Girl Chat: Does Spanking Work?

[@akilahstraun5035]

There's a difference between discipline and abuse.

[@marclabrie6027]

Agree too

[@sonnetmorrison1469]

Yes!!

[@marclabrie6027]

@Mengpeng spankings are needed

[@marclabrie6027]

@@sonnetmorrison1469 spankings are needed

[@sonnetmorrison1469]

@@marclabrie6027 still a difference between spanking and beating

[@lilmiss4151]

The only "time out" happening in my household is when my mom takes a "time out" to catch her breath and continues to beat our asses

[@uncruk6969]

At least your mom took a "time out", my mother had stamina and never ran out of breath! LOL!!!

[@Melaninenmtns]

RaVyn Wright 😂😂😂😂

[@youobviouslyloveoreos6307]

😂😂😂😂

[@jaydap9928]

RaVyn Wright true!!

[@AlliShaw]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Empressive]

"I didn't get spanked, I got whooped." Girl yes Tamera! That is one of the reasons why I revere my parents now lol. I think every child is different when it comes to discipline. Parents just need to make sure their child learns from their mistakes. Some parents spank their kids but they don't teach them, and that causes their child to act out again.

[@intrusive-th0t]

Literally all the research shows that spanking doesn’t work as a form of discipline. I’m guessing you as an adult have far more issues than you admit. Being beaten isn’t an accomplishment it’s just sad.

[@mariad4183]

@@intrusive-th0t ...it's pretty clear you have issues

[@DawnSilverStone]

*yOu PuT BaCk oR I AtTaCK!!~" I AM SCREAMING!!!😂*

[@michaellovely6601]

Asian parents do not play around when it comes to discipline. But Tamera shocked me when she said that she got whooped with the extension cord.

[@duanebrown7307]

김신쥬 SAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMEEEEEE 😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@singinggiraffe1938]

Michael Lovely I got the extension cord threats-never actually acted out so much that my mom ended up getting me with it. I usually got myself together before she took it that far lmao. My oldest brother on the other hand never seemed to learn 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@badbitchmia9223]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@SidSoothingSoul]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@summerxo3203]

Tamera literally beaming from ear to ear at the beginning when she head the word 'children' 😂😂

[@summerxo3203]

Gotta love Mama Mai. When children are naughty I swear my mom pinches them on their hands and then they go 'ow' and then their parents look and my mom's like la la la 😂😂😂

[@hodansuleyman9984]

Summer K lmfaooo 😂😂

[@Itssrania]

DKM 😂😂😭

[@serenityq26]

shady palm tree! where my drink at? lol

[@imafuckingmuffinx3]

dang yall have been dragging Tamera for the past days LOLOL

[@OneLoveRSR]

Tamera, please stay seated with that damn dissertation. "Aden, if you don't stop hitting and screaming at Mommy, I'm going to no longer give you the attention you so fervently desire until you know how to calm yourself down and play nice so that way I can speak to you again without your unnecessary antics. If you don't cease this disruptive behavior, I will ignore you and you will have to play by yourself until I feel you have earned the right to have Mommy play with you. Mommy doesn't appreciate nor will she tolerate these outbursts of inappropriate shenanigans."

[@sandyboo2]

thank you! I don't know why she tries to reason with him-- he is 4 year old can't even wipe himself

[@RigbyHuxtable]

loooooooooool if it works for her then it works for her!

[@zuiilaa]

Candy Flores you'd be surprised. I'm a first time mom and bending down to my daughter's eye level and explaining, or taking a fav toy away works better than spanking her. And I got beat as child..."go outside and get a switch" my dad would always tell us.

[@chocolatecheesecak3]

OneLoveRSR - IM SOOOOOOO DONE WITH YOUUUUUU 😩😩⚰⚰💀💀

[@jacobTheeCreole]

OneLoveRSR he's gonna beat her ass 😂

[@celesteleeann5706]

The thing about not disciplining your child is, if you do not, the world will.

[@worshipcatalyst1]

discipline means to teach, not hit.

[@butteredbread1756]

+Texaslife43 there are different ways to teach. Hitting can be one of them

[@worshipcatalyst1]

Buttered Bread that's called bullying if someone doesnt hit you first. if they do, it's called self defense. but please, explain to the police why hitting defenseless children that pose no harm to you is ok. the weird thing is the law is discriminatory against kids for this. if i hit you, i could be brought up on charges of assault and battery. if you hit a kid, it's ok. it's messed up.

[@nicolettedavis4990]

Celeste LeeAnn thank u sista

[@lynn.d1015]

Celeste LeeAnn the jailhouse will in the future

[@valerielinares2068]

I agree that there is no "one-size-fits-all" form of discipline. However, EVERY child needs discipline in general. Too many kids these days are not getting discipline and it shows when they get older.

[@intrusive-th0t]

Actually literally all the research shows that spanking doesn’t work as a form of discipline. There might not be a one-size-fits-all form of discipline but hitting is definitely a one-size-fits-none method.

[@KamalMorales]

"No police could know if you put the nail in them" LMAOOOOO I LOVE JEANNIEE

[@lanaewashington]

Kamal Morales she’s lowkey the funniest

[@HumanStateOfEmergency]

All my mom had to do was look at me. Lol

[@pnksloth]

Me exactly! She didn’t even touch me, all she had to do was give me her -look- and I fixed my actions right then and there 😂

[@ultimatefirecracker1486]

Jon B. My mom spanked me extreme me and my older sister drank her red bull and she spanked us and we ran under the table so my mom couldn’t get us..

[@pnksloth]

UltimateFireCracker Dang

[@locafly]

Jon B. And some children only need that

[@Cecedapimp]

Period .

[@africanmindedwoman]

"You put back or I attack" - Mamma Mai 😂😂😂😂😂👌🏾

[@trejay3179]

“I don’t like when you hit me” Girl 😭 If I put my hand up To my mama I would be dead 💀

[@JK-zu3lp]

Jay Jay 😂😂😂😂😂

[@bornempath8426]

Tf dead mmkkkkk!

[@miasmunchkins3948]

That’s Adam’s side coming out! 😭😭

[@bornempath8426]

@@miasmunchkins3948 agreed! I was thinking it and didn't wanna say it lmao

[@jasminee1357]

Right😂😂😂😂

[@happilyrebelafter]

"You put back or I attack" 😂😂😂 hilarious

[@malikjustkickinitcarter2608]

I love Momma Mai

[@heatsd]

In African cultures, the belt was king... You dare not try it!

[@victoriabella1074]

* wooden spoon

[@sandyboo2]

I got a belt, flip flop.... an extension cord (hurt the worst lol) depends on how bad I messed up.

[@victoriabella1074]

Haha, thanks for sharing. My parents are from the Yoruba tribe, Nigeria and I was disciplined with the wooden spoon growing up. I don't remember it having an actual name other than "wooden spoon," but I'll ask and then get back to you if it does.

[@shaedavis53]

Candy Flores I'm dead set against the extension cord. My mom used that constantly and it's abuse in my opinion. But each child is different.

[@sexyhomeowner9345]

My parents are Igbo, they used anything at hand to 'discipline' . My mum even used a rolling pin.

[@GlowBeautyWellness]

I love Loni's hair! I got whoopin's when I was a kid. I rarely have to whoop my kids...I talk to them more, explain why they can't do XYZ and it works.

[@sincerelycandace9150]

GlowBeautyWellness why did i read it as “Loni Loves hair lol”

[@BLACKORWHITE_IAM]

@GlowBeautyWellness IN YOUR OPINION, WERE YOU A BAD KID?

[@quanl2877]

*clears throat* lets see...i got the belt, extension cord, broom stick, clothes rack , comb, fridge, the empire state building...#caribbeanparents💀🇯🇲

[@britneyjaquipe4209]

Lmao same here all iron

[@paola7243]

THE HAIR BRUSH LMAO I remember vividly getting smacked with it because I wasn't staying still when mom was doing my hair for school. By the time she was done my hairstyle would be so tight it felt like a face liffffffttt 😥🏃🏻‍♀️

[@milliediaz3231]

Lmao same with Mexicans, the wooden spoon, the chancla as well as the ones you mentioned

[@vitalean]

llQueenQll 😂😂😂

[@unsaviiiiiiiii7984]

Yes

[@NappyFu]

I totally can relate to Tamara I got the extension cord.

[@khb9846]

NappyFu TV lmaoo ❤️

[@ravengibbons1941]

NappyFu TV yeeeessss

[@aluubaluu]

Lol girl, I got everyhing in my mom's reach god bless her

[@iamshakuri]

I️ suuuuure got the extension cord

[@lauraswan8647]

NappyFu TV ouch

[@heyheyhey40]

Tamera! Why is Aiden hitting you? I NEVER even thought about hitting my mother! You need to fix that before he gets big!

[@frizzzx86]

babies will do that. i have never hit my toddler and she would slap me out of anger. after much discipline and timeouts she's stopped.

[@jeniseabernathy6532]

ahhh yea no one said anything on this kid hitting his mother ... she and that child will be in headlines as soon as he is a teenager

[@redangel833]

@@frizzzx86 but........ aiden is 6 years old definitely not a toddler

[@tonilovespets25]

I disagree with the first comment my son is 5 and he has never in his short life hit me he knows better than that.

[@marclabrie6027]

@@redangel833 good age to start redning is bum

[@craymay4766]

Where my Africans at? The wooden spooon though ...

[@murielmelly7688]

Cray May I'm gonna explain something because I feel like I should speak on this as someone who grew up in a African family. Yes they are the fun sides and the bad sides. And I'm sure many of my African sis grew up with siblings. Well I didn't. And I'm still an only child today. I used to have a few friends when I was around 8-9-10 whom I would play with. When I got 16-17, I started to feel alone. My parents didn't make it easy for me. They were constantly expecting me to excell at pretty much everything I do. The more they put pressure on me, the more I failed at everything. That made my dad very pissed. So he used the spanking tactic, all the time. I had serious troubles in math and he couldn't accept the fact that I wasn't a pro at math like him so he would made me stay up till midnight almost every weeknight so he could show me "his method" while I learned "the teacher method", the one I was supposed to use the day of the exam. I can still remember the insults he throw at me, made fun of me by saying "I'm gonna be worthless" while I was doing everything I can. At every exam, my brain went blank & I got scared everytime. Why? Because when I got home, he would ask "How did that exam go". That was pretty much my teens years. Being scared of my own dad. While my mom stood there, didn't really do anything. The worst thing was that I didn't talk to anybody at that time. I started seeing a counselor in March 2014, the same year, I called the police on my dad because I couldn't take it anymore, he went too far. A few months later, I left the house. I went to two different shelters for about 10 months. I didn't contact my parents at all. I experienced all kind of things there. Discrimination, feeling disrespected by my ex who couldn't handle the word "NO". During these 10 months, I saw my parents were trying to reach me. I finally gave up and my mom sent me a text in December 2015. Now today, one year later, I'm just happy to have my parents back. They've changed for the better & so did I. Now, I won't say that spanking doesn't work but being overcontrolling can lead to what I did or even worse. Like Tamera said, every child is different. Now my only problem is, I don't know how to feel about men today. All I want from you girls (and boys) is advices. Not judgment (AFRICAN FAM, I'M TALKING TO YOU). I still can't believe I wrote all of this but I felt like I had to. Thanks for taking time to read this ❤

[@emmyemmy7389]

Cray May yeeeeah my mum will use a wooden spoon hahaha

[@tehuwn]

I'm African (Motswana & Malawian) but I never got spanked. My parents only told me not to do it again. They taught me what's good and bad. I turned out pretty okay. My parents think it's bad to beat children and expect the child to understand what they did wrong. Just talk to them.

[@sabrielysgimelindez1126]

im Venezuelan and my mom used to do that to brothers xD

[@natashaluonde2132]

Wooden spoon, pot, chair, chicken whatever is in the hand gets dashed.

[@lasagnekiller]

The thing is with Tamera, she coddles Aden so much he’s used to getting his own way. My aunty goes through this exact thing with her toddler where he hits back because she just gives him what he wants whenever he has a tantrum. It’s called being spoilt. You need to set boundaries first. Discipline starts with the word “NO” if you can’t tell your child no, then don’t even bother hitting them. It’s useless

[@michaellovely6601]

If anything, Jeannie should talk with Tamera about letting Mama Mai give her disciplinary tips because of the way she disciplined that bratty kid in the grocery store.

[@clarabelle8911]

If she was spoiling her child she wouldn’t have said it on a daytime show...children will always be children no matter how perfect of a parent you think you are... N Parenting has no set rules to go by... we all try what we know n what we think will be good for our children. @negativepeeps.

[@bornempath8426]

Useless!!!!! 💯💯💯💯💯

[@jessicatemoltzin4576]

@Kayte Larsen my brothers and I got spanked but we never hit our parents. So, not every kid responds like that. There's also a right way to spank and learn the power of just the look to discipline.

[@locafly]

L E spoiled*

[@saly4762]

Jeannie is such an amazing storyteller ❤

[@lamoskgr]

joy and grace I now. She's so neglected at The Real. She's The View material. She's funny, open-minded, well spoken, she knows how to listen and how to respect other people's opinions.

[@pixigirl999]

What do you mean neglected? She talks ALL the time and has her own segments and everything. I swear you commenters are like sheep. Last year it was strictly Tamar hate and mostly Tamera love and now you've turned against Tamera and are jumping on Jeannie's balls. She's not a victim. Her opinion is very respected by the other hosts. You all are doing the most

[@wanderer2589]

joy and grace shes the only one real..

[@lamoskgr]

wanderer True

[@saly4762]

Nina Mbachu absolutely

[@RuizMrs]

Talking bout a time out. My grandma would take a "time out" and beat the hell out of us with it

[@arianex2575]

lool

[@vitalean]

StacyMuah 😂

[@tater4442]

StacyMuah once my grandma chase me with a broom up the street😂😂😂😂😂, because I have a smart mouth ,

[@chrissy2007]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@janeametz7308]

Lol yessss grandma

[@amminarose]

Old school Big Mamas used a switch and you had to pick it out. lol

[@carol9909]

Ammina Rose My mom would make me go get the belt. And it better not be a cloth/thread one.

[@teianniaclark2434]

I had to do that every time I got a spanking. We had a good switch tree in our front yard. It was terrible but I am thankful.

[@shaes9031]

"go out on the tree and get a stick" and you try to pick the smallest one and it end up hurting worse 😂😂 wish I known that now

[@kristinablahblahblahblah283]

She said "a 21 year gap" 👀👀 she looks like 20something.🤷

[@lidyasolomon5557]

Right

[@moniquemeredith5147]

Evelyn is 42

[@danyalbrooks]

You would to if you had money

[@serenamcknight4453]

She looks 30-40 lol

[@serenamcknight4453]

Jeannie is in her 40s and looks 25

[@ceeceedior21]

heck no. if my son hits me I'm tearing that butt up.

[@tundealadesanusi8332]

True . That's me

[@Urhiness415]

My mom was like a black ninja ...... I didn't see her ass coming .... like a bat outta hell ... I don't even know how I ended up on the floor all those damn times 🤔

[@MissOfficer24]

Urhiness415 lol

[@jennyeddins1249]

Urhiness415 best comment ever!

[@kanikagaral7637]

Urhiness415 loved ur comment

[@keeshatucker3668]

lmbo

[@sweetestcandy083109]

Urhiness415 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@MrsTatertots]

Mama Mai ladies and gentlemen lmaoooo 'You put back or I attack' 😂😂😂 But Tamera Aiden be kicking your ass. Talking about touch my child and I touch you. Sometimes parents need a little outside help. For some reason kids tend to listen to strangers discipline more.

[@SabrinaMascarenhasFiineArts]

It is very common in India for strangers to admonish a child which is not their own, not getting physical of course but it helps, the parents and it gets the child's immediate attention. People will help to distract the child so they forget what they were crying about.

[@SuckerPunch92]

I know I am late but your comment got me dyin. lol

[@angelabella183]

true it tends to happen to adults in a way the 3rd party listener. Because they feel such a comfort to misbehave with someone they know than it is with someone they don't. So I agree on that with you.

[@lynn.d1015]

MrsTatertots I would beat Aidan’s ass !!!!!!

[@joywatson7147]

Lynn .D Definitely!!!

[@joy844]

That whole “if you touch my child I’ll hurt you “ what about teaching your kid not to smack you around Tamera ...

[@DD-kq2tc]

YUP

[@shakiraande4345]

Right I didn’t agree when she said that it takes a village! Smh

[@kellyempress6943]

Shakira Ande it does take a village

[@BossyKoren93]

Yesssss!!!

[@vibedup7005]

Shakira Ande yea I see what you mean. I don’t have kids so I don’t know but with my older sister haha 🤣🤣👏🏾👏🏾it definitely took a village. She was something else I guess it depends on the kid and the parent??

[@nekomochi486]

"You put back or I attack" will be my mantra when I become a parent.

[@mo_7199]

sounds like an abuse mantra lol

[@dianebetancourt34]

I was hit it as a child and i refuse to do that to my children. It instilled fear in me and I don’t want my children to be terrified of me when then do something bad. I want to talk it through and be reasonable

[@mckenzie.8653]

__Panda__ RIGHT. Same. My mother never spanked me and I had and have much more respect for her than I do my father who ONLY used corporal punishment. If you terrify your children into obedience, they'll just learn how to HIDE and lie their mistakes to avoid pain.

[@noora_aurora]

Same I want my children to be able to talk to me, not to be terrified of me

[@babedavis1263]

If you’re guardian is spanking to the point where you’re “terrified” of them, maybe you should call someone that sounds more like abuse 😟

[@rainislovelyo_o2762]

Tenisa White right I got whoopings but it was never to the point where I fear my mother😂 can’t relate

[@ellefacts3502]

I read in a psychology blog that if you spank your child, it conditions them to direct the anger to themselves because they cant hate you because you're the parent. So instead the anger and the hate is turned to themself 🙁

[@sparkle1derful]

I thought they were talking about spanking in sex. I clicked on this video so fast. Lol

[@vanessapascual1410]

Esha Augustine omg 😂😂😂😂😂

[@zuiilaa]

Esha Augustine Lol😅😂😁.oh man i needed that laugh!!

[@truebestfrenz123]

me too😂😂😂

[@mmmA4u]

lol I thought the same.😂

[@Ayommari]

LMHO - you ain' even right.

[@vibedup7005]

I promise you guys, my parents never laid a hand on me. I turned out just fine lmfaooo. I just suffered with lectures from my mother. 😂😂

[@JT-uc8dp]

Kirsten Limage I love your parents

[@vibedup7005]

Joshua Thomas bahaha thanks 😂

[@ashleymoore484]

Girl that's tortuous too lol

[@vibedup7005]

Ashley Moore I know right!! Especially when you get lectured for something A FAMILY FRIEND DID. 🤣😂😂like why?!

[@peacheskong2245]

every child isn't the same. One nephew needed the spanking because lectures did NOT help at all yet with his sister it was the other way around...

[@erinknight5742]

Whoopings worked for me. Beatings and whoopings are two different things. Not every situation deserves a whooping and Every child is different. So different types of discipline works for different types of children. Time out, whooping, a speech, grounding and so forth work for different people. You may have to try all of them just to see what works for your child then tailor that discipline as they get older.

[@thecrap17yearsago35]

Erin Knight no it Nevers works long term. Just because it temporarily worked just mean anything

[@danaflamenco]

@@thecrap17yearsago35 You can't say that it never works long term. It does depend on the person. Every person and child is different every situation is different. You can't possibly know for sure that it won't ever work long term.

[@thecrap17yearsago35]

Dana Flamenco then is it worth the risk?

[@angelaharris9714]

@@thecrap17yearsago35 if rather try than do nothing at all and risk my child turning our horrible.

[@shaedavis53]

Honestly, I am against whoopings! However, a child that is disrespectful, disobedient, talks back, acting up in school deserves to get a spanking because that is not the way to behave or act. But beating the holy hell out of them for every single thing they do or when you get mad is just too damn much. There is a difference between discipline and abuse. If you are beating your child because you had a bad day at work, or because you are mad or because they made one bad grade or spilled a drink on accident, that's wrong and abuse-like and you will pay for that! Kids know when you are whooping them for a legitimate reason or just to release frustration and alot of parents do that! Your kids will end up hating you and cutting you out of their life and it will be your own fault!

[@luvpink26ify]

Thats the thing, kids that DONT get an ass whoop or dont get disciplined correctly are the ones who turn out like shitty brats. I agree with you on not disciplining them for every small thing but some things just dont get fixed with a "time out" or talking. I remember i saw this little girl at a restaurant spit and throw the plate of food to her mom because she didnt get crayons and the mother didnt do anything. Those are the parents that raise shitty kids. A spanking is called for once in a while when a child acts up like that

[@andredrw289]

its like Tamera said, every kid is different, maybe for some it works and others it doesnt

[@joannasaad298]

Taneshae Davis See to me if your child is acting out that badly there were issues there for a long time and stress is happening in the home. Tantrums for 2-4 year olds I get, any older and they're acting out because their environment is a mess.

[@sandyboo2]

there is a fine line between abuse and beating a child until a coma. Those that cross that line definitely are wrong but as a 24 yo looking back I got hit a handful of times until I was at an age that I could understand the things I was doing and I thank my parents for doing so.

[@luctaniavieux3743]

+Joanna Pyzik I agree with u to a certain extent. But when I was a little girl, there was no such thing as the terrible twos and the tantrums during those toddler ages. My mother made sure that I didn't act out she trained to know that although I was a child, that didn't give me the green pass to get away with anything. If I was to at up in a store or anywhere, I'm telling you once I got home it was going down. Other kids my age would be acting up, I was like 1-4, the parents of the kids would ask my mom how is ur child sooo behaved. My mom told them it's because she disciplined me to not act up or else I was gonna get a beat down. Now that I'm older I'm grateful for it all, cuz the children these days, half of the stuff they do I wouldn't dare do.

[@lorianahines3152]

What in the world did tamera do as a child to get the extension cord lol

[@AdejumokeGodson]

her parents were in the army or something, guess they didnt tolerate a lot of things, there were probably disciplinarians

[@mrstrellbrown23]

Loriana Hines kml 😂 my big sister got the extension cord

[@Mad143]

Her mom is Caribbean!! We do not tolerate rude children! Period. Children speak when spoken to and don't you dare embarrass me in public it will be your last day on earth. Respect for your elders is a rule out of the womb.

[@lorianahines3152]

Madlow thats what I'm saying, i can't imagine her ever having been a bad child

[@Mad143]

Children need guidance rules and to be trained how to act! Yes trained!! You can take forever with time out if you want but a good beating is a one lesson class a child will never forget! After that it's the "Look" to remind you of that one time cut ass that u should never forget!

[@glorylee3539]

"I brought u into this world, and I could take you out" 😅😅 Hands down Amen

[@rimajurornbako1844]

gloria omg my mom says that all the time

[@Shakhoney]

🤣🤣🤣

[@deshaj9143]

gloria was a

[@salharajab6601]

I agree my mom told me that too.

[@greghacker4555]

What is your point. Are you dead or is your kid dead. So either you should be in jail or your parent.

[@Bsk2994]

My mum was so petty should would have me go to the garden and break my own stick and she'd hit me with it. LOL

[@Nelllyxoxo_]

Boboleia lmfaoo me too

[@destinycharm7067]

LMFAO damn man that sucks.

[@nomadicvibesofelle]

Boboleia my aunt would braid switches together

[@williamshinn1319]

Same

[@kierasw1720]

Boboleia you ever tried to get a small one...then your mom uses that one and the bigger one she picked and braid them together 😒😨

[@rasheemwyattreid3351]

"No police can tell you put your nails into them" - Jeannie Mai

[@reese7704]

I swear I was rolling when she said that 😂😂

[@DaughterofZion1440]

A pinch goes a long way! Lol

[@MrS98VAC]

20 years of "time-outs" have produced a generation of savages!

[@shaedavis53]

Let's be honest, you can whoop a child or not whoop one, you just don't know how they are going to turn out! You can raise them, teach them and guide them but they will make their own decisions and do what they think works for them. All we can do is pray that what we have taught them stays with them and they do the right thing.

[@MrS98VAC]

You totally have a point, but, I have seen it over & over again. When the rod is spared the child is, indeed, spoiled.

[@shaedavis53]

MrS98VAC I agree with you. If a child is disrespectful, disobediant, talks back and cuts up in school, he deserves a good spanking because those qualities are horrible to have out in the real world and they need to learn the hard way that is unacceptable. I just don't like these parents beating the holy hell out of these children for every damn thing they do. It could be as small as accidentally wasting water or one bad grade at school. Kids need discipline not abuse!!

[@usadrones]

this is the truth!!

[@PollyLove92]

MrS98VAC Come on somebody!!!! 🙌

[@Erina88888]

When Tamara was talkihow Aiden was learning that he can spank when he's disappointed or not getting what he wants, I'm reminded of violent men abusing women. I am so glad that Tamara changed her approach and learned what works for him. That way, the old thinking with spanking doesn't escalate and continue on into adulthood.

[@MsDudette21]

its almost like spanking doesnt work and teaches you to be violent and aggressive. the fuckin irony

[@zarimc]

"I ain't get spanked, I got WHOOPED" - I was honestly thinking the same thing before she said that 😂😂😂

[@egyptscott4801]

EXACTLY

[@marshagaye]

It says a lot when a child is spanked and they decide to hit the parent back! Not in my yawd!!! Discipline isn't just the spanking itself, it has more to do with how a child is trained on a daily.

[@misseydj123]

Marsha A As long as it's actually discipline and not literal child abuse. Many parents don't know the difference.

[@kandb4life]

LOL Agreed! I think she was using it wrong. Tamera was probably visibly upset or crying when she spanked Aden. Spanking is not supposed to be out of emotion. It's supposed to set boundaries for a child so next time the child thinks about doing it, they remember the spanking and don't. Plus, that boy is probably hyper active and really wants attention from his mother seeing that she's not there consistently due to work. She just has to figure out how to adequately be there for him.

[@jasminevaliente96]

I call b******* it honestly just depends on the child I would never ever in a million years put my hands on my momma BUT my little sister was a new breed of human. That little girl right there would fight the devil if he tried to put her hands on her im talking from toddler if my mom tried to spank or grab her rough she would screw up her face and hit her back and they'd just be fighting eachother until my mom gave up or someone watching had to say something. My mom learned real quick spanking her was useless and that one of those days she was actually just going to have to kill her because my sister could take punches and still hit back...similar to Tamaras son the only thing that worked on my little sister was ignoring her. That pride was hurt if she couldn't get attention. Meanwhile I'm the opposite you ignore me I'm glad we can both play them games my mom try ignoring me by the end of the week she'll forget why and realize I'm the one ignoring her. If she picked up anything to hit me with though I was done doing whatever I was doing wrong for life. Every child is different

[@rodwilliams7457]

Jasmine Valiente y'all are wilding, send your kids to jamaica if u want to discipline them, we don't play with nobody much less our kids, hit who back!? Must be crazy.

[@mrjcmjunior9842]

PREACH....don't care who or what you are, if your child is hitting or kicking you, then something is wrong with how you raising his ass...I'd be embarrassed AF to go on national television and admit that my child does that to me....hell to the naw

[@abbydeleon9334]

Would anyone else try stuffing their underwear with clothes so the belt spanking wouldn't hurt as much? 😂

[@sashagils4033]

Abby Hernandez omg yes 😂😂😂

[@tiffanifarrington4039]

Abby Hernandez No, I never had the time... the beatings always came out of nowhere lol

[@itsmakelarose1342]

Yes than my mom caught on to it and started making me take my pants off before whoopings lol

[@xAaeiynx]

Doesn't work 'cause it was on the bare booty. Pants were pulled down.

[@asiasimpson70]

I wore multiple pants.

[@tamerilee]

It’s weird hearing some people talking about getting “whipped” when it lowkey sounds like the parent was just beating them up 😞😞 the line is so thin between discipline and abuse

[@gigib8881]

I'm Haitian so when my parents say "Mete ajenou w" meaning "get on your knees". I knew I was dead.

[@andimangie9196]

Crazy_ G!G! SAME ! LMFAO. And when they would stop watching me , i would sit on my ass until they came again and went right back to my knees.

[@sabrinaphanor9289]

I know the pain! My mom would make me stay on my knees for 1 hour straight facing the wall. Sometimes, she would make my sister lift one leg and balance books on both hands. DAMN spanking didn't work all the time.

[@emxthyst]

LMAOOO SAME that was the worst ten hours on my knees I stg

[@ffedeline]

Gilberte Badio lmbo Tb yo al pran branch lan kot matinèt la😂😂😂 the hair brush omg

[@_Kim_Possible]

Honestly I wish I got spanked to get it over with, like standing on your knees for a couple hours was crazy

[@septemberwashington2629]

When Jeannie described her mom grabbing the child in the store and saying "You put back or I attack" I literally died and came back to life 😂😂😂😂

[@alreem9891]

Adrienne is unbelievably gorgeous.

[@xoangelicaf0523]

Alreem Kamal omg yes

[@ItsMe-oo7dn]

her makeup is on point this episode. gorgeous!

[@ItsMe-oo7dn]

Samantha Derrick As someone who doesn't give a fu*k, kiss my black a**. What's disgusting is you reading a comment out of context and thinking it is ok to talk to someone the way you did. No one asked you for the history of makeup and style. It's not that deep sweetheart. You are obviously bored and decided to troll. Well, you got the right one. IT WAS A COMPLIMENT!! When I said "this episode" I meant ESPECIALLY this episode. Don't be a Petty Betty. It's not cute. Currently, 23 other people UNDERSTOOD what I meant and agreed so...✌(feel free to subtract a finger). I'm so sorry the KZbin comment section does not let us post in big colorful letters and pictures to help those at your level of comprehension understand. You asked who the fu*k I am...well there you go...now GET CHO LIFE!!

[@saramoe9781]

+Loves Music I feel bad for her but I guess she just had to hear that🙄

[@adamsimba2]

Loves Music

[@sylviarosario6503]

My mother slapped me across the face for saying leave me alone when I was 14. It only took one slap and I never told her anything else after that.

[@Zzucia]

Damn

[@alexisclarke2064]

I rolled my eyes at my mother when I was 11,and she yanked me out of the car (we were on our way to church), and she whacked me with the belt, so hard, had a bruise the size of my fist on my thigh for weeks. Never rolled my eyes at her again and I'm 22

[@supernatural5354]

That's a bit much.

[@supernatural5354]

@@alexisclarke2064 That's sad

[@twizzlerlemonpie3083]

@@supernatural5354 I've been slapped before by my mom and my dad but my mom doesn't like physical abuse so when she does it she apologizes

[@jaylag0221]

Literally when they announced the topic Tamera shifted in her seat and started smiling and moving around like "This is my subject"!!!

[@patiencemtembo6580]

Jayla G 😂😂😂 You could she was itching to go , that's why she let them all talk first

[@StrongnBeautiful]

And it ain't, as she let us know her son is telling her off and hitting HER!

[@ABeautifulMess101]

"You put that back or I attack!" I'm holleringggg😩😂😂. Tamara got lil hood for a sec when she said "if you touch my child, I'll touch you!" You damn right we don't play those games. 💁🏽👏🏾

[@alexadkins7797]

if you think its scary when your parents wooped ya its even scarier when your parent sends you to school with a letter allowing your teachers to do it.

[@Frimstagram]

My mum would use a belt, cane, switch, spoon, hands, pans, slippers, whatever...you naaaaame it!

[@santriciajones3028]

Christina Achiaa Beans, peas, tomatoes, potatoes, dog, hog lol

[@mandyb8817]

😂

[@tater4442]

Pans? Damn fam

[@williamshinn1319]

I got the broom stick, belt, extension cord, slippers, bat, iron board

[@Queendomcruz]

Christina Anitsirhc BAHAHAHAHAHAHAH riight! 👐

[@nasamian]

Speaking didn't do nothing but make me depressed and suicidal back in my day , now I don't have a relationship with my family , cause all they did was beat me when they were angry. I'm good tho.

[@worshipcatalyst1]

so sorry. i struggled the same. no talking, just hitting. was suicidal for 15 years. we deserve better.

[@CosmicKindness]

Praying for us✨✨✨

[@marissar.359]

Yeah, this video is lighthearted for some, but I had to stop and think about the people who have been hardcore abused and how they feel about laughing and joking about corporal punishment.

[@adelaarreolawakalia]

Disciplining a child is different than hitting when ever someone's upset. Kids should be spank but not for everything. Also you do it calm not angry..explaining why.

[@jadesmith7983]

Sorry to hear that. Your situation sounds more along the lines of abuse. I definitely think alot of parents take it too far.

[@LIZZyNIqUZZ10]

I got hit with la chancla, belt, wood stick, a damn candle stick, cord, wooden spoon, hangers 😂

[@blakkshadow82]

Elizabeth Rubio lmao @ candle stick

[@user-qe3np7ud1r]

omg! hangers have never been the same for me loool

[@evelynramirez6390]

Elizabeth Rubio anyone get kneeled on hard rice? Lmaoo

[@Thaleya1]

What the hell?? you were all abused...that's not parenting.

[@elgauuur6]

Thaleya1 "abused" 💀💀💀 another white person🙄

[@twolala1]

The belt!! Our parents hung the belt over top of our bedroom door and wrote in all caps with a green crayon, the word " DISOBEDIENCE" to remind us that if we acted up again, it was gonna be on and poppin! lol

[@peachlife5118]

lmaoooooo

[@twolala1]

LOL and when we did get popped, they ( our dad specifically) had this chant as were getting it, " BAD THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU DISOBEY" Girl, I'll never forget that, but we turned out all right. I know it was out of love. 😂

[@thelmadarocha5063]

HAHAHAHAHAH I have never laughed so hard!! and I though I had it bad...

[@dreuxespeut3503]

Was talking to my sister about this the other day. I read a study that said that kids who got spanked have a harder time trusting and/or opening up to their parents which is true for me at least! Couldn’t be violent towards my own child and come back with some “I’m doing this because I love you” and then wonder why down the road they’re in a potentionally abusive relationship and stay bc “he/she is doing this bc they love me” no.

[@yamicutino4221]

I don’t agree 100%. All 3 of my kids got shopping’s and now the 2 oldest are adults and my daughter is almost an adult. They all talk to me all the time about everything well almost everything o don’t talk to the boys about their sex loves of course but every thing else we y’all honestly. Also I am honest with them about everything I have gone through and the type of person I was and how everything I went made me grow as a person. I truly am blessed for my kids and they know it also. They got whoopings but they got a lot of love and maybe in their opinion to much preaching lol. But I do agree that each child is different and certain things work on some and not others.

[@lolacabana123]

I disagree, I got whooped as a kid, and I don't even let a man TALK to me sideways, let alone put his hands on me and call it "love"

[@Sweetish0284]

dreux espeut !!

[@zariaragsdale7960]

If u have children one day, spanking may not even work for them, so you still have options. I got spanked too, I still talk to my parents and I'm not an abusive person. Never have been in any of my relationships. So I guess it just all depends on the child and what route they choose to take. Whether that is to be abusive from whooping or have the urge to be the exact opposite. Tamera turned out fine. She is extremely sweet.

[@NicoleKernisant]

So true! I never trusted my parents enough to be open with them because I got beatings. It made me fear my parents. Sb: (it was a little excessive. I would get beat for small things like spilling my juice.) And later on I did end up in an abusive relationship. I think taking stuff away would’ve worked better. But I feel different things work for different kids.

[@ashleyhenderson2683]

I think with the situation that Jennie was speaking about, what the mother did was appropriate. If the child is screaming and hitting their parent, there needs to be an intervention. Wouldn’t be my child because I wouldn’t tolerate that behavior, but sometimes parents need help.

[@christianbrown237]

Tam sounds like one of those moms in the store when her kid acting up she bend down say "now Aiden didn't we talk about this in the car now stop throwing bars of soap at people" 😂😂😂😂

[@ac4870]

I remember all too well the "wait til we get home.." oh how much I prayed that something came up & my mom forgot. Sometimes she did & other times she let me think she forgot... those times were the worst 😩 and don't get me STARTED on the "wait til your father comes home".... 💀 but as Tamera said, I turned out alright 😊

[@carol9909]

Queen Sykes My mama never forgot. She'd make me go get the belt.

[@chauntelrochelle6566]

Ever try to fake like your asleep and hope they don’t want to wake up to whoop you😂

[@LaDimplez91]

I do that to my son! Ooh wait till daddy gets home! Lol he stops the foolishness right away!

[@138PM]

my parents beat me with slippers, belts, cords, switches, etc... i mean the only thing i got from that being scared of my parents and having terrible communication with them. wasn't a good idea to discipline me since i have bipolar disorder with more lows than highs and terrible anxiety. that's why i don't agree with physical discipline because you truly never know what's going on with your child because its not like you're gonna know your 4 year old has bipolar disorder and anxiety

[@evelynramirez6390]

Aisha it means they hit u with rage and not with love which i hard to seperate the moment of rage and anger and the moment u want to discipline and teach ur child something

[@138PM]

Evelyn Ramirez lol how do you know what happens in my household to tell me the thought put in before the disciplined me? Anyways theres no difference hitting your kid is hitting your kid. Like I said you never know what's going through your child's head and what they're dealing with. And let me repeat it's not like you're gonna know your 4 year old has bipolar disorder or any other similar mental disorder.

[@backatcha9740]

Aisha, I'm sorry for your experience. And what people also don't realize is that severely physically "disciplining" your child can CAUSE bipolarity, that manifests later in life.

[@Jay-cy4js]

I totally agree with you Renee

[@angelabella183]

I think there is a difference between some disciplines I mean for me hispanic family we have the same experiences slippers or broom, but a lot of times it is just a serious look and you know you better stop what you are doing. I turned out good, so I think it depends on how real bad some parents do it.

[@notsobasicbecki658]

I love how ya'll were so REAL in this. People are afraid to say how they really discipline their kids cause everyone is an expert now...even people with no kids. Every child is different and like Tam said...it is up to the parent to figure out what works best for them and their kid. The only negative I have is for people who don't discipline at all. Later, society has to put up with what you wouldn't even attempt to correct.

[@MrUnattainable]

I'm so glad they threw a lil extra change in Loni's wig budget...

[@SeychelleSunshine]

lmao yess

[@CapeverdeanBarbie1990]

Lol oh boy

[@leenae5937]

shady ass 😂😂

[@tamaraedwards9166]

Brandon Mr.Unattainable Sloan lol

[@makiyaathey9397]

NOOOO😂😂😂

[@solbingham6881]

When Aiden kicks and hits me.. WTF I would beat the bricks off my kid.

[@usadrones]

that's that "other" type of parenting. those are the children screaming and fighting their parents in Walmart.

[@jacobTheeCreole]

Sol Bingham lol right!!!!

[@roseamy9930]

Sol Bingham yes

[@jesusislove3058]

To be honest I wonder what her husband says and does.....

[@1spicynoodlecup993]

Adam Probably does nothing. He's a super conservative nutjob.

[@keimonte14]

Chile, that's what's wrong with these kids today. That "time out" mess is useless Lmao.

[@Koko119254]

keimonte14 little kids can't sit still hell adults can't sit still people don't have the same attention span anymore and if kids aren't able to understand what they did was wrong then " sitting in time out and thinking about what you did " is totally ineffective

[@sandyboo2]

I got the talking to after I got hit.....you do the crime you do the time

[@emyliefougy112]

keimonte14 lol that's what most white parents do. must be nice to not get an ass whooping..

[@NeeneeH]

onlyheretodislike spanking and abuse are two very different things

[@keimonte14]

Fifi Lauren Exactly boo, thank you. Two TOTALLY different things.

[@allamericanswede8661]

I have never hit either of my parents. Nor have I ever said "I hate you" to them. I was never hit or spanked as a child. I was the kind of kid Jeannie was talking about, where if i had hurt my parents feelings I would be really upset.

[@ramirez6239]

with that thumbnail I totally thought a diffrent kind of spanking topic lmao 😯

[@user-cv5rb5cj1y]

Ramirez i just felt like i got issues lol

[@craymay4766]

If Jeannie announces a pregnancy I might cry from joy.

[@Brandi_8]

Cray May Me too! She's come a long way from doubting herself.

[@estheryema]

Cray May 😂😂😂 too funny! But I soo agree!

[@Madisyn7]

Too late now

[@xxo8888]

Announcing a divorce

[@nicolex9192]

Cray May ihv. Gj Hjbhyuikjnmlmlkkknhjkkjhbv ç😋😉🤗v

[@Nikhiyang]

Jeannie, Africans feel your pain. My parents thought kitchen utensils, slippers, belts, tree branches, and hair brushes were tools for disciplining children.

[@Nikhiyang]

oh and old school hands.

[@norainepillias4726]

Nikhiyang lmfak at tree branches 😂😂😂

[@NanaAppiahkusi]

Rite?! My mom threatens with the slippers but still throws it at me

[@tehuwn]

I'm afraid I have to disagree. I'm African and I *never EVER* got beaten. I am disciplined without getting beaten.

[@_KLauren]

How ironic that she called herself aggressive with all that's going on with BBW this season.

[@rooshy88]

Lol. She looks so civil here. But ya ...can't fool me

[@user-go2rh9yg8i]

@@rooshy88 Right!!

[@Bdotdecember]

I was looking for this comment!

[@britney-leejohnson9572]

Tamera parents like a white person and when she said "she touched another kid?" I was like girl bye let's enjoy the story

[@butteredbread1756]

+ecstaticblues “parents” like a white person.

[@ecstaticblues]

Parents, acts.....I really doesn’t matter. I hate it when people say that. By the way you shouldn’t judge. Sometimes I get phrases or words mixed up because of cancer. My bad.

[@Denise-ob8dk]

Extension cord.....durn Tamera. Mrs Mowry didn't play! Lol. Love you ladies!!!

[@virgobaby1996]

no shade at all but some people need to start whooping their kids.

[@NicoleReign]

Christina Powell true true

[@williamshinn1319]

Hell yeah

[@msgirly6827]

Christina Powell for real

[@worshipcatalyst1]

they dont. they just need to own up and learn how to parent better. hitting is not parenting.

[@msgirly6827]

Texaslife43 they do.

[@tamerilee]

This is the best hair I’ve seen Loni have, she suits the sleek look so well 🤍

[@Averia89]

A HARD HEAD MAKES A SOFT ASS!!! Haha, anyone remember that one?

[@williamshinn1319]

Jarrel Brannon 🙋‍♂️

[@mariyaa111]

You know Tamera is like..."What?? wait ??? I'm the go to Mom on the show!!!

[@ramirez6239]

mariyaa111 giiiirrrrlll 😂😂😂😂

[@jazze.2729]

I used to love Tamera but if you can't realize she's a hypocrite you're delusional. She is so judgmental and always criticizing other people's parenting techniques. For instance earlier in the year she was telling Tamar that logan was a reflection of her and then went on to talking about Adrienne whose only the step-mom to Israels children should be able to discipline them. Yet in a situation that had nothing to do her she can't imagine someone else touching her own kids! Like I said in my own post, Aaiden is a reflection of what's being taught in his household. But no, innocent Tamera can't even own up to the fact that her children are acting out because of the LACK of discipline, just like she tried to throw on Tamar in the past. Tamera doesn't even realize that it's all about teaching her children respect and like Jeannie said in her own words, It takes a village! I don't see how Tamera can preach about being so biblical but turns a blind eye to "spare the rod, spoil the child." Please, she better wish she had someone like Mama Mai to love on yet discipline when needed. Soft ass 2 kids is in for a RUDE awakening as her kids grow older. They all looked at her like bitch please.

[@uniqueunique28]

Jazmyn oh wow do you have any kids? I have one child and I dare for anybody to touch my child no joke and it is different for others to speak about what they will do when they don't have kids! Hitting a 3 year old they are babies they don't know better and by them not knowing it tells them self consciousl like Tamera said to hit because you hit them when your mad.

[@softleywifey]

Jazmyn Right, our kids are a reflection of us I agree alot with your statement but she obvious doesn't realize what she said way back then. But I agree with Jeannie's mom too, that darn kid was about 8 like Jeannie said and that's a crime shame for any child to get like that.

[@jazze.2729]

uniqueunique28 listen honey, I'm one of 7 and for her child to be misbehaving THAT WAY, clearly the parent wasn't teaching discipline in the home. There's no excuse for it! It's called being a brat and like JEANNIE SAID, it takes a village! Tamera is a hypocrite! she was the first one to talk about how she thinks Adrienne would be amazing and should be allowed to discipline Israel's kids.....but when it comes to her own? please. Between her reality show and The Real , Tamera has def shown us all how contradicting she truly is.

[@FranckYound]

OMG I used to be so scared and afraid of my dad while growing up. I never wanted to be left alone in a room with him or be in the car just both of us. It was so tragic to me that even nowadays I'm still traumatized by him.

[@liannerenaud8090]

Frankie Youje i feel so bad

[@Kylie-mc1pk]

I feel that. Being afraid of someone doesn’t mean you respect them

[@ccc-fd3ls]

that's because he over did it. There is a right way to do it but beating a child is not ok

[@thecrap17yearsago35]

c cc there is no right way to spank your kids really sit them down and talk that'd goes alot farther than making them afraid of you

[@stevewilcox8083]

@@thecrap17yearsago35 I was spanked growing up and it taught me right from wrong. Words are just words sometimes you need actions.

[@Rooted_Locs]

In my African household, we had to fetch our own stick/branch and it had to be the length of your body...I wonder why I never just avoided the discipline, we just took it cause we knew what we did wrong lmao

[@asmrrose6519]

African Americans are more likely to end up incarcerated.

[@isabellamk7235]

😂😂😂😂omg i remember this. My dad had me fetch a branch from outside one time then i gave it to him and he put salt and pepper on it and gave me the “ look” while sprinkling it on the branch, then beat my ass!!! Africans dont play! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@singinggiraffe1938]

Rosalyn Nelson wtf does that have to do with anything?

[@keturahmckinney9503]

Bahamians alse

[@Sage-xk8ic]

@@isabellamk7235 wtf does salt and pepper do?

[@myhextixmind8632]

That extension cord ain't no joke.

[@murielmelly7688]

I'm gonna explain something because I feel like I should speak on this as someone who grew up in a African family. Yes they are the fun sides and the bad sides. And I'm sure many of my African sis grew up with siblings. Well I didn't. And I'm still an only child today. I used to have a few friends when I was around 8-9-10 whom I would play with. When I got 16-17, I started to feel alone. My parents didn't make it easy for me. They were constantly expecting me to excell at pretty much everything I do. The more they put pressure on me, the more I failed at everything. That made my dad very pissed. So he used the spanking tactic, all the time. I had serious troubles in math and he couldn't accept the fact that I wasn't a pro at math like him so he would made me stay up till midnight almost every weeknight so he could show me "his method" while I learned "the teacher method", the one I was supposed to use the day of the exam. I can still remember the insults he throw at me, made fun of me by saying "I'm gonna be worthless" while I was doing everything I can. At every exam, my brain went blank & I got scared everytime. Why? Because when I got home, he would ask "How did that exam go". That was pretty much my teens years. Being scared of my own dad. While my mom stood there, didn't really do anything. The worst thing was that I didn't talk to anybody at that time. I started seeing a counselor in March 2014, the same year, I called the police on my dad because I couldn't take it anymore, he went too far. A few months later, I left the house. I went to two different shelters for about 10 months. I didn't contact my parents at all. I experienced all kind of things there. Discrimination, feeling disrespected by my ex who couldn't handle the word "NO". During these 10 months, I saw my parents were trying to reach me. I finally gave up and my mom sent me a text in December 2015. Now today, one year later, I'm just happy to have my parents back. They've changed for the better & so did I. Now, I won't say that spanking doesn't work but being overcontrolling can lead to what I did or even worse. Like Tamera said, every child is different. Now my only problem is, I don't know how to feel about men today. All I want from you girls (and boys) is advices. Not judgment (AFRICAN FAM, I'M TALKING TO YOU). I still can't believe I wrote all of this but I felt like I had to. Thanks for taking time to read this ❤

[@TeAmoCristoJesus]

Muriel Melly I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I can relate. I come from a hispanic family. Raced by my aunt, who was abusive, physical and mentally. I was very afraid to do the same to my kids. Today I have two daughters that are everything to me and my husband. I spank them rarely, but necessarily. They get time out and understand this means "stay along to think why you did this" the same minutes as their age and if is hitting each other, time out is facing the wall. I tell you all this because although I understand your point, discipline is not the same as abuse, keep it in mind. Telling a child he will be worthless, It's NEVER ok! Your dad crossed the line just like my aunt. Also, now that I read about the HW I'm happy that this days, teachers send home explanations for parents with the method to use to help our kids with homeworks. You will be ok, just remember not to over do it because of your pass experience. I was about to make that mistake until I realized I was overprotective of my child. Oh and my husband don't spank them ever, we have an agreement because after my brother hit me so much until I was 16, you can imagine all the fears I faced for a loOoong time with my first relationship. Blessings and a big hug❤️

[@peachlife5118]

Wow girl your dad and teenage experience sounds JUST like mine. My dad also wanted me to be an overachiever and was very, very abusive. I think after a kid hits a certain age, you need to ease up a little. It is embarassing for a father to be beating on his 16 year old daughter because she did not get a good grade or she looked at him wrong, this is when it becomes abuse and is clearly no longer about discipline. I also did not talk to my dad for 2 years one I got to college, he had been that brutal toward me and nobody in my family even blamed me. A child loves their parents unconditionally for the most part, I still love my dad and I'm sure you love yours more than the world too, they do not want to upset them but once the child is almost grown and still being treated like a 2 year old, it is simply not healthy. Please be strong and have faith as you are so young and have your whole life ahead of you still. As for your ex, IGNORE HIM!!! He is not worthy of you.. you were going through a hard time and chose him to comfort you through that. When we are vulnerable like that (not talking to parents, etc.), we make very bad choices just to feel some comfort/love. Just ignore the whole world and focus on your goals and building good habits which are all about achieving your goals. You can do this sister!!!!!

[@stephanieb4763]

Muriel Melly I'm African too and I feel like I can relate. I believe that growing up me and my other 3 sisters were indeed abused by our father. I am 20 now and I feel traumatized and I have all resentment toward him that kept growinf with me ever since I was a kid. He would always beat us for the smallest and dumbest stuff and I now noticed that this normally happened when he came home from work so I think he used spanking us as a way to relieve his stresses which is terrible because you are a grown man father, why make punching bags out of the people you are supposed to love. Not only did he normally beat us when he came back from work but he always did it when my Mom wasn't around even one day I was about to get beat by him and my Mom came home and he put the belt down and just told me to go which is weird and I look back on and realize somethings not right. For years I kept trying to convince myself that I'm just like other people who get spankings from their parents and I should get over it. As I get older I realize now this is deeper than discipline, this man abuse me and my sisters and I am still dealing with the mental and emotional damage and I can't let the pain go. I can't get over it. It hurts, even after all these years, it hurts. I have memories of my childhood and all I see is living in fear because every little thing would set him off and he would start beating us. I still live with my parents and I have no personal connection to them what so ever. Its like their just managers of a hotel I'm staying in. Once I move out I doubt I'll ever speak to my father again. Sad to say but its the truth, I don't love him and I don't care about his life. I know these feelings are toxic and unhealthy to keep harboring and I really want to get therapy but I don't even know where to start.

[@feyiplus4500]

I can relate to you, we got electric cord, flip flop, stick and what not. This was done by my mum, she was raising us by herself so it was stressful for her sometimes and she just pours out her anger on us. She threatens us sometimes to go dump us with my dad, knowing how that will upset us. Most of her 'discipline moments' weren't actually discipline but anger and frustration from being a single mum. My sister and I will always plan our escape but didn't have the guts to carry it through. Till date I can't disclose some things a daughter should disclose to her mother and she wonders why.

[@murielmelly7688]

Luna Azul Thank you. Now that I'm with my mom I feel so much better. However, around December, I always act weird (2011) and this time, I've decided to read the Bibile and it calms me a lot. Long story short, my dad is somehow always travelling to Africa during the Holidays and he's been doing this since 2011. The one year that he stayed (2 years ag0) he was hella controlling overnonsense. I turned 18 yet was still treated like I was 11. I remember my cousin (from my dad's side) she came from France to study in Canada (still there after 2 years) my dad was literally praising her & she kept gave me up and down subtle looks. Now, when I came back, she got so surprised that I could survived 10 months without any of my parents. Something she'd never be capable of. I love my dad. The 2016 one though

[@wanderer2589]

tameras essay to her son to discipline him doesnt seem realistic. my mom just gave me the LOOK and that was that.

[@Alexmilo76]

wanderer LOL "essay" 😂😂

[@wanderer2589]

Al Milo it had a thesis and everything 😂😂😂

[@Shadowlandsdropout]

wanderer LMAO it was an entire speech, no toddler is listening to that

[@kianah544]

wanderer "It had a thesis". Lmaooooooooo😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ajc8302]

wanderer that's why he's gonna come to her with an attitude when he's older😂😂😂😂 no kid has got time for an essay

[@aliciamata00]

I’m an ‘03 baby AND I GIT BEAT!!! I had the wooden spoon the chancletta (spelt so wrong) the hand I got picked up against the wall I GOT DADS THICK LEATHER WORK BELT!! I got it all and I’d like to say I don’t get out of line I also got timeout but it didn’t work with me that well because I’d just go to sleep in the corner. But what works the best “you hurt mama” and i would start crying

[@RoseReadings]

Even if jeannie does not have kids she knows best

[@anazuosalihu9712]

"Freddie and I discussed how would we discipline our kids".

[@chanyisme]

Anna Mae Harkness She has baby fever...yay!

[@beautifulsoul7276]

That made me so happy and when she said mommy. Yes Jeannie!

[@sandyboo2]

They got to her oh well Tamera can teach her everything she knows

[@JOYCEBELIKE]

i want her to have a baby so bad!!!

[@zbluepirate]

if Jeannie has a baby, OMG she would turn that child into a fashionista.

[@Dan1ella]

God forbid my child tries to hit me when they're angry

[@usadrones]

right. Tamera said Aiden kicks and hits her so matter of "factly"

[@kandb4life]

Bruh! I'm like when yall having the fune cause he's got to be dead.

[@Unknownuser89878]

Daniella but it's ok for her to hit him though right? #fucklogic

[@Dan1ella]

Yes, as a way of disciplining him if that's what she decides.

[@charliehinds700]

SHE IS THE PARENT!

[@zooeea]

I’m with Jeannie. It really takes a village but we lost that with all the “Don’t tell me how to raise my child.” That’s not just your child, it’s a person. And people can learn direction from anywhere.

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Seriously? A video about abuse and child discipline on the same day? The Real got me messed up today....😞 but I appreciate them talking about important issues.

[@avasd59]

😘😘

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Ava S. 💜❤💙

[@Siayya]

I'm loving Jeannie's top and glasses. She looks extra cute and stylish here.

[@ashiyadelancy]

I remember I had threatened my mom with DCF, and she said and I quote "call them, imma still beat yo ass" or shed say she'd whoop me and I'd immediately start crying and then she'd say "I'll give you something to cry about".. or the whole "grab a belt". I love my mom, after every whooping she'd hug me and we'd chill. It was never abuse and I'd be over it in an hour tops. Honestly I don't care if you whoop your kid or not but if my child curse me out once or hit me, they gonna get their ass handed to them. I haven't been whooped since I was like 8, I'm 19 now. I think I turned out fine.

[@nicoleherod]

😂

[@rimajurornbako1844]

Krista Star is not wrong to whoop your kid. It is a way a discipline

[@immapunchu5313]

My asian dad has feather duster as his best friend. Actually he didn't hit me often. He is just a very charismatic man. His stares works wonders and his deep loud voice. But I'm a bad one you know. I hit one of our auntie that help us clean our house. She had bruises. That is when my dad lost his cool. I remember when he went home that night, i got hit real hard and he makes sure i know why he hit me.

[@naydrasnowy]

@Krista Star we can agree to disagree. The majority of people who have gotten whooped as kids, can all agree that we didn't see it as abuse. Just a way of discipline. Don't disrespect anyone's parenting. If you don't wanna spank your child, that's fine. Don't tell the rest of us what's right and wrong. That's why half of y'all who never got the proper discipline, be running all over ya parents and acting fools. Like I said let's agree to disagree

[@kellyempress6943]

Nahylia I mean half of the human population is angry and the hit when their angry and push away ppl. Where you think that come from as a child?

[@satinabernathy17]

Tamera said "I swear it works", in another sentence she says "it happened this morning". Soooo it doesn't work if he's still acting out right?

[@ts4602]

Aiden wouldnt be hitting me. I would whip that butt good

[@Shinde16]

satin abernathy Exactly, if it works it should be repeated. It took me one “chancletazo” to learn to not lie to my mom. And that actually worked.

[@theebillionairess3377]

@@ts4602 🤣🤣🤣

[@mckenzie.8653]

Cindy Detres that's you though. My mom never hit me and I learned not to lie to her.

[@aylaa4774]

2.20 jeannie speaking vietnamese had me dead😂😭 my parents usually use anything they can find but the shoe and the belt are alltime faves😭

[@KLB1218]

Tamera is such a white mom. Why is Aidan even STILL behaving that way?! Hitting her?!!! Oh hell naw!

[@rodwilliams7457]

Ikr girl!!

[@oliviamendel2756]

Bullrun My mom is white what’s wrong with being white the hells wrong with you? My mom spanked and whooped me too and guess what she’s white even some blacks aren’t whoopin and spanking should I be calling it oh they are parenting like blacks

[@illham9388]

KATHARINA ZDRV oh shut up, majority black parents do know how to discipline their kids and majority white parents dont. point blank

[@alphajenkins5571]

Little boys are different !! And I'm black

[@rares4894]

guess thats why most of the disciplined kids are in gangs, jails, robbers, murderers :)

[@Adaeze_Nduka]

'Spare the rod, spoil the child'. Ain't no way around this great words of wisdom.

[@lolamarie441]

I'm so glad they kept it all the way real 😂😂😂 I got all of the above.

[@annalyze5022]

Any Islanders here would know about the "broom stick" whooping, we don't only sweep the floor with it, it comes in handy for our parents when we misbehave.. lmao!!

[@rodwilliams7457]

Jamaica stand up! Belt,broomstick, hose, machete, extension chord anything our moms and grandmothers caught in their sight/reach!

[@Abby-io8vh]

yup

[@vistrong]

Anna Lyze Im from St. John and I used to geh my ass buss from the broomstick, the pot spoon, the belt (the belt buckle), tamarind stick from outside, and the slipper. Pretty much everything is used to buss your ass in the VI

[@BRITTWOODNESHIE]

As long as you aren't hurting your child by abusing them, then you discipline them how you want. People worry about what other people do to discipline their kids when it's not their business.

[@murielmelly7688]

Nesha Britwood Please can you read my story and tell me what you think. It's above, first comment

[@TijasWorld]

I agree. Ppl don't know the difference b.w abuse and discipline.

[@24pixiegirl]

Yep, Tamera is defenitely half white. Lmao!!

[@sydneybharper]

lol so true her discipline haha. I never would even hit my mother in the first place and i cant remember ever doing so.

[@ceeceedior21]

BeautySyndromeBaby you sound nutty! Not all white parents are the same

[@tylerrobinson85]

Chels Luv shut up😩

[@loydillu2471]

she sounded full white talking about how she "disciplines" Aiden

[@alexjames2510]

Loydi Llu So she doesnt beat her kids and thats “white” you black females are the worst most abusive mothers

[@teejaybee9]

We were definitely raised on the extension cord. My son jokes that we had no working television's in our house.

[@JadeAmar]

I can just hear Tamar right now going "chileeeeee lemme tell you because Ms Evelyn Braxxxxxton honey don't play"

[@arriew7909]

KyrieVEVO 😂😂

[@brittanyburley8966]

Yes whoopings work.. if you black, you get beat real good and you'll be straight for 3 to 6 months and probably a year depending on how severe and life changing the whooping was lol.

[@Thaleya1]

Why do you need a whopping though? I never needed one..i was a good kid. And if i was bad it was because I didn't understand...so if someone explained it to me i would understand.

[@murielmelly7688]

Thaleya1 Please my story. That will make you understand from an African perspective. My comment is above ❤

[@brittanyburley8966]

Thaleya1 Hey now a whooping is a way of disciplining a child. Now we don't get whooped for EVERYTHING. Parents do warn you before being whooped if the act you did wasn't tolerable for them. And although I have been whipped before, I can count on 1 hand on how many whoopings I recieved. Every child is different, some listen to warnings and some don't. Plus, God say spare the rod spoils the child. Children need discipline. 😀

[@Thaleya1]

Brittany Burley Children need dicipline yes...but children don't need spanking. I'm an atheist so i really do not believe in a god that justifies beating kids if that is what you are saying. Whooping kids is a lazy and abusive method of punishing your child into a behavior you think is better, by fear achieving that or failing at the attempt. You can accomplish the same thing by being understanding and explaining things to your child and removing the child from the situation. I think it's terrible to hit kids..we don't hit cats or dogs or adult...but kids that are completely innocent and dont understand how is that ok?

[@brittanyburley8966]

Thaleya1 Well some kids don't take talking and explaining to heart cause if a child keep doing something bad, and you just talk to them Every time they do something bad, they're going to take the parent for granted and look at them as a push over, and over time the child will get worse. Whooping your child shows your child you care for them and love them. It's not abuse. Punching a child, throwing an iron, beating for every little thing etc is abuse. Whooping is discipline and a form of punishment. It's not like we whoop the child without explaining why. As a matter of fact, parents never want to whoop the child but parents know that they're Kids need discipline. Kids actually love and respect the parent more as well after being disciplined because right after the child gets done crying, they immediately run to their parents to be held and loved on and they learn respect because mommy and daddy ain't gone tolerate what ever it is they did. A child can tell the difference between a whooping and abuse.

[@ricoetbello]

My mum would corner me and asked me rhetorical questions n expect an answer

[@usadrones]

ahhh the good ol' rhetorical questions 😁

[@janeciamiles8710]

ricoetbello lol Did you think it was OK to come home this late? You think I'm stupid don't you? Don't YOU?

[@uniqueunique28]

Ja'Necia Miles lol

[@Lizzybear29]

Problem is, not all parents teach their kids. Or know how to. Children can be difficult. I’ve had some strict parents for kids I babysit. They spank, time out, take away toys, ignore, and their kid still causes trouble.