. A person I loved so dearly, out of nowhere ended the healthiest and most beautiful relationship I ever had:(. It is the worst and the hardest break up I’ve had because of how it so suddenly ended. It broke my trust and hope for feeling secure in a relationship ever again😢

[@tnt01]

therapy helps.

[@Chaz_NFQ]

“What’s an amount of time and energy I’m willing to lose?” 👏🏻

[@PearlJamAndBiscuits]

My trust issues are so bad I already dont trust people I havent even met yet. Thank you for this video, it's very needed and helpful.

[@kristenfuller9168]

I feel like I have bad trust issues too feels like it's getting worse 😞 my boyfriend betrayed my trust for the second time. He blocked me for no reason all because I didn't respond to his messages and not saying Merry Christmas or Happy New years to him on Facebook. I have been dumped over something small not responding to his messages 💔 now he wants me back in his life he's begging me to trust him he's begging me to forgive him. He keep saying please forgive me I didn't mean to block you I heard that last time. He said that last time to me when he first did it to me. And I can't handle dealing with the same thing over and over again 😑 it's so exhausting stressful. He's not giving me space not letting me heal not letting me have time for myself not respecting my wishes. Haven't even met his parents yet either and he saying I don't care about his parents like what the heck I haven't even met his parents how do I care about someone if I haven't met them .... He's accusing me he's blaming me on everything he's acting like his heart is broken he doesn't care about my heart broken he cares about his heart broken. So tired of him playing the victim. Him playing the victim is not going to make me want to go back with him. I was dumped and blocked on New year's day. I feel like I'm being rushed to trust him again. And he doesn't seem to like that I'm busy with other things in life. I think me being busy is a big problem feel like I had to put my life on hold for him

[@iwillnotcomplyistandformyf6642]

@@kristenfuller9168 Girl, get rid of him and do you to heal. (he sounds so toxic anyways)

[@elenapopa2254]

Instead of feeling bad by thinking we have been used by giving the best of ourselves better to be proud of beeing capable of love that why we feel bad when actually we think bad.

[@lalaineaquino9174]

I wish I can still be able to find someone who I can trust too. I've got a very traumatic experience. Still hoping and praying to find a partner I can spend my life with. Thanks for this Matt! 😊

[@suecole5543]

Wonderful Matthew . totally agree with all you say. When we can walk away knowing we gave our whole heart and we were rejected in the end . it hurts ..yes but we can walk away with our heads held high.

[@charlottesmith5760]

Sadly, things happen in relationships resulting in heartbreak. Does it make the person who broke our hearts unworthy of gaining our trust again? People are flawed this is a chance we all take in opening our hearts to love. Thank you, Matthew! 🙏🏾💕

[@ulamusiol517]

Dear Matthew and the rest of the team, the world wouldnt be the same without you; empowering so many. Thank you

[@kullumohammed5957]

I know of a man who can bring back)your ex within 2 days without Daley He helped me few days agohe does a perfect work I'm arruringyou,you gonna testify💯💯

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Message him on wh@ts@pp for help

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[@borislibaque1558]

This is beautiful Mathew. As a guy who who doesn't really know how to deal with a girl's various trust issues, seeing this really helps show me how to be more loving and supportive. As crazy as it is to say out loud, I've lost far more potential girlfriends making breakfast for them in the mornings, giving them massages, or buying birthday presents, than any of the opposite behaviours and it seems to always comes down trust issues. Given these experiences it would be very easy to become jaded, if not for the evidence on your channel that there are actually women somewhere, who put in effort and invest in their relationships and like men who do the same instead of run from them. I'm so tired of having to baby-step things and wish people were just confident enough to want what they want and go for it, and its been a struggle to learn to pull back and be more empathetic. Very grateful for your wisdom and a big fan of your work, its made and continues to make a massive difference in my dating life.

[@noushinpnz220]

I fall in love every time I learn that there are people who have such understandings, and are compassionate about other’s feelings, perspectives, and respect 💕 (crying)💕

[@davidjay375]

I just want to add, watching this in 2022 after experiencing every single one of these points in some way. The way you broke each section down and explained and touched on each aspect was amazing. Hit every nail on the head, with such simplicity yet with so much detail. You truly have gift of communication. Thanks man

[@lacey7025]

This has helped a lot, my last relationship was filled with insecurity, manipulation, control and accusations. I have healed from that after 3.5 years, I now need to prepare my mindset for any future relationship and this helped, thanks

[@KendrickJ2]

This helped? The moral of this story was to trust the woman who cheated on her ex, with you.. while she is out drinking and partying it up late at night with other men... lol Reminds me of "The Notebook" (the most-acclaimed love story of a woman who cheats on her fiance with her ex and lives happily ever after... awwwwwwwww. lol) Has this ever actually worked out in Non-Fiction? Not exactly quantum physics that these people are not who you should trust. Films of deceit and betrayal, not love stories.

[@jelovibes2039]

Love them beautifully and if they betray you "The loss will be greater on thier side..this words make me help more to get rid my trust issues permanently

[@donnaanderson5041]

The last bit was beautiful. The most loving person in that relationship how lovely. That made my cry

[@anon_ya]

Matthew, your work is a gift. I have turned to your voice for self compassion and discovery after a string of broken relationships and rejection. I am trying to learn and grow. Thank you for your patience, kindness, and gentleness. You are like the big brother some of us never had.

[@miyanakouyama6457]

You once said to grab a pen and paper to take notes and ever since then I have dedicated an entire journal to taking notes about relationships. Thank you for making the learning process easier ❤️ All of these tips are wonderful . Number 8 really spoke to my heart. Thank you for the amazing content and bringing something worth watching to KZbin . All the best ! 💖

[@tetehl4731]

Thank you very much Matthew. I am going through this heartbreak that I did not see coming. It numb and hurt me deeply. I let him go in a loving way. Now I am trying to heal..🙏♥️💝

[@reyoureal]

How do you just forgive and forget? When you're stuck, confused, etc. No one will tell you what happened or why , or if it was real.

[@amilavalentinakaye5813]

What a powerful message. All comes down to our own inner work and brining the best of ourselves to us and then others. ❤ knowing no matter what happens, I got me and I can go through whatever comes my way and I'll always be okay.

[@jackpetersen7545]

Amila Valentina Kaye,You got a lovely smile 😊

[@savanaahava7647]

I was sexually assaulted and someone kept telling me to stop playing the victim because I enter every new scenario with this fearful mindset… thank you for explaining everything I have felt so well. I feel so understood ❤

[@intuitiveyogis7163]

I’ve watched this video more than once and learning more each time. Trust has been such an issue for me in relationships. I wanted to say Mathew how incredibly beautiful the perspectives you share are here. They make feel so hopeful about being in a relationships which is so contrary to what I have felt in the past - it leaves such a warm and fuzzy feeling in me knowing that irrespective of whether things work out or not I can walk away with such integrity and self value.Relationships don’t have to mean pain and dysfunction - and I am in control of this.

[@Patriotgirl1130]

This brought me to tears Bc I have so many demons from my ex betraying me in the worst way- I have ruined relationship after relationship bc I make it impossible for the man to make me happy and provide all I expect them to. I have felt so trapped and so so down this week bc I just ran someone off I was really into (which happens once a year if that) I felt like I don’t know how to even begin being healthy to men and U JUST LAYED IT OUT SO PERFECTLY! I’m so so grateful ! I’m going to listen again and take notes ❤

[@n.524]

Tip 8 was really beautiful, never saw it like that thank you Matthew :)

[@jelenastevanovic5314]

Great video, point 6. " Don't let your demons define your boundaries " gave me a great reassurance for my actions... Trying to speak about specific and rational concerns, and then observing the response your partner is giving - actually describes the relationship you are in... The problem in all of this is that those who are usually hurt are those who are actually doing the inner work and reaching the levels of empathy and compassion to have high levels of understanding and acceptance... but also stretching the boundaries until they finally break, and they again have to heal... I believe people on the other side of these stories rarely, if ever, go through the videos like this... Having healthy boundaries and firm standards from the beginning is the key to sort out all the bullshit someone can give to you.

[@user371-p7r]

Dear person, who reads it. Yes, I mean exactly you! Maybe we don't know each other. Still, I want to say, that I believe in you! You will certainly achieve your dreams and your happiness! Just don't give up and be honest with yourself! Now you have at least one person who constantly believes in you, which means you are fated to realize your dreams! No doubts here ^) *Best wishes for you ❤️ from a new KZbinr* ✌️

[@buahburke9912]

Vova, admire your passion. Enjoy life while you have it before you become broken, sick and housebound. I know it could always be worse, & am grateful for a roof over my head and a couple friends. I am exhausted-no syrength for relationship.

[@anyameledamian1874]

Thank you so much, I really needed that

[@catherineracicot]

Listening to him feels so therapeutic... so many golden nuggets of wisdom and information. he hits the nail on the head so many times for how I feel and what I experience, and really helps me to see clearly. Listening to him is a game changer, highly recommend!

[@happyngrateful5786]

Incredible. Every word is gold. Thank you so much, Matthew. 🙏🏻

[@bhmgmusic_nahbi]

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[@naya457]

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[@c.lynnearendtcaleca7775]

this is hands-down the best advice I’ve seen on trust in a relationship. it’s amazing great advice.

[@NosarNaresar]

I Got completely blindsided. I know i have to heal fully. And start to trust myself first.. my own feelings and my own intuition, because it was destroyed by how she suddenly left. But i want to trust again... in the future ... i want to trust the right person.

[@iwillnotcomplyistandformyf6642]

Agreed, I've got blind-sided so many times and it hurts so much.

[@leahc9695]

For me it's my past traumas ... and I have a rare extreme amount over most of my life, ... it's almost weird trying to fit in with 'normal people' who had conventional lives or conventional amount of traumas or hardships. It almost (often) comes across like I'm lying. And when I end up sharing, everyone seems to hurt me and leaves which often re traumatises me because even the person I fell in love with, left me suddenly with words 'nobody will ever want you'... 'All your working on yourself wasn't worth it' ... "I can't 'help' you anymore" " I went in too deep" "you are a mistake" etc and simply turned glazy eyed to any memory of the good times we had, and firm to the advice of his friends that never personally met me, and no emotional compassion ziltch. If I'd known the trust he built in me and my willingness to be open about my insecurities and open to suggestions to improve and would only be used to dagger and hurt me and suddenly pull the rug and betray and emotionally shock.., like someone turn from night to day, and left questioning if I embarrassingly shared too much (maybe too soon - but he did encourage and made me feel safe to do so in the beginning..) just to ruin it and if I ever will it will just make people run... And I struggle with understanding he is wrong ... Because there is some truth there... And I lost the person I cared about because even after all these years of surviving and trying to change I'm so messed up I can't be healthy enough for anyone ... Let alone myself... I've tried so hard to constipate myself and controlling myself to be socially correct and not one person have the strength longterm to love me, or listen to my lifetime of pain which sculpted me ... I don't want to hurt myself or others anymore by trusting to open up and see the real me. The last time that happened left me healing from so many re triggered traumas years later all because I persued love. And after was informed what narcissism was, and might have stepped my foot in that big time. But then again, what does that say about me ... It's nearly 3 years now since then, and I still feel like I'm so shattered by what and how he did it, it's crazy the person who lived for love kindness and patience... and always over time bounced back, gauled and doesn't want love from anyone and firmly falsified what love is or can be ...

[@AugustAdvice]

Please remember that trust is EARNED, its not GIVEN immediately.

[@MsBanana15]

I really needed to watch this today. I went through such a hard break-up and now I have relationship anxiety. I am currently engaged to the most amazing man I have ever met, and my demons at times get the best of me. I get jealous and insecure because I got cheated on in the past. I'm doing my best to be more confident and trust him unless there is a concrete reason not to.

[@farewell259]

I keep coming back to this video, and it's always so grounding and reassuring. Thank you, Matthew. This is one of your best videos.

[@MR-fh4pc]

Same Here!

[@verticaladventure5762]

Bro... this speaks DIRECTLY to me! I've had instances in the past where, without notice, I was devastated by a partner's decision to move on with someone else or just choose to be friends. This, in turn, has affected my current relationship negatively. But I'm finding strength in healthy self dialog and OPEN discussion with my fiance to work through my demons. I'm so glad I found this video! This is now one of my new tools to handle and heal the wounds I carry! Thank you!!!

[@reshulyadav5752]

This is pure love. The effort you put here to deal with trust issues. God bless you. ❣️

[@Nimzxoxo]

I have the biggest trouble with trusting my partner, I overthink absolutely everything and I’m tired of putting him through headaches I’m trying everything I can to get out of my head. I’ve watched this twice I’m going to watch it a few more times every time I understand more and more all the reasons and it helps me open up my heart and mind, thank you.

[@heiressofmusic]

The lad always comes through with the best advice. Thank you, Matthew! Number 7 and 8 really hit me in the heart. Thank you. ❤

[@umarmohammedadamu3715]

I can connect you to someone who help me attract my ex back in two days💕💕💕

[@coznova23]

Matthew you've helped me so much , I've had problems with jealousy and it's ruined things for me in the past but I refuse to let it happen again ,

[@harshitasharma8740]

Matthew, you have no idea how much I needed to hear this! You're no less than a guardian angel, bless you! ❤️✨

[@Continuesprouting]

Thank you so much! Preach, Preach, Preach 🙏🏽 got ghosted after a year and now I'm stronger on the other side.

[@fortheloveofteaching9514]

I love this video! Something I also place trust in is that, no matter what the outcome, the universe is always working in my favor. It has my back in any and every situation for what’s best for me ❤Thank you Mathew! This video helped me to gain new perspective 😊

[@hellosunshine53]

Beautifully said.

[@everydaytherapist7315]

I think this was beautifully said. I also believe that it is OK to have binary thinking about some boundaries. It is self-loving to have rules about conduct in relationship without being nuanced. Sometimes it seems judgmental or aggressive to be clear about what behavior we will allow and will not allow, but it can make all the difference in the end. I've seen so many relationships go on endlessly into a downward spiral of abuse for years because of being too nuanced about boundaries. It is best to find a person who actually wants to know your boundaries and respect them. It's even better to find someone who shares your boundaries to begin with.

[@cmrandall9151]

Agreed. Nuanced boundaries can actually be pretty destructive when it comes to the fundamental elements of the relationship. For instance, if there are nuanced boundaries about whether the relationship is monogamous or open-that is a situation that will lead to problems down the road. You guys are either allowed to sleep with other people or you're not. You're allowed to date other people or you're not. I get the central message of this video is don't be too controlling or clingy, but there is a balancing act that needs to happen here

[@currystella]

This is exactly a lesson I learnt after he lied to me yesterday. I chose to trust because our relationship is not going to be better if I do not trust him, and I gained the ability to let go. If he really betrays me someday, I will leave without regrets.

[@mrl4646]

I've had this from a male perspective and it absolutely ruined me for 2 years. She ended things abruptly and started seeing someone else

[@TheMongolianMage]

My ex wasn't going to bother ending our relationship. I had to

[@claudiaclaudia8599]

If you’re an adult you’ve been broken at least once in your lifetime.

[@mrl4646]

@@claudiaclaudia8599 several times but it was a new form of betrayal that I'd never experienced and it messed my head up so much

[@practicemongolian53]

@@TheMongolianMage .+:1 : (:2:1:3:) :9: 2:1: 3:8:9 :4: whatzpp him I was like this before I know who can help you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here

[@Going-Postal]

So recently I lost the trust of my absolutely best friend my twin brother. It was the hardest loss I have ever experienced and I am hard pressed to imagine any loss more great for me. I absolutely trusted no one and it was very hard to move on. If I am being honest, I don't think I will be able to full process this for a while but I decided to trust most deeply in the people around me who are still around and who I meet for the first time. And I have had the most amazing time getting to know people with my full heart. I am still lonely from the loss of not seeing my best friend every weekend and its this strange mix of feeling completely connected to my exterior reality and completely detached like if I let go for one moment I will float away. So I am rebuilding my foundation and moving toward peace again and its happening, slowly, painfully at times. There a serenity to the simple emotions of joy and happiness but I am caught up in this mix of moving toward the life I always wanted but without the people who I expected to be there. It still hurts when I think about it but all I can do is move forward from it and continue to be who I am in this situation regardless of who is still left standing next to me. Thank you for this. I appreciate this.

[@umarmohammedadamu3715]

Hello it's works I can't believe am with my lover again contact him💕💕

[@hortensejones4050]

Hang in there. I have similar terribly painful situation. We must move forward with head held high. Life happens “for” me not to me. I’m asking “what’s the lesson? How does the Universe (G-d) want me to respond?” One foot in front of the other. 👍🌿🌷

[@Going-Postal]

@@hortensejones4050 thank you so much. I say this to myself and I truly do believe it. It's just nice to see it echoed from outside my head.

[@butterflygoddess2436]

I love it and this really helped me loosen up… Thank you Matthew, you are God’s gift to us women! 😊

[@josefinamagallanes8451]

I love that last part _ I think I’m going to walk away with the most beautiful person- myself

[@ashackle01]

I was just ghosted about a month ago from some who I was falling in love with. I’m shattered…..I cry every day. I still have the hope that he will come back to me again. And the even more sad part is that I’m not even mad at him, because to me he was so amazing. I feel so pathetic, I can’t possibly see myself with anyone else other than him.

[@umarmohammedadamu3715]

I can connect you to someone who help me attract my ex back in two days💕💕💕💕💕

[@Ciclopea2]

Try to look at it this way, if your narcissist ghosted you so easily he obviously never cared about you, so why should you care about him because of how amazing he appeared to be? it was all an act to put you in this position, it's what they do, don't even wonder why, they're just empty shells disguised as human beings. You are not pathetic, he is, you'll grow stronger from this and that will keep assholes like him away and only attract what you deserve.

[@mirand0la]

It doesn't matter that he was "amazing" . What matters is that he ghosted you. Choose what you focus on in your own narative, it is the only way to stay clear of unnecessary illusions.

[@LonjeMarie7]

Hey beautiful you can get past the hurt and move on. If he was as wonderful and terrific as you idolized him to be he wouldn’t have done that to you. I would NEVER never let him come back because guaranteed he will do that to you again. He actually blessed you by ghosting you ,he created an empty space for that RIGHT man God has for you.

[@elenapopa2254]

Been there, is heartbroken I dont judge u But , if he is coming back to u are u ready for another heartbreak in case he leaves again ? Watch Mathew's video about what u can found amazing in other people The more people u speak to the quicker u recover Time is key as well As Mathew says-if he was willing to risk then prob is not right person for u I know sounds cruel but try to swap , bring him down from pedestal and put yourself in that place 🙏

[@katjordan]

That last sentence carries so much power! 🔥

[@jasleen3665]

Thank you, Matthew! I had these questions and was discussing them with my therapist last week. And you uploaded this. Everything you said makes so much sense. Thank you so much! In case you have happen to read my comment can you please make a video on how to feel secure in a relationship in a world where microcheating seems to be gaining ground?

[@buahburke9912]

Microcheating? You mean PORN???

[@that.simp_2620]

I love this man so much. Wise and helps me heal, always.

[@gabriela.36944]

Great timing for me to hear this, truly needed that. Thank u 💓

[@tenaciousd1347]

Trust that you are enough. Trust that everything happens for a reason. Trust that when you love yourself fully, you will be okay regardless of what happens in life. And trust in yourself. Tell the truth. We have no control over anyone else - only ourselves. 🙏🏼💓 Great video.

[@unknownartistOo]

Plus points for The Office reference!

[@jezerdevera2073]

Do you know what exact season and episode is that of The Office?

[@unknownartistOo]

@@jezerdevera2073 Season 5, episode 5, Crime Aid

[@shoonyah]

No 5 : The word is self reassured. Loved this talk. ❤️

[@MrLordWarren]

Great timing Matthew! Thank you for clarifying this for me, I kinda knew this deep down I guess the difficulty is actually putting what you know into practice, especially when emotion seems to trump reason. I'll keep trying and learning and hopefully I'll be there 100% soon :)

[@Babesinthewood97]

Your advice is unique in the sense that they are always genuinely helpful. No BS.

[@andydeea7791]

Matthew... The amount of trust and peace within myself you gave me throughout the years is what I needed. Everytime I needed practical advice, but also kind words and affectionate attitude, you gave just that. Thnak you and I wish for you an infinite love to have by your side!

[@wilsonmick4773]

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[@wilsonmick4773]

He is best when it comes to recovery relationship

[@christianjohnson4097]

Such a fantastic theme! Love this weeks video 🌹

[@rachelarnold3848]

Your advice has been exposure therapy for me these past few years and I thank you. You truly are good at what you do. God bless you.

[@melaniesvideos.]

Thank you, Matthew. I needed this video.

[@chickendeener]

Matt I watched your videos probably 4 years ago to help overcome my relationships, and here I am again completely unlocking the fact that I would watch these videos to help

[@JSolar590]

Isn't the definition of insanity "Doing things over and over and expecting different results"?

[@buahburke9912]

AMEN!!!

[@BevoDaywalk]

I've never felt so understood in my whole life..thank you from the bottom of my heart. This one video has possibly saved my marriage. I almost walked away from the love of my life based on a situation that made me feel uncomfortable and therefore I associated it with completely breaking trust. Keep up the great work, your words are a gift.

[@rejnholten]

I so want to take this to heart, and I do really try. But I have deep deep wounds from childhood that makes it really difficult for me to trust guys that I meet. And as an adult the guys that have invited me for dates, I find out have girlfriends, are married, have pregnant fiancees, or dump me after sex... That makes trust difficult to give :/

[@jacquelinema8137]

going thru a breakup, i really needed to hear this again and again, thank you Matthew!

[@mariseli8700]

Add him and chat with him for help He can really help you out in your relationship problems