Getting cancelled (the truth) | Ep. 7

We got cancelled. Twice...
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[@ermo3133]

Hey ❤ I am native Hawaiian born and raised on Oahu. I just want to say I love you two and apologize for the hate you received. I never knew any of that happened but I do know Hawaiians are very protective of our culture, language, and land- as we should be. Not only was the land forcefully taken by illegal treaty- but Hawaiians were BANNED from speaking Hawaiian, dancing hula, or any cultural practice for that matter during that time. Imperialistic views were forced, and they were punished for not abiding. I speak Hawaiian. The language is so special to us because our entire culture is tied to the ‘ōlelo (language). We have only oral history passed down for generations. I see the reasons why Hawaiians are so protective- but hate is never the answer! The people who threatened you and called you names could stand to practice ALOHA during that time, and teach/show love and education instead of hate. Anyway I love you guys and have for a long time! ❤❤

[@praumbaldwin2457]

Your comment is great. Thank you for being a healing bridge. Informing and standing strong and protective doesn't mean condoning hateful actions. God Bless and healing wishes sent for all 🥰

[@kristenkaz3080]

Well said. Thank you for the clarification.

[@rae-hn1qh]

@@danaceyambao this is not an apology video. This is them sharing their point of view from what happened at that time and expressing how clueless they were. They’ve apologized many times. People make mistakes and they grow to learn. I seen a lot of this taking place back then and almost all of it was NOT locals giving the threats and backlash. I’m all for standing up for others.. but the things is this is social media. people see one person spreading the hate and then they blow it completely out of proportion taking it way too far because they’re behind a screen and want to feel involved before understanding the full situation.

[@marybillington8235]

I’m sorry this happened to y’all. Many of your fans do over you!

[@amandakisiel9313]

@@danaceyambaoit sounds like from what I know is that Hawaii is a beautiful place and I see what you are explaining about the culture. However, in an effort to being protective of that culture, no human being should be sending out death threats and this level of hate. Hate and violence is never the answer.

[@graceecurry1365]

What people don’t understand is that If everyone’s lives were recorded everyday, everyone would be cancelled. The people who cancel others are honestly miserable people who are not happy so they tear others down. I’ve watched you guys forever and know y’all’s intentions and they are AMAZING❤

[@jnsunny1716]

Preachhh👏👏👏

[@daddyslittlegirl390]

Absolutely. Nobody is perfect, when someone’s lives are on camera you get to see a lot of what they do. The second you show anything on camera that isn’t perfect you get torn down. It’s very upsetting.

[@MrsSela343]

Every Good parent dont put their and childrens lifes to net for millions people to watch. Why do they? FOR MONEY

[@nastrogaming2009]

@@MrsSela343 they made money before they had a child

[@MrsSela343]

@@nastrogaming2009 Why my text is taking away... hello These vloggers want more money,they dont think what being in net for millions unknown people do to child.

[@caseyflemming6257]

Hearing that Abby hit herself due to all the hate is literally making me cry. She is so pure and kind and did not deserve that 😢

[@roseyk7677]

😳😳😳😳🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 C'mon....... You can't be serious!!! They certainly programmed you for sure 😂😂😂😂

[@caseyflemming6257]

@@roseyk7677 nope. No one deserves to be bullied to the point of hurting themselves.

[@ellatpetty]

@@caseyflemming6257agreed. I do see both sides of the argument of “family channels” and the fact that kids can’t consent to their childhood experiences being shown. But I don’t think anyone deserves that anyone should be treated like that. Or “hated”. These two people don’t deserve a “hatred” towards them.

[@tracilord4854]

I cried the whole episode 😭😭😭

[@AuntGrace]

😢

[@AutumnC22]

Silent follower. You both are a breath of fresh air. You two handled yourself with grace. Social media is a beast. Praying you both fully heal.

[@FallenMuse81]

💚

[@cathirodrigo2933]

❤

[@macymagdziarz819]

I literally had no idea that y’all got “cancelled”. Cancel culture is so sad and I’m praying for your strength! You guys are incredible, please keep remembering that!!!

[@audreywestrik2697]

I had the same idea. I had no idea. Ditto

[@hannahiozzo2803]

Me either like it’s crazy

[@nikki1400]

Because they didn't. They're throwing themselves a pity party.

[@hannahiozzo2803]

@@nikki1400 I don’t know them personally but that doesn’t sound like something that they would do. But the fact that Abby was crying and shaking, and you could tell that Matt was feeling a little uncomfortable makes it pretty clear it’s true. So why are you saying that?

[@marieneu264]

What did they get cancelled for?

[@Djhikes63]

Guys, I'm 60 yrs old and married to the same dude for 40 yrs. Speaking for all the other dinosaurs in the room, we love you. You're an amazing young couple. If the world's future looks like y'all, we're in good shape. So much love to you

[@pinkgirlygirl7]

I agree , I’m 50 and I think they are sweet “kids” lol Internet bullies are the worst ! Why can’t people just be kind 😊

[@keeganb9477]

I fear the worlds future is the type of people who canceled them. And I’m 22

[@NurseRatchet63]

Fellow Dino here… You are two of the sweetest people I’ve seen online. Please just keep being you. Haters gonna hate. No matter who you are.

[@marciefinn6295]

You a such a young couple and I’m 60yr mom of 2 sons !! People are just cruel things behind a computer just saying evil things 😮

[@kathleenclark815]

Me too! I'm 50 and have been married to the same dude for 31 years! Matt and Abby are great❤

[@andylasceski]

As a male, I appreciate what Abby is saying so much. There's nothing wrong with a traditional relationship if both people in the relationship are in agreement with each other and that's what they want. If both parties agree, it shouldn't be up to anybody else to say they're doing anything wrong.

[@shannjewett2118]

As a local Hawaiian from Oahu, I am very sorry that happened to you guys! I love your Family and enjoy your content ❤

[@kafiplayz5868]

U are a so good human god bless you

[@jesse5658]

I know zilch about Hawaii. Is that kind of reaction common??

[@nevaehb2279]

@@jesse5658no, it’s usually people who aren’t from Hawaii who were mad. It’s crazy

[@debbieinitaly]

No! The Hawaiian ppl proper are wonderful. They respect all cultures while fresh in captivity. Think about it. I’m sorry this happened. However, this is part of life. We now gotta realize WORDS have meaning. No AI or artificial intelligence or any form of “anti-human” communication campaign can override God and common sense. It’s very possible that AI started this. 😮

[@michellea5506]

You 2 are a breath of fresh air in a time when the air is full of toxicity. Please don’t let the negativity spoil your happiness.

[@maurendrew]

Exactly! They are so refreshing from all the toxic media!

[@ryanmurphey6218]

Well said they literally are Real wholesome people!

[@101kass]

Abby used to be so careful and cautious about what she said. I felt like she used to hold back. Kinda loving how she’s just putting her opinion out there now and with so much passion 😂

[@ChessieChess]

Me too! Go Abbs

[@kellmenzies6362]

Preach 🙏

[@bkessinger94]

Love this comment. Same.

[@ruthallyn2082]

I am LIVING for the sassy Abby era!😂

[@crismalichi]

YESSSS I'M LOVING SHE LIVING HER BEST LIFE!!! SUCH A BEAUTIFUL STRONG MAMA BEAR

[@lexihammond7374]

I have been following you since before Hawaii days and had no idea you got cancelled for any of these things. This is really eye opening, you both are so strong. Thank you for sharing the good and the bad

[@amberdavis5311]

I think it's bc we are older and more mature on KZbin. Ticktock is full of kids

[@christinemaney2294]

This literally breaks my heart bc it shows how shallow so many people are. I do not understand how some can be so cruel.

[@Charlibear23]

Matt is so emotionally intelligent and supportive. His parents did good

[@kristigillette8209]

I have followed you for a couple years. I never realized you were cancelled. I'm sorry people were so hateful toward you. Stay strong! You are awesome!

[@menlope8219]

He seems so much older then he is.. ❤

[@Earthling.7]

Nahh not everything men learn are from parents I have seen domestic violence and parents fighting everyday never even taught me anything I'm my own men I learnt everything my own Stop always equating men's life to thier parents you be suprised how many parents are worse

[@rmedsss]

Hopefully he is protective since they put their life and children out there for the world. Poor child's man.

[@karenmiller955]

YEAH THEY DID ❤

[@funlo.vingco]

7 minutes in... I'm a native Hawaiian. As soon as you mentioned moving to Hawaii... I about died. I already know where this is leading 😞 I'll come back to comment after I watch this video 🙏🏽 14 minutes in .. I just want to scream. I apologize for all of the small minded people who make Hawaii a terrible place to live .. and not only for haole ppl, but for locals as well. God bless you, Matt and Abby.. And little Griffin.. AND! ❣️🙏🏽 ☺️ edit: ALOHA lives within you. ANYONE can use this word and honestly, when non locals use it, I love it. This video made me sob. I am so embarrassed and truly heartbroken for Hawaii. I was there in '21 on an extended stay due to COVID. I've seen some of the KZbinrs I follow (you know them 🙏🏽) around. They are beautiful ppl inside and out. To hear ppl saying GO BACK, etc... They have NO aloha and I do not support this attitude. I am fortunate to have beautiful local friends. We would all love you guys❤️🙏🏽 EDIT 3/20/23: Thank you, Anita, Laura, Val, Melanie, Natasha, Sarah and Raven🙏🏽❣️ Hawaii/Hawai'i.. is really special place. Magical. GreatGrandTutu is rolling in her grave over the mistreatment of anyone, local or tourist... Or transplant. Those born and raised there, who have been there over a half a century.. wow, even I choked at that🤣... They ALL have had a good talking to over their lack of aloha at some point in their lives. They were spiritual people, the elders. Sooooo wise and generous. Always welcoming... Unless you were trouble.. And then ANYBODY'S Tutu "going sit you down" 😬 Teach you humility with love🙏🏽❤️ 😔 Unfortunately, many popular tourist destinations will have your share of crime. Locals don't go to certain places at night or alone, either. You learn to place your valuables in your car trunk especially at beaches, etc... Like anywhere, an ounce of precaution goes a long way. Matt and Abby gave such a beautiful explanation of their experience by squeezing themselves into the shoes of... Those who were in need of enlightenment. They took their mindset and responded in the most humblest of ways. Truly honorable people you two are... And to continue to speak fondly of Hawai'i makes me hopeful that anyone who's experienced negativity will continue to see the beauty around it. God blessed you with your life partner. May he continue to bless your life wherever it takes you. Much aloha and God bless you all 🙏🏽❤️🤙🏽🙏🏽

[@anitaalesik6080]

You are so sweet! It warmed my heart reading your comment, you literally apologised for the whole Hawaiian nation! Such an honourable thing to do!

[@lauramcuervo]

This is such a sweet comment 🥹

[@valmuniz6222]

Wow - what a beautiful soul you have - your comment must be healing for them. I am completely ignorant about the native culture in Hawaii, but I just could not believe that the haters represented the true spirit of Hawaii. I’m happy that you spoke up for the people in Hawaii who are not so judgmental toward visitors who may not be as educated as they should be. If only we could be more accepting and loving toward one another? “Aloha within” speaks of love and not hate - education doesn’t work without love 💜🙏

[@melaniegenay1044]

I’m supposed to move to Hawaii it’s my dream and plan and I’m so scared to now

[@melaniegenay1044]

Your so kind ! Can you be my neighbor when I come ❤

[@kayakingirl7252]

Hi guys, I'm a 50 year old mama, grammie and wife. I've never watched or heard of you two and today, I'm just listening to random YT videos and on autoplay, you guys came on. I'm being completely honest, at first, I kind of rolled my eyes, but something kept me listening. I'm so happy that I did. You two are so incredibly sweet and honest. I KNOW I could never post my life on SM but am rooting for those would do good for the world and spread positive, sweet messages. I pray that your little family stays happy and safe. Big hugs to you all❤❤ ( I almost named my youngest son Griffin, he ended up being Elliot instead )

[@carter2671]

This is a sweet comment😊Also, never answer these scammer messages like the one above, they are not actually Matt & Abby/TheUnplannedPodcast

[@tonidortch5218]

Omg that's so funny. My sons name is Elliot!!☺️☺️

[@Kryzttal]

@@tonidortch5218stabler is a great name too! 😊 lol

[@annarohr8996]

People are so quick to judge on social media. You guys are the sweetest people with the biggest hearts.

[@oliviah9757]

This brought so much light to how much we DONT see behind the cameras. Abbys take on not knowing the intentions behind the words used is SO TRUE

[@esseaem1451]

Ok, and she did so much research right? She did that project right? You’d think that these things would be something you’d look into. “Is using aloha as a white person harmful?”

[@st42744]

It doesn’t matter what intentions are. People where hurt and offended that is absolutely not an excuse.

[@ashleyrichards6736]

@@esseaem1451I think Abby’s self harm tells you how bad it was, that’s really insensitive of you saying that it’s manipulative

[@esseaem1451]

@@ashleyrichards6736 using it in this capacity is manipulative. Self harm is incredibly serious. It’s upsetting and it’s sad. They didn’t give a trigger warning, and Matt even said “I don’t know if we will leave this in,” it wasn’t a necessary part of a story that NEVER SHOULD HAVE BEEN CENTERED ON THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE. So yes, using your self harm to gain sympathy from your followers when you should be taking accountability for your own actions is manipulative. I am sorry that the situation impacted her that much AND they’ve still yet to acknowledge how much they impacted Hawaii however, we are supposed to feel bad about that, and forget about what they did- if you cannot see how this is wrong I don’t know what to say. I can be empathetic that this impacted her mental health, and simultaneously acknowledge that it shouldn’t have been the focus of the video and frankly shouldn’t have been mentioned alongside this conversation. Is it a conversation she could have? Yes…but not like this, it wasn’t appropriate.

[@daisynails.nailtutorialsan9924]

@@esseaem1451 I just read some of your replies to other people. I am sorry that you are going through Cancer, i hope you beat it. My dads mother battled breast cancer for 30 years, and sadly passed from it 5 or 6 years ago. I hope you make a full recovery.

[@sjsmomw3532]

You should never apologize for "traditional " roles. You should never apologize for your beautiful family that you share with everyone. Many people only want to tear down happiness they see. It is unfortunate. Don't let their darkness dim your light. ❤

[@carolinegrace1131]

Amen! Couldn’t have said it better myself!

[@lindatalmadge9684]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@lindatalmadge9684]

I give you 100 stars🎉

[@nikkis7375]

It depends on what “traditional” means to you. If traditional is anti gay/anti lgbtq/anti disabled people to you then no, it’s not ok. If it means just a woman belongs in the kitchen and bedroom and church then whatever you wanna do, whatever makes you happy and is consensual then cool. Not for me, but that’s cool for whoever likes it.

[@emiemarr]

So true!!!!

[@Rose-dz9hn]

I’m so sorry you guys had to go through this❤️ breaks my heart for y’all I’m glad you’re sharing this story to bring light to how toxic cancel culture is.

[@rieleynixon]

Abby, don't feel over dramatic or bad for having fear and strong emotions about this experience. What you're experiencing is called trauma response. You guys are so brave to share the details of your story. Trauma can happen anytime, anywhere. Like you were saying, it literally changes your brain chemistry. Being in a similar location or situation can trigger those same emotions. It's the same brain processes that happen when someone has ptsd. I've been discovering all this myself the last year with my trauma. Your experiences are hard and they matter just as much as anyone else's.

[@ThatBrazilianCouple]

Thank you so much for sharing all of this with us… you were one of the first couple channel that we followed here on KZbin. We were getting into the “social media creators world” mid 2020 and we researched many couple’s channels but chose to follow only 3. Your channel is the one that speaks to us the most. So we thank you so much for being here and dedicate your time to your community. We had no idea you were canceled (twice), and we’re so sorry you had to go through those horrible feelings. Your hearts and intentions are beautiful and even though we don’t know you personally- we can feel it through the screen. So, again, thank you. You are beautiful human beings, you’re doing great and the best is yet to come. if you ever in NY would love to have you over so we can decompress and have a home cooked meal, play some cards, Griffin can play with our Julie🐾🐾 and we can all just have a good time. 🤍

[@aaliyahnaaman5562]

😊

[@adelacolmenares9292]

It would be so awesome if you could get together and do a dance party.

[@bethcherry8017]

I ❤ that the Brazilian Couple follows you. I love this couple, as I do you. I like to follow couples that keep it real. 💯😊❤

[@aspoonfullofkiwi]

❤❤❤❤ so absolutely true

[@Mary_Nik1111]

Amen😍

[@nikascupcakebar]

Great video, thanks for sharing. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, Really love him so much, i can’t stop thinking about him. I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life but to no avail, I’m frustrated because i literally can't envision my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him.

[@ddirtdid]

Your feelings are understandable, It's always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation when my wife of 12 years left me, i couldn't just let her go. I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back.

[@nikascupcakebar]

@@ddirtdid Wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach him/her?

[@ddirtdid]

@@nikascupcakebar her name is MONICA ERLENE MORA, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as a caster and healer.

[@tamisams3536]

I'm Sooo Sorry, it hurts now I know, you will find the person that you are suppose to be with. When you least expect it there he'll be. Spend time with your family and friends, do the things that make you happy. One day you we I'll find your best friend, lover and husband. Life is to short to be unhappy and hurt for to long. You'll See... Love Life To The Fullest, we are only here for a little while...

[@I.pray.to.George.Carlin]

@@ddirtdid How much does she charge? Or are her sessions free of charge? 🤔

[@jocelynfinnegan9251]

As a Hawaiian, I am sorry for you and hope that everything turns around

[@kaylakilawee]

Ugh I'm so sorry you guys. Nobody should ever have to go through what you did. And I sincerely hope Nobody "stomps on your open wounds." People can be so cruel but you guys are the complete opposite and thank you for being vulnerable and sharing some of the realities behind social media. I'm sure it is so so challenging.

[@sandeeee3168]

As a silent follower I was shocked with what you have endured. Please know. You both make me smile everyday on every platform. You are both so sweet, humble, genuine. You both have uplifted me when I needed it and made me laugh so much my abs hurt. Keep being you. Bullocks to the haters they are jealous of you. It doesn't cost anything to be kind and you both live that life daily xo.

[@jennifergresham3751]

I never comment & totally a silent follower and I just thought this was an appropriate time to comment and say you guys are the best 🥲

[@melissamayhaps8990]

"it doesn't cost anything to be kind" they literally trashed and inccocent baby's name. Lol

[@sydneyhines1497]

Usually I’m a silent follower, but I just have to let y’all know how much of an inspiration you are! You don’t let the hate get in the way of spreading a positive message. Love you guys🫶

[@sandyr4656]

AMEN 🙏🙏🙏

[@lola4026]

Same here!! Love all your content every time! 💓

[@angelcameron1602]

I think you both handled things with maturity and self control. As a Christian it's hard to turn the other cheek. You guys showed a great example to others of how to handle being cancelled. I'm so sorry that happened to you guys. May God bless your lives and your family.

[@ghcox-19]

Thank y'all for being so honest with your viewers! It means a lot!

[@nakachan8270]

From someone that was born and raised in Hawaii. I believe that as a society, we should strive to be more understanding and accepting of one another. Rather than participating in a 'cancel culture', we should look to forgive, learn, and move forward with a positive mindset.

[@twocathome399]

exactly!’ or teach each other what is disrespectful to other cultures and to us instead of immediately attacking and deeming one another. now if they brush it off and don’t care about the disrespect that would be completely different. but we can’t expect people from different cultures to be 100% educated on our own culture. everyone makes mistakes.

[@lianaloots8186]

I wish that everyone in Hawaii can say to them sorry and see how this affected there life's just by using the word hallow really is being used in a nice way

[@Sammi-tube]

I dont know much about Hawaii I'm just a indiana girl here lol but if the Hawaiian language almost disappeared and there trying to bring it back, why would all the native hawaiians come for matt and abby for using aloha. Maybe I'm just uncultured but wouldn't they want anyone to learn and be interested to rebuild that community even if they are a only caucasian. ( idk if they are only caucasian, I'm just guessing off skin tone)

[@annasanner6636]

❤

[@sharonpolimene6080]

Last Days, that’s what we’re in..

[@christinaannex]

I want to leap through the screen and give you guys a big hug! In my eyes you did nothing wrong and any sane person can see you would never intentionally upset anyone. So many clothing items have aloha on them and those brands never got cancelled! I'm so sorry this happened people can be insane. You guys are awesome❤️ please don't stop being open and honest and you!

[@carywilson2807]

Totally agree with you.

[@bethwhite3936]

🙄😂

[@deannanewman-xo2ru]

You put a lot of emotions in this podcast and that makes you so transparent. You both know who your are and you know your worth and you both are genuinely caring. I have been married to my high school sweetheart almost 50 years and I see you guys there someday. Don’t give up❤️ keep up the good work dudes 😘

[@chaelaw5941]

Anyone who actually follows your videos consistently knows that you guys are not mean people. I’m so sorry that Hawaii was ruined for you. And I’m also sorry for Matt being canceled because like I said before, anyone who watches your videos know that Matt is such a good dad. Abby you are a fantastic mother. It is clearly shown in the videos how much you both do for griffin. Edit: The best surprises for me is when my husband picks up the house and does little things for me. Of course I do enjoy big surprises like taking me out to eat or buying me something. But the ones that show me that he loves me the most are the little things

[@kaylanic]

I am native Hawaiian and heard about this. I am fair in skin color and was told by so many other Polynesians growing up (who were not native Hawaiian themselves) to go back to the mainland. It was so weird to me as a child and teenager. I live on the mainland now and it is honestly refreshing in a lot of ways. The racism out there is very prevalent by so many people and it is ridiculous

[@chantals579]

And this is why I don’t have Instagram, Facebook, tick tock etc. so much hate in this world that’s not needed and can truly hurt someone emotionally. And my kids won’t be on any platforms either until they are adults. I love how open you guys are and are able to explain how scary it can be to be on social media. Stay strong, I don’t personally know you but to me you come off as good whole hearted ppl with nothing but good intentions.

[@shelbeydeegan2666]

counselor here. 🙋🏽‍♀️ Abby: what you went through was traumatic and you deserve to label it as such without having to justify. Most people will not have to go through something like this. I heard you say (when you were talking about why you want Griffin not on socials) that you were an adult and you couldn’t handle it, but you did handle it. And not only did you handle it, everything you & Matt did as a result of this happening was thoughtful, gracious, and in alignment with your character. It makes a whole lot of sense why this would still make you emotional. I hope with time and healing this feels even more okay. ❤️

[@shelbeydeegan2666]

I just want to add a little more as well: feeling emotional about this isn’t dramatic at all, because these kinds of events (while they may not change our character or view of ourselves) can change our worldview & or ideas about the world. I can see you still have so much positivity because that’s just you guys, but having an event like this occurs shows us what others can be capable of when they have hatred or anger (which is really just fear) in their hearts. Which leads the impact of such events to make such a lasting impression!!

[@user-lv9ff8ro1q]

If this is traumatic then what is Ukraine going through? They did this to themselves for fame and money and just like all youtubers they are in it for them.And if you followers think other wise 😂This world and the people in it are so messed up.

[@TYOUNG-uj6zy]

I'm a truck driver and listen to you guys all the time. Ya'll can always bring me out of a bad mood. Best advice I can give you guys is social media is like Hollywood. Haters are gonna hate only because they get their happiness from causing others grief. These trolls are jealous and envy yall's happiness,goodness and success. I say keep on doing what your doing and throw the middle finger up to all the negativity. Even though I've never met or talked to you guys I'm proud of ya'll! The world needs more like you.

[@Chelseadram]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@malenahug6593]

I love and think that this needs to be more talked about. I love how real you guys are and give people a better view of social media. I can’t believe your pure hearts had to go through the hateful words of others.

[@sis4910]

Im always a silent follower. But i have to say something here. This is so ridiculous. People are horrible online sometimes. You all are the sweetest most wholesome people. 💛 If people can't see that it's their loss. They don't deserve you guys and your positive energy.

[@CrazyCrystal8175]

🔺🔺THIS🔺🔺

[@barbfrevert9847]

Yea! Totally agree!!

[@maggieruth]

Abby…you’re tears don’t need to be excused. They’re welcomed and supported. Matt…way to be so supportive of your girl. You both are wonderful. Thank you for your candor and your strength. Much love to you and your family. 🧡

[@sandyr4656]

Agree 💯

[@tammaralongman6791]

Exactly 💯 ❤

[@DistinctiveThinking]

This is the danger of social media. The lack of really knowing a person's motives. Unfortunately, there are some content creators who abuse the public by living a life that does not include honesty. I am a new subscriber, and I am sorry you both had to go through this. I hope you both realize that being transparent and telling us your story is a great asset to others who are attempting to be on a platform like you are. Honesty, integrity, and transparency these are qualities that are rare. Keep making content! I am proud of your courageous conviction to do the right thing! ❤

[@angeliquej08]

You guys are seriously my fave couple on the internet. I never for a second believed any of the hate ppl were saying ab you. You guys are amazing ppl and I’m so so sorry that you had to go through this, you are the last ppl to deserve that. Sending so much love and hugs❤️❤️

[@madik1794]

Silent follower here ✋🏻 just here to show you my support because as a girl in her mid 20s that upholds SO many of the same values that y’all do, I feel SO seen. You make me so hopeful for the future. I am so proud to be a follower of y’all and just want you to know you have so many people rooting you on. ❤

[@santaklaushohobitch]

Same ❤❤

[@ashleemurguia8422]

Well said totally agree

[@panashejoy7071]

Same! I’m 19 about to turn 20 and it’s so refreshing to see people who normalize the values that I can align with

[@sophiebrissman]

you two are exactly what social media needs. real people unashamed to talk about what REALLY happens. so sorry y’all had to walk through this 🙏🏻 thank you for your vulnerability 💙

[@user-nv8qj9kg5k]

Matt is so loving and I love that y’all are so connected and love each other!

[@tamarakelli687]

I will admit. I wasn't a huge follower before this. But now I am following. You've learned a lesson, a powerful one, but you guys were always open for a simple conversation. The hate, judgments, and threats were and are immature and not helpful. I am proud of you guys. And adore you. The whole "What is the point?!" Got me 100%. The way cowards lash out behind a keyboard is ridiculous. Its like 80% of the world hasn't grown up past 15 years old. Even the hate on this video. Immature and ignorant people who have no life still stirring the pot.

[@sarahsizzle367]

the fact that you guys donated all the profits from the merch to a Hawaiian charity- wow y’all are actually some of the kindest people i know of. never forget what your own intentions are !! ❤

[@hannahvannatta]

Aww I never knew that’s why you guys left Hawaii…hearing Abby get so emotional about what happened made me feel so sad for you guys and that unfortunate situation. I’m sorry that happened to you guys. Also, Matt seems like such a great Dad and just a genuinely kind human. It’s wild that anyone would want to pick on him. I really love this podcast and hearing you guys speak so openly about your lives! You both seem like awesome people and Griffin is a lucky little guy to have y’all as his parents! ❤

[@TheStreetFam51918]

This hurts my heart to hear that you went through this but I’m so glad your talking about it and being your honest true selfs. There are just mean people in the world and unfortunately negative news travels faster then positive news does. Love you guys and keep being you!!❤

[@makaylawillard994]

I have been following you guys since you guys were living in Missouri and I have loved watching you guys all the time!! I never really comment that much but I just want to say how much you guys mean to me and how much joy you guys bring into my life. It breaks my heart to hear about how the cancel culture has effected you in that way. I just stick to the motto “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.❤️❤️ Love and prayers coming your way!! God bless

[@nelltrumps1545]

I’m usually a silent follower but I have to say, you guys are too pure. Protect your mental health, social media is so brutal.

[@connie9907]

I had been a silent follower until now, but Abby just mentioning us silent fans all of a sudden gave me a big grin & honestly made my heart smile! :) I've been following you two since the very beginnings back in college. I am not a big social media person or "fan girl" at all & hardly ever watch KZbin. But you two are just so kind, funny & genuine that I can't help myself for keeping up with you. :) A big hug to you guys - you two are so strong! God bless you & your family!

[@kiwi6033]

People are so pathetic to make you feel this way, you seem like the most lovely kind hearted people this honestly breaks my heart. F the haters, keep doing you 🤍

[@kerra7386]

Thank you so much for sharing what you’ve experienced. I feel like I’ve grown as a person just listening to this. Makes me want to tell all of the people in my life how much I care about them and am there for them in good and bad times. ❤ also I’m so sorry that you experienced such hatred from the world. I can’t even begin to imagine how traumatic that is.

[@SuuRibeiro]

Guys, I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. I remember this post from December and I thought it was so sweet. It’s so crazy people would go after you with so much anger. Thank you for sharing your hearts and thoughts about it. I wish all success for you!!

[@chelseaploof3490]

Wow! I had no idea. Thank you SO much for shedding light on the “dark side” of social media. This is really important for us to hear. I think it can be really easy for people to make assumptions and just assume that social media creators can “take it.” You are human and you deserve grace, just like everyone else. It is clear that both of you always have good intentions AND you have such giant hearts! I’m very sorry to hear that this happened to you but again, thank you for sharing your perspective and reminding all of us that you are not super humans. You are two beautiful people who have invited us into your lives and all the vulnerability that comes along with that. Thank you, thank you, thank you! 🙏

[@itsarimendonca]

I'm a silent viewer from Brazil and I love seeing you guys! Thank you for recognizing us. I felt really seen by you guys. And Matt, I watched the video were you say that Abby does way more than you. Dude! YOU ARE AWESOME! Like Abby said in the episode, most people would never admit that their partner is doing more. Love the decision of you guys doing a podcast. I just found out and I'm gonna keep listening. Love you guys and both your babies ♥

[@jeralynquinlan306]

I am truly sorry for everything you have been/ are going through !!! I personally LOVE your channel & seeing your family grow . Keep your heads up because the haters are the cowards who hide behind a screen to promote this hatred ! How the use of a simple phrase can turn into something so horrible is unimaginable & I’m sorry you were the target of this hatred . You two are awesome people & griffin is adorable. Stay strong ! ❤

[@briannasusz]

I'm so inspired to comment on this video because I feel like Matt & Abby are finally breaking a wall down in their honesty and transparency. I feel like you guys may have been really scared to tell your loyal followers about these instances, maybe out of fear more people would jump on the cancellation train... I had no idea any of this even happened, but truly I appreciate you for coming clean about what happened so we can understand the emotional toll it's taken on you. I did see Matt's KZbin Short about taking care of griffin and praising you... I thought nothing of it, even the hook really didn't rub me the wrong way. I think it's because we can truly see Matt's character in your videos and shorts and your dedicated followers will always know the real you! I totally support you guys and everything you do and I aspire to have a relationship like this in my future. You are so honest and the communication between you too seriously needs to be more normalized!! You are helping people have thoughts and conversations about changing their mindset on relationships and communication, I applaud! you've helped me so much more than I or you guys could even imagine. Love you Dudes keep up the great work!

[@trinitykirckof5379]

I have been watching you guys for a few years, now I'm currently almost 21 years old, and about to give birth to my son here soon, and watching you guys has helped me so much. Especially watching Abby grow into being a mother, she has been so much help, I've never had that figure I could watch but watching her has now helped me grow as a mother myself. Anytime I'm stressed or scared about this pregnancy, either I will or my fiance will throw on a few of your videos to calm me down. I don't know if you guys will see this but honestly thank you so much already for everything. You didn't have to share your personal lives with us but you did. Love you guys

[@kirstenrobinette3693]

This has been by far my most favorite podcast thus far. At 49 minutes, talking about the silent followers-that was so sweet. I have watched you guys on youtube since 2020-2021. I found you guys on TikTok and just really enjoyed watching your guy's videos in the morning when getting ready for school. You guys are amazing!! And don't ever feel like you owe an explanation to anyone, because you don't. You know who you are, doesn't matter if others don't. Love you both! xoxo

[@vanessatorres225]

At least you know your friends now. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. You two are fantastic and I adore you both and your videos. All I’ve ever thought is how great of a dad Matt is with every video I’ve seen.

[@JayyandAbby]

SOCIAL MEDIA IS THE MOST RUTHLESS PLACE!

[@ritabroils6190]

Could some of those comments (hate), been made but bots?

[@ritabroils6190]

@stefan Small minds make death threat.

[@martinev7428]

As a teacher once told me, as long you know the truth of your character, it doesn’t matter what others thinks. The internet has become so nasty but you know your true intentions🥰

[@mechadoggy]

Like Abby once said, “We know what kind of people we are, and people are allowed to be wrong about us.”

[@katetomlinson1638]

wonderfly said

[@35547]

I agree with you 100% I'm sorry you guys are going through this to be nasty on social media is not cool no reason for it

[@hziebart]

The ‘aloha’ story is a true story of racism. What? Racism works in ALL ways..including when directed at WHITE PEOPLE?!! Yes. Yes it does. Wake up, people. Race is race. Hate is hate. And that kind of attack is and should be COMPLETELY intolerable!!! 😒😒😒

[@hziebart]

As far as Griffin-care…sorry, but it is RARE for ANY husband/dad to change all the diapers and get up constantly at night with the baby. THIS is why, I think, the mass amount of comments on the amount of Griffin-care that Matt covered/covers. It’s pretty insane compared to the norm/average household, honestly.

[@michelleklimarchuk4013]

I love how he validated your feelings. Those feelings are valid. I’m so sorry you experienced these things.

[@brittanyeaton5890]

Literally almost cried when Abby did a shout-out to the silent followers. Y'all are such cool genuine people I love watching your videos, but never comment cause I never really know what to say. But now's a good chance cause I wanna shout YOU out for sticking to it despite what mean people say or do and just being yourselves. I'll always be (probably silently) rooting for you guys!

[@yurigee-ic8lg]

New dude over here! If others are binge watching netflix, I am binge watching all your vids, shorts and tiktoks. Dang, now I feel that I need to have a daily dose of Matt and Abby. You guys are amazing and your positivity is what we need in this world full of haters and negativities. Blessed your wonderful family. Keep spreading love and pls don't ever stop. We got your back dudes!

[@brynnatay2023]

I can not imagine how hard that was for you. I strive to be more like you guys! You guys are so strong. This was hard for me to watch because of how much fear I could see in you guys. I'm so sorry you guys have to go through that. I'm praying 🙏

[@scottishdirk943]

Just listened to this, sorry this happened to yall. People love to hide behind the internet. I have received death threats on Facebook because of my stance on a few issues. Prayers for healing, and continuing success.

[@morganwilson8072]

Ms rachel was openly teaching children about choosing their gender. That’s why parents are upset.

[@barbaracilley8200]

Who is this Ms Rachel? I can’t imagine any child that young having any idea about what she was talking about if that was the topic. I still don’t believe there’s an option. Either your born that way or you’re not.

[@emmawiborg5261]

Thank you for being so vulnerable. I’m so sorry all of that happened! This community stands behind you guys. ❤

[@rachelweber9846]

You guys are so sweet and pure hearted! Social media is such a dark place but you guys bring so much joy in this scary world! I’m so sorry you got affected by all the negativity

[@twinbros2347]

I feel so bad for y’all and that y’all had to go through. Y’all are always bringing such joy to your followers that sometimes we forget y’all are real people to and we get blindsided. I love everything y’all do and every video y’all post brings me so much joy, and I just love y’all chanels so much.

[@SpontaneousEDventures]

Thank you both for being real and vulnerable. We need more light like this in the influencer world! 👏🏼 ❤ 🙏🏼

[@ashleydougherty1015]

“If you want to see men step up, give them room to step up.” 👏🏻👏🏻 Silent follower here, and I just want to say that I’m so proud of y’all for being so vulnerable, talking about the hard things. The world is so toxic, and I just want to remind y’all that as Christians, we aren’t meant to fit in. Keep doing the Lord’s work 🤍

[@Amber-kc1gt]

Have Matt and Abby ever openly discussed their faith? I've been so convinced since I started following them that they are a compassionate and loving Christian couple, but I can understand why they wouldn't come out and openly say they're Christian. My husband and I are both 25 and have found such an amazing community of young believers through our church that have become the most genuine friends we've ever had. Matt and Abby remind me so much of the people we love in our church family and I just can't help but think that they are the way that they are because of God's love.

[@lindayoder484]

​@@Amber-kc1gt If I'm remembering correctly they briefly mentioned their faith in an early video of theirs but I could be mistaken. 🙂

[@sarasteves9721]

You guys are one of the only couples I look up to & I couldn’t even imagine going through these things. Putting every aspect of your life on the internet is so vulnerable and does leave it open to multiple interpretations but on the other hand it’s so nice and encouraging and eye opening and I know there’s a huge community of people who think the same and love y’all! Keep being the wonderful people you are!❤️❤️

[@allieselee5535]

Honestly ever since you guys had Griffin I was starting to dislike less and less and including when Matt got cancelled, but now watching these podcasts I love you guys so much! You are so real and everything you say is sooo true and I absolutely agree. LOVE YALL❤

[@wallabearenglish]

I didn’t even know this happened and it’s in the past… but so painful still. I just want to say that I’m sorry you guys experienced this. I’m sorry people were so vile. I’m so sorry you went through this.

[@Magdalena-mo7jy]

Abby, don't push away the part of you, which was really affected by this. Invite her in and give her a hug and let her cry. Otherwise you can't heal and grow from this and move on. Threats are definitely not a silly thing, give yourself some credit for going through this, don't belittle your emotions ❤

[@gaellebouchepillon]

I'm not Abby but I needed to hear this thank you

[@Magdalena-mo7jy]

@@gaellebouchepillon ❤

[@lynnfroehlich8059]

I very rarely comment but feel the need The both of you are truly lovely and caring of each other and your family keep caring for each other and realize that's all that really matters luv you both❤

[@amandaharrison9955]

Okay when they talked about feeling so out of control with the first incident I teared up. The world is such a hateful place anymore. Takes me back to highschool when similar stuff happened to me over a RUMOR someone started that was 100% made up. The people who are followers instead of standing up and thinking for themselves are the biggest part of the problem. So glad you are both now on the other side of such a terribly dark time. I am a new follower and will continue to follow because the honesty and transparency is what I appreciate! 💜

[@MauMau07]

Thank you so much for sharing this story. It broke my heart to hear what you went through. You both are stronger than you know and put a bright spot in so many of my days!

[@27manda27]

I didn’t know you guys had a podcast too so I immediately subscribed! Y’all are so respectful and real I could never imagine thinking ill of you or twisting the narrative. Thanks for being so vulnerable with us in this podcast format ❤

[@idk-lm5lr]

I'm also a silent fan, but I just wanted to say that you guys are the sweetest people. I really hope I could have half your guys' kindness. You guys are real role models, and I hope you guys always remember that you do have a fan base that will always support you. Sending so much love!

[@kaitlinross4348]

LMFAO PEOPLE ARE MAD YOU PUT “ALOHA” ON A SHIRT OMFG let me go count my “ BONJOUR” shirts brb

[@taylorhardy3454]

Literally they should get mad for every shirt in a multi million company like Walmart and target that has aloha or anything hawian related

[@ellembrown]

Hahahaha yaaassss!!!

[@livewithmanon6443]

It is a little different because of the history. But they weren't tourists, they lived there 😅 big companies like Walmart should be cancelled for Hawaii related things

[@derekedgley5074]

My take from this, refreshingly, there’s nothing disingenuous about either of you and in particular one can clearly see and detect that Abby has a beautiful mind and complete moral compass. A most insightful video

[@lightskinprivilege]

I came here thinking they did something WILD and I’m sitting here like these poor people, over Aloha? how many people could of made that mistake. smh.

[@christinaloveskurree]

I had no idea this happened. I'm glad you guys are still making content. ❤ I'm sorry you had to deal with that and I'm sorry anyone thought you had I'll intent. Hate comes from anyone to anyone.😢

[@emilyrouse7020]

People don’t give enough time to understand people or the situation before they make a judge or misplace their anger without thinking if it hurt the maker of the video because it’s online and not in person. You guys are so down to earth and genuinely good people which we need more off in the word and on social media

[@mariahtomei9637]

As a long term follower (before Covid and before you were even engaged) I had no idea any of this happened. You’ve always been transparent and supportive of everyone/everything. Let people think what they want because you know who you are as a human and those that matter in your life know too. People in the public eye will always get hate comments and it’s so sad. You guys have helped me through soooo many hard and dark times. I love you dudes💙

[@bellamiele7894]

People can be brutal. Matt and Abby are so real and amazing. They make me excited for my future family. Love you guys

[@Loganrox]

I’ve been watching you guys on KZbin ever since I found you on tiktok a couple of years ago. As many others have said, I can feel the genuineness through the screen. I will always be a supporter of y’all for speaking the truth and being so humble. I know y’all will always stay true to yourselves and to each other. I also am confident that your marriage and kids will always be your first priority. You guys are so loved and this is my FAVORITE PODCAST EVER. ❤ It gives me a break from work/momming/stress/school/wifeing (if that’s a word haha)/life in general. Social media is all about trying to put up this perfect image but we all fall short and will never match up to this perfect image. I completely agree that we all need to forgive and take it easier on people. Y’all are doing great and please don’t ever stop because y’all are one of the very few genuine couples left. ❤ sending so much love and prayers your way from Houston 🙏🏼

[@kayleegargett870]

Silent follower here! Never commented, but you’re a huge inspiration to me as a young wife and new mom. Hang in there. I'm so sorry. I would be so anxious if this were to happen to me. Thank you for keeping with it. You're both amazing parents.

[@karissalago4465]

The internet is a crazy place, just know that the majority of us who are more quiet than the loud angry ones love you guys!

[@chelcysmobilehomeliving]

I'm sorry y'all went through that 😞 nobody should have to go through that. Y'all really seem like good genuine people!

[@lynnaustin3414]

I am a new-ish subscriber (within the last few weeks) and this breaks my heart to hear what you two have been through. Know that the haters are NOT the majority, and that you are loved and respected by the people that matter. Sending you both all the love!❤

[@MelanieJosephine]

Thank you for sharing that. You have a reason and purpose on this platform. You are the kind of creators that are role models. I truly believe that you were meant to see true colors through this experience. Thanks Matt for bringing up therapy in a normal way. Thank you guys! It’s so strong of you to share all that!!

[@savvymitchell]

Hey Abby! PTSD and trauma can happen not only from actual threats, but can also manifest from perceived threats! This is why threatening words can actually feel important and heavy sometimes. Maybe someone didn’t “mean it,” were never intending on acting out these words, or nothing ever actually happened in person, but the perceived danger can feel just as heavy sometimes. I hope this helps💕

[@emilyhalpin1601]

Thank you for being so vulnerable. We all appreciate you so much! Dudes for life!❤️

[@matthewcarlton6128]

Matt and Abby I just want to say you guys are amazing! You guys never fail to make my day! I watched you YT video about you guys getting cancelled and I am so sorry that that happened to you guys. You guys don't deserve that one bit, I know I can't change the past but just know that you guys never fail to make people myself included to feel better. I am praying that it is smooth sailing for you guys from here on out. And for Abby to have an safe and easy pregnancy. Love you guys keep doing what your doing!

[@claracavalcanti6846]

I'm a silent follower myself, and I just want to thank you for being truthful!! I really appreciate the team that you are! Hope the babies get to grow on a more compassionate society 🙏🏻 Sending love all the way from Brasil 🇧🇷💜

[@graceclements8208]

I'm only midway through but I appreciate your honesty and transparency so much. I think you guys are both super brave and I can't imagine going through what you have and still having the courage to be as positive and transparent as you are. Thank you doesn't do y'all justice!❤️❤️❤️

[@SuperLonglocks]

Small surprises are the life blood of marriage. My hubby empties the dishwasher most days before leaving for work and I feel so grateful for it everytime I open up the dishwasher and don't have to empty it myself.

[@schandler5720]

I am so terribly sorry that all of this happened to y'all. I praise y'all for getting through all of that and still being able to create content. I love y'alls videos and enjoy watching them. I think that it is awesome how much y'all love each other and how y'all are always there for each other. I think there is nothing wrong with the dynamic and roles that y'all have. Y'all shouldn't have to apologize for that and I am sorry that y'all were put in that position. Thank you so much for y'alls amazing, uplifting videos. Just keep up the good work and thank you.

[@sarangarimu7346]

I respect you 2 for embracing and promoting Hawaii's language and culture, I am Maori from New Zealand and absolutely love non-Maori speaking our language, it should be shared by all, racism surfaces on both sides and it's very disappointing. Sharing is caring!

[@sophiao.944]

Love this....❤

[@fantasea114]

I wish here in Australia that our indigenous had the general respect that Māoris in NZ have. We have a lot to learn from New Zealand. ❤

[@Poopiepies]

Speaking is one thing, profiting from is another

[@sarangarimu7346]

@@Poopiepies I didn't get the impression from the vlog they were profiting off the merch, normalising it in everyday conversation, NZ has achieved that and continues to this day.

[@mariaygonzalez83]

@@Poopiepies they literally stated they didn’t profit from it and all the money went to a cause.